apologies to all ears for poor audio issues i need to purchase another pop socket and adjust so things are louder :,)

I saw your I have no friends video and found it really comforting. Don't worry, you're no the only one with this problem. I get migraines too and I'm sorry you have to deal with them. I know all to well how painful they are. I'm not autistic, but got diagnosed with ADHD in my early 40s about 15 years ago. The only self-help I pay attention to is info on how to function better from other people with ADHD and professionals. The tool box I've developed is helpful. Usual self-help is not for neurodivergent people, which makes your choice wise. You're a sweet, well-spoken young lady. Thanks for having the the courage to share your story.

I agree with your reservations about self-help. First of all learning any skill or technique by yourself is difficult and it's very easy to go down the wrong path. Sometimes even a little guidance by a teacher, therapist, expert, etc, can make a great difference. Secondly and more importantly change is very hard and even more so for autistic people. This is not because we "don't want to change" (a common stereotype) but because we find change very difficult. If that change relates to our mind it's even more challenging as we have years, decades and sometimes a lifetime of doing things differently to overcome. In terms of autism we are talking about inbuilt, lifelong characteristics and these cannot be changed fundamentally although they might be modified a little. You made a very good point about how often we compare ourselves to others and feel bad because we struggle to do what they do. What we need to recognise as you stated is that we have different strengths and weaknesses and life histories which mean that we can't just emulate others. It's not "defeatist" to recognise that there are times we can't match other people. We can still do better, everyone can make improvements, but we will not be happy if we have unrealistic expectations of what we can do.

I definitely admire your courage and openness. It took determination to share your story with viewers. If I was 40 years younger and unattached I'd definitely want to get to know you!

For me i listen to the "ETERNALISED" KZfaq channel. Lots of good content about Carl Jung(well known Switzerland Psychological Analysis). I've learn alot. But you explain this very well.

hello, i used to have no friends i had servere depression 3 years ago and i got an autism diagnosis at 18 years old upon that. what happened to me was that i had a family member who realized my mental health was really really off and he helped me get the tools i needed to switch my perspective on life and i got better and healthy in an unthinkable fast rate. but what i want to get to is that when i got healthy EVERY symtom that has to do with autism disapeard and every symtom could be explained in other ways. and also the autism diagnosis i got made my mental health worse. I started manifesting symtoms just because i learnt i was autistic for example. Anyway i wanted to share my story its a very different perspective to what most people say. and also i watched your video about having no friends, that was 2 years ago but if thats still the case i wish for you to go out and PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE, learn to love talking to people, learn to love to socialize, never use your diagnosis or that your an introvert as an excuse it wont do you any good, i have that expireince and trust me i know. Good luck to you Bri🙂

this video resonated so deeply w me!! i’m also late diagnosed and my middle school experience was sooo similar. i swear i must’ve attended 1/3 of the school time i was actually supposed to attend. it wreaked havoc on my body and i just spent all day in bed most days. to an autistic person, i think a lot of allistic self-help is basically just masking instructions. it’s true for a lot of CBT principles, too, which is why therapy usually doesn’t help if you don’t know you’re autistic. that kind of content can just gaslight you out of your own emotions. plus it all promotes capitalistic ideals, anyway, with the emphasis on productivity and whatnot. your point about self-help never ending is so true. the worst it ever got for me was right before i realized i was autistic; i started looking into healing from childhood trauma resources, and while it was helpful at first… it just kept going. they can’t let you be healed because then they lose their subscribers, so there always has to be something more wrong with your life. that kind of content ended up turning me against my family and almost destroying my closest friendships, because there’s always something else you can realize is “toxic.” listening to your body and giving yourself space to find yourself is so important. that’s why i only ever watch/read self-help stuff from autistics, and even then you have to be a little wary to make sure you have room left to just live your life. thank you for making this video, you deserve more subscribers!!

im 20yo and im sure im autistic but i dont know how to reach out for help or should i do it at first place.

You are cute!

Question please: Did you study philosophy?