This is the first episode of a three-part series on why successful men use escorts. It turns out that the rich and the beautiful have something in common when it comes to the game of mating and dating: they can both inadvertently price themselves out of the sexual marketplace. By understanding how traditional dating becomes increasingly expensive as a function of a man's success, women can better position themselves to target successful men for relationships, if they so choose. Pre-order my book: amzn.to/3UlsTsY Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Subscribe to my newsletter: oriontarabanpsyd.com Social Media Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/jdiIdd2Cl66odYU.html Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: kzfaq.info/love/SduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXwjoin Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #dating #relationship

Two reasons: 1) Busy men don't have the time to date, 2) Rich men are worried about getting trapped by gold diggers.

"I dont pay them for sex. I pay them to leave." - Charlie "Carlito" Sheen

You don't need to be wealthy or successful to value your time. You can just value your time.

One more reason for an attractive, highly successful man to use escorts is that it’s hard to find the woman he’d want to have a long term relationship with. He’d rather pay the woman to leave than deal with the breakup.

This is why prostitution/escorting is "illegal". Average Women lose their bargaining power.

I can shed some light on this. Having worked around successful men, they don't actually use escorts for sex most of the time. They use them because they show up on time and have a good attitude as well as other factors. This is something even wives of these types men will rarely even make an effort to do.

If it flys, flirts, or floats; rent don’t buy. 😎

Rent or lease what depreciates, buy what appreciates. 😉

Escorts vs dating....upfront pricing and no hidden fees.

Dating in this era feels like a job, a job that you pay to work

Be careful of what you think is successful in life.

“A man's character is his fate.” - Heraclitus

It’s basically just the whole “the least expensive women are the ones you pay for” joke

An escort will NEVER be in a position to take half of everything you own.

A good way to test your empathy is by being able to understand and relate to the pain of people, regardless of their wealth or appearance. Thank you for the great video!

This explains why in the past wealthy families were heavily involved in courtship and dating of their sons and daughters. Barriers were put up to limit the number of people that they would have access to and effectively screening them for suitability in marriage. It's one reason for private clubs, country clubs provided barriers to entry based on wealth and social standing. Another barrier was higher education. In past the high cost of college education limited those from low economic standing from being able to attend. And only those with the potential to rise above their low station given scholarships to continuslly reinvigorate the elite class with "new blood." Newcomers to this position financially lack the understanding of how these systems work and even the desire to participate in them. Putting them in a position without the support structure. The need for matchmaking is not gone. A screening service if you will.

all men pay for it some pay and still don't get any

Another common misconception when it comes to celebrities using escorts is the service they pay for. It's not sex, it's anonymity.

Tldw: the rich won't date you because they'd rather be at work... I guess?

Waiting for parts 2 and 3, Orion! Cheers from México 🇲🇽

Frank Sinatra once said, I'm paraphrasing, "It's not that you're paying them for sex per se, it's that you're paying them to go away after the session."

Don't forget the "end of relationship fee". At $1.3/k hour, your friend will make $2-2.8 million/year. Should the relationship go wrong, he will easily lose a few million dollars, custody payments, and half of his assets. By comparison, even the most expensive escort in New Jersey is a bargain ... with a "satisfaction guaranteed" warranty.

As a successful man I can tell you that this is totally true. In the past I was an average dude with an average job and coming from a highly religious family I always was against using escorts. But after my 10 year relationship ended due to COVID I focused on developing myself and now I became a quite successful man. Recently I started dating again and I noticed that I spent so much time, effort and money for each date that I started to question myself if is actually worth it. Plus I want to develop my business and projects further. Effort required to building a new relationship is too much trouble that can impact my progress. This is why I recently started to think about using escorts until I reach my end goals in business. This is way cheaper in terms of time, effort and money required to have sex and get my junior some satisfaction.

Impeccable writing. Had me laughing at moments and hmmm-ing at others. Looking forward to part two.

As an escort connoisseur myself, I agree with your general take that it's the easiest, cheapest, most convenient way to get down and dirty with hot girls. It's way cheaper to pay directly than try to impress your way into a girl's panties. The only disagreement I have with you here: there's no need for the "successful" qualifier, unless you're adding it because you're afraid to sound too controversial for your audience by saying that it applies to many, if not most men, when it in fact does. You don't have to earn six or seven figures to qualify, as long as you got your ish together and value your money, energy and time above female validation and narcissistic supply you will find this to be true.

Another key point: Escorts are much less likely to have a child and ruin their “career“ because they can make $1 million a year cash so having a child can cost them several million dollars. So a high value man is not nearly as worried that she will try to get pregnant. Whereas the school teacher making 48k has every incentive.

The way you just come out and say you've never used escorts definitely has me thinking you have and do use escorts😂

They do it, because it is cheaper than a divorce. End of the story.

I have met alot of millionaires that are married and they all says the samething. That if you want kids get married to someone from equal setting, relagion and believes from equal background with her own money. If you want sex get an escort or a mistress. If you want someone to cook and clean get a maid. If you want your clothes clean go to the dry cleaners. He said that women are just there to have kids with and that is it. Join a social group if you need someone to talk to. Leave women alone.

if women experienced half of the challenge these men do they'd quit entirely.

Great video, looking for part 2.

This is where the contradiction will start to come in for women. It's really a conundrum. On one hand, they HAVE to virtue signal and publicly state that there's nothing wrong with being an OF worker, this is doubly to make herself feel better about if she was to do it in the future and also to appear on the side of women. However, the contradiction comes into play when they will simultaneously become disgusted with the idea of a guy engaging with a sex worker. Once again, just reiterates what I've said before which is that, I would never want to be a woman.

I am saying this as a STRICTLY heterosexual male. I love you Dr Taraban. It takes balls to discuss this

I'm not a corporate lawyer but when I've started ecsortmaxxing the only thing I regretted is that I didn't start doing that ten years earlier.

I think you raise valid points. It is what it is, up to each person to choose how they approach this conundrum.

Thank u. Eagerly awaiting next episode.

Smart men don't pay escorts, call-girls, whatever you choose to label them as to SHOW UP... they pay them to GO AWAY after the 'transaction' is complete. They are not necessarily paying for sex, they are paying to avoid drama.

I love the comments in these types of videos. Lots of good advice here.

My brother, you hit it right on the spot. I could have never put this out the way you did emotionally. This is exactly what I have been feeling. I’m too busy chasing what I said out to do for myself and a family if I won, they have one but dating is too much right now for me. I lose a lot of money doing it everything you said you are 100% right thanks brother keep up the good work. can’t wait for the next episode.❤❤

I was taught by very good friends from very early on - escorts are awesome, a great escort is gold - every man needs a good doctor, a good lawyer and a good escort

These men might be more willing to make these sacrifices if attractive women hadn't been with 20 guys by the time they're 20. But at a certain body count, it starts to feel like the only difference between the date and an escort is at least the escort is a sure thing.

The quality of the information and your delivery made me subscribe to your channel. Thank you!

I'm a 51 year-old single guy from Greece. After decades of feminine misuse , abuse and disrespect from an arrow of women I 've been with during all this time ago, I came to the realization, how precious my freedom, my peace of mind, and the ability to do whatever the f I want , without having to tell anyone, let alone ask for permission to. Most importantly, I'm finally free of the drama , endless numbing empty talks and discussions with all kinds of women, that 9/10 brought me only misery , and never served me at anything good at all.

I am a 34 years old man, upper middle class and have been seeing a lot of escorts for 5-6 years now because in Greece its relatively cheap and i dont regret it. It gave me a lot of experience and confidence and i also have my successes with women. It also gives me an abundance mentality because its very easy to have sex with a harem of women of my choosing. I am currently looking for a long term relationship but i am very picky with my emotions and it will probably take a lot of time to find a good partner. Dating and relationships are very expensive so having casual sex with sex workers is much easier and cheaper. I have developed a very warm relationship with some of them and even have free sex occasionaly due to that. In the meantime i focus on myself, my job, my workouts, hobbies and education in order to become the best version of myself.And sex is a basic need for a man , one that i am not willing to sacrifice because its hard to find a girlfriend. So its worth it. Great video as always Orion !!

I don't think it takes 11 mins to say successful men use escorts because it costs less financially, emotionally and time-wise and you still get exactly what conventional route gives, if not better. Successful men being good capitalists and analysts, it makes sense why they would take this route.

Awesome advice. Thank you!

First video of yours Ive seen, now im gonna have to subscribe so I can catch the next part.

Pron is the average guys version of escort for all the reasons you applied to the billionair

It is interesting that women and men with fewer options (that is mostly all of us when we are younger) use judgement, shaming, and laws to fight against escorts and prostitution. They seek to level a playing field that they are not able to successfully compete on. Most people miss that it is the most honest transaction exchanging resources for sex. It is ironic that at the top level, the pool of suitable mates is so small that the struggle is parallel to those at the lower tier. Simple risk/reward. The game is the same, the stakes are just much higher.

Becoming successful might mean being busy, but real success is when you are not busy because your trusted people do most of everything.

Just for your information you've disappeared from my feed for many months. So I've brought you back myself front and center. Very much looking to parts 2 and 3.

I've held a similar opinion to said subject. Another reason is family courts and no fault divorce. I would've love to have a family.

Every man pays. Either upfront or at the end. Whether been a beloved husband, boyfriend or a "John". Be it a pimp, a simp or a trick; the honey always costs M.E.A.T (Money, Energy, Attention and Time).

I appreciate the explanation and also the entry point to opening this much interesting topic, so we can all share our experience and discuss.

this is gold . thank you !

I would say this problem arose naturally from our dehumanizing system: successful people become expensive tools for society, and piggy banks for potential romantic interests. In the meantime, the rest of people get close to nothing; the epitome of unbalance and dysfunction

One word: EFFICIENCY! Ohhh and VARIETY! 😊

Super insightful and very informative and objective

I am a lawyer and sorry, this is nonsense. Firstly, lawyers have spare time for private life when they don't get paid at their hourly rate. Secondly, a lawyer's hourly rate is not equal to his salary. His law firms gets money from the client and pays rent, licences, insurance, and all other expenses including and salaries of support staff and lawyers.

Thanks for another one Doc. Same, I used to look down on this practice. As time goes on, it seems like a great second option to finding a truly worthwhile woman.

I make $250/hr and work 16 hour days, and I came to the same conclusion, I'm losing money trying to date. Also, I realized trying to date in a western country is pointless because of the obesity rates and entitlement of the women. I also realized, the more I date in the west, the more money I lose, which means the harder it will be financially to relocate to a non-western country. So to simplify, the more I date western women in the west, the longer I have to stay here, missing out on moving to another country where dating is far more enjoyable for men because they do not have a massive obesity problem. So far no escorts, I'm only here for another 6 months, I think I can hold out. But if I get stuck here, I will definitely be hitting up a university girl for a weekend of fun for $500. This is spot on though. To me a date costs me $1000, an hour to get ready and drive to meet her, 2 hours to talk, 1 hour to drive home and get settled. Usually I'm disappointed in the west, the obesity here is just awful, one thing I find repulsive.

I'm just impressed w/ the things you said with a straight face. I don't know if many could pull it off. Interesting, I mean, the things you never think of thinking of.

Finally someone understands my plight. Thank You.

This is an issue I will never have to deal with. LOL It still astonishes me that you have to explain to women that in order to have a better chance with a high value man they should make the dating process EASIER for him than more difficult.

A nice, polite way of telling women that they are a pain to approach and date. Maybe they should do something about that if they want a rich guy (or just an upper middle class guy). Escorts are usually cheaper than paying for an actual date, unless it is a coffee date (something most women hate), or she agrees to go Dutch (which many women also hate), and setting up a meeting with an escort is usually less time consuming and more convenient than convincing a woman to go out with you.

What the hell did i just watched - we really need to re-evaluate what being a successful man actually means

Never thought a video like this could be made. Kudos sir.

Spot on again. And this is why prostitution will never be legalized in all 50 states. Modern women would be screwed. Pun intended.

"you don't pay them for sex, you pay them to leave" this is the quote that come to mind before I even watch the video

Great video!

I learn so much for this guy. Everything he says resonates with me.

Yes!!! 🙌, I'm so excited about your book. I'm definitely in line to pick it up. 👏 (Online)😅

Read somewhere that escorts reported most of their clients seemed to engage them more for just human touch and connection than the sex. Also, past a certain age (mid 40’s to 50’s) you look back at all the drama and entanglements with women that you’d roll with back in the day. You had capacity for it then, but now no more. Now you simply want peace, quiet, no drama or complications. Sex and touch are still important physical needs, and dating or even hook ups become too much involvement, too much that can go wrong or get difficult. Escorts as service providers become a direct, simple, uncomplicated source.

So interesting. Makes sense though. Gonna wait for the other parts n see where this goes.

As such a man, I can confirm that you are 100% correct. Even when there are countless girls that want to date me, the time value is more valuable than the sex, unless the relationship with the person is more valuable than the sex or time.

As an entrepreneur, what deters me from the traditional dating is the time. Time is expensive. Not just monetary but existentially. Is there anything wrong with avoiding wasting time? On the flip side, this is a hidden reason why arranged marriages exist.

Congratulations on your new book release! 💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I just got the audiobook. Listening now.

Time is definitely your most valuable resource and too many waste it focusing on the wrong people or activities. Makes perfect sense.

Just earned a new subscriber!

There was a NY Times (or similar) interview with a high-class escort out of NYC who have had clients that are billionaires, famous men (even some women or couples), to normal folks etc. On the topic as a whole: "Married men love their wives!"

That breakdown was brilliant 👏🏽

Nailed it doc

Orion, I don’t want to pay for your content because A) I have a woman who will be my last relationship (I am older) and B) I watch stuff like this for entertainment. You are great at what you present and good on you for the success of your channel.

Here in Colombia the word for sex workers is "prepago" which translates to "prepaid"...and it is completely legal.

All women are escorts and all men are Johns. Us men always pay in time and money. And professional escorts become attached and emotional and dramatic just like the amateur ones.

Thanks! That was very interesting ... And very true! Best

Looking forward to part 2

I'm not a top-tier lawyer. Nor have I ever used the services of an escort. But even a moderately successful man can understand the motivation. A large percentage of the women whom I would be likely to be able to take out on a date would also be likely to want a commitment from me ASAP or lose interest in me ASAP. I am looking forward to your next video in this series.

Can't wait to part 2 and 3. Great 👍🏾💯 work

This is very true. I think this is a very important topic that is usually not talked about nearly enough and much lesser understood. Another aspect to consider would be the cost involved in dating someone, getting into a relationship, and for some reason when it does fall apart. If the man or woman is successful and wealthy. Then loosing a large bulk of that wealth. I think more and more people are sensing that the juice ain't worth the squeeze.

Beauty has always been God’s greatest gift and worst curse. I thank you for addressing this. Your point of view is most definitely appreciated and you are dead on on all levels.

“She doesn’t just show up to make his life easier” 🤣🙏🏽

Very well said

Great presentation! You are funny too!!

All men pay

I make well over 6 figures and primarily see escorts and/or sugar babies even though I get plenty of attention from women my own age. It's simply too much of a hassle to deal with women normally. I would rather pay to not have to jump through all the hoops I have to deal with in vanilla dating.

Just like beauty, 'success' is in the eye of the beholder.

With escorts, a man is in control. He's the boss and she's the "hired employee". The minute she gets flakey, she's fired and gets replaced. She is cheap labor & knows that after he's done, she has to hit the road. She takes less time to get to the point. No small talk. Just get busy. No need to be anything other than professional. Her feelings mean nothing.

Best statement “dating is a job where men must pay to work!” 😂😂😂 True af.