Why the word yes Is holding you back | Dia Bondi

Why the word yes Is holding you back | Dia Bondi | TEDxSonomaCounty

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All too often we accept less than we are worth, and believe that value is definitive. In her engaging talk, communications catalyst, Dia Bondi busts these myths and others and shares how to speak powerfully to advance your goals using the power of simple lessons learned as an auctioneer.
Dia Bondi is a Communications Catalyst helping elite founders, leaders and professionals speak powerfully to advance their goals. She’s led workshops for today’s most innovative companies (e.g., Quartz, Salesforce, Google’s X team, Dropbox) and helped Rio de Janeiro secure the 2016 Summer Olympics. Dia has been covered in CNBC “Make It”, Forbes and Fast Company. Her book Ask Like an Auctioneer will be published in 2023. Listen to her podcast Lead With Who You Are. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@aceapollos 11 ай бұрын

Indeed. Refusing to say yes to everything has made me a better negotiator. It's frightening at first to say "no" to your superiors but once you do it they respect you all the more for it.

@kjlace1375 11 ай бұрын

No.

@kjlace1375 11 ай бұрын

No.

@kjlace1375 11 ай бұрын

No.

@mariusang_ 11 ай бұрын

It's not the world it's you. You must stand up and shine 🌞

@richardaustin939 11 ай бұрын

This video just changed my life and I know it. That rarely ever happens

@is062_priyeshjain3 8 ай бұрын

I started working in B2B sales recently. The fear of my client saying "no" was chilling enough to avoid picking up the call. But one of my colleague just asked me, what's the worst thing they could, "no" and that's not the end of this world. This did not just change my confidence in my career,but in my day to day life too. Again this talk gives better insight to this topic. Thanks for the talk.

@brightsideperspectives991 11 ай бұрын

I appreciate your delivery. I have my talk memorized, now I’m working on delivery. My talk is on September 23. nice job.

@rvianodude23 11 ай бұрын

So powerful! Thank you Dia!!!

@NYCFITFAM 11 ай бұрын

Dia you rock... this is amazing!!

@englishwithmrbasit9495 11 ай бұрын

I believe saying 'No' is the toughest act .when we own it we save a lot ...

@manishisharma2072 11 ай бұрын

True Sir

@BlessingKafula975 11 ай бұрын

Nice

@priyanshugupta7265 11 ай бұрын

nice video

@niloybiswas645 11 ай бұрын

❤

@munamohamed470 11 ай бұрын

Tedx talk

@funnytv-1631 11 ай бұрын

You can alter your environment so that it nourishes you. Start with something little, like leaving out your journal and a pen. Or having a clean teacup ready. Or a blanket that has a soothing scent. Or a clear path to the window to let in some fresh air. All these details may sound tiny, but don’t underestimate how things add up. Sow tiny habits into your day as silent as an unnoticed breeze.

@Anonymoose66G 11 ай бұрын

It's called convenience and yes it has major effects on our habits and actions. People need to learn about convenience and perception and harness it's power, Apple does this at their HQ. For example making it easier to eat healthy food rather than less healthy food, even if it only takes you a few more seconds to get the unhealthy food makes you way more likely to pick the healthy food. An example is to put all the healthy food the first thing you see when you open your fridge and put the junk food in behind it or in an inconvenient location. There's endless use cases and examples.

@DangenDanges 11 ай бұрын

00:05:50

@ieBrazil 11 ай бұрын

Have you seen YES, SIR! the movie? J. Carrey stars on it.

@NeUrOmAnCeRAI 11 ай бұрын

That's yesist propaganda.

@user-ry5mp4sc9z 11 ай бұрын

omg, being an English learner it was so hard to understand what she's saying, especailly some of those native word like lowball or hand-wringing (last one even subtitles couldn't defien correctly). So I think I need some easier for now. Don't pay attention on this comment I'm just trying to improve my skills)

@SimonClarkstone 9 ай бұрын

This is why ISPs increase their existing customers' bills by 20% or whatever every year.

@RichardCurryO 8 ай бұрын

It seems like people are commenting without listening to Dia Bondi's TED talk. Question: What is the definition of "ZoFO"? What is the function of "no" in her examples? Who says no? Is it her or the person to whom she pitches the "ASK"?

@RichardCurryO 8 ай бұрын

ZoFO ... getting to "no", then dialing down just one notch to "yes".

@mr.c2485 11 ай бұрын

I said “no” to the American system a long time ago. Working away my time and life is a huge “no” . I’ve been “using the system” for 43 years and haven’t worked at all but for a few early years before I learned to say no to “the man”. It’s awesome! Unlimited time and free resources just for the asking. I’ve left absolutely nothing on the table. Thank you all for making this possible! ..guess I’ll go golfing…

@SimonClarkstone 9 ай бұрын

How do you get money? Do you have your own business?

@HakuCell 11 ай бұрын

it takes her 12 minutes to make her point? sorry, that's a no for me.

@user-sw9vj9it4r 11 ай бұрын

Price is a measure of value and not worth 🤓

@r.santhanakrishnanrsk2060 11 ай бұрын

Hello

@venust.4119 11 ай бұрын

Just watch out with that mentality, you maybe abusing people-pleasers, the people who have a hard time saying "no" to others. I know what it's like to be a victim of those "auctioneers" who are very comfy in their zofos, I call them "freeloaders" they push and push looking what they can get away with. They aren't thankful for special favors i did for them, they praise themselves for being so gutsy.

@anastasiaonushko 11 ай бұрын

Yes, there is that possibility. Just can you tell what's 'zofos'? Sorry, English is my second language

@cindyhalpern3187 11 ай бұрын

This can backfire badly. If you ask too much in salary, you don't get hired!. If you want to get a contract and you bid wrong, you don't get it. What you want, you might not get. You don't want no. Because no stays no. Sorry, wrong advice!