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This has to be THE hardest lesson for humans to learn.

"There is only the peace that must be won again and again, each new day of our lives" - Narcissus & Goldmund by Hermann Hesse

As I grow older I no longer want to become happy. I want to become mindful, aware of every emotions I'm feeling. I no longer want to become rich, but I want to be enough. But well I think this world proves otherwise, we seem to live in a world that makes us feel like we can never have enough, and we will never be enough. But like you said, just be aware of this notion and live according to your own terms. And enjoy the ride! :)

Life is so stupid. We live in a constant state of longing and never feel satisfied. Like wtf is that

"No matter what goals we have: they will NEVER be enough." ... "The only destination is the journey."

Constant bombardment of media of what "success" is makes us think that materialistic things have more importance than peace of mind. We often forget happiness is byproduct of what we do and true happiness lies in living a truly authentic life

"The only destination is the journey" Nice

This video is depressing and encouraging at the same time.

Sometimes I learn more from the comments than the actual video itself. Cheers everyone!

In German there are two beautiful words that describe this human condition. One is Sehnsucht, which refers to the continuous longing and yearning for something or someone else and is inbuilt in our human nature. The second word is Weltschmerz which is what we feel when we can’t find peace nor rest our mind whilst looking at the world around us.

_"There's no such thing as happily ever after. I'll always have more work to do."_ Steven Universe: The Movie

There is no reward in this life. There is only anticipation of reward. Enjoy the expectation.

This is the great burden of my life, thinking “I’ll be happy when...”

The only peace is in knowing that there is no peace.

The book "The subtle art of not giving a fuck" goes into this a lot, it's very enlightening (be patient with its annoying style, it's worth it). It basically says life will always be full of problems but happiness is about choosing which problems you want and solving them to turn them into better problems, which then create other problems and so on. My personal side note to that would be that the more happiness something brings you, the more problems it inherently gives you to solve, but if you genuinely chose it, you'll also be at peace with having to solve the huge problems that come with it. The things we tend to value in life, like a life partner, kids, friends, family, something fulfilling to do, can bring us peace and unending problems; they're not mutually exclusive, they belong together.

Only the dead have known the end of war.

Damn. Good morning, I guess

You never stop working on yourself it's like once you get better or reach a new height you unlock a new level of challenges

"The only destination is the journey" Absolutely!

The buddha says the root of all suffering is desire.. let's not suffer and worry! We're all going to die so enjoy the moment :) Peace and love to you!

Watching this in the middle of a depressive episode was not the best idea.

I feel happy and calm when I look at large trees and water while having my capuchino. I also like watching swans, puppies, horses and squerrels. The smell of plants also gives me joy. Long walks improves my mood and gives me confidence. Meditation before going the bed keeps me clam. Dark chocolate with green tea gives me satisfaction. Hehe probably I'm taking nonsense but this is my life.

After 44 years, I am happily living day to day.

The calmness of mind comes from accepting our own mortality. When we don't fear death, we don't fear anything.

Happily Ever After is being at peace with ourselves on a moment by moment basis. Everything else is just a story we indulge in. Self love, self care, self compassion, self forgiveness are our priorities. From this position we can extend ourselves because what we are is what we see (projection) and in accepting ourselves we can finally accept the other.

Children’s literature isn’t naive. “Idealistic” would be a better word. One has to be able to think or not think in order to be naive.

You have no idea how much I needed to hear that today. I often feel like I wasted a lot of time in my life and want to aim for some high goal to make up for the time I’ve been unproductive. But I now see that there is no goal that will be enough, and I have to just focus on finding pleasure in the journey.

Life consists of two days, one for you one against you. So when it's for you don't be proud or reckless, and when it's against you be patient

Oh my God! Thank you for making me feel so much better about my shitty, loveless life! This video has given me a wonderful new perspective and level of peace that is so healing, I'm both laughing and crying tears of joy at the same time! I feel enlightened, like God has just given me some deep secret about humanity and finally I can stop searching for that thing that will finally make me happy. These videos are worth more than all my years in therapy!

A life of absolute happiness and peace is impossible but a life of absolute misery, anxiety and depression is possible if you allow it. This is sad but true.

This struck me as one of the most life-applicable videos I've seen on this channel in some time, and that's saying something. Thank you. 😎☀

This is exactly what I was trying to fledge out. Thank you very much for phrasing it so well.

This channel is simply fantastic!!! It teaches the essential elements of being human. This is so critical when modern family and society no longer does. If only this course was a part of the school curriculum.

Homo Sapiens has a good touch on this topic. Humans before 80 years ago lived a life with the same level of happiness as people today,. Happiness comes from with in, if you are a happy person, you will always be happy. if you are a unhappy person, you will always be unhappy. You would have some ups and downs when some events happen, but later on your level of happiness will always come to it's usual state

I am very amazed how that video just arrive at the right moment. I started having panic attacks few month ago, without any reason. I didn't understood why, because I thought that for the first time in my life I had finally reached a place where I had everything I always dreamed of. And yet I was still not satisfied and found myself wanting for more ( the only thing was that for the first time I couldn't find that next big thing to reach up to / dream off ). Thank you for the valuable lesson

One of the best video on self help. Thank you Alain.

Hey School of Life! I love your Calm book btw. Currently reading it and it's really insightful and reassuring at times.

Thank you school of life for this videos which are like balm on troubled anxious souls.

ah yes it's time to question our entire existence

I fully accepted the impossibilities you speak of long ago due to going through a large amount of bullshit in my life(and I do mean large). Now though, I am extremely insecure because I'm an unemployed, single father, who I cannot at this moment get unemployment because I was fired from my job due to getting caught up in something that was meant as a joke, but spread around my workplace, by the person I was trying to joke and be friends with, as a mean spirited, half racist comment, so right there I was screwed. I am DEFINITELY NOT racist! It happened only days after George Floyd so I didn't have a leg or stump to stand on. I couldn't defend myself in any way. I have 2 children who depend on me, but my supposed friend apparently had that farthest from her mind. I'm down to nothing now, all my small savings burnt through. All I need in this world to achieve a level of contentment I can live well with is to become employed by someone where I can make a living where I've maybe got a couple bucks leftover when I get my paycheck. Maybe even save back up some retirement money. I feel like even that simple thing is usually just outside my grasp and it is just getting really hard. Now I have to try and explain why I got terminated from my last job for being racist to any potential future employer. That sounds super enjoyable. I so hope I can get out of this big mess for my children and myself. I've tried really hard in my life to do right my people and respect others and conduct myself with dignity and compassion. I don't think a tiny bit of security is too much to ask for. Sorry to pour all this out on whoever's reading this. I just don't have anybody to talk to anymore and it gets lonely and overwhelming even for someone with the mental fortitude I possess. Best of luck and life to everyone of you out there.

This video reminds me why I love this channel, thank you.

Right on time, i needed to hear that. Thank you ❤️

I like The School of Life videos, but these titles are too depressing to start the day off with!

The stuff we are exposed to as children creates this. Disney is a great example. These influences have majorly screwed many of us up. I think Happily Ever After is -- or even Happiness -- is relative terminology that simply does not exist. Forced joy/ optimism and Pollyanna is worse. Creates even more stress. Acceptance and good works in love of others seems to calm us more. I think this is why so many people are dependent on their pets because they find unconditional response that is stable, steady, unmalleable.

I literally just needed this thank you you just saved my life 🙏

"The only destination is the journey"... I just love the school of life

Do you have anything on dealing with the loss of a dear pet? My cat of 16 years recently passed. We were expecting it but the end was months earlier than what the vet said. Mourning of a pet can be different because it’s an uncomplicated love, like with a baby but for much longer. When they’re gone it ends a huge part of your daily routine and reliable source of joy and calm.

After watching your videos, my whole conception about life and relationships has changed drastically

This may be the best advice I have received in a long time

In every narrative, happiness equals end. There is no such thing in life, however, because there's no such thing as permanent fulfilment. And it's fine. What else is there to unravel if we get to the finish line ahead of ourselves?

I shared this with my grandkids. It is very brief and conveys an important life lesson.

These things give us goals and purpose in a way though I think. Life would be pretty darn boring otherwise I'd imagine.

Probably a good idea to listen to this everyday. This is what I have been challenged with. I'm getting better every day

This hurts like a hell. Thanks.

I so much appreciate the content ❤️

Thank you I needed this at the moment as going through hustle bustle.

50 yrs ago, my husband and I drove to Hanna, Maui after we were told we should definitely go there. Of course there was only one empty building there. It was all about the drive.

Damn i needed this, happiness isn't a destination.

Oh man!🤦🏾 this means that I will never get to say the words “Mama I made it”😂😂😂

*If everything is perfect, it would be boring* 🙏

An individual has more desires than the whole world together can ever fulfill.

As a translational science graduate student in amidst of a pandemic, insane climate change, and intense (super important!) social tensions and upheavals: I really fucking needed this. I need to re-emphasize to myself that "the destination is the journey". No destination can ever truly satiate what I seek. Every time I've succeeded in something, or got something I wanted, etc., I just tend to look at the next goal post because of my ambition. We all die anyway. So I might as well really lean into appreciating and accepting the joys and sorrows of the journey. I really appreciated though that you didn't make ambition the enemy, as I have trouble with mine. It's just reframing the mindset.

Impeccable timing!

Great reminder of stoic worldview, thanks!

"The only destination is the journey"....that hit hard...

This video going on about "being at peace" like it's an illusion...brings a new, more existential meaning to the Super Soldier motto "Semper Bellum".

I learned this as a very young child, obsessed with Peter S Beagles’ ‘The Last Unicorn’, amazing book, fab film adaptation (obviously I saw that first) and just chock full of amazing life advice. “There are no happy endings, as nothing ever ends”.

There are some of us, who had already learnt in childhood that there is eventually no happily ever after. It's amazing how in adult life, our past inner child already knew this.

Thor - "The only thing permanent in life is impermanence " Indeed it is true.

Thank you ❤️

Your anxious longing state is also called social conditioning! Open your eyes to that and work to break free from it and you will find (not happiness) but lasting contentment..

A hard and valid lesson to man. Enjoying the journey is just as interesting as the trophy.

"Life us the process of replacing one anxiety and desire with another"

Great exposition. Compliments 🙏

Thank you for the video

Oh man this is so true. You know what would make me happy? To wake up with peace of mind. My anxiety drives me to achieve something tangible everyday to justify my existence to myself. I never reach satisfaction.

“As kid’s we loved heroes, as teenager’s we understood them” that just makes me think about life.

I needed this

I don't know if this channel is just one person or not. But if it is I would like to find a friend like you. Wise, emotionally matured, appreciates art and someone I could have deep conversations with.

This hit just the right time.

You humans define your reality through misery - Agent Smith

Best to always have milestone to complete to have happiness in life. Great video.

There is a whole realm of beauty beyond words.. notice it and be deeply in touch with it life is basically one moment enjoy your comfy pillow..😇😂

This is what i needed

Right time to see this one. I love it. Thanks.

this video explained something I discovered when I was a lot younger and thus knew that the only real peace was in death and so I tried to kill myself several times. I don't think it's wrong to want to do it BUT through that pain and the desire to feel at peace so desperately I found a perspective worth sharing. we all die, there is nothing that will stop it and up until that point things will be tough, things will be sad, things will be the most painful... BUT things will also be easy, things will be joyous, things will be the most pleasurable as well... live life for the experience of it, try things and do things, the worst that can happen is you die and that's going to happen anyway so why not try to enjoy yourself while you're here. for me it really took the pressure off and allowed me to just BE. I'll embrace death when it comes but for now, I want to enjoy the smell of fall, the warmth of the sun on a cold winters day, the taste of foods I can't take with me when I'm gone and the love I share with those around me. my life might not mean much in the end as many lives don't but this one is mine and I am glad in it.

Wow! not what I was expecting , but great! stuff, thx!

Whoever made this video never studied Buddhism. The whole point of the philosophy gies against the narrator's constant assertions that it is IMPOSSIBLE to ever be satisfied, that we will ALWAYS find new cravings. Yes, that is true of most people, the ones who lack self introspection but it is by no means impossible. I'm perfectly content with where I've ended up in life. I don't crave more. I have peace and happiness and I hope to stay in my situation until I die. Sure, sometimes new things come up that are cause for some concern (COVID, for example) but with some patience, clear thinking, and medicine I've done as much as I can reasonably do. The trick isn't to stop trying to be happy. The trick is to understand at a fundamental level that the universe is completely random and unpredictable, so spending too much energy doing anything more than common sense precautions is a waste.

Happiness is the successful state of life, pain is an agent of death. Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one’s values. A morality that dares to tell you to find happiness in the renunciation of your happiness - to value the failure of your values - is an insolent negation of morality. A doctrine that gives you, as an ideal, the role of a sacrificial animal seeking slaughter on the altars of others, is giving you death as your standard. By the grace of reality and the nature of life, man - every man - is an end in himself, he exists for his own sake, and the achievement of his own happiness is his highest moral purpose. But neither life nor happiness can be achieved by the pursuit of irrational whims. Just as man is free to attempt to survive in any random manner, but will perish unless he lives as his nature requires, so he is free to seek his happiness in any mindless fraud, but the torture of frustration is all he will find, unless he seeks the happiness proper to man. The purpose of morality is to teach you, not to suffer and die, but to enjoy yourself and live. ~ Ayn Rand

life is the endless search for that “next thing”

Wherever you are & go, there you are!

The more we strive for happiness the more unhappy we become. The essence of the life and death drive is that opposites are essential for the existence and meaning of both. This translates to everything in life. Arguably the more dangerous (risky) life is the more we appreciate it. We tend to be more devoted to values ,love ,safety, boundaries. This is so innate to our nature that under the most secure circumstances we will hijack our lives to simulate insecurity and risk simply for the excitement it produces. Why we glorify violence and the virtues that overcome it.

"My glory and my doom walk hand in hand"

Thank you 😊❤️

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“You know why there is no happy ever after, because life always ends in death” Me An Edgy KZfaqr & Philosopher 2020 Edit: I guess sarcasm also stops existing after death so yes that truly would be a happy ever after.

An ambitious project for humanity!

What a Video, It felt me with negativity 😭

Wow this was a good one!