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I wanted to tell you that the translation of the video to spanish is wrong. It should be something like "por qué le hacemos daño a los que queremos" instead of "por qué el amor nos hace decir". With other videos I've also noticed this mistakes in the translation.

We are not mean to those we love. We are mean to those we hate and nice to those we love, or we are illogical creatures. Some weak minded people mix their love with hate. Be wary of them.

"Asshole"? really? The word "asshole" in a British accent just doesn't work. Are you pandering to the US audience here? Come on.. say it after me... ARSEHOLE. That's so much better.

Hey, I need your help. I like your content, I'm french and I don't know how and why but the titles of your videos are automatically (?) translated in french. That translations are just SOOOOO BAD! A lot of them are just absurd. This one especially. If I re-translate that french title ("Pourquoi l'amour nous veut dire") in english it's something like "why love us wants tell". It's a nonsense. Can you do something about that ? Why don't you let the titles in english, it's an english spoken content...

Yes, I agree. But we can still live and learn.

I see haha

and some said there's nothing as unconditional love

@@lasta5740 there is but its hard to find

It's cos we're hard wired to find God, the only source of unconditional love!

They're so simple yet so expressive

Félix Cavazos I think they have a team hired for it. Still hella expensive. Frame by frame drawn

I appreciate the effort behind these videos as well! It’s so nice!

they hire animators internationally and have a team of their own as well I WROTE THERE INSTEAD OF THEIR Yikes

I bet they have a ball (fun) a lot of fun) w them

ennui blue exactly how my ex seen it, really took a toll on me

Whispering Wind I don’t agree, if you take it out on strangers you’ll never make it past that level then no friends and probably no partner to begin with. Just be loving and caring to everyone.. find an outlet for all the frustration

Albert Wesker - It's difficult to not let out frustration verbally and have someone there to console you.

@@TiberiusStorm I agree it is difficult but not impossible, we have to make those tough decisions, to put my own experience in it I found it "easier" (for lack of better words) to sometimes just try and handle it on my own.. but thats because of the kind of relationship I had.. i dont think that would be healthy all the time but it is a option. Wish being in Love was easy man..

Some people do.

I wouldn't say its a"mean thing to say" but it's definitely a very manipulative thing to say.

I can't figure out what that sentence is supposed to mean.. Could you please explain it to me?

@@TheGalacticGrizzly Are you referring to the quote? To rephrase: I'm flawed. If I'm aware of this, then it is mean of me to ask the man I love (the man I want the best for) to love me in return since he will suffer through my imperfect moments. On top of that, he will experience my awful self more often than if he were less close. (But, hopefully, this is only mildly problematic, especially if he and I learn to argue well - the topic of another video. And this is true for all loving relationships, not only romantic ones.)

@@Chatoyancify ah, yes. Thank you! I guess I didn't understand, because it's so obvious to me that when you are together, the good outweighs the bad. And, if everyone is flawed, then the one you love is too. So then you are inviting a monster to your house. But that's okay, because you love each other. So you will tolerate the monster, because it's actually a teddy bear in disguise.

Chatoyancify yes but keep in mind no one is perfect and hes flawed as well.

Phrase it a little differently and you can make people break down on the spot.. Not good

@@whyisgamora4191 I think how it is already phrased will do that lol

Bitch confession

@@LU2013Aziz How so?

Did she leave you? Did you like that she was patient with you even when u were mean to her?

How can u tell the difference if they're teasing or actual mean to you?

ISN'T JUST PRETTY

@@vitoria96634 YES

Eu também

Not just so damn cute but less distracting than usual. I looove most of the illustrations and animations on this channel. I just think sometimes they demand more attention than the narration because of so much visual activity at once.

@@novembrine29, exactly. In this case it really complimented the narration.

this is so true

To be sincere, I think this belief can be very unproductive in relationships. Not that it doesn't exist, some people are prone to fall constantly in projecting behaviors. But using this as a generalisation, will make us always see the worst intentions in our partners, even when it's not the case. Maybe they are pointing us a legitimate issue. Even if they do it in a unnecessarily harsh way.

Spot on!

Lol UR a good red pen😁

Anyone can be mean to those who love them and feel no remorse if they don't love them back and aren't feeling particularly benevolent. I think the title SoL chose more accurately covers the issue

Touché

Because our insecurities make us think we don't deserve (their) love

YES

The worst monsters prey on misused empathy.

So you're a brat?

The

Indeed!

Beautifully analyzed

Be careful, they can really hurt.

Hahahahaha throw fish!!

Domestic

inb4 restriction order

I prefer fishslapping tbh lol

yes, yes, and yes.

😮

I think we need a dosis of goodness. And it's easier to get a hit while making a one time good thing, that we can back up from when we get tired, moody, busy or don't feel like it. At least for a while, and get back later on. But it's a different challenge to "have" to do it day in and day out with the ones we are spending our lives with

This is an unbelievably underrated comment. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Grand schemes to “save the world” are far more attractive, exciting, and rewarding for the ego (I.e. virtue signaling) than dealing with the nitty-gritty and sacrifice of close relationships.

Same boat

haha my thoughts exactly during this

same here, I dont even mind it, I dont know anyone who is happy together...

Yeah, same thought, not a worry though.

It's never perfect. It's starts like a fairy tale then it becomes challenging. It's not easy to live with someone. It's much easier to be alone but it does get lonely sometimes.

I did the same. An old pattern. There is no test to prove that, in the end only thing that is left is faith.

If you keep testing your SO and if the testing causes stress to your SO then your SO will be miserable with you.

(edit) Ok, the reality is that your test is really stupid, selfish and cowardice. And the truth is, you aren't testing your partner's loyalty or love, you're testing to see how much of your cruelty and abuse they can tolerate before you destroy them. The other side of your “test” is a person who is extremely hurt, and whose self-esteem has been completely devastated. Please do not measure another person’s love, by being as cruel, selfish and inconsiderate to them, ESPECIALLY if you aren’t on their side when they are in need. Love is about what you can give to another partner. It’s how you can act selflessly to another person to make them feel loved and happy and wanted. If your “love” always works from an angle of what the partner can do for you, and how much of your abuse they can tolerate, before cracking and having to leave to preserve their sanity, you aren’t capable or love or ready for it. You got issues and you need to work on them and stay as far away from any friendship or relationship as humanly possible. Go see a shrink and fix your head, or you’ll be ending up very alone, very fast.

@@laela6289 you described it so well. Yes, abuse is the exact word. Once a person knows that even if he is miserable, the other one is still around, all Hell breaks loose! Been there, seen that. From my personal experience i can say it is terrible.

Especially when it comes to butt sex

Mr Winkle woah

Or the only ones weak enough to tolerate it.

So if "they love us back" they should just stand there and be abused? Why? Is it a test, to prove their love if they stay? I dont think its worth being with a person so insecure that she would hurt you just to feel better about their insecurities. No thanks.

Divine Linker yep exactly unfortunately people don’t learn after every divorce they had. People who don’t try to improve their emotional intelligence will end up dying alone

You seem like a really amazing friend to have, just from those words anyway. I think your friends are lucky to have you, but you're also lucky to have them. It's hard to find genuine people most of the time (for me, anyway) so I always feel blessed to know the people in my life.

UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS never leave us? Wake up call! That’s taking people you love for granted. No body sticks around and will tolerate abuse no matter how much they love you over time. One day, they are gone if you keep it up.

@@kilipaki87oritahiti if they leave u its not love

UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS That sounds more like an abuser with low self esteem.

We take them for granted.

@@Dani-cf2jj and if we are mean to people we are supposed to love that's not love.

So true

Or if one just doesn't really love the other one.

Me too, me with my brother. I guess it has correlation with being too close to someone that can be annoying sometimes, now when we separated i miss him alot.

I understand, its tough to be close to someone but at the same time have to let them go and be apart. As long as we love and are willing to forgive I think it’s going to be alright. 😊 hope it gets better for you too.

@@lelleakaj1616 well what did she say?

MOONIE ”you Never understand me, you always think I’m wrong. I don’t want to tell you anything or talk.” (But the look in her eyes were the worst.)And that’s literally all o want to do, understand her and hear her out. But our differences are big and that’s why it seems like we always fight. Misunderstandings. But it’s good now, I’m great-full that she wants to forgive me for my shortcomings.

Seems ok, but Ayn Rand sucks

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I like this. I'm a woman so I'll just repeat this as a woman. To love is to value. Only a rationally selfish woman, a woman of self-esteem, is capable of love -- because she is the only woman capable of holding firm, consistent, uncompromising, unbetrayed values. The woman who does not value herself cannot value anything or anyone.

This is true, I've often thought of blowing my brains out or blowing other people's brains out.

This quote doesn't work when it comes to self-sacrifice.

how did she reacted???

yeah i’m also curious

OP will surely deliver.

I've had a crush on this girl for 5 years and I finally ended up being with her a while ago. Me and her shared everything in commo. Sadly, we share the bad traits too apparently. Laziness, self-righteousness, easily annoyed. I work on my problems but she just doesn't, not in the slightest. That sad thing is I can understand why, on anti-depressant medication and having to take care of her 3 year oId brother all by herself while her mother works and no future in sight after dropping out. I care for this girl very deeply, it would make me sad if she continued with her have habits even if I wasn't with her. Maybe I should be honest and end it. I don't know how she would feel tho, I'll try to help her while I still can tho.

lividual hang in there bro! Let us know how it goes I’m intrigued

Help any advice?

Honeslty all the advice i can give u is to talk it out with them

It's helpful to change the prescribed meaning to your current situation. You say she hates you. Could there be another explaination for her behaviour. Maybe she's just upset. Maybe she needs time to cool down. Girls don't give up so easily on people they love. You seem lovable to me. Why think so low of yourself😉