Why you are so overwhelmed in your new job or role.

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Erin Foley

Erin Foley

6 жыл бұрын

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@LalaLarrieux
@LalaLarrieux 3 жыл бұрын
This is me. I started a new job today, and I started to question my decision to change careers. I was thinking of not coming back, that's how overwhelmed I feel. I think I'm extremely hard on myself, and expect that I should automatically know the job, or I feel like the people I work for feel that I should know it already. I'm used to "knowing" what to do and how to do it, I hate making mistakes and I will beat myself up about it for days.
@madziajedrzejewska5610
@madziajedrzejewska5610 3 жыл бұрын
100% me now 😪
@ronnies.3440
@ronnies.3440 3 жыл бұрын
Just described my exact situation. Therefore, you are not alone!
@lawrencelatrelljacksonmckn2932
@lawrencelatrelljacksonmckn2932 3 жыл бұрын
That's me right now ,too!! I hate feeling lost at a new job and not feeling good enough.
@AAA-hz7fh
@AAA-hz7fh 3 жыл бұрын
That’s how I feel now! How are you now?
@JessicaTorres-zz4fe
@JessicaTorres-zz4fe 3 жыл бұрын
I can relate very much to this. It sucks cuz I never had a job until now and they are sticking me into the offices and it's extremely overwhelming at the moment.
@walpoleandworcester
@walpoleandworcester 6 ай бұрын
The worst part having that feeling in your stomach that you’re not good enough and you end up making more careless mistakes too.
@ShyyRonniee
@ShyyRonniee 4 жыл бұрын
The hardest part has to be the unfamiliar people and having to make friends that can help you out without feeling judged. As a suuuuper introvert / perfectionist this makes it 100x worse
@erinMfoley
@erinMfoley 4 жыл бұрын
Hi Russell--Thanks for sharing! The brain def panics when joining a new group. It helps to remember that when it comes to judgement--people think about us MUCH less then we realize. Most people spend most of their brain power worrying about themselves. So even in a moment when someone might judge you--it's fleeting. Within moments they go right back to thinking about themselves. Give yourself time to adjust and make friends. Since you are deeply introverted--make a goal to connect with 1 person a day at work. That way you don't get so overwhelmed thinking about all the new people.
@kentalk6671
@kentalk6671 3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes we feel like we are not good enough, sometimes we feel like we are not worth doing something .We need to overcome such fears . I hope this video speaks to you ,your friend and family .Enjoy. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/q899e5aYsZzXnH0.html
@helenarichard
@helenarichard 2 жыл бұрын
Jep, people are nice and all but ask one thing too much and I feel like they are tired of me. I think the issue is that coworkers don't get informed well that they have to train you. Well, that is not my fault
@marisolargueta3562
@marisolargueta3562 Жыл бұрын
Me too, I isolate and my coworkers have lunch together every Wednesday and I'm so nervous to join but I actually did have an appointment so I wasn't able to go. I just feel like I'm not going to be able to fit in? Hope everything is going well for you!
@kpopqn
@kpopqn 2 ай бұрын
​@@marisolargueta3562 same thing is happening to me right now? Any improvement about you? Please response..
@ronnies.3440
@ronnies.3440 3 жыл бұрын
Great video. I’m one week in at my new job. The first few days were horrible. I was so stressed, anxious about the next day, and felt so incompetent. Everything is a new process and there is still so much to learn. I can almost hear my boss getting frustrated as she’s training me on simple things. It’s not that I don’t know; it’s just that I am so overwhelmed that I can’t think straight.
@citydweller99
@citydweller99 3 жыл бұрын
My former boss was like that...when I left the company, her boss asked me for feedback..and all I said was that my co worker (who was fab) should do trainings of new employees because she had the ability to adjust her training based on the person's learning style
@ronnies.3440
@ronnies.3440 3 жыл бұрын
@@citydweller99 thanks for your reply. Yes, someone on my team is a lot more patient and better at training. I’m 3 months in now and the job has definitely gotten a lot easier. But, a good chunk of it was me bombarding my entire team with questions. I accepted the fact that although they may perceive me as dumb, I honestly don’t care.
@JJ-rz3ci
@JJ-rz3ci 3 жыл бұрын
@@purpleskies1 goodluck with your new job, I am starting my new job soon too ! Imposter syndrome can get the f outta here !
@Cracktune
@Cracktune 2 жыл бұрын
@@JJ-rz3ci thats the correct way to think about it! Lets GO
@a.k5631
@a.k5631 2 жыл бұрын
This is me right now. It's Sunday and tomorrow Gonna start my second week and I can literally see them as if they're judging me when I walk in to mark my attendance. Lots and lots of new info and not being able to keep up with my superiors are sort of becoming a blow to my self esteem and is making me really insecure. Top of that I'm really shy and awkward so I fear that too is gonna make me physically look like a dweeb.
@NickolasFuentes
@NickolasFuentes 2 жыл бұрын
The comments in this chat! Praying for everyone with anxiety for starting a higher role and feeling overwhelmed. God will give us the strength to overcome! 🙌🏻
@ssyynnn
@ssyynnn 2 жыл бұрын
I needed to see this…Thank you!
@0hMiri
@0hMiri Жыл бұрын
Amen!
@deedee6074
@deedee6074 Жыл бұрын
@felixjune
@felixjune Жыл бұрын
I can do all thing through Christ who gives me strength! Amen!
@bryanpineda9150
@bryanpineda9150 Жыл бұрын
Thank you. I just started as a heavy duty mechanic and I'm having the hardest time adjusting and I'm missing my coworkers and everything. Even tho I'm performing really well
@investedtina
@investedtina 4 жыл бұрын
Fresh out of college & officially at a full time job. I feel like I am dying with anxiety & come home super depressed/ super drained. Can’t even sleep fully...the stress is on going. I am usually fairly social & I am so tense & quiet at my job. People dont even know me well yet. Dont feel like I am behaving like myself... & im not even hungry anymore. This full shift of change is overwhelming since I also have person things in my life going on along with the job😭😭😭🤦‍♀️.
@erinMfoley
@erinMfoley 4 жыл бұрын
Hi Christina! So sorry to hear that you are feeling so much anxiety. I would suggest you start to write out the anxiety at night. List out the fears. What are you really afraid will happen? Failing, making a mistake, being judged....Then sit with those fears and play them through. What if it's true that even if worst case scenario happens you will be 100% fine. Look for evidence that this is true. Your brain is likely creating catastrophes so you want to become really aware of the specific fears and challenge them. If you haven't already hop over to my website (ErinMFoley.com). I have a free training on how to stop feeling so insecure in your new job. I would suggest you grab it and really work through the worksheet I created. This will help you get some relief!
@investedtina
@investedtina 4 жыл бұрын
Erin Foley Thank you for the advice. I’ll try this exercise soon. I think it comes down to fear of making mistakes or not fitting into the job culture since I am the newbie & everyone already has close relationships for years. Its all good, I will try to stay true to me & make connections. Thanks again!🙏
@emilyfeeney8143
@emilyfeeney8143 4 жыл бұрын
@@investedtina how are you now?
@startingtech3900
@startingtech3900 4 жыл бұрын
We all have person things too keep at it!
@kimiyarahmani4322
@kimiyarahmani4322 4 жыл бұрын
Are u feeling better now?
@nvk30494
@nvk30494 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly my situation. I joined this new job and after 2-3 days, the only thing I could think in my mind was - "This profile is not for me. I dont have the required aptitude to work for this company." I actually had sleepless nights for the first week. I used to wakeup 3-4 times in night. Solution- Just stick there. Realise that new things take time. We cannot eat the elephant in one day. Recall your bicycle learning days. You might be riding motorbikes with clutch and gears today. Imagine if someone would have told you in your childhood that you have to drive complex motorbikes. For this you have to learn bicycle today. I am pretty much sure you would have ran away leaving that bicycle there only. The thing is good things take time. Stick there. Start from the basics. DONT JUST LISTEN. WRITE EVERYTHING IN A NOTEBOOK. See what you have written after coming home. Slowly and steadily, once agaib you will be the master or your work. Stick there.
@ladymercury7042
@ladymercury7042 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your insight!! I just started a new job, in a new field, and I am feeling my anxiety hit the ceiling!😥😐 But I am pushing through...💪
@rominagracevera6896
@rominagracevera6896 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this!!! I needed to hear this!
@helenarichard
@helenarichard 2 жыл бұрын
Jep for a solide month at a job, I came home kicking things, crying, angry at myself, stressed. All because I THOUGHT that I had fucked up multiple times per day at an alarm central. In reality, I was making huge progress and despite thinking daily that I would be let go, I got really good and one of the best callers at the alarm central despite no experience and a deadly fear of phone calls. Alarm centrals are actually pretty cool places for introverts, cause you actually, ya know, get a chance to learn how to use a damn landline and microphone, transfer, hold calls.
@rokiikor9270
@rokiikor9270 2 жыл бұрын
Great reaction!
@eagle7619
@eagle7619 2 жыл бұрын
This helped, I relate 100%. First week in the books and I’m super anxious about the complex processes I’m watching ppl do, always seem to get anxious when I’m not “in control” with something new and cant understand everything I need to do right away. I know it takes time though
@fitri1026
@fitri1026 2 жыл бұрын
Just started a new job a month ago. Feeling like this every single day. Some days the anxiety gets so bad I just wanna throw up. I don’t wanna quit though because I know how amazing this opportunity is but I wonder if I’ll be able to survive this. I know it’s all in my head and that God gave me this job because He knows I’m capable. But for some reason it’s just so difficult to shake off the anxiety. I hope to come back to this comment a year from now and update that things are going better.
@kavitabirbal3182
@kavitabirbal3182 2 жыл бұрын
It has been 2 months. How is it now? :)
@crow4834
@crow4834 2 жыл бұрын
Hows it going?
@jhonardnorcio1531
@jhonardnorcio1531 2 жыл бұрын
How its going im feeling the same way rn.
@kaii3519
@kaii3519 Жыл бұрын
Hope you’re doing better now
@faithrose2070
@faithrose2070 Жыл бұрын
how is the going? I am also in the exact same situation
@charfitz2230
@charfitz2230 4 жыл бұрын
This is me RIGHT NOW!!!! Promotion job and I’m struggling, but after listening to this video this morning before work I had the BEST day ever! I CAN DO THIS JOB! GOD GAVE IT TO ME SO I KNOW HE’LL BE RIGHT THERE WITH ME WHEN THE ENEMY STRIKES! I’m NOT BOWING DOWN TO THE IMPOSTER SYNDROME NO MORE EVER! If GOD GIVES IT TO YOU, he WILL PULL YOU THROUGH.....let FAITH BE YOUR SHIELD!
@khalid9085
@khalid9085 3 жыл бұрын
Well said, hope you’re doing great!
@cathym7071
@cathym7071 3 жыл бұрын
Amen
@DZJ0595
@DZJ0595 3 жыл бұрын
Thank u so much, im on day 2 of a promotion, feeling overwhelmed and like fish out of water but HIS MERCY NEVER FAILS ME. I keep repeating to myself, HE WILL NOT TAKE ME TO SOMETHING HE CANNOT TAKE ME THROUGH 🙏🏾💪🏾
@melanyandrea8685
@melanyandrea8685 3 жыл бұрын
Going through exactly the same thing right now!
@zleviz3376
@zleviz3376 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the reminder
@neiljohnson5351
@neiljohnson5351 Жыл бұрын
"Let everything happen to you, beauty and terror. Just keep going, no feeling is final".
@zoeng9026
@zoeng9026 Жыл бұрын
First week at my new job after staying at my previous job for about 3 years. It feels so overwhelming. I always feel like I need to know more than I do. I can’t help but be extremely hard on myself. I really miss the calmness and familiarity at my previous job. But this is a choice I’ve made.
@ria6271
@ria6271 Жыл бұрын
Same feeling. 3 years in my previous job, and currently 2 months in my new job today. I often forgot that I am a newbie that whenever mistakes are committed, I felt overwhelmed. I hope we can both make this through.
@marisolargueta3562
@marisolargueta3562 Жыл бұрын
Me too I'm at my 3-4 week now hope you're feeling better. I'm still kinda second guessing stuff but one step at a time we'll be pros.
@CheriseW-yt6gx
@CheriseW-yt6gx Жыл бұрын
I'm feeling the same way. I'm only a month into the job.
@toowhiteboy18
@toowhiteboy18 Жыл бұрын
Just started a new gig last week and feel like I'm drowning from the fear of failure and not meeting deadlines, quality of work, etc
@fallenaeon7084
@fallenaeon7084 Жыл бұрын
Same here and its my 4th day on job and if there is anyone here who no longer feel anxious in their new work. How did you guys manage to make peace with your anxiety?
@mj-fc3ci
@mj-fc3ci 2 ай бұрын
I’m experiencing this right now. Although I don’t think all the other workers are judging me or that I made any huge mistakes, my mind is tricking me of doing so. I worked at my previous job for the past 3 years and that place and people felt almost like my family. I feel so lost at the new place, I don’t feel like I belong even tho it’s been 3 days. I feel hopeful when I see that I’m not the only one struggling with it.
@helen677
@helen677 Ай бұрын
I can really relate to that. It’s my third week and I got so stressed that in week two I got shingles! I had to take 2 days off. I’m in my late 50s and have just returned to office work after working in a local post office for 13 years! I still don’t know how I feel but will stick with it! I hope you will too!
@danielpenas1993
@danielpenas1993 27 күн бұрын
1 month in, How are you doing bro? I’m 3 days in with this new job of mine, and I’m having the same feelings
@SuperMariposa91
@SuperMariposa91 4 жыл бұрын
I feel this way right now ☹️ yet I desire success. I feel overwhelmed, and incompetent. You are literally saying what I’m feeling. 😭
@erinMfoley
@erinMfoley 4 жыл бұрын
Check out the book The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women. It will def help you!
@79bigmacs
@79bigmacs 2 жыл бұрын
Recently got a new job in an office. It’s overwhelming. I feel dumb. I’ve learned many things in the span of one month but I’m not fast enough. The person training me accuses me for mistakes that I did not make myself. She micromanages me and it makes me second guess myself on every little thing even if the answer is right in my face. One day she wasn’t in the office and I felt so relaxed and actually got my work done. She’s very picky even on how you staple paper together. As long as the papers information is correct and is neatly organized I don’t think the boss cares if you staple diagonally or straight. Its been a month and I’m starting to wonder if I want to stay. I want to, but I dread getting up in the morning just to be nagged at work and feel anxious for 8 hours.
@razelsarmiento6463
@razelsarmiento6463 Жыл бұрын
Same feeling.
@Jasmin3G
@Jasmin3G Жыл бұрын
I hope things are going better now🥺🥺
@ria6271
@ria6271 Жыл бұрын
I hope your doing well now. I am currently facing same situation.
@goodness_graciousme
@goodness_graciousme Жыл бұрын
6 months in my role and I'm feeling this! It's to the point where my boss nitpicks everything I do! When I wrote a speech for a topic and he said "this isn't good enough". But when I send it over to my colleague, she said it looks fine. Like... I feel sad.. It got the point where I'm second guessing myself and I'm a failure 😔
@louiseaori
@louiseaori Ай бұрын
@@goodness_graciousme Don't say that! You aren't; you can, and I hope it is better
@vrintige
@vrintige 3 жыл бұрын
This month marks 2 years at my job. And I am STILL dealing with this. Everyday I have multiple moments that I feel so lost. And I find myself realizing I should know these by now. I’ve already self-sabotaged my competency and confidence, and it feels daunting to try and turn it around from here.
@lizziemiss945
@lizziemiss945 2 жыл бұрын
You made it that far for a reason. Take the experience and go to the next job
@user-of7pt2qn8j
@user-of7pt2qn8j Жыл бұрын
I'm currently on the 1.5years of my current position and felt exactly the same😭
@oliviaolivia8397
@oliviaolivia8397 9 ай бұрын
Same here one year in and I am not getting anything. What do we do I can't deal anymore
@inayatraana4178
@inayatraana4178 9 ай бұрын
@@oliviaolivia8397seek professional help please, i hope you're doing well.
@MsPinkAndBlack
@MsPinkAndBlack 8 ай бұрын
@Emily-us4gq
@Emily-us4gq 3 жыл бұрын
literally all my thoughts, they have the shittest "training" and i have no idea what im doing because they cant even be bothered to train me properly.
@Butter43fly
@Butter43fly 3 жыл бұрын
Same here....
@ticiao
@ticiao 3 жыл бұрын
Same here and Covid is going on.
@magicallyme96
@magicallyme96 3 жыл бұрын
I can’t stand when training is literally non existent they just expect us to know everything while we are still new?
@cathym7071
@cathym7071 3 жыл бұрын
Started a new job today. The girl training me went so fast , that I couldn’t write everything down. It’s frustrating.
@JessicaTorres-zz4fe
@JessicaTorres-zz4fe 3 жыл бұрын
Same!!! It's annoying amd frustrating!
@sherryminh
@sherryminh Жыл бұрын
The comments here are everything. I read a comment exactly like what I’m currently going through. It’s comforting knowing you’re not the only one experiencing impostor syndrome in this context. Tomorrow’s the beginning of my second week at work as a legal exec in an insurance company and I’ve been freaking out the past week. I underestimate my ability and I’m always overthinking after making dumb mistakes eventhough I know I’m naturally bright. I keep wondering whether I’m suitable for this role but if I don’t do this, idk what I’ll be doing, at least for now. I’ve already decided to not practice law so I went in-house. My boss loved me during the interview but I feel like I’m letting her down now and thinking that she may have regretted hiring me. Maybe it’s all just a perpetuation. I really hope things get better from here on. Sending all the positivity I could muster to everyone going through the same ❤️
@ria6271
@ria6271 Жыл бұрын
I am the same with my job, i am currently 2 months. It is really difficult at times to accept mistakes at work when you have this syndrome. I hope we can make it through, wishing the best
@BeautyBuzzyBee
@BeautyBuzzyBee Жыл бұрын
@@ria6271 I’m one week in to starting a new role (promotion in the same company). This first week has been exhausting to day the least. I’ve had to liaise with people I’ve never worked with before, some of whom had prior expectations of what I should be doing, which I’ve failed to deliver. I miss my old team a lot and am second guessing whether this is the right role for me. But the stigma of quitting after telling others/celebrating a promotion makes me feel like an absolute failure. Unsure what to do!
@Sabinalucky
@Sabinalucky Жыл бұрын
Thank u so much for ur message. It is so helpful. I makes me feel less alone. I hqve the same fears and feelings.
@user-gz5mx2nd5p
@user-gz5mx2nd5p 5 жыл бұрын
I know it but my head does not accept it.
@kentalk6671
@kentalk6671 3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes we feel like we are not good enough, sometimes we feel like we are not worth doing something .We need to overcome such fears . I hope this video speaks to you ,your friend and family .Enjoy. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/q899e5aYsZzXnH0.html
@user-gz5mx2nd5p
@user-gz5mx2nd5p 3 жыл бұрын
KEN TALK I feel so much more settled since I put in this comment and took an active role in changing my situation. That helped. I was passively waiting for things to improve before.
@TiGGowich
@TiGGowich 3 жыл бұрын
that is the worst feeling. Totally agree. Everyone around me - and myself - are telling me all the things I already know, yet I cannot stop my brain from throwing these thoughts around. They are paralyzing and distracting. they make the underlying anxiety worse.
@janemargaretmceachin6398
@janemargaretmceachin6398 Жыл бұрын
THIS IS ME!! I'm 6 months into my job, and I constantly feel like not good enough, regardless of how hard i try
@Marcel-no9ps
@Marcel-no9ps Жыл бұрын
Sameee
@kimiyarahmani4322
@kimiyarahmani4322 4 жыл бұрын
This was exactly me... And honestly I'm just crying thinking will I ever be normal and ok...?
@bmkprod2240
@bmkprod2240 3 жыл бұрын
How are you finding work so far now?
@kimiyarahmani4322
@kimiyarahmani4322 3 жыл бұрын
@@bmkprod2240 Oh hi! Thanks for asking! I'm feeling so much better actually. It gradually got better, and now I'm confident and comfortable at my job. I realized that "the monsters turned out to be just trees" ( :)) ), and I was terrified for no reason! I'm so happy that those days are gone, and thank you again for making me come back to this comment and tell anyone who's reading: it always gets better!
@ArifMohammedAk
@ArifMohammedAk 3 жыл бұрын
@@kimiyarahmani4322 this gives me confidence to stick to my job!
@kimiyarahmani4322
@kimiyarahmani4322 3 жыл бұрын
@@ArifMohammedAk YEAH 👏🏻
@jokesonyou222
@jokesonyou222 3 жыл бұрын
@@kimiyarahmani4322 awe i love the way you said the monsters are just trees thank you this helps me a lot
@natashakalanda622
@natashakalanda622 3 жыл бұрын
This is ME December 2020 and pretty much since I was a kid. Been battling anxiety tied to my performance either at school or work. Started a new manager role, and I've never been this stressed. I'm so afraid this could somehow kill me coz of stress. But seeing all the comments tells me I am not alone. I pray for us all, that we are gonna be okay!
@diva8025
@diva8025 6 ай бұрын
Same boat. How did it go
@lindseywood1421
@lindseywood1421 2 жыл бұрын
These comments are my thoughts and feelings exactly! I just started a new job as a hospital pharmacy technician, and it’s so much to learn in such a short amount of time. You have to move quickly, but that’s so hard to do when you’re not sure of what you’re doing. You don’t want to make mistakes because people’s lives could be on the line. There’s also not much time to train you because everyone else is busy doing their own jobs. I’m stressed and overwhelmed to say the least. 😔
@Letsseewhereimat
@Letsseewhereimat 2 жыл бұрын
How's it going now ?
@saraamrani7043
@saraamrani7043 Жыл бұрын
You re definitely right when people are busy with their work and they don't have enough time to train you , it makes it mor difficult for you . i am in the same situation, how is it going with you now ?
@ria6271
@ria6271 Жыл бұрын
Same as me, just too fast paced in working environment and they dont have much time to train you dutifully. How are you doing now? I hope we can make it through
@cindyc6153
@cindyc6153 4 жыл бұрын
I’m starting a new job at 63, not by choice (Covid lay off). It’s a daunting task! You validated what I’m feeling!! Thank you for video 😊
@cathym7071
@cathym7071 3 жыл бұрын
I'm starting a new job on Monday, and I'm 63 too!
@ticiao
@ticiao 3 жыл бұрын
I’m 45 and I feel the same. 🙃
@GrizzlyUrsusArctos
@GrizzlyUrsusArctos 2 жыл бұрын
I quit my 20 year job and started new one age 62. I feel so overwhelmed and under appreciated. The girl training me has 3 years experience and treats me like I’m stupid plus she’s 30 years younger. I’m so stressed I’ve almost quit 3 times now. The training is terrible. Basically walking me through something once or twice without explaining variables then asking why I forgot. I feel like an outsider. It’s only a temp job til end of year but it’s almost too much.
@cheshire_skatkat9093
@cheshire_skatkat9093 2 жыл бұрын
I'm 41. I only been at my new job for 2 weeks and am ready to quit. We are still in classes and job training but I can't process or follow along with the training.
@makeupgirl8886
@makeupgirl8886 2 жыл бұрын
I'm 49, and I'm completely overwhelmed in my new job. I've been there 2 weeks, and I know I'm going to be asked to perform soon, but I am struggling with knowing what to do at all. I feel like I accepted a job outside my skillset, and I'm supposed to be a consultant and a Senior/expert. I keep wishing I hadn't taken the job. I want to run away because I'm scared to death. I feel like I'm going to throw up all the time or have a heart attack. I know God is in control, but I can't stop thinking that I'm going to be fired, and then what will happen to me? I'm single - no spouse to help with the burden. I beg Jesus & the Holy Spirit daily to give me wisdom to know what to do and the ability to do it. I beg for another idea/option if I made a mistake. My family is sick of hearing me talk about it. I know God can give me the strength and power to pull through, and I know that I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. I'm asking for that strength and wisdom daily.
@chrismacheras8714
@chrismacheras8714 5 жыл бұрын
Ok this is me. 110% me...ugh so happy I found this...
@erinMfoley
@erinMfoley 5 жыл бұрын
Hey Chris! I have some more videos that may be helpful here on my resources page- www.erinmfoley.com/iaminanewroleresources
@erinMfoley
@erinMfoley 4 жыл бұрын
So glad you tuned in Chris!
@meganmartians8372
@meganmartians8372 3 жыл бұрын
My job is overwhelming too. And my boss is on my ass every 5 seconds and im always late to work.
@chrismacheras8714
@chrismacheras8714 3 жыл бұрын
@@erinMfoley a year later and you really helped me. Ultimately that wasn’t the job for me and I’ve been in a new role for 6 months and your advice really helped me and now I’m comfortable and enjoying myself!
@johnleehancong
@johnleehancong Жыл бұрын
Yes this! I’ve just started a new job 4 days ago after being employed for close to 3 years in another place. Everyday I feel bad and empty and lost and down at work and I dread every morning. I feel like someday I’ll breakdown. Glad I’ve watch this and to know it’s normal to feel this way. Thanks for making this video!
@tasnim8186
@tasnim8186 Жыл бұрын
Hope things are improving at the new job! 🌻
@johnleehancong
@johnleehancong Жыл бұрын
@@tasnim8186 well it’s been more then a week, I think things are getting better! I am actually starting to do some work and it keeps my mind of negative thoughts!
@G.T.F.0
@G.T.F.0 3 жыл бұрын
what helps me is to think how these issues are nothing compared to what other people have to deal with like being on a battlefield or being a cop and having to deal with some real crazy shit or being a doctor and having to make life and death decisions...suddenly your problems seem small and insignificant compared to that, a piece of cake
@helenarichard
@helenarichard 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly! Sometimes I read that a lawyer forget to do a formality, and made his client lose the case for millions of dollars. Or a gynaecologist who didn't want to tell her patient she had cancer. Or a woman who does because the alarm central made a mistake. I am sooo glad it is not me and never will be.
@helenarichard
@helenarichard 2 жыл бұрын
Woman who dies
@lizziemiss945
@lizziemiss945 2 жыл бұрын
I was thinking this exact same thing today. I'd rather have office stress than having to stop someone to give them a ticket stress or getting killed in the line of duty stress.
@thesunris
@thesunris Жыл бұрын
This doesn't work when I work in the hospital 😭😭
@BloomsArchitect
@BloomsArchitect Жыл бұрын
I have never feared the job or the difficulty and learning curve of it. It's dealing with new people and having to quickly learn who is an ally and who is not. I am not a people pleaser, but I am also aware how important 1st impressions are. It sucks finding that balance.
@niiico2351
@niiico2351 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Erin. I started my first 9 - 5 office job a few weeks ago and as someone who is very anxious. It hasn't been easy. But this video is pretty much the embodiment of "we suffer more from imagination than from reality" thank you :)
@styledbyviivii7403
@styledbyviivii7403 2 жыл бұрын
I just started a new job a week ago and I’m currently still being trained. I’ve realised that during the course of the day I zone out and I’m not retaining all the information that’s being given to me. I feel as though I sometimes as for things to be repeated so much that it’s embarrassing. As I mentioned it has only been 1 week but I find myself questioning why I’m there. The passion that other colleagues have for the role I don’t have it and the pay is why I’m really doing it. I don’t know if it’s just a case of me changing my mindset or if this is a sign that the role isn’t for me
@AuthorJanaeMarie
@AuthorJanaeMarie 2 жыл бұрын
Hey Sista! I feel the exact same way with what I’m doing at the moment. I wonder did you stay with it? Or did you leave?
@purpleskies1
@purpleskies1 2 жыл бұрын
How are you doing now? I can relate.
@nhr27
@nhr27 2 жыл бұрын
Same. Two weeks in and it’s information overload. How are you now?
@paraluman6447
@paraluman6447 Жыл бұрын
Same thoughts and feelings. There's just TOO much info and work instruction that we have to learn, adjust and apply at the same time.
@victoriaa1889
@victoriaa1889 Жыл бұрын
Exactly the same thing happened to me, stay strong sister
@MNAZ480
@MNAZ480 4 жыл бұрын
This is literally me. No one I’ve talked to about this understands. You’ve listed everything I’m going through perfectly.
@erinMfoley
@erinMfoley 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for tuning in Mike! I hope things have eased for you!
@stephmcsteph4324
@stephmcsteph4324 Жыл бұрын
Had my first training session today at my new job and it was extremely busy. I got the hang of it after a while but it was still so overwhelming that I’ve been crying for hours since I got home. Doesn’t help that I have social anxiety and had to be around so many new co-workers today. But this video does help put things into perspective a little
@najwawatson55
@najwawatson55 7 ай бұрын
Sending you hugs!!! Hope all is better now ❤
@abhisheky9312
@abhisheky9312 2 жыл бұрын
God please give us strength
@amor4dior169
@amor4dior169 2 жыл бұрын
🙏 Amen
@xane1990
@xane1990 4 жыл бұрын
Anyone going through the same in 2020?
@khuzemakhalid6825
@khuzemakhalid6825 4 жыл бұрын
Me. It's killing me. I have no one
@tanairigonzalez9793
@tanairigonzalez9793 3 жыл бұрын
Me, having headaches everyday
@kreeostsphere7265
@kreeostsphere7265 3 жыл бұрын
actually me either but just recently
@DZJ0595
@DZJ0595 3 жыл бұрын
@@tanairigonzalez9793 the headaches 😩😩😩😩😩😩
@christinegreen3974
@christinegreen3974 3 жыл бұрын
Yes - hired in a virtual position that is not actually supposed to be virtual. Fum times.
@davidkeller9862
@davidkeller9862 5 жыл бұрын
In 2015 in quit a network support role after a year due to imposter syndrome. Thing is, the imposter syndrome isn't what caused me to fail. What caused me to fail was that I allowed the imposter syndrome to take over and made me believe I couldn't perform the job. Ultimately, I ended up showing up and watching KZfaq for 8 hours everyday until I quit. It took 3 years of delivering pizza until I recently found a help desk job (I'm 27), and I'm giving this career thing another shot. Been there 3 weeks so far, and it's been difficult. The imposter syndrome has even resurfaced! But this time...I will not allow the imposter syndrome to bring me down.
@idrathernotsay6016
@idrathernotsay6016 5 жыл бұрын
Hang in there with all your might! I'm struggling too with my job. I don't think my boss likes me which makes me very nervous and I can't focus when he is around me.
@davidkeller9862
@davidkeller9862 5 жыл бұрын
@@idrathernotsay6016 My main boss is pretty cool so far, but when his boss is in the office, I have the same problem. Embarrassing yourself is one thing, but embarrassing myself in front of higher ups is not fun at all. Thank you for the words of encouragement. In response, I'll say..anything that takes time and effort will be worth it in the long run. What's the alternative? Give up and work minimum wage?
@idrathernotsay6016
@idrathernotsay6016 5 жыл бұрын
@@davidkeller9862 Exactly. I know that this is an opportunity of a lifetime. And I am 51 years old so I have worked hard to get this position. I come from a family I am the only one that graduated high school out of 6 kids. We were all in foster homes by the age of 11. And I was raped by my foster dad repeatedly. But, I have never given up and now I just need to show up on time at my work and try to do my best. 😰
@lena9724
@lena9724 Жыл бұрын
Commenting 3 years later, I’m currently a network engineer and I absolutely know how you feel. I feel it every single day. I want to change my career and move out of tech. Don’t know my careers decision though..
@hanoi97
@hanoi97 11 ай бұрын
I feel so overwhelmed. I never had so much doubt in my ability, as right now I feel so shit though :(
@ASMRconKiki
@ASMRconKiki 2 жыл бұрын
It felt like you were describing my day, tthought process and feelings. I just started a new job after my previous company laid off the entire division. It was very painful to let go of the previous job and the new one feels so foreign and scary. It really helped to listen to these comforting words.
@oneartsychick1
@oneartsychick1 2 күн бұрын
I just got my first job at a bio genetics lab. I am “the new guy” and I’m making little mistakes here and there every day. To my credit, they are all new kinds of mistakes, because I feel like a baby in such a new environment. I’m 35, I’m not a new worker, just new to the field in a real life application. Everything is new to me, it’s like I can’t tell a spoon from a fork sometimes (sampler vial tube, auto sampler tube, microcentrifuge tube with or without filter… 😢). It’s so much to learn and every step is so critical and precise… it’s so overwhelming. I started to make little mistakes like fully filling out details on the worksheet, or using the wrong kind of pipette style for certain liquids… And today, the gasket of the microcentrifuge imploded when I set it off. Thankfully it is not a difficult part to attain, but we are down one small centrifuge for a bit. I am definitely on my boss’ sh*t list today. I can only hope that the work I did today reads well tomorrow morning. I literally just shed some tears over this video. #Impostorsyndrome indeed…
@calicoc1335
@calicoc1335 Жыл бұрын
So glad for all these comments. It's nice to know I'm not alone
@disneyplannerlisa
@disneyplannerlisa 3 жыл бұрын
Wow here I am on a Sunday night just dreading another week and all of the anxiety that comes with it....this video is everything I am going through! You have a new subscriber for sure!
@JacindaNeal
@JacindaNeal 5 жыл бұрын
Started a new job on Tuesday. This is a huge promotion for me. A lot of high expectations. I feel like I’m overwhelmed and I’m afraid of failing. I know that it’s a new position and I need to learn. So I’m dedicated to making myself the best in my industry. I just need to breath and get out my own head. Going to relax this weekend.
@joanapisan5433
@joanapisan5433 4 жыл бұрын
Hi.. I'm in the same situation as yours, but I noticed this response is a year ago so I'm just wondering what happened to you now? Did u manage to overcome those anxiety and if you meet the expectation?
@JacindaNeal
@JacindaNeal 4 жыл бұрын
Jj Filipina Hello! Yes I did overcome my anxiety, I’m still in the same position and had a good first year! I’ve actually been recruited for even higher positions from some competitors. I forget I even wrote this comment. Wow a year later and I can’t even believe I had all this anxiety in the beginning LOL. My advice is to not over think it. Become a subject expert in your field and always be willing to learn. You will do just fine! Now my goals are even better for this year and going forward!
@ahmootharamachandran1882
@ahmootharamachandran1882 2 жыл бұрын
@@JacindaNeal this is so encouraging to hear!!All the best.
@zoeng9026
@zoeng9026 Жыл бұрын
Thank you. This gives me hope. I am really suffering from imposter syndrome after being at my previous job for close to 3 years, this switch felt super overwhelming to me. I went from private to public sector and it’s a whole different world for me. I can’t help but feel like I should know more than I already do. I’m one week in and still feel like I should be doing more already. Not sure why but I feel sad thinking about it.
@alicesullivan001
@alicesullivan001 Жыл бұрын
Everything you said is what I'm dealing with. Started a new job a month ago and every day I feel overwhelmed. I'm crying every day and I think Im being so silly. I got so much to learn and it's like why am I trying to learn it all at once? I dread going in every day and I don't want to be like it but my feelings just overcome me and I was crying on the front desk yesterday. Having no training doesn't help and I'm always left on my own .I've always been confident so I don't know what's happened. I've got a fear of people I want to just stay at home. But your video was really informative so thank you ❤
@cindyl760
@cindyl760 6 ай бұрын
Currently going through this right now . HELP!
@alicesullivan001
@alicesullivan001 6 ай бұрын
@@cindyl760 I left in the end I was getting to bad hope you're ok . It's awful
@Ellenloouise
@Ellenloouise 16 күн бұрын
I have just qualified as a nurse and start my dream job in two months. This time off inbetween a busy uni schedule to starting work has allowed my imposter syndrome to flourish. It’s so severe I’ve considered quitting nursing before I’ve started. Thank you for this video
@makeupgirl8886
@makeupgirl8886 2 жыл бұрын
I'm 49, and I'm completely overwhelmed in my new job. I've been there 2 weeks, and I know I'm going to be asked to perform soon, but I am struggling with knowing what to do at all. I feel like I accepted a job outside my skillset, and I'm supposed to be a consultant and a Senior/expert. I keep wishing I hadn't taken the job. I want to run away because I'm scared to death. I feel like I'm going to throw up all the time or have a heart attack. I know God is in control, but I can't stop thinking that I'm going to be fired, and then what will happen to me? I'm single - no spouse to help with the burden. I beg Jesus & the Holy Spirit daily to give me wisdom to know what to do and the ability to do it. I beg for another idea/option if I made a mistake. My family (mom/sister) is sick of hearing me talk about it. I know God can give me the strength and power to pull through, and I know that I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. I'm asking for that strength and wisdom daily.
@hayateaxel5380
@hayateaxel5380 Жыл бұрын
Hey how are you doing now? Is it all better now?
@CheriseW-yt6gx
@CheriseW-yt6gx Жыл бұрын
I hope all is well. I'm experiencing the same thing.
@ParasBorgohain
@ParasBorgohain 2 жыл бұрын
I know this, and it can feel so overwhelming, your body starts to hurt in ways you try not to remember!
@madhurimabanerjee2635
@madhurimabanerjee2635 2 ай бұрын
This is my 1st day of 3rd week at my job. My boss said that my trainer have no good feedback for me as i am taking too much time to learn and do one client's task. From the beginning I always felt like i am gonna throw up during my work hours because of my anxiety. And now my boss's feedback will work like a cherry on a cake. I feel like switch off the laptop and go for a nap for 2 week straight. I fear about getting fired. This fear is devouring me from inside.
@robevans4032
@robevans4032 6 ай бұрын
Wow, I've only just come across this video and it marched me 100% I feel better already that what I'm experiencing I'm not alone. Being ambitious and string in a lot of ways can also be your nemesis I think. Thank you for putting this video together in a clear understanding way
@rozahreddine7585
@rozahreddine7585 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. I am a bit of a perfectionist when it comes to my professional relations and I've been feeling entirely out of my element. I really needed to hear this!
@Hestereliz
@Hestereliz 2 жыл бұрын
I cant tell you how helpful this video is. It’s as if you’re speaking directly to my situation! I’ve been a mess since starting a new job last month and this helps so much. Thank you!
@kareemahh
@kareemahh 2 жыл бұрын
Literally me right now
@amylewis4510
@amylewis4510 Жыл бұрын
This is definitely me at the moment! Changing career path completely, feeling pressure to learn new information and skills. I am very hard on myself and self confidence!
@Sabinalucky
@Sabinalucky Жыл бұрын
I am the same! Thank u for ur experience. It is so helpful.🙏🏻🙏🏻good luck to both of us🙏🏻😘big hugs from Russia 🇷🇺😘😘😘
@desirearaumaker1810
@desirearaumaker1810 5 жыл бұрын
I started a new job a month and a half ago it is something completely new to me. I have been struggling with is this job a fit for me and did I make the right choice
@erinMfoley
@erinMfoley 5 жыл бұрын
Hi desirea! I have some more resources that might help and a coaching program for this .www.erinmfoley.com/iaminanewroleresources
@potatoships9379
@potatoships9379 4 жыл бұрын
How does it feel now?
@SongofaBeach2012
@SongofaBeach2012 4 ай бұрын
This is exactly how I feel! Im 3 1/2 months in to my new job and Im so overwhelmed I am about to give it 3 more months to save money and just bounce. I am a little more familiar with my duties its just the amount of work we are given and expected to complete each day thats outrageous. Couple that with the fact that we also act as an inbound call center and I have calls every 5 minutes that have nothing to do with my specific caseload I need to complete and it just wrecks my flow. Even if everything finally clicks and I can work at the speed that's expected I still dont think I'll be able to keep up with the constant influx of calls. I also act as a biller-- something that wasn't divulged during my initial interview. So Yes I am overwhelmed, but I see that as my mind and body telling me this just isnt a good or healthy fit. I'm listening to what ny gut and instincts are telling me and have begun applying to other jobs.
@liltimi
@liltimi 9 ай бұрын
Just started my new job working in a hotel... you have to do literally everything: cook, clean, make coffees, be a waiter, clean the jacuzzi's, be a receptionist, weird booking system, talk in different languages, the Italians are complaining about cold water, print the bills, so many keys, excel, count the money, know the prices... like wtf I feel stupid I kinda wanna quit on day 3. I took the job just cuz it's a 2 min drive from home😅
@emmajuday
@emmajuday 3 жыл бұрын
I just graduated college and am now going into a supervisor role, this video was so so so helpful, thank you!
@veronicalynn1493
@veronicalynn1493 2 жыл бұрын
Wow.. I feel so seen. Started a new job this week (my first job out of grad school), and I’m having terrible anxiety and panic attacks when I get home everyday. I’m questioning my entire career choice and it’s terrifying
@Tina805647293
@Tina805647293 2 жыл бұрын
Me too
@xbrendax82
@xbrendax82 Жыл бұрын
Hi all! Im leaving my job after almost 11 years because im bored, not challenged and want better benefits with opportunity to advance. I went in to my new job this weekend to train with lady im replacing. I felt good and confident in the beginning but as day went on i felt soooo overwhelmed, so much information and lots of deadlines and babysitting other coworkers. I started to question myself. Im leaving a good job, i love my job just wanted more. The feeling of going to a job where you are not an expert is so scary. My official start date is next week and i told myself i can do this, i wanted something new and here it is. I cant be scared. The new job needs me. But i definitely have jitters of not being perfect.
@cheyenneabba9315
@cheyenneabba9315 4 ай бұрын
Your situation matches mine to a T. How are you doing now? Hoping for a happy ending here.
@sreeanilkumar3333
@sreeanilkumar3333 4 жыл бұрын
This is my present condition.I changed job.I was an expert in my old job and I feel like this.Exactly what I am going through.
@erinMfoley
@erinMfoley 4 жыл бұрын
sreedavi pottekkat glad you found my video!
@kenchan9026
@kenchan9026 3 жыл бұрын
This is me right now
@karthickdevarajan2102
@karthickdevarajan2102 3 жыл бұрын
@@kenchan9026 How are you feeling now Ken :)
@kenchan9026
@kenchan9026 3 жыл бұрын
@@karthickdevarajan2102 eh slightly better. Riding out the year. I can do the work but have no interest in the subject matter.
@karthickdevarajan2102
@karthickdevarajan2102 3 жыл бұрын
@@kenchan9026 Thanks for your reply. Hang in there and keep looking out. The world is full of opportunities. Wish you good luck buddy :)
@thandekamentoor8706
@thandekamentoor8706 5 жыл бұрын
This is currently me right now 😢 i feel totally stupid and incompetent. Im freaking out...i have been working at this company for a month and i cant afford to fail because this job will put me on the map in career. So many questions...OMW🙆‍♂️
@mrsmdub259
@mrsmdub259 5 жыл бұрын
Thandeka Mentoor me too I just started a new career in insurance on Monday. I have no idea what I’m doing and I feel like I’m freaking out. Everything they are teaching me, plus going to school to pass my license is too much in my brain right now! 😩😩
@thandekamentoor8706
@thandekamentoor8706 5 жыл бұрын
@@mrsmdub259 im told i need to give myself 6 months and i will be fine. 6 months is a long time...OMG🙆‍♂️ Whats worse is my colleage feels threatened by me and shes sabotaging me to work me out. I need to grow a thick skin for her cz i cant afford to loose this job. Its a biggie for me right now. Its so hard,im mentally exhausted cz of overthinking. These videos help console me to get some strength .
@erinMfoley
@erinMfoley 5 жыл бұрын
@@thandekamentoor8706 Hey Thandeka! I am sorry to hear you are struggling. Def check out my other videos. I have one on dealing with a co-worker. When we are feeling insecure about our competencies it can heighten everything else. The key is getting more secure in your job, allowing yourself time to learn, and easing any reactions to your co-worker.
@layla5312
@layla5312 4 жыл бұрын
Thandeka Mentoor hey, how are you doing now? Hope youre ok xx
@Emily-us4gq
@Emily-us4gq 3 жыл бұрын
@Thankdeka Mentoor how did it all work out? its been a year now I'm reading your comment :)
@kishageorge7788
@kishageorge7788 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Erin, You’re like a mind reader. I usually work in a dentist as an assistant/administrator. I’ve moved to a fully private clinic in London and I feel soo overwhelmed Ive only been there for 2 days. I’m putting soo much pressure on myself to learn everything. I feel like I’m a snail because I feel like I should already know these things. And the worst part of it the lady training me doesn’t speak fully English and she doesn’t really help me to understand the workplace task. So I feel its slowing down my progress. I feel really lost, I was thinking maybe I’m incompetent. But after watching your video. I realised I need to give me self time to grasp everything bit by bit.
@kreeostsphere7265
@kreeostsphere7265 3 жыл бұрын
so happy to bump into this, was having anxiety problems with my current situation at work
@artactually5318
@artactually5318 5 жыл бұрын
Oh. My. Goodness. I felt like you were talking directly to me!!!! Thank you!
@fabiandouglas3982
@fabiandouglas3982 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video! And the people in this chat.. YOU ARE AMAZING! And YOUR words helped me feel better 💚
@dejastarz9816
@dejastarz9816 3 жыл бұрын
Thank You! You have lifted my spirits. I started a new job and overwhelmed.
@ronyalemerrill
@ronyalemerrill 2 жыл бұрын
So overwhelmed! Glad I found you! I could just cry!!!
@eliamartinez9141
@eliamartinez9141 3 жыл бұрын
Oh my Goddess!!!!🥺. This is exactly how I am feeling right now. I read all the comments and its like everyone is talking about me. I need some advice anyone, please help me break free from this feeling!!!😢
@MeetTheGays
@MeetTheGays 3 жыл бұрын
This is me. I’m so unsure about my choices. But it’s a great job great pay, and love the job and opportunity. But I’m so overwhelmed and so sick to my stomach somedays. I pray each night for god to give me the strength to continue.
@nehamehta789
@nehamehta789 3 жыл бұрын
I under your situation and I’m going through the same right now.. I hope things get better soon
@joshuaadao4087
@joshuaadao4087 2 жыл бұрын
This is me now. I just started on my very first job a week ago. My heart is always pounding too fast whenever I'm about to come to work. I know I have a trainer. I know that my trainer is already feeling pissed on me. I think I'm a very slow learner. I'm hoping to be better in the next coming days.
@jmm7992
@jmm7992 3 жыл бұрын
You are literally saving me right now. Thank you
@eleonawr
@eleonawr 6 ай бұрын
Besides everything else you mentioned in the video, I also link my performance to my worth. I just started a new job and I really want to excel because I don't want them to regret hiring me or to think that I'm not worth the salary :(
@atomicflamethrower
@atomicflamethrower 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for taking the time to post this. I am going through this right now
@erinMfoley
@erinMfoley 4 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome Mason! I know you posted this a few months ago so I hope things have eased for you since then!
@tiewjiahui
@tiewjiahui 12 күн бұрын
Thank you for this, it helped put things into perspective 😭
@PhenixJoe
@PhenixJoe Жыл бұрын
I have never felt so seen. This is exactly what I needed. Thank you!!
@stasia9904
@stasia9904 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this and for your resource 🙏
@mrsmdub259
@mrsmdub259 3 жыл бұрын
Every word is exactly what I am going through! Changed careers completely in May 2019. Then 10 months later as I am still learning this new job, we’re quarantined at home for the past 9 months making this career transition sooooo difficult to do while you’re all by yourself. I pray every day for confidence, but half the time I’m still so unsure if I’m the right fit.
@drinkmewonder7536
@drinkmewonder7536 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. I found it after searching KZfaq for support videos after having a horrible day at my new job; same company, different role. I was so eager to get this job but I’m about 3 weeks into it now and after making another mistake where higher management got involved, I feel like I just can’t do this. I expect to be let go, fired for making too many mistakes. I worry what others in the team think of me, if they see me as stupid, annoying, reckless. I am preoccupied that they’ll see me as a bad person and want me gone. I know it’s probably not the truth (my own skewed thoughts) but the dizziness and shaking sensation of dread is hard to combat. Your words have been a helpful reminder that . Thank you.
@AmandeepSinghSaini
@AmandeepSinghSaini 2 жыл бұрын
Hey! Could you provide a update to your situation?
@letmein_5959
@letmein_5959 3 жыл бұрын
Well glad I’m not the only one
@frankzandi4480
@frankzandi4480 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly my feelings at my current job. At least I am glad that others can feel similarly. Very informative and well explained. Thanks 😊
@nataliadosreis10
@nataliadosreis10 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video!!
@95gmn
@95gmn 2 жыл бұрын
This is the best video I've watched in regards to my situation.
@lorlast5204
@lorlast5204 4 жыл бұрын
i can relate to what your saying and it is affecting my well being.. you are right on the dot about what you said.. kind of want to cry because i feel so helpless.. i want it to stop.
@erinMfoley
@erinMfoley 4 жыл бұрын
Lor--I hope the video helped you feel less helpless. I know it's been a bit since you posted this comment so I hope things have improved for you.
@destinyemcgill4621
@destinyemcgill4621 2 жыл бұрын
This video was right on time. Thank you
@maianhh3971
@maianhh3971 3 жыл бұрын
thank you so much. like really. i have never commented on videos but im kinda in a very bad state right now. i've just got a new job and though everyone said that these kinds of jobs are easy and worthless but i have experienced quite an amount of struggle in dealing with my new job and learn and adapt, etc. And i really dont have enough confidence to speak out or find advice from my friends or family so this video does mean a lot to me right now. thank you.
@LisaArmstrong14
@LisaArmstrong14 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much,this is just what I needed.I was promoted & have been struggling with lots of emotions.Omg often times feeling like maybe the position isn’t for me.I show up to work ,but often dreading it.Even a little anxiety.This change has definitely been a struggle
@Cracktune
@Cracktune 2 жыл бұрын
thank you for the video. Have been successful at everything ive transitioned to but now am in a whole different sector but still have my experience to fall back on and was starting to let this kind of thinking creep in... Thing is their systems are antiquated, patch worked, and legacy adopted without proper implementation. Thats WHY I AM HERE. so time in the saddle and brute force is the only way to get on top of this, THEN I can begin to change the over all culture that I was brought here to implement. Thank you for this reminder.
@LB-rh2og
@LB-rh2og 5 ай бұрын
Erin. I want to thank you so much that you've taken the time and effort to help all these people, including me, with their anxiety, stress and feeling of being overwhelmed. I've had a horrible feeling these past few days in a new position I've started where everybody has high graduations and I only have work experience, I feel intimidated and I feel smaller and insecure. Little things I think could have gone better blow up disproportionally in my head and give me stomach aches, but thanks to your words and insights I've found some clarity and calmness again. I'm gonna try and take this good feeling to work and hope I can think and act in a more confident way. Thank you again! Your podcast is also great ❤
@erinMfoley
@erinMfoley 5 ай бұрын
You are so welcome!
@auraromero4811
@auraromero4811 2 жыл бұрын
God bless you. This is literally how I've been feeling these last weeks at my new job. I love my new company, my new role, my new teammates. Im just terrified to mess it all up. This is definitely helpful. Thank you!!
@yolandahmotlhankana8217
@yolandahmotlhankana8217 2 жыл бұрын
11 days into my job, in my dream company, and I fear failing so much, making mistakes. I work with money so the fear if even greater, my mistakes could directly impact company revenue. I've always been confident in my abilies, always have a learning strategy but this time... the anxiety is too great. I'm definitely going to stay at it, learn at my pace... have to come up with a better learning plan
@jims1114
@jims1114 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah I’m struggling a fair bit.. I started my new job today and it’s a job I’ve wanted for a while now but I’m not sure how I’m feeling. I don’t know if I’m just overwhelmed or something but as soon as I finished and I got home I just felt lonely, empty and sad, if that makes any sense. I’m hard on myself because I do know deep down that things just take time and you need to learn the process but I can’t tell myself that and actually believe it. I feel like being sick a lot too which is affecting my mood. I struggle with the fact I don’t know what I’m doing on daily or that I don’t know my way around, the correct way of doing things or even knowing my colleagues. I’m stressing about tomorrow but I know I’m just gonna have to ride it out
@Nikki.L.L
@Nikki.L.L 2 жыл бұрын
I totally relate. I had this job i’ve been wanting for a while and now i have finally gotten it, i feel so so overwhelmed and i start to question was the change really right for me.
@jims1114
@jims1114 2 жыл бұрын
@@Nikki.L.L I’m nearly one month in and it’s going well. Look sometimes it’s going to feel hard and no matter what anyone says it’s genuinely hard to just carry on but all I can say is give it a go. All You can do is try just don’t be hard on yourself because it’s your life at the end of the day. Do what feels right for you :)
@socalfaithfuls4020
@socalfaithfuls4020 2 жыл бұрын
@@jims1114 I hope all is well with you
@AaronHernandez-xv4qh
@AaronHernandez-xv4qh 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you, I needed this. Been very stressed with the new position and going crazy .
@johnrainsman6650
@johnrainsman6650 2 күн бұрын
My colleague (a catering manager) and I (the chef) were overwhelmed at this service. It was just us two, as no caterer from work could help us. A couple were out of town, a few were preoccupied with personal stuff, and the rest had other shifts to work. There was one particular guy we thought we could count on, but no. It was a TIRING night for me and my colleague, and you know what? We deserved it. Turns out, the said caterer chose to not help us, because we were too hard on him for some mistakes he made. And I'd say he was right.
@khadijanidrahou9248
@khadijanidrahou9248 3 жыл бұрын
It is really as if you are telling all the ideas that really clash in mind at that moment when I freak out inside When I am stress . And sometimes I never think of those things until I am in that situations and sometimes I do not know what I feel in that moment . It is relieving knowing someone understands because everyone says I do not understand you at all you are unreasonable. So, Thank you !
@Blah-blah-blah79
@Blah-blah-blah79 5 ай бұрын
This is me right now..... Confidence is so low, this video is spot on as to how im feeling right now
@ghostdeal.7292
@ghostdeal.7292 3 жыл бұрын
I'm so late but i feel so grateful to have found this video. you helped me understanding what I'm feeling right now and how should I make up my mind
@valerieh5400
@valerieh5400 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this video. It is helping me.
@jasminkovanen4083
@jasminkovanen4083 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! This helped me a lot 💚
@jrccandleco7939
@jrccandleco7939 2 жыл бұрын
Many many good points!!!! Exactly what I’m dealing with now.
@r.mhaych5021
@r.mhaych5021 3 жыл бұрын
I’m starting my new career in real estate tomorrow coming from 10 years in construction, I’ve been over thinking all week and it made my last week go so fast and I didn’t make the most of it because of my over thinking which sucked it is now Sunday night 9:24 and I start work in 12 hours ! I’m excited, nervous, anxious, overwhelmed, homesick already (had a one year lay off to do the career change), don’t know what to expect, scared of failure, scared of the unknown, scared of just being alive in that moment I guess. Anyway to anyone reading this right now, I’ll be going through it like you and we can do it together in spirit. God is with us all and his paved a path for our life way before we were even born, so you and I going to this new job tomorrow was a blessing granted by him, he will not put you somewhere where you don’t belong you just have to be comfortable with the uncomfortable. Love you all and stay true, stay you.
@jms0313
@jms0313 2 жыл бұрын
I just switched to construction from financial services
@r.mhaych5021
@r.mhaych5021 2 жыл бұрын
@@jms0313 unfortunately it didn’t work out for me because of the lockdown but oh well, on to the next thing ! It was good at the start then the lockdowns here in Melbourne just killed all of my momentum
@kingpuppet5881
@kingpuppet5881 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so so much for this video. I literally felt like you were describing me whilst giving your talk. I just started my new role last Monday and I feel like so terrified an overwhelmed. So the story, if anyone wants to read and give advice. Advice would be very welcome ♥. I am a registered Nurse from the UK. I have been working as a Critical care Nurse for 10 years and I was very good at what I did. Obviously in any healthcare profession there's always something new to learn. I just took the rough with the smooth in that regard. So 10 plus years and I am senior RN. I decided that I had to climb the ladder so to speak. Fortunately I was successful in obtaining a band 6 Nurse management role as an Infection Prevention Control Nurse. I was a band 5 previously, like most degree trained nurses. So I have just completed my first week in my new role. It is absolutely alien to me, which I expected. But holy shit! I honestly didn't realise how specialised and complex my new role is, alongside all the environmental changes. For one I have always been very hands on in the front line in the clinical field, working with patients, doing complex tasks etc. I am now sitting at my own desk, with my own phone and work mobile! It feels wrong, like I should be looking after patients. So my mentor is lovely and has helped me settle in, however underneath it all I am a nervous wreck and feel like a complete imposter. In the first week it was " easy" as they all put it. I had to get my Microsoft account up and running, network and attend video meetings lasting 2 hours, which I had no clue what everyone was talking about! My team are quite small. They seem nice but are much older than me. I worry I won't fit in because I am the fun, quirky person. My previous team loved this about me, it was a bigger team also. I am scared to speak and be myself. Also I am gay, not that it's an issue. I just worry about being judged. Everyone seems so incredibly knowledgable! I have expressed this to my mentor. She has reassured me that I am on track in my first week and that it will be 9 months before I will be able to practice on my own! yes 9 months! That's how specialised this new job is. I will also be required to do a masters degree next September and work full time. I am not worried about that though, it will be interesting. Just now they are emphasising the importance of me reading all the infection control policies, know them well and know all about antibiotic resistant bacteria (GRAMS) I am a visual learner and reading these thousands of pages literally pains me, not to mention staring at a computer screen all day, having to learn 10 new computer systems, and these are the very basics! I cried at the end of my first week I my car, thinking " I have made a mistake!" I took your advice in your video and told myself that I can do this! I know I can. I am just so out of my comfort zone! It's nursing but non clinical. My competencies are so vast that I am actually thinking about all I need to learn and do when I have been coming home etc. I am worrying way too much. I feel like a total imposter. I am sorry for sounding poor me. I don't mean to come across this way. I just haven't felt this level of work related anxiety ever! All I can do is just keep trying and communicate my concerns as I learn. I just pray I learn! I mean I literally had to ask how to compose an email on my first day as I am so used to apple and not windows. I felt like a complete buffoon lol. HELP!
@robienillosistoso628
@robienillosistoso628 Жыл бұрын
Congratulations on your new job and sharing your story! Be true to yourself, we all embrace diversity, whatever race and gender. That's the amazing part to being genuine and I'm saying this because one of my bestie is gay and she is a Nurse too! Keep on growing and just be YOU!
@misslari24
@misslari24 2 жыл бұрын
Wow. I wish this video had existed 15 years ago when I first entered the workforce. This has always been a huge problem for me, causing anxiety in every job I've ever had. I will definitely save this video to watch again and again.
@themaverick8648
@themaverick8648 Жыл бұрын
2 months in the new firm and i still have this feeling of overwhelmed. In tech, Reality is, you are given some ppt or video to go thru, people usually don’t like to connect and discuss (because they have enough of their own problems) and no body actually cares if you come upto speed or not. After few days all of sudden you will be given some task and your manager will tell you how critical and time bound activity is. They will go ahead and also say, we wanted niche skills which you have for this assignment only. At the end, You will have to dance on the stage even if the steps are wrong.
@alancohen1935
@alancohen1935 2 жыл бұрын
This had some good points. But to be honest I was disappointed it didn't have more for those of us who may not have imposter syndrome and think it would be better if it did. I'm not dismissing imposter syndrome at all, but think there are many of us who feel overwhelmed at a new job (I just started one today) even if they don't have imposter syndrome -- so some further comments or insights for the rest of us would be helpful and appreciated, too, just on "overwhelm" in relation to a new job.
@ayonnazglam9050
@ayonnazglam9050 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video!!
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