why you can’t stop doing things you hate

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Kenny Bender

Kenny Bender

12 күн бұрын

The reason you binge bad habits, and the 5 steps to fix it.
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In self improvement, we often fall back into bad habits. But if we want to be successful and reach financial success, attract girls, and live a better life, we need to learn how to stop bad habits like nofap, junk food, smoking, drinking, etc. I teach how to stop binging and how to reprogram your subconscious mind.

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@pablo_1396
@pablo_1396 8 күн бұрын
“Those thoughts aren’t you” What an excellent way to see it, this right here is a good video.
@KeefeCarpenter
@KeefeCarpenter 11 күн бұрын
“Do the thing” - Alex Hormozi
@RalertXRalert
@RalertXRalert 11 күн бұрын
can you explain it ?
@kenny.bender
@kenny.bender 11 күн бұрын
is this case the thing is not doing the thing 💀
@JaylanCarpon
@JaylanCarpon 10 күн бұрын
I was thinking to myself. I wanna comment on this video but I’m watching on the TV and I can’t comment on there. And then I scrolled up on the tv to see comments and saw this comment. And well, I did the thing. Sometimes we just procrastinate so often. If we just get it done, it’s done. This quote can relate with many things in life. “Do the the thing” - Alex Hormozi
@JDVE_
@JDVE_ 8 күн бұрын
What thing, thing?
@user-vg6rh7lw8i
@user-vg6rh7lw8i 5 күн бұрын
" Don't do the thing. " - A very wise person
@JaylanCarpon
@JaylanCarpon 10 күн бұрын
I wrote down your entire video on paper. Thank you, you took the parasitic fallacy from the human brain and put it flat out on a table. Here’s what I Wrote: 5 stores to escape the binge fallacy and break the cycle Step 1. Acknowledgement- It happened, what lead me there, why I don’t want it to happen again. Why was I going without the bad thing in the first place? (Allows big picture idea). How does this tie in to the true core goal, my “why”, my purpose that I am working towards. Most likely will still get the urge to do at some point. Step 2. Observe The Urge- observing it from a mindful perspective, using the skill of medi-cognition (meditation) to observe this appearance in my mind and consciousness but not identifying with it. In reality it’s not really me, it’s a signal from my brain trying to convince me that it’s me, so it propels me into doing the thing that gives it good chemical release. Step 3. Put Up Bumpers- Of taking a certain route allows me to binge, take a different route. If using electronics in bed creates the urge for bad bingeing, don’t allow electronics in my room. If going out late at night causes me to do bad activities, stop staying up so late. Identify where most commonly I get any of these urges and these triggers and put bumpers around those gutters so I don’t fall into them. Step 4. Engage In Positive Self Talk- Even after the bad thing, think about all of the negative emotions: “Oh wow that’s why I’m quitting this thing, that thing sure is bad, I’m really glad that I’m making progress and breaking free from this thing. I’m not actually the type of person to do this thing, it was a mistake, I’m gonna put up bumpers, I’m gonna make all of these changes that Kenny told me to do and I’m gonna move forward.” Step 5. Step Back Into The Higher Self- (ASAP) You become the ideal version of yourself, and then you get all the good things. You do need to work on the higher version of yourself. I can step right back into the higher version of myself in a short span of time, even right after that bad thing happens. Even if it feels forced, engage in some positive self talk. Get right back on track in what would the higher version of me do in this moment. When you are killing the past negative self subconscious programming, the mind, the past self is gonna say and do anything it can to save it’s life because it’s dying. If I was dying I would give it my all before I die. One of the biggest factors in my self conscious programming is the identity. And that’s it, thank you so much for turning my life around.
@thandokhumalo1726
@thandokhumalo1726 8 күн бұрын
It's great that you write it down but remember that can feel like you're doing the thing even when it's not remember to do the thing 🤝
@YouNPCs
@YouNPCs 10 күн бұрын
this guys is so fking slept on
@_mohit_s_
@_mohit_s_ 11 күн бұрын
CONTROLING THE MIND, REGAINING CONCIOUSNESS, NOT FLOWING WITH THE THOUGHTS IS THE KEY - we keep looking for answers outside but the reality is all the answers lies within us only, - we just keep ignoring to introspect ourselves because we keep escaping the reality(too harsh to face) through cheap sedations like fast food, porn, social media, - now here comes the benefits of meditation which let us hold our thoughts, we slowly gain control over them, it's like muscle, gets better with practice
@TheJaviferrol
@TheJaviferrol 2 күн бұрын
Watched this on Monday and along with therapy it motivated me like hell: for the past days ive beaten procrastination and started building a normal routine at home a and delaying rewards/dopamine. It feels so good to know you achieved your daily goals, no matter how run at the mill they look. And start building up from there
@Misthegoatdamn
@Misthegoatdamn 11 күн бұрын
Man I can just feel the urges coming back and then kenny uploads to give a mentality reminder 😂 love it man
@AlphaLynx_RL
@AlphaLynx_RL 11 күн бұрын
bro I kept on relapsing until you told me the idea of the current self and ideal self. thank you so much for changing my life
@antoinetabet4150
@antoinetabet4150 11 күн бұрын
You changed my life
@AliAbrahem
@AliAbrahem 8 күн бұрын
Never delete this video bro. Very well portrayed and for that I am grateful🙏🏽
@user-md1po9op4o
@user-md1po9op4o 11 күн бұрын
the judy hopps joke got me lmaoooo
@kenny.bender
@kenny.bender 10 күн бұрын
joke?
@JaylanCarpon
@JaylanCarpon 8 күн бұрын
@@kenny.bender Right? Everybody knows it’s a gyatt.- I mean fact.
@user-qz4ll2qd7m
@user-qz4ll2qd7m 10 күн бұрын
I'm more than grateful knowing you believe in Christ. I've watched your videos, and they made considerable impact to my life. By God's grace, I'm off 6 months from "Doing the thing" I applied your meditations but I supplemented it with prayers, and daily devotions. I'm still struggling from bad thoughts, but I just persist on accepting my sinfulness and keep heading on the fight for the better. Keep it bro, God bless.
@tallgirlspamzyt
@tallgirlspamzyt 10 күн бұрын
this is amazing, perfect timing from the algorithm. thx g
@lemonjam7317
@lemonjam7317 9 күн бұрын
absolutely great video, thank you so much for the help!
@ryaneaton4359
@ryaneaton4359 5 күн бұрын
videos keep getting better and better Kenny, , keep at it
@antoinetabet4150
@antoinetabet4150 11 күн бұрын
Love your videos man
@Bettereveryday42
@Bettereveryday42 8 күн бұрын
It’s all in our hands, we have the control. Great vid !
@zonneP
@zonneP 9 күн бұрын
Your videos are super helpful thank you. On numerous occasions I have wasted a whole day away because of one fuck-up or one thing that went wrong. This usually led to a series of days where all the good habits I’ve built up disappear and I’m back at square one with an added baggage of negative self-talk. I’ll start implementing your advice.
@asliceofalan
@asliceofalan 6 күн бұрын
Needed this. Thank you bro, you rock
@meharr.
@meharr. 8 күн бұрын
thanks man, i hope i never have to see a video on how to cure an addiction in my life ever again. love your channel :)
@snehajs7943
@snehajs7943 8 күн бұрын
I appreciate your videos. I have read many books and watched many videos on this topic. Your video is so relatable and realistic.
@user-kh6wz9cm8i
@user-kh6wz9cm8i 8 күн бұрын
wowwww amazing dude , thank you so muchhh pallllllll , appriciate it
@WXYZara
@WXYZara 8 күн бұрын
Wow this is such good content. Keep it up 🙌
@SuperPaperPlushMarioBros
@SuperPaperPlushMarioBros 11 күн бұрын
The king has posted. 🤴
@BhavjotAhluwalia
@BhavjotAhluwalia 5 күн бұрын
Your hard work will pay off Kenny God bless I know you’re gonna make it bro🙏🏻🫵❤️
@kenny.bender
@kenny.bender 5 күн бұрын
God bless brother
@mandip-ce7ki
@mandip-ce7ki 9 күн бұрын
the same soul and life story we have and now im watching him to not make all the mistakes i did just like him
@Almostadult
@Almostadult 10 күн бұрын
The child example was soo good and made me realise i was doing that to myself
@syedfarzan9816
@syedfarzan9816 6 күн бұрын
Thank a lot for so beautiful info
@Project-ADAM-est24
@Project-ADAM-est24 11 күн бұрын
snap the baby....I mean man, this videos are sooo usefull but at the same time funny, keep it up bro.
@Tj14183
@Tj14183 6 күн бұрын
Nice video thanks for making it :)
@shadowtemple1008
@shadowtemple1008 11 күн бұрын
It is a profoundly righteous deed you are doing by taking this vastly valuable knowledge and information and imparting it to an audience of people who may truly need it or will at least greatly benefit from being informed by it. I am completely grateful for your guidance over these years.
@kenny.bender
@kenny.bender 10 күн бұрын
I am grateful for you trusting in me to guide
@Infarnum
@Infarnum 11 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for releasing ur vids at the perfect time
@kenny.bender
@kenny.bender 10 күн бұрын
I gotchu
@NoahSewardD
@NoahSewardD 10 күн бұрын
now that was a good video.
@amxxn8146
@amxxn8146 9 күн бұрын
This video found me at the perfect time wow
@1rocket_movies
@1rocket_movies 11 күн бұрын
quality 🤝💪
@user-pl1lg6uw6m
@user-pl1lg6uw6m 9 күн бұрын
You are the best
@Ahmeds_Mixes
@Ahmeds_Mixes 10 күн бұрын
The right video in The perfect time thanks ❤
@YouNPCs
@YouNPCs 10 күн бұрын
God sent.
@kenny.bender
@kenny.bender 10 күн бұрын
@Misthegoatdamn
@Misthegoatdamn 11 күн бұрын
6:50 yes observation of thoughts is extremely important, just like scandinavian bob said: urge surfing
@TheScawer
@TheScawer 11 күн бұрын
Your videos are very hard to watch for me, because they are a reminder that I am nowhere close to where you are with these struggles. But I would be lying if I said that this isn't some of the best content there is for these issues. I hope you can keep up this great work. I really believe it can help a lot of people.
@jonmarshall-riggs768
@jonmarshall-riggs768 22 сағат бұрын
I started taking his advice around a month or so ago and honestly my life is better for it. Promoted at work because my focus is insane. No fap is working - infact Iv gone from obsessed with PH to Zero interest in anything sexual 😮
@janthegamedev
@janthegamedev Күн бұрын
2:10 i was just watching the video, listening and then you have Judy Hopps on your laptop with that setup. most random and funny shot i've seen on this channel so far XD
@lucabrennanhyde
@lucabrennanhyde 2 күн бұрын
fire
@Immaburnthekitchendown
@Immaburnthekitchendown 11 күн бұрын
Bro posted exactly after i relapsed and wanted to improve again
@zxy.y1
@zxy.y1 11 күн бұрын
The Next Hamza
@densedecisions4568
@densedecisions4568 10 күн бұрын
3:17 This fucked me up when I was on the carnivore diet. I was snacking on butter, and suddenly reasoned myself to have a grape because the calories were freaking me out. That spiral, fuck offs (as you call it) included, basically cost me my life.
@farhanyudaputra6422
@farhanyudaputra6422 6 күн бұрын
“Snipe the baby” is wild 💀
@LillaMig
@LillaMig 11 күн бұрын
Can you make a vid on lucid dreaming?
@ACoronaaa
@ACoronaaa 9 күн бұрын
I know that coca cola was hitting the spot tho haha great video Kenny!
@Jayyy967
@Jayyy967 10 күн бұрын
I’m not an alcoholic but when I start I can’t stop
@micah-carpenter
@micah-carpenter 9 күн бұрын
This is exactly what the battle against your flesh is. You will have success in your temptations if you ask God for help.
@RahofAboRefaat-mr2mu
@RahofAboRefaat-mr2mu Күн бұрын
Your insights on overcoming bad habits are truly inspiring, and I'm committed to applying your advice. How do you suggest breaking the cycle of bingeing bad habits and reprogramming the subconscious mind effectively? 🤔 I appreciate that you're busy, but I very much hope that there will be personal communication because I want to ask you some questions to learn from experiences. I'm afraid that I will send you a message and you will not respond to me, but I appreciate that you are busy. 🙏
@kenny.bender
@kenny.bender Күн бұрын
go check out my videos on "how to restart your life" and "how to reinvent yourself"
@musankosi6446
@musankosi6446 11 күн бұрын
Bro I've been watching your videos for quite some time now and I'm beginning to see significant changes in my life in terms of my confidence and the lifestyle I always desired and for that i will appreciate your content bro🔥💯🫡
@kenny.bender
@kenny.bender 10 күн бұрын
That is epic, keep up the great work, rooting for you.
@KaelJadonDavis
@KaelJadonDavis 8 күн бұрын
I find it pretty cool that I can think of the ideas in the Bible that these steps can be rooted in and distilled from.
@Infarnum
@Infarnum 11 күн бұрын
I wasnt gonna like cause it was 69 but it became 70 so my like streak on ur vids remains
@michaelinh
@michaelinh 11 күн бұрын
Great video as always! Addicted to your vibes totally but the problem is i can't see that i have made progress, and there only 5 months left until new year, even though i am not relapsing bad habits and still provide myself good habits consistently. Am i too strict or am i not go all in for my goals intently? Or there are further problems? Let me know your ideas.
@kenny.bender
@kenny.bender 11 күн бұрын
if you're not doing bad habits you used to do, that IS progress in itself!
@_mohit_s_
@_mohit_s_ 11 күн бұрын
​@@kenny.bender agree 💯 but bro can you make a video on how we can eliminate the bad habits and engage with good ones at once (suppose we want to transform ASAP, I tried it but fell into burnout & back to zero)
@michaelinh
@michaelinh 10 күн бұрын
​@@kenny.bender got it! thanks Kenny
@nemanjalukic8330
@nemanjalukic8330 9 күн бұрын
“I do not understand what i do. For what i want to do, i dont do, but what i hate i do” Romans 7:15 Only Christ can help us.
@isaacsolomon1791
@isaacsolomon1791 8 күн бұрын
Amen thats right 🙏🏾
@-Brendon-
@-Brendon- 6 күн бұрын
Wrong, only you can help you. Only through non duality can you begin to unravel the urges. Desire and aversion. Only then will you be truly free. God can be experienced not thought about.
@Interdacted
@Interdacted 5 күн бұрын
Ima just not think and spam "God is good" In my brain. Yeah that's probably what will change my life.
@andrewl3045
@andrewl3045 8 күн бұрын
I think the problem with pornography is that it is potent on your dopaminergic system and can also be used as emotional regulation. So when people feel guilty after relapsing they may then continue to do it to suppress those negative emotions associated with relapsing. It really is a nasty cycle and I wish everyone here the best
@Iamlookingforamax
@Iamlookingforamax Күн бұрын
Yo what do i do if i just did a good thing for half a year now but i just stopped and cannot do it again (but im starting to go insane without doing what's right)
@HafizHusnainPervaiz-ux3lz
@HafizHusnainPervaiz-ux3lz 4 күн бұрын
Brother I am addicted to masturbation I hate it alot and I tried myself to overcome my this problem but I do it again and again Thats so disgusting
@maaz2505
@maaz2505 8 күн бұрын
For the first time someone read my brain I did nofap for 2 yrs then I relapse badly when I got fail in my exam very badly now it’s increase my anxiety
@VQ_EDITS
@VQ_EDITS 11 күн бұрын
Dont do the *thing* guys
@Narek_912
@Narek_912 10 күн бұрын
05:21 why you clicked on the video
@TheMrZerg
@TheMrZerg 11 күн бұрын
blud gonna make 50 more vids on no fap
@never-defeat.
@never-defeat. 5 күн бұрын
Next video Why you can stop doing the things you hate
@markhill8150
@markhill8150 4 күн бұрын
I like the video but serious question - how was porn seriously affecting your life?
@Tyx703
@Tyx703 7 күн бұрын
Bro used cerave 😂
@marcoraydiaz
@marcoraydiaz 11 күн бұрын
Judy Hopps is so real tho
@kenny.bender
@kenny.bender 11 күн бұрын
she a bad bunny
@kalujules9205
@kalujules9205 11 күн бұрын
​😂😂😂 agreed ​@@kenny.bender
@aligator-iv1ds
@aligator-iv1ds 9 күн бұрын
the cera ve creme lol
@ZanderLeslie
@ZanderLeslie 11 күн бұрын
Hey Kenny, great video, Just a question, you say you’re Christian and I was wondering what you think of Jehovah witnesses.
@thebestSteven
@thebestSteven 11 күн бұрын
They're wrong in thinking that Jesus is not God, and they justify that belief with just a couple small mistranslations.
@_mohit_s_
@_mohit_s_ 11 күн бұрын
6.33: Arjun said: The Yog system seems impractical to me due to the restless mind. 6.34: The mind is restless, strong, and obstinate, O Krishna. It's harder to control than the wind. 6.35: Lord Krishna said: O Arjun, you are right; the mind is difficult to restrain. But with practice and detachment, it can be controlled. 6.36: Yog is hard to attain with an unbridled mind. Those who control their mind and strive earnestly can achieve perfection. 6.37: Arjun said: What happens to the yogi who starts with faith but cannot reach the goal due to an unsteady mind? 6.38: Does such a person lose both material and spiritual success and perish like a broken cloud? 6.39: O Krishna, please dispel this doubt of mine completely. 6.40: The Supreme Lord said: O Arjun, one on the spiritual path does not face destruction. A seeker of God-realization is never overcome by evil.
@fifififi3407
@fifififi3407 7 күн бұрын
10:45 my dad said it to me tho-
@Jattsivia007
@Jattsivia007 10 күн бұрын
Kenny wheres the concious catalyst link
@kenny.bender
@kenny.bender 10 күн бұрын
just added it, my bad bro I copy and pasted the links and forgot to add it since it's new!
@Jattsivia007
@Jattsivia007 9 күн бұрын
@@kenny.bender thanks g
@SpringfieldUshers
@SpringfieldUshers 7 күн бұрын
BRO has a vintage xbox controller
@kenny.bender
@kenny.bender 7 күн бұрын
I got it back in 2020 to trickshot on black ops 2 on my pc haha
@shadowcrafter9093
@shadowcrafter9093 10 күн бұрын
Wheres step 4?
@kenny.bender
@kenny.bender 10 күн бұрын
it's avoiding negative self talk and engaging in positive self talk!
@isaacsolomon1791
@isaacsolomon1791 8 күн бұрын
‭Matthew 5:27-30 - “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell." Now this verse is not literally telling us to cut our limbs off or take out our eyes, but its telling us that if we have an urge, you need to agreesively get rid of that root cause, so if, for example you are addicted to drugs bc of your friends, move into a new area with people that will bring you closer to God(or at least help you reach your goals) instead of drugs. Hope this helps 🙏🏾
@rykerblade_snb
@rykerblade_snb 10 күн бұрын
Look at yourself in the mirror, realize you are the higher self, then break out in a Scott Stapp voice and ask yourself “Can you take me higher?!”
@sulhash
@sulhash 11 күн бұрын
Seth Rollins?
@Misthegoatdamn
@Misthegoatdamn 11 күн бұрын
What? I can only see john cena
@sulhash
@sulhash 10 күн бұрын
His facial features strongly resembles a young Seth Rollins ​@@Misthegoatdamn
@Misthegoatdamn
@Misthegoatdamn 10 күн бұрын
@@sulhash really, well I guess I can kinda see it now lol
@Arcturus59
@Arcturus59 11 күн бұрын
w
@West-brom-fc-4life
@West-brom-fc-4life 11 күн бұрын
How about video games?
@ZanderLeslie
@ZanderLeslie 11 күн бұрын
I would personally say video games are better than porn and junk food and other addictive substances, I would use video games not as an form of escapism just for fun, when you have completed everything for the day.
@Reflectionaire
@Reflectionaire 9 күн бұрын
Only play them when you've done everything else that you have to do
@Zoid_xyz.
@Zoid_xyz. 10 күн бұрын
oil up 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@niteshanthony2324
@niteshanthony2324 8 күн бұрын
hey we dont know each other but i wanna say that GOD still loves u and wants u to be with him all u must do is trust in Jesus and repent of ur sins. GOD loves u more than u can imagine. ☺️☺️☺️🎉❤🎉😊😊😊😊
@mulekezicanorole
@mulekezicanorole 5 күн бұрын
why do you guys use cream to beat your meat? seriously
@kenny.bender
@kenny.bender 5 күн бұрын
the doctor stole my pp skin
@jaredtheelite1466
@jaredtheelite1466 11 күн бұрын
Plz pin me
@oktawik3070
@oktawik3070 8 күн бұрын
I'm sorry, but are you a christian? You seem really lost, you seem to focus on wrong things in life. Why not learn more about Jesus? He lived the sinless life. He lived without the hate, without racing thoughts, without worry, without jealousy. He is and always will be there for you. Learn from Him how to live your life happily, talk to Him in prayer, tell Him that you're lost, tell Him you need help. At one moment in my life, when I was 19 I was as lost as you, but I started learning more and more about Jesus, asking Him for help. At the time I was full of hate, full of pride, full of anger and hopelessness. He delivered me from all this, I'm now calmer than ever, I don't have racing thoughts anymore and I don't believe the lies spread by the media. He delivered me from all of mine addictions. Please at least give Him a try.
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