Why You Keep Attracting the 'Wrong' Person in Relationships

Why You Keep Attracting the 'Wrong' Person in Relationships - Teal Swan -

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@kaylad52 8 жыл бұрын

Wanted: a man who will reject me the minute I feel a sense of attraction. I want to be walking on eggshells and have constant anxiety around you. Judging me is a must. Make sure you and your friends mock me every chance you get and belittle my emotions. I especially do not want you to be there for me. Only show me affection when it is to late. Make sure you hold double standards. While you are holding me to your double standards, make sure to yell at me, and constantly reject me. Rejection is KEY. Now that I am a hot mess, complain to everybody and make me look like the bad guy 😙

@leeyang1972 8 жыл бұрын

+Kaylamarie's diaries u are full of drama lol. women who are full of drama isn't healthy for a relationship. pls don't make babies.

@kaylad52 8 жыл бұрын

lee yang do you not understand the point of the exercise?

@kennetheugene6402 8 жыл бұрын

+lee yang they didn't 😕

@SP-li7wn 8 жыл бұрын

This is my current boyfriend to a T!!! So you must know my unconscious pretty well. Thanks for the laugh and insight.

@jocelineneves337 2 жыл бұрын

omg 😭 me !

@lauraleehenry5657 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Teal. Your video had me in tears. As I reflect on the qualities that I possess and all that I have to offer someone, yet, I keep attracting men with the same negative qualities from my past. Thank you, thank you so much. Going forward, I now know what to look for in a partner, address unwanted behaviors right away, and if it is not resolved, walk away. I know this video was posted in 2014, but it is still impacting lives in 2021. Thank you very much. I'm still crying, but this time it is because I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel, which is how to go about creating the kind of relationships I want and desire.

@Misticaquantica Жыл бұрын

Hi Lauralee, how is things going to you now ?

@okipullup7202 8 ай бұрын

You’re such an amazing person, for not giving up, for finding justice for yourself in love. I hope you have found the kind of love you deserve. Have a good life! ❤❤❤❤

@msjanedoe878 3 ай бұрын

@@MisticaquanticaI’d like to know as well

@karolinah12 11 ай бұрын

What I'd like to know is why only some people are affected by childhood and others are not. I know plenty persons from traumatic homes who have found and kept great relationships . And I know peopel from happy homes who are alone, and cannot settle .

@GyanAnjali-ft5dx Ай бұрын

Maybe because people from broken homes have valued the relationships and became matured because of life circumstances, while people coming from good families are not that thankful and want more. Life never challenged them to look beyond . What do you think ? Any more observation , would love to know your views.

@user-od3zt4dg6p Ай бұрын

Victims like being victims. It absolves them of the need to think for themselves. I accept that some like Teal have a hard row to hoe. But she has mended, mostly.

@bluebutterfly5062 Ай бұрын

Life is not as simple as A+B=C. Sometimes what seems to make sense, does not. And what doesn't makes sense, works perfectly. Life is an individual journey where everyone has to go on their own path and all the paths are different in their own way

@franmcginley8438 2 жыл бұрын

Cross out the word ‘home’ and write the word ‘love’…That’s a lightening bolt moment, right there!! 👌🏽

@HealingwithRashi 2 жыл бұрын

My father was an alcoholic, physically, mentally,emotionally and financially abusive. Had seen my mother getting beaten up on every other day. Left home on various occasions. Spent nights on terrace. Lived in fear for 16 years. My father used to hit my mother and she took out all the frustration on her kids by beating us in return. My father died at 44 years of age due to heart attack and my relationship with my mother went south after that. I guess she herself couldn't get healed from all that trauma. Lost my mother last year to covid and somehow that was the time I started seeing my patterns of choosing partners exactly like my father other than the physical abusive part. Now started my journey of self love but I still don't trust my judgments now. Yet too broken n scared.

@priyathapa2391 Жыл бұрын

Same here, dear

@00Kath 2 жыл бұрын

Fudge, thank you so much. I wish therapists and counselors would work on this more with individuals. This helps us understand why we get into toxic relationships and the bad cycle associated with those relationships and our subconscious mind. I am struggling to heal it’s been a long journey but I am determined to understand myself more, heal and live more fully in the world and share my knowledge of this process with others. Thank you for your wisdom and help. I value & appreciate you, Thank you.

@balqeesthecatlover7287 3 жыл бұрын

This video made me cry 😭😭😭 teal swan you always get it right... I found the answer that I was searching for .. I love you teal swan ♥️♥️♥️

@xGREENxWOMANx 2 жыл бұрын

i guess i missed the part on how to change things, but at least i laughed and now feel better about my problems

@sofiakou5110 2 жыл бұрын

Same 🙈

@cecig8233 3 жыл бұрын

Wow!!!! This is amazing!! Hit the nail on the head! Thank you.

@CristalLaLune 2 жыл бұрын

That is the most on point video for me... But really, becoming aware doesn't seem enough to change the pattern and the biochemical attraction towards the wrong persons. Even if I consciously choose a good partner, his presence quickly becomes absolutely unbearable for me, no matter how perfect everything seems on the surface. How to really change that hell trap?

@terrycraig6386 6 ай бұрын

Are you repulsed by good people? In other words, are you attracted to uncertainty in a person?

@CristalLaLune 6 ай бұрын

@@terrycraig6386 yes, I seem to be repulsed by some good people

@Starlightkaelidoscope-sr1lv 2 ай бұрын

I’d like to point out how hard it is to change a pattern, in general. The pattern was fed for years and years, so you have a lot of unconscious habits and your brain is also literally mapped with neuronal connections to make the habit even more easy, skilled, quick, and pleasurable. It’s like a bus driver. When you look at the MRI of a bus driver’s brain, you can see he literally has some parts of the brain bigger than normal people, unsurprisingly those related to geopositioning and navigation. So when you ask yourself to change a pattern you’ve been doing for years, you have to commit hard. Note that it was also reinforced by your family, and the situations you lived in, and the good times too. Yes the good times with the ‘bad people’. Because even though you had a bad boyfriend, and that it was an overall bad and unworthy experience you’d rather not have again, you can be honest with yourself and see that it was not all that bad, right, they were some moments that were positive, or fun, or compelling; plus it was -someone-. What helps me is a change of perspective. Let’s say I go in a room full of girls and I don’t think, you can be sure I’m locked on hot bitches that will abandon me and make me feel unsafe and unworthy…. But if I go in the same room, and I think, I’m a worthy person, there’s an abundance of girls in the world, and most importantly, I’m looking for a long term girlfriend that I could love for the rest of my life…. It’s actually surprising how I see them slightly differently, and don’t fall into that many traps anymore. I don’t know the answer, I also find Teal’s advice to be rather vague as she seems to say here be aware and it fixes the problem, so it’s worth giving it a try and be aware…. But I guess you have to be aware more than 15 minutes or a few days for your -pattern- to change. As for the good guy who’s unbearable to you, I don’t know! I mean, unbearable is a pretty strong word, idk if putting up with that is a good thing. It would be at least good to look deep and ask yourself why is he unbearable? (Hint) Is he stirring a wound that was already there?

@CristalLaLune 2 ай бұрын

@@Starlightkaelidoscope-sr1lv Thank you so much, I love you answer, it's very precise... I feel you understand me and the situation well. I will try the switch of perspective. What awareness brought me so far is lonelines... Because I no longer go for the bad guys, never anymore. But as for the good ones, even though I recognize them, I can't. They are not unbearable at first, just unattractive. It's when I push myself and try to get close to them that it becomes very unpleasant for me. The closer I let them get, the stronger the repulsion becomes. The only ' default ' solution is loneliness. But how many years can one stay alone before health, hope, esteem, functionning and everything is affected? I'll keep going on the road of awareness and search for the wound!

@LIMITSDESTROYED Жыл бұрын

She's so happy with the exercise topic

@sunhalosonia Ай бұрын

I love that she makes us take action in almost every video. I've been watching lots of channels and i think Teal is the only one who makes me take action

@tobytheaussie1376 11 ай бұрын

Aww, I loved this❤️! It’s nice to laugh at yourself a little about past relationship choices!

@msjanedoe878 3 ай бұрын

You explained this really well and the illustrations helped! Thank you for creating this video! This takes time and retraining and relearning. We have to stop traumatizing ourselves at this point. These patterns aren’t our fault but we must learn to RECOGNIZE them and rein them in so that we change the patterns that don’t serve our health!

@JG-gx4er 2 жыл бұрын

Synchronicities on synchronicities I don't know if it's you or the algorithm or the universe but seems like every time I click on one of your videos it has been put in my way specifically for the subject I was just thinking about or talking about or whatever. Keep vibing, chica

@michellesalem82 2 жыл бұрын

So true to the core, its the first time I realise the common pattern from home to partners, the same repeated feelings, issues and behaviour. I yet still need to change this programmed wired subconscious love meaning to me to be able to welcome a healthy new love 💘

@wfowler5 10 ай бұрын

great video. thank you such an eye opener and hilarious as well! Again thanks Teal

@lt3968 3 жыл бұрын

So ahead of her time. Love Teal.

@mh.m4653 2 жыл бұрын

You did well. I am greatfull 😊! Actually you combine the explanation of the inner schild and subconscious and couscious Mind. It was clearly to understand. Thanks for charing. 🙏

@salmalachgar 3 жыл бұрын

Guys I just did the test and oh my god im mind blown, it's the same thing on all the papers :) thanks Teal 🙏❤

@deea1754 2 жыл бұрын

You are good. Best problem solving video ever. Thank you.

@pinklemonadelondon1524 3 жыл бұрын

Amazing ! Love you Teal thank you for this xxxx

@birgitbinninger6893 8 ай бұрын

I hear your video in 2023 and it’s still real and actual this topic. Simply Wow how I sabotaged myself my whole life referring partnership and finding solutions in my very bad and chaotic and brutal childhood. Amazing 😮

@jamesmullaney5841 3 жыл бұрын

Praise You Goddess Teal. I Love You far more than myself and I always will.

@The-Real-Bader-Blade 8 ай бұрын

Teal Swan is amazing. 100% truth.

@nu1773 3 жыл бұрын

It's so painful yet it's making me laugh.. half way through the video and I am laughing in pain. This has been my whole damm life .. 🤣😅😂 I don't remember any of my childhood memories but I definitely have deeper abandonment issues since then.. 🥺

@yousfiabdelali 2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@sadeanthony2760 Жыл бұрын

Wow this is scarily accurate

@thoomm 2 жыл бұрын

This lighthearted poking fun at self ♡♡♡

@tanishadas7839 2 жыл бұрын

❤❤ thankyou teal you changed my life

@florencewamuyu3141 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you teal for the video this is what I need to learn so as to attract high quality men

@lizziepeacock7794 2 жыл бұрын

I managed to attract a different partner and it felt so alien to me that there wasn't chaos! There was no outburst of rage so it didn't feel like love! Obviously this lead to me self sabotaging and pushing the relationship away...

@lauralupu4252 11 ай бұрын

Hi! I am curious if and how you resolved the self sabotage. Cause I have the exact same issue you say, real love feels so weird and alien

@haninboukhris8729 10 ай бұрын

beyond grateful for you

@KarrieDreammind5 3 жыл бұрын

Ok I'm very consciously aware that I'm attracted to people repeating the same shortcomings of my parents that lead to divorce. But if that happens on a subconscious level, how do we control it and choose to be attracted to someone else instead? How do you know, when you meet someone in a bar, that after a number of months, that person is going to turn out to be a mirror to your parents' flaws???

@terrycraig6386 10 ай бұрын

@karrieDreammind5: most likely if you feel a huge attraction almost right away,they are not good for you.its a warning bell that they're familiar.if you don't feel much attraction, don't give up on them right away.they probably don't feel familiar in personality to a parent you had trouble with.give it time.😊

@KarrieDreammind5 10 ай бұрын

@@terrycraig6386 I guess that kinda makes sense. But it's also quite sad - to avoid the people you're most attracted to.

@rebecca_stone 8 ай бұрын

@@KarrieDreammind5 I know what you mean! But it's not sad if transforming what you find attractive leads to stability.

@terrycraig6386 6 ай бұрын

@@KarrieDreammind5: they're only attractive to you because you unconsciously trained yourself through childhood to be attracted to those people. You can through time be attracted to a new dynamic.😊

@umeshkulkarni9687 2 жыл бұрын

Excellent revelation 👍🙏

@Indianmogger 2 жыл бұрын

How does my childhood felt like? First thing is my childhood felt like a merciful ones. Where there is no value of me. I need to make a way for myself , play with my imagination to make sure I was feeling something good. I knew there are problems. I can sense unhappiness in adults easily. I felt bad about it. I felt scared of being an adult. I always thought responsibilities of normal life is a burden. One can be easily betrayed there. I also received betrayal which were inreconlicable. Cause it has more consequence than the actual problem. I felt like walking on eggshells. I loved the fact somehow I was take care of , enough to survive despite of not being that perfect kid which imagined to become and never did. I hate and felt that I'm inferior than anyone who had more freedom than me. I felt extreme hate for authority. Someone who limits my creativity. I feel like if I'm responsible to someone to have sense of contribution and without it I'm worthless. And best I can do is give others sacrificing myself whatever it's threshold for me not giving on more people expectations on me. When i get trigger. I don't see a chance to help someone. Cause I learnt then only solution works strict. My childhood felt like sometimes I'm overburdened if someone took care of me cause soon the inconsistency, criticism and expectations I see. I needed to sacrifice myself to make other laugh. Even though one hardly care. I just escaped a lot and this made other look I'm mature. And I thought I'm that. And hence, tried to cope with all the pain. I felt like if I'm some powerful person in childhood , the kind of mis fit. Who is rarely seen and has a potential to master the skill of helping who feels the same. I felt like the guardian. The rational guardian. I didn't believe in accountability of escapism cause it was painful but I made sure. I do t involve others in my pain and will eventually master this anyhow. I always felt hollow, and rage when consistently rejected ever after being rational with showing my feelings. I felt a sense of rage which may cut the world into too. It's the reason of my solar plexus pain. Although I felt happy for everything eventually cause things seemed working for me but I scared uncertainty and lack of opportunities and dead lonely. Man I still do. I still do. I don't know way out.

@tinachristina1129 2 ай бұрын

I wrote 2 lists. One ad was for a relationship and one for a job. There are many similarities.

@freewomaninchristalone8389 Жыл бұрын

Yup this makes sense why I’m stuck

@balqeesthecatlover7287 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you teal swan ♥️♥️♥️

@syrenka6 Жыл бұрын

Wow this is so accurate to my experiences. This scares me, how to get out of this crazy loop😮

@shesaiss Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing the why. But now how do I fix it? 😔

@angelikaking6844 3 жыл бұрын

Does that mean that I should just run away from the person that I'm attracted to, because it would be a fucked up relationship at the end of the day anyway? I guess I will just stay single as well.

@amarie6223 Жыл бұрын

Omg 😱😳😳😳. This hit me hard. Very eye opening.

@SavannahGG 2 жыл бұрын

Drawing the painful-familure back in !!?... especially if we have not forgiven it!! After hearing this, I realize that the next relationship wasn't near as bad, yet still had those familiar pains that were not as evident from childhood past, therefore went undelt with. Thank you. So now' I chose with my will to remit those too. After all, the Lord paid for the smaller sins as well. A'ma'zing insight, Teal. Thank You Jesus~

@rogertoole9468 Жыл бұрын

This is genius and hilarious at the same time.

@life-o-logy2851 3 жыл бұрын

Love u.....😳🙆 Thanx for this..

@WithMyOwnEars 10 ай бұрын

Teal's humor 😂❤

@rebecca_stone 8 ай бұрын

Great exercise for those who are new to understanding the problem, but I want to actually solve it. Re-setting the subsconscious - that's a tall order, how do you give yourself a lobotomy essentially?

@claytothemation 3 жыл бұрын

what's the solution though? just becoming aware of what your subconscious is attracting?

@randominsights1012 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! So now that I know the deficiencies in my childhood has caused me to be attracted to (and to attract) women who are horribly wrong for me, how do I undo the damage caused by my childhood and eliminate that from my uncontrollable subconscious?

@The_huntress111 8 ай бұрын

What’s amazing is till Swans want and was like what mine would be judging by my past relationship and the man version is like my exes what he said he wanted versus what he ever got

@madisontipton4919 Жыл бұрын

What if I had an super loving, secure, safe, and supportive childhood? Why would I still be attracting relationships where I feel (and get) left?

@cornwallismorgan874 Жыл бұрын

There's a video she put out a year ago (according to the YT time stamp) called "The Great Dupe of Dating." This might answer your question. It cleared up a lot for me and helped me to move past analyzing myself to death and spiraling into negativity.

@ThePitchblue 2 жыл бұрын

in retrospect, the men that were madly attracted to me and that have had relationships with me, have usually had violent and/or emotionally unstable and cold fathers (and quite often opposite mothers - caring, clingy, etc). this made me understand that I've somehow managed to portray myself as a perfect delicate and sensual woman in the beginning, only to reveal this "true face" later / be it really true or not. this wasn't done consciously. but this is how my "animus" is, and oddly enough, they were attracted to my masculine side as well, without even knowing it. so it is not only about what attracts you, but also - what you magnetically attract. I guess this goes hand in hand, but I have just had this revelation right now.

@benf1111 Жыл бұрын

I like how she showed the Amityville House

@thereawakener9554 Жыл бұрын

Wanted: a man who is constantly broke even if he works (just like my father)... Owning a car is No No (again just like my father) and you're not allowed to give me any form of emotional or financial support whatsoever. You must be incapable of making simple reasonable decisions on your own without my input and be sure to get irritated and resentful of me when I start pushing you to get up on your feet and do things on your own like every other adult. Also Laziness is a must, along with laid-backness, zero hustle spirit and a complete inability to run a business, hold down a job or make progressive career moves. I especially love it when you constantly ask me for money without any shred of shame like a kid does to his mum and pls make sure you love-bomb me while lying about important details of your identity in the initial stages of the relationship so I will be too blinded to see you for who you really are then gradually become emotionally unavailable while removing your mask and exposing your true self as the relationship progresses. And oh, remember to dangle marriage in the air while never really touching on the topic then get extremely infuriated if I ever bring It up or talk about how you need straighten up and act like a responsible adult. Then once I get fed up and end the relationship make sure you chase after me and beg me to reconsider just so that you can continue to sponge off of me while having no intention of making any single improvement in your life

@ASMRconKiki 9 жыл бұрын

When you described the potential childhood, it brought tears to my eyes. It was the exact reconstruction of my own childhood, my father's issues, my mother's enabling personality, the way I felt. It feels as though this video was made for me. Thank you, thank you so much, Teal.

@sacmakiz 8 жыл бұрын

I agree. 😢

@marziasultana4124 8 жыл бұрын

+applepie you are not alone dear. I am having the same. hope we will be able to overcome our difficulties.

@sacmakiz 8 жыл бұрын

Marzia Sultana Thank you so much dear! Feeling is mutual!

@mwendwa_m 2 жыл бұрын

I felt exactly the same as this is how my parents and childhood was.

@kianaraii 9 жыл бұрын

Her voice is so relaxing

@malabrinetica 8 жыл бұрын

+Amon Ra Aten Ra explain what you mean

@LEVIAHAN 10 жыл бұрын

I keep attracting the same person always.... NO PERSON! *forever alone*

@sketchup73 10 жыл бұрын

I don't believe you. Are you sure you are not forgetting something. Watch Byron Katie on KZfaq. That may jog your memory a bit.

@Bigfeet_E 10 жыл бұрын

It's all about choice. There's always some-One with you, wich is You. How can we unravel the mystery (mist story) of love if we don't love our self first ? So i say alone is the best point to start, it is rock bottom. From 'alone' there's no outer dis-traction and the oppertunity to transform to 'All One'. When you find that connection you have shifted and the mist or fog that blocked our view will have cleared greatly. From this position you'll find it easier to recalibrate your definitions of relationship with 'others'. Others are other expressions of All One and thus unfold its link to You. Be it any-thing or any-one, they're all creations out of love.

@frodoggbooboo 10 жыл бұрын

We are all one in unity so that is a current illusion.

@Seagull780 9 жыл бұрын

Bigfeet_E Yeah, I'm the worst stalker ever

@littlebigballsack2572 10 жыл бұрын

I guess this explains why Chris Brown brutally beat Rhianna even though he said he passionately hates his father for beating his mother....

@Loch1210 Жыл бұрын

Also Rihanna put hands on Chris

@jasonmgavitt2357 8 жыл бұрын

love should make you feel safe.end of story.if you dont feel safe then its not love.

@kevinwilliamson2236 10 жыл бұрын

If you are smart enough to become aware of yourself and your learn from each relationship, each relationship will get better as you grow internally. Its the dumb people that stop growing and evolving that have the same relationship problems that will obviously repeat themselves. Its not rocket science, its all implies to the famous quote I live by... 'To know thy Self'

@openscorpionmind 10 жыл бұрын

I agree with you

@maxeterchester 9 жыл бұрын

joe shmoe I agree and I think it's making the unconscious conscious that helps. Once we can learn how to become aware of our unconscious selves and see what is going on, we can change. But if we don't, we are doomed to continue in the same patterns. It's as they say, "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."

@lovejk8385 9 жыл бұрын

Before you attract anyone in your life - FIRST: you need to love and care for yourself. A person will never love you fully - before you fall in love with yourself. Its always an reflection. The man/the woman will always mirror you! That is my secret and it works wonders :)

@tibiturio 10 жыл бұрын

Love it. Teal please do a video about how to attract the right person, how to get rid off all those things on the subconscious mind. Thanks. 😊

@openscorpionmind 10 жыл бұрын

YESSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please! TheSpiritualCatalyst

@TheMillyVanilly 10 жыл бұрын

Agreed!

@mindful-communication 2 жыл бұрын

You can’t really get rid of them, it’s basically just doing the homework of becoming more aware each time. Def not easy! She recently posted a video on how you get the same things each time for you to choose to make a different choice. If you “prove” the universe you can choose differently then you have broken the pattern. Again, easier said than done 🤷🏽‍♀️

@TheRMartz12 10 жыл бұрын

Amazing. I'm so closed minded about spirituality and I loved this video! I love the mix you do with spirituality and psychology.

@maurizioviera 9 жыл бұрын

Another way to look at this is the Carl Jung's "anima/animus" archetypes. We gain power over them by making them conscious.

@va5348 10 жыл бұрын

You guys have balls putting it out there like that! Thank You! Very very helpful!

@SP-li7wn 8 жыл бұрын

Thank you Teal. You share so much wisdom, depth, and solice in your videos. Sometimes I watch a video at the exact moment I'm ready for it. This video hits the spot and is some of the most valuable insight I've even had (20 years of therapies) but I believe I picked therapists and friends with narcissism as well. Thank You Thank You. You are a transcendent and amazing being, And I'm very grateful for what you have shared in my world. ❤️

@madcatdrclaw 9 жыл бұрын

Love seeing you and your man together in these videos, so adorable! Thanks for doing what you do

@missmyasia 9 жыл бұрын

I connected with this video in a profound way. Thank you for posting such an insightful video. I'm feeling yet another spiritual shift

@kokosrslytv 8 жыл бұрын

major major synchro, came to this realisation when journaling the other day! so happy to have come across this channel!

@awakenedbygrace 10 жыл бұрын

I found this was also a great exercise to apply to work, relationships with children and pretty much anything else in our life!

@japjeetkhalsa1906 9 жыл бұрын

Hi Teal, Thanks for the video. It was really helpful. One thing that I think could add to this discussion is an evaluation of what one brings to a relationship. There's what you attract, what you're looking for and then there's what you yourself are bringing to the table. I feel that things in life need a balance point, so if I 'want' something, I need to be prepared to offer something in return. This would also benefit from a realistic vs ideal evaluation like you've presented in this video.

@Miyankochan 10 жыл бұрын

When you say: "Ah! This feels familiar. This feels like love! It must be love!" you sound like a Disney princess :DD

@taitai108 8 жыл бұрын

Lord have mercy on me. I am really trying to understand so much today that is affected by my sad childhood

@cshortridge1 10 жыл бұрын

OMG!!! I LOVE Sarbdeeps `deer in the headlights` look!!

@brentduanefoster 8 жыл бұрын

Here's my want ad: GBM, 36, dealing with serious matters of neglect, rejection and emotional abuse. Looking for someone who is distant, and verbally agressive or abusive. You must always have the last say and not care about what my thoughts. Don't feel a need to invest in me. If your other business is more important than me, no problem. I will work tirelessly to gain your approval. All you have to do is constantly ignore it, or pretend that you actually care. If I sound like the guy for you, give me a call at...

@sednafloating7027 8 жыл бұрын

no wait, he's mine!

@BurgundyandBlue1111 9 жыл бұрын

You are brilliant...spot on with this. Thanks for sharing. I did the "home" exercise, crossed out "home" and and replaced it with "love" and my significant relationships have reflected that! I am going to find some ways to clear the subconscious crap to help ensure I don't keep drawing the same thing to me going forward.

@taizen39 10 жыл бұрын

basically, we have been vibrationally 'imprinted' from our family. Those vibrations felt, beginning in the womb can be altered? that is a relief. My 'wants' ad was almost the same as what you used as an example. Scary! I wish you the best and thank you for your time and efforts for these videos. They have helped me quite a bit!

@patchwerkhoney184 8 жыл бұрын

Well that was exceptionally illuminating. Thank you for this.

@cosdawg3 9 жыл бұрын

Teal is good. Every time I hear her channels she speaks to me like it's A and B conversation. Some how some way she always C's her way into what my situations. I have gained a whole new level of perspective from her teachings. That is what the world needs, people like her to open our conscious. TEAL RULES! ROCK ON BABY

@Anjani-S-Siegrist 10 жыл бұрын

Wow Teal!! You got Sarbdeep to share some vulnerability ... that was beautiful ♡ I'm doing this process now and it is very revealing.

@alaksandra1979 10 жыл бұрын

I loved this episode! I think she's so cute when she goggles. And to see Mr. Swan try to keep a straight face while reading his add was hilarious. Either way, brilliant video!

@selmagoa9911 10 жыл бұрын

OMG thank you Teal, it's amazing to see how much home negative feelings match with what I got in all my relationships! Yet the power of the subconscious is so strong that I kept on dating guys who, at first, seemed to be the opposite but later revealed to be as controlling, manipulative or unavailable, etc. as my parents...So this means that the subconscious 'knows' what the conscious mind cannot grasp?! And what about the lack of communication? If it's something you've been so used to with your family, this shaped you as a person who can hardly communicate...I mean some lacks are very hard to fill up or change...How do we get rid of fear associated with love? I'm so tired of going from a trauma to another!

@SavingwithSave0ne 10 жыл бұрын

This video is going to save my love life. Bless your heart.

@cfapps7865 10 жыл бұрын

Sometimes you don't know what love is, though you are sure you do, until you discover it on an true unconditional level.

@uureemischeel9804 10 жыл бұрын

It was soo fun to watch u two read the ads...very brave, awesome videooo and helpful exercises! One love

@VegaBlondie 10 жыл бұрын

Perfect timing for this video. I needed it! Thank you Teal

@YUNGRJ1000 8 жыл бұрын

this wanted add is hilarious.. basically she is saying whatever you write down about ur pass relationships or friendship or childhood subconsciously that who u are today I get it. and that's who u keep attracting. so to reprogram ur subconscious state of mind u have to erase all those past memories and fill them in with the new experiences u want to have and keep having. the past is just what it is the past..so forget about it move on and become who u wanna be in a relationship with

@leeyang1972 8 жыл бұрын

+Robert Johnson agree.

@danad.2207 8 жыл бұрын

u crack me up teal. ur laugh from previous loser vid. always makes me happy no matter how sad or frustrated I am. u would be hard to be in a bad mood around. I hope to be amazing like u one day too

@2-3-B 8 жыл бұрын

Teal. I have been looking for a woman like you my entire life. and now, I have found you. Thank you :)

@Exendrallio 10 жыл бұрын

Gotta love this woman! So smart and love the way she talks!

@Katharine777 10 жыл бұрын

hahaha i had like a 2 hour convo last night with a friend about how he attracts the 'wrong' relationships because of his subconscious mind. and then this. love the synchronicity, love you teal!!

@MsYano26 9 жыл бұрын

Thank you Teal, this is really powerful work!

@navaehdevanshatrinity9558 8 жыл бұрын

Great video Swan! This puts a lot in perspective. Thanks!

@patriciagss2024 10 жыл бұрын

Teal, I love your words, they speak to my inner self. Thank you.

@junemonique 10 жыл бұрын

I realy have to say I love your spirit. Your advice make me think deeper and clearer. Thank you so much for sharing your life.

@KimSenior 10 жыл бұрын

So true, this explains to me why relationships keep failing.

@wendyscheiman2017 10 жыл бұрын

She's hot.

@tartaglia74 9 жыл бұрын

Just want to say I have been watching you for a while, Missed you this summer when you were in Boston, i was in vacation in Rhode Island, I looked for a video about choosing wrong men, and you of course gave me the answer that makes all the sense in the world, now is the time to undo my story for a new one, and allow Venus to share her handiwork, thanks Teal!

@cornapples2477 8 жыл бұрын

Good one.....best thing I heard I can actually relate to like no other. Idk who you are but great job on this one!!

@grati8615 9 жыл бұрын

Hi Teal Swan, The insights and exercises you provided us were extremely powerful and true. When I looked at my 'Home/Love', 'Relationships' and 'Advertising'-sheets I was blown away. So now that I am aware of my unconscious patterns (now they are conscious), I have a new question: How can we attract the right partner, knowing what our patterns were like? Should we write the positive WANTED qualities down to attract the right person? Or? Anyways, we all appreciate what you do! Thank you from the bottom of our hearts! Greetings from The Netherlands , Raffi

@vanessadefreitas6392 8 жыл бұрын

This thing has finally made sense of all of my relationship stuff in this exercise used for sex kept on coming up and in a lot of my relationships I have been manipulated and then used for sex. After reading it I broke down on the inside making sense of why all of my male relationships or friendships were based on lies and sexually degrading me. It is how I felt as a child and this ping of understanding is like a catalyst for my change. I really don't want to repeat my past so I am glad that I have become aware of what I am attracting based on my experiences of "home".