Why You Shouldn't Trust Your Feelings

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7 жыл бұрын

It can be very hard to detect just how much our judgement is constantly affected by our feelings. We should - at points - take care to be very skeptical of our first impulses.
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“It’s easy to grow up with a benign sense that our minds broadly offer us a reliable impression of ourselves, the people around us and the world at large. What we see, think and feel can be counted upon to amount to a more or less accurate picture of reality. We can call this optimistic thesis the ‘clear pane’ theory of the mind, implying that we are able to look out onto the world pretty much as if through an undistorted and blemish-free pane of glass…”
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@rohannampalliwar5346 4 жыл бұрын

"Your mind is like this water, my friend. When it is agitated, it becomes difficult to see. But if you allow it to settle, the answer becomes clear."

@trycorydon3628 3 жыл бұрын

lee bruce know i

@murphy498 3 жыл бұрын

You will never see your reflection in boiling water.

@navindamansitha3684 3 жыл бұрын

Buddha's quote

@nadianadianadia528 3 жыл бұрын

Profound ❤️

@parix85 3 жыл бұрын

Beautiful

@MrMetalHead1100 7 жыл бұрын

this one hit hard. the key is to not be impulsive

@kalyanarc4467 7 жыл бұрын

A skill that takes practice :) Psychiatrists reccomend that, when you feel angry, you count to 10, and do nothing in between. I reccomend getting away from humans, and quietly drinking a cup of coffee !

@itgetter9 5 жыл бұрын

@@kalyanarc4467 Totally agree. Or drink a glass of water, or two, because another thing that leads to giving in to our worst impulses is actually simple dehydration.

@True38 4 жыл бұрын

If you keep your impulses under control, it's ok to give in once in a while, as long as you get back to your daily routine. Otherwise, life becomes pretty boring. It's when being impulsive becomes a habit you should check yourself.

@Kennedy1op 4 жыл бұрын

@@itgetter9 really? I never heard that before.

@itgetter9 4 жыл бұрын

@@Kennedy1op True story! If you make a habit of drinking a good deal more water every day than you're probably accustomed to drinking, I predict you'll find yourself on a more even keel . . . more measured and steady in how you respond to things. Try it and see if you like it -- be well!

@mugge47 7 жыл бұрын

EVERYTHING IS NOT WHAT IT SEEMS

@Nurdbrowski 5 жыл бұрын

Yesssssssm.

@thisisntallowed9560 5 жыл бұрын

Hey, if you're looking for an unhappy life, really DON'T follow your feelings... ;) Seriously do not try to understand them.

@damionrichter 5 жыл бұрын

@@thisisntallowed9560 thanks

@robschuyler5106 5 жыл бұрын

DUN NA NA NUH NA NAA

@amandabosio9160 3 жыл бұрын

Nothing makes sense

@PikaPetey 7 жыл бұрын

there are people out there that know people run off of emotions and use others emotions to con them.

@unigamerderp7430 6 жыл бұрын

I think everyone does that but it's how they do it that makes it bad or good

@Medietos 6 жыл бұрын

es, humanity is target and we do wisely in waking up immediately, to strengthen ourselves, develop, help each other to do so, and take action to save humanity, all life and Mother Earth. We mostly do not REALLY believe in and prepare our spirits-bodies for evil forces until we get our health, psyche and life stolen, crippled and/or destroyed. And relatives/friends/ good aqcuaintances don't know about that world , aren't aware enough or interested , developed, loving, courageous enough to dare face and learn about it in order to support, share, be there or even help practically. The danger is not so much the evil, but the good ones who do not interfere and who stay lazy and weak alone instead of organizing themselves as groups. as obama said in his inauguration speech, that we all shall have to make sacrifices for the future, I found it well spoken and finally someone daring to say the truth: We have to stop wasting food, misusing resources, thuink and act capitalistically-materialistically, not consume so crazily and fly. I think he meant something quite different, and got the chills.If enough of us wake up and get to work spiritually, we can change the laws for everyone to follow, and then we may all live and the end of the world as we know it be turned into a new one. But please dispose of or greatly limit your c.ell pho,ne use, it's kil,ling us all, and today, no one can evade it even. it disturbs our bodies functíons and repair, weakens and ster.ilizes, dulls our minds, harden and senilizes us as well as disturbing Vagus nerve- heart function and make us more easily stress-hateful. Did you notice and research?

@icanbestronger 6 жыл бұрын

Yep those are narcassist's targets, unfortunately!

@mikitz 6 жыл бұрын

You mean like every single prophet so far, a.k.a. the biggest con men of all time?

@mahmoudelasmar7883 6 жыл бұрын

mikitz what makes you so sure that prophets are con men, can you elaborate?

@nicoleo.2462 7 жыл бұрын

School of Life, I would love to see a video that explains the difference between knowledge and intelligence. If my suggestion has not been hidden by the sea of comments, I would also like to inform you that I enjoy your works and I really do feel like I have gained so much from your videos. Living in a small town gives you a limited perspective on the world. However, The School of Life videos have aided me in understanding the world, the people, as well as myself. I am sure there are plenty of others who feel the same way. Thank you for your amazing videos and thank you for reading this comment. (or perhaps my thoughts have been buried under the comments of the fantastic School of Life followers, but I'm still satisfied that I at least shared my thoughts to those on this amazing channel) Have a wonderful day!

@allen764 7 жыл бұрын

Good thought!...Confucius stated that wisdom (a kind of intelligence) is knowing what we don't know. May I suggest that you continue down the rabbit hole with a look into epistemology. Good luck.

@amanofnoreputation2164 7 жыл бұрын

Knowledge is a misleading term. Everything we think we know comes from our senses, which we know to be unreliable. As such, the concept of knowledge is something of a red herring; we don't really know anything. What we take for knowledge is merely the most reasonable conclusion that can be made with the available evidence: the best possible guess. Either way, knowledge is essentially information. Intelligence is the rate at which information can be processed. The faster a system can process information, the smarter it is. However, some systems are more efficient at processing certain types of information. Even very dumb computers can perform mathematical calculations much faster than any human being, but even the most advanced computers can't process sensory information the way the human brain can or make choices for itself without being specifically commanded to do so.

@BigHenFor 7 жыл бұрын

Nicole O. Intelligence, broadly speaking, is the wisdom to use knowledge in an effective way. That is why the term 'educated idiot' in a disparaging sense, is not an oxymoron. We have to be sceptical about what we think we know because our brains are limited by their biology, so it is wise to remember our limitations. Just as this video asserts.

@amanofnoreputation2164 7 жыл бұрын

***** I mean unreliable on a purely epistemic bases. Think about it: how do you know you exist? You may fell like you exist, but that's your only point of reference. "I think, therefore I am", doesn't help us here because the sensation of thinking is also just a sensation. Even if our senses are totally reliable in every way we can measure, because everything we experience is filtered through our subjective perceptions, we have no way to corroborate them. To presume that we exist is entirely reasonable given the lack of evidence to the contrary, but it is still, at it's core, an assumption. One that could be overturned at any moment by the revelation that we are all just programs in a simulation, or something similar. There's no such thing as absolute truth or knowledge.

@sergedenovo4873 7 жыл бұрын

You didn't even receive one "like" for that comment? Whatever.... You got one from me.

@ismellrudolph 7 жыл бұрын

Even though I agree with everything in this video, I think there ARE times where going with gut feeling is best, creating emotional art comes out better through using feelings and emotion, I think the key is to learn to switch between the two mindsets

@ThorenTravels 7 жыл бұрын

This is the logical fallacy known as "begging the question."

@charmagne2102 7 жыл бұрын

Ehh...not entirely. Its more of a balance.

@wymah4411 7 жыл бұрын

Agreed. Do check out Malcolm Gladwell's "Blink". It's about making impulsive decisions and believing in your own intuitions. The video focuses on the importance of being skeptical of our own emotions, and it successfully pointed out our inability to "stop and think", but I agree with you. Sometimes, we just need to trust our own feelings.

@franklinmarichal 7 жыл бұрын

ismellrudolph Elliott Hulse calls it being grounded and being adept in that grounding. Tender aggression as well. Going between both extremes and every which way in between. I ask you to look into it tis some cool shit friend.

@MO.MOUNIZ 7 жыл бұрын

ismellrudolph emotions aren't entirely bad nor good, they are important indeed but not a reliable tool to place judgements and decisions in ones life

@25987489 5 жыл бұрын

"Strive to get to bed early" Nice try mom

@davidcraig7771 7 жыл бұрын

I have lived my life to a large degree without letting my emotions dictate my thoughts or actions. I can attribute much of my "success" and accomplishments to this but I am no longer going to numb my life with that mindset. Becoming vulnerable to emotions and moods is a part of life that I would like to embrace in order truly live.

@augieottie6403 6 жыл бұрын

David Craig Couldn't have said it better.

@backtothebooks9201 5 жыл бұрын

It's about balance. Being able to watch your emotional state and decide when it is serving and when it is not is the best way to be :)

@mollymoonfan5939 5 жыл бұрын

exactly, we will have machines to run off having no feelings, what is the point of life without ever truly living

@mytruepower2 5 жыл бұрын

I've found it's best to express my emotions to myself, in private, or in prayer. In my experience, any of my emotions that become noticeable to other people, serve only to further alienate me from them.

@Alphacentauri819 5 жыл бұрын

mytruepower2 there are people who it is safe to share those emotions with, timing matters too... but vulnerability allow us growth and connection, that nothing else can. I’ve had the deepest connections when sharing my fears etc, with safe people and hearing theirs as well... Blessings

@h0m3st4r 7 жыл бұрын

Overreliance on one's feelings is perfectly illustrated by the Sith.

@Ironication 7 жыл бұрын

However, overreliance on sterile logic is illustrated by the Jedi, whom I feel are equally bad in their ways. The best would be a mix, grey Jedis.

@TorquemadaTwist 7 жыл бұрын

+h0m3st4r Hey, Sith get things done. Palpatine went from senator to Emperor because he was focused and willing. He cleaned the deadwood out of the political system and revamped the military.

@sethoz22 7 жыл бұрын

You cannot justify your philosophical standpoint by referencing a fictional universe.

@Masterof7s 7 жыл бұрын

I point you to Plato and his allegory of the cave.

@h0m3st4r 7 жыл бұрын

Ironication I agree completely.

@azzaalameh 7 жыл бұрын

I'm impressed with how rich and steady the productivity of the channel is. sometimes I wish I can be able to be there while you search and work, and be able to look at your notes and your books and your general way of working. be a pupil if you will! I'm just so much in love with your work. it's inspiring. so, well, thank you for everything. My best regards.

@azzaalameh 7 жыл бұрын

The School of Life ... one look at it and it's already one of my favorite websites. that's perfect. thank you :)

@Ontariokelley 4 жыл бұрын

Sit yo ass down stupid ass enjoy the greatness

@yolandathepanda1124 7 жыл бұрын

im way too high for this

@leanhanleleanah6929 5 жыл бұрын

Eat nuts

@nodrize77 5 жыл бұрын

Lol

@zenyiah 4 жыл бұрын

yo deadass

@biakahmar9171 4 жыл бұрын

related dude

@prolific568 4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@Cifyra 7 жыл бұрын

"Strive to get to bed early" Well, it's 7am, maybe I should get to bed.

@alysononoahu8702 21 сағат бұрын

I'm a napper

@TotesNotIllegal 7 жыл бұрын

10 videos in, unable to put my phone down and NOW you tell me to sleep early 😩

@theschooloflifetv 7 жыл бұрын

Sorry!

@finleycastello6512 7 жыл бұрын

Haha IKR

@staindman00 6 жыл бұрын

Next video: How to achieve self-control LOL

@thomasgrabowski2202 7 жыл бұрын

I don't know man...I think there is a difference between trusting your feelings and making impulsive decisions. I use my feelings as a source of intelligence that help me navigate the social world. If I get bad vibes from someone or I feel like shit talking to a person than I know that I should stay away from that individual because they are simply draining my energy. I don't know why you would not trust your feelings because I believe they are a great source of intelligence. I think people who don't trust their feelings don't truly trust themselves.

@marianniezayas1531 5 жыл бұрын

I agree wholeheartedly.

@SoulDelSol 5 жыл бұрын

I think he's saying people make bad long term decisions on basis of feeling of lust (cheating, unwanted pregnancies, etc) and when their decision making ability is clouded by feeling of being tired

@katinakochovska9242 5 жыл бұрын

Agree. There is a difference between feelings and emotions. We need to trust our feelings.

@anweshaP14 5 жыл бұрын

We are not our minds or our feelings. It's good to be aware of them but not give them too much importance

@giovanna722 4 жыл бұрын

@@marianniezayas1531 Absolutely. Your mind can mislead you, but your gut won't. I can't remember how many times I rationalized my way through a situation, ignoring the deep feeling that I wasn't acknowledging the whole truth. I "painted" my own picture, in other words.

@dreaminginnoother 7 жыл бұрын

as someone who suffers from chronic fatigue, I can fully get behind what he said about being tired. I don't trust my emotions much at all, since it is usually just anger and depression and feeling like everything is shit, just because I'm tired all the time.

@180treehousegang8 7 жыл бұрын

That really sucks man, I heard it can be difficult to work and exercise with Chronic Fatigue because you're always so exhausted and all you wanna do is sleep.

@JimmyDThing 7 жыл бұрын

There is a distinction to be made between reaction and intuition. The prior is not reliable, the latter is.

@simonkraemer3725 3 жыл бұрын

Your intuition isn’t infallible, because it’s the product of the learnings of our subconscious. But our subconscious mind is fed by our unclear perception. You can see how intuition is indeed unreliable with anxious people or how people rely on their intuition for finding „the one“, but the marriage ends in a bloody divorce. But our intuition knows much more than our sudden reaction, that’s right

@JimmyDThing 3 жыл бұрын

@@simonkraemer3725 who said it was infallible? What is infallible? Nothing is. Not a good bar to set unless you want to rely on nothing.

@zomgkb 7 жыл бұрын

I needed this. I had a small meltdown yesterday. Then I got home surveyed the situation and I felt sooooo much better.

@Mishkola 5 жыл бұрын

I've spent my whole life suffering from anxiety and depression, and had to learn this in order to function. Now, in order to move ahead, I'm having to learn that what makes me feel fulfilled actually matters.

@yoxall4559 5 жыл бұрын

Every time I didn't trust myself I regretted it. We should always trust ourselves. Your first instinct is always right. At least mine is. I learned to trust myself and it's rare that I am wrong. Since I started trusting myself life has been a lot less stressful. Always trust yourself.

@21bywater 9 ай бұрын

The positive effect this channel has had on me over the years is immense.

@TatoMX7 7 жыл бұрын

I'm afraid to feel optimistic. Good situations can only turn bad.

@ygazz 7 жыл бұрын

I know what you mean... since I became adult, the times of greates happiness in my life always ended abruptly and were followed times of greatest pain... now whenever i encounter something good, I try to not get over-excited and just tell myself to enjoy while it last, because it's gonna blow up soon.

@_Cato_ 7 жыл бұрын

Samus Nero I was an optimist up until about a month ago. I had everything going for me: an unfathomably loyal, supportive, beautiful and intelligent partner, an impending move across the country to a good job, a happy and healthy family, and good friends. In ONE month: my father lost his job and his parents left his life, my other grandmother had a stroke, my girlfriend left me out of fucking NOWHERE, shattering the move we were going to make and destroying the job opportunity that I had. I've been fucking crushed this past month and I barely have the will to live anymore. What's the point when nothing but pain awaits you in life? Why should I form relationships when they will inevitably tear me down?

@TatoMX7 7 жыл бұрын

IMO pain and suffering is what makes my soul grow. I learn a lot from my mistakes and tragedies. But every time things start looking good I find myself rejecting that optimistic feeling, I'm afraid that all those promises my future is foresighting, won't happen. I know it's very irrational but that's how I feel, I feel afraid that those things that could but has not happen, won't ever be.

@iqranoor6082 7 жыл бұрын

Samus Nero same

@PHAileyANIME 7 жыл бұрын

but inversely, if good situations can only turn bad, that would also mean that bad situations could only turn good. Though we all know, bad situations can get even worse than they already, therefor, while bad situations can get worse, good situations can get better. But in the end, regardless of whether or not the situation is good or bad, they both have the same end result, and that is death. So have nothing to fear. Enjoy the good things as they come, and don't forget them as they go.

@improvisedchaos1471 7 жыл бұрын

I'm skeptical of this video. I think I'm going to suspend my judgement for a moment and think about this rationally and decide if this video is true or not.

@davidsetiawan5736 4 жыл бұрын

Nice.

@MicahBuzanANIMATION 7 жыл бұрын

Excellent video. Now I'm going to stay up all night watching the rest of these :D

@Miinenos 7 жыл бұрын

you're everywhere.

@btul2569 7 жыл бұрын

me too, i see him everywhere

@ghnunes 6 жыл бұрын

Micah Buzan oie, I work overnight shifts.

@mofadali 6 жыл бұрын

then what the use of watching the "school of life" but you don't sleep early 😂😅

@rossellwood4088 6 жыл бұрын

Micah Buzan b

@jrace4179 7 жыл бұрын

This advice needs to be heeded even more now that the "feels before reals" is increasingly becoming the new norm in society.

@dylancaleb4169 7 жыл бұрын

last sentence fucked me up lmao

@NeverMind353 7 жыл бұрын

ROBOTRIPPIN ROBOT you just experienced a Sartrian moment

@dontignorewatchme5851 7 жыл бұрын

whats that

@dylancaleb4169 7 жыл бұрын

Mike Blaid Look up Jean-Paul Sartre, I think thats who he was referring to

@qaedtgh2091 7 жыл бұрын

yeah, no such thing as "getting to bed early"

@herminlionel1909 7 жыл бұрын

I'm watching this at 2:00am and I have to wake up at 7:00

@Fulgrim88 5 жыл бұрын

I'm great at reserving judgement and avoiding rash, emotional decisions. I am also chronically depressed and dead inside

@EloiseAwesomeballs 7 жыл бұрын

This channel is really wonderful and very much helping me. I have bordline personality disorder, my mother, who was a single mother was BPD and very narcassitic, so I, for a long time, reacted and relied on my emotions. I started to try to change this about a year ago, and this video is really aiding that change! Thank you :)

@aaronjparsons4137 7 жыл бұрын

Eloise Awesomeballs that's cool I think I have it too

@ItSAaliya_onSCREEN 7 жыл бұрын

Eloise Awesomeballs same

@derPedobearhinterdir 3 жыл бұрын

These videos are like therapy to me, they help me find back to my true self

@SonicKiwi123 7 жыл бұрын

It's amazing how feeling a certain way, you can be so sure of something, then feeling a different way we can laugh at how stupid of a judgement we made. Kinda like being drunk then looking back at it the next day, after we've sobered up.

@92pinks 7 жыл бұрын

i don't know about you but I have regretted many instances when I didn't follow my gut instinct. It has kept me from danger, helped in forming long-lasting relationships, and has helped me perform better on exams. I follow my gut "feeling" religiously. Perhaps my nature doesn't allow me to open myself up to new experiences, but my gut has almost always been right.

@23slapdirt 7 жыл бұрын

Thats why meditation is key. It helps suspend judgement. Being mindful. "Buddha's Brain" will explain more about the neuroscience

@thisisntallowed9560 5 жыл бұрын

You MUST trust your feelings in life. If something doesn't feel right, it means you should go. Now, if you trust your first impression on someone, that's just because you're dumb, but after getting to know the person a little, yes, you should trust your feelings. We often ignore our feelings and stay in situation we don't want to be in (job, partner..). Your feelings are a bell. Listen to them and try to understand them.

@trollponch 5 жыл бұрын

nice advice. Thanks

@doranda137 4 жыл бұрын

I agree.

@babiejaninesurio5475 4 жыл бұрын

Sometimes "gut feeling" is our 6th sense and emotions distort the red flags or facts that we knew from the start. Not relying on our emotions and letting it settle for a while is a self discipline that takes practice and a lot of skills.

@ALSeth-Storyteller 7 жыл бұрын

I have a bad feeling about this... or am I?

@rloach067 7 жыл бұрын

get a feeling so complicated *chew*

@berlinlincoln7918 7 жыл бұрын

Feelings control us.

@nicklj3025 7 жыл бұрын

"it is better to have loved than not at all". ones impulses of emotion can not be cast aside for ever. when the time is right, the balance of rationalism and emotion, confront your observations and separate and break down your feelings (its weirdly possible to be a mix of 2 seeming contradictory emotions). you dont have to come to a conclusion immediately. (this is all from my observations) you can get a fairer representation of your observations by asking your self the same question at different times in the day in different moods. observe your response and try and diagnose why, if it did, change. I find its easier to observe the world clearly when i know what glass I'm looking through (where the distortions/thickness of glass differ(the thickness of glass a metaphor for different emotions and the effect it has on your perception)). i however have come to dilemma with this way of going through though. you find your self unable to truly determine the true answer to your question. that is where i looked for my answer in others. having known (or to by perception i know) where i differ in observation with different emotions, i then apply this to others (a very risky move, but one which must be done over long periods of time and not judgmentally) then i can gather information at an exponential rate. being able to both test my self and other. it helped that i started talking philosophy to my friends and some responded with as much interest in philosophy as me (however this wasn't about love, it was main stream philosophy). so i search on

@nicklj3025 7 жыл бұрын

I hope you the best of luck in life :)

@ayeshhas5641 7 жыл бұрын

AL Seth lool this is very comical.

@susmitanayak2101 5 ай бұрын

The whole narration was like a breath of fresh air.

@haxxymillion 7 жыл бұрын

BLUNT TRUTH. YOUR EMOTIONS ARE not OUTSIDE REALITY

@tristissimushominum3099 7 жыл бұрын

I needed to hear this, I think.

@Omnicronnn 7 жыл бұрын

That's just your boring rationality talking! What you really need is a harem of women and thousands of ill-advised purchases!

@hieuphungminh6690 7 жыл бұрын

this is amazing! how long does it take to make a video like this?

@giorgionapoli85 7 жыл бұрын

mmmm...i'm sorry, but: i really appreciate and respect your work. Really. And i encourage people and youtuber to support you and your channel. But, i was saying, if a video like this take 4 months of preparation (i don't argue about the money, i'm sure you are right) how is it that on your channel where published something like 5 to 6 videos just in the last week? Doing the math, you should be capable of publishing just 2-3 videos per year... Not criticizing, as i said i really appreciate your work. Just wanna understand better how youtube activities work.

@falleneldor 7 жыл бұрын

How many animators on average? I recall it taking FOREVER for me to complete a hand drawn 90 second final for Animation class way back in 2002. it was then I knew I DID NOT want to be an animator :D

@giorgionapoli85 7 жыл бұрын

I suppose there is a teamwork here. And i suppose he answered '4 months of work' given a TEAM-work. So, my question really is 'if you publish so many videos...how many people is actually working on your channel, and are all capable of living with that?' Let's suppose a team of four people per video (one writing, one drawing images, one recording audios, one editing all togheter), each finishing a video every 4 months. The channel publish, let's say again, an avarage of tree videos per week. That means something like 150 videos per year. But every team can handle only tree videos per year (12 months/4 months of work). So that means you need to have 50 team (50*3=150). If what we have supposed of four active workers per team is right, that's a total of 200 workers (50*4); that seems a little bit too much to me, due the earnings i suppose not very large from youtube... Ok, ok...i need to find a serious job ;D

@davidhines3391 7 жыл бұрын

Scalp Master

@davidhines3391 7 жыл бұрын

Dejarino Zhino 7

@DavoidJohnson 7 жыл бұрын

If you hear the devil's laughter after sex, your not just in error, your seriously unhinged.

@tenaciousrodent6251 7 жыл бұрын

It means you just rubbed your naughty bits with someone you can't stand, but are sexually drawn to.

@mmmmSmegma 7 жыл бұрын

I think he understand that... But I agree with him in that... using that analogy, or saying it in that way "hear the devils laughter after sex" is just a strange and somewhat unsettling way of expressing what you are saying.

@bashostaringatthesky888 7 жыл бұрын

Seems you failed to grasp the metaphor...

@RedStar18 7 жыл бұрын

Yeeah, the only thing I hear is a scream of the bloody devil when I put it in

@ipodtouch495 6 жыл бұрын

RedStar18 If that's coming from the person you put it in to i'm calling the cops.

@crabstickz 7 жыл бұрын

great one

@ChristianProtossDragoon 5 жыл бұрын

My feelings: She loves you. Environment: Nope!

@hellotinashe 7 жыл бұрын

On that note, I'm off to rest. 💤

@WaelAKamel 7 жыл бұрын

This is one of those videos that did get on my screen just in time, I am starting just today to realize that getting to bed early, resisting lustful temptations and watching over my diet helped me greatly in working my way around the negativity that swarms our everyday lives, as always this channels gives me great pleasure in watching and keeping up with, a follower for life.

@sulamith105 7 жыл бұрын

Love this. I've always struggled with the phrase "Trust your gut feeling". This is exactly why. I could never confidently rule out that my gut was not being influenced by the fears, insecurities, biases and moods in my life. What I feel convicted of may vary depending on whether I can be above and resolve all of these. Not easy to do.

@arathy977 7 жыл бұрын

This is one of the best school of life videos till date.

@Rajm3hta 7 жыл бұрын

Though on the outset you provide content on KZfaq for free, in conjunction to it, you market 'The School of Life'. For profit or not, but these videos for a layman (who experiences life from a framework which is passes down by not so efficient education system)... is a BOON! Thank You guys for making such videos! The next time I am in UK, will make sure to pay a visit to your store!

@MrDynasty7 7 жыл бұрын

thank you for all the videos you make. I can tell you honestly want to help people, nothing more. You're part of whats right in the world.

@anupambajracharya9727 7 жыл бұрын

The School of Life has been teaching me more than I learned in all of high school about Life! From the bottom of my heart, thank you to the creative team for making such meanigful and creative videos on such deep topics for us!!

@Lobstrique 7 жыл бұрын

this is so amazing. this helped me re-evaluate a lot of things that bugged me recently. thank you, the School of life

@ltzubko 5 жыл бұрын

I listen to my gut because I’ve had much more success with it than without

@ndnofmana521 3 жыл бұрын

I truly believe listening to your gut is different than going off of emotion or logic. I believe that "the gut" is a balance of emotional and logical judgments

@PredatorH2O 3 жыл бұрын

Maby your logic or information weren't good enough.

@ltzubko 3 жыл бұрын

@@PredatorH2O everyone has an opinion

@howchen8529 6 жыл бұрын

I feel this greatly. When I am anxious, I can hear myself making unfair judgements over strangers that I have never met

@petroslavapetrova6198 3 жыл бұрын

What a wonderful video. We often forget what a huge impact small things such as taking naps and avoiding sweets have on our moods. Our best mood regulators are all small things like that... taking breaks from work, being in nature, doing sports or mild exercises, spending time with loved ones, changing our perspective of the everyday life, enjoying art, having a hobby, not dwelling in the past, not overthinking... They are all small things :)

@zazemena 3 жыл бұрын

this is one of the most useful things i've seen, probably better advice than what my parents have given me

@JoumyakuSalad 7 жыл бұрын

Somehow I feel like this video helped immensely with my depression. I'm going to read some skeptical philosophers, and I'm going to get better.

@shannbot9505 7 жыл бұрын

I just wanted to thank you for this. I'm in a place now of extremely conflicting emotions, to where I could choose a "right path" and a "wrong path". I have been very reasured by this, it woke me up to a lot of options I didn't know I had, thank you. Because I saw this, I've been reawakened to the importance of doing what IS right, versus what FEELS right. Thank you.

@hannahparrott269 7 жыл бұрын

thank you. I really needed this right now. It was a good reminder for some self compassion and care, and most crucially, sleep. Off for a nap

@jotato_chip 7 жыл бұрын

School of life, can you please make a video about unreciprocated love? It would be extremely helpful to me right now, but, ultimately the choice is yours considering this is your channel. -Jo

@knightsfly5 7 жыл бұрын

There already is one

@noneofyourbusiness5441 6 жыл бұрын

Jocelyn Not Your Expert No

@ohcrikey9560 4 жыл бұрын

Unreciprocated love? Easy one. Get away from that person. If you work with him/her, leave your job. I've been there. It's hell.

@jeffreylonigro1382 3 жыл бұрын

Search “unrequited love.” And get over it.

@jotato_chip 3 жыл бұрын

@@jeffreylonigro1382 4 yrs later and sheesh. I barely even remember making this comment

@cinnamonchimera854 7 жыл бұрын

Best argument I've heard for self-enforcing a bedtime, yet.

@lorenzgluck5144 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for reminding me of this obvious fact which I have to rediscover every single day. A more modest attitude towards our positive impulses may allow us to take the few steps back needed when confronted with harder times.

@anastasiab7030 5 жыл бұрын

Strive to get to bed early really helps, because for me in particular i get very tired during the night and i start experiencing unrational emotions and stuff like that so its very important to go to bed early before the bad feelings kick off

@ashleycarter5130 7 жыл бұрын

Do you think that our innate bias to the outside world effects our emotions inwardly?

@h0m3st4r 7 жыл бұрын

And vice versa.

@MrElectricVibration 7 жыл бұрын

Seems Legit.

@JDS141NZ 7 жыл бұрын

What do you mean by innate? Born with? Or product of environment?

@360.Tapestry 7 жыл бұрын

a little social determinism never hurt nobody lol

@TheBleupaw 7 жыл бұрын

A lot actualy. By innate bias you mean beliefs right? As in beliefs that have been "implanted" in us at a young age.

@dharini09 7 жыл бұрын

Although I agree with most of what you say, reason must be tempered with a bit of irrationality. I'll just leave an excerpt from Bertrand Russell's Sceptical essays here(since no one can say it better): "Leibniz in his old age told a correspondent that he had only once asked a lady to marry him, and that was when he was fifty. 'Fortunately,' he added, 'the lady asked time to consider. This gave me also time to consider, and I withdrew the offer.' Doubtless his conduct was very rational, but I cannot say that I admire it."

@yadam415 7 жыл бұрын

The animations are always such good representations of the subject matter. I love the thought you all put into this!

@konii2541 7 жыл бұрын

I am so proud that I am Greek and thought about it many times before! Our feelings are fake, they encourage us to take risky (and stupid) decisions sometimes that we regret later

@matthieurheaume 7 жыл бұрын

This video is more relevant to impulsive behavior than emotional intelligence and paints a rather disappointingly shallow portrait of emotional self-respect. Plainly, this is only a one sided point of view and, sadly, helps perpetuate our cultural stigma against emotional responses.

@sekito2125 7 жыл бұрын

I wholeheartedly agree. Although TSoL usually present good ideas, this particular video that seems - at least superficially - to encourage people to doubt their emotions is simply insensitive to the amount of gaslighting already suffered by a lot of people with abusive parents, partners, bosses, friends etc. Many of the arguments presented in the video are also facts that are NOT related to emotional intelligence, e.g. Realizing the earth revolves around the Sun has less to do with doubting feelings but more to do with doubting knowledge and the established norms. Just because a person has opposite feelings in a matter of hours should in no way mean that the person should not trust his or her feelings, as there is always a reason for such a change, only that it is often unrecognized and will STAY unrecognized if the person doubts his of her feelings' reality

@hobbitkicker 7 жыл бұрын

matthieu rheaume - I agree especially with your last statement. I am in the US where we suffer from an "emotional anorexia" and though I saw this video as merely pointing out some faults that come with emotional reasoning, I think it reinforces the stigma that exists so strongly here. Unfortunately videos like this can be used by people that are struggling to grasp emotional intelligence to avoid that struggle and rely on logic strictly (which also has a long list of faults/fallacies). It would be great if they did a video on the faults of logical reasoning to counter this one.

@thisthisthisisisismy 7 жыл бұрын

There is no social stigma against emotional responses, it's quite the opposite in fact. You can readily see this on sites like youtube/facebook/twitter where emotional intuitive responses to videos/content are praised and given incredible amounts of visibility as contrasted with epistemically responsible responses. Your comment and others like it on this very video are great examples of this as well. Like many other comments like yours, you've made claims and have not supported them with clear arguments, rather you've shown your emotional disapproval of something without actually justifying that disapproval in an intellectually responsible way.

@georgiana1754 7 жыл бұрын

The video states that there is no way to perceive life without emotions which is why one should get exposed to something multiple times and analyze one's emotions every time before forming an opinion about that something. If it cannot be experienced multiple times than one should consider the factors that are potentially influencing their opinion about that something before stating it or taking it too seriously. I agree with you, I think emotions are very important and subtle guidelines (The School of Life states that too in other videos), but we have to admit they are also whimsical. The video is suggesting that we should apply some of the thorough analysis normally reserved for science in regard to our own feelings. I don't know about you but I call that emotional self-respect.

@thisthisthisisisismy 7 жыл бұрын

Insensitivity has no bearing on the strength or validity of the argument, in that truth is not dependent on how we feel about it. I feel that it is insensitive to for birds to fly in the presence of all who cannot fly, this feeling does not however have any bearing on the truth of the question "can I fly?". Your argument for not doubting your feelings is unclear to me, as saying that: "The fickle nature of emotional states does not mean that feelings shouldn't be trusted because 1- there are always reasons for changes in feeling 2-Those reasons will go unrecognized if those feelings are questioned" is implying that questioning your feelings, their origin, their intensity, their validity, will make it so that you won't discover the reasons for your emotional shifts, but that not questioning your feelings will let you understand that shift. Tell me, who has more depth of knowledge about a book: The person who reads it and enquires about the author, the historical context, how/why they reacted to work, how well received the book was/is , or the person who just reads it? If you want to better understand something, you question it and probe it, you do not just leave it untouched acknowledging it's presence.

@Boslandschap1 7 жыл бұрын

Sometimes, life punishes you for being a skeptic to your feelings. Or so it seems.

@zenkid83 7 жыл бұрын

Because of training in Zen, I have learned to be aware and less attached to inner emotional dialogue. And so one day when I was very sleep deprived I noticed how overly negative my mood was, and upon examination realized that because I was so tired I hadn't the mental energy to deal with the everyday stresses of life. It was a very good reminder of how precious healthy hours of sleep really are! I quickly reassured myself that all would be well in the morning...And it was!

@peterfraser2137 6 жыл бұрын

Wow, this was the best one yet. I had to listen to it about 4 times before I took it all in. And that understanding voice of yours is like money in the bank.

@pasquino0733 7 жыл бұрын

Thankyou School of Life, its great to have the neglected philosophy of Skepticism brought to the fore!

@Wingedmagician 7 жыл бұрын

Really needed to hear this, Im always knocked around by my feelings.

@rrayeclart7716 7 жыл бұрын

Rob Vel me too this is when i get told because im a cancerian im too sensitive etc .... like really😐😐😐 so i cant just be pissed off because some idiot ran into my car wtf

@chrisshotwell4442 4 жыл бұрын

Learning the difference between an external stimulus and my reaction to it is a skill I'm currently working on. This doesn't necessarily mean ignoring or pushing away my feelings, but rather noticing and acknowledging how I'm feeling, while simultaneously recognizing that it's just a feeling and that it's not caused by the slow car ahead of me, but, instead, my own reaction to it. This is how we gain freedom from our emotions without denying them.

@LittleMONSTERSeanG 5 жыл бұрын

Seems like an older video of yours I stumbled upon, but this one is a Golden Nugget to me. The more I go through your videos the more I am Fascinated by how well you can structure and explain each topic. - I have a personal Journal running since 2015 that Incorporates myself and others more to a Mechanical and Metaphorical Sense and in regards to this video I have my own variations but directly inline definitions of all these major points: Tiredness, Lust, Sudden Change of Perspective and the Observational Lenses. - So Interesting, thank you for making content like this. Looking forward to so much more.

@marwah1072 7 жыл бұрын

me: hears "strive to get to bed early" and agrees while making this comment at 1:18AM the irony

@SenhorAlien 3 жыл бұрын

Did you sleep yet, bro?

@drakefaden1464 7 жыл бұрын

Great video. Close to your best I'd say!

@GrimMayDie 6 жыл бұрын

This has to be your best video. The narrative, the ideas, the animations, the subject... everything was great. It must've taken months to make this video. Subbed.

@fancifulfoxtale 3 жыл бұрын

An alternative viewpoint could be that we don't listen to our feelings enough, we have them for a reason. Often it's the thoughts and judgements that we attach to those feelings that cause the difficulties. If we can take the time and really tune into our feelings with compassion and work out why we are feeling the way we do it can give us greater insight into our relationships with ourselves and others. NVC (non violent communication) has helped me a lot with this process.

@WintersArcher 7 жыл бұрын

Perception+feelings/memories=reality If I tell someone the "truth" I would still be lying to him/her. No matter how I speak, write, or draw to communicate my perception, it would not be accurate or 100% true. We do live in our own "worlds" lol The truth (good or bad) is in vibrations and that can never be false.

@PredatorH2O 3 жыл бұрын

Did you just come up with this to say we should make decisions through "vibe checks". Get over that shit.

@branimirmarold7343 7 жыл бұрын

"you" *SHOULD* trust feelings, always! .. feelings are always true and are natural survival tool .. fact! practical advice; use reason to look "outside" - use feelings to look "inside"! .. then make your own conclusion(s) there are lot of misleading "information" in this presentation .. author plays with terms and fact to no good. I watched dozens of vids on this channel and I respect work and sharing, but with all do respect I had to put this comment hopefully in positive constructive way :)

@pbonfanti 4 жыл бұрын

All kinds of propaganda and ideology spread because of techniques to manipulate feelings of people, accuse a man of something very bad, and the crowd will kill him without asking further questions.

@lexm9513 2 жыл бұрын

Yes ! I think we should trust feelings but not be deceived by conceptions that we turn those feelings into! We’re allowed to feel! To have anxiety! But let’s be rational with turning that into reason !

@Kobac1990 7 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making these. Just like when you hear a song you can completely relate to, or a book character that you totally get. It is a good deed in deed :) to hear from total strangers, from half a world away, what you your self were not able to put to words. Thank you for making these.

@cutechiangels 6 жыл бұрын

I like the animations very much. And ofcourse, the context too! Thx.

@Rehn98 7 жыл бұрын

Bravo! This is a fascinating topic, what are emotions but the varying chemical states of our brains. To be able to pull yourself away from making decisions or judgements when the metaphorical glass is distorted brings great control over our own lives. Thank you for this amazing video!

@mikitz 6 жыл бұрын

Agreed, only rational thoughts are also varying chemical states in our brain as well.

@alfredmohammed3590 7 жыл бұрын

It feels like I've been watching The School of Life Forever.

@moirosalina 7 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video. It feels like a guide to me, that also gives insight. Your channel is like a parent, I like that and I make use of it alot.

@sergeyfox2298 3 жыл бұрын

I think it's euphoric to believe I can just suspend judgment and evaluate the world around me. It feels so good that I can be so rational and not allow my feelings to be my guide. I feel good about being able to reason objectively, because to be objective makes me feel I can discover the world with more accuracy. To be able to reason through information and not allow my feelings to decide what is the case is a great feeling and comforting. It means I can learn the truth. As you see in my writing, I'm basically guided by my feelings regarding being rational and orderly in my thinking processes. The paradox of this video is that it is correct that my feelings can mislead me so I should trust logic and reason to guide me, yet it feelings that that my feelings tell me my rational abilities and logical reasoning abilities will prevent distortions in my perception. BASICALLY, feelings drive us to think our reasoning is not bias or at least a buffer against bias. Paradox

@engrtun 4 жыл бұрын

_“Get to bed early..”_ I just finished it at 4am.

@e.t.464 7 жыл бұрын

So feelings here are presented with a lens. A show of reactions, pattern, living daily life through memory rather then seeing things as they are presently. Constantly comparing, creating expectations in which one is attached to. Expecting something of ourselves, others around us, the future, living in a fragmented structure of thought. In such a state one has limited himself. To say who am I? Is to search for a conclusion, to have an image of yourself immediately limits you. To say what am I? Is to understand the human, you then will observe the body and mind. To have an image, idea, picture of yourself is to inevitably compare/measure that picture with other pictures. Its like becoming a bulletin board, an extension of yourself to compete with. Aka the ego. Im a loser, I'm a winner, words stick to me like tacks do to a board. An enormous waste of energy. To see all this is to have a very sharp, clear mind. To have care, attention, to be serious. Going through life unconscious, unaware. A dull mind. Why is one afraid to be nothing? Everyone has their petty little story. This is serious. We have created this societal structure which reinforces this kind of behaviour. We teach young people by example to grow up conforming to a pattern aka tradition. Look at religion. A a concept suspended by the human mind. All the rules it brings, the violence. Nations and their image, their pride. Rather then come together and be responsible we compete for our own personal horde of stuff.

@e.t.464 5 жыл бұрын

I remember being confused and frustrated during my youth when it came to emotions, I once thought "god it would be peaceful if I was emotionless". I would be exhausted after being sad or angry which would be often. I would ask myself "Why am I angry? Why am I sad?" I directed my anger to curiosity over such things. Keeping good health such as diet, weariness, thoughts, all play a part in regulating emotions. Keep a watchful eye on these things and see what happens. Thoughts can get quite complex and I find it to be a constant source of interest. My first comment here from 2016 was of my going through what it means to say "me", "self", can one truly change? I certainly have. I was thinking of creating a new account as sort of a representation of change and because I want a new name and picture (lol) silly but hey, tastes change. I can't bring myself to do it because I have comments all over YT like this video here where years later I can come upon an old comment of mine and see how much I have changed, or not. I also have playlists of videos I have collected. I will have to look into wether or not I can change the name on this account, then again I have comments that relate directly to this name and changing it will leave the old comments confusing (lol)

@ayewohelizabeth1308 3 жыл бұрын

What always gets to me: how relatable these videos are. 💜

@capgall727 7 жыл бұрын

"And strive to get to bed early" Hum no it isn't 2am whilst i'm watching this.

@ConTodayTempo 7 жыл бұрын

to simply throw ones feeling out like they're aren't to be trusted could get you into trouble perhaps somebody is being physically or emotionally abused is that person supposed to not trust their feelings or does this only apply to people that have nice happy lives

@SelmaaC 7 жыл бұрын

This is so true, thanks for the great videos you keep uploading

@nf-racing71 7 жыл бұрын

Could be there the possibility to record the sound a little higher? I find it rather frustrating to make so much effort in trying just to hear what is being said than thinking so, and wearing earpods is not a possibility. Please

@nf-racing71 7 жыл бұрын

alex b where I see the videos is not allowed to use them, we can do what ever we want but not that.

@EdSoCeRiAl 7 жыл бұрын

Good shit my dude. Deadass b I loved this video

@kindheartedgreatperson4769 7 жыл бұрын

New York nigga

@applepie55555 7 жыл бұрын

Action Basterd facts b

@EdSoCeRiAl 7 жыл бұрын

no i sleep in my jordan socks tf

@kindheartedgreatperson4769 7 жыл бұрын

Action Basterd fake new york nigga then

@EdSoCeRiAl 7 жыл бұрын

k. money on snake eyes ho

@reekreason2082 7 жыл бұрын

u make exceptional videos dude,highly appreciate that

@thegayphilospher Жыл бұрын

This was really nice to see. I’m healing from a lot of emotional trauma, and sometimes catch myself falling into cycles of negative feelings. I have to tell myself “feelings are not fact” daily. It’s so freeing once we are able to view thoughts and emotions objectively.

@lekhoavu1814 7 жыл бұрын

love your content. one thing tho, can you raise your volume a bit?

@kaspartambur 7 жыл бұрын

mindless fan boys, attack!!!!

@justanothershitheadfanboy1245 7 жыл бұрын

( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

@lekhoavu1814 7 жыл бұрын

steve gibson max volume on phone at night, still very quiet. The comment was made from a decision that wasnt based on mood.

@salamista 7 жыл бұрын

I second this. This is the only youtube channel where I have to adjust the volume when watching the videos. All the other ones are approximately the same volume.

@sammyatta 7 жыл бұрын

i also believe that sfx can be lower in volume. narration is far more important

@lambusaab 7 жыл бұрын

Get to bed early. Good suggestion.

@AJ213Probably 7 жыл бұрын

Impossible

@adrianglass1679 7 жыл бұрын

Amazing insight. Thank you for posting these clips.

@markmooroolbark252 3 жыл бұрын

Intuition , instinct and emotion have served me well in love, my working life and in my relationship with friends and family.

@eddielasowsky7777 7 жыл бұрын

The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it? Jeremiah 17:9

@mamunurrashid5652 7 жыл бұрын

Right......Feeling is always elusive,and should not be trusted much!! However,logic,thoughts are also not 'fact',and mostly 'elusive' and false,as is pointed out by Buddha....

@mamunurrashid5652 7 жыл бұрын

***** You need a 'history' lesson! Go back to school ;-)

@christiangraulau8107 7 жыл бұрын

Feelings can be be something to factor in with logic.

@mamunurrashid5652 7 жыл бұрын

^ Human brain(mind) is miserable in both section(feeling and logic)!