Sorry Karen, blame the internet for the Karen thing. Whats the most stupid, shocking things someone has said to you? Maybe I should make a part two? Submit yours bellow. :) Videos to check out next: 8 Wheelchair user assumptions kzfaq.info/get/bejne/kL5yaKWHsd_cZX0.html Stupid things people said to me about my disability kzfaq.info/get/bejne/psdiYMKmxtWmooU.html Customs Officer Said this to me! kzfaq.info/get/bejne/oc2FY7Bly8e2e3k.html 11 Wheelchair user Pet Peeves kzfaq.info/get/bejne/d6iBdZWL0NWWY5c.html SUBSCRIBE :bit.ly/2zSEo1R

I'm an ambulatory wheelchair user. When people who usually see me in my chair see me walking, they say "so glad you're feeling better!" Or "nice to see you up and about!" It's not like the flu. Walking doesn't mean I'm "feeling better". It means that walking fits the situation I'm in right now, and I will probably be very cranky because walking hurts and is exhausting.

I was told by a stranger a few years ago, after seeing me in my wheelchair, 'I'd hate to be like you'. I replied 'that's OK, I'd hate to be like you too.' She then angrily shouted 'you don't know anything about me!' So I told her, 'yeah and you know nothing about me, see how it's the same'. One thing I do know is that's she's incredibly ignorant so I am in fact glad I'm not like her.

One night I had to go out to a local petrol station to run an errand. I was in the shop when this woman walked past me and said to her daughter "I didn't know wheelchairs could go out at night". I turned round and replied "yeah, us 'wheelchairs' need to run mundane errands too!"

I'm 24 (but look 18), multiple invisible illnesses and an assistance dog.... So lots and lots of comments. A recent thing was getting out of the car in a disabled bay, with my blue badge clearly on display. Getting my pup vested up, someone parked in the other disabled bay next to me. She looked at me and very loudly tutted, shaking her head at me. I just walked into the shop. On the way out, I quickly looked at the car and they didn't even have a badge themselves! Just because you're 30 years older than me, you are not entitled to a disabled parking spot! And then judge me because I am! Another one was someone casually claimed my assistance dog is fake, because I'm not blind! (She's a medical alert and response dog.) Then went on to ask where she could get a vest so she could have her dog in public with her. Assistance dog stories are so many, and she's only been working for less than a year and on a remote island. People trying to pull her away from me, petting her behind my back when we're in a cafe, trying to sneak her food (only realised because she wouldn't take it and they lended over so far), grown men making kisses noises at her, pointing at me, feeling its their place to 'test' her or I should 'prove' my disability for them.

Sitting with another wheelie friend some guy came up to us: "if you buy my CD you can walk again" when we said no he responded with "see, that attitude is why you can't walk" (that's assuming that I could walk to begin with... 🤦🏻‍♂️ I could but have many friends who were born unable to walk so assuming someone in a wheelchair could walk to begin with is already strike one and it just goes down hill from there). I've also been called a quiter, or weak-minded for using a wheelchair instead of trying to walk. What am I supposed to do? Lie in bed all day? It's not like I can even crawl or anything.... Someone that I knew almost my entire life actually had the guts to tell me that I just gave up and just need to keep trying, needless to say I cut all ties with that person after that.

It feels like someone say why don’t you just stop being depressed. Yup totally just going to flip that imaginary switch and be fine out of nowhere

"Oh, you don't need a wheelchair! It's all in your mind!" Yes, it is. It's MS, but when I'm dreaming of playing hackysack and wake up to go pee but fall on the floor because my legs don't work, it's not just in my my mind, is it? It's in my BRAIN!!

I have cerebral palsey. When I was in the supermarket for the first time after giving birth to my first born son. An ex co-worker said/asked " wow is he yours?" It hurt so much! Just because I have something going on with my legs it doesn't mean I can't have kids...🤷🏻‍♀️

Some of the faces you pulled in this really made me laugh from relatability! Wasn't expecting any of these to shock me but I genuinely gasped at the "they let you out for the day" 😳 I'm disabled, Karen, I'm not a serial killer!

Me in store uniform stocking shelves, service dog by my feet Customer: "do you work here. Oh no you can't. Never mind"

I can't wait for this! There are so many people who love to comment on our disabilities despite having zero knowledge or empathy

I was in a lion king show at in Disney once (bleacher style seating, kind of like a high school gym so they put wheelchair users up front on the floor) and a family came and chose to sit in the next tier up from where I was seated and the mother proceeded to loudly complain about sitting behind me "cause my babies deserve the best seat more" and among many demeaning things she said the one that hurt the most was "Why do they put these people up front, it's unfair, they should be at the back." and just kept complaining and huffing and sighing. I was 12 at the time and held back tears the entire show and anded up bursting into tears as soon as we got out of the auditorium.

Molly Burke (another youtuber) has a video of her doing a lie detector test because people kept saying that she is faking being blind, because she does not "look blind" and is into fashion event though she can't see.

Several months ago at work I acted as our greeter/security for the store and due to my disability my manager gave me a chair to sit in and do my job. A Karen came in, saw me sitting and I greeted her pleasantly and she responded by looking me up and down and loudly exclaiming "there ain't nothing wrong with you." I stared at her in shock before asking what she meant. "There's nothing wrong with your legs!" I finally snapped at her (which I never do at work) "actually there is something VERY WRONG with my legs!"

Oh god, the three that I get all the time that you mentioned: - You’re too young! - What did you do then? - When will you get better? Also, people talking to my other half/the friends I’m with rather than me. GAAAAAH!

I don’t need my wheelchair all the time, but the amount of people that walk into the front of you, ( when they can clearly see someone pushing you ) and totally ignoring me like I don’t exist is unbelievable. X

Yes - Until I started wearing a hearing aid that was plainly visible ( and even now) I got the "you dontt look / sound deaf". Hey ho. You dont look like a small minded fool, but there you go looks can be deceiving. (NOT You Gem, defo not you)

I was to yelled at by someone while shaking her finger in my face " it should stay at home where it belongs"! Her daughter was mortified and I was angry, confused and completely speechless.

A friend broke his back and a ex very stupid friend went up to him and said “if you broke your back why don’t you just walk after it gets better.”

"Let me pray for you" While reaching to lay hands on me.

I have fibromyalgia and always hear, "You don't look sick."

I have just started using a wheelchair out of the house, I have multiple disabilities, and I get “why are you in that chair, you can walk” Whilst having my chemo, my hair fell out and I got “so what’s with shaving your hair off” xx

I had some lady look me up and down and say "I bet you were vaccinated " and walked away

I just remembered another one that happened to me whilst in primary school. My brother and I played cricket after school and we had our first match against a different schools team not the usual local team we played. Me and my brother both have a club foot opposite feet in fact. This affects our ability to run, my brother also has dyslexia as well which had onlu been diagnosed so he is still battling all these years later with coordination issues. We arrive at the event and get out the minibus enter the changing rooms and our teacher who runs the cricket club looked at me, my brother and our mate who has cerebral palsy and says "Yous 3, dont bother padding up. Your staying on the bench I don't want us to lose this game and your gonna hold the team back. Dont worry If there's time at the end I'll let yous come on." we were only 7 or 8 at the time, I hadn't even started using my wheelchair yet. I never played cricket again. I also beat my whole class bar 1 in pe in highschool. We had to do situps and because I have no pelvis plate on the left and because of my back condition I don't have corse strength. My teacher let me use a vault box stacked so my feet could the ground and act as leverage to replace what I didn't have. After our 2 minute timed attempt I had done 262 situps (this was in my youth lol) the highest being 300. All the jocks in the class started complaining about how I cheated "he cheated Sir, he's a bloody cripple hows he able to do more than me, his score shouldn't count" The teachers response "well done Callum that was very impressive, lads how is it you think he cheated? He doesn't have a core!! all I did was make it so he could compete on equal terms, sore losers much" Best teacher ever, even gave me official fifa referee cards and I became the class referee for football. A small part of me would love to woop ass at wheelchair basketball against these guys as they'd be hopeless. A very eye opening moment for me.

I had someone come up to me as I was about to unlock my car and say "NO NO NO! Say away from that person's car! Where is your care giver!"

I have chronic daily migraine. I've literally had a singular migraine for almost four years. The pain level varies but it never goes away. -"It's all in your head 🤣🤣🤣". Actually no, it isn't, migraine can affect your whole body. Mine makes me nauseous all the time. -"But if you're in that much pain every day you should be used to it". What??? 🤬 I can't just magically ignore pain just because it happens all the time, it's still bloody painful. -"But you can walk/talk/have a job/live alone". As if every disabled person is nonverbal, paralyzed, jobless and needs 24/7 care. -"It's not chronic until it's been a decade". Umm what??? -"It's just a little headache, drink a Sprite and take some Excedrin". No, it's not "just a headache", it's a migraine. A migraine is "just a little headache" like cardiac arrest is "just a little chest pain". Also either of those will land me in the ER, caffeine makes my migraine really really bad extremely fast. -"You can't have a migraine if you're posting/commenting online". Yes I can, not everyone is light sensitive. Also blue light filters are a thing. And I've even gotten garbage from disabled people. -"I don't let MY disability stop me from living my life". Well good for you, I find it just a little bit hard to do stuff when turning my head makes me throw up, my head feels like it's exploding and the brain fog is so bad I can't remember my own birthday. -"Don't say you suffer because of your disability, you suffer because of how society treats you because of your disability". No, I suffer because of my disability, being in pain every single day for years isn't fun. -"Make your disability your superpower". I fail to see how head pain, nausea, and sensitively to sound and smells is a superpower. Unless you mean the ability to smell someone smoking 100s of feet away that'll cause me to spend the next two days in bed??? -"That's not a real disability, no wonder people think disabled people are a joke". Uh, yes it is. Can we stop infighting and work together? Like how hard is it to be kind?

I had a family member tell me that I had to leave their house because my wheelchair was scratching up their floor. I haven't been back to their house since. Also, I had another family member tell me to get out of the chair because it's doing more damage than good.

I was out to lunch with friends at a place I'd gone many times before, but this time I had my bamboo walking stick with me (we were going to go hiking afterwards). It is a big stick, but that's because it's gotta be a bit more versatile and beefy than my normal cane. My friends noted to me that the employees and other customers were gawking at me, and I was later approached by the manager... who told me that one of his customers "didn't feel safe" with me and my stick. I told him off and told him to tell his customer (later identified as an older-aged white woman) that I really couldn't help my mobility issues and if she had a problem with it, to please look up the ADA (this was in America). His face turned bright red and he excused himself with his tail between his legs. Said Karen continued to stare at me the entire time and made my entire group of friends uncomfortable. Never went back.

I don't use a wheelchair, but my boyfriend does. When we go out, people talk to me instead of him. I'm deaf, so I just look at him to translate. He's not the one with the communication barrier. I also get asked why I'm with someone who uses a wheelchair. And comments about our sex life like it's any of their business. I also once got told that I should be reported for kissing him. This was entirely consensual and between two adults. How is that any of their business?

I hate how often random strangers ask my partner “what’s wrong with you then ?......actually NOTHING is wrong with him, he has a spinal cord injury 😡. Also that people assume if you have a strong mind you can overcome your injury.....yeah right, like he can hypnotise his mind into repairing a severed spinal cord !

I've learned to deal with "Why don't you just take an extra step each day?" I now say back "Why don't you think before you speak?"

even as an able bodied person it hurts my soul that these were said by people who considered them self reasonable humans, so I can only imagen how it feels for a disabled person hearing it said to them.

Something that was said to me by every teacher I had in elementary school, (I have ADHD among other things, every ADHD student me included was treated like this) " You don't actually have that " " your using it as an excuse " " That's fake " " That isn't real " " You should go on medication " " you have to do things how we teach it "

The one that annoys me the most as a wheelchair user is the assumption I can somehow go upstairs. I've had that several times, I can only assume they've seen Daleks in Doctor Who navigate stairs and think that wheelchairs have the same technology...

Ive had a few myself. The first was in a nightclub so alcohol or something else was more than likely responsible for this one. You wouldnt be disabled if you believed in the spirits of the trees. My Aunty banned me from coming round to her house as she had just redecorated and didnt want me to scratch her new paintwork. The most infuriating one was when i turned up at a bird hide at the same time as a friend, he left before me and someone else said to me "Isnt he your keeper?" Even if he said carer that would be bad enough but keeper? Im still a human being not a possession.

My doctor asked me why I was walking with a crutch. Told him the chronic pain in my legs from fibromyalgia makes it impossible for me to walk unaided. He was surprised.

I've had the line "Can you feel you feel your legs at all?" (Touches a part of my leg expecting me to feel it I mean seriously WTF?!)

I absolutely hate if someone asks “what’s wrong with you” and I decide I’m not dealing with it and tell them the truth “I’m autistic” (they usually ask cause I have a service dog) and then they proceed to argue with me that I’m not autistic. Like what is your right to say what is and is not wrong with me, then they proceed to go into on well my needs is autistic and you don’t act like him. Then I have to take time out of my day to explain each person is a individual and doesn’t experience things in the same way.

When I was a kid I was in brownies and the brownie leader didn't let me go to brownie camp. I was outright banned from even applying to go and when they finally let me go after me going to that brownies for years they only let me go for one day. Looking back at my childhood i can see so much ableism it's insane

Hello Gem. I have just watched this, and I hope you do a PART 2. I wanted to share with you something that was said to me. For context, I am a man and full time manual wheelchair user. A few years ago, I was talking to a female friend the pub I was working in at the time. The conversation was about relationships, and I was single at the time. This woman looked me in the eye and actually said: "When you date again, make sure you stick to your own species" Yes, "species" is the exact word that was used!

-“Wow! You have a pretty wheelchair! You are obviously okay, money-wise”(at the welfare office applying for food stamps) -“I want your wheelchair, walking hurts” -“can I have sex with you in your wheelchair? I have a thing for wheelchairs” -“why do you need a ramp? You just want everyone to revolve around you!” -“glad my tax dollars are being used properly “ (lady watching me get lifted on a bus) -“your wheelchair is reminding me of death and illness. I can’t be your friend anymore.” -“you’re a fire hazard. We can’t have you in our choir”

'Wish I was on one of those' (Me on my scooter). so many times!!

I get the "What happened to you?" question at times. If it's comes off with a snarky tone, I look them straight in the eye and say "Too much masturbation" and roll away. I'm thinking about having a bumper sticker made.

I’ve had to deal with most of those comments at some point. I was at a festival and someone came up to my friend and asked why did my friend bring me in my wheelchair as it was bringing down her “high” 😡 ive had the “get up! let me have a go!” From someone who was way to drunk. Who then decided he wanted to sit on my lap as he hurt his knee at football 😤 ive also had the “oh my gosh if I had to be a cripple like you I would have killed myself by now” the worst ones are where a random stranger asks about my private medical history and then was angry when I said I don’t know you and I don’t want to talk about it. She then yelled “well you deserve to be in a wheelchair! I just hate that I have to pay for you(me) to live!” ..... must admit I did want to punch her at that point but I wasn’t going to waste one of my spoons (energy) on someone that disgusting 😂🤗🥰🤗

Worth a positive in these comments… Gentleman simply offered to reach things from an upper shelf in the supermarket if I needed them. No assumption, just a genuine observation and offer. As it happens it appears I’m partly orangutan, so can reach the top shelf anyway 🤪 - but an excellent, genuine offer with no prejudice,

I use a walking stick because I have mobility issues. One day I went for a job interview as an executive assistant and the person I was going to work for made a so called joke and asked me if I used my walking stick as a weapon if people got in my way. I was not impressed by this and whilst I didn't get the job, I wouldn't have wanted it anyway with that kind of attitude.

I got this one other day, I wish I had one those chairs. My favorite response is I wish I had a working body. Dead silence.

My wife only has hearing in one ear, so she can't hear a thing from her deaf side. She works in a bar and she always apologises if she hasn't noticed something that has been said. She explains she's deaf on that side and the usual response is they say "what" thinking they're funny or they shout their order - again thinking they're funny.

"i wish i was in one of those" throws me off so bad when able bodied people say it bc a lot of people who are trying to get a chair to improve their quality of life already deal with internalized ableism telling them that they dont need it and are just treating it like a toy

I REALLY hate when my husband and I go somewhere with him pushing my wheelchair and rather than asking me questions or speaking to me directly they ask my husband like I am a child. That is SO insulting and I just answer myself. My husband tells them to ask me but even places we have been multiple times like doctor's offices still keep doing it.

I don't have my wheelchair YET but my own mom asked "if you can walk, why do you need a wheelchair?" as if 5 minutes ago my hip didn't dislocate mid-step in the middle of a store causing me to face plant into the floor.

I especially never understand parents who just can’t seem to tell their children about disabilities. It’s a really simple thing to answer that some peoples bodies just work differently and sometimes they may need to use equipment to help with that

It’s not the worst thing but people always ask me who I’m training my assistance dog for.... I’m usually happy to talk about Maria and I can explain what she does for me without going too much into my conditions, on a good day I can explain lots of different tasks and how much she’s made my life easier (she’s owner trained and we actually bred her but then she started naturally alerting at around the same time I actually (finally) got my first diagnosis. I get the “lucky you get to take your dog” comments sometimes too, it’s actually harder because 1) she’s still learning 2) I have to remember to take her stuff as well as mine 3) people and this year she’s gone backwards a little because we’ve just not been able to get out, she gets back in the swing then we have to stay home again PIP assessments are the worst! I had a child (maybe 3) run up and try to grab my stick while I was walking with it, luckily I was with my friend who spotted the kid (coming in from my blind area) and put her hand between to stop him with a firm ‘no’ then looked up at the parent and made firm eye contact until she called him back. (I told her if it happened again not to try to catch me if I went down)

I'm a newly part-time chair user. I need all the prep I'm gonna get 😅 I thought I got enough of the dumb comments with my cane.

I say this most videos like this but I'm constantly told "maybe you should save that for the elderly and disabled" because I walked in from the car? Sometimes even in response to my own walker, like as if my purchase of a mobility device is taking away from others?

This happened to me last week when I was going in to a dunkin donuts across the street from my bank and I had an older gentlemen say to me that I needed money to get a coffee and donut from there , not realizing that I just came across the street in my power whèelchair from my bank so that I had money to buy a cup of Joe ☕and some donuts 🍩🍩. I guess that he was assuming that because I was dressed casual (pants, t shirt that says life begins after coffee and sneskers) and that I'm in my power chair, he assumed that I had no money and was going to beg for a coffee and donut. He followed me in there and was behind me when I placed my order and took out a 20 dollar bill to pay for it, he had this shocked look on his face like how dare that I have cash on hand in my wallet. I guess that he was under the impression that because I'm physically disabled, I can't handle money either.

I'm an ambulatory wheelchair user and I've had dirty looks and hushed whispers about faking when I pull up in my car walk to the boot and pull out my wheelchair (same when I do the reverse). I also get a lot of "fat isn't a disability" "you aren't disabled you're just fat" and "if she actually walked then she wouldn't be so fat". I am obese, but obviously, that is not the reason I use my chair or scooter, besides not that it's anyone else's business, my health problems, disability, and medications are major contributors to my weight gain and also barriers to my weight loss attempts. I once had someone in response to me asking them not to let their kids attempt to scare my (pet) dog dismiss me by saying "Go get some salad in your fridge" I'm still yet to work out what my weight had to do with anything or why it meant my dog deserved to be harassed by poorly supervised children.

PMSL had 95% of these said to me. The deaf bit i pull off one of my hearing aids.

My favourite one is when a person I knew briefly at my uni 2 years ago hadn't ever seen me walk, as I'm ambulatory and have scoliosis among other things. I walk in using my walking stick and he says "OMG YOUR WALKING ITS A MIRACLE!!!" the caps are necessary as it literally belted it out in our media area lounge, I don't hold it against him but this has been said many a time. The other one thats a cracking insult (Sarcasm) "Why don't you get job, why should I have to pay for you to sit on your ass" I've applied for 3 jobs in the past 2 months. I've spent the past 4 years studying to masters level qualifications but no I'm just a scrounger lmao 😔

I am from Australia. I was looking in a shop window in a mall that was on a slope. I was on my way to the train station. I stopped to have a look at something in a shop window. All of a sudden a guy come up behind me grabbed my chair & said "Are you OK, do you need a hand". Before I had a chance to answer him he was pushing me up the hill to the train station. He didn't even ask me if that's where I wanted to go. Another one I get alot is if I'm out with someone & we're waiting at a counter to order food. Some staff will turn to the person with me & will ask them " what would she like". They usually get the response " She can talk for herself, ask her what she wants". I love the startled look on their face. Or people that push infront of you in the queue. If I can be seen, when the person asks who's next, I will say "I was actually here before this person". You should see the look on that persons face in the queue - It's like them saying " This person can speak". I love your videos.

Ha. I have Raynaud’s disease which means when I get cold or stressed or sick, my hands and feet turn blue. It started happening when I was 11. I was still a teenager I think, and my mom was in the hospital and a cardiologist came by to see her and I happened to mention it in front of him. And he, the doctor himself, told me I was too young for that! Well doc, I don’t know what to tell you, unless my innards are secretly older than me.

Everytime I go out with anyone who looks non-disabled (a friend, my mum, my dog, etc.) and everyone talks to those people to avoid talking to me in my wheelchair. On top of it, my pronouns are they/them. So usually what happens is they'll say to my friend "does she want a receipt?" but they are right in front of me talking about me. So I'm hit with the erasure of ablism and transphobia in one small question which a non-disabled person assumes is completely innocent. Meanwhile I'd like to run over their toes just a little bit. -Pleiades

Although it’s not disability related I was really struggling on my birthday at the beginning on the month and someone stupidly said to me “well at least your alive”. So I replied back “you know what people are allowed to feel bad that every holiday they booked last year was cancelled and their birthday was cancelled and they didn’t even get their gifts from relatives due to lockdown”. So person replied back that I was making a fuss over nothing and that I should be great full for being alive. Well screw that person when I’m struggling as it is to cope with covid as it is. Especially since I have autism and my routine has totally gone out the window due to covid. add to that I moved house last year so Iv left everyone behind.

"you have MS? Well lucky for you that they have a cure for that now!" " If you would just try to walk! you know if you don't use it you will loose it " -- 😭.....🤮🤧

Being fat is not a disability!!! Ugh. I have RA/Fibromyalgia I’m on several meds that put weight on!

The worst thing said to me wasn't about my disability, but my brother's - I'd just been referring to him in passing (not talking about his disability), and they said, "don't you think it would have been better if he hadn't been born though?" Er, no.

I was at a pharmacy once where a person working there asked me where my carer was so I could go home. I pointed out the window at my van and told her I drove myself here. She was extremely shocked. 🙄

Exercising tolerance is a must when out on the wheels I've found. For what ever reason people seem to be compelled to say something and anything which I take with a grain of salt.

guy ,"Sweetheart that parking is for disabled" .... Me : pulls out wheel chair older woman "Stop playing in that wheelchair , Im going to throw you out , Its not funny !" Me : leaves swiftly to contact manager . Total strangers asking ... What happened ? People speaking to whomever Im with when Im the one wanting the service (i have the cash) "Let me help you" as someone comes up behind you and starts pushing the wheelchair !! its the reason I have no handles on my chair .

I use to let bad comments hurt me. But it only makes me want to sing on my KZfaq channel more. I don't mind bad comments anymore.

I keep having the nurses at my doctors office ask me if I want them to push me when they come to the waiting room to call me back to the treatment room. Just want to scream. If we need help we will ask, don't ask us!!!

I can walk to a limit. One of my neighbours. Said that I don't need a wheelchair or scooter. As I can walk with my dog. I said to her that no every disability is not noticeable. I have jelly feet and it's going into my ankles. Plus I take really bad tias. And I gave really bad nerve damage siaita. And the doctors said that I will be wheelchair bound in 10 years. That was about 7 years ago. I tried to fight this illness. But this illness is starting to get to my legs. My feet are getting really sore. Some people say to me. How come I gave seen you walking. Now you are using the scooter. You are going to lose the power of your legs. I just laugh and say to them. You have my illness you would probably give into it. They go really quite

I cant wrap my head around the fact that their are so ignorant to disabled peoples

My top one was someone turned and saw me on my crutches and asked completely straight-faced "Are you a cripple?" 😑

I've enjoyed!! watching Your videos. And Yes People Can really be STUPID!! I Really Hate It !!! When people Assume your not normal.

I tell people there’s nothing stopping them going out and buying one if they mention they’d really like an aid. Sometimes drop how much a good wheelchair costs in too. I keep getting asked how I am with stairs now everything is phone appointments, I would’ve thought they’d made a note by now! I just say erm not good I use a wheelchair most of the time.

Called an ambulance for a friend who needed assistance after an incident whilst driving, Operator asked how she was possibly driving if she was a person with a disability *eyeroll*

Please make a Part 2! The most annoying one I've had someone say to me so far: "Make sure you don't become too dependent on it [my wheelchair]". I asked her on multiple occasions to explain what she meant by that, and she never could - all she could say was that she knew people who had become too dependent on their wheelchairs and that that wasn't good. Which is sad, because this person is a friend of mine and I've been one of their dog walkers when they go out of town (and the only reason I'm able to walk their dog is because she pulls, which pulls me along, which in turn keeps my legs from giving out on me when I walk). Apparently she thought that because she had once worked in a disabled veterans rehab facility that she knows better than I do what I am and am not capable of, and so could make decisions for me as well. A few weeks later, she saw me walking around in the parking lot after church and commented that I must be doing a lot better simply because I wasn't in my chair (I've never used it in church because I can sit whenever I need to, and there's no elevator up to the choir loft but there is a railing the entire way up) - I politely retorted, "Haha - no. You should have seen me in the choir loft - I could barely keep my balance!" (POTS, which affects me in such a way that it makes me a part time w/c user). Every time I've seen her since and it was an accessible location (i.e. pretty much anywhere other than church), I've made sure to use my chair, just to prove my point. She's the only person who knows me personally who has made that kind of comment - everyone else either ignores it (in the same way one ought to ignore a service dog) or is genuinely curious/interested. Another one I've gotten: one of the times I had someone on the mobility assistance crew pushing me through the airport, at one of my gates I stood up momentarily to readjust, and when I sat back down, he asked me, "did you just stand up??", apparently astonished. I calmly replied, "Yes. Not everyone who uses a wheelchair is unable to stand." I still get pleasure out of grocery shopping in my wheelchair only to stand up out of it and climb up to reach things on the top shelf - breaking the stereotype just by going about my regular daily activities. One I got from someone who saw me out practicing curbs in the parking lot across the street from her house (that parking lot has the perfect curb for learning): "Do you know so-and-so? He's in a wheelchair, too." One I got from my mom (of all people) about a month after I started using a chair: I was at my cousin's wedding, and I love swing dancing (have to space it out so I can rest in between each one, since the chair is mostly for fatigue as opposed to issues with walking itself) so I made to get up out of my chair to dance with my dad for the third time, and my mom actually told me outright "if you keep doing that, people are going to think you're suddenly healed". I turned around and looked her straight in the face and said "you think I actually care?!" I put my other one in my comment on the Pet Peeves video - when someone asked me what I had done to end up in the chair and I said "nothing", he replied loudly enough that the dozen or so people near us could hear him clearly, "so it's just for fun, then?", I retorted just as loudly "Heck no! If it was just for fun, I wouldn't be doing it!" Someone possibly wanting to make light of the situation epically failing and ending up just saying something really offensive, which was disappointing because I would never have expected it from anyone in that particular organization (most of whom have known me literally my entire life). I've also gotten the "so it's just for fun?" from someone I went to school with, but he wasn't being patronizing or trying to be funny (and he didn't say it loudly enough for anyone else other than me to hear him), he was genuinely trying to understand (I hadn't seen him since several years prior to having to use a w/c), so it only made me slightly annoyed. I will also take my chair with me if I know the seating provided wherever I'm going will or might be uncomfortable, because, while my chair still needs some modifications (I've only had it 3 1/2 months so we're still fine tuning things), it's at least measured correctly for me, and it's basically impossible to find a regular chair that's actually small enough for me because my legs are so short (I'm barely 5').

I am in a power wheelchair and I have had people asked me how am I getting home and when I tell them that I drove myself they just looked shocked and change the subject.

Not rude as such but whenever I’m on the bus and the bus drivers swap over they always say “there’s a wheelchair onboard getting off at X” or even “sorry ma’am you need to move your pram so the wheelchair can get on” I use an electric wheelchair and 99% of the time referred to as “wheelchair” by transport staff😂

My friend who is also in a wheelchair hates going out in public with me because of the stupid stuff that people say to us. Some of the most common things is people will come up to us and tell us to stop racing we are not at the racetrack. Funny thing is that they are usually going faster than we can. Then another favorite is when they ask if we are twins. Then when we say no and ask why they are like oh I just thought that with the wheelchairs and all that you could possibly be twins.🤦‍♀️

I got the "you're so brave" for taking a National Express coach on my own with my walking frame. Admittedly it was brave because the last time I had to argue with the driver about putting my frame in the luggage area but because three pushchairs were in there, there wasn't much space.

I have been embarrassed when I have been on my own in my wheelchair people have said how do you go to the toilet I say I can go just like you I can't because I have a permanent bag

Someone had walked past me really fast and made the comment with a laugh, “I’d hate to see what the other person looks like.” It took me several seconds for it to register in my brain before I could reply back to him but he was already long gone. I’m a paraplegic, complete, and besides using my wheelchair to get around I also had a cast on my leg for I had broken my ankle. (This incident was about 22.5 yrs ago) That guy thought he was being funny thinking I was in some kind of fight. I remember feeling embarrassed at first than I got angry. I wanted to go find him and educate him but like I had said he was long gone. Some people need to think before speaking.

The amount of looks I get when my husband is parking our car in a disabled parking bay, and we put the badge out, and it’s mainly from older people. I’m 51 x

I am a new ambulatory wheelchair user, with a fresh new disabled parking placard. I am gearing up to go out in the world with these items for the first time and I'm already leary :/

I always go out of my way to explain things to kids and get them to see my wheelchair as something g cool, it’s up to us to educate the next generation, their parents are hardly going to do it! 😂

OMG I was married to a lady who was a wheelchair user and this video brought back so many memories, I recall when our son was young that a woman come up and said " never mind, your mum will soon be able to walk" he exploded and told the woman that his mother would be not be able to walk. Also had a DHSS officer at about the same time if Susan still had multiple sclerosis or had it gone away. Superb channel

One of my favourites is “ you mustn’t be too sick then if you are still can ride a horse” 🤦🏻‍♀️

"You're too young to be sick." Oh my GOD, I've gotten this from SO many people.. Even some Doctors when I was younger, as my issues are typically seen in older individuals, but it's absolutely not unheard of at, say, age 27 when I was diagnosed - Long before the chair. But hey, genetics. But that one drives me NUTS...

being asked where my carer is really gets on my nerves. I am blind and have been asked if someone could read a letter to me because the organisation sending it couldn't be bothered to send me a copy in an accessible format.

Most recent I had an older man, 70s probably say to me "You should be doing more with your life." Like what??? I hardly sleep due to PTSD, pain and having to relocate several limbs numerous times a night. Am then thankful if I can even get out of my bed in the morning. I do my freelance work, volunteer and get on with the everyday things that all adults have too do. Is the walking the thing I am not trying hard enough at? because unfortunately I can't walk anymore. Ironically he was a member of the Rotary Club and his local organisation was trying to persuade me to becoming a member. Never gonna happen now.

From my MOTHER: "are you sure you need to being your crutches, they end up getting in the way" 😢

"Your wheelchair will ruin my floor." Ruin, as in a potential smudge that might take a few seconds to wipe away?

I had a doctor tell me it was pointless getting assesed for dyspraxia (DCD) because I was older than 19, and past the age of 19 dyspraxia magically turns into dyslexia🙄

That moment when you say "yes" to the majority of the list...

Not said to me, but said to my partner when the guy had already seen us together: Why is your friend in a wheelchair then? They'd assumed we couldn't be together as she's able bodied. They were taken aback when she said she was my partner 🙄

The let out for the day comment made me frown at the screen in incredulity! They were all bad of course but that took the top prize!

I’ve known some rude people, but the one that hit hard was my own mother-in-law telling me that I need to up and walk, I’ve never been mean enough to tell her to get over her anxieties