He was so perfect for her....I'm sad for him...

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I literally loved him

He was so distracted by her beauty 🥰😍👸🏾

Nice guys finish last lol

Sweettimesxo exactly she wants a bad boy and that’s not the way to go

PREACH!!!

So she has to live a life of misery being with someone she's not attracted to? She was just being nice in saying he's "too sweet" - she wasn't attracted to him at all.

Attraction is a timely thing, it will fade out. I was pissed initially, but later realised that she don't deserve him. He's nice that doesn't mean she is alright.

You look like her 😂😂😂😂

EXACTLY. i cannot

Were out there. Not 21 yet but not everyone under 25 is stupid lol

@@francisdesagun3314 me as well

@@jayp6120 if choosing a superior race over a thug is being that, then she is.

Lauren Henley “superior race”? Wtf you racist

Lauren Henley “Superior race”? That’s idiotic and racist. Caucasian is not superior to any other race.

@@aliciaanderson2599 they're "superior" but they age poorly 😭😭🤣

Me too, he's 💯 my type

michellebelle really? he came across as naive to me

naive based on what?

Yeah 21... 😳

What did you expect him to do? Ask her to come play video game or something immature in front of the girl, he wants to seduce?

Jules A lol no??? You know you can present maturity through your personality and your actions& your words?? The way he presented himself was mature. Idk where you got the video game idea from 😂 you can be mature and play video games too 😂😂😂😂

Echa Me too 😌

Right here bb

Me too

Echa same

No one likes nice guys

Meeka b We all make stupid choices when we are young.

One Word....Christian Rock

Thats what you want not her

Same, i'm 21 and never have a boyfriend 🙈

Where did she say she wanted a bad boy that would treat her like dirt?? She was trying to be nice and saying "you're too sweet," but she really meant to say "I want someone who looks more masculine." He's very thin and pale. She's just not attracted to him. She can find someone she's ACTUALLY attracted to and treats her right.

That was a gorgeous thing she said!

Mehek Mehta So CUTE! I know! ❤️

That was totally fake lol. He used that as a smooth save for him actually losing his train of thought or he just has that in his arsenal to flatter women. Lol he wasnt even looking at her when he was speaking.

A'chynee Edmundson I still liked it.

+A'chynee Edmundson exactly. Females stay falling for men's bs 😢😂😂

Naive.... just 21

He looks like the age she guessed: 27 haha

@@knf4451 he looks 39 to me 👀

@@himynameiscandle7002 I thought he was over thirty..

@Love 23Amazed well you can see in this comment section what women really want i dont know what she was thinking

He is a soyboy

Yeah true. Thought they would have a moment because of the religious thing regardless, but that didn't happen.

Because religon defs doesn't make the "type" go away!

Mbula M. I mean he’s like a slice of bread so

Fortune Finder Yeah me too! I was surprised at the end when things shifted so quick 😶

picante noodlez LOL a slice of bread?

👏🏾👏🏾Right? Lol Me personally I don’t mind a nice guy at all after dealing with real assholes. However, there’s no point in forcing attraction just to be miserable in the end. I wish them both well.

All these bitter insecure men. I've noticed it's a trend on Soul Pancake for the woman to be villanized if she knows what she wants. Like, would they rather their time be wasted going on these dates that they know won't lead to anywhere? And I didn't get the sense she wanted a 'bad boy' but more of a guy that looks/acts more edgy (i.e. less Christian rock).

Weird af, just because someone is nice doesn't mean they're right for you.. otherwise, why would he be single lol

Fade Away Hold on a second. She is not looking for a man on Tinder. She flaunts herself on an international youtube channel where she talks about her deepest (!)secrets to the whole world. Also she said that she feels like a jerk for what she thought about the guy. And thats probably the only thing she got right. She was really judgmental about the boy right from the beginning. She litetally "Otherised" the boy. ( canadian ?Mormon?? She does not even know what a Mormon is but damn sure that the boy is a canadian Mormon)

Thats the one thing I dislike about these videos. Anytime someone technically "rejects" the other person they go in on them smh. Like seriously people get over yourselves. If she dont wanna date the guy you think is perfect you should just take it as an opp to shoot your own shot. Let people like who they like.

I can’t relate either - I want sweet as I’ve never liked the bad boy!

Bc he's sweet she HAVE to date him right? Like she can't have her own choice

I'm pretty sure there's plenty of men "sweet" to her, it doesn't mean she has to give herself to EVERY man that is "sweet" to her. You females that says this...sounds desperate.

I looking for sweet I keep getting douche bags

She said too sweet. She likes an edge. Nothing wrong with that.

Well, I didn't think about that.

"...sooo apparently some women really need to get the stick out of their asses with it comes to being the older than a man when it comes to dating, especially when he is more mature, level headed, and put together than 90% of the people older than him." There you go. Finished it for ya.

Fyrecide ok

Yeahhh... I thought that too

I think it's the haircut too. She seemed to mention that a lot.

Agreed. I think that's why he prefers older women, though. Mature...

I'm also 21 and I'm like 16 or 17 compared to him.

lmao did you see her face when he said 21.

Philana Malone She needs someone like him.

Lazlo Valentin You're Brown so your not in the running .

Lazlo Valentin AND?

Lazlo Valentin só?

@@lazlovalentin8015 so

Too sweet is usually what women say when we don't want to say boring or think the guy wouldn't be able to make her feel safe. Why does it have to either get with someone you're not feeling or you deserve to be mistreated? She, like every other person, should get what she actually wants. That doesn't have to mean a bad guy but someone she likes. I think we get wrapped up in the idea that just because a man likes us we're wrong for not liking them back.

I’ve told guys I didn’t like that they were too sweet. But it’s not because I’m into bad boys. Too sweet just means they’re not exciting. They’re not the type to keep you on your toes and make you fall or swoon for them. You can tell they like you a lot and so it takes the chase away. The initial chase you crave in order for attraction to grow. Sometimes a chase is not necessary if he’s already physically attractive to you and you vibe well. But if you don’t find a guy attractive and he’s super into you, it’s going to be hard for any woman to fall for a guy like that.

@@brittanysmith3716 if it’s about his attractiveness then it’s alright to just say “I’m not attracted to you”

@@Ashley-qx4my your last sentence doesn’t apply to me, that’s not what my comment is about. I definitely don’t think anyone should like someone back just cos they liked you first, my problem is with the “too sweet thing”. If u really mean they’re too boring then just say that. But if u say “too sweet” and mean it, then that means u want someone meaner

@@Ashley-qx4my there’s a lot of women who actually do want to date bad boys, which is where my comment came from. I don’t blame them. We’ve been conditioned to think that someone being mean to us/not treating us right is somehow romantic, as long as they show their care solely to us... but that’s not right, that’s not the “love” we deserve. You can find someone who’s kind and thrilling all at the same time

Lori Anne I see that too. She seems spiritually and emotionally dead. 😥😥😥

Y'all really playing deep based off a 11 minute video huh.

Abraluce yup. I sure am! It's really not that hard to tell.

It's probably because her family is shallow, tbh.

I think she just isn't interested.

now he's a serial killer

*wait WHAT*

"now h̵e̵'̵s̵ ̵ he looks like a serial killer" lol

ISH ISH hahahah

That's exactly what I said at the end!

@MadDilla ATCQstarr gosh why so rude?

MadDilla ATCQstarr yea I mean I'm posed she said no but that's a little harsh

MadDilla ATCQstarr that was uncalled for😐😑

MadDilla ATCQstarr why are you so rude😑🤮

Ozioma Anyamele LOL

i looove your name for some reason.. i believe its a jewish name if i am not wrong

lesson for the guys. Never be the nice guy, give yourself always an sprinkle of ''jerkness''

Najib Hareed it's from the Bible!🙌 thank you! ♥️

No no no ...his just not her type

Lol don’t feel bad for him he’ll be fine he said so himself

LoveMe,com So true!

I think they would definitely been such a good couple also. They really do compliment each other.

LoveMe,com I was disappointed too...when she said I have a type I go for I was thinking obviously it's not working because you're STILL SINGLE....

LoveMe,com me too

she didn't want to bc he's not attractive ....

😂😂😂😂😂

Facts 😂😂😂

I think it's pretty unfair... The only reason we're over the "edgy" guys is because we've had the opportunity to test them first for ourselves and realize they ain't sh*t. Let the girl walk her own path and come to her own conclusions. She has NEVER dated !

@@Blullaby Some folks will accept anyone.

Blu that’s insightful. Not everyone is conscious enough to allow others their own path...you’re the exception! Bless you 🌸

me too

Same. And when she started talking about how it's all joy in her life now, I could really see how deep the sadness still is.

wow crazy i felt the same looking at her

Yeah as someone who suffers from clinical depression I saw it in her eyes right away. We smile a lot but things are often very flat internally. It's weird sometimes being able to examine myself like that but still not be able to change things.

Ece Yarbakan very true that I still can see she is clinically depressed. Do you also believe that based her decision.. that she most likely overreacted

YES

Thank you for saying that but we DO finish last. It is what it is.

@@trevin1770 No, nice guys are the best😃😎

That’s good to hear from a girl, but we generally do finish last

I agree. Although, I wish she would have said age or his height. That I can see in terms of compatibility. That would have made more sense. She will eventually learn smh...

Right around the time she hits the 3-0 no doubt.

Haneen A.H 😂⭐️👌🏻👍🏻

He is so sweet and values emotions of other people thats why he kept complimenting her to cheer her up. ❤️

yeah me too but we only know his first name... why SP never put them in the credit or smth 😭 now i can't stalk his ig

Haneen A.H I'd date him too! I liked him but only problem is he is young. That girl seems like she's super sweet to guys who don't deserve it and turns down the sweet ones like this one. He was soooooo adorable

urggg I wanna stalk his IG too😂 If you find it lemme know!!

I think if she wasn't open to date outside her race they wouldnt have chose him..

She is open just not to him , she is not just desperate for any white man, smh.

@@PCSPITTER4NY Nobody said she was, and dude is not just "any white man". He's well spoken, articulate, charming, funny, considerate, cultured... I mean, the fact that he's white is the least remarkable thing about him.

@@Fyrecide you know that's just your opinion. If he was black they would say he is too nice and boring.

@@PCSPITTER4NY It's a lot of people's opinion, apparently, and you can't see into alternate realities so I'll just disregard that last part.

Exactly what I'm thinking,

True!

IDk. I've had my broken by the "good guy" and it hurts more than getting hurt by the bad boys. I think with bad boys, you kinda expect them to act like an asshole so it takes you by surprise when you settle down with a so-called good man and he destroys you.

@@ms.bubs4fun506 Girl Preach!! These young folks have no idea!! It's the good guys that cause the heartaches and broken hearts, because you don't expect them to act that way.

Anthony Maurice very well said Tony

From my experience, guys who want older women are more mature for their age 😄

She wouldn't be on the show then. Why is it so hard to believe she just isn't attracted to him. Everybody doesn't worship whiteboys

@@PCSPITTER4NY it's not about the colour..but if you don't understand that's your baby

right!while this girl will probably be crying herself to sleep every night for getting involved with "edgy" guys!

Rosa fr i thought they were perfect :( but she doesn't like nice guys 😂

+Merpy Things so sad coz she is 26. she'd know better. am turning 26 next month and I will take a sweet dude his likes over dudes with an "edge" to them. smh she'll learn

Merpy Things totally agree

Olivia Lauren And they say nice guys don’t finish last, smh.

being hurt/insecure is harder. I think they'll meet again

I know! I felt disappointed...

Those are some high heels lol

SuperAwesomeCaptain McFluffyPants he was nice but it wasn't his only feature. If all you can offer a woman is kindness and support then you're just a friend.

He's not literally perf. He's not sweet AND fine (at least not to me) AND tall. He's a sweet guy though, and you're right that nice guys are better than bad boys.

digthewarmth it’s actually personal preferences but ok :/

most girls : "I want a guy who's tall and smart and handsome and masculine and has money and who is strong and can protect me but it still super sweet".... good luck LOL

it's his age and race. 5 years is too huge a gap for most women. It makes the relationship seem juvenile and she didn't look too pleased when she looked up and saw him (even though he's good looking).

Me either.

Niyo That's sad. He's a nice guy. Also, he doesn't look 21. I like younger men sometimes 21+

I did! Just being realistic, you really think that is her type? And vice versa even though he said yes, in a normal setting these two types are least likely to notice each other. Not being mean just realistic.

Niyo not really race. I woulda said it's his age and his height. Tall girls can tell a short man when sitting. And maybe she also coming from being strictly religious would appreciate someone not so religious. Maybe someone who believes in God but isn't into organized religion.

She was trying to be nice and saying "you're too sweet," but she really meant to say "I want someone who looks more masculine." She's just not attracted to him. She didn't lose anything.

She PROBABLY wanted a tall muscular black dude with tattoos And i wouldn't be surprise if later on in life she becomes the type of woman that wonders "where have all the good men gone" smh.

dude seemed like a nervous wreck

Can’t be mad because she didn’t want him. Like she said, she has a type and he’s just not it. So what if she says where are all the good guys at? And also, she shouldn’t have to be in a relationship with someone she’s not attracted to just because he’s a “nice guy”. I say be happy in a relationship with someone you actually like rather then be unhappy with someone you don’t like. Bc in the end they’re both gonna be hurt🤷🏽‍♀️. But that’s just my opinion.

@@destinyamari9168 I understand completely. And I agree with you 99%. The only thing is that going on one date with someone does not automatically make you in a relationship with him/her. I was just pointing out that she dismissed him a little too prematurely IMO. But there are no set rules once it comes to dating, so I guess to each it's own.

I need his Instagram 😂😂😂

Tee _ He isn’t that cute, but he does have a good personality.

Tee _ nope he is so cute

Tee _ no, hes adorable

No, you're not alone. First, I liked him because he was so attractive and at the end, his character just made him perfect, for me you know? I thought the same thing too. The sweet personality isn't a weakness. To be understanding and compassionate is a great quality in a person. ❤

ikr like that one swoop on the side there, was giving me life

same sis

Yaass

Trust me!! 😂😂

Can someone tell me what that means?

😭😩😹

Tay Touchdown simp

Right!

Or maybe she was her lineage reman black don’t u think?... some of us are more proud than other. It seems like you want him why don’t u go for him yourself you effeminate simp sorry excuse for a black man.

@@jayp6120 🙄Racist

Girl you’re so right

Same

Hopefuly your not too worn out

So one of my friends posted that she need a tatted up, bad boy with a job and her friend said "no you need a guy in a suit and a career". I was always "the good guy" then I met my wife who wanted a good guy. 20 yrs of marriage, I guess the good guy won. I got angry when she said that to him about being a good guy.

I have been historically a nice guy, but have been taken advantage of - not so much in romantic relationships - as in a couple church situations where people think they can get away with treating other people poorly and unethically because they are "leaders". That's made me a bit of a "bad boy" but I'm my own kind. There's a few people who would love to stigmatize me as a "bad boy" because I stood up to them, but most know me as a nice guy. So I think that made me a nice guy with an attitude. Like look out if you mess with my family etc. If someone did try to take advantage of my niceness I would just politely bail out before things got really heated. I had been a "nice guy" for too long - bottling crap up and then letting it explode. No more. People will know where they stand with me, and that I am a genuine soul who cares a lot about people and a good listener. Sure, I can still get pissed off but since it's no longer bottled up it's not off the chain. Guys struggle a lot with emotional crap and what to do with it. I think that's what makes bad boys. We're a lot more vulnerable than you think. I also think I have a bit of a gut (not a lot - need to lose about 25 lbs) and I think that's fair for a woman to want a guy who looks fit. Completely. Women are great. God made 'em, God loves 'em and I would treat one accordingly.

Cheryl Powell she probably laughed bc she was joking

It's a joke lord

Oh lord!!!! She was not serious!!! 🙄

@@langegemi-fob4414 No, she's serious. Trust me.

AMAZING!!!!

Stunnin'... and she's such a natural beauty!😍😍😍

thats her real hair

@MadDilla ATCQstarr you're such a hater.. Seen you under multiple comments please shut up or leave

@MadDilla ATCQstarr You probably liked your own comment😂

Nozgekani Nyasulu seriously! He was an awesome guy! I’m 27 and I would consider dating him. And I don’t talk to anyone younger than me

Nozgekani Nyasulu i love sweet guys but i wouldn't date him either

right? like damn i cant even meet someone like that

Right! What's silly is that in a couple years, after she's done with the "edgy" guys, or after they're done with her, she'll be looking for a sweet, kind guy like this one. Smh...They really seemed to have a lot in common. I thought she was into it but given her strict background, it's clear she wants what she was denied at home, bad boys. Even though, she's a sweet girl, herself. Smh...

@@elenagelmez5064 huh?

I wish i can😎

😂😂😂 dkm

Lol

Where did she say she wanted a jerk? She clearly said he wasn't her type. He's not attractive. Not to me at least. And clearly not to her.

Not me. I wish I could meet a guy like him 😔

Maybe she has options unlike u.

You said he's NOT 100% sweet? If you think that how did she miss out?

I think she just wasn’t physically attracted to him

Siante Love he's not her type

lmao same thing I thought!

Hell yea 😂😂😂

Bruhhhh!! Lol!!

Stay strong! You can fight it! You are stronger than you think and there are people that love you♥️

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 for you!

🙏🙏🙏

Love you ❤️❤️

She is still sad there’s more to her story, trust me I know. And I hope your doing okay. Pray and rely on God to remove those feelings, and get close to him, ask for his help and he will help you. He’s the only way.

Supashya Roy Chowdhury me too they are cute

Cracking UP at “too Canadian”.

Supashya Roy Chowdhury yeah he was nice and they have similar backrounds

It is! I hate when girls say it because it's just a "you are not man enough" velated!

rahma husein specific but accurate 😂

LMFAO 😂 😭

Why is this sooo accurate😂😂😂

🤣

MadDilla ATCQstarr alright 😂

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

pleeeease

Hahahaha perfetc haha

Right I’m trying to shoot my shot

Kaniyah Marie she def didn't like it

Update: i feel so bad for him 😭

He just gave it up by trying to compliment her every now and then. Should have just played cool!

Sushant Chaudhari well i would have loved that if i was at her place but i get that everyone has a type

Sohani Yadav yeah i agree, she said her type was different!

Sohani Yadav If I was in her place I would be drooling. Such a sweet guy and very attractive. 🤤

Mhhmmm she is thicc

she is nice and tall yes but i do not think she is slim

moon light no slim-thicc not slin

She grew up as a Jehovah witness. I don't see your point lol

Lmao 😂😂

Lmaooooi

I don't think its about wanting a "bad boy" but just wanting someone more dominant, ig. I loveee sweet guys but i wouldn't date him

Aw lol

He is a very sweet person and I totally agree, I mean I’m 21 right now and I don’t want to date any 21 year old guys 😂

Not if you've NEVER been in a relationship...She has to experience it before she decides to get over it😂😂😂😂

Where did she says he wanted a bad boy? She was trying to be nice and saying "you're too sweet," but she really meant to say "I want someone who looks more masculine." He's very thin and pale. She's just not attracted to him.

haderaeden What about having types on skin colors/ethnicity/race ? What if someone doesn’t date black people because they are not attracted to them.

Lucas M ...What about it?

haderaeden Are you ok with people having those standards and not bash on them?

Lucas M I don’t judge anyone for who they are or aren’t attracted to

Lucas M it’s one’s personal choice on who they’re attracted to and who they choose to date

Ive seen that on multiple videos where a black woman says no. All of a sudden she has an attitude, thinks too highly of herself, etc.

Janeya Warsan i respect your whole response. People demoralizing her shows how much confusion is here. Staying on the straight and narrow date within your race, like who you want, and dont accept what the world has to offer. Definitely have to be your ownself. The comments on here in regards to negatively are incredible. This is just my opinion

lmao aeshtetically awkward looking as well as facially challenged. I mean look at her and look at him. I can see her with a more muscular masculine guy. And I can see him with more of a nerdy girl. Just cuz someone acts nice doesn't mean I have to date him when im not attracted to him. we are all ugly to someone and beautiful to someone else. These comments bashing the girl for not picking him are really stupid.

Agreed. She wasn't attracted to him and that's OKAY

Janeya Warsan I was with you until the2nd half of yo paragraph (starting at “Y’all”). But overall, I feel you’re right

redsummerwings exactly, I can relate to her decision a lot being someone who's been close to suicide. When you're coming out of it you want someone that can handle the darkness you're working through, and he felt a bit too vanilla for it

Even though I totally understand the reasoning for her decision, I agree to disagree. I say this because I honestly feel like he was the peace she needed. I totally get the reasoning with having someone that can handle your dark days, but I feel like he had more than enough peace to share with her. He looked like the type of guy that can see her dark days, but make them brighter.

Ravengal101 Ikr he looked smitten and she was like nope from first sight.

A S - It is REALLY encouraging to see women, like yourself, say good things about a good man who has no particular "edge" (?) and no games to play. These are the guys who get it in the neck!

Daddy

Alien Agenda bless u

Sorry to hear that :( She never said those two things were connected though

Alien Agenda I’m jw too

Ligeia D.Aurevilly For one that is all the way false. I am one of Jehovah’s Witnesses myself and I have a very beautiful life and don’t feel constricted or like I’m missing out we just try and live by Bibles principles and standards it keeps us safe especially in this world full of chaos, please visit JW.org work if you have anymore questions thank you

@@carmenmoore9273 good good very good responds ,. Chaos today is at its worst but we got our back cover by the organization .

No she didn't..the a huge age gap

077 Di sis 5 years ain’t that longer

MONICANDO she is a lost cause. Her favourite book is " harry potter" and she is looking for an edgy guy 😏😁🤣

THELOF1 you don’t really know where someone is in their life, recovery can take a few months or up to years. if she’s ready to let go of her past and try to build forward this is huge step.

I agree with Ali. I tried it in Oct...or I should say, I reaaaaally wanted to, but recovery can happen very fast for different people.