Will we show our baby’s face? // Baby Q&A

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00:00 Intro
01:21 Will your baby have playdates with Rose and Rosie?
01:46 Are you having a theme for the nursery?
02:12 Do you have an idea on how you want to raise your baby?
03:08 Will you send your baby to nursery or get a nanny?
03:38 The Montessori Method
06:32 Vintage baby stroller, yes or no?
07:53 How do you feel your pregnancy differs from a cis-straight couple?
09:06 How does the legality work? Does Jessica have to adopt the baby?
09:59 How many more babies are you going to have?
10:34 Why did you get sperm from the US?
13:39 How did you choose who was going to carry the baby?
14:56 What are your favourite baby names?
16:06 Did you choose a blond donor or a ginger donor?
17:08 Will you hide your baby’s name and face on social media?
18:06 Are you going to find out the sex of the baby?
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@ArtemisScribe 3 жыл бұрын

"I know better than to argue with my pregnant wife" how utterly wonderful to get to utter the words "my pregnant wife"

@TaLisaLovesDaveDay98 3 жыл бұрын

They're such a beautiful couple🥰

@cassblack2228 3 жыл бұрын

I'm glad she understands the risks of disagreeing with the pregnant wife 😂

@vampyrekyng_lex 3 жыл бұрын

@@cassblack2228 Unrelated but your name is beautiful

@vampyrekyng_lex 3 жыл бұрын

I had a dream where I had a spouse and they were pregnant and it was lovely. Then I woke up and realized I’m 17, single and don’t particularly want kids

@cassblack2228 3 жыл бұрын

@@vampyrekyng_lex thank you so much! I fell in love with it when I read it for the first timee

@kimberlynnwomack4262 3 жыл бұрын

You two should do a “Baby names we like, but won’t be using” video!!!

@levinrothwell8311 3 жыл бұрын

Ooh Ballinger family reference. Nice 👍

@Piti_Pingu 3 жыл бұрын

I love when KZfaqr do this sort of videos X3

@celenameg 3 жыл бұрын

Or perhaps "Names I love but my partner hates" because for me, that list is LONG lol

@gwendolynrobinson3900 3 жыл бұрын

I love those videos for ideas. We have 1 boy name so far, want to find a girl name and want to find more gender-neutral names hehe

@Zaryn9000 3 жыл бұрын

@@cg11687 you okay? or did the cat jump on the keyboard?

@mom23js 3 жыл бұрын

Random newborn fact: newborns instinctively close their eyes in bright environments and open them in darker. So if your baby seems sleepy, put them in a dark pram to walk around. If your baby seems oddly awake, put them in a light and bright pram to walk around and they will fast fall asleep. I have 3 kids and I know this as fact, not a wivestale.

@LaughOutRandom 3 жыл бұрын

I'm not gonna have kids but this is for babysitting purposes, what age does this stop working?

@mom23js 3 жыл бұрын

@@LaughOutRandom around 3-6 months.. Depending if its been made into a routine. But babies that are a day old to a few months old will do this instinctually. Makes it hard for the sleepy parents at night cuz baby is like.. Its dark, I can see.. Lets play! Lol

@LaughOutRandom 3 жыл бұрын

@@mom23js nice! Thank you for this, it's really interesting :))

@mom23js 3 жыл бұрын

@@LaughOutRandom you're welcome! I dont think parenting and care giving should be a guessing game or "learning experience".. If theres tips we as parents and care givers can give each other.. We should.. It may work.. It may not.. But no one deserves to suffer lol

@vampyrekyng_lex 3 жыл бұрын

I’m 17 and not planning to have children any time soon but this is very helpful! Would you happen to know how to get kittens to calm down at night...? Lol

@eyy_its_danny7584 3 жыл бұрын

I can’t get over her dress, so cottage Disney princess. She would make an amazing princess

@Astridl123 3 жыл бұрын

Ooh yes, I agree, love that dress too

@momcat2223 3 жыл бұрын

Um...did you say you think Jessica "would" make an amazing princess? Maybe I'm confused. I though she already WAS a princess. Hmm...

@lunarqi 3 жыл бұрын

ikr but i think her and claud are more like queens now, and their children will be like prince/princesses or whatever lol🥺💖💖

@jessaguilar4747 3 жыл бұрын

@@momcat2223 lol I was just getting ready to comment that!!!

@tracybeeeee 3 жыл бұрын

That's what my boyfriend says whenever I watch Jess' videos 😂 "it's the old-timey princess! I love her style!"

@gozerthegozarian9500 3 жыл бұрын

Fun fact: The Italian Fascists briefly tried to make the Montessori method their official child-rearing practise out of nationalistic sentiment - Maria Montessori being Italian and all - and because they fancied themselves so progressive and future-orientated. They quickly scrapped those plans when they noticed that the Montessori kids were less likely than regular children to submit and conform the way a fascist regime would expect it: The Montessori upbringing had made most of them to independent, self-confident and empathetic to be of any use for a fascist regime! So, basically: Go Lesbian Montessori Mums!

@cleverfeather777 3 жыл бұрын

This is the funnest fact I’ve read in a while

@NA-vj5lu 3 жыл бұрын

Ohhh I had a lovely chuckle when I read this. So true! As a Montessori teacher I am forever educating parents saying that the Montessori is not a rigged form of education and instead it helps young minds to explore and challenge their world ☺️

@alto19 3 жыл бұрын

Me and every kid at my Montessori school grew up to be an absolute weirdo and I love it.

@MonkeyDLuffy-rr3wl 3 жыл бұрын

@@alto19 As a regular-raised kid, I can say, I'm weird, so being a weirdo is a born trait, not a nurture thing, I believe.

@l_ine7 3 жыл бұрын

I went to an Montessori school (as a teenager tho) and I never knew this! That's so cool, thank you for sharing!

@kellyu3702 3 жыл бұрын

As a child of an anonymous sperm donor - Even though I have no interest in contacting him, I have EDS, POTS, and a lot of other medical issues. When I contacted the clinic to let them know that they should alert other children of that donor, they said that they couldn't do it because it is so anonymous. So I am glad to hear that you went with a donor that the child could contact eventually especially if there is a need for medical history.

@michellezevenaar 3 жыл бұрын

Have you thought about doing a DNA test and making a profile thats basically anonymous but has your medical information so that if other kids of his match with you they will at least be able to find that information.

@michellezevenaar 3 жыл бұрын

@Cameron do you have a donor number? You could possibly spread the information via the community's for people looking for donors or people that have a donor. Ideally the sperm bank would just tell the other family's so they could be prepared incase their children have similar issues.

@bkt6651 3 жыл бұрын

hey im a donor kid with a lot of health issues as well. it is so frustrating to not have any history but luckily I'm in touch with about half my siblings through both the donor sibling registry and 23andme. I bet some of your siblings are out there looking for you, my group is always looking for our sibs :) also my little brother has a genetic disorder and all of us were contacted as children to get screened so idk but at least very serious disorders are able to be disclosed

@takemealivethistime 3 жыл бұрын

Wow, that's really frustrating! I'm an egg donor and the clinic I donated through specifically told me that if the future child(ren) end up with genetic medical issues or concerns that they would not only contact the other child(ren) but they would also contact me, the donor, as well to let me know. It's unlikely due to the genetic workup they did before I donated but it's definitely possible. My mother also donated eggs and my half-brother had childhood arthritis, which didn't show up in my genetic workup or anywhere else in our family, but it's possible that it's just untraceable and it's possible that I carry a gene for that as well, although hopefully not.

@kellyu3702 3 жыл бұрын

@@michellezevenaar I have, however let's just say that I haven't had the best of luck with family members. I also really don't want to deal with the emotional turmoil that would come with finding out about extended family. I know it sounds callous, but I'm having enough trouble with getting my current family to accept that I am disabled - I don't have the emotional energy to deal with more. Maybe after I get a little more stabilized.

@belladonnacrow5775 3 жыл бұрын

Jessica being like GOD BLESSED ME WITH LESBIANISM TO MAKE UP FOR MY MANY HEALTH ISSUES is a phat mood as someone whose nickname is "the problem child"

@thealice7314 3 жыл бұрын

Jessica & Claudia make me excited for my gay love story. I also have Heds and cant imagine how id be carring a baby

@willowtdog6449 2 жыл бұрын

I'm newly single, unexpectedly at almost 40, and just now realizing how much I missed out on by dating mostly men because it's just easier living somewhat rurally as a bi woman. I think I need a real gay love story too.

@g996 2 жыл бұрын

@@thealice7314 Hey fellow zebra! 🦓 fr though, same.

@kuromistan645 2 жыл бұрын

@@thealice7314 their love story makes me excited for life too...

@meirosesbloom 3 жыл бұрын

if all upcoming parents were this excited to have children, we’d have a better world. you both are putting in the WORK and we love to see it

@noPity 3 жыл бұрын

So so true!! I am so excited for them ❤️❤️❤️

@RachelAnnPotter 3 жыл бұрын

I wish all babies were born to families this excited to have them.

@whytho8856 3 жыл бұрын

@@RachelAnnPotter same

@vampyrekyng_lex 3 жыл бұрын

@@RachelAnnPotter This is why free and easy access to protection is always important. No unwanted children. We need to make adoption/fostering easier and more stable too

@calliopeblue2303 3 жыл бұрын

Some parents really fail their kids but some people will risk their life to save their children as they should unless its deemed actually reckless

@theprimeoflife9263 3 жыл бұрын

As a disabled gay person, watching a disabled gay person have a baby is EXTREMELY LOVELY, like I just cannot our into words how happy thus video made me - I didn’t even know how much I needed to see this representation until now! You two are going to be such wonderful mums and I’m so excited to watch every step of your beautiful new journey ✨✨

@truecrimefan1433 3 жыл бұрын

This comment is beautiful 😍

@k___8690 3 жыл бұрын

why don't you guys buy the electric stroller then decorated to fit Jessica's vintage taste and aesthetic?

@mjwildy2359 3 жыл бұрын

This should be higher up!

@tfkpearl 3 жыл бұрын

@ashertenobe6689 3 жыл бұрын

yess!

@emmynoether9540 3 жыл бұрын

@shiroi201 3 жыл бұрын

Great idea!

@TheLatokuivaaja 3 жыл бұрын

Just a tip regarding second names: don't pick the second name from the newspaper's death announcements column on the day the baby is born. My parents did that and while it makes for a cool story, it's also kinda weird.

@edenbarnes1345 3 жыл бұрын

That’s actually hilarious. I’ve never heard of anyone doing that

@whytho8856 3 жыл бұрын

wait that's kinda great- i'd trade my middle name for one with a story like that tbh😂

@Matty442 3 жыл бұрын

I mean it's a story 😂 my middle name is the name of my dead great grandma who I never met lol and my brothers middle name is after my great granddad so v boring lol

@littlepixieme1 3 жыл бұрын

Also kinda fair. Lol. How many people are named after dead relatives? Not many people can say they're named after a dead non-relative who wasn't a celebrity. Lol

@TheLatokuivaaja 3 жыл бұрын

It was actually a celebrity so not so cool after all 😂

@tylercoomes9139 3 жыл бұрын

Gender neutral names are AMAZING! I was born female and was named Tyler, which was such a blessing when coming out as gender fluid as my name was truly fluid with me

@Matty442 3 жыл бұрын

Oh that's so cool! :)

@alexcollins71090 2 жыл бұрын

@@Matty442 I've always loved being named Alex for the same reason :) It felt like fate haha

@watchmedo635 3 жыл бұрын

Jessica not being naturally ginger has altered my whole perspective on life 😳

@koda5209 3 жыл бұрын

Wait what

@PikaStep2124 3 жыл бұрын

Wait shes not?!!?!?!?? My life is lie

@Attackontrashcan 3 жыл бұрын

WHAT!

@theflameoftruth729 3 жыл бұрын

She's blonde naturally. Blonde's tend to be able to pull off red hair really well

@theteawitch1669 3 жыл бұрын

SHE IS A NATURAL BLONDE?! MY NAN ALWAYS SAID GINGER COULDN'T BE COPIED, made me feel nad for wanting to change my gair colour. Wow, she pulls it off so well though

@JoyandSerenity. 3 жыл бұрын

Pro-tip. Do not get a stylish vintage stroller like the one pictured. Yes its very aesthetic and beautiful but the front wheels DONT TURN, what this means is when you want to turn a corner in a shop aisle or even a slight curve on a road YOU HAVE TO LIFT THE PRAM TO TURN IT. Literally. All weight has to be lifted to make a slight turn.

@lindacollings8554 3 жыл бұрын

And you often have to take it apart to put in the car !

@oldhedders 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, this! When it comes to babies, throw any notion of aesthetics out of the window immediately. Your life is about to get massively more complex and difficult. You need practicality. Just go for a buggy which is light, manoeuvrable, easy to get in and out of a car, cleans easily (seriously, you don't want to be trying to scrub vomit out of some beautiful vintage thing) and has plenty of storage / pockets / hooks for bags etc.

@sxc24babe 3 жыл бұрын

Yup! if you get one get it purely for rolling around the house to help baby sleep, and to look pretty. A practical modern pram for outside is a must.

@katelavie3698 3 жыл бұрын

My mother had a modern stroller for my sister without turning front wheels. But it had inflatable wheels and dynamics so you can lift if with no effort what so ever. One time my sister flew out of the crib when my mom tied our dog (french bulldog, now deceassed because of liver cancer, I still miss her so much) to the handle. (She was perfectly fine, not even a scratch, she was swaddled, tucked in blankets a landed perfectly on her back which was the most stuffed area. Not like on her face. She didn't even woke up, didn't cry althrought she cried all the time - gas passing was a huge issue with us both. Mom rushed her to the hospital and they did not find any harm to her skin and inner organs) Anyways, it was so easy to manipulate. And I think with a modern wheels and dynamics even vintage stroller would work. My aunt had turning front wheels with my brother (my mothers sister and her had the same partner. Yes, it is strange. Yes, it was difficult to draw our herritage on school lessons. Yes, I was and still am ashamed. Yes, when I was hospitalized on psychiatric ward they did not tackle with my mental health but with our family being strange) But back to my point, front wheels turned but it was so hard to get on the other side of the road with elevated sidewalk. It did not have inflatable wheels (they have high risk of a blowout but if it does broke, you still can managed to get back home without a big issues. But mainly, the child do not feel every stone on the sidewalk and it's able to run over sticks, rocks without the baby being shaken like a in a bartender shaker) So it did not have inflatable wheels and it was so fricking heavy it was a nightmare to stroll with it. So I do not think turning wheels are always necessary but speaking about vintage strollers with no modern dynamics it's understandable

@h.s.3883 3 жыл бұрын

I agree with your pregnant wife! You’ll want to push the stroller and the one she picked out was carefully considered lovingly by her so you can.

@mevrouwD 3 жыл бұрын

Something that helped me as a 'non-carrying' mum: Confessions of the Other Mother for Nonbiological Lesbian Moms. It was so very nice to read about and recognise these confusing feelings that sometimes come with the 5% slight jealousy!

@divinebovine 3 жыл бұрын

My friend’s ex wrote that book! Their daughter is almost 19 now!

@SK-tk5lc 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@pattya4696 3 жыл бұрын

Well of course you felt jealous, you had no part in her becoming pregnant. The baby doesn't have your dna at all.

@RevertedRashidah 3 жыл бұрын

@@pattya4696 that’s not the point though. Take your homophobia elsewhere buddy

@KuroHebi 3 жыл бұрын

@@RevertedRashidah how is that a homophobic remark? Patty's just saying that it's normal to have some jealousy for not having any part in conceiving the baby. If I was gay and my partner and I decided to have a baby via a surrogate mother, I'd be a tiny bit jealous for not having any part in the conception of my child because my partner's sperm was used for the insemination.

@MelissaChapin 3 жыл бұрын

Disabled parent here, raised on Montessori and born with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, in fact. ✨ Bless you both and all you stand for, you’re already rocking it as parents! I found out rather quickly that as long as I looked after myself physically, my twins (!) adapted beautifully to the needs of my disability. I slept when they did and they rested when I needed to rest. I use a wheelchair and was able to balance one on each knee and push through the shopping centre like a pro-I just showed them how to lean back into a shoulder each, and they centred themselves instinctively. What a team-it was the three of us against the world, and that bond is still solid now they’re doing GCSEs & shopping for their own clothes. All this to say congratulations to both of you, you wonderful, loving parents, and thank you for sharing your journey with us! 💖💕✨

@AtlanticGiantPumpkin 3 жыл бұрын

"And that is why God blessed me with ✨lesbianism✨" girl same 😂

@jarbanzo1615 3 жыл бұрын

@@Nyaluwae She didn’t ask for your opinion on the topic so don’t give it. Don’t be a ignorant fucking idiot it’s 2021 come on now. This girl is just trying to to make a comment on KZfaq because she obviously enjoys this channel and as she stated she’s lesbian and she’s obviously proud of it she does not need you telling her god didn’t bless her with lesbianism, if that’s what she believes then she has a right to believe that .

@aprilrodriguez1935 3 жыл бұрын

@@Nyaluwae why were you watching the video if your hating?

@lucycoleclough1182 3 жыл бұрын

I f***ing love being gay lol

@aprilrodriguez1935 3 жыл бұрын

@@Nyaluwae but you decided to click on the video and go through the comments and disagree what people think so yes you’re hating

@sophiarose03 3 жыл бұрын

I have EDS too, and whether or not I should carry a child has been plaguing my mind for years, but idk if God has decided to bless me with lesbianism yet.😂🤞🏻

@shnn1a 3 жыл бұрын

“But I know better than to argue with my pregnant wife” 😂

@turdl38 3 жыл бұрын

wise woman

@stevesteve2460 3 жыл бұрын

Claudia talking about how she can’t keep a secret from Jessica is so funny and so sweet!

@likejohnnyandjune2024 3 жыл бұрын

I was an only child, and now that I'm older, I wouldn't trade it for the world. The only burden is that when my dad died, I didn't have a sibling to lean on. I had my mom of course but mourning a husband is different than mourning a father, so our grief processed differently. It was the only time I wish I had a sibling so I didn't feel alone, but that feeling has since passed.

@sarahmorley1031 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry you lost your dad ❤

@likejohnnyandjune2024 3 жыл бұрын

@@sarahmorley1031 thank you ❤️

@cassidybrewer 3 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry for your loss. I haven’t lost a parent, but I’m an only child who had a very traumatic childhood and I hated being alone through all of that. It was so hard. It’s fascinating how people have such different takes on whether or not they enjoy being the only kid. I have one child and I do feel a lot of pressure (including from myself) to give him a sibling for similar reasons.

@likejohnnyandjune2024 3 жыл бұрын

@@cassidybrewer if your child is happy and you don't really want a second, i wouldn't. Only children, when raised well, learn to be content with their own company and that's so valuable as you age. Not saying you can't have that with siblings, but only children learn to make their own fun and are typically self sufficient from a much earlier age. In addition, i got a lot of attention as an only child and therefore I don't seek attention as an adult. I really appreciate those facets of myself that i think are directly correlated being an only kid

@robinhahnsopran 3 жыл бұрын

I am a sperm donor baby, and I completely agree with you, Claudia! When I found 25 of my siblings (!!!) through 23AndMe as an adult, I felt it was a gift, a wonderful bonus in my life, but it changed nothing about my relationship with my loving, supportive, wonderful parents. I didn't get a replacement family, and I want nothing from them, I just got a BONUS family. :) My parents were SO excited for me when I found them, too!

@lifu._ 3 жыл бұрын

That’s a lot of siblings!

@OddlyElly 3 жыл бұрын

Bonus family!!

@qwirky1709 3 жыл бұрын

That’s so sweet!

@itme999 3 жыл бұрын

I'm an adoptee and found a sister on 23andMe, and feel similarly. My birth relatives don't replace the family I grew up with - "bonus family" is a great way to describe it. 👍

@maurapukiki 3 жыл бұрын

amazing! i agree, in my country it is a right to have access to your biological parents' info when you turn 18, and as someone who was raised by a single mom and found my bio dad later on, i think it shouldn't be any other way. not because it would be of any importance for the child to find the donor, but because it's unethical to actively withhold that info and take the option away from them. the donor is after all half of their genetic make-up. everyone should have the right to know enough to track them down should they choose to at any point.

@cassierobertson5778 3 жыл бұрын

I can't get over how gorgeous your dress is.

@manifestationsofasort 3 жыл бұрын

It gives slight Cinderella vibes

@aguti1111 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, yes!

@somewherehere424 3 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly... beautiful and very flattering.

@xAbbieCx13 3 жыл бұрын

Same, I'm obsessed with it!

@flower_sunset8067 3 жыл бұрын

It looks kind of medieval

@Sophie-xm6cb 3 жыл бұрын

As a child of ivf who had an anonymous egg donor, it does feel strange sometimes. My mother is the woman who gave birth to me and has raised me all my life but I’m still curious about who the donor is. What does she look like, what does she like, what’s her job, is she married, does she have kids of her own? These are all questions I will never know the answer too and it’s hard to learn to be okay with that. I’m a lesbian so me and my partner have talked about using IVF and I think we wouldn’t go for the anonymous donor so our child has to option to find the answers.

@rebeccabloomfield8416 3 жыл бұрын

That’s super interesting! Would you consider doing like a DNA test on Ancestry or something, or would you rather not see/ know the results? No judgement, just curious :)

@Sophie-xm6cb 3 жыл бұрын

@@rebeccabloomfield8416 Defiantly! The IVF donor my parents used was from Spain and I've always been curious to know where I'm from. I think I would take a DNA test to find out where I'm from in the world, rather than find out who I'm from. Thank you! :)

@rebeccabloomfield8416 3 жыл бұрын

@@Sophie-xm6cb Wow, that’s so cool! I’m sure you’d have some super interesting heritage/Ancestry. When you do 23&Me and stuff, you can choose whether to have your profile visible to your dna matches or not, so if you did that you can just do it to see your Ancestry info 💛

@AngeliaMeow 3 жыл бұрын

Whoever the egg donor is… shes pretty amazing for doing what she did! You exist and your mom must have felt so blessed and happy 🥰

@Tina.bina. 3 жыл бұрын

Calling it a "pool of choice" for donors gives me a visual I was not anticipating to think of, like ever 😆

@ThirrinDiamond 3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣 oh my goosshh

@emmabaguley442 3 жыл бұрын

That's wattpad shit

@cheesecakelasagna 3 жыл бұрын

I literally paused the video after reading this comment just to give myself a moment to breathe. lmao

@michellerichardson6771 3 жыл бұрын

Lol now I cant in see it

@nicolepereira3750 9 ай бұрын

LOL

@AammaK 3 жыл бұрын

"God Blessed me with Lesbianism" needs to be on a t-shirt says this Lutheran gay theologian

@laurafindley3489 3 жыл бұрын

As a lesbian Quaker, I agree with this message

@AammaK 3 жыл бұрын

@@laurafindley3489 Amen to that

@GiamarieSaponaro 3 жыл бұрын

I can make that shirt if anyone would be interested! I think it sounds great and im straight 😉🥰

@amandaforshee5191 3 жыл бұрын

From this fellow gay Lutheran: AGREED

@funfettirapunzel 3 жыл бұрын

Yaaayyyy Lutherans!!!

@R0w4n365 3 жыл бұрын

I love how happy you sound when you say ‘we’re having a baby’

@menace7339 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:*

@smokee1325 3 жыл бұрын

As someone who was adopted at birth and has known since I could remember, thank you for saying you’ll give your child the chance to have info about their bio parent in the future. That means a lot to me.

@ainsley3736 3 жыл бұрын

I am a Montessori child myself! It's a common method, yet very underappreciated. It is a lovely way to raise your child and what has gotten me through this pandemic is my ability to apply my Montessori mindset to public school distance learning! Giving your child a Montessori education is one that which allows freedom of thought, excitement for learning, and allows them to discover who they are at the pace they so choose. I don't know if I would be as empathetic without my Montessori experience and it makes me so happy to see my favourite lesbian moms already have such an excellent path put in place for their child. I love you two, and as someone who is rapidly losing their hearing in both ears due to multiple concussions, it is lovely to have someone like me living a fruitful life and making the best of what she has whilst keeping transparency. Love you all to pieces!

@evewhittaker7987 3 жыл бұрын

Disabled mother with EDS, I was diagnosed after my second and last child was born. Get the practical buggy! Transitions and mobility with a child was a huge struggle for me. Also be prepared for things not to go the way you planned. Children have their own personalities and their own rhythms and their own needs. There is just going to be a lot of adjusting and figuring things out as you go along. Knowing that and accepting it before the baby arrives will make things easier.

@Warsnop 3 жыл бұрын

Did either of your kids get eds or is it too early to tell?

@mallorismith3126 3 жыл бұрын

As a disabled woman myself, I feel very comforted by Jessica making "disabled mom" videos in the future! For a long time I had just assumed that I couldn't make a good mom because of my disability but I've been doing research of the subject and my outlook on potential motherhood has improved. Even though my boyfriend and I are quite far off of trying for kids, I'm excited to here from Jessie and Claud about their inter-abled parenthood journey! (ps: any disabled/inter-abled parents in the comments, I'd love to hear from you as well!" Much love!

@lostdarkysoul 3 жыл бұрын

I'm a physically disabled Mother of 2. My disability is rare and my mobility isn't good at all. My husband also has a disability although his doesn't really effect him physically. He has mild memory issues and a shunt in his brain but other than that he's very healthy, very clever, very mobile and has a full time admin job. I'm a home maker and although I need help a lot of the time (Cooking, cleaning etc) my kids want for nothing. The biggest thing I've learnt as a physically disabled mum is you can do anything a none disabled mum can do, you just have to find a different way to do it. But I've been disabled my whole life so it was a easy thing to adapt to because I've spent my whole life doing things in a different way. When they were babies getting them out of the cot was difficult so I would wrap them in a blanket (like they were delivered by a stork) and use the blanket to lift them. Now they're older (3 and 5) I do a lot of things with them sat on my knee. Dressing them, helping them put their shoes on, playing etc because I can't get down to their level like a non disabled mum would, They ride on my knee in the wheelchair when we're out and about (and I did this when they were babies I just used a sling or a special baby seat belt.) It's hard work and you have to think of everything from a different angle but I'm proud of my kids and proud of my achievements raising them.

@susanstetson3435 3 жыл бұрын

IMO love is the most important part of rearing a child. Anyone can assist with the physical bits but the way you love a child is uniquely your own.

@dragonskydivine 3 жыл бұрын

Same! I want kids so bad, but also don’t think I could. It is interesting that I think Jessica would be a fabulous mom, but I would not be.

@KoriEmerson 3 жыл бұрын

I have a disability . I’m married to someone doesn’t . I don’t believe in the whole interabled thing. When someone gets old and breaks a hip and now needs a cane or whatever they don’t become an interabled couple. It honestly makes me a little crazy . That being said... I was pretty much able to adapt to different situations. We had a little pop up stroller ( the cheap ones) that if I needed to move from one room to another . I’d say that was my biggest help. We used a modified montisourri method.

@siobhan2623 3 жыл бұрын

I'm disabled in sense of movement and hearing loss. I pretty much was on my own for 14 months with a baby and it was certainly a challenge but with help of specialised baby monitors for the deaf it helped me loads

@SneezyKatsALT 3 жыл бұрын

As a kid growing up with ADHD, my parents did alot of montessori like practices. They never shielded things away from me. We did loads of puzzles, because that's what I liked, and legos, and barbies. But they were set on me decidkng what I wanted to play with, and guided me, and taught me what things were and why they were. They always answered my questions to the best of their ability, which I thought was nice.

@mariakudrei4018 3 жыл бұрын

Didn't know that Claudia's heritage was actually Chinese! Would love to hear her family story, if, of course, Claudia is willing to tell it :)

@CallMeMrFrog 3 жыл бұрын

She is Malaysian and they have old videos about it including a trip they took. You can find more in their channel history

@PotatoKing16 3 жыл бұрын

I *LOVE* that you both clearly know that you're going to be raising a person, not just having a baby. I think so many people don't think past "let's have a baby!" thank you for your vulnerability and humor and just sharing yourselves. loooove

@Poppy- 3 жыл бұрын

Of course, we will be curious, but it's all up to you, it's your personal life and I totally respect that.

@ElssiePlum 3 жыл бұрын

When they discussed gender neutral nicknames I got a really strong feeling (premonition?) about them having a little baby Kitt! Christopher or Katherine maybe?

@Mathilde.99 3 жыл бұрын

I thought Alexandra/Alexander is probably a contender

@kitbracadabra 3 жыл бұрын

My name is Kit, and it's not short for anything.. I would love that so much!

@cheesecakelasagna 3 жыл бұрын

@@kitbracadabra I remember a classmate of mine whose name is Kim, and his younger brother Kit. Not shortened names, those are their full first names.

@kitbracadabra 3 жыл бұрын

@@cheesecakelasagna neato!

@ihopeicanchangethisnamelat7108 3 жыл бұрын

Kit is a nickname given to me by one of my friends, she got it from when we were in year 7 and my mum would pack me a kitkat in my lunch. I’ve kind of lost the nickname, she was the only one who ever used it and she’s now stopped using it too, but I still really like the name.

@94deea 3 жыл бұрын

"God blessed me to be a lesbian." -Jessica Kellgren-Fozard

@DarkDreams948 3 жыл бұрын

Claud finding an electric buggy for Jess is the most wholesome thing ever 😭

@samanthab3292 3 жыл бұрын

*me thinking back to the time I pushed my kid in the stroller straight up a grassy hillside..... Wow that would have been useful. 😂

@pookarah 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, seriously. I've also got EDS tho not the palsy, arthritis instead, and that would've been incredibly helpful

@SwtTeaLdy 3 жыл бұрын

It was SO sweet! Their relationship is G-O-A-L-S.

@LieutenantSheep 3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely. I immediately thought “oh that’s perfect so Jessica can take the baby on her own.” I hope they do get that one. It’s her style too 💜

@rhyael3933 3 жыл бұрын

As a disabled parent (a gal who also happens to be married to another gal) the best advice I can offer is to treat your self-doubt as a bully coming after your child. My wife can haul rocks up from the creek to help the kiddo with his treehouse, but I can't. In the same turn, I can spend an hour in Minecraft with the kiddo when that would drive her insane. Not saying it's easy peasy but parenthood isn't. You two are already off to a great start being in a loving relationship, stable home, and realistic expectations.

@Lewisiaisoutofcontext 3 жыл бұрын

This makes me really happy! I'm also a disabled gal who wants to marry and spend the rest of my life with another gal and one of my greatest fears is that I would be a bad parent as I cannot physically do certain things. I know it's a stupid thing to worry about but still it nags at me sometimes. Your comment made me happy. Lots of love to all of you!

@biancalewis4232 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve just discovered I’m pregnant too!

@elecops9825 3 жыл бұрын

Congratulations 😁🎉

@freshlybakedbria 3 жыл бұрын

congrats!! 💕

@grimori_ 3 жыл бұрын

Congratulations, I wish you the best! That's very exciting news. 😊

@kittymeg1855 3 жыл бұрын

OMG CONGRATSSS BEST WISHES AND STAY SAFE DARLING

@jenniferbowler7730 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve always LOVED the name Daphne. I’m never going to have kids (EDS, etc), so feel free to use it! It’s not gender neutral, but it could always be a middle name option.

@LMoon20 3 жыл бұрын

I was so glad when you said Jessica didn’t have to adopt the baby. It’s only right as a married couple that you are legally the parents. I actually took an intake of breath when I thought you might have to go through some hideous legal process.

@rulerthelion860 3 жыл бұрын

Its still unfair that lesbian cpls have to be married to legally claim their partner's baby at birth. In straight cpls men can say the baby is theirs without any proof and, if the woman says so too, the baby is considered the man's child on sight even if the couple isnt married. Still its good they dont have to go through that since they're engaged.

@colleenshaw1607 3 жыл бұрын

@@rulerthelion860 they have been married for a few years now. They aren't engaged

@lillyskyscraper6 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, me too! Mainly because makes sense being legaly married, but aswell I remember Jessica saying that she can't legally adopt a child unless she has had one herself (biologically or through marriage like she is), as she is disabled.

@Winter-nr6gb 3 жыл бұрын

Where I live the parlament has just a few days ago allowed gay marriage and adoption for gay people. And now one of the parties already tries to stop this new law.

@thespankmyfrank 3 жыл бұрын

@@rulerthelion860 That's actually not entirely true. In some places, unmarried couples have to do a test to see who's the father once the baby is born. Someone I know had to do that, and turns out they were not the father. If they were married they would not have to do the test.

@marli8907 3 жыл бұрын

Me when I was planning for a baby: I’m gonna be all clean. Montessori. Everything perfect. Me with a toddler and a baby: I JUST NEED TO SURVIVE

@ShellyGotRawr 3 жыл бұрын

100% lol just got to make it through the day without a tantrum

@wolke1536 3 жыл бұрын

Oh yes... my child is six years old now and I constantly have to DRAG them to play outside and have to encourage them to use the more creative toys but I also have to say they are doing good in school and like to learn new things and discover stuff and are also good in socializing

@carollice 3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@kelleythenurse3283 3 жыл бұрын

My twins are 11 months old, until they learned how to clap, their favorite song was the jingle at the beginning of baby Einstein videos 😂

@werbungslos 3 жыл бұрын

That's exactly what I thought. Listening to expecting parents talking about their plans is kind of funny because I've been there too, reading all these books, thinking I had a plan. Everything turns out differently and you can't plan out these things at all. That's my experience at least.

@lxlamayw 3 жыл бұрын

9:15 sooo i’m in the uk too (england) and as a lesbian that is hoping to have children in the future, i’d like someone to help me out 😅 so i can’t actually carry a baby (i’m highly anemic, so baby wouldn’t get enough blood, i also have severe HMB which makes me infertile) but my gf would love to :) we’d love to get married with our children present, how would that work?? thank you so much 🥺💜 edit: YOU GUYS, AFTER THOUSANDS OF TESTS & MEDICAL CARE, I MAY BE ABLE TO HAVE KIDS OH MY GOSHHH

@timetravelingpenguin 3 жыл бұрын

I'm late but congratulations! Do you have any other updates?

@hopeangelica7971 3 жыл бұрын

"The Business of Being Born" is a good baby documentary.

@vitahartmann3453 3 жыл бұрын

In terms of nurture vs nature: my mother was raised by her father and his friend, with this friend listed as her mom in school paperwork. My mom looks nothing like her biological mother, but does share a lot of characteristics with the two men who raised her, even if only one of them is her biological father. Children often adopt a lot of mannerisms from the people who raise them, resulting in the child growing up to actually look like these people, regardless of who provided the sperm and egg. This is also why we sometimes think siblings look alike, even if they don't see it themselves. They act and move in the same way

@FennecTheRabbit 3 жыл бұрын

I just had this conversation with someone. I have a sister and we were raised by our biological parents, in our minds we do NOT look alike (sister looks like our dad, I look like both our parents but favor my mom more) but apparently we have really similar mannerisms which is why folks think that.

@LangkeeLongkee 3 жыл бұрын

Or.... siblings look a like because they literally have similar dna and look a like. A thought.

@sohv1s 3 жыл бұрын

I don't have any fully biological siblings (only half ones) but the two I was raised with look like me what I have heard. And I don't understand how because l look a lot like my biological father and they have a different father. But also I'm mentally more like their father( or my stepfather). I'm very sarcastic, cool on the outside, nerd and all just like he is.

@missvioletnightchild2515 3 жыл бұрын

@@LangkeeLongkee my sister and I don't really look alike (I actually look far more like one of my cousins!), and people are often surprised when we say we are. But we have a lot of the same mannerisms, and after 5 mns it's very obvious that we are sisters.

@LangkeeLongkee 3 жыл бұрын

@@missvioletnightchild2515 thats your opinion. But its not objective. And on top of that Im not talking about siblings who actually dont look a like, I'm talking about siblings who do but refuse to see it themselves even though everyone else around them can.

@juliannehannes11 3 жыл бұрын

I'd start blurring faces after age 4 or 5 when they begin public school

@juliannehannes11 3 жыл бұрын

@@johndododoe1411 I look nothing like how I look at age 4 and 5, my hair and eyes litterally changed colors dramatically(I had blue eyes that turned green, dark brown hair that has been dyed blonde since age 13), and my plump baby fat hid my facial bones and my hair style was bangs in my face pixie cut.

@kay-oc2zm 3 жыл бұрын

@@juliannehannes11 i still look exactly as i did when I was 5. You could clearly tell its me. Its a nice idea but a lot of kids still grow up with the same features

@moonkitten420 3 жыл бұрын

@@johndododoe1411 Courtney Cox is a wonderful example, among many other celebs People will remember faces, BUT I do think they can show the baby for the first year or so, depending on how early the baby starts developing permanent facial characteristics

@itsabrighterday 3 жыл бұрын

I grew up a Montessori kid! It’s the best! I use a lot of the tactics now with my theatre students. That makes me so so happy to hear!

@kelleyo6896 3 жыл бұрын

Exciting to share these moments in your journey with you. Re: the baby buggy situation, you could do the traditional bassinet around the house or at the park, and the more practical powered buggy for trips & visits & going to shops... that way you get to use both.

@rootedreinvention 3 жыл бұрын

Montessori Method: "Think of a 1950s childhood minus the lead paint and strict gender stereotypes" - I think this is the best description summary of the method I've ever heard

@MeganGrey 3 жыл бұрын

Remembering my Montessori experience brings up these terms: out doors, self directed, hands on, interest driven, developmentally informed, practical skill building, respectful, individualized. My parents grew up on farms in the 60s which was similar, but they had the experience of desks and sitting still in class.

@fleur8102 3 жыл бұрын

Okay but imagine Jessica, an ethereal vintage mom with a baby named Aurora. That's stunning 😂

@KarolYuuki 3 жыл бұрын

Aurora is such a beautiful name. It would be stunning indeed.

@MagicHeide 3 жыл бұрын

Or Aurelia?

@emilyjanet455 3 жыл бұрын

Nickname Rory! Omg cute

@AsAboveISoBelow 3 жыл бұрын

@@MagicHeide While a pretty name, it's a bit close to a body part name, which could end up being a source of torment for the child, which would really suck.

@AlexisBabayan 3 жыл бұрын

Aurora is my grandmother's name and my middle name. My grandpa used to call my grandma "Roar."

@onlyonefinger1 3 жыл бұрын

I went to a Montessori preschool and it set me up so well for my future. I'm so glad you're using that method, it's not as widely known as it should be!

@clairerothero724 3 жыл бұрын

I would love to see the video about the things you're worried about as a disabled parent! Thank you for being so open. You give me so much hope

@Schrulle2011 3 жыл бұрын

Not sure why, but I can totally see a Charlotte (can be shortened with Charlie since that is kind gender neutral) for a girl.

@tatianaleutwiler1867 3 жыл бұрын

Also don't know why, but I feel that's just the right name for a daughter of these two.

@Julia-oe9xl 3 жыл бұрын

I have seen a lot of charlotte in the comment section. It was also the first thing i thought of, but i thought it was due to my middle name being charlotte

@Schrulle2011 3 жыл бұрын

@@Julia-oe9xl No idea why but Charlotte also seems like an old name and it is easily written. And yeah the shorting for charlie is probably also a factor.

@Julia-oe9xl 3 жыл бұрын

@@Schrulle2011 yess its just a really nice and fitting name

@michellezevenaar 3 жыл бұрын

I know 2 little girls named Charlie! Not short of Charlotte, they are just Charlie!

@brid8923 3 жыл бұрын

My only tip is do not give your child excess pressure of being a "smart" baby. As a former "smart" child, I can testify it really does lead to a lot of undesired trauma and feelings of inadequacy and perfectionism. XDD Don't put too much pressure on them being intelligent or ahead of the curve, just let them enjoy what they enjoy and make sure they understand that it's okay if they fail, and that they don't have to live up to others opinions of them.

@kaitlynlusk817 3 жыл бұрын

I just happened to stumble across Jessica and Claudia in my recommended videos and I am so happy I did. I had a crappy day today and these two are just such a calming presence. I’m hooked! They’re both so cute and sweet, you just can’t help but love them!

@SmartArtzzz 3 жыл бұрын

It’s so heartwarming seeing you guys being excited expecting parents.

@nicx957 3 жыл бұрын

Love names that you might find in folklore and myths like Rowan, Fallon and Arryn. They're unisex names too

@charliesdragon1256 3 жыл бұрын

My brain just went to "Elvendork - it's unisex!" Rowan is a very nice name.

@grace5291 3 жыл бұрын

I love these kinds of names!

@rosequill7925 3 жыл бұрын

@@charliesdragon1256 so you also watch Alien in a Box?

@rosequill7925 3 жыл бұрын

I'm stealing Arryn for a middle name for my future child

@Brittany-xp8wf 3 жыл бұрын

I don't know if it's unisex, but I've always loved Bronwyn

@annabelclaire8111 3 жыл бұрын

As a nursery practitioner, the minute you mentioned Montessori, I was like “oh yes! I use that method, I know what it is!” It’s a great method :)

@hfreyschildren1265 3 жыл бұрын

Another educator here and Montessori is my favorite teaching method

@hfreyschildren1265 3 жыл бұрын

Also have y'all decided on whether or not you're teaching the baby BSL?

@Poppy- 3 жыл бұрын

@@hfreyschildren1265 Probably for Jessica's sake. I thought my child ASL and it was a total life saver in many occasions, though my child hears normally.

@saturnisgay69 3 жыл бұрын

I can remember when I was a little kid, my sister went to a Montessori nursery and we both kept calling it “the monster nursery” because yk, 1-4 y/o kids don’t know how to pronounce stuff

@rachaels742 3 жыл бұрын

i went to Montessori schools for around 6 years. great school system, though i did get bullied pretty bad...not sure if the 2 are related haha

@hades_augur7189 3 жыл бұрын

A typically masculine name, "Faolán" (FWAY-lahn) or the anglicized "Phelan" both from the Gaelic for "little wolf".

@bellaa8663 3 жыл бұрын

Omg I love that Phelan. Add that to my list! I have three names picked rn: Blaise Madison, Ransom, and Sedona

@unicornalley_30 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy for you two! Also. Thank you for being willing to share the things you are scared of about being a disabled parent. It means a lot to me to see other people talking about that. I have always wanted to be a parent but I worry so much about whether or not I'll be able to be a good one because of my disabilities. Thank you for your always delightful honesty 💜.

@kemitstoes5764 3 жыл бұрын

as a trans person, the fact that they've gone for names that can be shortned to gender neutral names means so much to me

@tia8245 3 жыл бұрын

and i never even thought of that! if i ever have a kid i will definitely be doing that too

@mattimoodle5160 3 жыл бұрын

Omg! Same! I kinda had to stretch to neutralise my name after coming out, and had to completely change my middle name entirely, so I really appreciate names that can easily become gender neutral. I'm definitely gonna chose easily changeable names when (if) I become a parent.

@chloecrawford5426 3 жыл бұрын

Our son's names can be lengthened to feminine names really easily if they choose to. Think Victor - Victoria etc and their middle names, though they sound masculine are actually maiden names of women in our family tree.

@nonniperkl6273 3 жыл бұрын

@@mattimoodle5160 lol mood. My new name became longer but it is my old nickname tho and some how still refers random god

@julieannelovesbooks 3 жыл бұрын

I'm not pregnant and I'm not going to be for a while, but that's one of the things I'm definitly doing. I want my kid to grow up as neutral as possible. I mostly want them to do what they want to do. I want them to wear what they want to wear and choose their own colors etc. I think it is so important for kids to grow up in a supportive home where it doesn't matter what gender they end up being, and that way maybe they won't attach so much value to strict genders so they are respectful and loving to people who aren't cisgender.

@tirzah9929 3 жыл бұрын

Jessica will know why every parent accessory is dark when the small human starts messing on everything

@MrsznewyawkRN 3 жыл бұрын

😂 I feel so bad for her amazing and gorgeous collection of dresses/clothes.

@FennecTheRabbit 3 жыл бұрын

@@MrsznewyawkRN Aprons, tons and tons of aprons.

@juggalette702 3 жыл бұрын

Burp clothes everywhere all the time. She's going to be a brilliant mom.

@doflya129 3 жыл бұрын

Same I was like you should go for dark colours if you don’t want vomit colored stroller

@AliceRonald 3 жыл бұрын

But then half of baby messes end up drying/staining white or pale, so you really don't win!

@Ranidia 3 жыл бұрын

You two are so wholesome to listen to, I always feel so warm and fuzzy seeing the way you speak with eachother, and the Good Good ideas about humans that you have (in example, choosing a donor whose info would be available to the child, and choosing names that can be gender neutral because you don't know who they will be when they grow up.) Thank you for sharing these moments! ♥️

@Lillith. 3 жыл бұрын

I went to a Montessori school. I loved it. You got to get ahead on stuff you liked and really explore that side. I think it's a great way to teach children as you don't have a book you work through, but different ways to approach things.

@mmts96 3 жыл бұрын

Jessica is not... ginger... What even is real anymore 😭😭😂😂😂😂😂😂

@ivydragonbreath 3 жыл бұрын

I know right? I imagined her to be similar to a cabbage patch doll ☺️

@missallielynn 3 жыл бұрын

Nothing is real. Everything is cake.

@SkyelarEagle 3 жыл бұрын

@@ivydragonbreath now that’s comedy

@ivydragonbreath 3 жыл бұрын

@@missallielynn cake is a lie 🍰

@AsAboveISoBelow 3 жыл бұрын

She "wears" ginger so well that it's impossible to tell she'd be otherwise! Beautiful lady ^^

@TheHelican 3 жыл бұрын

I was in a Montessori school as a child from the age of 4ish to 9, and then I moved to a 'traditional' primary school (in Ireland). I felt like the Montessori was amazing for teaching social skills and independent thinking. That style of school places a lot of trust in the child, and emphasis on their individual skills and interests, which was definitely of benefit, and learning felt a lot more like play than like work. However, I will say that when I aged out of the school (they only served children up to the age of 9, but Irish primary schools go up to 12 before kids change over to secondary school) I found the transition to the other primary school really, really difficult. Going from an individually led, free-form learning style to a strictly structured classroom where all the children are doing exactly the same thing at the same time, and can therefore be compared, was very jarring. So I recommend having a think about the whole schooling journey!

@caffeinatedx 3 жыл бұрын

i second this

@bibliophilecb 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I was homeschooled for several years with a Montessori style of teaching, and while the transition to public high school was difficult but not awful, as an adult I struggle to discipline myself. Like “what do you mean I need to do this thing now because my boss said so? My brain wants to do this!” So it’s something I’m actually still struggling with. It had its benefits for sure, but I struggle with structure a lot because of it.

@Lewisiaisoutofcontext 3 жыл бұрын

The way my secondary school (the Swedish equivalent to lower secondary school I believe? Between the ages of 13 and 15) worked was Montessori like in many ways, and while it was wonderful and possibly the easiest time I've had during my school years, it was a hard blow to go back to public education afterwards. I struggled a lot with the forced structure, even though it was kind of based on the belief of the "free thinking individual", more so than other public secondary schools, it was still hard and I found myself unable to do certain assignments because I couldn't see the point and found it incredibly dulling. I'm still struggling with that right now with continued pre-studies I need for vet school. I like the idea of Montessori in general but it did hit me hard when I was forced in to the public education system.

@madi5286 3 жыл бұрын

I agree and disagree. As someone who only ever went to public school (in canada) a lot of the struggles with self regulation and focus on strict scheduled tasks is true for a lot of kids who never did montessori too. Its more because its not how people are meant to be and is very naturally hard for some learners than because someone didnt get practice at a young age.

@comettripper 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, but it was probably for the best. Being in a "regular" school is difficult for everyone, but like, at least you knew the difference and had learn important things already that you might have not learned otherwise. So it's probably still a good thing.

@adamwise1111 3 жыл бұрын

I'm personally partial to the name Edward because it has that vintage style, is easy to spell and pronounce for english speakers, and can be shortened to "Eddie" which is pretty cute imo. Charlotte is also good because it can be shortened to Charlie, but it's a bit harder to spell.

@akmcdade6334 3 жыл бұрын

i went to a Montessori school and I can honestly say it was one of the most important pieces to my education. It is truly so valuable. Congrats btw!!!

@esthermcafee5293 3 жыл бұрын

Re. To show or not to show the wee one: I’ve really liked how the Daley-Black family (Tom Daley and his husband Lance) have done it with their son. You never see his face, but we get to hear his cute little voice and see bits and pieces of him as he does toddler things.

@jacquelinej4819 3 жыл бұрын

My kids are Josephine and Ivan I liked that both had “easy” gender swap names. Ivan was named after my grandmother Iva, also thought Ivy, or Vanya would be names that gave him some gender flexibility. Josephine is name after my FIL Joe, and has some obvious flexibility. Anyway just happy to see I’m not the only one who considered this when naming children.

@demon-dj7yj 3 жыл бұрын

The fact you took that into consideration is awesome!

@sweetdaydreamer8868 3 жыл бұрын

oh are those slavic names?

@emiliamazur5039 3 жыл бұрын

@@sweetdaydreamer8868 yes

@Mollygregson 3 жыл бұрын

I also thought of josephine but like as in how its done in dawsons creek, shortened to Joey which tbh is nice in any gender

@carinfonk1695 3 жыл бұрын

My middle name is actually Josephina after my dad's middle name Joseph! It has been a family tradition for ages to simply repurpose names that are already in the family to fit either gender, so that luckily makes it easier!

@katie_bruh 3 жыл бұрын

I'm really looking forward to your disabled parent videos! I'm 20 and neither me or my partner are interested in having kids for a very long time (if ever!) and for me, that's mainly down to my disability and concerns of how well I could care for a child whilst also working. I think sharing your experience will really help others so thank you!

@carterdavis3556 3 жыл бұрын

When they brought out the stack of books it was so sweet just seeing Jessica and Claud ramble

@a.bookmonkey6790 3 жыл бұрын

As a Quaker I am so utterly unsurprised that you’re keen on the Montessori method

@mirjanbouma 3 жыл бұрын

How come, please?

@ZolaZsun 3 жыл бұрын

@@mirjanbouma Both encourage open minds and critical thinking skills.

@mirjanbouma 3 жыл бұрын

@@ZolaZsun thank you. I must say that the Quakers sound like an alright sort. Of course, I might be consuming biased media 😉

@julieannelovesbooks 3 жыл бұрын

@@mirjanbouma as far as I know they're pretty respecful and loving to the people around them. everyone is on the same level and it feels like the kind of people that would encourage you to be yourself completely and they will love you for it. But I'm not a Quaker and I haven't had any interactions with them apart from on the internet. (talking about UK Quakers, from what I know Quakers in Africa and a portion of them in USA aren't so accepting)

@piafernandez04 3 жыл бұрын

Claud being overly excited about the practical stroller, and then proceeding to tell us about Jessica's choice with the biggest "but JESSICA" ever got me CRYING istg 7:18

@AL-cg4vb 3 жыл бұрын

I am so so happy you made this video. I never connected so much to a parenting style as much as I did when you said it and looking into it. I’m about to get myself so many books. Thank you so so much please do more on this!! It’s an approach I already had and I didn’t even realize it, but I obviously need improvement and learn more self control. This is an awesome teaching moment for me! Love from Oregon.

@dkerris 3 жыл бұрын

Oh Gods!! Sensible naming parents! BLESS YOU!!

@vegancatmom 3 жыл бұрын

I was a university professor for ten years, and children who went through Montessori school were by far more prepared for the mental demands of college (not to mention the educational ones). No joke. I could often guess who had been a Montessori student before I had asked them. They were more independent learners and better at problem solving.

@oliviastrees 3 жыл бұрын

I was raised in a Montessori school and am the daughter of a Montessori teacher; it was truly the foundation of all the passion I have for learning and pushing myself to be independent and hard-working, even though I only attended the school until I was 8 years old (we had to move, so I began traditional public school). I am SO excited to hear that you guys have planned to raise the little baby that way!!

@lsheridan4388 3 жыл бұрын

My oldest was blessed to attend a wonderful Montessori school where we lived. We moved and our b/g twins were not so lucky, I couldn’t find a good match in our new town.

@louisesingleton4377 3 жыл бұрын

You two are so researched and ready for this, this baby is so lucky to have you! Most important is to love them, give them room to be themselves and don't stress if things don't go to plan, like you said about looking after you two as well as the baby is just as important ❤️ don't compare yourselves to others as it doesn't matter, you don't need their negativity or added stress thinking you're not good enough, because you are and always will be ☺️☺️

@DangerWifeDodd 3 жыл бұрын

This is the best part of 2021! I can’t tell you how happy I am for you and clearly everyone is for you both!!!

@vallid_50 3 жыл бұрын

Not to toot my own horn, but Valerie seems to fit the requirements and its pretty good. Its medium length, fairly easy to spell, easy to pronounce, not super common, but not abnormal, and it has a gender neutral nickname: Val

@annaproteau9785 3 жыл бұрын

Valerie is also just generally an awesome name. 10/10 name.

@toripenner8254 3 жыл бұрын

also! valerie is a character in v for vendetta who has amazing depth and complexity. she is imprisoned for being a lesbian and writes her biography of the beautiful times she shared with her love. her arc is the catalyst for the psychological transformation of both of the main characters.

@gremlinwithstickyhands3704 3 жыл бұрын

I love the whole name Valerie used in a masculine context as well. Something about boys with “pretty” names really really speaks to me, like Pony or River

@miunya 3 жыл бұрын

No that stupid amy whine house sings the song Valerie and I hate it

@zom3g 3 жыл бұрын

@@miunya very aggressive, and a bit disrespectful considering she's died hehe, ur welcome to ur own opinion but maybe keep it to urself especially since the person who made this comment is called Valerie

@ionaisherwood2855 3 жыл бұрын

I suggest Alexandra or Charlotte for girls because they can be shortened to Charlie and Alex which are both gender neutral

@luizasafta 3 жыл бұрын

Just came over to the comments to suggest Alexandra!

@CobaltHanna 3 жыл бұрын

Also Alexandra ends in an "ah" sound which Jessica has mentioned liking

@alexandraaikonika 3 жыл бұрын

This is probably the first time in my whole life I’m feeling proud of being called Alexandra :D Btw short for it in Russian is Sasha, which is also a gender neutral name here. Kind of a coincidence, since we don’t really have the short “Alex” here.

@reginacattus8711 3 жыл бұрын

And they're both very cute names!

@KatieM786 3 жыл бұрын

My husband is called Alex so I totally agree with this name and am not biased in any way lol 🤣

@darcyritt6179 3 жыл бұрын

You both are glowing!! Absolutely beautiful

@LisaLisa-ep4fv 3 жыл бұрын

I am so happy for you guys. I just went to my gyn on Thursday and informed her I am ready to start trying to have a baby. I am so nervous, hearing about your journey makes me feel hopeful but also terrified. Thank you for sharing your personal lives it really does help me. You two are so graceful and soothing. FYI I have tried saying privacy how Jessica says it and have gotten a few crazy looks my way lol I adore her accent.

@jeannareadsbooks8475 3 жыл бұрын

ultimate baby name suggestion: Harriet -although not that many letters (so easier for kiddo when they are learning to write) has 3 syllables so goes w long vibe -vintage vibes -can be shortened to gender-neutral Harri or Harry -everyone's heard of it -lowkey annoyed bc my mum told me this was what she was gonna name me but was apparently vetoed by my dad and my queer butt would love to be called Harri

@hattietti 3 жыл бұрын

An excellent choice 😄

@Huitasunna 3 жыл бұрын

AND: Harriet Tubman!!!

@AnninaSoares 3 жыл бұрын

You can be called Jean (french pronunciation). It's gender-neutral too ❤️

@fionafiona1146 3 жыл бұрын

I still haven't gotten over "Sophronia" and should keep my baby fever under wraps until then.

@fionafiona1146 3 жыл бұрын

@jesus is a biscuit not sure, wether Norway would allow it and making their first names absurd over individual invites trouble (not that trouble needs an invitation)

@war5561 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah as an adoptee; having a medical history is a huge comfort I didn’t/don’t entirely have. Every doctors visit etc I have to say I don’t know I’m adopted and then the doctor always asks some dumb question like ‘you don’t know a n y t h i n g?’ Nah man I just wanted to have this annoying conversation again just for the pure thrill of it. No I don’t know *a n y t h i n g* I’m *a d o p t e d* 🤦‍♀️

@bahiyyihrose7584 3 жыл бұрын

the way you’ve described montessori sounds really great! i went to a montessori preschool and it wasn’t an especially nurturing environment but that was just one school and i’m almost 20 now so hopefully it works better for you

@jenniferminnelid6081 3 жыл бұрын

How surprised and happy I was to hear you say you are interested in Montessori! I am AMI Montessori trained birth to 3 years and 3 to 6 years. There is a wonderful Montessori school here in Brighton that my daughter goes to. I actually also live in Brighton. In non-Covid times they had a fabulous parent and baby group once a week. I loved watching your video about the ups and downs of getting pregnant. It is such an emotional journey. Congratulations!

@angellynn7701 3 жыл бұрын

As someone who has taught for years, I hope this is meant in the kindest possible way, but some children (many) do well with Montessori methods, others do not. Keeps a few others in mind so you can find what you like and dont like about other options. But... you may already have some books- :) LOVE YOU GUYS!

@tonirodans8073 3 жыл бұрын

We learned about the topic in school and I had to write an exam about it and look at it critically. On one hand I really liked the way Montessori saw children, because she saw them as people and not as kids who do not understand a word you saying. But on the other hand it seemed like they were put above every other human being and it did not quite relate to the „real world“. Since Montessori herself always spoke up for mixed education I am kinda torn. But Jessica had quite a lot books so I think they are going to make the right decision. This is also not meant in any mean way, its just very interesting to hear this Information you gave because you actually know what you are talking about. What I really like about the method is the free way of learning, I would have loved something like that when I was younger. Also if there are any grammar or spelling mistakes I am sorry, I am from Germany. And again I love them this is not meant in a mean way, its just a topic I was very interested in the last few months.

@tonirodans8073 3 жыл бұрын

Also I should probably say that I have never experienced the method in real life so I can just say what I have learned from school. We would have visited a Montessori school but sadly the virus came in the way. I would have loved to see it in action and see if the things we got taught were legit, because I dont like judging things based on a few books in school😕

@arrghus 3 жыл бұрын

@@tonirodans8073 Speaking just from personal experience here, I attended Montessori education up until middle school. (and to cut it short, it just “worked” for me.) But I found the usual public school system to be incredibly taxing, competitive, and very focused on punishment-reward based recognition, and most of the time incredibly non-accommodating to those not of a completely neurotypical nature. I totally agree with these comments though. You really just have to take it child to child. And starting somewhere with what you know, and the desire to learn and be the best parent you can be. All you can do! lol. Wishing the best for these two mamas c:

@suddenIypineappIes 3 жыл бұрын

@@arrghus these comments are really interesting to read - I spent the first half of my education in montessori and steiner schools, before moving on to a more conventional school to finish my education. I found that that worked incredibly well for me because the montessori and steiner schools (particularly the steiner in fact) were brilliant when I was younger, basically letting me just be a child, enjoy my childhood and also to develop and nurture my interests. when I was 12 I moved to a conventional school just near brighton (where jessica and claudia live) and i think that was a really good decision on my parents' part because it let me get on top of the more academic side of education. the reality is, montessori, steiner, all these kinds of schools are really great, but it is much more difficult to get into uni or go for higher education if you graduate from one of these types of schools, as the academic standard is simply not high enough. the correct education methods can definitely change from child to child, and I'm so glad that jessica and claudia are looking into alternative education :))

@arrghus 3 жыл бұрын

@@suddenIypineappIes I agree. I think this backbones onto the conversation of prioritizing your child’s development vs prioritizing opportunity, which can end up a similar route to ours. Montessori as your child is still well, a child, and as they get older add the introduction of more workload/critical thinking centered learning. (I honestly still have a bone to pick with the American public school system, but that’s a whole different conversation). But the fact is that traditional schools really are the door openers to higher education. Very true. (I think it’s important to give your children those opportunities, too, even if they decide not to pursue higher education.) But I’m also excited to hear what they have to share about their own experiences (:

@jessicaoutofthecloset 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching! You can follow us on instagram at instagram.com/JessieAndClaud My dress is from instagram.com/jas.vintagecloset/

@emilymaynard3419 3 жыл бұрын

I’m so happy for you guys.

@keylawarburton5787 3 жыл бұрын

Ahhh I love you

@renaleria 3 жыл бұрын

Where did you get that beautiful dress?

@teagansherwood7496 3 жыл бұрын

I love the dress

@broken_rebirth 3 жыл бұрын

I mean in an alternate reality even if Claud was a man and you were a straight woman...well, you would still be able to have a baby you'd just need a surrogate mother. So for anyone like me who is a straight woman and for medical reasons cannot carry her own child and has a partner that may or may not want kids. You can adopt of course, but if you want your DNA you can always do surrogate which is almost the same process as what Claud went through and you have the option to meet the surrogate or just wait for your bundle of endless nights of no sleep or no life 'joy'. I do not want kids and haven't since the age of 14. Now at 34 I still haven't changed my mind. WHen I found out for medical reasons I can't have a child I was so happy bc now I can stop my family from asking me "When are you and your partner going to have a baby?" Because they assume we are, but we aren't. So um, we weren't before this medical stuff, we aren't now. BUt I digress don't let your medical issues and family determine your life choices . There are options! For everyone of all sexual orientations and medical conditions! And when in doubt...raise a puppy first ;). On a serious note: you lovely ladies will make the best mom's. I can tell you really want a baby adn that's how it should be as we have too many humans on the planet already. So why not have more humans go to people who can really give them a good life ;). Rather than 'opps forgot to use a condom" or "omg that less than 1% pill failure kicked in because I didn't take my pill the other day!". Which isn't to say accidental pregnancies won't work out, it's just that some folk are not meant to be parents. And that's ok. Just realize you're selfish and cannot raise another living being. Just like me XD. I love my cat. She's great.

@Pastelnyan 3 жыл бұрын

We need a video on all the good books and all the not so good books! So excited for you both!

@reelynn77 3 жыл бұрын

Also, I HIGHLY recommend "all joy and no fun." This book was amazing for me to feel less worried about mothering when I was feeling overwhelmed. My husband got me the book on audible and I listen to it again when I am feeling overwhelmed and I feel like I must be the only mother in the world who is going through what I am going through.

@molberry2662 3 жыл бұрын

Girl name suggestion: Genevieve! It’s long and pretty but it’s common enough where people know how to spell it and it has a lot of nicknames

@baguettegott3409 3 жыл бұрын

Is it though? Common enough, I mean? I'm not from an English speaking country, so maybe it is much more common than I'd think, but I certainly wouldn't know how to pronounce this lol

@LangkeeLongkee 3 жыл бұрын

@@baguettegott3409 yeah its pretty common. "Gen-eh-veev" some people say "gen-ah-veev"

@guiltyavocado 3 жыл бұрын

i knew of the name but i’ve never seen anyone with the name, never mind being common

@carlyrembish1326 3 жыл бұрын

We have a Genevieve in the daycare I work at but everybody calls her gigi. Super cute name.

@elizabethsmith5086 3 жыл бұрын

I can totally see Jessica and Claudia having a little baby Genevieve!!!!

@AammaK 3 жыл бұрын

Claudia: reasoned and thorough presentation about her stroller preference Claudia again: "But JeSsIcA wants......"

@jaybehkay2438 3 жыл бұрын

Jess’s pure excitement about her buggy though 😂😂

@evestone5361 3 жыл бұрын

Excellent on the Montessori method. When I was a preschool teacher student I was fortunate to do a short internship with them. Loved it and used their philosophy to help me raise 3 children as an early widow. I get complaints on them everytime I meet their friends and co-workers.

@thenextwritedream1580 3 жыл бұрын

I’m a Montessori Nanny and I’m soo happy and excited for you both as you begin your journey I’m in the US. I HIGHLY RECOMMEND the Hapa Family on KZfaq, they are a Montessori family and a wonderful resource on the Montessori home

@MarcusTSMarcus 3 жыл бұрын

I went to Montessori from age 5 to 15. It works really, really well from age 5 to 12 after that it loses some of it’s value as the grades go more into focus. However, all of this is anecdotal and is most relevant for Sweden. We only start with grades at age 16 and up. I wish you the best of luck with the Montessori. As a side note it can be hard for children in Montessori to handle being better or worse than their classmates.

@alexreid1173 3 жыл бұрын

It’s similar in the US as well. In order to get into good American colleges, you still need to take standardized tests and classes that just don’t work well with the Montessori method. It’s great for elementary school though! I’ve seen a lot of public elementary school teachers taking inspiration from it too.

@tylerjune4120 3 жыл бұрын

I went to Montessori in spain and England, they were both crap I was 12 and a 16 year old was in my class along with an 9 year old Be careful

@Harri_Jay_Kay 3 жыл бұрын

I only heard of Montessori bring used in reference to nurseries/preschools. I never knew that there were fully Montessori schools.

@christabcook 3 жыл бұрын

Wow, you taught me something new about Sweden♡ I didn't know school-age people started getting graded @16y.o. Before official school years, I worked at an in-home Montessori pre-school & daycare, bringing my twins to work & teaching them as well. It was wonderful! I homeschooled my twins until the 1st year of High School (grade 9 here, age 14ish)...let me just say, it wasn't their thing anymore. So, public school there on out!

@MarcusTSMarcus 3 жыл бұрын

@@christabcook many Swedes feel that it would be unhealthy for younger children to be graded, however for further education something needs to be used as grading material which is why we have a compromise between no grades and grades.

@quinnrice3475 3 жыл бұрын

My mother did a mommy blog when I was growing up and I don’t mind too much because I’m trans so I’m unrecognizable from back then but before I transitioned it bugged me that people could find out personal things about me even if I never met them. My mother didn’t use my name (but she called me Princess which is almost worse bc I’m a guy) but I rly wouldn’t have minded if she used my name but used less personal details. You might want to keep that in mind while deciding about putting your child on the Internet

@HeyItsZee_ 3 жыл бұрын

That's why they seem to be on the side of choosing privacy

@BrownEyedGirl14 3 жыл бұрын

I'm a complete stranger whom has only watched a handful of your videos but I genuinely feel joy for you! I'm so thrilled that two loving people who clearly love each other to pieces are about to grow their family. I wish you both and the little one all the best and I look forward to updates along the way ❤️

@lexiibattwitch 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy for both you. Being a Disabled parent is exhausting and hard. But, you absolutely can do it Jessica. It's so worth it and you're one of the strongest people I know of.