Joko never dated women. He tactically matched himself with quality data options.

Jocko when he got rejected in the past : "GOOD..."

"I'm not gifted. I'm not smarter than everybody else. I'm not stronger. I just have the ability to stick to a plan and not quit." That is so inspiring.

"People aren't who you want them to be." So true. Never forget this, collect data, analyze and be clear your decision is sound before entering the lion's den.

Guy: "Dude she was so fine..." Jocko : "I know, I couldn't believe those data points."

So apparently, Jocko raised both his parents. On his own as a single child.

"Hey are you stalking me?" "Nah, I'm gathering data points"

"People aren't who you want them to be." 🙌💥

Jocko's hairline isn't receding, it's tactically retreating

Only Jocko would metaphorically refer to dating as hunting a lion

Jocko: "Lion scat." Echo: "Hell yeah."

"Jocko dating advice notes" 1.) Stay outside her cave and look for her scat. 2.) Jessica may be great... but acquire more data points. (Refer to point #1)

“Hey Jocko, How do I get out of the friend zone?” “Fire and maneuver”

So if I like a girl I should camp outside her house with binoculars

In a strange way I'm glad I was once living with a girl with several red flags and I had fad flags of my own too, because I've learned a ton from it. I was in denial of my own passive aggression and manipulative behaviour thanks to a defensive ego. I justified her red flags because I was convinced the good qualities were worth consequences. Self-reflection has been key to my personal growth, and earning self-respect demands higher standards both FOR myself and OF myself.

OMG, it took a Navy Seal Officer to finally make sense to me. Love the no bullshit approach. Wish found this video sooner, would have saved myself lots of trouble and heartbreak. This is my new gospel on dating effectively. LOVE IT

My Ex-" You have Commitment Issues!!!!" Me- "No, I have insufficient data points collected to make a thorough Cost-Benefit Analysis to determine if you'll rip my heart out."

It is very on brand for Jocko to make an analogy to dating based off of a lion in a cave

I seriously wish I'd had Jocko's advice before I made the worst mistake of my life! Count up those data points and do NOT over-commit until you have substantially more data. You'll save yourself a lot of grief and pain that way.

Last night I was Tinderized: I was stood up for the first time, but she did send me to a nice restaurant. In response I ordered $150 dollars worth of food including two glasses of scotch and a glass of wine. It was healing to the fact that I stupidly believed her photos above all - with animated red hearts in my eyes - ignored all data points - a glaring language deficit, and mile wide gaps in her narrative. However, I gave business to the restaurant, tipped the staff, and I am glad that I did not get shot, kidnapped, tortured, and left for dead. Listen to the lion folks and be safe.

Feel like Jocko conducts a legit After Action Review after having tactically clapped cheeks.

I would love to hear Jocko's wife opinion on dating.

Summary of key points: Get to know what someone is like before you get too emotionally invested in them or place them atop a pedestal they may or may not deserve. Notice good aspects of them and red flags Don’t look back on past opportunities/experiences Trust that it’ll work if it’s “supposed to” Take your time, “take it easy”

Met my wife on a blind date. 3.5 weeks later we were married. I did a little reconnaissance before the wedding and was impressed with her toughness and realized she might be able to deal with my bull. It turns out that she has made me a better man and a fairly decent husband. 24 years of marriage and a great daughter later and we still love each other.

This is comical yet great advice

Keeping your head clear, while intoxicated by emotions, is a skill that needs to be developed like any other.

Like a father to the many souls who struggle and suffer. Rationality, logic and integrity. Thank you, Jocko.

The bit about only hyper focusing on the good “data points” and ignoring the bad are so simple but so true. When I first watched this almost a year ago, because of where I was at with a potential “partner” it was like a eureka moment for me, and I quickly moved past it.

In Jocko’s wedding vows he definitely explained that he gathered multiple data points

"She was nice to you at that moment." Words every man needs to figure out at some point. ..hopefully much sooner than later!!!

Thank you Jocko and Echo I needed to hear this. I got my data points straight and everything shows, that i just dodged a bullet ... even thou first i thought she might be the one. Love your podcast, thank you for your mentorship and lets get after it.

As a data analyst, who’s “actively” dating in a big city jungle, I’d say military maneuvers about collecting data and moving tactically can be applied. I collect data and read flags all the time! Hunting is a good metaphor for this search for mate, as there are definitely predators at all levels. You may not want to be a predator, but definitely you don’t want to be a prey.

What I was expecting : "Hey Jocko, how do we woo women ?" "Do Jiu Jitsu"

Hilarious that Combat Veteran Jocko who has faced death, doesn’t compare dating women to cute puppies, but to a hungry Lion that will rip off you face at the flick of a claw.

My "red flag" advice to my son was this: Try driving through a city whilst she map reads the directions. If you can survive that without trying to kill her, then the relationship has a future. My university graduate son said, in reply to my sage advice, "what's a map?" There is only so much you can do for them.😂🤣😂

It’s pretty awesome that even though Jocko looks at relationships as military installments, he still sees something that’s meant to be will be meant to be. Be yourself, love life, and the rest falls into place.

"lets stay outside the cave" - Jocko talking about women

Never ask a fish for advice on how to catch it. ~ Patrice O’Neal

Broo that last point about not forcing things, just saved me right now 💪🏻

You know what, dudes got some really good points. In a lot of cases, we go into a relationship for the long term, expecting to be with this person forever. But we throw ourselves into it very quickly. We go off first impression and then ignore everything else. A relationship is a HUGE thing, especially if its for life, so we should really be taking the time to gather a lot more data, and assess the situation, before we throw ourselves into what could be a very bad thing. Gather you intel, make sure you've got the right target, then initiate the attack.

lol I imagine Jocko's dating profile saying something like, looking for a tactical an efficient woman.

As a single dude, this can't be anymore spot on. I've even seen the red flags and ignored them because of the first 2 data points!😂

Great video. I came into it with some trepidation but wish I had seen this 2 years ago. Better later than never though. Thanks Jocko!

Earned a like in less than a minute. I made the same mistake. The only thing that saved me was 2 red flags and enough data points to realize we weren’t a good fit. And even then it can be challenging to still let go because of how cute and “nice to you” can put your thinking on hold. I’m glad I listened to my gut

"Hey Dad this guy I like at school is really cute and nice to me all the time but gets in trouble sometimes, he asked if we can go to the movies next week?" Jocko: "GATHER MORE DATA"

I’ve been happily married for 12 years. Even being with someone compatible, who’s strengths benefit my weaknesses and vice versa, equally yoked, etc - marriage is freakin hard. Can’t imagine being married without all those things in our favor. This is superb advice. Hopefully lots of guys will hear it and actually apply it.

Great advice! I'd add to it: don't limit yourself to dating one person at a time. Schedule multiple dates if you can and look for person who shows actual investment, avoid ones who constantly try to make you invest without reciprocity. It will also help lessen the pain of being ghosted/flaked on.

Really needed to hear this in my life right now. Perfect timing💯

"The better it can be, the worse it can be" Echo Charles. Big facts bro

*"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature." - Marcus Aurelius*

I needed/need this. Thank you.

Top content as always from Jocko. Cheers.

This is a very centralized,based,and logical approach to dating.Simple,and true. Pure Jocko material.Pure GOLD.

Not a thumbnail I expected to see on a Jocko video 😂😂

Good stuff. I really enjoyed this because I normally would never watch a video on this topic. Well done.

Def on point, I fall too easily. Now I’m gonna learn to gather data, and guard my heart. Until proven.

the only person who'd give relationship advice with ''lion mouth dripping blood'' metaphor. On a parallel universe you might be a marriage councelor XD

Jocko never went on a date. He met his wife because he proposed after he found more data points

I needed that. Thanks

We need more of this!

No waterboarding on the first date.

"They get one data point and go." That's true of Sailors in general lol.

This is so true! Great advice for anyone!

So spot on!!!

I wish I saw this 4 years ago man... would have saved myself some serious heartache. These guys are awesome.

Jocko’s son: “Jesus Christ, dad, I just asked your opinion on Jessyca!!!”

Omg Jessica 🤣 that hits so close to home right now 😭 Ive done the "ignoring data points" before, this video almost exactly explains my situation 😭

I did the exact same mistake. Met a girl and she was cute & very nice to me & she even got my number. I was super happy and invested my time for her and it all felt great. We texted and I told a lot about myself but she never shared. Missed that red flag. All I know about her is that she's an alcoholic & smoker. Gradually she started to stop texting and that's it. I know by going behind her, I will lose my self respect and hence I stopped too. I was really disappointed and hurt quite a bit. Remember all these happened in 3 weeks. I wish I had watched this video just before that.

Hot Girl: how come you dont want to f me? Jocko: you wake up at 7:30am

"Oh cool, good to see that. Now I didn't lose my larynx". 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Thank You, it is clear approach

I always wanted dating advice from Jocko thankful for this!

Jocko mimicking a woman's voice "What do you do?" 😂💀

Jocko has got flanked by Echo. The legit way. Back in the days it would be impossible to have a video like that here. But with the unmitigated discipline Echo massaged Jocko's ego and eventually aggressively led up the chain of command, and now we have videos about hugging and dating. Legit.

you're making a good point, it's frustrating to spend so much money on somebody before you get to really know them, gather some good information about the person before getting deep into relationship.

I love how humble Echo is. He looks like a beast but then comes across as a well-mannered gentleman.

"Jessica" was the girl that brought me to Jaco. She was a every good reason to listen to him…….

Wish I heard this 19 months ago. Better late than never

Glad I came across this. About to reenter the dating pool. Some solid advice.

Dope podcast. More of this please?

Thanks for the good advise

Jocko: I like you, lets go out. Woman: Sorry I have a boyfriend. Jocko: No factor. Woman: No fac-.. what? He'd be pissed to even see us talking. Jocko: Good. Woman: I don't even know how we would do this Jocko: Prioritize and execute 😏

So much truth in this...

Never has this topic been explained so well - this is just brilliant!

I always say it takes atleast 6months to see someone’s true colours, people can hide who they are for quite a while, but they become comfortable after a certain amount of time and start breaking the front they been doing and you can be really surprised how much you dislike the real them. That’s why most young relationships only last about that long

Finding a good spouse nowadays is harder than going through BUDS with sand in your underwear... Just take your time and be smart about it... rushing into things is never a good idea.

This content is empowering, much appreciated

Where was Jocko when I was in HS? Could've saved me a ALOT of heart ache. Oh that's right, he was getting some.

The banter between you two is always... GOOD. 🤣

I needed to hear this 😂

Great advice coach!

The "data point" discussion is especially something worth thinking about when you consider technology, internet and especially long distance relationships. A large chunk of the data points people receive today are much fuzzier than they used to be because the data comes from interactions done electronically where you're merely reading their deliberately chosen words -- not their inadvertent facial cues, body language, actions, etc. Your brain is left with no choice but to fill in the gaps so that it can turn a text message conversation into a memory with sight and sound, and that memory is going to be subject to all kinds of biases and embellishments.

I needed this talk a long time ago. They say you learn from your mistakes. I feel like the dumbest smart person or the smartest dumb person.

I needed this advice years ago !

thanks JOCKO. this is informative

This advice is so true and incredibly helpful. I wish I had this 3 years ago.

Most people struggle with ignoring red flags and then getting hurt in relationships. However, there's also a thing to point out here too and that is, there are "red flags" and then there are things like "I've been hurt in the past but I learned and I grew from it" which to me isn't a red flag anymore if they actually show and demonstrate that personal growth. And it goes with what they are saying here, you have to take the time to gather more information, because some red flags that might cause someone to run away, is actually a life experience or lesson that they have learned from or moved on from. But I'd say most of the time it's the simple matter of "oh there's a red flag, let's get out of here" and only on the rare occasion do you get a "Oh that felt like a red flag, but this person actually moved on from it and healed or learned from it", now it's something from their past.

I like this. Some Navy Seals call this war gaming. Basically you have the battle simulations in your head before executing the plan. Know who you are, know what do to when you have to go on the defensive once in a while. Sometimes you'll have to do a tactical retreat if you notice a lot of red flags.

"The Dating Game" with Jocko... what a visual

Basically: "Don't sleep with crazy. Learn to spot crazy in advance."