If a woman gets MORE beautiful within a marriage, her husband/marriage has created a wonderful environment/life for her to bloom

Can we all agree that The Perry's & the Azonwus are our cool big cousins.

The set looks like it smells like coco butter 🤣🤣

I think part of the issue missing from the convo about sex in marriage is that men can often use sex as a stress as reliever or a coping mechanism for life issues masking as having a “higher sex drive” than their partner. Men need to be honest about that. Hence the need for more self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and therapy. Women’s bodies are not tools. Sexual intimacy is a source for connection, reproduction, and more. So let’s bring this fact into the convo too because it’s def overlooked.

I stopped dating and put my focus on God for two years. I met my husband on Christmas Eve in a game, on my phone, called Words For Friends and we will be married for seven years in December. GOD IS AMAZING! You can't put limits on God. He can do the impossible!!! 👐🏾☝🏽☝🏽☝🏽☝🏽❤❤❤❤

We canNOT let the devil WIN😭😭

Brought tears to my eyes when Ezekiel said "God is so good, that it's his grace, his distinct unique grace that he put in a vessel that was designed for me." SO BEAUTIFUL

Preston: “We is children of God. We cannot let the devil win”. 🤦🏾‍♀️😂

"Teach young men and women to be brothers and sisters in Christ!" PRRRREEEEEAAAAACCCHHHHH!

Jackie put him on Blast immediately !! Omg 😭

Not Jackie calling out Ezekiel to tell his story 🤣🤣🤣🤣

"Falling and going back, hurts more and cost more." Ezekiel, That's sooo good!!!!

He said with Jackie and her 19000 books and she said it's only 4 😂😂

I love the husbands talking about the attractiveness of their wives

They asked Kiyanna how she was able to deal with Ezekiel's struggles, and in answering that she took accountability in how she didn't help him with it. That is true love man

Jackieeeee the skin is skinnninnnng

It hits Preston all the damn time that his wife can actually preach!😂 what a blessed guy

I think the video playing mid church was God saying people see you praising me loudly but I see what you do in secret 🙃

"God will often give you a partner that has what you don't have and has what you need." - JHP. Yes. ❤‍🔥

“Beauty isn’t the problem. Our hearts are!”

I love this because even though Jackie rip the Band-Aid off and tell Ezekiel to tell his story, you can tell by their laughter and the way they can talk about it is there's full deliverance. There's no shame because he knows that he's been delivered, that's the only way you can talk about something so clearly.. .. God is so good with his grace and his Mercy

Being a single woman hoping to be a wife one day I am grateful to God for these types of videos. We need more married couples having these types of talks on social media and giving good advice to people who are either married or looking to get married. I realize that there are so many single people who don’t know what it means to be a wife or husband or what submission in marriage really is. I think the reason is because they are getting advice from loud and wrong people on the internet. Thank you for giving people the tools and advice that you did not get so that they can be successful in their marriage or future marriage.

I prayed so hard to have a boyfriend and someone show me love since I was feeling so lonely. I put the work in to fix myself from the trauma I had experienced that trapped me into not deserving love. This year has been my yes year for going out and trying new things. I went out to the golf range with my friend not having showered for like 4 days, no makeup, stanky and ended up meeting an amazing guy who loves me for who I am. So much pressure going on dates in my past trying to dress and present myself as perfect. Gods timing is something else 😂

"You shooshed the Lord!" 😂😂😂😂

32:36 “There are so many trials and tests in marriage, in relationships where the aesthetic won’t matter when we’re going through something. What will sustain us is your character, your walk and intimacy with God.” Jackie P.

28:33 EVERY SERIOUS MAN OF GOD SAYS THIS ❤ his wife gets more beautiful over time🎉

i think any young person looking forward to getting married should go through school with the Perrys.

I LITERALLY was about to look up scriptures on EVERY topic on this video description, smh... And then this pops up on my feed... So this is about to bless me I believe... Thank you Lord.

“Conversation and time is just slow discernment.” 🔥🔥🔥

Not “put the pipe down” no pun intended nooo Jackie 😩

Preston is so SILLY FOR THAT! "We can't let the devil win... you don't feel challenged" it was then I started crying with laughter LOOOOL! Such a good episode, was an episode we didn't know we needed

Preston clapping is crazyyy 😭😭

Ezekiel story was giving “Imma see for myself” 😂 thank God for deliverance ❤

"I'm being serious too" "You don't feel challenged" 😂 Preston is too much! It don't take but a little for him, the way he has the hots for his wife and she blushes everytime its so adorable. This was a great conversation. When I was married I did withhold sex as punishment but it was also because I noticed a pattern in my husband where he was spiritually and emotionally "dumping" inside of me and it was a transferring of energy. So no when you had a bad day at work I don't want you to blow my back out because then you feel better and now I feel like crap. When instead we could've prayed about it together or something else. I just got tired of feeling like a dumpster and I had nowhere to place my worries, fears, or things that frustrated me. I was going to God double time because I was carrying his burdens and mine but he wasn't going to the cross on my behalf. I would have rather us war together through prayer and also in the bedroom.

Not me smiling all hard listening to Ezekiel and Kiyanna’s love story 😆 lol

The first 10 mins of this video has me SCREAMING 😂 please keep the Azonwus in frequent rotation 😭

What a great vid. I love how God puts 2 ppl together n they balance each other. My marriage started as 2 unbelievers then I became a believer n it was not easy to be patient and sit back have faith in Christ that He would work on my husband's heart. Sure enough now we are both born again, loving the Lord errday. Lol The sex life changed but it was my husband who wasn't as active as I was loll...little did I know it was God's perfect plan to work on me!! I had a problem, I relied on sex for confirmation, validation etc. God was working on me to rely only on Him! After 10+ yrs we are on the same page. God is so good on everything He does!

That is so true. When I was abstaining for years & when I allowed the flesh to win, it totally discussed me. I went right back to abstaining & what a great feeling to stay strong & free from sex.

Dang courthouse wedding = premarital sex , Jackie jumped right over simply being poor 😭

Thank you for this podcast. This episode especially. I'm a 19 year old male. I used to identify as bisexual and God saved me from that. Coming into a church space (in university) has been so awkward for me especially where I see so many young Christians dating and Sinning in a heterosexual manner and it is accepted. I've just had so much insecurity when it came to dating because I'm generally not attracted to most women (especially sexually)and I've been asked about it a lot. It's just been a prayer in my heart. I want a relationship but I don't know with who because I haven’t connected with anyone. I partially think it's out of fear but I don't know. I have a lot of sisters in christ that build me up and vice versa and I'm always questioned as to why I'm not in a relationship with any of them, what Mr Azonwu said about treating your sisters in Christ well without the expectation of marriage has just affirmed me that I'm on the right path. I'm South African by the way. May the Lord continue to bless you all 🙏🏾

7 times worse is no joke!!! Help us stay delivered Holy Spirit! 🙏🏽

Not the look of worry on Jackie’s face lol 😂 as Preston talk about his attraction to her.

25:06 "she said everybody before her was mid" "they were" 😂😂😂

This was the most chill, laid back, serious/unserious episode 😂😂 I laughed but also received conviction and some good gems to jot down

I feel you about addiction. We all go through it. Like for example with food. I be like "I'm gonna start eating healthy. But after I eat this medium pizza by myself." 😩 Or "I'm halfway through the pizza and now I'm full. I should but I need to eat the rest because I don't want to waste this pizza because tomorrow I start my diet "

Pheeew!! Already commenting 30 secs into the video because Jackie just said all I’ve have been trying to say for the longest time. We need to dial back on this new teaching in churches of “women you need to make yourself available, you need to position yourself, you need to, you need to”…etc! We should first of all focus on God and His instructions for your life, and in turn, He (GOD) will reveal to you places you need to be available and what “positioning” looks like for YOU. My dear sisters, don’t get pressured with the message of “position yourself”. So much balance in what Jackie said and I love it!!❤

Jackie set herself up with that warfare comment 😂😂😂

Jackie's face when Preston said vasectomy 😂😂😂

God I love that You are Sovereign ❤

Th convo about attraction is so necessary. I agree with Ki that liking someone who looks like you is natural and normal but to say specifically you don’t want the very look that you have is very telling of some deeper issues. Attractions are shaped, as a teacher I monitor so much of what we watch and I have seen how my little kids began to prefer vanilla skin because that is who you see on your favorite shows. I have been on a mission since to find brown people who do educational videos. That’s just an example of how biases are formed.

When Jackie talked about smoking after being saved it really resonated with me, I grew up in church but only attended to be a good daughter, I was the golden child in peoples faces then did whatever I wanted in private Cus no one suspected me, even after I encountered the lord I kept smoking but I began to always feel tormented when I did I would always feel highly anxious and hear voices that sounded like people arguing, It was almost never a good experience but I just wouldn’t stop, I continued for a bout a year, I would smoke vapes too and would never take anyone seriously that warned me against it as I couldn’t find anything in the bible that explicitly warned against it. at first I threw away all my grinders and papers but after a while I started university and had more freedom than ever and would smoke a lot with friends, it still was an anxious experience but I wouldn’t stop, like Jackie I would smoke whenever anxious bored or upset, it would “heighten” my creativity, but also my anxiety. It felt almost like routine like I had to. Even if I didn’t want to. It took me a while to stop and I jumped around with how often I’d do it, I’d limit myself and stopped vapes but picked up cigarettes, really and truly I was only smoking to distract myself from feeling, I was emotionally mature for other people but totally emotionally irresponsible with myself and used smoking to help me bypass my feelings even more. as of now I haven’t smoked in about a month and a half and this is the longest I’ve gone in the last 2 years, Thank you God

When you have to “shhhhhhhush” God…you know it was the Holy Spirit stepping in to speak to you. My goodness…

This was soo good!! I hope my husband (when he comes) is listening to conversations/podcasts like this!! So insightful

Oh my gosh 🤣 the way I am rollin’ over the crack head analogy. I use that analogy all the time but it’s the best way for people to understand the breaking of bad habits.

This is very insightful and fun to listen to. The part where Jackie said there’s not in our control how we’ll meet our partner was a highlight for me because I just don’t agree with all the motion that singles should go out more often and join this and that with the sole purpose to meet someone. I think it will happen in God’s timing and just hearing someone say that is reassuring. Also picked up a lot of wisdom that’s good to know as a single preparing to get married. Thanks you all, ❤

The amount of laughter here and wisdom just shows what is inside each of you and the maturity and depth you all have in your relationship with God and with each other. May many of us have such great relationships

Can y’all do a Q&A podcast answering our questions😃? Can we talk about the realness of sex in Christian homes? Women don’t want to withhold sex as punishment, arguing/disagreements/annoyances interfere with our emotions, therefore we don’t want to have sex…we need the right emotions to relax our mind in order for our bodies to relax for sex.

The Perry’s and the Azonwus a pod we DID know that we needed.

I love that God will tell you what to help your spouse with and what not to help your spouse with. Having that discernment is everything.

I listened to on apple already and it was sooooo good can you have them again please? It’ll be great to know how specifically u guys overcame things like intimacy expectations and wanting to divorce etc what practical steps I can take to help. Also regaining friendship in marriage when it’s lost etc

“conversation and time is slow discernment” so good!

THE HOLY SPIRIT SPOKE LOUD in this podcast 🕊️♥️✨

Maybe because I'm plus size, but sometimes I feel like people in church can be fat phobic. When i got married I Expected, somwhat for the world to question my beauty and my husband's attraction towards me, but when the people at church did it it hurt more and made me question for years if my husband really wanted me and had me waiting for the ball to drop. Almost 15 years later we are still together but i still think about how people around me and in the church didn't believe that i deserved the kind of love that my husband has for me because of my size.

Thank you for talking about the consequences of backsliding . I’m in a moment where I backslide and it’s been an uphill battle trying to regain the peace I had before. I’m still praying that God strengthens me through the consequences

They said they can’t let the devil win Ikdr💀😭

Loved this episode. However, I would like my husband to be physically attracted to me from the first time he meets me. And as he gets to know me, become attracted to my personality etc. I think physically attraction is quite important.

I’ve been wanting to find another podcast to watch/listen to. I just clicked on this 5 minutes ago and subscribe. To listen to a podcast with black people who also talk about God, relationships is amazingggg im excited to binge watch these videos ❤ as a 22 year old who isn’t dating. Working on me and becoming the best version of myself. I’d hope to meet my husband and be healed!

Amen to the part about the belief that we can’t manufacture God’s will! God is sovereign and will control when you meet your spouse 🙌🏾 You can go out and be everywhere and still not meet your spouse until His timing ⏱️ I loved the Dunkin Doughnuts analogy 😂

I have a friend that loves God and really struggles with porn and masturbation. The way Ezekiel gave that revelation at the beginning of the video was completely mind blowing 🤯 🤯 Like wow!!

I heavily agree with what Preston stated around the 37:16 mark because witnessing and understanding the eternal relationship a believer has with another as a brother or sister in Christ respectively leads to contentment with the establishment of that relationship no matter what it blossoms into whether that be maintained as friends or grow into dating and/or spousal relationship.

I LITERALLY DONT KNOW ANYBODY ELSE WHO TALKS LIKE THIS... where are these kinds of ppl, this is so real and honest! I need this community!

This conversation is what I needed to hear. Falling after deliverance lets us know that the devil never gives up and comes back with his seven times worse to trap us. It lets us know that freedom is continual need to stay close to God.

We were taught to look at each other as brothers and sisters in Christ. I teach my nephews that now. My late husband and I gave them purity rings.

The Perry's are a blessing to our generation! The rawness and realness of life of a believer. So good ❤

Jackie saying for sure about Preston getting a gut was too funny🤣🤣

Saving this for my long run on Saturday.. With ads it’s gonna give me at least 80 minutes of run time.

I shall, and ama WAIt! 😤😌

I haven't listened to this in full but can you do an episode talking about what is secular, worldly and share scriptures as well plz. I love listening to you both I'm 33 and it's nice to find persons of my age group discussing Christ and connecting it to real life. Keep sharing your wisdom, I pray this ministry continues to grow

I remember Ezekiel telling this story when they came to South Africa for the We need to talk tour 😂😂😂

I have gotten so many tools learning from couple like The Perrys and The Ozonwus. And that other couple you brang on.

Productive synergy in a marriage is so key to how you can see God’s hand on your union !

I see what they’re saying but pretty much every man in the Bible was with a beautiful woman. Sarah was so pretty that Abraham had to say that she’s his sister so they dont kill him for her. The Bible talked about Rebekah’s beauty at least 3 times, she’s “fair” etc so the thing is, men will always look at the outside and God will always look at the inside, it’s our nature. It’s only when we align with Gods will, we see the inside. It’s easier for us women to overlook a few imperfections but men not so much especially “societally attractive” men.

😂😂😂 Preston said I will cook early, feed the kids and put them down.The we can go to war! He is hilarious.

Your LA show is sold out and I can’t believe I’m missing out on this. Please come back to Cali so that me and my husband can attend! We live y’all.

I'm so happy to see you all together again. ❤❤ Jackie, how you described your experience when you smoked again. You explained my experience exactly. I said, "I hear YOU, GOD." Never again!!

I have my ticket. Can't wait. Excited!

They all exhibit so much humility!!

I literally love the honesty in this podcast

Preston: Everyone before her was mid. Jackie: …. They were 😂

Women flip out if you suggest they should lose weight. Bold admission, Jackie.

I believe that God give me grace just for my husband 🙌🏽

“Full of pride, tear it down”😂😂😂😂 love it

Authenticity to the highest degree! Thank you,

L O L !!! How this podcast started!!! Oh, I am invested!

Such an interesting conversation ,I am a virgin and I already know that I will struggle with intimacy once I get married .I am 22 and even the thought of kissing someone makes me sick ,and although I don't pray for the most handsome man in the world , I pray that God blesses me with someone I will find attractive (I don't ask for much ) because I think that factor will help me in the intimacy ,I think being with someone I don't find attractive would probably be the worst case scenario for me and the marriage .

One of the funniest With the Perry’s 😂😂 The Azonwus were truly a blessing 🙏🏾

Why when I watch The Perry's I talk out loud at the screen like I'm on their couch in the living room too😂.

Jackie's expression when Preston spoke about getting a vasectomy..and then doesnt even address that comment and just moves on... LOL

God, I don’t mind waiting. 🙏🏾🙌🏾♥️

That was gooodd Jackie. This conversation is timely for me. I was praying about God's sovereignty lately.