Guarding Your Heart in Marriage

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Жыл бұрын

The bible tells us to guard our hearts right? Well, how often have you thought about how to apply the principle to your marriage relationship? There’s temptations everywhere. From ex’s, to co-workers, to pornography, even bitterness and entitlement can harden your heart towards your spouse. Let’s chat about how to keep our hearts soft towards God and each other.
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@myronedmond9500 Жыл бұрын

I once changed my Barber because the way he would speak about cheating on his girlfriend and going out to clubs and everything else. I had to stop getting my hair cut by him because I didn’t like the mindset I would leave with when I was done. Finding a good Barber is hard finding a good influence is even harder

@angelawalters7661 Жыл бұрын

Solid words my brother if more men would take that approach then they would fall into less temptations.

@iamdallasforte Жыл бұрын

I did this just cause of how he would talk about women in general. I was more so careful about who put their hand on my head.

@dorothy7782 Жыл бұрын

Yes, it's important to be aware of people that put their hands on you, especially in areas of the laying on of hands during prayer.

@brijjorinje7834 Жыл бұрын

I had to do the same for my son. Did not want him growing up around this type of mentality

@deonka236 Жыл бұрын

@@iamdallasforte😮😂y

@Amber_AB_Boyd Жыл бұрын

“Don’t fall in love with someone who does not love Jesus!” Thank you Preston This blessed me.

@newulove809 Жыл бұрын

Amen

@audiannichealing Жыл бұрын

Amen sister in Christ

@Jessica-ob9zp Жыл бұрын

Amen.

@lazarusfowsta Жыл бұрын

I fell in love with and married someone who no one could have told me anything other than she “loved Jesus.” She did me worse than any other woman other than the woman before her that I could have sworn loved Jesus.

@shayshay8119 Жыл бұрын

Amen

@chrislacy1990 Жыл бұрын

“There’s a difference between your wife wounding you, and your wife triggering wounds that you’ve never dealt with.” - Preston Perry I ain’t even married yet, but that made me say “Amen” and “Ouch.”

@jld4870 Жыл бұрын

Profound and anointed.

@sharigrant1319 Жыл бұрын

Thissssssss!

@ChrisTeeO. Жыл бұрын

@chris but why you not married tho? Ha What’s good! I’m 12 years down and 4 kids deep ikr? but I’m saying …what if marriage is the place when everything that you been putting before that decision is granted..

@brooklynstabile8957 Жыл бұрын

🔥

@e.wilson9613 Жыл бұрын

Amen.

@KaylyaP Жыл бұрын

“He may not be romantic but he’s responsible” I liked that I never thought about that in that’s way

@essences_ofamber Жыл бұрын

That's a whole word!!!

@vakashibise Жыл бұрын

Right!!! Just yesterday I was telling my husband just how unromantic he is, yet I've heard from my family and friends just how fortunate I am to have a husband that is so responsible. My goodness, Holy Spirit is calling me to order at this point because he's currently sleeping and I'm mad at him for something else 🥺 Let me go cuddle with my man 🫣😅😊🩷

@rosilandmalone5421 Жыл бұрын

Yeah, yet the flip side of that, WE are paying bills...

@rosilandmalone5421 Жыл бұрын

Disappointment without healing (thyself) and/or communication and/or therapy.

@brendarewan7441 11 ай бұрын

Why can’t he be both?

@wayNAY87 Жыл бұрын

The part about women withdrawing emotionally was incredibly insightful

@billystevens6076 Жыл бұрын

Yeah very interesting. Thanks for sharing Jackie

@IamBecomingHer24 Жыл бұрын

Yes! Very ❤

@ddgs07 Жыл бұрын

I’m married & do this whenever my husband wrongs me…..I know I really need to stop

@seld6019 Жыл бұрын

YES!

@ayeshamonique298 9 ай бұрын

And very true lol

@FG-ej1xd Жыл бұрын

It's so weird how Jackie articulated PERFECTLY how I felt about adultery. I always felt like adultery was so juvenile especially on the basis of "my feelings are hurt". It's like a tantrum.

@ericaleah5547 Жыл бұрын

I think when you get married there should be an understanding that the marriage is between God and the TWO! No excuse..deal with those wounds and weakness!

@spndrtwentythree5239 Жыл бұрын

Exactly its a little man or women that's getting in their feeling because they didn't get what they want.

@ABrown-hs7fy Жыл бұрын

I think in some cases that's certainly true. However in some cases that hurt is also tied to an unsafe feeling/ memory. Not condoning. Just saying sometimes it's a tantrum, but sometimes you are running for your life and as you're looking back over your shoulder you run into that trap the enemy say on the corner for you. Regardless of what it is my God can get you to an honorable place.

@lbee8247 Жыл бұрын

@FG but God sees our sin the same, our reasons just as petty. I think some self righteousness comes in when we think our reasons for sin are more reasonable than other people's reason for sin. We tend to use a different measuring stick for our own sins and reasons for sins than the measuring stick we use on the sins that others commit to our hurt.

@FG-ej1xd Жыл бұрын

@@lbee8247 oh I never said anything alluding to this sin being somehow worse than others I just simply said this is how I felt about it. Of course sin is sin and wrong is wrong but breaking a spiritual and legal vow you made to God and your spouse because they hurt your feelings is still childish to me. Again not saying it's a worse sin. All sin is the same

@Pia-jy2oh Жыл бұрын

The fact that Preston called the devil a lame is hilarious. We already know the devil is a master manipulator but whenever you guys talk about him, it's always how we refer to a deadbeat dad or a trash friends or a narcissist. You put it in a relatable form and I love it.

@Alettierrr 6 ай бұрын

That made me laugh too😂

@desireemiller2656 5 ай бұрын

I love his BOLDNESS.

@tamikalove2658 Жыл бұрын

MY GOD THIS CONVO😭 Jackie: the way we treat our spouses are reflections on how our relationship is with GOD...so deep and true! I'm a believer and my husband is not and sometimes the way he treats me is like 💨 another story. Moral of the story! 🚨TAKE HEED SAINTS DO NOT MARRY ANYONE WHO DOES NOT LOVE JESUS 🚨🙏🏾

@lalavargo Жыл бұрын

Truth! Learnt that the hard way...

@ae7091 Жыл бұрын

Praying for you and your marriage🙏🏾. God can do ANYTHING!!

@LaYoutuber954 Жыл бұрын

Yup same … but I met him when I was in the world …

@cieraevette Жыл бұрын

@@ae7091 Amen

@lbee8247 Жыл бұрын

@tamika Love I am saved and my husband is not. On top of that my husband was raised as an only child and on top of that he doesn't feel remorse, is grandiose in all that he believes of himself, never sees anything wrong in himself, lacks empathy and everything he does is for show. We have been married for over 25 + years. God saved me in our first year of marriage. But I can say God has filled my heart with the love of Christ for him. And continues to. I am surrounded with healthy, godly relationships. We have raised amazing, now adult, children. I stayed on my knees praying and I still pray. I messed up a lot. I left a lot in the beginning, even after being saved. But I would never leave now. My joy is in Christ. And I have more than I deserve. My husband has been a blessing inspite of himself. I pray you can have the love of Christ. The forgiveness of Christ. My children don't have to be split between us on holidays. We show up together in all their needs and events. My husband was a good father. He had issues but he was present and God used his grandiose personality to bless the children. We stayed together and we are building a legacy. Divorce hurts the whole world and the whole world is better when we choose loving others more just like Jesus instead of being self focused like the world. It is hard but being conformed to the image of Christ is a painful process that leads to real joy.

@savfaithcalhoun Жыл бұрын

I love y’all’s discussions because it’s like y’all are discovering revelations AS y’all are talking. Which makes it feel authentic, like y’all leaving room for the spirit to speak through you and not sticking to a planned discussion. Love y’all so much.

@WithThePerrys Жыл бұрын

It’s true. We have a sense of the general ideas we may or may not discuss but we go into it really open to how it’ll all play out. - Jacke

@annies9633 8 ай бұрын

This is the comment!!

@shanarraturner908 Жыл бұрын

Bottom line: human relationships are ridiculously complicated. Jesus come get us 😭

@rikim1693 Жыл бұрын

I feel you..Im laughing.

@bavinclinton4542 Жыл бұрын

This is so true. In hindsight Christ died in order to mend our relationship with God the father. The thought of how relationships are hard with our fellow beings, should point us to the cross.

@elenam9435 Жыл бұрын

So true!!!😄😄

@simonebiggs7726 Жыл бұрын

Gold 🤣

@dtwhoibe2005 Жыл бұрын

😂

@TDGiddens Жыл бұрын

I love how you look at your husband. You have so much respect for him…for each other. I love it. Congratulations on being an example to other couples.

@Eringobraugh771 Жыл бұрын

"I can't guard myself and love you at the same time." And that whole part about how women withdraw!! 🔥🔥🔥

@zarmoultrie Жыл бұрын

Okay!!!!

@shemillmcleod4941 Жыл бұрын

@JessicaJacob Жыл бұрын

Whew it was heavy.

@lyndan3946 Жыл бұрын

A whole word

@ToriCGCC3 Жыл бұрын

This was sooo true and sound

@julius_lewis Жыл бұрын

That part about stirring our affections for God is SO real. Reading the book of Revelation and gaining a deeper understanding of how our Warrior King Jesus pursues us, literally made me want to love my wife better. I want to better resemble Christ to her because in doing that I am making her safe (protected), seen, cared for, pursued and loved.

@T-She-Go Жыл бұрын

I’m not married but I feel blessed by this 🙌🏾🙌🏾 “Don’t fall in love with someone who isn’t in love with Jesus” amen 🙏🏾

@dexterjweaver4812 Жыл бұрын

Good convo!! Married 22 years and counting! I approve this message!!👍🏿👏🏿🙏🏿

@SherelleUribe 6 ай бұрын

I can no longer sit and watch any of their content without my pen and notepad on deck !! Thank you Jackie & Preston for sharing, and thank you Holy Spirit for speaking to my heart 🙏🏾

@bthechurch7877 Жыл бұрын

Been married for 28 yrs this April but we are stuck in a bad place. A lot of what you talked about regarding triggers, hurt, develope a reverence with God, withdrawing from your spouse 🤦🏾, choosing friends (family) who don't add gas to the fire but water it out was soooooo spot on. Wow. I could identify with everything. Thank you for articulating these issues out loud in this platform. Now I pray. I know it starts with me.

@annt651 9 ай бұрын

Praying for you. The devil wants to see your marriage destroyed...pray as you learn, the Holy Spirit will help you to implement the changes on your own attitude and action that will change the atmosphere. Not easy.

@lmichelle80sbaby 8 ай бұрын

Praying you and your spouse take this lesson & do the work together. Also pray yall get a support system of friends that can help guide & give strength where it's needed 🙏

@dorothy7782 Жыл бұрын

"The heart is above all things deceitful and desperately wicked who can know it".(Jeremiah 17:9). We must all guard our hearts ❣️

@alyssiaparker1256 Жыл бұрын

As someone who is about to be a newlywed, their videos have really challenged my perspective on marriage and my relationship with God.

@lyndan3946 Жыл бұрын

Changed to what area? Making u rethink marriage?

@bthechurch7877 Жыл бұрын

You are blessed to have nuggets like this to lean on...TRUST ME!! Keep close to God and take all this in and guard your mind and protect your spouse-to-be and your marriage.

@malu1034 Жыл бұрын

This topic deserves more than 30 minutes. So good, Perrys.

@carolynsinclairmccalla Жыл бұрын

I love how you both show honor to each other as you disagree. There is a naturalness, but it's more. It's love in action. It's a decision beforehand in motion. Glory to God!

@danielarriaga162 Жыл бұрын

No lie Preston and Jackie are some real ones! I'm so happy God showed me these 2 individuals they are so honest and transparent which is very needed nowadays!

@pearlieloves8263 Жыл бұрын

God is providing His children with tools and resources to reference before and during marriage. God is such a good father and it’s truly an honor to know better, before evening doing. This content is priceless Perry’s.

@amohelangjanekhoboko6056 Жыл бұрын

As a young single woman, all I want to say is thank you. Your conversations are liberating and so insightful. Thank you for walking in purpose and the truth of Jesus Christ.

@tebohohlalele1245 Жыл бұрын

Amen

@demikamoreland4729 Жыл бұрын

This a hit 🎯,This what I was trying to say but it came out in rage ,Lord help me to good to my Boaz

@Bamboozlela Жыл бұрын

I’m half way in and I’m ready to cry, thank you Father for correction and showing me ways to get myself better. Thank you Perry fam for this ministry because it helps ❤

@sharibarnes5982 Жыл бұрын

Are y'all gonna write a book together? Asking for the people, this was so enriching. My pastor has always said my wife is the benefactor of my relationship, love and commitment to God.

@MarriageInsideOut Жыл бұрын

Such a rich discussion on so many levels!... Definitely a reminder that marriage (like our walk with The Lord) is a process that requires DAILY dedication and work. Like Preston/Jackie mentioned, "the grass is never greener on the other side"... rather, the grass will be greener where you water it! 🙂 Also loved the point about surrounding yourself with solid people who can encourage and help hold you accountable... this is something we've really seen the importance of in our marriage (and personal lives)... it makes such a huge difference. Thanks again for another great episode, fam! 🙌🏾

@jrhorne83 Жыл бұрын

Why is adultry always assumed that "the mistress" does what the wife doesn't? I think that is too easy a cop out (sometimes). Sometimes the wife could be doing ALL she can to "fulfill" her her husband but WE (the husband) are so selfish we want more. I am speaking to pornography as well as adultry. ***Love what you guys are doing - keep it up please***

@Rebeccakisosondi Жыл бұрын

Yes! Most cheaters are just awful people who have no character.

@bedelicioussoapsandgifts5818 Жыл бұрын

I agree with you.

@kay22100 Жыл бұрын

Well no wife is perfect so there will be someone who may be better than you in some areas. You may be patient, she may be more patient. Just one example . Still no excuse to cheat. God does not excuse cheating even on a bad spouse

@ladydee9624 Жыл бұрын

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

@nadirashabazz1033 Жыл бұрын

Right. Most wives arent lacking anything, like u said a lot of the men want more.

@frumpusnumpus Жыл бұрын

Love the part about friends and their role in helping you guard your heart. I'm definitely guilty of joining the criticism of a friend's spouse when they complained. Lord forgive me. I will be more mindful to lead them in prayer rather than giving them debate pointers. 😂

@mrs.latoyamelvin652 10 ай бұрын

I’m experiencing pain in my marriage, my spouse seems to be assigned to operate for the God thats against me & I hold my peace & stay praying, I guard my heart day in & day out & I’m growing tired & declaring for Intercessor’s to pray with me for the hands of the Lord to fight against whats fighting against me & bind off all entities & principality’s thats attacking my marriage in Jesus name 🙏🏾

@annt651 9 ай бұрын

Recommend that you start praying for your husband...Try Stormie O Martian' s Power of a Prsying Wife

@LottieB-xu4sp 8 ай бұрын

I'm too in this same battle . 😢

@CandaceLeAnne 2 ай бұрын

My heart is with you. What did you mean by “my spouse seems to be assigned to operate for the God that’s against me?” Only say what you’re comfortable with and feel led to share. I asked so I know how to pray with you.

@awalkofgrace6703 Ай бұрын

I understand you but this conversation has brought me to start from the source :ask God to talk to you about the situation and reveal to you your own heart …

@breaunarawls7555 Ай бұрын

This is so so needed like on repeat type , also for me at my age my friends are limited and married friends are even fewer . You all for me right now are my example i’m submerging myself in my bible and also coming to this channel with ppl who resemble me and also who are living out the words of God in Christ in a true, honest, realistic and healthy way . Thank y’all

@taneshiao9337 Жыл бұрын

Soon as Preston said guarding your heart means not putting yourself in a position to choose sin over righteousness i got out my notebook. The wisdom 💡

@nsofwacb4715 Жыл бұрын

Jackie is spot on about withdrawing emotionally. It is difficult to love your spouse because you are emotionally checked out. Spot on Jackie, I couldn't articulate better what you just explained.

@bthechurch7877 Жыл бұрын

💯💯💯💯

@betterbecausebookclub8732 Жыл бұрын

When she said a woman will remove her energy and place it into something else like her job. I’ve caught myself doing this and will put extra energy into my kids.

@MyahDBoss Жыл бұрын

Same 🥴🥴🥴

@moduol1832 Жыл бұрын

You guys are a beautiful wise, smart, intelligent, intellectuals and great loves of our Heavenly Father!! Thank you guys for your faithfulness and these wonderful conversations! ❤

@U_neekliss Жыл бұрын

I think we talk a lot about infidelity in men but it happens in women as well. The unaddressed trauma that a woman has experienced from her father from molestation to neglect can present itself as promiscuity and/or porn addiction too in the hopes of receiving the love or intimacy she never felt she received. Society has made it cool to entertain uncommitted sex but it's really a bandage to receive intimacy without the possible pain of rejection. At the root of it all, I believe guarding our hearts is transforming the mind to see ourselves as Jesus sees us, worthy and valuable of Godly love.

@LaYoutuber954 Жыл бұрын

It took me 11 years in my relationship and maturing from an 18 year crazy girl to a now almost 29 year old WOMAN to really understand, digest and accept allllll of this and what God wants and designed marriage to be .

@afuadankwaahowusu699 Жыл бұрын

Ditto!

@Babyboy_Matt Жыл бұрын

Getting married in less than a week, and I’ve struggled with lust issues in the past. But as I’m getting closer to my wedding I’m taking the fight head on full force because I refuse to let those issues follow me into God’s covenant. This video is very encouraging and Very! Very! Helpful🙏🏽y’all pray for me

@knelson2019 Жыл бұрын

Praying for you and your spouse! Praying that God will continue to strengthen you in your relationship! Congratulations!!!

@christianmari87 9 ай бұрын

I hope there’s an update of victory for you!! And if you could let us know how to pray if this area has still been a stumbling block

@Babyboy_Matt 8 ай бұрын

@@christianmari87 Hey so update! So since getting married, God has opened a new world for me and my wife to experience the beauty and ecstasy of marriage. It’s truly amazing ✝️💜In regard to my lust struggles, I was clean from lust issues about 4 months in, then I let my gaurd down a couple times and got hit with every temptation you could think of (it was quite the spiritual attack). I fell short once and from that point on, the gap got smaller and smaller. From months apart it turned into weeks..etc.. I willingly opened that door again and I definitely wish I hadn’t. But I always find myself getting back up and praise God I have a loving and supporting wife who keeps it real with me but also shows me grace as I navigate and learn through this journey. So yes, still a prayer request i can definitely use more self-control with my eyes.

@Babyboy_Matt 8 ай бұрын

@@knelson2019 Thank you ! God has definitely strengthened me and my wife in our relationship. I’ve seen both of us grow in ways like never before and it’s a real beautiful thing🙏🏽

@christianmari87 8 ай бұрын

@@Babyboy_Matt praise God!!!! 🙌🏽 🏃🏽‍♀️ He is Good! This just made me so happy to hear! Pray for me and my husband, as we are almost 6 years in and the enemy is trying to entrap with lust as a coping mechanism for things experienced with family, church hurt, job loss, etc. We are physically separated but emotionally still together and want to come back, but there are things to work on for both sides. There is a calling to ministry and I want to see it come to fruition

@CrownMeQuita. Жыл бұрын

I love the community that you guys keep with each other - the friendship that you hold within your marriage is evident in this video and it’s beautiful!

@miiotv Жыл бұрын

THIS!! 🤍 they give me u gotta feed my mind vibee loveee 😭 LOVEE IT SO MUCH!! An example of when God is in the middle…

@CrownMeQuita. Жыл бұрын

@@miiotv Yes Lord!

@JIJII420 Жыл бұрын

I love the balance of how Preston called out men's behaviour and Jackie did equally with women. That was a healthy conversation.

@Gintoki_Madao Жыл бұрын

She didn't

@latoyaamb3r 9 ай бұрын

@@Gintoki_Madao she did multiple times.

@michellecherry9965 Жыл бұрын

I ain't even married but I just love how yall interact and these deep conversations are just life!! Ty you so much for your dedication and obedience to the Lord it's much appreciated

@autumngatlin Жыл бұрын

seems like every episode is about something I talk to my husband or mom about weekly so I know the Holy Spirit is moving & renewing the minds of God’s people. y’all are the best at simplifying complex conversations, may God keep covering your family ♥️

@joanewuruje7055 Жыл бұрын

Jackie and I act the same when watching movies then. I pause movies just to analyze a situation and it becomes a sermon 😆 I always see beyond every movie I watch, even cartoons. There's always a real-life lesson I take from them.

@queenruth_morgan Жыл бұрын

🙌🏾🙌🏾 y'all preached in this session. In our marriage, we're trying to unlearn some things, going back to our past and dealing with those things that really hurt us and ultimately made us into a person we don't want to be. I agree with you that submitting is really hard cause sometimes I see it as you wanting to be in control, and I'll shut down. So dealing with that. But also men/husband do at times take their wives submitting to them to mean, you have to do what I say at all times even if it's wrong. Forgetting that the woman is also human, an individual, she has her goals or things she wants to do for herself. Unlearning the way we show love, as sometimes we can be insensitive, and don't regard each other's feelings and how we want to be loved.

@elormadih9138 Жыл бұрын

If the man loves, submission will come naturally i believe

@Mystylemyrunway2 10 ай бұрын

I love the conversation about guarding our hearts. For me because I love God I guard the heart of God. Because I guard Gods heart I equally guard the heart of my spouse. I constantly consider if certain actions would break the heart of my spouse. If certain actions would break my spouse I would turn the other way….and I never ever want to damage the heart of my spouse. So In essence breaking the heart of my spouse is breaking the heart of God. I’ve been married 43 years and we dated 8 years prior to that.

@kevinkkirimii Жыл бұрын

Guarding your heart = Self control - a fruit of the Holy Spirit

@lue745 Жыл бұрын

You guys are fighting the good fight. You're young, intelligent, energetically willing to do what thus saith the Lord. You guys could be doing anything else but you've chosen to educate folks by using you've gifts and talents. Amen 🔥 🔥 🔥 keep fighting

@leonorahiris3407 Жыл бұрын

Also women will put their energy to the kids more when they close off to protect themselves from rejection

@COMECLOWE Ай бұрын

21:08 God has given us a new nature where we resist that and put it to death! This was so good! Sinning against each other is where it goes completely left nurture each other to God! 😊this is so good 😊

@elanamcghee7817 3 ай бұрын

The analogy Preston gave on rejection was on point!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️❤️❤️

@Ittakes365 9 ай бұрын

It’s a blessing I found this channel ❤

@mwangomuntembakondolo Жыл бұрын

Guarding your heart is self awareness 🙏🏿🙌🏿 well said.

@SheryllMonique 7 ай бұрын

Amen! Shout out to my bill paying, loving me like Christ, husband of 21years!!!!

@knelson2019 Жыл бұрын

I definitely will pause a show to share a quick sermon! And Preston hit on something, I noticed whenever the enemy is attacking our marriage really hard, I seem to get so much more attention from men wanting to soothe the things I'm currently upset about in that season. I'm grateful for the holy spirit for the discernment to see when the enemy is trying to deceive me! Everything about this is wholesome!!! Keep doing what you're doing Perry's much love!!!!

@brittneyperkins4704 Жыл бұрын

I am snapping my finger the whole time feeling this conversation 100%! Amen! May God keep us holy and blameless until the coming of Jesus Christ!

@perscont Жыл бұрын

First time I'm watching you guys. Never seen such an exchange of energy and/ or words between two people before... I will definitely try to find That Kind of Communication from now on. Meaning I'll start working on me getting on that level.

@angelspathway3530 9 ай бұрын

Yes! Social media has a huge impact on people lives. Yes this message was great. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@bodyxbfit3886 11 ай бұрын

The whole pausing during a show and giving a mini sermon LOL that is me, love it.

@shawniquamcadams Жыл бұрын

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 Jackie hit it out the park with the fragility and analysis on weakness!!! #Facts

@phyllisbelieves8148 Жыл бұрын

This was sooo good! I was married for 13 years and divorced for 14 years. I’ve been having the urge to marry again, but have the fear of it being a repeat of the first. As I let God lead me into a healthy second marriage, He is showing me my “blind spots” so that I won’t repeat those things in the next marriage. Your video is so insightful and encouraging. Though no marriage is perfect, I love how you allow God to work through the imperfections that exist within each of you, to create perfect and pure love through Christ Jesus! Please keep the videos coming❤️

@CandaceLeAnne 2 ай бұрын

Guys, great topic! With every episode I see your bond growing stronger. I so appreciate your admiration and adoration for each other on display, and you’re so at ease and comfortable with one another that you can crack on each other without reading deeper innuendo into it. That’s so seasoned! Two people who can laugh with and at each other is another HUGE way to guard your heart against infidelity.

@teach.her.glam9986 Жыл бұрын

My God!! What you said about being sexually abused and the connection to being unsubmissive…..wow!!!! THIS 1 nugget…geesh! Amen and selah🙌🏾

@jazzimilz Жыл бұрын

I JUST preached on guarding your heart out of Proverbs 4:23 last Sunday. Wild. Timely. Loved this!

@newulove809 Жыл бұрын

Amen Jazzi

@audiannichealing Жыл бұрын

Amen Jazzi

@erikataylor5286 Жыл бұрын

So did I!!!! 😀

@jazzimilz Жыл бұрын

@@erikataylor5286 GET IT!!! 😍

@suzanneclaiborne3265 Жыл бұрын

So, so good!! - There’s a Difference between your spouse wounding you and your spouse triggering wounds you never dealt with before! It’s such a blessing to hear two people articulate and gifted with words have these insightful Christ-centered conversations.

@TheVersatilitiesOfJayyy Жыл бұрын

"The way I treat my spouse is literally an outworking of what I believe about God". I'm not even married yet and I felt that one. My Gaaaa

@mirandalynne2536 Жыл бұрын

“no idk the golden girl” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 but nah i had to come back & rewatch months later. Episode is fire!!

@chicanasc4201 Жыл бұрын

“Thank you for bein a friend!” - Golden Girls theme song 😂 That being said, I love you for quoting C.S. Lewis! I am so glad I found your channel. I’m Catholic, and I support your ministry. I think God led me to your channel to help me personally on my own journey to be closer to Christ, but also possibly to help me reach a loved one for whom I’ve prayed because she is struggling with her faith. God bless you and keep up the good work!

@joannapilgrim Жыл бұрын

Lord, knows I needed this today. I'm a woman married in holy matrimony and got a comment from a married man that made me think and stay away from him. Lord, help us to honor You first above all and in all things for Christ' sake. Amen

@user-on1ko5yg4z Күн бұрын

If you don’t love God, then you can’t love me properly, because God IS Love. He is not lov”ing”, He IS Love. That’s major!! That’s what I gleaned from y’all. Thank you!

@kvonyajordan Жыл бұрын

ONE OF MY FAVORITE EPISODES !! SO MANY NUGGETS TO DIGEST AND KEEP!

@slbllc Жыл бұрын

Thank you guys. I just recently watched the Jakes, "Winning at home" and I must say that married couples need more transparency like this. We need godly wisdom in this age. For those of us that had previous trauma like molestation, growing up with addicted parents, poverty etc. it can be hard to discern the proper way to handle a spouse in communication. This helped tremendously. I subscribed in hopes that you guys do this often.

@TellTheNations Жыл бұрын

Can I say I only heard the Intro so far and I LOVE THAT. Push pause and let it fly for the one time!!!!! 🙌🏼

@joannemccray7907 Жыл бұрын

This is amazing. I vote a full series on biblical marriage.

@jasming8893 Жыл бұрын

Wow this really ministered to me as a single woman praying for a godly marriage. Love the depth/ intellect and space to counter thoughts and the basis be relationship with God

@KikeOlaPoetry Жыл бұрын

JACCCKKIIIE. "Whose gonna clear the roses off the bed?" 🤣💀 Ps just on time podcast from yall love it

@mk_lion3ss 7 ай бұрын

Really well said by Jackie "I can't guard myself & love you fully at the same time." Which is why honouring each other as partners requires that when we're loving fully it should be with the other person fully showing up in protecting or guarding your heart (& vice versa)

@DarkToLight88_ Жыл бұрын

Jackie cut him off at 27:40. Sis can you wait!?? What he was saying at that very moment was critical.

@dr.b7754 Жыл бұрын

Great messages here. They are talking about what we call post associative trauma. This is huge in the Black community.

@AimeeBeeluvz Жыл бұрын

I'm not married, heck I'm completely single but I'm so glad I didn't skip out on this! Such truth and Wisdom. Thank you sir and ma'am!

@tarikallenbutler Жыл бұрын

This was really good and gave me a lot of insight about how to guard my heart in my marriage. I specifically like the topic on friendships. I remember having a friend who talked about her boyfriend cheating so much that I would start to feel suspicious of my husband and he didn't even do anything. I would ask questions trying to "find out" what he could possibly be doing and he would of course get irritated with me. Now there was no peace in my home as a result of somebody else planting seeds of doubt in my mind. Thank you for sharing! Very helpful.

@cbanks0725 Жыл бұрын

God has to be the standard! ~Preston I love how real Jackie and Preston are!

@shauna-gayescott4089 Жыл бұрын

I am really thankful for this episode, I experienced emotional infidelity before my spouse and I got married. This was iniated by me and the process was so bitter sweet. I am really happy that this transpired before we proceeded to tie the knot because it brought alot to our attention that we both never really discussed about our own insecuritiesand past traumas. All the points spoken about in this episode was heaven sent and facts straight from the mouth piece of God. Thank you so much Jackie and Preston!!!! This is so good.

@TheBenitaAngela Жыл бұрын

This was goodt!!! And timely!!! SN: Golden Girls = “Thank you for being a friend….”

@trubeautification Жыл бұрын

“I can’t guard myself and love you at the same time” -Jackie 🤯

@ShoshanahDeborah Жыл бұрын

“There’s always something good, that covetousness will keep you from seeing.” Preach!

@kahundumatengu3543 Жыл бұрын

This was highly encouraging. 💜Making the effort to see the good in your partner is also away to guard your heart.

@judythomas6320 Жыл бұрын

Definitely I have learned to look at the good in my husband and not focus on bad and it works out well

@nahambohilma8598 Жыл бұрын

@@judythomas6320 wow ,💯💯❤

@natashasarasky2842 Жыл бұрын

This was such a real and mature conversation on guarding your heart in marriage ❤ God bless ya and your union !

@camillebest8549 8 ай бұрын

Lord Jackie. You just took me out at the fragility (weakness) part. I absolutely get it.

@jasminewillis4997 Жыл бұрын

24:34 you’re both absolutely correct in my book. This is a game changer. When your perspective shifts from not honoring the person but rather God who have one of his gifts to you, with the knowledge we now have about God, it adds major weight to the injustice. It reminds me of the children of Israel dancing before the golden calf after God delivered them from the Egyptians.

@themasterspiece5669 Жыл бұрын

This is seriously so good! I have truly gained so much from this, I relate to you Jackie in the things you was mentioning. Thank you Preston for a man’s point of view! Thank you both so much I enjoyed every minute of this! 🙏🏾🔥

@jazzylagrant13 Жыл бұрын

This is GOLD! I’m a newly wed and this has blessed me. Sharing this with my hubby. ❤️ Thanks for your continued obedience bro/sis.

@lolom166 Жыл бұрын

This was articulated so well! Thank you both for these conversations.

@user-tm3ub2hd4u 4 ай бұрын

I just love the rawness of your topics, always on point. You point out the things that we as a society do not like to talk about or want to avoid. Praying for the both of you!! :)

@fruit032 Жыл бұрын

I really love this episode. I've been married for 10 years and we're still learning

@mechelleburgess429 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for making vocal your commitment to God and extending your conversation to others; I appreciate and honor God in you both. God Bless you with more of His Wisdom and content to help us think of our eternal souls.

@rebeccagonzalez1843 Жыл бұрын

That was a good interview 🙌🏽💗 thanks for being transparent

@nicholeleon3736 Жыл бұрын

Y’all are so incredible. Thank you for this conversation ❤

@nerd-tastic3622 Жыл бұрын

I think the weakness of stepping outside the marriage can go both ways, it can be a boo boo on women as well for the same reasons that was given for men. I love hearing you two talk.

@joyh.729 Жыл бұрын

Great conversation! Thank you for giving me, as an unmarried person, insight into what marriage could look like by sharing your thoughts and experiences both individually and as a couple.❤️ Please keep these conversations coming!