When we're lonely, It's our fault. When they're lonely, It's also our fault.

Blonde girl: “I deserve to keep my options open” Also blonde girl: “I hate when men are looking around on dates with me, it’s like they’re still keeping their options open” Ladies and gentlemen, modern dating

went to the bridge club and there were dozens of 70 year old ladies so happy that afternoon to play bridge with a "handsome young man" (they meant me lol, i'm completely invisible to any woman under 65). they invited me to participate in their upcoming tournament. they were sad when i told them i wasnt going to be there. when i said it was because i was going out of town to visit my mom, they swooned like i was some sort of saint. never had so much validation, appreciation, admiration and praise from women i wasnt related to and i didnt have to hit the gym or level up or get a side job or start a business. a life of celibacy doesnt sound so bad. gonna miss these ladies in 15-20 years. their hearts are uncorrupted by modern toxicity.

These girls don’t give a crap about men’s issues. Real good friends.

There are a lot of AVERAGE women out there, who think they are too good for an average man.

A+ for Courtney once again exposing how women literally have zero clue as to what is actually going on

When we are told we are not needed, why in the world would we go out of our way to try and make any woman feel special????

You know what cuts the hardest. Woman want equality of income but not of expenses...

That was 30 minutes of women rationalizing why they should get what they want without having to make any sacrifices.

The prospect of living my life alone and dying alone, isn't as depressing as being constantly reminded that I'll never be good enough.

I didn't hear them say that men want to be loved and respected.

We’re terrified of being called creepy. We’re terrified of getting the cops called on us.

A society that puts women on a pedestal is a society that looks down on men.

Girl literally said in one clip “I like to keep my options open” then said “when guys turn their head it makes me feel like they’re looking for options” and feels disrespected 😂😂😂😂

These women have no clue they’re just dying to talk about themselves

We don't care about your job or any of that stuff. We want to feel loved, respected, and appreciated.

"What dating advise would you give men?" "Improve your looks and get a higher paying job." "What dating advise would you give women?" "Have higher standards and stop dating broke men."

I love the part where they say "women aren't dating douche bags and guys who put in minimal effort"......I work at a college apartment complex, 380+ units and 90% of the women there are dating that exact person lol.

"with social media you can compare what other couples are doing". That is funny on so many levels..... We all know how accurate people's social media presentation is as compared to their real lives :)

My opinion of not being totally incel, but having less than optimal sex life during my youth was that women didn't seem to be interested in relationship. It felt like the women I met wanted only casual sex and nothing more serious. And I always felt like being rated, how do I measure against the other men they are seeing etc. For me the sex always felt like being a dildo for the woman to enjoy a while. If I could give younger me an advice, it would be to stay away from ladies whom don't seem to have genuine interest in me. But I was naive and thought that no real man refuses sex. I hope the younger guys are wiser than me.

"It's always better to be alone, than to be with people who make you feel alone." -Robin Williams

When Mansi said women have lower standards I couldn’t help but laugh out loud

I’m single but not lonely. I have a great group of friends, social clubs, an amazing family, and my church. I’m 36 years old now, in great shape, successful, and I have no issues attracting women. The truth is, I just don’t want to be in a relationship or have a wife or kids. I’m not even currently dating, no dating apps, no asking women out, nothing. I couldn’t be happier. The Bible even says that being single is a GIFT from God. it’s also the one gift everyone tries to reject. Once you embrace it, being single is amazing. I travelled to 23 countries just last year, I’ve lived abroad, and the money I earn is mine. No one treats me like a human wallet and I don’t have to deal with the problems that come with marriage and kids.

"a lot of times girls make the first move..." ha ha ha right

Women are so out of touch with reality it’s sad bro. Like it’s not even pathetic anymore it’s beyond that and just sad.

38 year old average man here. been single almost my entire life. Tried everything and finally gave up. It's impossible. Have a good day everyone.

We're afraid of approaching women, not entirely out of fear of rejection, but out of fear of having the police called upon us. I remember I said hi to some girl at my college campus a few years back and she literally screamed and said "why are you talking to me?" really loud. A cop car drove by and I said "sir I literally just said hi to her." That was it.Thank you Courtney for pointing out how clueless women are when it comes to dating. I think the dating apps have gaslit every woman who is a 4 or above to think she's a 10 and will only talk to a Chad. Any other man is invisible to them: like me!

I'm a gay man. I'm not even attracted to women or want to date them, but man! This video was so frustrating to watch, because there was, once again, so much "man-blaming". It's exhausting! What a relief I'm attracted to just men. Also for the first time, I actually think it's easier dating men.

Thank you Courtney for making me feel grateful again being single.

This is incredible. None of these women have ANY idea what young men are going through today

Tinder and dating apps are destroying it for everybody . Im old school and still like to phone and talk to women

I would love to see these same women interviewed 10 years later. That would be a show!

I would LOVE to see a version of this where you ask the same questions to women in their early 30s, early 40s, and early 50s. Just to see how perspectives might change.

This girl literally said: 9:33 “An independent, hard working woman like myself keeps her options open” 13:28 “A guy turning his head while we’re walking together makes me feel like he’s looking for options” Rule number 1: don’t get girl advice from girls because they have no clue. That’s just one example of a double standard you may run into.

NO, A LOT OF MEN AREN'T SINGLE BY CHOICE.

They don’t give a shit about what we go through

Stella is the kind of person that would decline a physically and emotionally 10/10 guy, based on their Zodiac sign. Monique is the type of person that would say ''If you're homeless, just buy a house''

What women want: Don't be ugly Don't be short Don't be poor

What I want from a woman: be sweet and don't add chaos to my life. Thats it!!

Surprisingly chill interviews. Seems like you gathered a good spread in terms of ethnicity, looks, morals etc. Would be interesting to see different ages as well. A few topics did stand out: 1) I love their pro advice on how to get a girl, like the classics: "I don't know", "change career", "stop going to bars", "I don't know", "don't look for relationships", "have confidence", "I don't know", "embrace being single" and "move on/walk away". Stellar stuff :) 2) On a more serious note: In the second-to-last part they talk about what they want in a man. Several comments here have called out how obviously disingenuous these are but I actually don't think the girls are actively lying here in several cases. I just think that they have a baseline (e.g. 6ft and 6pack) that's so ingrained that they don't even think about mentioning it. 3) The last part about what they think a man wants in a woman is the only truly clueless part - but that is probably to be expected.

The reason it’s hard to get a relationship is that everyone thinks they deserve better and expect to get it.😂

This is EXACTLY why men can’t take relationship advice from wmn. Who they sleep with is entirely different from who they describe. And the advice is ENTIRELY based on emotion

Funny that the one saying that "women stopped caring about douchebags" is the only one dressed in a way very likely to attract their attention.

Most of the time these women don't even seem to understand the majority of the questions being asked. This opens up the possibility that women's remaining connection to the reality of their own surroundings may be in the process of diminishing even further in the future than it is already the case. I'm really curious to see how this plays out for society in the long run.

A lonely woman complains to her friends about how lonely she is. A lonely man talks to his reflection in the mirror and the reflection walks away saying "Sorry bud you're on your own."

I just watched this terrifying video. As a male in his 40, I think women have built this image of the male partner to be someone who looks like Aquaman, drives a big truck, and has dollars out his ass. These unrealistic images are what drive men to be single, lonely and sexless. There are too many barriers to simply ask a women out.

"The lack of Christian morals is the root of ALL issues in this age."

I think the problem is the expectation is striving for perfection between men and women. Many years ago I used to work at a checkout and I used to speak to a lot of women when they would buy their items. I wasn't hitting on anyone just a general chat, in the end, I refused to speak to younger women because they would always give me a dirty look or completely ignore me. The only women I would speak to afterwards would be the older women and we would just have a nice chat like two human beings.

Peace and intimacy. That’s it. That’s all we want. We don’t want a “boss lady” I actually cringe when I hear women call themselves “boss lady”

Courtney, please gather some men from like 23-35 and ask them similar questions. We need women to understand that their perception of the current situation is way off.

Most of us men just want a good looking woman that can get along with us. That's it... Its not that complicated like what women want in men...

Some great interviews with these ladies. Many were very articulate with great insight. The bottom line with relationships is that they aren't perfect and they require work. You need honesty, respect, compromise, caring, communication and love/intimacy with your partner. Hopefully we get what we give, especially if you are doing all of the aforementioned. You literally need to wake up every day and choose to be with your partner because it's too easy to jump ship but then all you are doing is starting over elsewhere, over and over again. If you have a partner who cherishes you and is a "keeper," I hope you're treating them like a most precious gem and not yesterday's trash. Advice from a man on the backside of life. Do with it what you will.

After watching this video, I have concluded that relationships are just not for me.

I don’t think most women really understand how difficult it is to form a connection with a woman even if the man is attractive. I won’t blame women entirely for that, there’s plenty of societal reasons, and things men need to improve, but it’s really crazy to see these women are genuinely clueless when it comes to the male experience…

totally agree with the social media "romanticizing fighting", good point

I would also add this thought: my grandparents, both born in the early 1900's, saw a lot of changes in their lives, one of them being the advent of air travel, and also the changing of society, in general, in the 1960's. During my lifetime, I've seen a lot of changes also, but one of the biggest and most dramatic changes in society is due to internet, and smart phones. I think, and this is because I've seen society from before and after, that internet, smart phones, social media, these things have had a negative impact. Everything is about instant gratification due to what I've just mentioned. To people that grew up with these things in their daily lives, the ones that were 'born into it' so to speak, you will not understand the impact these things have had. I don't do social media, and I never have. The only thing I really like is the ability to watch music videos from the old days, that I really did not have much access to back then. I watch those right here on utube. I don't particularly like utube, because of their censorship of too many things, but nonetheless.....

Older guy here. Single, alone, and 98% drama free. I’d be really hard pressed to give up my peace for some mediocre woman.

It’s crazy how when women give advice on how men can be better, they basically say what men say to each other already: “Get better, improve yourself…” etc. But when women are talking to themselves on how to get a guy when they’re struggling, they’re like “No, sweetheart, you’re perfect the way you are. Don’t change for him, let him change for you”. Like, what 🫤?

I stopped after the last gal dropped a vague "hint", then got her azz on her shoulders when I didn't give her the chance to reject me if my conversation was even slightly awkward or imperfect.

Dating apps operate on the same predatory mechanism that slot machines do.

Not a single woman mentioned how this is sad, and that men's mental health is important. But hey guys, the problem is us cause we have trouble opening up. This is why lol

I love how they say they want a guy to do a hobby, yet it is the first thing she complains about you spending time doing instead of giving all your attention to them.

Very interesting, well done interviews. Thank you.

Just shows how little women understand men. For example, near the end they were asked about what they thought men were looking for in a woman and all of them brought up something along the lines of a woman being successful in their career and having their own money. These are things that men do not care about when looking for a partner, that is a woman's focus of what they want in a partner.

I actually feel bad for men in their twenties and thirties in this modern time. I’m in my mid forties, and I lived through what I call the golden age of dating in my twenties and thirties. Back then you could actually approach a woman and flirt. Women back then didn’t think it was weird. If we wanted to meet women, we went to a bar, approached a woman we liked, bought her a drink, talked to her, made her laugh, enjoyed each other’s company. The internet and social media ruined all that.

I love how she asked what they think men want and they just regurgitated what they want. 😂

Watching Courtney’s videos makes me so happy that I grew up and struggled through the dating process well before social media existed. Over time I see the toxicity leading to a lot of lonely, weird/creepy middle aged men and a lot of very bitter, lonely women living with a bunch of cats.

Colorful shirt girl is a good person. And she’s pretty too. She’s smart and looks for the right things, and she’ll make someone very happy.

I’ve been single/sexless for about 5 years now. I consider myself an old fashioned guy so hooking up and having sex with random people is not my thing. When I got dumped by my gf It had made me feel lonely a lot of the time for sure but it really helps you reevaluate everything in your life and make you work on yourself which I wouldn’t change for anything. Looking back now, it was a blessing in disguise. Nobody wants to be alone but the people that choose to be alone are the strongest willed people because they know what they are worth and what they can give and they just won’t give it to everybody.

I was walking alone to my hotel room minding my own business and there were two women in front of me who thought I was trying to talk/hit on them, they stopped and not only ridiculed me for not being attractive enough for them but proceeded to follow me and continue harassing me. I didn’t say a single word…

Take it from an affluent, confident, and self-reliant individual. The level of peace that one experiences when not having to deal with elements that are constantly trying to realign their motivations is priceless. I personally chose to stop having sex because it creates a false sense of closeness that's not genuinely matured through learning who one another is. Only indulging in a person physically takes away from the true satisfaction found in discovering one another. Both sides tend to want the other side to professioanlly remedy each other's shortcomings as well. Society has made both sides far too sensitive to endure the growing pains necessary to develop a healthy relationship. Note: A woman working and being "able" to take care of themselves is only a valid argument for those only wanting to use a man for what they can provide. The example of male and female unions are seen from flowers to humans. IT'S AS NATURAL AS BREATHING.

We aren't "afraid" Ashley, we just genuinely have ZERO interest in modern western women. Besides, as the brilliant Stella said, yall "don't need no man". You got this girl! Your strong and independent! We wish you women luck, your gonna need it.

If you ever wanted to know why more people are single, this video is why lol.

Going thru a harsh break and this video helped a lot in term of understanding. I made a couple of mistake misassuming boundary and was never given an opportunity. I thought I could salvage it but and was reaffirmed by my friends and the comment made in the video that the woman has already made up her mind that she is no longer interested.

I’m 25 and I’ve accepted that I will probably be alone for the rest of my life

I think these women are mostly clueless, especially about how women have contributed to this. Not that it's entirely their fault, but there's very little self-reflection going on here. Any suggestions are either so vague as to be meaningless ("be yourself") or contradictory.

Good God. Listening to these girls solves precisely nothing aside from reaffirming wanting to be alone lol.

I'm a guy... What bothers me is when women say a guy has to have a lot of ambition. But what if you live in a beautiful apartment, full of quiet/good neighbors, and you are happy where you live. But, if you move to a big pretty house you have awful neighbors, mold, bugs, and everything is far away and you are miserable? Why can't women be happy with men that just have enough to make a living without having that closet gold digger mentality in mind?

Its always our fault as a guy when women's standards gone up and reject nice guys! Most Women find most guys unattractive 😑😐

The dating scene has drastically changed in the last 10-15 years and has short circuited relations between the genders. Add social media nonsense and wide smart phone use into that as well. I'm 45 and remember how different it was in my 20's. The paradox of choice has really killed modern dating.

My son had a girlfriend who would get busy with stuff and not have time for him but would expect him to loiter around and still be interested and attentive to her no matter what. But he got busy for only 2 weeks over the summer and didn’t talk to her as much and she gave him an ultimatum to shape up or she’d break up with him. I was proud that he told her to piss off for having a double standard. She wasn’t that wonderful, either, so I didn’t really see where she got off acting like that. Now my son feels like women are more trouble than they’re worth. Can’t say I blame him. These days a lot of women feel like the world needs to revolve around them when they don’t add a lot to the relationship other than complaining a lot about what they think they deserve. Good luck, ladies. Relationships take two people.

Alone doesn’t correlate to loneliness for most men. As a matter of fact being with the wrong type of woman can be far more lonely than simply being alone.

Public comment. I am happy every one of you explain and express your thoughts and feelings and emotions relating to relationship. No games. No red flags. No negative. Know that you want in life. Values each other time and effort ❤. Show love and respect to each other. Unity and togetherness. ❤ honesty is loyalty . The key to great relationships is understanding and love and caring and respectful ❤ it shows you are mature. Great video ms Courtney ❤.

"Never ask a fish how to catch a fish." This was an interesting examination on what women _believe_ are the causes of this condition. The one area where I believe most of the women were completely unaware is what a man is looking for in a woman. Stella and Mansi, I believe, were the most clueless in this area. Men don't choose "independent, hard-working" women _because_ they have those qualities. Almost every woman identified those qualities as attractive when they were choosing men. The reason men don't value those qualities in women is because we don't directly benefit when our women have those qualities. If we, as men, are independent and hard-working, why would we choose someone who is going to be just as stressed out and tired as we are on a daily basis? If we don't have those qualities, why we choose someone who is going to view us as deficient in an area which determines how attractive they find us? Social media is a huge reason for this rise. Why? Dating has become an economy of scale. There was a time when you dated the people who were close: neighbors, workplace, church, group activities. Even if there was no one local, you had friends keeping their eyes out and facilitating introductions to people outside your immediate circle of contacts. Today, all you have to do is post a picture, fill out a short questionnaire, and you are--literally--on the market. All a woman has to do is swipe right and within 10 minutes, a date can be had. For men, it's not that simple. Even if you survive the swipe test, you still have to pass the gauntlet of mystery requirements she has. Don't forget about the ghosting risk: Men and women are both guilty of this, but women started it. *Bottom line:* A lot of men have realized the juice just isn't worth the squeeze, especially if they've been through a divorce. This video spent over 33 minutes talking about men and what women look for in men, but almost no time discussing what they expect to bring to a relationship or what makes them think they are ready not to be single. All of the things women tell men to do to make themselves more attractive to women are the things men probably should be doing for themselves, anyway. The pandemic and subsequent lockdown provided a practical example to a lot of men how to live their lives without pursuing women. On the whole, there's less drama, it's far cheaper, and more freedom to live their lives the way they want to live them. There is a difference between "lonely" and "alone". Give a man enough time and enough negative experiences with women, and that difference becomes crystal clear very quickly.

“If height is a total deal breaker then you know you’re not going to be comfortable with someone shorter than you then you shouldn’t go after that.” LMFAOOOOO imagine if I said having a flat ass is a total deal breaker and I’m not going after that how many female friends would I lose 😂😂😂 What y’all trippin about 👀

I think Stella is the greatest comedian of our generation and she deserves a prize for the funniest, most hilarious comedy routine ever written.

Why do I have a sinking feeling that Courtney could interview countless young women on this topic and she would still come as the only reasonable and empathetic woman towards men?

Courtney really needs to get a group of guys on and have them react to this garbage and then have these same girls react to that 😂

This video can be summed up in a few words: 'It's society's fault and men's fault... but mainly men's fault'

Women “men approach us” also women: “Ewwww. that guy is creepy and scary. He’s not the guy I wanted to approach-sorry, not sorry”

I googled "out of touch with reality" and this was the first link that popped up

“Men will always want to be a woman's first love while women would want to be men's last romance.” - Oscar Wilde.

@CourtneyRyan As an older gentleman, early 50s, looking for a partner, how does the younger outlook on dating and looking for a partner compare to the views of women around my age? Would you be willing to create a video with older women sharing their pov or suggest another channel for me to access?

This video makes me feel less lonely because if this is what I’m missing. I’ll stick to my gaming and my cat.

I had a female coworker tell me that she wishes she was a guy. She felt her life would be easier Lol. I told her its quite the opposite you truly have no idea the pressure guys have to endure in this world. I always think of the story of the woman that became a man and ended up taking her life pretty much tells you all you need to know what our reality is like.

"Men idealize women" Literally has an ultra specific and detailed checklist the length of a CVS receipt.

Super liberal feminism may be a culprit. Ashley’s comment made me think of that old quote: “Comparison is the thief of joy.”

When I was younger I thought everyone would find their partner but a woman pointed out to me that some people should really be by themselves. That some people are not capable of having a healthy relationship

Ashley is probably one out of a million women who claims she would be “flattered” if a man approached her in person. I’m average looking at best but I’ve followed Courtney’s advice down to every last detail about how to dress, look, talk to and approach women. 9/10 times they give me this look of disgust like “why are you talking to me?” This has led to many men (including myself) to simply stop trying. After enough rejections it’s like why even bother? In contrast, women sit around and complain that they can’t meet anyone and have no clue as to why men aren’t approaching.

the blonde girl basically just confirmed every guys fear, if you say hello to a women on the street you're a serial killer lol