The first woman summed it up perfectly. A simp is a man (or woman) who is willing to please a certain person even at the expense of their own dignity and respect, and we see it everyday especially on social media. Telling a woman you find her attractive is not simping, but constantly telling her that is indeed simping, as well as going out of your way to please her even when she doesn't reciprocate it.

Guys, don’t humiliate yourself. You will get nothing out of it.

As reserved as I am, I hate to admit that I was a simp for a coworker of mine from my last job. She liked it enough to keep me simping but never gave me a chance. I learned a lot from that girl. Never again will I simp for another woman.

My heart goes out to anyone who wanted to go above and beyond for another person who wasn’t willing to reciprocate and instead of being honest from the beginning, they exploited you. As a woman who has been exploited by a man, I hate hearing the term “simp” used to describe a man who is trying to show up for a woman. If you are a man who has been exploited by women, you’re not going to fix it by not investing in a relationship. It’s a matter of finding someone who is willing to reciprocate the effort in a way that is mutually beneficial and practical.

It's not worth being a simp. Putting them on pedestals will get you nowhere. Treat them like a celebrity, and they'll treat you like a fan.

My personal definition of a simp is a man (or woman) who sacrifices their dignity for an affection of a person who would not reciprocate.

"When she sees that you will do anything she says, she's bound to respect you!" - The wisdom of Milhouse.

I’ve definitely been a simp, but because I was raised by a very narcissistic mother who gave affection only in exchange for favors. I still struggled with it, but it’s a result from the dynamics I was raised with.

"They make it seem like it's bad" - it is bad. Really bad. There are legions of women right now who take advantage of men simping/being overly nice and they just use them for free shit and food. It's pathetic. On both sides.

Don't simp, you have more potential than a simp.

Magically, no one is ever a simp when they're your ATM at dinner time. Lol. Perfect.

Basically following is the truth. “The better you treat the girl, the worse she will think of you”. In my experience, every girl I treated like shit, was absolutely crazy about the relationship. Absolute fact!

Best advice for men, dont validate women. Speak to them as if you were speaking to a friend youve had for years. And last, never waste time, if she doesnt like you walk away. No emotions no hard feelings there will always be an endless supply.

Simps (Men) and Attention seekers (women) are the worst combinations

I was dealing with a counselour over this topic a little while back and I still have relapses... They made a great point: “simping” is about a mismatch in energy, a dance. If they are not matching your energy and you are trying to MAKE them.. or sell yourself to them- your simping.

It's all about the recepricocity! Whenever the balance in desire is drastically out of balance, you will get "simp" vibes. Generally speaking, Stella nailed it. Seems to me, she gets it!

When me and my wife first started dating, she was young, only dated 1 guy before me, but she was mean, I would tell her, "You better get off that pedestal some one put you on" because that shit isn't going to fly with me. We've been married for 9 years.

I had a friend in college who would've been the textbook version of a simp. It was because of the way he was raised. He had a very toxic mother who demanded him to do everything she told him to do in exchange for her affection. And because she sheltered him from world, outside of school, that was how he thought women were to be treated. Fortunately, about a year after he got to college, he met a girl who showed him there are other, healthier, ways to treat women. She was very loving and patient with him in his growth and development, the best thing that ever happened to him. Twenty some odd years later, they're still together, married, three kids, and a moderately successful careers. He got lucky to find such a keeper...

By far your best video to date. This was very refreshing and nice to get other people's input on the situation that most men, including myself, often deal with. Last year, I learned this the hard way by constantly chasing after a girl who wasn't reciprocating back. I had to fall back and work on myself. Which was the best thing I could ever do. Looking back one thing that I learned is that you have to heal yourself before you can give yourself, and two established some boundaries.

It was great to hear the different perspectives of each of these women. More of these videos please!

I think there is a difference between being a simp and being a romantic. Modern definitions make being romantic seem equal to simping. Romantics care about their partners and will make sure they feel good by letting them know they love them, either by small gestures or communicating that verbally or nonverbally while simps have a perverted view and put women on a pedestal, like paying for pictures or hoping for acknowledgement like a puppy. Simping is a treating the woman like an object, not a person.

Lots of guys become simps because they try to be who women say they want- Caring, loving, patient men. Then they realise those traits aren't what women value most in a man.

Good info. There must be reciprocity in a relationship. And like others have said, no relationship is worth it if it costs you your dignity and sense of self worth. Both men and women need to be able recognize when it is time to leave, and be able to. Thanks for the video.

I've realized personally, giving too much attention, and opening up too much too quickly never works out. It's better to appear uninterested than overinvested

Simps are guys who constantly compliment Courtney and friends' appearances while not paying attention to the content of videos whatsoever.

Simps honestly fog up the dating atmosphere for us gentlemen. Society constantly has to reevaluate the difference between doing someone a favor and simping. Alongside that, women become desensitized to getting easy gratification since simps offer it on a platter along with their dignity. It's a huge mess.

I enjoy this segment a tons, plus to hear different girls definition of being a Simp is a interesting one. To me, a Simp will go to greater distance to satisfy their mate to no end regardless because they feel obligated to do so. Also, Erica's point of view is right on the money. I enjoy her thoughts and opinions. We need more videos like this one, Courtney. Good job!!

“Treat her like a queen and she will swallow another man’s cream” - Cheek Slaying Gospel Remember this quote guys and you shall be set free! We’re literally hearing it from these ladies themselves, give them the bare minimum and they’ll chase you. Remember to always love yourself more and put yourself first and the ladies will worship you for it

There is a difference in being a simp and being a good man. You can still be a good person and treat a woman well without being needy or desperate which is part of what a simp is.

I know too many dudes who are like this. It’s sad. Men need to have some self respect and live their own life and women will flock.

The more of Courtney's videos I watch, I begin see just how intuitive she is. I think a girl asking a girl these types of questions on various subjects in the world of dating (attracting the opposite sex) is a brillant move on her part as a subjective agruement for further study on the matter. Afterall I ambeing a male who is to curious to hear what a broad range of women has to say on tbe matter.

Yeah.. I like the group dynamic and hearing the different views from the different women. Yes. Thumbs Up to the Group!

I love how they have such a hard time describing it while (probably) having to deal with it all of the time

I find it interesting that even in this topic, there is kind of a double standard. If I, a man, were to lead a girl on, by letting her drive me around and give me gifts or whatever, fully realizing she was interested and yet knowing that I had no interest in her, people would say I was an asshole. And rightfully so, I'd say. But when a girl does this to a guy (and yes, I know, the guys are doing it because they want to, no one's forcing them), it seems to be acceptable and the guys who do this are seen in a very bad light

"I don't like simps, but I will certainly let them buy me expensive things and then never tell them this wont go anywhere". Men if she doesn't move forward with a relationship or tell you to stop buying her this stuff the run. She is taking advantage of you. Women, stop taking advantage if you don't like them. Let them spend money on a woman that actually wants them.

This video was so good! 😊 Awesome content, very helpful! I loved seeing all the different women’s viewpoints!

I think many women, including some in this video, mistake a guy just genuinely being nice for simping. I'd agree with the one where the guy drove a long way to give her an air conditioner. But on the other hand, if somebody I knew was sweltering in the heat while I had a window unit sitting around in my basement collecting dust, I'd probably let them come pick it up and use it. But can't women at least acknowledge how messed up it is that she can't appreciate a guy who is "too nice"? Or that she assumes the guy is being nice just to get laid? I know people can't help their feelings, but can't ya at least acknowledge that?

A simp a guy that does not respect himself and does not have options to the point that he will serve a woman's needs even though the only attention he will get as they please and thank you. He turns his entire wardrobe into red carpet and ends up alone every single night

This is actually a really refreshing video

Simping refers to someone(usually a guy) going out of their way, bending backwards for a someone that isn't reciprocating with the expectation to get something in return. It's obsessive behavior due to the desperation of needing validation and attention. If you do something for someone the first time, and they do it back, or thank you and you don't keep persisting, that's not simping. However, if you obsess over trying to please someone, doing anything for them to get a relationship, sex, or any expected return even of it's irrational or unobtainable, that's simping. It's never a selfless act. Anything in between just kind of depends, but once given a situation it's not difficult to decipher it.

"People treat you the way you treat yourself"- Confucius I think the whole simp thing stems from people who 1. Have a deficient sense of self-worth 2. Are really really lonely (ie don't have friends or have other simp friends!) 3. Want a partner who's way out of their league Both men and women can and do fall under the simp category but in different ways. This happens with women who go after the so-called "bad boys". The women are often troubled with deeper issues, insecure, lack confidence and mistake narcissistic and manipulative behaviour for passiveness or love. With time, the degree of abuse increases as these men know how to take advantage of women like this. She does everything(and I mean everything) to please him but it's never enough even though he never does anything for her! Even in the end when she gets dumped and the "bad boy" has a new toy to play with, shell only blames herself as she's been conditioned that way. The first thing about dating a narcissist, everything is your fault. Now for men These men haven't really had much dating experience and have very low self-respect but do seem to have a sense of entitlement. Self-respecting women never go for them, not because they are not attractive but instead because nobody likes a pushover. Also, most women seem to sense that he is only after one thing which gets him labelled as creepy. Not to mention when a good woman turns him down respectfully he throws tantrum and starts insulting the woman and her character. The only women who go for men like this are well .... bad women. Who only wants a subservient manservant to follow her orders. The goes the same way as I mentioned earlier about women. So guys don't be a simp. Respect yourself and respect your partner and you'll be happy!

These are the best videos because you hear it directly from their mouths and they seem to be telling the truth. Also seeing not every answer is exactly the same.

5:42 is spot on. I used to be like this with my first gf and I wasn't aware of it or couldn't process it entirely. I was younger and immature and starting to feel somewhat independent. At some point I did not want to be like this but I could not control it because I was desperate for attention and affection. She struggled communicating her feelings and I did to so we went on a cycle of me chasing and her closing up. I feel so compatible with 7:30 girl because she's like a type B, highly rational, high openness, somewhat conscientious but not over a 5, higher extraversion, higher agreeableness, low neuroticism.

Never lower yourself, true. Have your own sh*t going, true. But to some of these people, a simp is practically any kind, generous man. Those people are broken, and are making it impossible for men to simply be gentlemen. There's no fix though, so, yeah - don't do it.

I don't think the term "simp" should be used in the context of a relationship. We all know it's meant as a derogatory term, and the reason we all get into relationships in the first place is our inherent need for companionship, affection and love. We have needs and we have expectations. Showing love at every opportunity is a turn off because it loses its meaning eventually and the mystery of uncertainty wanes off, but every relationship has its own circumstances, the charcters involved, their upbringings, personalities, and the dynamics of their interactions are always gonna be different. You don't need to carry all the negative connotations of the word "simp" if you're being a good partner and your love makes the relationship happier for both parties, as long as you're not sacrificing your dignity or self-respect. We cant all be robots and live our lives based on labels the internet comes up with, and have these labels dictate what's right and wrong for us

Good video, I definitely learnt a few things. Wouldn't say I'm a simp but I do put myself out too much at times.

The advice part at the end was great.👌👍 another great show!❤️🇺🇸

To me simping is just somewhere in between being romantic and harassment. The exact same actions can be interpreted differentIy depending on how attractive they find you. If they find you very attractive, it's considered romantic. If they find you somewhat attractive or average, it's simping. If they find you unattractive, it's harassment. Just imagine if your "simp" looked like Johnny Depp or George Clooney...I'm pretty sure all these women would say he's just romantic lol

It’s crazy how almost all of them said buying Onlyfans is not simping when i would think that’s the biggest simp move

Great video. Shows how great the divide is in the way men and women see things-totally explains the MGTOW movement. Do a follow up video where you get a male interviewer to ask the same questions to a group of men to compare the thought processes.

A couple must match each other's energy, one can't continue to contribute if the other is not willing to match it. Equality is key and balance is a must between both. 💘 Don't give more than what is deserved and don't take more than what's necessary.

My girlfriend constantly put me down and called me a simp… I didn’t realize trying to be a good partner was an ick.

growing up, my parents never taught me anything about relationships..i didn't know I was being a simp until It was too late, I just thought I was being nice because it's who I was raised to be..I had to learn the hard way but that's life

This format is fascinating. Thanks

Really great cross section of women. Wonderful to see a variety of opinions.

Fantastic video, courtney! Confirms that taking dating advice from 90% of women is a terrible idea. None of these women seemed to have a clue about what simping actually is and how terrible the interactions between men and women on social media has become

GenZ women: "I'm here for attention and validation" Also GenZ women: "I'm totally turned off by men who give me attention and validation" Also GenZ women: "I hate the chase, but I love to be chased" Give me a fucking break.....

Hi Courrtney. First, yes, keep bringing the girls on. The variety of responses covers all bases. Over the last few months, I have, by some miracle, acquired two new best FRIENDS at work, both female. We clicked automatically. I explained that when somebody is good to me, they win my loyalty so I do alot for them, and vice versa. That is not to say I do their work for them, but we ARE understaffed, and they do for me too. We do text and I told them that in the past, I was a simp with certain female friends that I was over-attached to. For example, with the current ones, I would text them and receive no response for a couple of days, then they'd apologize and explain that they were busy or whatever. (Legitimate.) I explained that it's all good, that we all have our lives, I DO care, but I will not smother them (like I used to previously.) Things are going well and thanks to you I am not repeating many mistakes I have made in the past. Keep up the good work. JM

love is guarding each other's boundaries❤

Loved… I used to be a simp, but once I started to work on myself things changed. I can see every mistake I made. I’m single now but happier than when I was trying making someone else happy. Love your video because shows how wrong I was. If you feel like a simp, just work in yourself and everythig will change by itself.

I think women who are control freaks love simps. He'll do whatever she wants. She takes advantage of him. She wears the pants in the relationship. My aunt and oldest sister are perfect examples of this.

I love it when you do videos with other women. Please do more of these. One, it is nice to gain their perspective. Two, when you do videos with multiple women, it gives me a chance to gauge them and see if they fall within my type. This helps me learn what I want in dating. This is in addition to the value of the topic being presented. Also, Lexi and Deja are very cute in my opinion lol

Call a woman a 'queen', and she will treat you like a servant.

"a lot of girls will manipulate that" - well said Courtney lol

I've always been a natural "simp" due to believing when in a relationship, the primary goal is to make the other happy. That doesn't mean I don't have my own beliefs, standards and boundaries. Both people must share this goal or one becomes a user of the other.

The question "why do guys simp?" Can be summed up easily. They think that paying for/giving a girl whatever she wants will speed up the process so they can sleep with her. That's a fact an honest guy would admit to.

I like Stella's imput a lot. She is so serious and cut to the chase. She inspires respect through her way. She's a catch. And she's beautiful obviously, very refined.

I believe simping comes from 2 places specifically for men. First is the vague understanding of what we think women want. This mindset is imposed on us as young boys AKA the Disney fantasy. Second is the lack of confidence and feminizing of men. We tell young boys that competition, aggression, taking charge are all bad things. But what no one tells young men is that those are the treats women love and more importantly those are the traits needed to succeed. Simping stops when boys regain confidence.

And they ask me why am stubborn and arrogant

This video is a 10 out of 10....I need and want another one

Hey Courtney boy loved the way you were grilling these girls hard making them work lol. Loved their answers however some of them were a little on the blue pilled spectrum which thus can get a guy into problems and issues down the line. Now that I’m learning more about the red pill and I try my best to work on myself and to resolve and reduce my simping behaviour which lots of these videos are guiding me to the light but I still have quite the journey to go….but my fav one was blondie with the green jacket. She’s so cut and direct and doesn’t sugar coat anything. Other than that wd love to see another rendition of this in the future. Awesome work❤ **this message ain’t simpin, it’s the truth and complimentary 😅***

OMG I was simp once 😱 I was married for 10 years and got divorced. I didn't know how to get back into dating so apparently I was simping over my first girlfriend after divorce. No wonder it didn't work out. Perhaps lack of respect started to develop for me. 😬 I definitely haven't done that anymore. I guess I was feeling desperation of wanting to feel wanted after a divorce. 🤔

Courtney I just love your videos. You’re so professional and non judgmental that I feel comfortable taking your advice. I can’t wait for your next video!

Courtney great video. It was nice to hear women acknowledge that both men and women can be simps

Love ❤️ this was very informative

"Even though, I hate the chase... no I do love it"' Yep sums up women pretty well

That was a very good video. I find more information when asking girls what they don't want rather than what they want. It's good that they themselves realise they are kinda disgusted by simping.

I do agree there is a line where it can be totally overboard I always say don't mistake kindness for weakness. I have to say that nothing makes the heart feel better than giving. So i think when a man does things it is showing he has the heart to do so. I believe mostly people are a product of environment so alot of times people who had a rough childhood might lean more towards a simp to get what they didnt get their whole life and then others might be tougher and say i dont need anyone to do anything for me.

A simp is someone who feigns sympathy for women to gain their approval. They always agree with the woman regardless of whether she is right or wrong. We see this behavior everywhere; online on KZfaq and in the workplace.

These are men who aren’t focused on their purpose and watch too many romantic comedy movies. It doesn’t work like that in the real world.

my personal opinion as a 24 year old dude is these girls know what a simp is, and the are ok with men simping even though they know they dont have a chance at anything serious with her. What i mean is when they asked the girl if a dude takingout a girl on a shopping spree is being a simp and she said no as long as he enjoys and thats what he wants to do. but no dude that i know if wants to take a girl out on a shopping spree and be treated like a. fan. shes obvously saying she not attracted to you and hes willing to pay for her stuff in order to spend time with her. Thats pure manipulation on that womans part. im currently dating a girl who is 20 and she pays for my food, shes always offering to help. she likes doing whatvr i like to do. she isnt picky and shes always avaliable for me. thats how it should be, it shows mutual interest. if your a dude and have to pay for a girls company shes NOT into you, shes USING you. most dudes like that think paying for her clothes and meals are gonna get him a chance. Like no dude if shes into you, you WILL know very easily. and if shes not you can also tell pretty fast.

I gave up along time ago but I hope you all find happiness and love.

Great vide and thanks for taking this topic up and most of us have simped sometime in our life but i would not personally feel good about using someone for money or gifts if i was not intrested in them

Interesting to see the differences in how they define simps and how they personally perceive their actions. The first woman (Stella I think her name was) was the most on point though for sure. She was well spoken, concise, and great responses.

If a girl likes you then your every move and every compliment is a sign of love. If a girl don't like you then your every move and every compliment is simping.

The problem with alot of these discussions is not that they didnt like the simps, the problem is that they used the simps and have zero remorse or acknowledgement that it was immoral

yes good content with these ladies!

A very interesting video. Thank you for posting it. I think your video highlights a huge problem in dating today in America. Men are told not to be toxic, respect women, be nice. Then when they do that the women say "You are just a nice guy, go away". Then people are wondering why marriage rates are crashing and women always chant " there are no good men around".

It was interesting to see the different girl's perspectives, especially as to their definition of a simp. Yes, please invite more ladies on to interview.

Something that us scarce will always be precious ✨️

I loved this one Courtney. There are so many people out there, don't ever think that "she" is the only one. I do try to like and comment on all your content..... Not a simp, just trying to help your algorithm..... ❤️

Stella-tapping into her masculine energy. Erica-a doll. Lexi- alter ego appeal. Anna- former tomboy. Kailee- played sports. Deja- makes you smile, great hand gestures

I am glad that I am no longer a simp, lets get it together ladies and lads 😎🤝

Yes.. This was very informative! Thank you!

A "simp" is a guy that lacks the self awareness to realize that what he justifies as being "a nice guy" is actually being manipulative. If you're treating a woman you aren't in a relationship with better than you treat your best friend or family, you have an agenda. You aren't just "being a nice guy", you want something in return.

A simp is a man or woman who persues the woman or man and gives him/ her things, does what they want, and without getting anything back in return. Basically a slang term for someone who shows excessive sympathy and attention towards another person, who does not reciprocate the same feelings, in pursuit of affection or a sexual relationship. So someone who does way too much for a person they like, without getting anything back in return. This is called simping.

When life comes at you, come back twice as hard

When I met my (now) wife, I had a full and busy life... I was focused on being a better person. Between school, working full time and playing in a band, I didn't have time to be obsessed with another. Nor was I really even looking to fall for someone because I felt like I couldn't devote the proper amount of time to even BE a decent boyfriend... But she decided that SHE wanted to be part of my life and drew me in by being complimentary, not competitive, to my chosen path. I love her eternally for that reason on top of SO many others. I just got lucky I guess....

Don't ever take dating advice from any women. They will never empathize with your struggles especially if you're not someone she sees as high value. They live in thier own fantasy world that contradics its self constantly. Stay strong fellas, protect your self and build your self up because no one will

This video was insightful.