"Women Learn It Too Late!" - UNEXPECTED Way To Make Him Want More With You

"Women Learn It Too Late!" - UNEXPECTED Way To Make Him Want More With You | Matthew Hussey

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It’s Lisa Bilyeu here with another AMAAAAAZING episode of Women of Impact for you to help you stop wasting time with wrong guys (or gal) and break the cycle that has you stuck in the same broken patterns every single time.
In today’s episode I’m joined again by New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and world-leading dating coach, Matthew Hussey.
And today Matt is here to call out the bad relationship tips out there and instead give you a blueprint to ACTUALLY find love in your life and STOP doing the destructive things that are sending the WRONG message and keeping you in unhappy, and even toxic, relationships!
In this episode, we’re diving into:
- The toxic dating advice out there that’s doing you more harm than good
- How your fear of being alone is keeping you trapped in unhealthy relationships
- Why what attracts a partner doesn’t always attract the RIGHT partner
- Why you constantly invite bad people into your life & how you can break out of the cycle
- How your mind plays tricks on you when it comes to relationships & safety
- How to distinguish between expectations in a partner that will make you happy & those that just feed your ego
- The 4 levels of importance & why they are leading you to waste time investing on the WRONG guy
- How to avoid seeing everything as a red flag after heartbreak
- Why getting vulnerable and sharing your insecurities with your partner is SO important
- The importance of compassion and understanding in a relationship, but too much empathy can actually be dangerous
- The healing powers of the RIGHT relationship
- And so much more!!
So listen closely, this conversion with Matt is filled with SOOOOO many dating insights that you can use right away to make the small changes in your life that will actually make a big difference in your love life and help you find the right partner for you!
CHAPTER MARKERS:
🧲 [00:00] Attraction vs. Compatibility
❤️ [16:07] Desire for Love, Trust, and Vulnerability in Relationships
🛡️ [36:51] Giving or Guarding in a Relationship
🤲 [44:43] The Need for Deep Connections
🚩 [1:07:44] Red Flags You’re Looking For
😖 [1:13:39] Fear, Insecurities, & Self-Acceptance
👉 [1:34:47] Bonus Episode: Case Kenny
***Bonus Episode: Never Settle with Case Kenny***
Keep watching for a BONUS conversation with mindfulness author and podcast host Case Kenny here to talk about why being alone is 1000% better than settling for the wrong person, and how your irrational fear of being alone and the stigma that comes with it jeopardizes you becoming your happiest, most vibrant self.
MATTHEW HUSSEY’S INSIGHTFUL QUOTES:
"There are things that will attract someone, and then there are things that will find you a partner who's right for you, and they're not always the same thing. And advice out there that works in some ways is very dangerous because of what or who it might attract, but it is very kind of self validating because it works."
"And that is like inception, because once you've internalized that…my reality is not the only reality, it's like it opens up the playing field for what's possible in life, and that's becomes a very exhilarating notion."
"In the story of Pandora, when she opens the box and all of these afflictions fly out, you know, disease and fear and hunger and shame, and all of these different horrible afflictions fly out. She closes the box because she's horrified. And the only thing that doesn't escape from the box is hope. And there is this interesting idea that hope, that there was almost, I think it was Nietzsche had this idea that the fact that hope didn't get out was actually the one bit of grace, because hope is the worst of all the afflictions, because the real terrible thing for mankind is the idea of hoping for it and it not getting any better."
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Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement

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@LisaBilyeu 3 ай бұрын

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

@loularton 3 ай бұрын

I found love. I am 26. He is 66! but he owns a printing business that employs 270 people, and drives a Rolls Royce. The Good life here I come

@discernmentformypeople6598 3 ай бұрын

Are you the mother of the Guy Bilyeu on impact theory?

@loularton 3 ай бұрын

@@discernmentformypeople6598 ???

@anastrauti6618 3 ай бұрын

😮11😮😮iquique 1:20:00 😅❤

@loularton 3 ай бұрын

@@anastrauti6618 Look, he treats me well. W e are going on a Luxury cruise in 2 weeks time. He bought me a Merc two seat sports for my Birthday!!! H e is rich handsome and old enough to be my Granddaddy but who cares!!!!!

@GodHelpMe369 Ай бұрын

1. Know your value!!! (Do NOT doubt yourself.) 2. Take yourself and your worth seriously. You need to BE A QUEEN to be treated like one. 3. Don’t give easy access to anyone, at any time. Access to your energy should be expensive. 4. Do NOT only express your boundaries. YOU MUST show them. 5. Always be ready to walk away. 6. Show that you are focused on actions not on words. 7. Have a healthy degree of skepticism. You’re not naive and you’re not negative. 8. You must be willing to say NO and you must be willing to lose the man, if needed. 9. Never EVER chase a man! A truly worthy woman, (who knows her worth) does not EVER chase a man. Giving the same energy that you're getting is key and if you don't like that energy then move on!!! NOW!!! It can be hard but that's when you need to choose yourself over the damn illusion/fantasy. A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, ever, period. So... If he ignores me I will step back and he will lose me. Simple. Simple. Non-dramatic and uncomplicated. I don’t, under any circumstance: play these childish-abusive-controlling mind games. I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me, and treats me as the Queen, I AM. (Daughter of the Most Hight; King of kings!) Because I am a beautiful and kind and divine and sexy and wise and intelligent and magical woman: who knows my worth. Period. Also, We create each moment. This moment contains, through my focus, both positive and negative... I can put my attention on what I lack, what I don't have, what traumas I do have etc... And, I can put my attention on the calm moment that I am in, NOW, the food I just ate, and the fact that my body is satisfied, the shelter I do have... (You get my idea!) Both are here... And now. For the sake of fairness, I will allow myself to cry my pains, in the moment if/when they come/arise, AND also acknowledge the beauty I still have in my life NOW. Pain? Yes. Suffering? Indeed. And, also: wonderous magical divine beauty. Blessings to you!

@lean-angelygazzingan5893 Ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@queenofthenorth3110 Ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@moxi9420 Ай бұрын

Love

@laurivettegarcia Ай бұрын

THANKS❤

@julia198113 Ай бұрын

Very nice said 🙏🏻♥️

@melissazoubek6275 3 ай бұрын

I married my first husband, had two daughters we were together 20 years, I’m now going ten years with my second husband. I’ve also been proposed to a few times. So it can happen. I just didn’t waste much time on men who weren’t into me, and I watched what they did instead of listening to what they said.❤

@Portia620 Ай бұрын

Smart!

@DJElectraFry Ай бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

@MindfulnessMeditations-ud1rl Ай бұрын

Ya but you’ve also spent 20yrs with someone who obviously wasn’t right for you….. sooo I don’t think imma take your advice.

@ShakeCastle Ай бұрын

You did good. My respect.

@camillabartlett9128 26 күн бұрын

Yes actions speak louder than words A man who only texted Love bombed to have attention Is a coward mind games and player Karma is yours for the deceit

@jane77722 2 ай бұрын

Sometimes we are in pain because we're breaking up with a fantasy, not realizing it's better we're not with the reality of who the person is!

@estelled389 2 ай бұрын

YES YES YES 🙌 👏

@pinkprana777 2 ай бұрын

This is me right now

@Yalitza87 2 ай бұрын

Yessssss !!!!! I was JUST thinking this earlier today! That sometimes I feel I’m more sad over the fantasy over what I thought we could’ve been, more so than the actual person and what it would have really been! WOW this hit hard! Twice in one day! Thanks for commenting. It just verified my thoughts ❤

@GayleCreates Ай бұрын

Love this!

@jane77722 Ай бұрын

@@Yalitza87 I'm so glad it was helpful. A psychologist I listen to often also said, "Don't make people who you want them to be. Find out who they really are. Honor them by accepting who they are. In other words, don't try to make a pig sing. It only frustrates the pig and the music is really bad." 😅 I hope you continue to protect your precious heart, mind and soul and time. Sometimes the truth hits painfully, but it can lead to freedom.

@Hopeful999 3 ай бұрын

Your person can never be someone who doesn’t choose you

@Katrica670 2 ай бұрын

"Choose someone who your soul wants, Not your ego!"

@auroraborealis6398 Ай бұрын

Oh, that's a very good point

@camillabartlett9128 26 күн бұрын

Over ride the ego Quite the monkey mind Dig deep into your core and find your true essence After all we are all players in this connected world

@mynameisana09 3 ай бұрын

If someone is ghosting me and it’s affecting me it’s bullshit advice to pretend not to be affected. It’s strong to show that it affects you and then close the door. Tell them and then move on. 🤷🏻‍♀️ fuck playing mind games. I like being me.

@user-ez9tz4vt4g 3 ай бұрын

Yep- I like that he made it a point that you should be open about your true feelings and not hide them.

@katiedid1983 3 ай бұрын

I think the point isn't that you shouldn't be affected..... it's that the amount you are affected should be directly related to the significance that the relationship ACTUALLY was in your life, not the story you told yourself about that person.

@Rut-vi7iz 3 ай бұрын

I think his point is moderate how much others "affect you." We create dramas and stories that don't exist in reality, and need to stay more objective about what is happening.

@kiddytube3915 3 ай бұрын

Met someone with the same upbringing, same hometown, same background, even same reasons for divorcing our first spouse (cheating). Didn’t matter for this person.. went cold and ghosted after friendzoning me. Some people are chasing standards that don’t make any sense.

@shieldoffaith7099 3 ай бұрын

@@kiddytube3915What standards? If you don't mind?

@EcoworksFL 3 ай бұрын

If someone hasn't texted me back for 5 days, they're automatically deleted and ignored. When someone shows you they don't care, dont give them the opportunity to do it twice as the chances are they will surely do it again. Dont encourage this bare minimal low effort behaviour

@livefromtheground7274 2 ай бұрын

Agreed

@Portia620 Ай бұрын

What if they were in an accident or major life crisis. Like what’s wrong with using your words? Then close the door! Yikes people calm down. It’s not a big deal date others while you wait after that many days.

@Simplymesf123 Ай бұрын

I usually ask were you in the hospital? Jail? Then when they say no I say lose my #.

@alisonturner3445 Ай бұрын

The problem there is that we jump to an assumption without knowing the facts. Even with the facts if they had a valid reason are you going to accept it. Example: If a female/male was called to look after a parent who has had a fall/minor stroke. That person's care for that parent is going to be at the first & foremost of that person's thoughts/responsibility. A person who does care about you would be happily to come second. That is showing true care. I guess most people just think of themselves.

@EcoworksFL Ай бұрын

@alisonturner3445 if that is the case..how about a short text to say "sorry am having a family emergency, will get back to you as soon as I can"..takes literally seconds!!!! Stop making justification for disrespect..no one is THAT BUSY to text back unless they're in Mars or the ER!! Anything else is an excuse

@staceywood7800 3 ай бұрын

I’m soooo over dating. This is all good advice/steps to communicate more open and authentic.. but why the hell does it have to be so damn complicated?!!!!! So over it all.

@NevL7 2 ай бұрын

You and me both

@funnygirlever Ай бұрын

@@NevL7add me in too. 😅😊

@laurakaufman6333 Ай бұрын

Giving up on love is like losing a limb! Keep on trying to grow and love .

@andrealewis2501 7 күн бұрын

I also don't understand why people view all of these things as desperate. And I don't care, if I'm desperate for one man, then that shows how special he is and he outta feel lucky so I don't care if I'm msging him more than he is me. I have yet to find anyone else I like as much as him.

@sargamsharma22 12 сағат бұрын

@@laurakaufman6333 I feel like love and dating are two very different things. Dating doesn't leave much room for authenticity; generally only seduction and superficiality, and that gets exhausting pretty quickly.

@AddColor2Life 3 ай бұрын

I enjoy being single. But sometimes I miss not having that one person in my life who always has my back.

@Rut-vi7iz 3 ай бұрын

@@ErickSouza-mo3mjwith all due respect this is not true and is a disservice to all who pray. God is not a cosmic slot machine that if you stand there long enough and pull a handle, out will come your desired result. Plenty of people are on here that are more faithful than most, who never have their prayers answered for a mate. Mother Teresa herself often dealt with loneliness, depression and a sense God was not listening. Well meaning followers often push people away from God with these kinds of statements when the person is hurt and broken and God seems no where to be found. It's better to just cheer a person on yourself when you know nothing about a person's faith background.

@ErickSouza-mo3mj 3 ай бұрын

@@Rut-vi7iz Why is it a disservice to tell people to have faith in God? You're the one calling God a slot machine and saying that people don't feel listened to by Him. To have faith without doubt makes people feel good; and do not push people away from Him. It may take time, but the prayers will be answered somehow. (To me, dating apps are the real slot machines). I'm not minimizing anyone's suffering. On the contrary, I'm saying that a deep faith in God heals the feeling of not having someone looking out for us.

@TheJosiejumper 3 ай бұрын

That’s ya mum in my experience anyways x

@elipotter369 23 күн бұрын

Unless you know how to make a healthy choice, you can find yourself with someone who is ignoring your needs, jealous, sabotaging, controlling or deliberately upsetting you - continuously. It can be way more energy draining and is actively destructive, compared to being alone and having your own back.

@888hereandnow Күн бұрын

Psalm 139 ❤

@trinityp8575 3 ай бұрын

Dying alone… unfortunately everyone will die alone. Even if surrounded by someone, ultimately the experience of dying we will face alone. It’s living alone what’s worse. Because life isn’t 💯 complete when not shared.

@user-ez9tz4vt4g 3 ай бұрын

My thoughts too. I'll die alone, my soul will travel to heaven alone, even when you're in heaven you forget that you had family members who didn't make it with you

@aprilwashington3150 3 ай бұрын

I LOOOOOVE LIVING ALONE. I love the peace and quite. I've had boarders #Headache. I've let 2 of my siblings and each of their 3 kids live with me #Noisey Now it's been just me for 5 years (almost 6) and I LOOOOVE IT. I don't want no man. It's nice to wake up and not worry about if someone needs to be fk or sucked. I can just get started with my day. I can come home, and not worry about if someone needs to be fk or sucked. I can go straight to be, without worrying about if someone needs to be fk or sucked and that's AMAZING. I don't want no pets, not even a plant. Life for me right now is GOOD!

@trinityp8575 3 ай бұрын

@@aprilwashington3150 it’s great if you are happy 😃 that’s all that matters. I would love to have a life partner though and share all the experiences and life together. But not just anyone. The right partner. I have been alone for 6 years. And it’s not the life I want.

@TheWisher68 3 ай бұрын

@@trinityp8575 Omg how ironic, I've been lost for 6 years too, waiting for the right person. Sigh. It takes its time, but I'd rather wait than settle with just anyone.

@Rut-vi7iz 3 ай бұрын

@@aprilwashington3150😂❤yes girl! I needed this!😂🎉❤

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 2 ай бұрын

Skilled liars present themselves as loyal and trustworthy.

@bdecillis420 Ай бұрын

Fact

@queenofthenorth3110 Ай бұрын

Just going through this 💔trusted him fully then complete rug pull, ending it, found out maybe was also unfaithful 💔

@karadaniel6334 10 күн бұрын

Words lie, behavior doesn’t. Being unavailable, being late, not replying to communication, always having something come up is behavior that we shouldn’t ignore. It always tells the truth.

@yvonneb-t3d 5 күн бұрын

My ex used to say "I'll try to be honest" before he'd start talking. MAJOR red flag

@belindam.8096 3 ай бұрын

He is absolutely 💯 right!! People are not being their true authentic self enough these days. Yes, we are shamed for expressing what we truly desire.

@Meglemon888 3 ай бұрын

I’m never married, no kids. Sometimes feel lonely, but most of my life time being with myself is less trouble. Still looking forward to having a family of my own…

@toutounr8120 3 ай бұрын

It has its own time for everyone❤

@jan854 3 ай бұрын

Same here ❤ I really wished I liked the family dynamic I was born into but it's a mess. I love my family but I pray to God I can make my own with a good man.

@user-gs6xf6tx2j 3 ай бұрын

Amen !!

@fmui Ай бұрын

same here! Wish you all the best

@Katrica670 2 ай бұрын

"Curiosity, teamwork, generosity, empathy, compasion cure incompatibility!"

@user-nm6bs9ru6x 3 ай бұрын

What really bothers me when dating men, is they seem to have the expectation that women are suppose to prove their worthiness and be an open book. Men were treating mail order brides this way, and then some of these women turned op dead. The government decided that men also have to go through a background check before they meet any of these women. However, there are people who don't have a criminal background that abuse and then commit murder. Men have this fixation, that attractive women are golddiggers. Yet if a woman mentions that she received a inheritance, he is all over her asking questions. I dated a business man that treated me like I had to prove my worthiness, and then I found out that he was a convicted felon. His response was, he was going through an appeal. Really? After he spent seven years in prison, and there was a newspaper article that stated he pleaded guilty? Really.???? He was convicted of fraud, and stole over 350K from clients. Yet he thinks, women are the only gold diggers. Right!!!!!!! I dated a man who claimed to be a Christian, and a investigator told me he spent time in prison for domestic violence. Do you see how these men take us down the rabbit hole? Don't get invested, just try friendship with out benefits, no strings attached ,ask questions, and investigate them.

@vannamarie8430 3 ай бұрын

Wow, that comment was better advice than the whole video! 💯🙏🏻

@gtone888 3 ай бұрын

I think the main it is to listen to your gut instinct / intuition.

@Rut-vi7iz 3 ай бұрын

@@gtone888no, the important thing to do is an actual background check as early as possible. Many states have online resources of court records for free. Facts have nothing to do with your feelings. Check it out with your head first.

@user-ok5ez1ls1k 3 ай бұрын

Yes. When a man talks about women like they have to go through pain to prove their worthiness, I stay far away. Men who hate women think they are fundamentally bad.

@rosaclick1995 3 ай бұрын

Are you attracting these kind of men? So your mind can convince you that your beliefs about men is correct? Please understand that not all men are these way so you attract such men.

@joanofarcxxi Ай бұрын

Problem nowadays is the games people play. There is little authenticity. A relationship is not going to succeed if people are not real and show their genuine flaws and insecurities. Few people are that brave because they are so broken and weak. It takes guts to be real.

@Katrica670 2 ай бұрын

"Most of us are stuck with "ppl" who only are level 1 n 2, you need level 3 commitment, and level 4 compatibility."

@riselle1 Ай бұрын

How do you find that

@j.p.4658 Ай бұрын

By letting go of ppl who don't want to have levels 3 and 4. Making space for the right ppl

@andrealewis2501 7 күн бұрын

@@j.p.4658I wish that worked for me I was 100 percent single for 29 years still never worked, finally when I found what I was looking for he had a gf already. Now I'm 33 it is hard to have hope.

@andrealewis2501 7 күн бұрын

@@j.p.4658I wish that worked for me, I just have too high of expectations without even trying to I guess and when I finally found someone who displayed almost every trait I spent my whole life searching for when I was 29 he already had and still has a gf. And trust me off and on I've continued to look. I'm 33 now, I just wish it could be my turn to finally get into a romantic relationship.

@andrealewis2501 7 күн бұрын

@@j.p.4658I wish that had worked for me. I'm 33 and unfortunately that never worked for me.

@Katrica670 2 ай бұрын

Choose your person! Your person would Always choose you!

@irinachillyvalley2152 3 ай бұрын

While listening this guy - I just had to get my notebook to write down things that really open eyes 🥰

@karenlindley.9756 3 ай бұрын

It’s setting your boundaries of how you wish and should be treated! It’s letting them know that for you it did affect you and I think that’s ok. Then see how they react…..with caution. If not walk away. Always watch their actions. Their words can be bullsh*t.

@auroraborealis6398 Ай бұрын

It's so heartwarming to hear Matthew being vulnerable, especially because I operate the same way as him being guarded

@EMuro-wu7uy 3 ай бұрын

I found a terrific man who shows love, affection and care. I am working on an amazing relationship where our needs are all met. I don't go by the rules, where it feels that it's playing a game.

@annap9441 3 ай бұрын

That’s what I felt when I met my husband! I didn’t have to ruminate anything, just BE ❤ never felt I could go with the flow before, I assumed that that kind of tension was normal😅. You don’t recognize fresh air until you actually breathe some

@dawnstonerock4253 3 ай бұрын

You are wise!! ❤

@wanderlust8843 2 ай бұрын

Could you please tell more about your husband personality. If he is introvert or extrovert

@olgakim4848 3 ай бұрын

Don’t want to die alone? I’d rather die perfectly alone than end up becoming a hospice wife to king baby if he gets sick. But he’ll leaving you if you get sick. #decentermen. #MelanieHamlett

@MetaPhysStore0770 3 ай бұрын

So true

@juliettejuliette-bf8df 3 ай бұрын

💯

@rosaclick1995 3 ай бұрын

Helping others gives you a sense of fulfilment. Life isn’t a competition.

@olgakim4848 3 ай бұрын

@@rosaclick1995 Helping others is one thing. But becoming a hostage and a hospice wife to a man is another. What are you spewing about “competition”? What does living alone without having a gigantic baby to care of, sick or not, have to do with competition?

@rosaclick1995 3 ай бұрын

@@olgakim4848 it’s not a competition because where did the spite come from towards a sick person who is supposed to be family? Why think they wouldn’t reciprocate back to you the love you gave to them like you would give to a family? Why does helping a loved one feel like hostage to you? I don’t know what brought about this perception you have but be kind to yourself and others. Hence what I mean life isn’t a competition. You don’t do things for people because you expect they should do same for you. There’s joy in helping people no matter who they are and not expecting anything back. It’s not a must to live with someone but it’s the perception that your loved one is a burden is what I am responding to.

@mgschnootz 2 ай бұрын

Over the last couple years I have either lost friends or it changed the relationship immensely because I am no longer vibing on a lower level and have done the deep dive work on me. So when they come and want the " bonding over bitching " validation, I give them insight from a different prospective. Sadly this has not been well received. But I have drawn in more stable type people. It's a very strange dynamic. But has been an amazing life lesson ❤ Love your content Lisa, simply amazing.... keep it coming 💪🏻

@elipotter369 23 күн бұрын

I appreciate your insightful and optimistic perspective- I hope I draw in the better people soon!

@melwest1407 Ай бұрын

Being vulnerable is not insecurity , if they walk,good for you,you can find a genuine without wasting everyone's time and energy ❤

@Katrica670 2 ай бұрын

@52:00 I call this misplaced hope, hope in the wrong thing can make the heart heavy!

@littlemermaid7408 Ай бұрын

I like Matthew but I got something really from Case, “you get what you want or you get what you need”. Today that has been a game changer 🙏

@Cannonejones 3 ай бұрын

I lost my soul mate thru death . Very young, 11 yrs later, I still have a hole in my heart

@jasminflower5608 3 ай бұрын

So sorry to hear that ,it s must be so difficult for you...I wish you find someone and move on ,I m sure your love would wanted to see you happy again .That was sure special love .Wish you all best ❤

@jenniferstein1702 3 ай бұрын

hole* … I’m sorry for your loss. I feel quite deeply. I know heartache. For myself, I think things can happen in life & my heart will never be the same.

@Nono38-jj1tk 3 ай бұрын

@@jenniferstein1702You're so "sorry" for her that you correct her grammar? 😂 Okayyyyy lady

@jenniferstein1702 3 ай бұрын

@@Nono38-jj1tk I truly am sorry for her loss!! As I said I can identify with deep heartache. … That said, I don’t see anything wrong with my friendly notation. I’m just that way … with everyone. :) …

@kaffeine69 11 күн бұрын

@@Nono38-jj1tk but she didn’t correct anything…? She just asterisk’ed the word ‘hole’ for emphasis on her own comment…? There were no typos on either comment

@ashleighparkhill635 Ай бұрын

It doesn’t matter if you’re in a relationship at the end of your life because everybody dies alone. We are all born into the world on our own too.

@annap9441 3 ай бұрын

I am in a happy and healthy relationship the last 15 years but I love to hear Matthew’s wisdom, I learn a lot, he communicates incredibly well😊 He is a gem. Loved the interview

@audreymickens4390 3 ай бұрын

Thank you Lisa and Matthew! This was one of the best conversations I could have experienced right now at thus time in my life. Matthew, I first learned of uou when I was watching a daytime show or entertainment tonight. Please forgive my memory, it was a while back. I'm sure you remember and I've followed you periodically ever since❤

@Calida Ай бұрын

This conversation and all the stories from Matthew's own experiences were soooo incredible insightful and healing 🥹💕🙌🙌

@user-dd3ny4xb3w 3 ай бұрын

Realizing we were not on the same planet, the same headspace, that I was during the entirety of 2023 was the absolute worst. I have spent the last 7 months trying to assess why after 23 yrs he could throw our history away like it meant nothing and move on with lightning speed to another. He had been interviewing for my replacement l for many months until he hired her. Finally after 7 months I realize I grieved what I thought our relationship was, not what it really was

@laurakaufman6333 Ай бұрын

Absolutely ! Actions speak louder than words. Love is perennial like flowers if one loves oneself 1st !

@meetandinspire 3 ай бұрын

"It's that's good macro advice but in the beginning of any relationship or dating there always has to be a moment where one person invests marginally more than the other."

@emebetkidane6409 2 ай бұрын

Ilove Lisa she helped a lot people all over the world including me been her self shows example to do anything you Iam so proud her!!

@lorrainedevlin6409 15 күн бұрын

He is such an intelligent guy. He knows his stuff Such a pleasure to listen to.

@dawnstonerock4253 3 ай бұрын

You are really speaking my language right here!! Thank you so much for your sharing and enlightened thots on all of this ❤

@Kashmir-lt4cx 2 ай бұрын

@42:20 my two are always being comfortable in my own skin and being assertive again, also, being self-sustained

@taikodancer 3 ай бұрын

The best 2 hours of my life! Thank you kindly to both of you! ❤🙏🏽

@Katrica670 2 ай бұрын

@46:08 so instincts are just another word for reflexes like when the doc hits your knee with a hammer, and what most do when there's a fire, but intuition is a knowing without knowing!

@kari25nov 2 ай бұрын

I think it is interesting to hear Matthew talk about:" I felt that if I gave I was taken advantage of" and meaning this exchange was related to the same person. But in life there is also a saying that " What you give is what you get". However it can be a long timeframe to it and what you "get" does not mean that you get it form the same person, but from another person long time into the future. The worse thing that can happen is that you stop "givng" because you always expect to "get" sth back from the same person. However if "giving"" means being too open about yourself "too early" it is because it may be off-putting to the receiver end who feel they have to become responsible for you and your thoughts, ie a responsibility they do not want since it may feel as a burden to them.

@melhice422 28 күн бұрын

This was one of the best discussions I’ve tuned into here! Thank you!

@lorrainedevlin6409 15 күн бұрын

Yes greive the right person not the one who never deserved your grief.

@pelumiraheen4936 2 ай бұрын

I'm looking for peace, peace of mind and heart

@melberman2348 3 ай бұрын

this is so good thank you

@zephomalunga5251 19 күн бұрын

Matthew has come a long way in his work... This is the best I have seen...

@user-nm6bs9ru6x 3 ай бұрын

My Aunt Leona was married twice, and had seven children. She died alone in a nursing home. People,..... hire a attorney, draw up a will, and let your attorney take care of the other arrangements.

@gillb9222 3 ай бұрын

I totally agree. Children can be incredibly cruel. I see so many videos talking about how awful parents are but (adult) children can be just as awful to their parents.

@Babykeiks78 3 ай бұрын

I routinely know single 70+ year old sorority sisters who have richer lives than their married with grown children friends. This is a huge lie. Having a spouse and children does not guarantee support in the winter of your life! Especially if you’re a woman!

@lucid_747 Ай бұрын

A lot can be averted by using your intuition to sense their vibes and to look into the future at least to some extent, to see whether a relationship actually works

@vius0013 2 ай бұрын

It took me a lot of pain and hurtful relationships to find a good partner. Someone who truly loves me as how I am, and guess what! I found out with this person I was a big part of the problem! Now I am working hard on having a good relationship! To accept safety, and love and to not want to run away with every little thing

@jackietaylor3188 5 күн бұрын

Mathew, the work is amazing thank you for a wonderful podcast❤

@tsmuff 12 күн бұрын

"There are things that will attract someone. And then there are things that will find you a partner who's right for you. And they're not always the same thing. And advice out there that works in some ways is very dangerous because of what or who it might attract. But it is very self-validating because it works." So well put!!

@lorrainedevlin6409 15 күн бұрын

Team work is everything. You need to be on board with each other.

@jkizer75 2 ай бұрын

He makes a lot of good points. Although why isn't chivalry still around- if a guy really wants you he should do whatever it takes. Im not in the dating world so I am totally lost.

@Katrica670 2 ай бұрын

@1:30:00 "when you're happy enough you make good decision!" If I may add, if you are well-rested enough uou will make better choices too!

@Katrica670 2 ай бұрын

@43:17 but mostly from not getting any direction/guidance/emotional connection did Not give a strong sense of self, nor boundaries to navigate the world right!

@handerson-vl7df Ай бұрын

This is a great conversation. Much appreciated.

@GodHelpMe369 Ай бұрын

MY VOICE HAS BEEN SILENCED MY WHOLE DAMN LIFE. MY BEAUTIFUL SACRED MIRACULOUS VOICE. MY VOICE IS MY MAGICAL GIFT OF TRANSMUTATION! that being said, all my life... I have given people access to me in ways that I should not have EVER granted them access now, I want to scream at the top of my lungs: FUCK OFF!! YOU DO NOT GET TO HAVE ACCESS TO ME IN THAT WAY!! THE DOOR IS NOT OPEN!! YOU MAY NOT COME IN!! ACCESS DENIED!! I've been programmed my whole life to be silent, conditioned to have no boundaries...

@carolyn1900 20 күн бұрын

poetic truth i can relate to your words ❤ i hear your beautiful sacred miraculous voice and it resonates in my heart

@EddaAlma Ай бұрын

I can see red flags pretty much everywhere now 😅 ... Thank you for all these teachings.. it's so deep, as always🔆

@elmagonzales1511 2 ай бұрын

Amazingly good interview❣ Thanks alot REGARDS from Iceland 🇮🇸

@WARRIOREMPATH0 3 ай бұрын

LISA 😂❤THANK YOU SOO MUCH LIL WORRIOR 💖 YOU MAKE ME SMILE SND LAUGH 😅 YOU TEACH ME THINGS I ALREADY KNOW AND DON'T KNOW. I APPRECIATE YOU TAKING THE TIME TO DO YOUR VIDEOS THANK YOU TO YOUR GUEST I APPRECIATE EVERYTHING YOU SAID. I LISTEN TO HELP MYSELF IN THIS TIME IN MY LIFE HARD TIMES LIKE MOST SOOO AGAIN THANK YOU BOTH VERY MUCHIE MAY PEACE BE W/IN YOU BOTH WORRIOR STRONG WORRIOR EMPATH ☆♡♡♡☆

@Kashmir-lt4cx 2 ай бұрын

2:03:09 The happiness, the drive, the fulfillment, the curiosity!

@kc17131 Ай бұрын

I feel like some people should never fool others to believe that they care about them😊

@lorrainedevlin6409 15 күн бұрын

Aww she listens to him so much. Thats cos she knows he is right.

@user-up1vs7uw3s Ай бұрын

Love is 1 Corinthians 13- “Love is patients, love is kind….”

@Kashmir-lt4cx 2 ай бұрын

@1:27:01 yes wounds unfortunately continue to accumulate!

@Foxie635 2 ай бұрын

Hope is the worst affliction. I concur!!

@Babyhoneyyomama Ай бұрын

Absolutely it hurts to know how wrong I’ve always been for 20 years I thought I knew my husband I believed what he said never did I think one day he’d betray or leave me. To have to accept he’s not the remarkable man who put his family first really broke me especially once he said he had been contemplating leaving 5 years before

@lorrainedevlin6409 15 күн бұрын

You should never pretend to get a person you like to accept you,they should except you for who you are ,or not at all. Those who dont love and accept you for who you are don't and never can really love you.

@Victory_to_Ukr 9 күн бұрын

1:03:22 And it’s incredibly unfair, isn’t it? So cowardly. Being together and already internally processing the break up for themselves. Secretly.

@dudungidi9151 Ай бұрын

Always be you. Do you and give off you. If love does leave, the you that you know and is content with, stays and keeps adding into your life. Start finding happiness alone and bring it into the relationship and hopefully others bring their happiness to the love buffet. When love leaves, cry because it does hurt. But know that time does heal. Always crave and seek mental and spiritual growth. I'm in a space where i personally feel content on my own. So when challenges crop up i try and find ways to address them. Never loose yourself in order to keep love. Love you and let love outside of you come to you on it's own to meet the love you are giving. Study the bible and trust the Lord completely. I love this life. I thank God for blessing me with a good and positive brain that is always looking for growth. ❤

@lorrainedevlin6409 15 күн бұрын

We can work through fears both men and women. A good man/ woman will work through your fears with you.

@ghaili1175 2 ай бұрын

Thank you. Got my book yesterday

@morganfalkdesigns 17 күн бұрын

I am single after losing my husband of 39 years. I think dating again is fun, and do not think there is anything wrong with me if I don’t click with someone. It will happen eventually, and in the meantime, i keep meeting new people and have gained a few new friends😊

@andrealewis2501 7 күн бұрын

I think it's difficult for me to believe I'll find someone or click with someone when it's been 33 years. I'm starting to wonder if it's even possible for me to love someone. Even though I've been searching for it my whole life off and on and even though it's one of my dreams. I did click with someone and feel a spark with them once but he had and still has a gf eventually.

@rosaclick1995 3 ай бұрын

I don’t know when we came to this point that we think not being vulnerable is the right way to find love. One should be able to be vulnerable around someone you claim to love and relationships shouldn’t be a game.

@lylyanazarela4807 2 ай бұрын

I freaking love Matthew Hussey ❤

@lorrainedevlin6409 15 күн бұрын

Ye we start to get used to far less than we deserve and waste out lives time on the wrong people.

@lorrainedevlin6409 15 күн бұрын

When you expect the worse cos of past experiences its not good. Yes cos you think if you open your heart again and give it will be broken and taking advantage again and not loved or even appreciated

@INDIGOCOACHING Ай бұрын

Couldn’t agree me someone has to step up and express your feelings don’t be cool and collected if your not x

@lorrainedevlin6409 15 күн бұрын

It feels like such a betrayal,they conned you into thinking you were both in the same place.

@glorialane7718 2 ай бұрын

😅 I do. I must be doing it wrong. Because I feel worse after doing either.

@Clevelandsteamer324 3 ай бұрын

Everyone is operating from their own wounds

@user-ez9tz4vt4g 3 ай бұрын

Yeah! I like that he emphasizes that you shouldn't hold on to your wounds from certain people and constantly try to find them in someone else, or use your past hurts to make generalizations.

@theresas.3808 20 күн бұрын

Exactly! It’s about our worth.

@susanparkes5096 2 ай бұрын

This is great! Ive lost all hope so I'm in a great position 😂

@lorrainedevlin6409 15 күн бұрын

Acting out will push people away ,and thats sad when what you need is support.

@lorrainedevlin6409 15 күн бұрын

Yes some mind find it hard to give much,cos their ex took soo much from them,its a wound I understand that.

@gabrielaraimondo2430 9 күн бұрын

The idea is saying what you think always and being authentic!😂❤

@kerenamaya 13 күн бұрын

A lot of wisdom here! ❤

@thatamychic3517 2 ай бұрын

I grew up in the same area as your hubby! Crazy!

@dj7033 16 күн бұрын

Love love love this interview

@lorrainedevlin6409 15 күн бұрын

Ego ruins a relationship,choosing out of go will get your heart broken. Perfect beauty and or loaded with money and stories ,are all false qualities that fill ego.

@mashax7885 3 ай бұрын

Thank you

@lorrainedevlin6409 15 күн бұрын

I think they would agree a lot and have a lovely relationship aww. Im match making. 😊

@ceceliadavis471 Ай бұрын

You should be able to act natural and be honest with someone you want to have a relationship with, without having to play games. I think that's the point Matthew is making here.

@skaziblu 3 ай бұрын

worst damn circuit to be on is the "i wont do it because he doesnt".

@Rut-vi7iz 3 ай бұрын

Yes, I love that he's teaching this is BS and a waste of time!

@lorrainedevlin6409 15 күн бұрын

But if you meet a good person,just think how is that person going to feel if you label them like your past relationships that is going to offend and hurt a good man or womem who genually loves you for who you are.

@BRR949 3 ай бұрын

That noise was scary 😂 6:33

@MyLifewithGuitar Ай бұрын

If someone told me they were sad for not hearing from me after only a few dates then I would see them as a red flag and run. The rabbit hole of fixing their autonomous emotions after only a short time is literally not my obligation 🤮

@MyLifewithGuitar Ай бұрын

I’m listening to the rest of the video, thanks I stand corrected and I’m not sure how I feel.

@MyLifewithGuitar Ай бұрын

Also, why does Matt look like an ice hockey player?

@alisonturner3445 Ай бұрын

Probably attachment.

@lorrainedevlin6409 15 күн бұрын

He is sensible and easy going.