PosessedPear True and enlightening. People gotta be more responsible to others

PosessedPear yeah it really hurts when you look back at past relationships and realize how selfish you were by not really understanding the other persons point of view

Ive been an asshole at times and totally convinced myself i was doing it for them. Yeah, that hit like a ton of bricks.

Yessssss! Gut wrenching!!

That hit me too!

I as well.

Next best thing would be to talk to like-minded people like most of us viewers.. it's really awesome to hear people's stories about how they overcame something by listening to Jordan Peterson

@@Roxas935 funny i read your comment and agreed! But then proceeded to say nothing. I met him in NZ on his 12 rules tour, it was an emotional and powerful moment. My hubby came too, he got the ticket for me for my birthday *best ever.. We had been on a road to self betterment and JBP accelerated that. I started with the biblical series and was hooked. Hes my internet Dad 😍 You?

@@RR-gi9vo I regret not spending that extra bit to shake the man's hand. I went to the Wellington talk

@@azzag2414 Next time and don't regret it, you still got to listen to and see one of the most important men of our century... I can hear him saying "that's something man" haha... The next time if i get to meet him again, I know I will be more confident and stronger in myself. I could barely speak my name. He held both my hands smiled with so much care. I watched others walk up to him, he was so amazing and attentive. So where are you with your progress?

People in mental institutions seem to be happy. But very few are right

Being actually right (aka finding the truth) is important. Believing that you're right or being acknowledged as right even when you're not is dangerous and counterproductive.

SO true!! That's exactly how my boyfriend is.. he never even makes any good points..he just wants to be right and it's the end of discussion 😔

Some people would rather be right and lonely

I'm not sure if you are all talking about Dr. Peterson, and whether in the pejorative, or not. I'll just say this...I've watched enough of the man's lectures and speeches to know, in my heart, that he's not being disingenuous when he says, or otherwise purports, to want to help people, all people, with the ultimate goal of making the world a better, and safer, place to live in. By the year 2040, I've heard or read somewhere, there will be over 9 billion people on earth. It's getting to be pretty damned crowded, so, we'd better learn to live together much more peacefully than we have so far, or we're really going to be in trouble. I've seen the man shed tears on stage in front of huge, live audiences, he feels so strongly about wanting everyone to just care about one another, as he says, as if we all matter. Because we do. And I'm pretty sure he's never done Shakespeare in the Park. That's what I know of Dr. Jordan Peterson.

Jordan for Prime Minister of Canada! 10 000 times better than any past PM.

And he has.

He’s changed my life with his words.

I admire Jordan

Imo we all make a difference but some of us solve problems Imo jordan offers viable solutions to some big problems .. That is what I respect about him

1.4% (155 out it of 11,000+) had their volume turned off and couldn’t hear anything, or don’t like what Cathy Newman has said about Jordan Peterson.

Listening is a skill that must be developed and honed over time. Some people never slow down enough to be present in the moment.

@Andres Rodriguez-Marin Oh wow, you're so right and eloquent. Statistics can be biased and not always dependable. However, they also can be helpful in providing a ballpark idea of where we might begin.

Hahahaaaa!

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Ben Finn "Proverbs" is 3000 years old and is amazing.Try reading that book,it's incredible if you are honest.

It goes to show that truth is eternal.

The Bible says it the best. Because it's God's own voice

Definitely God sent. Thankful for His word and sending His Son for sinners, of whom I am the worst.

lmfao, this guy is a doctor?

@@ef6042 ?

@e f he has a ph.D. in clinical psychology from McGill university and has contributed to more than 100 scientific papers with colleagues and students.

@@ef6042 he used to teach at harvard

@@ef6042 peasant

I have found great satisfaction in being a true friend. Best wishes

Wow good attitude, I almost never see someone not make a joke at the end 👏

I think I just realized the same thing. So many of my conversations seem to be at surface level.

I know the feeling.. appreciate yer honesty... we should hang on there.stay away from toxic people..peace.

@@davidraley3054 Yes, I often find I can't get past the polite Hey, how are you, I'm good, how are you, not bad, nice weather we're having, yes isn't it. Cool. Cool. Don't let me keep you. !!!.

, and trying hard but failings at times 😔

...to understand rather than be understood.

How? I cant seem to!

I'm glad it went well for you. May God bless you and your family.

Philip that’s a superb story. An example of getting what you deserve when you figure out what’s meaningful to you and you act on that realisation. No matter that you’re going into challenging terrain; only that it matters.

Bonjour. Comment tallez vous?

Philip I am so happy to hear that !

@@dianet2565 En Avant. I would have loved to have been there.

Brooooo I’m sayin

@Sandra Smith well im pretty sure he works at UoT, see him after class haha

Mine too.

Is changing mine

Me too! I'm happy for you ☺

Have things turned out good for you and your wife?

@@saschahein6332 probably not. Woman are such immovable creatures. Kinda like a brick wall with metal reinforcement.

​@@shasmi93your own experience with women doesnt defineq women in general

@@HenryAttendant it’s not just my experience bud. Go look at art since the beginning of humanity. It always had a little explanation of how goddamn difficult women are…

@@shasmi93 said like that I agree women are difficult but not impossible to understand

all is now all I have any control over are my reactions to what I perceive. reality comes from my perceptions if I find peace then I am actively looking or feeling my way through it.

Jp actually says there is no such thing as ego. He has a full 2 hour teaching on it. Pretty powerful stuff.

You can hardly find some good content without garbage background music in it on these days.

Right? So corny

Lateral thinker

I don't know if you will ever look it up or if you just dont want anything to do with it but the book of proverbs in the Bible may help as well. It has alot of wise insight from some very wise people. (Just my opinion, not trying to force my beliefs on you just telling you about something that has helped me)

@@JosephKarsten333 Bible? Really? Quotes from thousands years ago influenced rewritten multiple times while following a insanely biased approach? Is that what you believe?

@@Seh_the_h_is_silent The guy gave a suggestion and said in the comment that he doesn't want to impose a specific belief if that's not what the other person is up for. You should really LISTEN and watch what people say and mean by what they say, which is literally what the video is about. Hope the best for you and have a great day.

@@peters.6069 thankyou man

@@Seh_the_h_is_silent if I find peace then I am actively looking or feeling my way to it in the now.

You are using a pernicious approach. maybe not to you but either for negotiaters or social engineers. It is turning the person into a 'Yes-man'. this is an actual tactic for social engineers. whether good or malicious. intent is what matters also. not saying you have malintent.

Very true.

@@dojoparsnip9905 I have zero malintent. Actually sometimes I'd rather not have people share such personal information because on some level then I feel obligated to help. I'm just pointing out that its extremely easy to connect with individuals. It's called really listening. Its like everyone is desperate to be heard about their version of reality and tell anyone willing to actually listen. That alone sometimes helps them.

@@paulb515 I understand completely. This is quite late of a response. lol. I am not sure if i read you correctly the first time but I listen to people intently and things come out that seems personal and emotional. It has been that way since high school for me. But i do see that it can be a tool for the malicious. Not saying you are at all. People, strangers if you will, have a tendency to spill things out that they may not have if you didnt you this listening skill. I have had this happen with an Uber ride. thats how effective this is.

@@dojoparsnip9905 Sorry, I wasn't aware of your first message until last night when someone else responded. Actually, I barely remember me writing my first message lol I had to re-read it.

His Knowledge level it’s like 💯percent higher than most scholars...the difference between him and the others ..it’s the fact that he’s the only one in youtube who has shared his lectures and classes ...think about it this way ..this man should be charging people for this type of knowledge, like a masterclass or something and he just have them in youtube ..this is why this man it’s a treasure

Mr. D this happened in a discussion with an argumentative man recently. After listening to his points, I acknowledged each one and first encouraged each point that I agreed with including examples or data for why I agreed. Then I acknowledged each point that I disagreed with and provided examples/data for why. In the end he knew that I had listened, that I validated and encouraged where we were in agreement, and that I had considered all his points even if I still disagreed with some of them. All the hostility dissipated from the discussion.

Do you sell used cars?

All and I mean all of his classes are online on his youtube channel. We can all be his students. He has given this as a free gift to the world. I try to consume a hour a week. It will take me years to watch them all. A full education is sitting there waiting for all of us.

@Preto do Zimbabwe That which actually is, irrespective of personal opinion or viewpoint.

Rashaad Price absolutely!! I find his body language when engaged in discussion so non-aggressive that it sends a message of “let’s listen to each other.”

@@Weissguys6 I've seen some of the best debate coaches and teams that ever existed in National US debate, and this guy................tops them all. And being Canadian, and being in academics, before the internet we'd never have heard of him.

And get it COMPLETELY wrong!

I firmly believe she only did that in order to aggravate Dr Peterson

Liberals, feminsit liberals. They do not listen, they can not listen, with alll that chauvinistic hate.

People that don't listen and don't want to.

haha so true man

And that's pretty much exactly the opposite of what JP would advocate for. Appealing to authority on the basis of your valuation of his "persona", without having listened to the content. Whilst JP has much good content, his thinking is also often flawed. He is, after all, a perfectly imperfect person.

@dirk diggler Ah, a snowflake. Melting under a little heat, are we?

he's the voice of kermit

Your boyfriend cannot be your best girlfriend m girls have more words than guys. You don't have to talk everything over with your boyfriend, in fact maybe you shouldn't wear him out by it. Save the talking it out for important things, and call a girlfriend or your mom instead..... Every notice guys hanging out together all day, and the only thing they talk about is what they are doing? They fix a car, and they talk about parts. They move furniture and they talk about the best place to put it. They fish, and they don't talk.,...... Talking is not the only or the best way to communicate.

@@ludwigvonmiseswasright4380 um.. you're talking to a woman who has mostly hung out with guys since I was a little kid and has always been compared to "one of the guys" I'm not a typical "girl" who likes to drive him crazy by talking about every annoying little thing and I don't have (or want) "girlfriends" that I can (or want to) complain to about him behind his back, that is childish actually.. We are adults in our late 30s and sometimes things need to be addressed and discussed, that's life and that's what adults do.. converse and compromise, especially if one person is unhappy about something specific, the other person should care, show respect and want to understand and help get past that problem, not ignore and continue the cycle. When there is an issue, I confront the source and deal with our relationship directly because that's what REAL adults do. Only children and immature people who can't deal with anything ignore problems or go behind someone's back and complain about them, especially their significant other.. that's just extremely juvenile. Btw, you were only right about one thing.. MY b/f is NOT my best friend.. quite honestly he's a disrespectful prick and I KNOW that I deserve better. BUT you are 100% wrong about bf/gf not being able to be best friends.. THAT is why most relationships don't work out these days.. a couple *should* be each other's best friends and should be able to share and talk through ANYTHING. Thankfully I was fortunate enough to experience that beautiful type of relationship for 8 loving years, which were the best years of my life, with an amazing man who NEVER disrespected me and was my best friend through EVERYTHING. Maybe someday I will be lucky enough to have that again. Next time try not to ASSUME you know what you're talking about.

Whenever people complain about minute or inconsequential issues then either you don't understand the issue or there is a deeper issue they are truly struggling with and it manifests though this small issue. The woman complaining about the gluten problems was likely struggling with something else. Understanding their real issue will allow with helping them better.

@@alexdevries8761 exactly, but because they have no one to listrn to them or give them the time of day, they go through life complaining bitterly. We live a fast pase life, no time to rest, recuperate, calm thoughts and emotions. So unfortunatly no one has the time for that

Well said :)

@@WordToTheWise ♡ so glad I found your channel ! Thank you

Do you have the link for that?

Any sarcasm here? Heh heh

Don't compare