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We are watching and learning to be better wives 😊

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I’m so sorry. Listening to Jimmy and Karen, and applying their principles, turned our marriage around. It’s better than it ever was, and I thought we were in love back then. We both got into very bad habits- sarcasm is definitely a tool of the enemy. Continue praying for your husband; it isn’t too late. Praying for you, your health, and the resurrection of your marriage.

Yes, same here! They said talk to him and respect your husband the way you would Jesus. I know that Jesus would never speak to me the way my husband does. He also swears at our 26 year old son who farms with him. He is constantly bitter and the words from his mouth are like venom. We have been married over 32 years and I think of leaving him daily.

To: Karen Tillma - Why haven’t you? Perhaps facing a consequence like that might inform him effectively what is or is not acceptable to you? Are you doing God a favor by pretending an unacceptable situation is ok with you? Is that honest? If telling him isn’t working, could he need clearer, firmer boundaries enforced? Are you being honest? With God, your husband, or yourself? Or are you pretending you’re willing to cope with unacceptable behavior on the outside when the reality of your inside doesn’t agree? To keep the peace or save face? It doesn't keep the peace - your inner peace is disturbed enough to vent in comment sections to strangers. Complaining to us can't help effectively but make your more bitter by getting it off your chest for a few hours - until he does it again. Would taking action for you that illustrates the fact that you don’t abide certain behavior be a clearer indication of what’s on your heart to your husband? Could that be a gift to him? Why haven’t you? It’s not as brave to post and vent your very understandable anger as it would be to turn your life upside down to support your truth, or at least put your foot down with the one it should matter most to. Right?

@@brightpage1020 you are the first person to call me on my feelings. I can’t decide if I’m angry at you or myself. The original poster gets prayers and I get a kick in the gut (or butt?) Thanks for your response. Since it’s posted here, I’m going to assume it’s given out of love.

Sounds like YOU we're trying to "change" him for almost 40yrs! Why did you say "I DO"? Money? Security? Looks? Your mother "stressing" you? How old were you? Did your dad/mom teach you what to look for in a HUSBAND? Did you listen? There's a hierarchy of God that women are tempted/deceived to alter/change. Jesus, Man, Woman, first born male, female daughter.. All through God's word it's shown! If YOU'RE "offended" by that, YOU have the problem! How many wars would Israel have won if Women we're the warriors? I wonder how many women are going to "try" to change God's heaven to suit themselves? YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH SUBMISSION! It's a Jesabell spirit! Do you let/support your children to rule your house and tell you what to do? I'm sure women demand that their husbands "submit" to their bosses, so they can have THAT house, in THAT neighborhood. But yet YOU don't want to submit to your husband.. That's why Satan went after Eve. The weaker of the two.. (Divide and conquer!!) Learn your place and be happy doing it. Men build the house and women make it a home, according to the rule of the husband! You WILL FAIL if you have two trying to rule the house! "Submit one to another" means to use the "strengths" of both husband and wife to BUILD the ultimate goal, the "family". I tell my two boys that if the woman they want to marry wants to pursue "HER CAREER" that's outside of your wants. That you're starting off ALREADY DIVIDED. And if the male can't support a family, he shouldn't even THINK ABOUT IT!!

Have you told him what you need from him, actually asked?

Honestly you need to seek help from marriage guidance counselor, if he is unwilling to go. Why? Doesn't he want a better marriage, it takes two , you both need to make the marriage work. I am now divorced my ex would not go to see a counsellor or priest for guidance, eight years later I found out he was having an affair and had a seven year old child to her. I divorced him, it was mental and emotional torture for eight years. He did not care. Ask him to go to seek help with you, if not, how you going to work it out you can't. Your decision , take care x

Have you used boundaries? Being too nice without boundaries allows someone to disrespect you. I understand; I'm a nice sweet woman too and learning how to enforce boundaries.

Thank you so much, Christi!

Guard your heart, because he isn’t.

Hey there, Vanessa! Please feel free to visit our website at xomarriage.com and to select "Marriage Help" for many amazing resources! We will try to help however we can.

Sexual immorality is one of the only reasons where divorce is acceptable. Research setting boundaries, narcissism and codependency. Get into counseling.

I'd take a trial separation. This is sin and not acceptable to the Lord.

That's a one-way ticket to divorce.

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He speaks about womens' needs in another video.

Vanessa, we are so sorry to hear of the pain you are facing. Please feel free to visit xomarriage.com and the "Marriage Help" tab. If you have questions, please feel free to send them to info@xomarriage.com. We want to help however we can!

easy by treating him like you would wanna be treated

that doesn't work bcuz the person is mean and rude. Won't get back same treatment. It seems I would become the doormat if I do all the right things while he gets away with treating spouse badly.

@@ginaroberts3346 kindiness is like water to fire, that why you must not always feed it, lets it burns you.

I just watched this & saw your question. Thought I should ask how it has been these 9 mos since you commented, instead of offering my opinion. Hugs!🤍

@@ginaroberts3346 Take a trial separation.

Hey, I'm sorry this is so heartbreaking when we are compare to other people. But here is what I will say: watch these videos with him and pray for him. Invite God to be part of your marriage and let Him take control of it by praying and surrendering your marriage to God. As Jimmy Evans often says, no one knows how to "do Marriage" but we are all able to be loving and carrying spouses when we invite God and let Him be the third person in our marriages. I am not married or dating but my friend and I have been watching Mr. Evans' videos since summer just to learn how to be good wives to our future husbands. Though we haven't met our husbands yet, we continue to pray for them and pray that they will be godly men of God. We also pray that when we start our unions with our husbands God will be part of it as well. Prayer is so important and reading the word of God. I hope this advice will help somehow :)

@@b.eunice he won't watch with me. I do pray for him. Im between a rock and a hard place. And I really feel like giving up. I feel worthless.

@@kimberlysullivan5319 aww please don't feel worthless, we might be worthless to humans but not to our Creator. To Him, we are worthy of everything. Keep praying and seek counseling (Christian counseling) study the word of God and have faith in Him that he will change your husband to a godly man. I will pray for you too!

@@kimberlysullivan5319 never give up God doesn’t give up on us. It took me 14 years till I got Jesus in my heart and it felt like I had a new wife that day 🙏🏻🙏🏻

@@kimberlysullivan5319 He probably does it to get a reaction. To push your buttons. I'd get away for a while. Take a break to seek God about it. It's not a deal breaker, though. If it were me, I could care less about it, but I'm very confident. Nevertheless, it's wrong so take a break! Visit friends or something.

Pray that God will give you the strength to truly forgive when you were wronged. Love your husband and put God first. Pray that God will surround your husband with the holy spirit and change his heart. Hope that helps.

You have to check out his other videos. He cares deeply for his wife.

Hit replay. He listed all four needs.

Hello there...

That’s the point if your in one of those you both needa work on yourselves together find yourselves in Christ it’s possible only through God, if not needa go read 1 Corinthians 7 on the boundaries and rules of marriage

He's spoken alot about abusing his wife. He changed though.

Hello Miriam...

He’s not “jealous” of his kids. He is a functional balanced person who realizes his wife’s priorities are out of balance.

@@laurenturk151 thank you.

It does happen. They should both make time for a date. Prioritize the marriage.

Why are you even asking this question?

​@@danilaroche1156Some (most) women aren't happy unless they and everyone around them isn't happy.

Dress nice and look good. 👗 men are visual.

Is he into porn? On drugs? Something is remiss. Pray & fast on this.

@@danilaroche1156 very low testosterone, hormonal imbalance. He is very fit and eats healthy, but has this problem. Doctors are unsure what to do because their treatments causes infertility which he doesn't want.

​@@heywuzzzupwithyaTRT may need to be in order, but make sure that's the last resort. He may not need those "treatments". Make sure it's not a spirit of infirmity.

@@ElizabethV01NORTruth! Most of the time if a husband is not having sex very often or a decline from what was normal in the marriage, it’s due to Porn addiction. This problem is becoming an epidemic especially in the Church today! Many marriages are dying because of porn and how it neglects, and abuses the victim spouse. This is my journey in my marriage. I pray more marriages are restored and healed thru the power of Jesus. It’s our only hope for reconciliation.

Sorry this happened to you Statistically women generally give more in marriage hence they age faster and get sicker in marriages Men's health and wealth are benefitted in marriage Sometimes women give so much they resent giving sex and feel used Sex in marriage is supposed to be mutually satisfying its about giving to each other Again sorry if this was your experience Blessings and prayers to you

Thank you! I was thinking the EXACT same thing. I Couldn’t have said it better. I see zero benefits for the man. ZERO.

Wrong. We are called to be married. We are the Bride to Christ Jesus!! We are being prepared to receive our bridegroom King Jesus, come!!!