This is powerful. My wife and i were hurt, angry, and almost divorced i couldnt let go of anger. Finally, God softened my heart, i have forgiven her. my love for her is more than its ever been. God is good

Verbal abuse is damaging, it’s just as hurtful as physical abuse.

Married being a wife the hardest thing I’ve done in my life! I’ve always run to God I ask God take my hand carry me through and He always does ! Praise God 🌼 I love Jesus 🌺 so much !

I resonated so much with the woman who wrote that question, and when I listen to you and Karen talk about how your marriage used to be, it's like I'm looking at my marriage in the mirror. Showing redemptive love is so hard, especially when your spouse isn't changing or doesn't see how he's hurting you. Some days are so hard and emotionally exhausting, today being one of them, but I'm trying to keep doing it. One of the hardest parts for me is changing how I react or respond because I go into instant protect mode and standing up for myself, but I have to let God do that. I'm definitely a work in progress, and I pray that my marriage is healed one day. Thank you both for your ministry.

my husband just hurt my feelings,listening to this has taken that hurt away .thankyou Jesus

Its hard when only one person wants it more than the other!!!

This video was the HARDEST PILL I EVER HAD TO SWALLOW...thank u for this teaching👏🏾👏🏾❤️

I'm Muslim and I love these videos! God bless u sir

In Jesus name may this teaching bring abundant healing to many marriages, amen.

My Husband of 21 yrs left me for someone else Returned home when tht didn't work out stayed for 6mnths left again moved back in wit the person I've prayed prayed & prayed I'm broken from all of this but I'm not giving up on Me I've stopped praying for restoration of my marriage my Husband's heart & love only me I pray for Me now

This is so difficult to do in the midst of anger.

Wooooooow biggest take away “TREAT YOUR HUSBAND LIKE HE WAS JESUS” 🙌🏻♥️

Just had my 30th wedding anniversary. It's hard to believe we've made it that long. We are like chalk and cheese. We both love the Lord but can't seem to get it together. I'm praying for a miracle...that the Lord would soften our hearts so that we can have the marriage that He intended.

Thank you. I have been forgiven many times by our great Lord. I can only repay the same back. My husband doesn’t understand why I don’t give up on him. I give it to your my Lord to help him see the joy of love and forgiveness. Thank you Lord for showing me how to love❣️🙏🏼

Try so hard to communicate with love and patience. It is returned with anger, gaslighting, blaming and poisonous accusations every time. I give up. It's all your Jesus. 🙏😪

Brothers and sisters please pray for me & my spouse. I’m standing for my prodigal & I’m in spiritual warfare with double mindedness, spirit of addiction & enmity!

This message is hard to hear while my wounds are fresh but I'm very glad I heard it bless all of you.

I just listened to this msg and I believe Yahweh led me to it during my three days of praying and fasting, this msg touched my heart and my spirit, I have the kind of husband that has been hurt so much in the past starting from his mother up to the last marriage that he was in after trying to make it work for 31 years, he lived by himself after that for 5 years devoting that time to God and not really wanting to have another woman in his life again until Yahweh caused our paths to cross, God put us together, this we are certain of, but it really isn't easy sometimes but I have seen God come through for me in the past and I KNOW he will do it again, so I have decided to try this method because it's scriptural, I'm trusting God bcuz I KNOW He WILL honor this....thank you so much for this msg, God bless you, your ministry and your family 🙏

It's hard at times and I so want to not go through the pain but I will continue to love my husband through this time and believe for total healing and redemption

I want a husband that only wants me and is lucky to have me, not a husband who wants other women.. I hope God blesses me one day cause I deserve better.. ♥️

This unfortunately doesn’t work with everyone... some men just thrive on treating their wife easily disposable.

Finding my way back to God was the best thing that ever happened to me. Even though my world fell apart, I’m still standing due to His infinite love. As long as we put Him as our center in life we can’t go wrong and overcome things that seem impossible to overcome. I continue to love my wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it, I can’t love to his capacity but I can rely on Him to help me to love my wife regardless of her reciprocating.

"The best person does the right thing first" 🙆👐 ... I need to post that on the wall all over my house!

U can only defeat a spirit with the opposite spirit. That's deep

There are times when you want to leave so much but you just do not have anywhere to go

Thank you for the encouragement. God graciously changed me first but my wife isn't there yet. We are legally divorced but I'm going to stand for reconciliation.

My wife does the same thing as the woman's husband who was sleeping with the girlfriend every in the story. She comes home to take the kids to school and then brings the kids home and leaves as soon as I get home from work. Last night she asked me to replace the breaks on her car, I said no because she is not treating me like her husband, but she still wants me to perform husband tasks for her like doing a break job. I realized that was a mistake and that's not how Jesus loves, and I called her to say I would do the breaks. She said some hurtful things, blamed all the problems in our marriage on me and said she doesn't need my help. It's very hurtful and hard to know how to show Christ's love to someone who just wants to take advantage of you.

Wow! These videos hit me. I am realizing that I am in a place that I hindering not only myself but having the marriage that God created me and my husband to have. I want to change all the clutter that is still inside of me so that it may become the best version of myself. Just learning how to trewt my husband as I would treat Jesus hit home. I would never treat Jesus the way I treat my husband. I am almost in tears at work. TY for this video. No more excuses!

What a great message and so counterintuitive to love, respect and redeem someone who is hurting you, blaming you or being unfair or hostile. Truly amazing

The best advice I received is take time for yourself. Spend time on reflecting on yourself, relationship, and family. Slow down

What about Love must be tough? It’s disrespectful to yourself to lovingly accept an ongoing unfaithful spouse. Make him choose.

I began watching Jimmy a few months ago, and I am always coming back to this teaching though. It must resonate with me. I just want to thank Jimmy & Karen for making this available for people and for marriage because with all the temptations we truly need it now more than ever. Jimmy, thank you so much for helping me see the light and bringing faith into my life. ❤😇👍

Marriage is no joke. Such teachings should be taught to singles before they get married so they know it’s more than just butterfly feelings😅 Marriage can be wonderful when we are willing to learn and grow but a nightmare when we decide to remain in our pride of being right.

Our God is the same yesterday today and forever. Again Ps Jimmy you have saved 20 more sessions of counseling. My tongue my tongue my tongue. This thing in my mouth has to change

Thank you 🙏🏾 I’m not yet married but this will help

Thank you Jimmy for your message. I know for sure this is my solution to my marriage issue. Redeemptive love which needs to be passed on to our spouse. God bless your marriage even more. As you have sown may you reap more good i All Glory to Jesus. Praise the Lord

Hope this helps typical couples. Nothing on or outside this earth could jave helpes my husband and I. When you have an angry, very selfish and self destructive, you could be an angel, tending to all of their wishes and it will never, ever be enough for them. They hate themselvea and never could truly love another person. Like myself, they spend years and sometimes a lifetime trying to help them. What we need to do is help our self, love our self and put our well being first. Only then can we attract a more positive partner.

My heart is SO hurt I don't know why he behaves the way that He does. I have been praying and I feel I am.watering a bucket with holes in it.

Thank you Sir Jimmy Evans, your guidance has been a soothing balm in my troubled mind ... no one to turn to and i found this video... my mother endlessly trying to break my marriage because she hates my husband... she disrespects and disregards my marriage and creates so much conflict between my husband & i because i approach him believing the bad things my mum says.... but this video has really been a light in the dark for me... thank you and Thank You God for guiding me here...

Please pray for me and my husband Elkin. He has hurt me. He has kept sex from me for years. He has just started testosterone therapy. But for years he didn’t listen to me. How do I move past this! Please help me. The devil is putting bad thoughts in my head. Please help me. Lord come into heart.

My husband and I have been married for almost 39 years. Found out about two weeks ago he has been looking at inapproriate vedios on youtube of women. I was so hurt cause this has never been an issue in our marrige . Our sex life is wonderful we have always had sex almost everyday. Confronted him about it was sorry and ashamed he said . I let him know I forgive him and now he needs to be accoutable to God. Said only been watching for about a month and would stop. So its been really hard everytime I see him online or on his phone to wonder whats he looking at. I saw him delete something on his computer today and out of nowhere I snapped at him what did you just delete. He said wasnt deleteing nothing was clicking on something. And snapped back said I am tried of being accused. Which was 2nd time I have since I found out. I told him he is the one who broke the trust in our marriage and its gonna take time for me to trust him . I know I have to just give it to God and let it go but its hard. My behavior hasnt changed towards him if anything better . Just need prayer to be able to trust him .

That's a tough thing to do for real!!

This was such a great video and I see what I have to do. Lord thank you for amazing words

this guy is my man!! tough to hear, hard to do, but so very true!!! its changing my view..

This message was a blessing to me!

Wow! The question and answer time at the end when they shared- hits home. Especially when she said she felt God liked her husband better than her because He allowed her husband to continue to ill treat her

My marriage is possibly over. I am striving to keep the faith. Your messages have kept the hope alive. Staying true to the commitment and deep love for her has been difficult given she is not on the same school of thought in trying to implement your teachings. However, when do you move on and have God's blessing to do so? Again, your teachings have enable me to manage a very dark place. Keep up the good work!

His wife's name is always on his mouth. truly out of the love for her stored up in his heart. Single and loving these teachings. It's never too early to start learning these truths

Wow, that was powerful, I was married 2xs both failed because first I did not have God in my heart, second I did have the Lord in my heart, but was too hurt from previous hurts and whatever my second husband did hurt me even more. Both cheated on me because I did not take care of myself. That was 40 yrs ago altogether. I wish things would've been different for me then. It's powerful I think I still need healing before I'm ready for anyone else. God Bless you, family, ministries. Thank you.

I'm black native American. And I love Jimmy and Karen Evens, and there videos. Thank you.

THANK YOU GOD!!!!!! For this video!! Been struggling to the point where confusion came in - not Godly. THANK YOU for praying the price to feed us!!

I agree.. it happens every single time when we lay down our own ways or the world way and do it God’s Way,

But this is all about what ladies can do, what about him? When he will think to change himself and care for wife? Why only wife needs to make things happen for him? What about him?

That’s great he clarifies that about abuse. First time I’ve heard it where it makes sense 🙌🏼

Amazing words of truth from God's word. Perfect advice. Thank you ✝❤

OH MY GOSH! THIS WAS SOOOOOO CONVICTING! Jesus help me, here we go.

Ur the best preacher ive heard v v deep truths and explained with your own experiences may Lord bless u immensely!

that was truly beautiful jimmy a lot of people under estimate these little simple things... i wish i knew these things at the start of my marriage 10 years ago 100% i wouldnt be looking at a spouse who no longer loves me... because if your trying to implement these skills when shes said that its too late trust me :/

Great word. I saw my own flaws in this video and I'm interested in learning more skills to improve myself and my marriage.

Am trying to forgive him, but I can't forget the things he said. He refuse to get counseling and am mentally tired and physically drain.

I'm not religious but now i understand why people who are religious have such a deep faith. Thank you for helping me figure out my frustration and how to handle it. i feel a similar warmth at times for children or animals, and I should have that kind of love for my partner. To understand he is human and hurts like me but i should unconditionally love him and accept him for his flaws, and i am sure if i do this he will learn from me and love me this way to.

For over the past 4 years , our marriage has been disrespected, mocked, harassed and even had a woman spread lies and saying she was having sex with My Husband, posting filth about us on social media, to say the least. By standing on The Truth , taking authority that we have been given by Jesus Himself and through You and your wife's teaching, the tables have been completely turned!!!!!!! Jesus has fought for our family and is restoring Everything the enemy has stolen and had made our marriage and family whole ⚔️💕⚔️

I wished i could have applied the Word of God every argument. Feel so much quilt for not being Christ like. What a poor testimony on my part. I want more of Him and to be forever changed!!

I am so blessed to have people that give me redemptive love in my life. An essential part of marriage. Thank you :)

Amen!!! We have to give what God has giving us. What good it's to give good to someone who give you good. ❤️ God is love and love overcome all things. He gave his life for me because of Love ❤️.

"The best person does the right thing first."

I tried all this 28 years ago and thought it had worked. Learned to trust him again now I just find out that he recently has been texting with a lady from church. She told me what was happening and he didn’t deny it and shows no remorse whatsoever. I’m done

Halleluiah!! Praise the Lord!!thank you Mr.Jimmy Evans,to God be the glory!!!🥰🥰🥰

A few years ago I was able to love my husband this way. God has redeemed him but now we are in a place where he has made me the enemy. I no longer care to redeem our love and marriage. I have lost hope but I am here asking for prayer because I believe in the power of prayer

I love how they say abuse but unless ur in it u don't know how it feels

As usual an Awesome Word!!! Going from Good to Great!!! Thank you both for your faithfulness!!!

I needed this today very badly. I am very happy that I got to listen to this video. Love this man and his teachings..

I have been so terrible to my wife over the past 8 years due to addiction and anger problems and now that I'm trying to get right for once in my life she doesn't seem to want me anymore. Idk why I'm writing this but I have no family to talk to and I try to tell my wife im struggling with depression and trying so hard to fight my inner demons with addiction but she just doesn't seem to see me for what I'm actually doing and not doing anymore. All I want is for my wife to love me again and see that I'm fighting for us and I'm actually standing up on my own two feet planted on the ground and I will continue to fight no matter what.

Thank u so much Jimmy Evans for doing a great job that make who has relationship problems to feel better when they listen your words. God bless you and please keep doing this fabulous mission.

I have work to do, oh help me Lord to forgive and to love like you love me amen 🙏🏾😔

Jesus gave us great hope: "When the dead rise, they will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven."

Sadly I have tried this for years. I do get discouraged and disappointed. Yet I stay. I pray God can change me and my resentful heart.

Thank you for clarifying your stance on abuse and the difference from suffering. Makes a huge difference for me. I have been receiving a tremendous amount wisdom and encouragement from listening to hours and hours of your teaching. Just now, before you made those statements clarifying that difference, I felt alienated and began to bottom out.

THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH!!!! GOD BLESS YOU❤ I NEED THIS MESSAGE. THANKS, AGAIN...AND I THANK GOD FOR YOU

Thank you this has been the words that I've desperately needed to hear. For the first time in almost 3 years I feel hope.

So even if your spouse is abusive, you can't leave them and start over. Wow that's very wrong. I'm going to stop watching this guy now.

Wow this was worth the listen. It hits home and I love my wife and I want a great marriage. I'm going to share this and hope it helps others

I needed to hear this so bad. I am constantly belittled by my spouse and there is no affection in our marriage. I am ready to separate from this toxic relationship but my faith that this situation will change is keeping me chained in this unhappy marriage.

Thank you for this. It took me from being angry that it seems women are always the one that have to do the work to actually wanting to be the first to do the work again. That's kinda HUGE for me right now!

This Powerful stuff ! Level 10 Difficulty lol

Thank you so much pastor for the teachings. I believe in marriage and pray that marriages be blessed.

You are HUGE blessing to many lost couples! May God lead you to their hearts and minds to bring Godly change! Only patience and love ruining rocks. It is SO difficult! Only Jesus can do it for us when HE lives in us....

“The best person does the right thing first” 🎯🎯🎯🎯

Much of this God taught me several years ago and sadly some of it I forgot. Thank you for this reminder.

Thank you for this. My husband wants a divorce. He wants to be free and said he’s exhausted. I blamed myself first because I was the one who pushed him away first for not meeting the standards I want in a marriage but actually that’s what the devil wants. It’s all the devil. My husband is a non Christian. It makes it harder because he has no faith. I wasn’t living like a Godly wife because I didn’t know how to. Therefore, I’m facing this trial. Please pray for me as well. I trust the Lord is working on us and the best is yet to come.

I am gaining soo much knowledge. I am unsure of if my marriage can be repaired and we can move forward but I am definitely learning, gaining knowledge and preparing myself! Thank you.

My husband just told me unfortunately we'll be married for 6 years this August...He NO longer believes in God. I work over 50 hours a week, help with all yardwork/housework. I suffer from fibromyalgia and depression but he doesn't believe I have either. I feel like I'm his slave instead of his wife and I'm so angry with him. I pray so hard but my marriage doesn't get better.

The story of redeeming the husband to Jesus gets me. My husband who was saved, I thought I married a Christian, he was on leadership at our church and yet has been very abusive and separating. He would through our 18 year marriage use that scripture that I am somehow to redeem him to Jesus.

I could sure use some honest advice and feedback. Long story short, I have been married to someone who has narcissistic traits. About 2 months ago we attended our 19th marriage counseling session together. At that session I told my wife that somehow our marriage needs to drastically get better quickly, or I feel we need pull the plug and end our marriage since we have been going to marriage counseling for far longer than we probably should have been going; and not much, if anything, has improved. Part of me was hopeful that this was going to be the warning shot and my wife would finally hear me; that she would finally understand that I am done with the narcissistic type of behavior, done with the mean comments, the high level of control, and being made out to feel like I am never doing the right thing, never doing it quickly enough, etc. Unfortunately, the few weeks after that counselling sessions things did not improve, they actually seemed worse. For example, one morning I started her car so it was warm for her when she left for work (which I do for her quite often). I wasn’t looking for a pat on the back, but she very rudely said “oh, thank you so much for everything you do”. One day I went and bought a shovel and salt and cleaned the ice from the sidewalk. Instead of getting any type of thanks or appreciation, she told me that it is so interesting that I had time to go to Dollar General (which is about 3 miles from our house) and buy a new shovel and salt. I got criticized for doing laundry and putting in on ‘her side’ of the bed and not having it moved off of the bed so she could lay down at night without having to touch laundry. I got criticized for having the space heater on in the living room. I got criticized for eating all the lasagna; when in fact I put it in a Tupperware container so she could take it in her lunch. I got questioned on going for a walk along the river. It was just relentless verbal attacks. By no means am I a perfect husband, I am far from it, and I have made plenty of mistakes, but I have always tried to be loving and supportive and take care of her and our kids. I have dealt with this type of narcissistic behavior for a very long time. Just another example, I recently learned why I was in severe pain for a couple of days this past summer; I was passing a 6mm kidney stone. While I was in pain, I got in a hot bath to try and alleviate some of the pain. I recall vividly her making a mean comment that I was in the bath while she was doing something for the kids. I have agonized over the decision for many months, and probably years now, but about 5 weeks ago I asked for divorce and have been moved out since that time. She said it wasn’t fair and that I blindsided her, even though we have attended those 19 marriage counseling sessions together; I reluctantly agreed to separation for now. For the last five weeks, I have been buried in loving texts, pictures of our kids and of some fun memories in the past, she sent me the wedding song that we danced too, she has been sending me quotes from the bible, she asked that I listen to various books on making marriages work, etc; she asked that I meet with our Deacon at church and attend a church marriage weekend retreat. She has buried me in a variety of ‘tactics’ to try and get me back home; she has thrown our vows in my face multiple times and said that I am destroying the kids by moving out. I have been holding strong and have not caved by moving back in; recently she has been all over the board with her comments and emotions. Seems silly talking about, but we own a car and a truck. For the last 5 weeks I have drove the truck and she has had the car. A couple of days ago she said she wants the truck, which is no problem, but I asked her why; she said she doesn’t need to answer why, she just wants it. She said she plans on keeping the truck for a few weeks since its not fair that I got to drive it for a few weeks (I don’t know the intentions of this, other than some form of power play, or maybe knowing if she has the truck, I won’t be able to use it to do things I enjoy). She also seems to be getting controlling with the kids; she told me that I am the one who decided to leave them, so its not fair for me to ever get both of our kids overnight while she is alone, since she didn’t decide to leave. I reminded her that I didn’t leave the kids, that I only left her. Shortly after making these types of comments, she follows up with a load of very nice loving texts. This is all extremely hard for me, because she occasionally acts nice and says she is willing to try and change, but seems all over the place with her comments and emotions; I’m afraid I will fall back into the trap. I worry greatly about our kids, I feel she is subjecting them to a ton of sadness and possibly emotional manipulation, with the intentions being of playing the victim card in front of the kids and trying to make them feel bad for her and make me out to look like the bad guy (she told me she is always crying in front of the kids…and even yesterday when I saw her she cried multiple times in front of the kids). Even though I asked for divorce, I still do not wish her unhappiness; I just want everyone to get along and be nice and supportive with everyone. To make matters even more frustrating, yesterday she told me she was offered a job in Michigan (about 5 hours from where we currently live in Ohio). I am settled here in Ohio now, have a good job here, etc. I am happy for her that she was offered the job, I know that is more what she wants to do versus her current job, so that part makes me happy; but come on, wanting to relocate now while we are separated. I feel like she is doing everything she can to try and make things difficult for me, especially with our 2 kids. Random place to insert this comment….but I just thought it was odd; she claims to want the marriage to work, but considering uprooting to Michigan. I manage all of our finances, yesterday she said she wants all of our bank account log in information. Which is fine, no problem, it is both of our money; I just thought it was a little odd. Not sure the intentions behind it. Maybe just wanting to see how much is there, if I have been taking any, what I have spent money on; who knows?! Any words of advice would be greatly appreciated.

Your messages has changed my life thank you sir 😭😭😭😭😭😭

The work you do is amazing, when you help marriages you help families, children and future generation. Although my relationship needs way more work I'm blessed by this message as a woman. Thank you!

Jimmy and Karen have helped me so much in my marriage, now all I have to do is build up the courage to get my husband to listen to them with me!

I thankyou for this bible teaching,im true blessed right now after listening to this teaching....im going through a difficult time with my husband wanting to have a second wife.....please send me some more of bible teachings about marriage

What a blessing this has been to me. Thank you so much

This is so hard to swallow but absolutely is truth and is true agape love!