You Don’t Actually Know What Your Future Self Wants | Shankar Vedantam

You Don’t Actually Know What Your Future Self Wants | Shankar Vedantam | TED

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"You are constantly becoming a new person," says journalist Shankar Vendantam. In a talk full of beautiful storytelling, he explains the profound impact of something he calls the "illusion of continuity" -- the belief that our future selves will share the same views, perspectives and hopes as our current selves -- and shows how we can more proactively craft the people we are to become.
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@ashmitapoudel9719 Жыл бұрын

Just Stay curious Practice humility Be brave Make your future self proud

@mikester314 4 ай бұрын

I wish I could get the last 14 minutes of my life back.

@gurmeetsliet Жыл бұрын

Things to do for future self: 1. Stay Curious: Expand your horizon 2. Practice Humility 3. To be Brave: You don't have the capability to do things today, but your future self will have different capabilities.

@achmadfariz9219 Жыл бұрын

Thanks fyi

@evanscooper3780 Жыл бұрын

thanks for this summary. But how to understand "practice humility"?

@tobarragl Жыл бұрын

I discovered Hidden Brain podcast few weeks ago and I can’t stop listening to it. I truly recommend it. Great content.

@taofeekat2619 Жыл бұрын

Who's she? , who made profits for you, am really looking for a pro who can manage my account and make me huge profit

@tobarragl Жыл бұрын

I don’t know much about this investment guru that triggered all these responses to my initial message. However, Hidden Brain… I do recommend it.

@JohnVincentCMata Жыл бұрын

Where I can see this

@gnobre Жыл бұрын

wtf is this thread

@harperho9158 Жыл бұрын

I like the concept of the illusion of continuity. Although my problem is that when I think of my future self, I have trouble imagining what she would end up being. I know there are so many possibilities. But the advice provided in the video - stay curious, be brave - can apply to the fear of uncertainty of my future self too

@AreebIrshadHindi Жыл бұрын

One of the most thought-provoking, well-presented and well-crafted TED talks out there!

@nikitampmaurya 8 ай бұрын

Completely agree!

@AreebIrshadSimplifies 7 ай бұрын

Nice @AreebIrshadHindi

@theoneandonly9298 7 ай бұрын

Exactly!!!

@Areeb_Irshad 5 ай бұрын

Absolutely

@brianmillerspeaks Жыл бұрын

I love this so much, on two levels. One, as a speaker and consultant on human connection. Most of my work centers on helping people understand other perspectives. But there's a perspective I never really consider - your own, in the future. And two, as a speaking coach for TED-style presentations. This talk is masterfully crafted and delivered. Perfect example of how to tell stories as a vehicle for an idea, not merely for story's sake.

@nethmisenadheera4919 Жыл бұрын

Correct!

@MoonCrab00 10 ай бұрын

Stoicism talks about this. Essentially instead of religions devil and angel on your shoulders decided what’s “good” and “bad” based on present culture you ground yourself in reality. Instead you place your 10yr self and your 90yr self on your shoulders. What perspectives do they offer?

@gregraj 3 ай бұрын

@@MoonCrab00excellent point 👌🏻

@miteshladani4040 Жыл бұрын

Everyday we become a new person.

@liltunafish1471 Жыл бұрын

Everyday I’m shuffling

@sakxa1964 Жыл бұрын

I feel the same every morning.

@LarsonFilms2 Жыл бұрын

Except my parents, they never change.

@user-mq8sj8ky2q Жыл бұрын

如果一个人可能不是以前的你，那信上帝还有意义吗？如何证明现在的你还是从前的你？

@marcosrivera9709 Жыл бұрын

@glorytogod7738 d77trt

@nooder0ni Жыл бұрын

This one genuinely deserves more traction. That last note, even on its own, was particularly worthy of applause. Kudos. 👏

@exethanter6124 Жыл бұрын

Captivating story: ✅ Compelling problem statement: ✅ Backed by science: ✅ Actionable insights: ✅ "You're going to be a different person sooner than you think. So you might as well be in charge of who you're going to be." Not often do I find a TED talk that gave me chills and lit a fire inside of me at the same time. Saved this in the hope that my future selves will go back to it from time to time.

@ilikepineapple8579 Жыл бұрын

Well said!

@mdjubayerhossen4120 Жыл бұрын

Captivating story: Compelling problem statement: Backed by science: Actionable insights: "You are going to be a different person sooner than you think .So you might as well as be in charge of who you are going to be " Not offend do I find a TED talk gave me chills and lit a fire inside of me at the same time .Saved this in the hope that my future selves will go back to it from time to time

@fuzzygreen3634 Жыл бұрын

That was a good one. If you have ever come across comments you wrote on youtube, or in a journal, or elsewhere from 10+ years ago, you know exactly what this guy is talking about. I sometimes stumble on such previously written messages, that no longer align with my thinking at all. It's a strange thing, that my digital ghost and I are not the same, or at least we have significant differences psychologically.

@DavidOrtiz-jy3co Жыл бұрын

Very strange indeed. Also weird to think that my future self will have a different way of thinking than the current me.

@aphra9625 Жыл бұрын

It is precisely for this reason that I’m going to actively leave comments on YT videos.. just so that I can come back years later and see how much I’ve changed. Also I like your “digital ghost” phrase, it made me come back to your comment to read it once more.

@KrinchiD Жыл бұрын

Very true. I have noticed the same thing with my old comments.

@CarlosC0311 Жыл бұрын

@@KrinchiD hey man, just saw a comment from U like was from 3 years ago saying you couldn’t move on from a relationship that happen a long time ago. How you feeling today? Hope you’re doing ok!

@KrinchiD Жыл бұрын

@Carlos C Hi. Thank you for reaching out. I am doing a lot better today. I recently started dating a really kind and understanding gentleman. It's amazing being able to trust again. He lives far away, so things are going nice and slow, and we are taking the time to really get to know each other. It's really nice.

@timrichmond5226 Жыл бұрын

Never look back and wish yourself there, only realise your future self will feel the same way about your now.

@greatwavefan397 Жыл бұрын

My future self will not wish to be here. *wait...*

@sophieblooming8555 Жыл бұрын

Whenever I revisited the timestamped entries I wrote years ago in my diary, I would do an air hug to my younger self for making many choices along the way to pave the road to me today. I know my current self will do the same for the future me. I learned to draw at 31, calculus and coding at 39, belly dance at over 40. I know a lady started taking piano lesson after retirement and she played beautifully in her 80s. So definitely the key to the future is in your hands.

@ArchitectingHappiness Жыл бұрын

I gave you a standing ovation from my living room. 🙂 Amazing insightful talk and ideas. Both my current, and future self thank you for sharing your wisdom and perspective with us.

@gabbaalex713 Жыл бұрын

He is a gem. Great man.

@fernandavofchukmarkus2246 Жыл бұрын

Honestly, one of the best TEDs ever. I'm speechless yet my mind is speeding like crazy.

@piccolaradge8333 Жыл бұрын

Agreed! And dito

@cuteonlinewaifu Жыл бұрын

this this thissssss🎉

@thelifeofahuman3666 Жыл бұрын

the fact that I am also a 22-year-old electronics engineer who just left her job and now has no idea what the future will look like this talk is like a universe's sign that one is just supposed to move in life with passion and love And one day we will reach a place where we belong.

@Underwhelming_LDN Жыл бұрын

Ted talks are cool because it's someone making a point and then having the platform to explain it WITHOUT being shouted down and disagreed with for likes. I wish more people watched this stuff.

@m1sterj Жыл бұрын

The concept of disliking our past selves hits home hard. Thank you. I needed to hear this.

@julierobinson8173 4 ай бұрын

Love this ❤❤ the unknown and unknowable 1. Stay Curious 2. Remain humble (humility) 3. Be brave Thank you Shankar...I love this talk and have listened to it many times and sent it to my family and friends to watch also ❤❤🙏🏾

@chandratyler9567 Жыл бұрын

You are one of the most brilliant people I have ever met. I first met you when I picked up your book "The Hidden Brain" by accident and started to read it. Immediately I loved your style of writing and I deduced that you were incredibly brilliant. Today by accident I watched your Ted Talk and was indeed very ecstatic to see you in person, just like I imagined you would look like. Thank you for being the person you are and sharing with us.

@Tuikong Жыл бұрын

What a message! Spend time crafting what you wanna become. 1. Stay curious by expanding your horizon 2. Practice humility 3. Confront opportunities and be brave in them.

@yangchengyamu7479 Жыл бұрын

I love Shankar it’s been more then 2 years I have been listening to hidden brain his podcast and it really helped to to understand my self and others!

@Chepina_tik Жыл бұрын

Shankar Vendantam is elegance personified.

@ShalomSimplified Жыл бұрын

This makes you wonder about the massive time and money investment into our education when we don't know if our future selves will still want that career. I went to school to become a web developer, and I did learn useful skills, but I never actually worked as one. I didn't even work in the tech industry at all. Little wonder so many people end up feeling "stuck" and having midlife crises. Also wise to rethink any change that would be permanent that your future self may indeed regret. Like permanently altering your body in some way. I enjoyed this presentation and I'll be seriously considering subscribing to his podcast. :)

@alidmo3262 Жыл бұрын

haha, I killed myself to study music, only to become a web developer !

@ShalomSimplified Жыл бұрын

@@alidmo3262 Ha, one never knows! I would love to study music, myself :)

@AngDevigne Жыл бұрын

Love you Shankar! Your work has been so influential in my life!

@sanjanamallya Жыл бұрын

I have had become aware of this about 2 years back at an abstract level. It feels relieving to have someone put this in words. ☺️ Now if I want to express anything about how I'm feeling, I can simply show this video to add clarity.

@serenachen1969 Жыл бұрын

I love this TED so much. Believing myself could be the one I wanna be, cause everyday I am changing 💪

@JPolanc0 Жыл бұрын

Nice to see Shankar on TED, I’m a huge Podcast listener and It’s all because of Hidden Brain, Shankar shape my taste for all the pods I listen to, he delivers thought provoking questions, Hidden Brain is full of good research and amazing guests!

@deilismartinez9234 Жыл бұрын

This was so insightful and well put together. Im so glad I watched this video today. It just popped up randomly on my feed. And thankful for Shankar for putting this together - definitely looking forward to listening to his podcast now. This has really motivated me to continue doing the work that I’m doing. Most days I feel like I’m pushing a boulder uphill mentally. It’s hard doing things on a day to day basis that don’t really align with what your current self wants. But this has helped to reinforce why it’s important to stay consistent, and continue doing the work. On bad days I used to tell myself that my future self will thank me, but I’ve lost sight of that recently. So I’m thanking the universe for this video finding me. Stay grateful and blessed y’all. But most importantly, stay curious, practice humility, and be brave 😊

@centameta8597 Жыл бұрын

Remarkable coincidence, Hidden Brain is not hidden anymore. Great topic, excellent touch by Shankar Vedantam. Future myself should thank me. Today is our past, let's change it.

@nhathan233 Жыл бұрын

This speech inspires me a lot . When watching most of TED topics, they are almost derived from excellent achievements. But this topic is very different. It could wake up our recognition about matters in life by simple explanation about the aspects of life. Only one thing that will never change is "Change" . So, be positive about your future creation as an architect of your life.

@wonsunparque Жыл бұрын

Wow. One of the best TedTalks I've heard! 1. Curiosity, 2. Humility, 3. Courage.

@annadobysh1420 Жыл бұрын

Wow, it's such a gripping speach. I heard lots of others advice, but yours are the most thought-provoking. To expand our horizon we should be curious, convey humility and be brave. Actually, it doesn't sound so difficult, we can change our lifestyle in accordance with you piece of advice. Let's see what happens after 5 years. Thank you!

@henrytsao1 Жыл бұрын

almost burst out crying when he said your future self will say "thank you"

@vbolt6065 Жыл бұрын

There was an urgent need for a such idea in me before! I was afraid of my own ambiguity in the field of interests! Back in a school a dreamed of one thing in college time of another! And that tremendously simple idea of remembering of my future self eliminates that fear and clears up almost everything!

@ivlivs.c3666 Жыл бұрын

youtube needs more of this. society needs more of this. beautiful.

@saimanusrat2340 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful, so much to learn, even about yourself

@user-jn7fe2zd8d 6 ай бұрын

Mind-blown after watching this TED talk on understanding our future selves. The exploration of how our present choices may not align with what our future selves truly want was eye-opening. The psychological insights shared make me rethink decision-making and long-term goals. Kudos to Shankar for shedding light on this fascinating aspect of human behavior. Can't wait to apply these insights in shaping a more intentional future.

@ronnianabalos4627 10 ай бұрын

Wow, this TED talk really made me reflect on how our future selves are often a mystery to us. It's fascinating to see how our interests and perspectives can change so drastically over time. The story of John and Stephanie Rinka was truly thought-provoking, highlighting the challenges of predicting our own desires and decisions in life and death situations. The concept of the 'ship of Theseus' and the illusion of continuity were eye-opening. The speaker's advice to stay curious, approach our views with humility, and embrace bravery resonated with me. A powerful and insightful talk that reminds us to actively shape our future selves. Thank you for sharing!

@ColtonKaplan Жыл бұрын

Be open to changing. Perspectives change as you grow.

@shekarraj1439 5 ай бұрын

Awesome, thanks again for valuable inputs. It really a gift to have you sharing your wisdom & perspectives with us. I'm glad to have actively participated with you in the youth parliament congress (Bangalore) in the 1980s. Best wishes.

@nurmohammadhridoy9799 8 ай бұрын

One of the most alluring and well presented Ted talks. Lots of new perspective just opened to me. I really need time to process these new views!!!!!!

@shreyabapat Жыл бұрын

This is a masterpiece! The best TED Talk I have heard so far..I could completely relate to it.

@NafisSadekeen Жыл бұрын

I have been eagerly waiting for this TED to get uploaded ever since I read about it on the TED blog. I kept listening to the last 3 minutes over and over. There are so many TED's that have direct influence over our life and I think this one going to make on that list!

@user-xu9mf8vm2o 4 ай бұрын

The person who we are becoming in 10 or 20 years later is different what we think and not have our same views, perspectives. If you accept the idea tat you're going to be a different person in 30 years' time, you should play an active role crafting the person you are going to become. You should be the curator of your future self. You should be the architect of your future self. Most of us don't actually know that our future self are. You might be in charge of deciding who that person is going to be. You have to stay curious to explore yourself and practice humility and be brave to accept change.

@andyctzh Жыл бұрын

It is one of the most inspiring video I watched. It tells us how reality is and how we can do better in live, but we aren’t doing it consistently. Thx for the advice

@RaceBannonChannel Жыл бұрын

I watch a lot of TED Talks. This is now among my favorites. Thank you.

@KBISTranThiMinhChau Жыл бұрын

this is the second time i watch this speech. Stay curious, practice humility and be brave. I'm on my way to build my new self. Thanks so much!

@ChristannChanell Жыл бұрын

Beautiful Wisdom. Be Curious. Practice Humility Be Brave! I am grateful! ✨

@anitabowers7020 Жыл бұрын

I'm giving you a standing ovation. This was very well done.

@araynajoy5608 Жыл бұрын

I used nearly constantly preoccupied with how my future self would look back at me. I agree with what is said here. Stay curious, practice humility, and be brave are good goals. However, when this idea became a brainworm for me, it hurt so bad. I am a people-pleaser, and my future self just became another person to please. It's like I was looking up to my future self and constantly criticizing my past self. It helped immensely with my confidence to stop looking down on my past self, and to worry less about the opinion of my future self. I guess how I take this is to do what I can to make sure my future self has a good life, but not worry about what she thinks of me.

@raymondmutagahywa9991 Жыл бұрын

This hit me on so many levels. "We imagine that we represent the end of history. That the future is only going to before of the same" Wow.

@sinraa 4 ай бұрын

As always - his talks are thought provoking and profound . Thanks Shankar for delving into topics like this.🙂

@zevhinnyumburoga4774 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! It gives me a new perspective of what I really want in life and how I portray myself in the future🔥

@luanbui6921 Жыл бұрын

Thank Mr.Shankar for this speech, I'm really appreciated about this, you made me more confident about my decision : improving everyday like all of your detail in video. I hope one day I don't look back and feel a lot of regrets. Thanks

@mohamedelfatih9826 Жыл бұрын

I think he means perseverance in doing what you are doing. I can easily relate bravery, curiousity with being open minded to life. This is highly characteristic with japanese society

@shuqb8988 Жыл бұрын

Oh, man! Great talk. I just begin to listen to podcast. And it's a surprise that the man I listen to most frequently delivered such a wonderful talk!

@megchristensen7667 Жыл бұрын

this is one of the best TED talks i've seen

@abhishekagrawal3405 Жыл бұрын

Amazing talk & amazing thaught. I always used to think that, the things that I wanted in the past, why don't I want them now. You have answered that question wonderfully.

@aynoapamplona4158 Жыл бұрын

One of the best TED Talks I've ever seen! It was amazing! Thank you sp much for these words

@stefanosbilis1496 Ай бұрын

his podcast is truly phenomenal, it has such captivating stories that help teach some of lifes most valuable lessons. It helps listeners acctually be able to grasp what some of these old sayings truly mean.

@alidmo3262 Жыл бұрын

What a beautiful speech in the craft of presenting, bravo Shankar !

@LinhNguyen-xd9tc Жыл бұрын

Truly appreciated this powerful and mind-awaken video. it gave me the strength to keep in my journal in self-improving. Thank you

@johnbee7729 Жыл бұрын

A very interesting talk. And a talk that makes one think. I love it. I have long tried to not fix time and space, for those two things are constantly changing. I did not consider that it was also myself that would be a different person in the future - thank you ever so much for opening my mind further.

@rashaal7954 Жыл бұрын

That is JUST AMAZING!! Thank you so much for sharing ❤

@ErdaDz Жыл бұрын

So relatable & i felt touched😢❤ Thank you to my old self for not giving up❤❤

@markmelon3529 Жыл бұрын

One of THE most enlightening talks ever.

@chitra2647 Жыл бұрын

This man made me think that the future self of mine is completely a new person whom I'm going to please while I know I will thank my older self. He's making me worried about my relationship of my both the selves.

@BusinessFinancialNetwork Жыл бұрын

Curious engagement is 🔑 to adapting to change. Thanks for this.

@OblivionOdditiesProjectStudios Жыл бұрын

Every time I have to ask myself what should I do I think what the person I'm trying to become would do. That future of myself that I see, that person I WANT to be, that person I HAVE to become. I know what my future self wants cause I have been thinking like him since I was 12. I knew that he was going to be a combination of people and personality traits. So, I picked out what those would be and started practicing to become that person. My goals haven't changed once since, the only thing that's changed is the roadmap to achieve them. It's easier to know what your future self wants when your future self is standing beside you being the role model you need to become that future self.

@levivavap Жыл бұрын

Love this presentation. Thank you, Shankar Vedantam.

@amirrezashakori3865 Жыл бұрын

Finally some high quality ted talk to watch. Really enjoyed this one.

@nintishia Жыл бұрын

Great one! Loved it. One of the things you talked about was antiquated laws. I think it applies to the majority of world's religions as well, most of which are ancient in origin and lay down rules that extend from code of behaviour at the very least to elaborate social and judicial norms at the farthest end; and these are immutable often since these usually trace their origin to the Supreme Being.

@adspence Жыл бұрын

Great TED Tak Shankar! I love your podcast!

@italoribeiro3746 4 ай бұрын

The Italo from Jan. 2024 appreciated this video❤

@basilb8178 Жыл бұрын

Great TED Talk, I hope our future selves are proud of us.

@sisla_ Жыл бұрын

Every thing he said about the topic hits so personal

@user-qi4ll9re4w 4 ай бұрын

One of my favourite talks. Just as my previous self could not predict my current self, my current self cannot predict my future self. Obvious yet profound. Begs the question: is there even a "true" self? So many of our belief systems and cultural practices rely upon the assumed existence of fixed and immutable characteristics within a person's makeup. It is odd to imagine a world without this assumption, yet in every other aspect of the natural world we easily accept that change is the only certainty.

@rhaianalopes9560 8 ай бұрын

This TED was amazing!! Great and really importante discussion! We are always in evolution and moving, learning new thins e for consequently changing our thoughts, this is really makes part of the life!

@dott.fabiomobilia7736 Жыл бұрын

Wonderfull presentation and great message to pass. Greetings from Italy

@ismaharry 7 ай бұрын

I'm so excited about my future... The problem is... When I try to be as fun as possible, as ecstatic as possible, some people out there do everything they can just to put me down, to down my mood and etc. It hurts, right? But, I'm never gonna listen to people, cause I know that doing what you truly desire and like is the only way to happiness)) Start listening to your gut, it must become your best friend, who would help you in the toughest times!

@ethanchou1123 Жыл бұрын

The problem is what you want and what you thin you want are totally different and many people get confused. What you want comes from heart and it doesn't change, what you thin you want comes from mind and it changes all the time. Look for what you want not what you think you want and it lasts a life time.

@bigd4561 Жыл бұрын

I do not know if I should smile or shed a tear. Deep.

@vanavetisyan5703 5 ай бұрын

One of the best TED talks that I have ever listen to!

@toucheguy Жыл бұрын

So simple, so true. Great talk!

@rashedrayen Жыл бұрын

To the worthwhile person seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤

@jarabe28 7 ай бұрын

" I don't have the capacity to do those things today, that doesn't mean I won't have the capacity to those things tomorrow" thank you very much. This is an area where I struggle. I judge myself on my ability now and it's hard to see who and what I will be capable of doing in the future

@jahstandedios7 Жыл бұрын

as an intp, a person with extreme levels of anxiety, this is of great help. love this ted episode❤

@user-um1zo7bp1t 11 ай бұрын

I like the moment he was smiling and said "thank you" at the end of the presentation.

@clairehuang7698 Жыл бұрын

One of the best TED talks! and it's so new! A lot of good TED talks are from years ago and I'm so happy to see such a new talk that is of such high quality. p.s. I also listen to Hidden Brain podcast - recommend.

@raymondereh1296 Жыл бұрын

This is apt. Thanks for your presentation.

@nelajimenez9598 Жыл бұрын

There’s always something new to learn and adapting to our societal context is important as well

@zdarovful Жыл бұрын

What an excellent topic, thanks very much!

@soundm3d Жыл бұрын

geniius speech, thank you.

@dindazahidah9492 Жыл бұрын

Really inspiring and great talk

@michaelyang4883 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful. Great noble thought gifts in simple words.

@WhiteSpatula Жыл бұрын

Very well said. This is why I believe it is not appropriate to take pride in the deeds of our ancestors without also feeling ashamed of their misdeeds. Or better yet, refrain from both of these vicarious practices and instead honor them by learning from their mistakes. Because our ancestors lacked enough foresight, as we can clearly see in hindsight, to imagine how different we could and would become, we should take care to bequeath to our progeny opportunities instead of boundaries: think, political term limits instead of oxymoronic lifetime incumbencies; temporary laws to be compulsorily and periodically redrafted instead of edicts and mandates; arterials broad enough to accommodate traffic we have yet to conceive of instead of channels constructed for the purpose of preferential profit alone; as well as properly humble and honest distinctions between axioms, observations, hypotheses, and facts.