Love it

There is a very similar quote (don't know the source) that says something along the lines of, "If you do only what is easy, life will be hard. If you do what is hard, life will be easy."

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"I've never met a strong person with an easy past."

Omicron942 you are right

That's a really good one.

Hard choice, easy life / easy choices/ hard life

Thanks for the quote !

"Good habits are hard to form, but easy to live with. Bad habits are easy to form, but hard to live with." We won't notice if something is bad - through Deficiency motivation.

That is a more elaborate version of "Easy choice, hard life. Hard Choice, easy life" Or maybe it is the other way around. "Easy Choice, hard life. Hard choice, easy life" is an abbreviation of "Good habits are hard to form, but easy to live with. Bad habits are easy to form, but hard to live with."

I'm not sure but he probably was quoting someone from the ancient ones.

@@Shotgunster At the end of the day, it does not matter who said it, only that this wisdom is carried to the future for others to learn from it.

JFK.

I think I've heard this quote in meditations by Marcus Aurelius

I thought this was jfk

haha i love this

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Ooooo i finally get that quote

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He also said: Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from making bad decisions. Mark Twain In most cases the man's life is about equally divided between happiness and unhappiness. When this is not the case the unhappiness predominates-always. The Mysterious Stranger by Mark Twain Sanity and happiness are an impossible combination. MARK TWAIN, The Mysterious Stranger

MayainWonderland I saw something similar somewhere else, "99% of the things we worry about never actually happens"

story of my life! lol

Not making this up but I can relate to the quote so much that I literally cried after pausing the video.

I know, I have always pictured worst case scenarios, thinking they would become reality and I started writing them three years ago. The other day, when I looked at them again, I saw that none of them were founded fears, none of them have become my reality. Still, I find it hard to manage anxiety; I do not have it figured out. In words of Jorge Luis Borges; " I worried more that I should have".

So true. Our minds are stoked with fear, be it from biological, evolutionary, familial, religious, political or cultural sources. It's helpful to make the harder choice to work to "get behind" the mind so we can observe it doing this worrisome dance. And then not get involved in that never-ending conversation. The mind keeps making stuff up like an attention-hounding noise-spewing geyser. What a relief to just watch it and not be hooked into mistaking that display for who we are.

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NIKS POSITIVE people avoid being positive because they're scared of getting hurt. That's why the importance of Stoicism is huge in this talk. This girl is drop dead gorgeous btw, I never thought she'd even crush on a guy like me. Positivity goes a long way.

i did the same thing today. Got rejected tho. I guess I gotta stay stoic.

Well done man! Now you'll discover the REAL hard part which is building a relationship haha, but that's OK because it means your learning and you'll have a great time

stm12p hey man but at least now you know, rather than regretting you never tried. And who knows, maybe she'll see you differently in the future, I've seen it happen. Rejection isn't really the end

When you need to rely on the bravery of others you don't mean that you want there to be some inner struggle, you want them to stand fast. Whether that is because they overcome their fear or because they had none to begin with is irrelevant.

Great quote 👍 it's important not to lose your head over the fear of life's challenges

marvin harvey FACTS

@Laughing Out Loud No one said anyone was more brave than anyone?

good for you! 🔥🙌

I feel as though I'm in a similar boat. It would be good to discuss more with you dude

Good for you!

Wolkify hey, would you need any help with building software for your people? I develop apps and websites, have you thought of online courses?

Congratulations

Thank you sir/ma'am :)

Thanks Sweechie!!

Sweechie thx

Sweechie thank you for the effort

Sweechie thanks

Did you only took the quotes out?

Lazy

What happens when suffering becomes reality?

Is not the continued exercise of "fear setting" going to be the real teacher, and not some quotes? Quotes led Tim Ferris like a bread crumb trail to real solutions.

I love that too

Everyone has an ego, it’s just some people have learnt how to temper it.

Oh he definitely has an ego. You can see it in his facial expressions. But he's very calculating at what he's showing/saying

@@exploitedfight8081 keep in mind that he's known for pushing his responsibilities onto others while reaping the reward.

Before achieving success everyone struggles atleast once!

Stoicism is how an Emperor justifies slavery by declaring that the slaves can simply choose to be happy.

That is definition of mental health. Stoicism is being trapped into crap fitting to abuse and toxicity and pretending you are covered with rose petals.

Let's give everyone a heart-plug :)

David McGhee The Dune

David McGhee god dammit that's harsh

Thanks for this quote, dude. It's a nice one :) Source: “I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.” ― Frank Herbert, Dune(#1)

David McGhee Thanks for the quote

Thanks! some people like me around here needs to remind this from time to time..

Matthew 6:34

This is the same as to say to depressive person not to be sad. And to smile. Worry is much more complex than this. If we do not use our brain, we will be zombies. Overthinking is not pathology. When we worry there is real true external factor such as toxic people who manipulate and control us - for the very reason we do not think nor doubt them.

Did it ever stick?

@@BeFreeHugATree Actually it got stuck in his brain, causing it to clot. This lead to death.

still watching?

The message that he wanted to convey is clear, instead of watching this on everyday use the table and transcend your fears.

good idea! It´s been 3 years since you commented this. I hope u still do this, when not, u can start again

I think what you said here is more inspiring than the talk. I always try to move away, but after about 3 months I lose my mind and go back to where I'm from, where it's nice and safe. I'm thinking that if I just stuck it out past that it would probably get better. I think I'm going to try again, thanks.

it's been 3 years for me, still here. I'm doing steps to make that move though, thanks to stoicism.

So good to read this, it's exactly the fear I'm struggling to overcome.

wow im from town called palanga, hahha

Almost every mental disorder originates in childhood experience and originates as coping mechanism. When you are threatened with something, you would not be anxious, you would be afraid - as you should be. YT Dr. Gabor Mate

Inaction is Charcot Hysteria - it is not being lazy. Self pathologizing ourselves leads to personality disorder. Invalidating our emotions, experiences and pain leads to self abuse and narcissism - where we cover up our wounds, pretend they do not exist and then build up fake persona of grandiosity and perfection - that other people must obey and admire. In short - this is path to mental illness and schizophrenia. Very soon reality will hit - and the reason for inaction will appear again and again. Then we will be left with toxic advice to label ourselves as sick abnormal for feeling pain and harm - and we won't notice that toxic people, external factor - are the cause of our immobility and pain. This way toxic monsters like Putin and Trump stay in power - since zombies are preoccupied with self and narcissism and rigid mindset of scapegoating easy targets.

True for me too

That's exactly why the title drew me to watching this. I have all kinds of goals, even specific ones with time frames. But then I don't take action because I don't feel like I know how to do the next step and worry that I may get part way through a process and then have something go wrong, especially when other people (clients) are making big decisions. What if they change their mind and I get myself stuck in a complicated situation? So I don't do anything and the months go by and my goals keep getting pushed off into the nebulous future.

Mine don't

Nate Tube . 100%

@@Netbase2000 What he figured out and does is called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Read up on this. This is very powerful stuff that helps people with panic disorders and ptsd. This is more than just writing it on paper. What you do is a root cause analysis of this problem looking at fears, then rationalizing this bad approach like asking 'how successful was it for other people to avoid this action', the consequences if you can't change, the strategy to change like trying to do this differently (example: he talks about forwarding phone calls) - this is the part that you begin to get more rational about this, a positive reminder about this approach, a plan if you forget and get a little irrational again like how to get back on track, and reflection of this like thinking how you feel afterwards. You can add identifying the specific emotions behind your initial reaction and look really deep to figure out when you first started reacting this way. This will require a lot of focus for every action you evaluate - it might take more than 3 pages and it will take a few hours. It will require uninterrupted time - this is more than just writing on paper in passing or being distracted and focusing elsewhere. Do this right it will change your life. Check out the research on this.

I concur. its effective with the person that earn the trust and all they have to do is listen.

Work on it, you will

@@koushikmaji7998 You will

Probably high on something.

Practice, as much as it takes. Public speaking is only a learn able skill.

ShowerThoughts positive thinking is the most harmful and damaging disease around at the moment, arguably the number one killer in western countries. don't think of a white bear

+therabbithat omgosh. thank u . I feel so much less alone..

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, that is what he figured out on his own. This ted talk is basically how CBT worked for him. Check it out. It helps others with ptsd and panic disorders.

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Thanks for noting this down!

Define, Prevent; Repair

Nope. "The best teacher is the one who teaches you how to be your own teacher." Mehmet Murat İldan

this last sentence man, is it your own or? because thats just a brilliant metaphor.

Buddhism gives you a way out of the matrix, a kind of ultimate way to existence. Stoicism still deals how to have a good life inside the matrix.

Daye Lu exactly. That's why I found the talk very creepy. It teaches you to function even more effectively. That is crazy. You deal with stress, but don't get rid of it. The guy even sounded like a robot to me. A lot of ego in there.

Tali Travel may God give u more power. Amen

thats not stoicism. please explain to me, how is it fear(emotion)-setting close to ignoring emotion? Its just the oposite.

@@HackTheBeatit’s been awhile since I posted this, so I will do my best to respond to your question from what I remember. I’m not saying it is bad to identify your fears - I just have a problem with the speaker’s framework in doing so. he is not saying to identify your fears in order to work through them. He’s giving tips on how to disprove them or prevent/reduce their likelihood. However, plenty of people have fears that are rooted in reality rather than hypothetical scenarios, things that are out of their control, things they have experienced and still have not recovered from. There are different ways to process emotions, and the method this speaker is proposing cannot be used equally for all fears, because sometimes you have to sit in it. If you have been traumatized, if you more susceptible to exploitation in your life, or if you are in grief, you need to be able to validate and process your fears in order to move forward. Running away from your fears when they are embedded in you does not work

I agree with your viewpoint. Different problems, different solutions. I misunderstood your previous comment. Thank you @@Maria70007

@@Maria70007 I can feel your pain through your words. Specifically, you seem to latch on to "grief" as something having been experienced by all marginalized society members--I think it's important to understand that grief is not an emotion, but a "state" and can only be gone 'through' - my reply is more to your saying how fears are rooted in reality and each one of us creates our perceived "reality" based on our experiences, and it's not to say you can just run from fears, but you can identify, become aware, and CHOOSE to be less fearful. More faithful.

How's everything going now?

More Power to you main. Remember its about the journey, not the destination. So don't get scared of thinking what will happen, instead enjoy the process of you building yourself, only that matters man. Because as for results, we could be dead tomorrow

@@sravanthkumarchintalacheru1359 I did move to another city, it's been a little over a year. It's all been messy and I'm yet to find my balance, but I definitely feel happier. I always think of how interesting it is that I finally took the step a little before the pandemic broke - I would have been feeling miserable if I were still in my hometown, unable to leave the house. Almost feels like someone saved me, cause I don't know what my head space would look like. The place where I live now has a dog and lots of green spaces. I smile at least once a day, drinking coffee whilst looking at the landscape or playing with the dog. I'm able to breathe. Thank you for asking!

It is an ironic habit of human beings to run faster when they have lost their way. Rollo May

I Thank Tim not some imagined God.

@@redwarf8118 Let people live their lives...

@@ethangunter9330 don´t tell me what to do. I am just holding the mirror.

O s #goals

TEDx is like the Fun Run at a 10K.

Only way that guarantees you’ve made it through and in life is salvation and forgiveness of sins through Christ Jesus.

I hope you're joking

Paulo Mendes hahahh

Agreed. Same here.

The LORD is with me; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me? The LORD is with me; he is my helper. I look in triumph on my enemies. _Psalm 118:6 "For I, the LORD your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, 'Fear not, I am the one who helps you.” _ Isaiah 41:13 “Cast All Your anxiety on HIM because He cares for you” _Peter 5:7 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” _Matthew 11:28-30 Ask God to help you and heal you, there is nothing that can’t be done by God, if you have faith, especially if you need help: “Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there,' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” _Matthew 17:20-21.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - this is what he figured out for himself and described in this ted talk. There is research behind this method. The results are real.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which Tim figured out for himself and uses, is really powerful. It helps others with panic disorders and ptsd. There is a lot of research behind this.

Awesome!

He gives the best head!

+verifymyageful :/

verifymyageful 😂😂

Fantastic head

The inside or outside or both? ;)

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SO MUCH YES

What an underrated comment...

Really?

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