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Social Anxiety Solutions

Social Anxiety Solutions

8 жыл бұрын

Hi, my name is Seb. I’m a former #SocialAnxietyDisorder sufferer, the host of a popular podcast show (Social Anxiety Solutions) and a social confidence coach.
Since 2009, I’ve helped hundreds of #sociallyanxious clients feel #calm, #comfortable and at ease socially.
I’m in (symptomless) self-quarantine due to the #CoronaVirus. And I got inspired by people like the quarantined Italians singing from their balcony. And well, I’ve got a lot of time on my hands now…
Anyway, I decided I could help by creating a free 30 day Social Confidence Challenge for all of you who suffer from #socialanxiety.
Because what a perfect opportunity this is to reduce your social anxiety!
Now the mainstream belief is that the only way to do this is to #ChangeYourThoughts, and force yourself to #FaceYourFears
Since this didn’t work for me (I’ll share more in the challenge) I had to find #AlternativeWays. And eventually, I created a different approach.
My approach builds on the foundation of #traditional #WesternPsychology, but adds a very important component:
Addressing the #EMOTIONAL SIDE of your social anxiety issue.
While I will help you change your mindset, and while facing your fears is included, I go about it in a much #LessStressful, and far more #EffectiveWay.
How?
You face your fears internally. And then you #release them.
For this, we use a #powerful, #scientificallyproven to be #effective #EmotionalReleaseTechnique. Details about the #technique and how to use it to #OvercomeSocialAnxiety are beyond the scope of this brief message.
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This video is a generalized summary to illustrate that social anxiety is a program that your brain runs based upon perception. And that the perception is governed by beliefs. And that these beliefs can be changed. Once you change the beliefs responsible for the perception of danger, social anxiety is gone. There is none. Zero.
Many people have asked me about the ending of this video. "Great, but it's not that easy! How do you change your beliefs?! You can't just do that". And they are right.
A belief is a thought or an idea you're emotionally connected to, as a result of conditioning and painful life experiences. And just "changing your thoughts" won't work. Saying to yourself "I am good enough" won't do that.
Social anxiety isn't a logical problem. And therefore You need to address things on an emotional level in order to have your beliefs shift completely. Once you do, you can completely overcome your social anxiety. I bet that's hard to believe for you if you've been struggling for a long time (and, pretty everyone has been struggling for a long time) and you've tried things. But what if what you tried hasn't been the right approach for you? Or, what if that's only been mildly helpful, and there are ways that are far more effective?
Until I found EFT - a silly-looking technique to rapidly release excessive negative emotions (you know, the shame, insecurity, worthlessness, fear, anxiety etc that we struggle with so much). That was the technique that made the difference. It has then been a long path of trying to figure out how to apply that technique to overcome my social anxiety because mine was complex and severe. But thanks to the help of EFT tapping and some brilliant therapist I've now been anxiety-free for years.
I also have video testimonials of former clients who overcame their social anxiety. They've become so at ease with themselves, and they don't care anymore what others think that they're willing to share.
There's really a way out of it. Don't give up, suspend your disbelief, break your skepticism by giving this a try.
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#Social_Anxiety_Treatment
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@Social-anxiety-solutions
@Social-anxiety-solutions 3 ай бұрын
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@RYSEproductions
@RYSEproductions 7 жыл бұрын
I prefer calling it the "fuck fuck fuck response"
@globinodomino4148
@globinodomino4148 7 жыл бұрын
OH MY GOSH YES
@oliviacedeno05
@oliviacedeno05 7 жыл бұрын
SAAAMEEE
@MAKIMAWORLDDOMINATION
@MAKIMAWORLDDOMINATION 6 жыл бұрын
That's way easier to say
@adamdownes4725
@adamdownes4725 6 жыл бұрын
Sounds like a good time to me!
@levinmoser4001
@levinmoser4001 6 жыл бұрын
Best description I've heard yet.
@sooyoungfanclub
@sooyoungfanclub 7 жыл бұрын
How to avoid social anxiety: stay at home Edit: I was joking, calm down
@Charlotte_Christ
@Charlotte_Christ 7 жыл бұрын
sooyoungfanclub running from your problems isn't going to make it go away
@infothings1868
@infothings1868 7 жыл бұрын
Totally!
@sooyoungfanclub
@sooyoungfanclub 7 жыл бұрын
+Hidan HQ Long term no, but short term yes
@raphaelong2356
@raphaelong2356 7 жыл бұрын
I've been staying at home and my social anxiety just got worse. Talking to people, however, made me comfortable. But when I go home, that's when crap happens. I overthink everything, from every word they'd blurted, to those that I thought they didn't. But I guess it varies from person to person. What I want to say is that to avoid social anxiety, you should face it head on, and be as honest as you can be with yourself and others
@feelteamsix3911
@feelteamsix3911 7 жыл бұрын
duly noted
@naijaaprincess
@naijaaprincess 6 жыл бұрын
Anxiety has ruined everything in my life
@CuriousConnoisseurs
@CuriousConnoisseurs 6 жыл бұрын
Dont say it has destroyed your Life mor then Hers. Every Life has the same Value. Nessi Lewis im from Austria and Anxiety feels in this country not good either :/
@paz1261
@paz1261 6 жыл бұрын
Devia Tor dude, its some random picture of the internet. Someone who really has social problems wouldnt post a public picture like that.
@tropicaldimitri7374
@tropicaldimitri7374 6 жыл бұрын
My comment is just a reflection of my love for boobs.. XD
@zoen7034
@zoen7034 6 жыл бұрын
Same. Especially my grades..and I have no idea how I'm gonna bring up a D+ to at least a B- before Tuesday..yay life..
@thotabhuvankumar3526
@thotabhuvankumar3526 6 жыл бұрын
nessie lewis never said anything to my crushes and my graduation was over by last month and I don't even have a girl friend up to now
@user-nm8sz6jt9i
@user-nm8sz6jt9i 6 жыл бұрын
" *Hey, why are you so quiet* " ??
@MrsRubinaX
@MrsRubinaX 5 жыл бұрын
I feel like you know what everyone is asking me my whole life. I always say "I just like to be quiet" and mostly it works. Thankfully.
@athanasiat.1861
@athanasiat.1861 5 жыл бұрын
Oh my godd...
@carleighrice8891
@carleighrice8891 5 жыл бұрын
The same people tell me this EVERYDAY. Im like... "Because i got nothing to say, why do you care?"
@bbyeauty6876
@bbyeauty6876 5 жыл бұрын
How do anyone even answer this question like wtf
@4destine
@4destine 5 жыл бұрын
Me
@macona.fortune3143
@macona.fortune3143 7 жыл бұрын
Fvck social anxiety. I got a little social anxiety after a devastating break-up with my girlfriend. Best thing to do is brainwashing yourself into believing in yourself, telling yourself that you love yourself and looping that exact thought in your head instead of unnecessary anxious thoughts. The most important thing however is taking action that proves to your subconscious what you are telling yourself. Talk with people wherever you are and embrace yourself. Youre unique and awesome. Even if youre talking bullshit, its still better than being in your head all the time and pumping cortisol into your system. My social anxiety came because I had spent so much alone time with my girl that I forgot how to be socially fluent with other people. So work on your social skills, that will make you more confident as well. Focus on your body. Breathe deeply and slowly and when you walk into a room look around, dont be afraid of making eye contact with everyone. Youll see that nothing crazy happens and that realization will subconsiously make you calm down as well. Make yourself comfortable wherever you are. Sit comfortably and when youre standing just lean your back against a wall or something. Talk to all people. Why would you care what others think about you? Just tell yourself that you can not control what others think, its their private thoughts, so why would you care. Why would you even have the right to care? Hope these little nuggets can help some people. They surely have helped me.
@Howdyho.
@Howdyho. 7 жыл бұрын
Very thoughtful and insightful. Cheers.
@mrkimrkic2826
@mrkimrkic2826 7 жыл бұрын
(y)
@atheermesfer5023
@atheermesfer5023 7 жыл бұрын
Macon A. Fortune agree
@Eonnn84
@Eonnn84 7 жыл бұрын
solid advice
@macona.fortune3143
@macona.fortune3143 7 жыл бұрын
Also always remember that you never have to impress anyone! Just do your thing and make yourself comfortable in the world ;)
@xHarlequin
@xHarlequin 7 жыл бұрын
Most of us know there's no danger, we know the way we're behaving isn't rational. The problem is you can't stop it no matter how many times you tell yourself everything's fine.
@Xbot4Life
@Xbot4Life 7 жыл бұрын
xHarlequin The amygdala doesn't care about the cortex.
@TheWhiteHawk27
@TheWhiteHawk27 7 жыл бұрын
xHarlequin you cant tell yourself everything's fine, that doesn't work. tell yourself you don't care what they think of you, good or bad. why should you care, anyway? if they think ill of you for petty reasons why should you value their opinion anyway?
@Xbot4Life
@Xbot4Life 7 жыл бұрын
***** that still doesn't work. Cortex based reasoning has little affect on anxiety, but little is something I guess.
@xHarlequin
@xHarlequin 7 жыл бұрын
Gavin Douglas I've tried that my whole life, it doesn't work. Trying not to care what anyone thinks is the problem
@trhtkify
@trhtkify 7 жыл бұрын
xHarlequin your brain needs proof, not words that deep inside you dont believe in yet.
@thebrain678
@thebrain678 6 жыл бұрын
All my people with social anxiety let's get together and talk. Oh wait we might have a problem.
@susan4eva223
@susan4eva223 6 жыл бұрын
Oscar Rodriguez 😂😂😂
@sumayoabdirashid2845
@sumayoabdirashid2845 5 жыл бұрын
Oscar Rodriguez lol
@streakskills544
@streakskills544 5 жыл бұрын
Oscar Rodriguez this nigga 🤣
@taturay
@taturay 5 жыл бұрын
Hahaha this would be an excellent comedy sketch
@venceremosloshumildes
@venceremosloshumildes 5 жыл бұрын
Lmao
@deela784
@deela784 6 жыл бұрын
I also have extreme social anxiety, just by reading these comments calms me down into thinking I’m not alone..
@CuriousConnoisseurs
@CuriousConnoisseurs 6 жыл бұрын
You def not alone. Im from Austria and just understood my problem and now work on it .
@paz1261
@paz1261 6 жыл бұрын
PLO 8 hey ich auch
@paz1261
@paz1261 6 жыл бұрын
Deela exactly.
@CuriousConnoisseurs
@CuriousConnoisseurs 6 жыл бұрын
Mir war das nicht so bewusst. Ich hab mich isoliert und nur noch gezockt und gedacht der grund wäre depression. In wirklichkeit wollte ich nicht raus weil ich mich schlecht unter menschen fühle. Ich weiß jetzt das ich ne Sozial Phobie habe. Üble Krankheit, aber es kann nur besser werden man sich dem Problem stellt, verkriechen macht es nur noch schlimmer. Hab mich gerade für ne Therapie angemeldet, viel glück 32playlpHD
@paz1261
@paz1261 6 жыл бұрын
PLO 8 werd ich nicht, aber viel glück. Grüße aus Salzburg
@nething94
@nething94 7 жыл бұрын
This video gave me anxiety about my anxiety in anxiety situations
@Soniccairo
@Soniccairo 6 жыл бұрын
ikano BG im dead
@adamdownes4725
@adamdownes4725 6 жыл бұрын
Your comment gave me anxiety about my anxiety from watching this video about anxiety in anxiety situations! Now I'm anxious whenever I read comments under anxiety videos! THANKS!!!
@SMACKDOWN111
@SMACKDOWN111 6 жыл бұрын
thats fucking deep lmao
@Flamebolt100
@Flamebolt100 6 жыл бұрын
Adam Downes haha
@kokosnoot100
@kokosnoot100 6 жыл бұрын
Me too i'm actually having trouble breathing right now. :O
@juliansnow2885
@juliansnow2885 7 жыл бұрын
This video gave me anxiety about my anxiety in social situations
@drekaflugan
@drekaflugan 7 жыл бұрын
back when i used to have social anxiety reading or hearing about it also made me start feeling the anxiety, it's strange
@RippingBones
@RippingBones 7 жыл бұрын
Julian Snow same!!!
@jakew2897
@jakew2897 7 жыл бұрын
That's what I'm saying lmao
@alprazo
@alprazo 7 жыл бұрын
this comment gave me anxiety because you got anxiety because of a video about social anxiety
@ImQuadHD
@ImQuadHD 7 жыл бұрын
your comment gave me anxiety because you got anxiety over a comment about someone getting anxiety
@vimeanm
@vimeanm 5 жыл бұрын
I really feel envious of people who doesn’t have social anxiety
@sillysongbird9945
@sillysongbird9945 5 жыл бұрын
O_O pucca!
@SK-pj8mg
@SK-pj8mg 5 жыл бұрын
silver毕 same
@Bartre_God
@Bartre_God 5 жыл бұрын
Silver Finnie how do they not have it
@bimmerboy50
@bimmerboy50 6 жыл бұрын
My social anxiety is so bad that it took courage to even post this comment
@anaalex9468
@anaalex9468 6 жыл бұрын
omg same
@jillyjollyjelly
@jillyjollyjelly 5 жыл бұрын
Like so much hestation....
@darthinvaderzimm
@darthinvaderzimm 5 жыл бұрын
bimmerboy50 If you don’t interact with others on the internet or post comments much, it’ll be harder to type a comment.
@swaggycoolgirl9896
@swaggycoolgirl9896 5 жыл бұрын
yup
@pipedownandeatyourpudding2986
@pipedownandeatyourpudding2986 5 жыл бұрын
Lmao !!! but think about it your better then everyone, even me
@liv3438
@liv3438 6 жыл бұрын
I feel so alone with social anxiety
@liv3438
@liv3438 6 жыл бұрын
Lisssa Love Yes, it makes it so much worse being in school I think, all my support to you Xx
@liv3438
@liv3438 6 жыл бұрын
Lisssa Love aw thanks, means a lot, I'm here too xx
@ScottPC
@ScottPC 6 жыл бұрын
Don't we all... never not felt alone! But when I'm with others I'd like to be alone... strange..
@mikellwilliams482
@mikellwilliams482 6 жыл бұрын
ThatGuyNamedScott. C same😂
@jimmyfromplaystation3629
@jimmyfromplaystation3629 6 жыл бұрын
Velvetf4n your not the only one 😭
@iiNeedSkins
@iiNeedSkins 7 жыл бұрын
Social Anxiety is the worst, it's so detremental as we are very social creatures. People always think you're just "Quiet" :(
@user-uq7oj1oi2g
@user-uq7oj1oi2g 6 жыл бұрын
Ross I know salvation from him
@blxry_8204
@blxry_8204 6 жыл бұрын
Ross ugh its annoying even my friends are like "why are you quiet" like excuse you?!
@pusachickenova3152
@pusachickenova3152 6 жыл бұрын
Ikr ;-;
@chacha_zemisei
@chacha_zemisei 6 жыл бұрын
Or "Shy", "A(nti)social" (sarcasm intended), and they think you look low to other people
@emilharam7006
@emilharam7006 6 жыл бұрын
Ross Yes! It’s so annoying.
@darthinvaderzimm
@darthinvaderzimm 5 жыл бұрын
S.A.D. is the perfect abbrieviation for Social Anxiety Disorder
@zekromarts
@zekromarts 5 жыл бұрын
😂 true
@stefannikolic44
@stefannikolic44 5 жыл бұрын
LOL!
@ohemaab2818
@ohemaab2818 5 жыл бұрын
😂😂
@jaao2145
@jaao2145 6 жыл бұрын
I feel like this is the least understood disorder. Everyone just judges you cuz your so quiet. They don't even think about how you feel
@andremaximiano7170
@andremaximiano7170 6 жыл бұрын
Can agree on that. But I also think that people aren't psychics to know that.
@andreusky7407
@andreusky7407 5 жыл бұрын
@@andremaximiano7170 the thing is that when you try and tell them, they simply tell you "just stop thinking and worrying" or "just talk" like that solves everything, like if you are choosing to be that way.
@andremaximiano7170
@andremaximiano7170 5 жыл бұрын
@@andreusky7407 I guess other people do misjudge a lot people with social anxiety disorder.
@lucase6077
@lucase6077 5 жыл бұрын
I don't think social anxiety is quite what I have. I do think I'm pretty awesome, I speak more than one language fluently (only 4% of people in my country is bilingual), I play the guitar, I'm a good artist, I play sports (not great but above average) and I do pretty well in my studies but when I'm around people I feel uncomfortable, like as if I don't belong there. I have no close friends and at school, I'm mostly working on my own things and don't interact much with the people around me but I'm a senior now and I'd like to be more sociable and maybe even make some friends. What should I do? I feel uncomfortable around everybody, no matter the age or gender, I don't even understand it myself. I'm not even close to my own family, just typing this out is making me feel kind of lonely. I would appreciate it if somebody could help me.
@holycowwrath
@holycowwrath 5 жыл бұрын
@@andreusky7407 the number of time i have been told that. if it would be that easy believe me my life would be a whole lot different.
@25Becky25
@25Becky25 7 жыл бұрын
this is very much 'easier said than done'
@Social-anxiety-solutions
@Social-anxiety-solutions 7 жыл бұрын
you're very right about that. However, by using EFT the process can be made a lot easier (and relatively painless, too). You can hear many psychologists, coaches, healers and psychotherapist share how effective this technique is for overcoming anxiety, on my Social Anxiety Solutions podcast. Dr David Lake, psychotherapist with 33 years of experience, says this about it: "I used to think that myself (that I would have to live with my fears for the rest of my life) as it was my evidence from the real world and it was also true in the psychological and medical profession in the usual sense. And it's been true for many many years. But, approximately 20 years ago things started to change; a whole new paradigm emerged. In this paradigm, the so-called energy psychology, it turns out that even though when you don’t know exactly how it works, you can actually help three kinds of serious human emotion to minimize and even disappear. One is most kinds of anxiety. Two is most kinds of fear. Three is most kinds of deep hurt, related especially to trauma. I don't mean right away, or in one go, or in 10 minutes, but over time the most astounding things can happen to those feelings that have been typically out of reach for other treatments. Other treatments, which I call outdated, typically are cognitive treatments working in the mind and most people think that's where the problem lies, but I no longer believe that. I think the problem is not in your mind, I think the problem is in your feelings which is somewhere coded or logged or anchored in your body. It is a brand-new day when you can actually reduce anxiety fear and hurt without even knowing what caused them because if your body is processing these feelings away from where they are stored. And once they are gone they are gone. When I found out I could release the fear I could actually not believe it. This is the reason I actually entered the profession (psychotherapy), to be able to get these kind of results, and for many years I never could, I was amazed. And now that you can get these kind of results I'm equally amazed the most of the profession doesn't want to know about it! It is life-changing, the results are very very compelling." You can listen to his interview here: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/podcast/12-how-to-become-emotionally-strong-and-have-healthy-boundaries/
@onetwobaker
@onetwobaker 7 жыл бұрын
you mean placebo
@Social-anxiety-solutions
@Social-anxiety-solutions 7 жыл бұрын
When you've been misled many times, it's a lot harder to believe things. Your trust in others dies down naturally. EFT is not aa "placebo". I suggest doing your own research. Wikipedia, is not a reliable resource, even though it shows up high in google. Energy psychology has over 60 published studies in peer reviewed journals such as the Journal of Clinical Psychology, the Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease and the American Psychological Association’s journals Psychotherapy: Theory, Research, Practice, Training and Review of General Psychology. Of these 60 studies, 20 were Randomised Controlled Trials, with 98+% of findings supporting the efficacy of energy psychology. Of the studies looking at follow-up from 3 months to 2 years, 100% found that the gains held. 
 For details on these studies and more, go here (www.energypsych.org/?Research_Landing) and here (www.eftuniverse.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=18&Itemid=21).
@onetwobaker
@onetwobaker 7 жыл бұрын
Why would I be mislead? In fact you are misleading everyone by promoting something that is completely based on pseudoscience. Just think about the words "Energy Freedom Technique". What is this energy that is being freed? Please explain to me this energy that flows through us. Do you mean the Chinese philosophy of Chi? Because that has been discredited again and again by actual science. I will acknowledge that something is not due to placebo when there is sufficient evidence but how can you possibly test that when the treatment is "tapping" and hence can't be double-blinded. Some studies might show there is a statistically significant decrease in some emotional stress but there is no evidence whether that is actually due to the tapping or the placebo effect. Find me a paper that addresses this huge methodological problem. And remember, just because a study is published doesn't mean its always peer-reviewed. The impact factors of the journals that the papers were published in are not strong which is clear evidence that EFT is not supported by the larger scientific community. Even worse, the majority of papers on EFT are not even conducted by impartial researchers. Hard to "believe" anything written by someone that has a personal connection to the research question. I took the liberty of going through the reference list on the 2nd link you posted (which is not even a proper reference list) and I went through all of the ones that were primary research articles AND randomized to check if they were peer-reviewed. Literally none of them were so... Weak "evidence".
@Social-anxiety-solutions
@Social-anxiety-solutions 7 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your thoughtful reply Hannah. I'm not a researcher, I'm just sharing the links to the research. If you say it's weak evidence I'll take your word for it :-) I know there is ongoing research going on for Energy psychology, and more studies are appearing. And, from my limited understanding, things being 100% scientifically proven and accepted by mainstream takes time. Even the best scientific advances have taken many years to take hold. For some what is currently there is enough to at least give it a try, others need more scientific evidence. Whatever floats your boat. I tried it, and I'm forever grateful I did. I gave it a go even though it looked weird. All I can honestly say is that it works for me. And not just a little, it's changed my life, and I'm not the only one. The free eft manual (emofree.com) has been downloaded over a million times, EFT is being promoted by PhD's, doctors, it's been on several TV programs, popular magazines, you name it. And I'm just one guy sharing it. It might have more value to you when you hear the same/similar message from the many doctors, psychologists, therapists and so on whom I've interviewed on my podcast. They share how it has revolutionised their practice, getting results with clients much faster, much more gently, and how they helped clients get results for which no other treatment worked. Here's for example a quote from Dr David Lake (on this episode: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/podcast/12-how-to-become-emotionally-strong-and-have-healthy-boundaries/), a psychotherapist who's been in practice for well over 30 years: "Approximately 20 years ago things started to change; a whole new paradigm emerged. In this paradigm, the so-called energy psychology, it turns out that even though when you don’t know exactly how it works, you can actually help three kinds of serious human emotion to minimize and even disappear. One is most kinds of anxiety. Two is most kinds of fear. Three is most kinds of deep hurt, related especially to trauma. I don't mean right away, or in one go, or in 10 minutes, but over time the most astounding things can happen to those feelings that have been typically out of reach for other treatments. It is a brand-new day when you can actually reduce anxiety fear and hurt without even knowing what caused them because your body is processing these feelings away from where they are stored. And once they are gone they are gone. When I found out I could release the fear I could actually not believe it. This is the reason I actually entered the profession (psychotherapy), to be able to get these kind of results, and for many years I never could, I was amazed. And now that you can get these kind of results I'm equally amazed the most of the profession doesn't want to know about it! It is life-changing, the results are very very compelling." That podcast show is here if you want to check that out: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/sas-podcast/ And hey, if it's not your thing that's OK there are more ways that lead to Rome :-) Wishing you all the best on your journey.
@mss627
@mss627 7 жыл бұрын
I was painfully shy as a kid and young adult. I finally got over it when I stopped caring what people thought of me. Of course that took almost 45 years.
@SynisterFour
@SynisterFour 7 жыл бұрын
that's a long time
@newsgap3682
@newsgap3682 7 жыл бұрын
Martin Smith didnt take me a year
@viliussablevicius4862
@viliussablevicius4862 7 жыл бұрын
Martin Smith it took me 2 or 3 months
@desertrose1053
@desertrose1053 7 жыл бұрын
Serratus Anterior how? share your experience please with us
@viliussablevicius4862
@viliussablevicius4862 7 жыл бұрын
desert rose I started meditating every day for 30mins
@devilisouse
@devilisouse 5 жыл бұрын
- I feel uncomfortable talking to people - I feel uncomfortable about how I walk - I feel uncomfortable going outside - I feel uncomfortable around strangers - I worry about upsetting people and about what they’ll think of me - People either think I’m passive and quite or that I’m stuck up and anti social
@angelcruz5125
@angelcruz5125 4 жыл бұрын
This is me
@nubairimam5394
@nubairimam5394 4 жыл бұрын
Ohh Fuckk It's Me
@Faleth
@Faleth 4 жыл бұрын
Me too! Everyone calls me "Self centered" because of it like bruh.
@lcknky
@lcknky 4 жыл бұрын
Nesmée O’Hara i always feel like I’m going to trip while walking so I have to really focus on my steps all while feeling like people are looking at me strangely lol 🤦‍♀️
@abijahdixon2771
@abijahdixon2771 4 жыл бұрын
I'm actually a bit of both. Weird I know...
@tyrauje_
@tyrauje_ 6 жыл бұрын
it's kind of annoying when people say I'm shy or anti-social. It's not that I'm scared or just don't want to be social, I can't. Whenever I have to speak, do something or be around a group of people I'm not comfortable with, it feels like I'm dying. Literally. I hate having social anxiety, especially when I want to talk to people. It holds me back so much. No one I know experiences the same thing so they don't really understand. I hope to overcome my anxiety, especially with me going to college soon and having to do things on my own. I'm even praying that someone I know doesn't somehow watch this and see my comment 😂. That would kill me.
@dariabattisti669
@dariabattisti669 5 жыл бұрын
Omg saaame I just turned 18 and I'm dying every day, everything that easy for others is a nightmare to me
@bricksinenvelopes
@bricksinenvelopes 5 жыл бұрын
I feel the exact same way. I honestly dread going to my new job (or any job dealing with people for that matter) every day because I work in a fast-paced environment and also deal with customers. The fact that sometimes it's dead, I find myself standing at the register doing nothing and feeling awkward while everyone else keeps themselves busy. I'm still kind of clueless when it comes to being busy there and am too scared to ask anyone about what I could do if the register is dead and there are no orders to take. It also doesn't help when everyone is always talking to each other and I just awkwardly stand there feeling left out and lonely. I'll be attending college next semester and I hope that it somehow helps me get passed my anxiety just a bit 😂 I doubt it will. I've been dealing with this since middle school! I hate it so much. I find myself feeling irrational being frightened by people haha. I hope that it all goes well for you, TyRaujé!
@bigmike956
@bigmike956 5 жыл бұрын
@The Last Call That is such a common misconception. I see this happen to a lot of people including myself.
@vijayatman
@vijayatman 5 жыл бұрын
@@dariabattisti669 same here
@Iamkharmarhae
@Iamkharmarhae 5 жыл бұрын
TyRaujé Jefferson girlll i’m in the exact same boat 💀 she
@MadfellaDuke
@MadfellaDuke 7 жыл бұрын
I could be around people I've known for years and social anxiety will still kick in
@oceanbluesvlogs5699
@oceanbluesvlogs5699 7 жыл бұрын
Luke Duke Bellamy sameeeee!!! I thought I was the only one :(
@chansungyuna
@chansungyuna 7 жыл бұрын
Luke Duke Bellamy actually, i've read somewhere that social anxiety acts up with people that we know than strangers. because strangers know nothing about us so we feel confident.
@Nillowo
@Nillowo 7 жыл бұрын
Luke Duke Bellamy I feel you
@rhyssimpson7570
@rhyssimpson7570 7 жыл бұрын
Damn bro, I get you. Stay strong my brother
@jessicaanguiano7260
@jessicaanguiano7260 7 жыл бұрын
Luke Duke Bellamy same it sucks
@beatriz894
@beatriz894 7 жыл бұрын
when you actually try to interect because "no one will judge you" but then you screw up just like you thought you would.
@beatriz894
@beatriz894 7 жыл бұрын
I WASNT MADE TO BE SOCIAL bye
@blackphoenix251
@blackphoenix251 6 жыл бұрын
Beatriz true ‎(´•̥ ̯ •̥`)
@aboodsmith3355
@aboodsmith3355 6 жыл бұрын
true thing but we need to earn don't we hahahaha
@musiqkidchristian
@musiqkidchristian 6 жыл бұрын
Beatriz 🙄🙄🙄🙄 exactly
@coldvoid
@coldvoid 6 жыл бұрын
Antisocial for life
@annehanneh1942
@annehanneh1942 5 жыл бұрын
I hate it when the teacher says “Tell everyone two things about yourself”
@thinkingofaname6233
@thinkingofaname6233 5 жыл бұрын
Anneh Anneh “I’m a guy” “I enjoy breathing” there, 2 things about myself lmao.
@veronis
@veronis 5 жыл бұрын
i remember at the beginning of my 9th grade year, my teacher called on me to introduce myself to the class and say 1 thing about myself, i started to talk but my voice cracked so badly due to stress i started crying a few seconds later
@beorlingo
@beorlingo 5 жыл бұрын
Then say: "Well, I have social anxiety, and I'm socially awkward."
@schlubenno3827
@schlubenno3827 5 жыл бұрын
“I have social anxiety and I don’t like any of you.”
@jonasjasikevicius8780
@jonasjasikevicius8780 4 жыл бұрын
Nightmare
@havennxo
@havennxo 6 жыл бұрын
I have social anxiety, but my parents aren’t supportive about it whatsoever. I don’t even know why, but I started crying so much while watching this.
@havennxo
@havennxo 6 жыл бұрын
the problem is I don't know anyone or heard of anyone in my life who has severe social anxiety. I think many people have social anxiety to some degree, but some have severe social anxiety and don't even talk in public, or in class except to a limited number of people such as parents, siblings, and teachers. this is my situation. I talk to a counselor at school about my social anxiety, and she tries to help me with it and is trying to set up a meeting with my parents. my parents just don't understand social anxiety, and continue forcing me to speak when it's much harder than they say. until my parents understand what I'm going through, my counselor says she will find programs that I can join that will help me. but it wasn't that easy, because I forced myself to say a few words to her and I am still not that comfortable speaking yet even though it's confidential, and there is only one person. I don't think meeting another person with social anxiety will help me much, because most likely we won't even talk to each other.
@havennxo
@havennxo 6 жыл бұрын
PLO 8 it’s not surprising because I had a similar experience. I was always really quiet, and socially awkward. then I became selective mute when I was 11, I’m now 15 and just starting to get help. I became depressed when I was 14 until now. I missed school, slept all days, had no motivation to leave home or to go anywhere. I slept at 2 am because of my insomnia, and could not get up until around 9 pm most days. I hated being in an “unsafe” environment. I would have anxiety attacks every few minutes, and when the attention was on me I would freak out and cry. instead of school, I stayed home to sleep and cry all day about how I hated how I was, I was ugly, had such horrible social skills, etc. my parents got frustrated with me for being depressed and having social anxiety, and they always refused that something was wrong with me. for years, they never took me to a doctor to see if I could get diagnosed and it just got worse because I was never sure that something really was wrong with me. I was always told I was attention seeking, or just being lazy. that’s why my counsellor is meeting with my parents to explain to them about it, and to convince them to let me get help. it’s really up to my parents if I get treatment or not, and most likely they won’t even care.
@cindymarshall4449
@cindymarshall4449 6 жыл бұрын
Reading everyones comments here is like therapy!! To have social anxiety is very isolating. Since we hardly ever discuss it with our peers we believe that we are the only ones who experience it. We feel like we are somehow worthless, but seriously how many of us are annoyed by the loud obnoxious people? Why don't they feel bad about themselves because they are so annoying? I have found it helpful to make friends with other "quiet" people and also the best jobs I ever had were ones where I cared for very young children or the elderly. I found these people to be less judgemental and I was able to gain confidence. I'm middle aged now and though I tried very hard to change who I am it didnt really change much. I just learned to hide it better. I mimic the more social people...but aside from that I ADORE my alone time. It always annoys me when people say that WE are social creatures. NO WE'RE NOT, but you know what else, THAT'S OK!
@misokahorrow7784
@misokahorrow7784 5 жыл бұрын
autumn you're lucky, my parents aren't so supportive
@invalidname.pleasetryagain122
@invalidname.pleasetryagain122 5 жыл бұрын
You're crying so much because it feels so good to have your anxiety understood and even explained to you! At least that's why I want to cry
@sierraKENZIEstyle
@sierraKENZIEstyle 7 жыл бұрын
He makes it seem so easy lol
@twobroschillininahottub215
@twobroschillininahottub215 7 жыл бұрын
Ikr
@gerbensw.6582
@gerbensw.6582 7 жыл бұрын
He never said it was easy. What he said was simple. That is a difference. The solution is a simple solution, not a 20-step program. Much how like soccer is 'simply' kicking a ball or boxing is 'simply' hitting your opponent. That doesn't mean they are easy however.
@two-mm2jo
@two-mm2jo 7 жыл бұрын
sierraKENZIEstyle did you just assume his gender? I'm triggered.
@ilovebooks49
@ilovebooks49 7 жыл бұрын
Dankside and the award for the most unnecessary comment of the day goes to...
@sager115
@sager115 7 жыл бұрын
sierraKENZIEstyle ikr as if it's just something you can comtrol
@yo-ir3sc
@yo-ir3sc 7 жыл бұрын
I have social anxiety and there was a time I broke down crying because I felt everyone judging me and it was hurting me so bad, emotionally.
@Crowntae
@Crowntae 7 жыл бұрын
Min young i know what it feels like.. let's cheer up :)
@Bleilock1
@Bleilock1 7 жыл бұрын
maybe that's because you are judging others, and your ego this thats what people are normlly doing its like those bitches that start being anxcious that their boyfriends are cheating on them, just after bitches cheating, and vice versa moral of the story, you are being perceved by the world, the way you perceve it, that means it would be time to stop judging both others AND yourself
@Crowntae
@Crowntae 7 жыл бұрын
Bleilock1 I get your point but everybody has experienced specific situations that made them anxious. We all have different backgrounds so let's not put people in a box. And as you said, stop judging others and ourselves.
@Bleilock1
@Bleilock1 7 жыл бұрын
Lol, calling a fat person, fat isnt judging, and i am not putting anyone in the boxes over here Okay i made two boxes People who are aweare of that everything that happens to them, is their own doing And the ones that are not awear of it...soooo yea, most of social anxiety comes from internal perception of the external world, and that has nothing to do with the real thing So when speaking of backgrounds, i dont know them, but i can see that people dont do their homeworks to get themselves better...lazyness
@Crowntae
@Crowntae 7 жыл бұрын
Bleilock1 i didn't fully understand that comment but okay
@Demi.d3mi
@Demi.d3mi 6 жыл бұрын
Anyone else blush a lot?!?!
@ravenroxyzimmer
@ravenroxyzimmer 5 жыл бұрын
Demi Demi Demi DemiDemi me o//o
@dee6818
@dee6818 5 жыл бұрын
Yes I blush What that even mean
@cazador3863
@cazador3863 5 жыл бұрын
Yeah help me please
@chef8118
@chef8118 5 жыл бұрын
Yeah from odd things aswell wtf
@emmarose8287
@emmarose8287 5 жыл бұрын
I have to wear foundation every day trying to cover my red cheeks from anxiety 😫
@ryanb1468
@ryanb1468 6 жыл бұрын
I have social anxiety. I hate the way there is a barricade between the real me and the show socially awkward me.. I have never been able to break down this barrier. I am a dancer so this means I always have to be interacting with people. Even around people I have known for over a year a still can’t be myself and I never am comfortable. I know the me with anxiety and the real me are two completely different people. I hate how socially awkward I am around people and you feel like you have to always think about what you are going to say before you speak. I am also a very insecure person and this is no help In my social interactions. My parents don’t understand when I tell them I have social anxiety because I’m a completely different person around them to what I tell them I am like around others. I always feel like I am being judged for my appearance and my looks.
@andreusky7407
@andreusky7407 5 жыл бұрын
A girl that was in the same class as me in middle school, told me once through Messenger "At first I thought you were boring but then I meet you and you're funny". I always tell myself that I can be better than what I show myself to be in front of others but then I end up hiding.
@nataliemorales8643
@nataliemorales8643 5 жыл бұрын
You just said my whole feelings 😂😭 I have anxiety but at the same time I’m just tired of the annoying kids in my class I would talk to them if they talked to me but ion it just be like that sometimes and maybe they just wanna be nice to not hurt your feelings but they don’t really wanna be ya friend so life is just un grande OOF
@jonasjasikevicius8780
@jonasjasikevicius8780 4 жыл бұрын
Same exept im not a dancer
@Christian-mn8dh
@Christian-mn8dh 4 жыл бұрын
aww baby I feel you, the battle between the real self and the anxious self is a tough one. Just remember acceptance, unconditional love for self.
@sikeeeeeeeeeeeeeee_
@sikeeeeeeeeeeeeeee_ 4 жыл бұрын
I feel you. Even with my friends i'm not that comfortable. That's why i don't feel genuinely happy because it's not myself.
@rohailakhire2511
@rohailakhire2511 7 жыл бұрын
I know the solution to anexity but i just can't apply it on my life , and that's the hardest part.
@infothings1868
@infothings1868 7 жыл бұрын
Totally! I agree.. me too.
@carsonbarlow348
@carsonbarlow348 7 жыл бұрын
I would recommend you two read MIndset, by Carol Dweck. It's been helping me make much needed/desired changes to my psyche. One love!
@fecchitheillustrator7063
@fecchitheillustrator7063 7 жыл бұрын
Rohaila khire Even u try hard to apply on U're life u or your social environment won t respond to u right in the time... When i was 5-6 grade i could n t even talk properly with my classmates.Now i m go to highschool 2 and i m good now.. first year i was wonder about why i was quite diffrent from my classmates.After than somehow i try to make myself to believe there is no danger.. or "it should be okay"... about 7-8 grade i was change completely but my environment wasn t... and then i start to study at highschool 1... i m not much social than before but at least nobody bullies me, make fun of me -still.. but not as much as before- or think about me"She can t do it"
@rohailakhire2511
@rohailakhire2511 7 жыл бұрын
It's much more complicated than you think guys , it's something i can't control , i just feel like another person when i'm around people , but when i'm home with no people around i feel so good about my self but once i'm with people i just somehow feel that everybody is better than me and i get disapointed of the thought that i had about my self.
@kevk4908
@kevk4908 7 жыл бұрын
Rohaila khire me too so what's the solution
@maxvilla5558
@maxvilla5558 7 жыл бұрын
first rule about anxiety.. nobody talks about anxiety.. cause it causes anxiety.
@codyking981
@codyking981 6 жыл бұрын
Max Villa exactly the best cure for anxiety is to not think about it it will literally just go away instantly
@ridew3072
@ridew3072 6 жыл бұрын
I found that telling people about it made me feel a little more free... like, it gave me some more allowances within the situation which made me feel a little more comfortable with being perceived as a weirdo. That said, it’s weird to bang on about social anxiety with new people in the first place so my good friends are the only ones it really works with.
@trem254
@trem254 6 жыл бұрын
I was just gonna say that.
@leonardopoggio7732
@leonardopoggio7732 6 жыл бұрын
The irony
@heathergraham1826
@heathergraham1826 6 жыл бұрын
Exactly 😂
@yupyup6583
@yupyup6583 6 жыл бұрын
I hate it when my eyes start to water when people look at me or when I'm in crowded places.
@afkar8963
@afkar8963 5 жыл бұрын
water eyes what does it mean??
@taylor2960
@taylor2960 6 жыл бұрын
I wish people understood social anxiety instead of thinking I'm just shy or I'm stuck up. I used to have a lot of friends when I was younger I was very talkative and the older I got I started losing all my friends because I didnt want to be around anyone. Now I dont have even one friend to talk to because I dont know how to have a damn conversation. Now I'm 22 and unfortunately my 20's are going to be wasted because I cant escape my own fears and this is probably how I will be for life.
@thinkingofaname6233
@thinkingofaname6233 5 жыл бұрын
Taylor yeah I reckon u would be seen as stuck up.
@azariahvasquez187
@azariahvasquez187 4 жыл бұрын
Text me bro 8643572277 I wanna talk to u
@sushantdolas7681
@sushantdolas7681 2 жыл бұрын
Taylor bro your each word relate to me. I want to talk to you bro
@mionguyen5820
@mionguyen5820 2 жыл бұрын
Omg exact same thing happened to me too, let’s go and have a chat, I’d love to hear your story
@sushantdolas7681
@sushantdolas7681 2 жыл бұрын
@@mionguyen5820 bro i am ready to talk to you. i want to hear your story & also tell my story to you
@sirrapist157
@sirrapist157 7 жыл бұрын
The easiest way to understant what happends when u feel danger : FFF : FUCK FUCK FUCK
@Social-anxiety-solutions
@Social-anxiety-solutions 7 жыл бұрын
haha! yes, very good
@CorruptGamer
@CorruptGamer 7 жыл бұрын
haha! yes, very good
@nuriaidk3667
@nuriaidk3667 7 жыл бұрын
haha! yes, very good
@Yxsmara
@Yxsmara 7 жыл бұрын
haha! yes, very good
@michaelw1998
@michaelw1998 7 жыл бұрын
haha! yes, very good
@sociallyanxiousemo2962
@sociallyanxiousemo2962 7 жыл бұрын
I have social anxiety, I hate it so much when people tell me to stop worrying about what other people think of me, even when I tell them I can't, IF I COULD STOP WORRYING THAT EVERYONE IS JUDGING ME I WOULD.
@heathergraham1826
@heathergraham1826 6 жыл бұрын
Tammie Waplington . Exactly or you get "just don't think about it" 🤔
@Kavod24
@Kavod24 6 жыл бұрын
Lol so true
@jeffev9999
@jeffev9999 6 жыл бұрын
Mark Colabella I went through almost the exact same situation growing up with a "step dad" he was always shit to me and my brothers and my own mother. He would never let us have opinions, we had to do whatever he wanted and the worse part is how my own mother let him pawn us off as his own psychological fuck ups to this day. My brother was recently diagnosed with depression and aspergers. I haven't had a diagnose yet, but i need to. I believe I'm suffering from similiar situtations
@toyas4844
@toyas4844 6 жыл бұрын
Tammie Waplington 6677uuuuyuuu
@nohandskiller8912
@nohandskiller8912 6 жыл бұрын
Tammie Waplington Never related to something so fucking mutch
@nancysandoval3094
@nancysandoval3094 5 жыл бұрын
This has ruined my life, hate going to parties, meeting new people, having conversations with strangers etc, i was born with No friends and probably die without any friends 😢😢😢😢
@lordvader602
@lordvader602 5 жыл бұрын
Word. All my friends turned into fucking snakes 🌡️😠🔥
@MRSHAWK-eh8em
@MRSHAWK-eh8em 5 жыл бұрын
I would be your friend
@ipsitahossain2842
@ipsitahossain2842 5 жыл бұрын
I feel you girl
@lalaloozi7798
@lalaloozi7798 5 жыл бұрын
I’m the same way, anything that involves people I get tense and i just cant do it then i eventually just break down and cry then sleep bc I wonder why i’m like this lmao.
@caddmium
@caddmium 5 жыл бұрын
😓
@mvgranger2
@mvgranger2 6 жыл бұрын
Some people think that social anxiety is only in your head, but they have no idea what it's like to struggle with it day in and day out. It's a very real issue and the more we talk about it and get it out in the open, the better we'll all feel.
@Willaron98
@Willaron98 5 жыл бұрын
You put this really well. It's something that no one can understand unless you experience it. With a lot of things people say "I understand" or "I cam imagine" With Social Anxiety, you HAVE to have it to understand. The problem is most people would just think you are quiet or shy, or like to be in your own world, where it's not that we don't want to talk to people or be in social settings, it's that we (or me atleast) become awkward and nervous.
@beorlingo
@beorlingo 5 жыл бұрын
Yeah, be open about it. Some people will understand and accept. And some will react in a negative way. Be prepared for the latter to happen, and be prepared to be OK with it.
@jonasjasikevicius8780
@jonasjasikevicius8780 4 жыл бұрын
@@Willaron98 true
@Sirelliotfr
@Sirelliotfr 7 жыл бұрын
This has to be one of the best social anxiety explanations on the internet
@bangelz0949
@bangelz0949 7 жыл бұрын
Yes indeed fuck the danger mindset and have that safe mindset be fearless face the bad beliefs system and take care✌
@Eonnn84
@Eonnn84 7 жыл бұрын
Just a pity he doesn't explain how to fix it.. just go to the link and buy his stuff...
@thescarecrow3733
@thescarecrow3733 7 жыл бұрын
+Aeonic He told us how we can fix that towards the end of the video..
@mustaki7620
@mustaki7620 7 жыл бұрын
look up talk therapy that may help you
@revengeofachild
@revengeofachild 7 жыл бұрын
I think one of the causes of my social anxiety is I don't love myself enough and I feel that everyone judging me, even though sometimes they don't judge me at all. so I'm on the process of loving myself, physically and mentally
@irishcountrygirl78
@irishcountrygirl78 7 жыл бұрын
wdylktsr Same.
@arkhamquinn3801
@arkhamquinn3801 7 жыл бұрын
Same here... Just a question. When sombody rejects you to you ever feel like they hate you? I do, but I don't know if others do
@revengeofachild
@revengeofachild 7 жыл бұрын
Dipper Dib78 yes I do, and I will overthink it lol I need to stop overthink. But sometimes they don't openly reject me, like I feel they reject me
@arthurg.machado6803
@arthurg.machado6803 7 жыл бұрын
wdylktsr I basically had no problems with that anymore after I realized that I don't judge other people when they are doing things I was afraid to do because of judgment. And I am no different from others in that social aspect and so inst you. So you just have to imagine if you would be judging someone because of the thing you are afraid to do.
@riparianlife97701
@riparianlife97701 7 жыл бұрын
The reality is, everyone is so busy worrying about how THEY look, they don't even know we're there. I had a social anxiety episode at a public aquarium last week, and I can't describe a single person I saw there. I doubt any of them noticed I was crying for no goddamn reason at all.
@nadurtha8536
@nadurtha8536 6 жыл бұрын
Be glad if you don't have S.A. It's like your brain is constantly trying to swordfight you when you try to enter a social situation. Hard to describe but 'It' automatically throws up negative thoughts and I have to mentally counter them. Seriously, it's like Luke duelling Darth Vader. Thank you for this video, at least I know I'm not alone.
@Karansaini54777
@Karansaini54777 6 жыл бұрын
Nicholas McCloskey join social anxiety WhatsApp group where you can motivate yourself with strangers just ping me on WhatsApp write sad I'll add you there +918467809563
@mindreader9874
@mindreader9874 5 жыл бұрын
+karan saini ;really ?
@lpsnightingale9640
@lpsnightingale9640 6 жыл бұрын
I hate it when adults at my school ask me if I'm a shy kid. No, I actually have a diagnosed problem, but that problem is preventing me from having the courage to tell you that.
@thinkingofaname6233
@thinkingofaname6233 5 жыл бұрын
LPS Nightingale I used to be that too. Eventually I told my dad, who couldn’t understand OBVIOUSLY because society is ignorant. But after enough fucking around you can convince people it’s a problem (usually by noose or pills)
@Mars-kt1kz
@Mars-kt1kz 5 жыл бұрын
Yea I hate when teachers feel bad Bc they think your “shy” and all it’s the worst feeling when they feel pity for you
@BanditoBurrito
@BanditoBurrito 7 жыл бұрын
So why do I sweat if my body perceives danger. Like what kind of defense is that
@cyberlight444
@cyberlight444 7 жыл бұрын
THIS
@user-gl8kg8bc2u
@user-gl8kg8bc2u 7 жыл бұрын
are you that stupid?
@BanditoBurrito
@BanditoBurrito 7 жыл бұрын
私はお尻が好き Am I going to fling my sweat at a wild animal as a defense mechanism
@BanditoBurrito
@BanditoBurrito 7 жыл бұрын
***** Well thank you for the reasonable answer my good sir! I guess it does make sense. I just find it funny in a way.
@MrWarfare750
@MrWarfare750 7 жыл бұрын
your funny lel
@themacocko6311
@themacocko6311 7 жыл бұрын
This is like saying, "All you have to do to cure your poverty is get some money".
@enigma2555
@enigma2555 6 жыл бұрын
I'm 21, and attractive in that I usually get a lot of people flirting with me (not trying to sound like a self-centred idiot, its just reality). Despite this I have never been in a relationship because of anxiety, worrying about wtf I do once I'm in the relationship, worrying about taking them to dinner, keeping them happy etc.
@larenssx2710
@larenssx2710 6 жыл бұрын
wAVYaf same, there’s a girl I really like in my grade in high school but the problem is, she’s in a whole different league than me, socializing isn’t a problem for her she’s in honors, I’m in regents, she plays sports, and plays an instrument. The only thing I do after school is work out hoping that I can boost my self esteem. And even if I did have the confidence to ask her out she would definitely say no because my whole school thinks I’m slow and nobody wants to be with some one one with that reputation. But even if she did say yes, I’d still be to scared to talk to her and we would just end up breaking up.
@southerncalifornia3155
@southerncalifornia3155 6 жыл бұрын
FeelsWavyMan Let her know you get anxiety ...Then if she truely loves you she''ll look for you and accept ur imperfections...I had/have the same problem...
@sarahbrennan1342
@sarahbrennan1342 6 жыл бұрын
FeelsWavyMan believe it or not it’s all part of growing up and different emotions your feeling... some dates will be great others will be flops
@aboodsmith3355
@aboodsmith3355 6 жыл бұрын
hey come to me i have no issue with folks are in this situation I'm worse then u i seems even scared talking to my family jesus i have it really bad tho I'm 22 know i had it when i was 21 witch is a year ago but before that hell i was very confidant i don't know what happened to me tbh?? but feel free to contact me we can leave with it together hahahahah
@shadowc6845
@shadowc6845 6 жыл бұрын
abood smith i need some feedback on this. Id appreciate talking.
@charlessoto7338
@charlessoto7338 6 жыл бұрын
Accepting the fact that you have social anxiety is also super hard since it gives you anxiety if that makes sense
@edenn1278
@edenn1278 5 жыл бұрын
actually for me it would help reduce it haha i'm not like professionnaly diagnosed but i'm sure i have it. thinking that maybe i don't and i'm over reacting stresses the f out of me. I don't even feel able to talk about it to someone (even online) in fear of them thinking i'm over reacting. If i'm diagnosed with it, then i would be able to fully concentrate on recovering from it (and stop treating it like it's just an over reaction) i don't know if that's clear... but i see in which ways it can give anxiety
@lesliesweety
@lesliesweety 7 жыл бұрын
I suffer from social anxiety, but not just by strangers, but by my family too. Has that ever happened to anyone or is it just me?
@FantasticBaby1224
@FantasticBaby1224 6 жыл бұрын
same here
@angiebroncalesl.1402
@angiebroncalesl.1402 6 жыл бұрын
It can happen with anyone you are afraid they could judge you (sorry if my english is bad)
@sugarrushiii6503
@sugarrushiii6503 6 жыл бұрын
Same with me
@lovelisamariexx4086
@lovelisamariexx4086 6 жыл бұрын
Yep, all the time!
@meganh8145
@meganh8145 6 жыл бұрын
Indigo Child I get social anxiety around my family too. Mostly my grandma or family I don't see often
@pisstakecentral
@pisstakecentral 7 жыл бұрын
I wouldn't wish this illness on my worst enemy. Hell on earth.
@enemydivinity446
@enemydivinity446 6 жыл бұрын
Hi
@felizkodie5328
@felizkodie5328 6 жыл бұрын
Social anxiety is the main reason as to why I dread going into public settings alone or presenting anything in school in front my class. It feels like a million piercing eyes are looking and judging everything about you. When I’m around people I’m comfortable with I relax a little but the anxiety is still there and there’s nothing i can do about it.
@Zaldaxlove65
@Zaldaxlove65 4 жыл бұрын
I am so sick of thinking about what other people think of me in public
@mitt9298
@mitt9298 4 жыл бұрын
SAME😭
@alien4852
@alien4852 7 жыл бұрын
Whatever, I give up man. I'm 15, have no friends and never had a girlfriend/kissed a girl/even been friends with one for that matter. All I tell myself is "It's OK, you don't need them, you are going to join the Army in 3 years and will die honourably there." EDIT #1 October-December 2016: things have changed quite a bit since I originally posted this comment, I have some friends now, idk if they are real friends or fake friends though... because I actually tried to hang out with some people one day. EDIT #2 sept 15 2017: its been almost a year....I made the wrong friends and got involved with the bad crowd, occasional weed use turned into daily, as well as trying and using other drugs. My first girlfriend dumped me and betrayed me, breaking my heart, and then my drug use escalated into full blown addiction. Im over the girl now, and I switched schools to get a fresh start and make good quality friends, but it's not the same... I still have an issue with drug use now, and that depression that faded once I got friends... well after my relationship ended it came back REALLY hard and hasn't gone away. Edit #3 March 3rd 2018: i found this video again so I thought I'd update. Im alone, I lie to my friends about using all drugs except weed and occasionally molly, i have no friends at my new school, and i havent had a girlfriend since may 2017 because i keep fucking up every chance i get because of my social anxiety. ive had so many girls like me and im so shit at having conversations with them because i get so anxious, and it turns them all off. i never asked to be born and i wish i never was, life is terrible. all I want is to have friends, someone who i can love, and to not be depressed and a drug addict. no matter what I do its as if I cant even improve on these things. i just want to be happy and enjoy my life again.. I hope by sharing part of my story, I can help at least one of you to not make the same mistakes I did
@macyabernathy1731
@macyabernathy1731 7 жыл бұрын
@Alien, I'm 15 too and I don't think you should measure your self worth just by how many girls you've been with or had a relationship with. And high school is such a small group of people who happen to live in the same area and same culture. There are so many other places in the world that will be more accepting and supportive of you as a person. When you graduate high school you should try to experience other cultures, open your mind to the earth and the earth will fill it with so many lovely things. Just because you feel like you're insignificant in your high school social class doesn't mean you have no significance somewhere else. I hope this helps, your comment stands out to me bc same age and I can relate in a way
@Social-anxiety-solutions
@Social-anxiety-solutions 7 жыл бұрын
And your comment stands out to me as a beautiful comment to someone in pain, coming from a mature perspective (you're 15, wow!). Couldn't agree more. Having lived in 4 different cultures (Netherlands, South Africa, Philippines, Thailand) and currently in a 5th, I can assure you that culture plays a big role in how you are being perceived. And, that high school is just a phase where people try to be "cool" much more than later on in life. Later on in life, trying to be cool isn't cool anymore. When you're in deep pain, read, learn, use the EFT tapping I share in other videos, get help when you need it. Thanks for your comment.
@magnuslindgren5640
@magnuslindgren5640 7 жыл бұрын
Dude, you're 15, you'll grow and your life will change a lot! But trust me, what you said "I will join the army in 3 years and die honourably there" just sounds like an escape, and like you pity yourself, wich is really damaging. Don't flee your fear, fight it and overcome it. You will succeed, trust me. It's all up in your head. (But it's not easy)...
@alien4852
@alien4852 7 жыл бұрын
I do work out @12inweiner. I am pretty buff.
@alien4852
@alien4852 7 жыл бұрын
@Slap Happy I have wanted to join the Army since I was 12. I know the reality of the military, and don't think of it like a fuckboy: "I'm going to be a SEAL sniper and snipe the shit out of ISIS and win the medal of honour" I am realistic about it and being in the Army is truly my dream job.
@missylks1239
@missylks1239 6 жыл бұрын
Anyone else become so anxious that you just never put yourself in social situations? (Unless required:in class and at work)
@simonram8505
@simonram8505 5 жыл бұрын
A common consequence of SAD is the avoidance of social situations, but ofcourse this behaviour in the long run only worsens the condition.
@simonram8505
@simonram8505 5 жыл бұрын
@@Contagious93812 I wish I could help but so far all I can say is that you're not alone.
@timjiutsu
@timjiutsu 5 жыл бұрын
@@simonram8505 an often used method is to (just) stop the avoidence and to force you into these kind of social interactions, by not thinking to long about what could go wrong. you really just have to go for it
@krzm4478
@krzm4478 2 жыл бұрын
I failed a lot in school because I refused lol 👍
@tritanproductions
@tritanproductions 6 жыл бұрын
I have had social anxiety since I was 15, I am now 23 and still have it, I get so nervous going out to places, it is the worst, I still do go in places sometimes. What helped me was to force myself to go out into these public places, It has helped a little bit, and now I have a part time job.
@andremaximiano7170
@andremaximiano7170 6 жыл бұрын
Congratilations, you may still have it, but you are not letting it stop you from living your life.
@morbidlyangel
@morbidlyangel 5 жыл бұрын
Why is it that it looks like nobody else in my school has social anxiety? I feel so alone
@daten__
@daten__ 5 жыл бұрын
I know right! It’s terrible.
@Mars-kt1kz
@Mars-kt1kz 5 жыл бұрын
Yea I feel the exact same way too
@beorlingo
@beorlingo 5 жыл бұрын
Well, if you can't spot them, maybe not so many have noticed that you have the problem.
@TristanDeshaies
@TristanDeshaies 5 жыл бұрын
I can bet you that at least one person in every one of your classes deals with some sort of social anxiety. 1. They might not know they have social anxiety. 2. They dont go around saying they have social anxiety.
@ddonsaintlaurent
@ddonsaintlaurent 5 жыл бұрын
Otaku Tsumiki Stalker look for someone that looks and seems shy I guarantee u they have social anxiety
@chloecurreen1351
@chloecurreen1351 7 жыл бұрын
When you finally tell someone that you might actually have social anxiety they just tell you to change and think positively. How do I do that then? No one understands
@milllzz05
@milllzz05 7 жыл бұрын
Chloe Curreen I understand!!! It's annoying! When they say think positive I try too all the time!
@chloecurreen1351
@chloecurreen1351 7 жыл бұрын
yeah its not that easy, no one understands!
@UsmanAli-le9qo
@UsmanAli-le9qo 7 жыл бұрын
YES Chaloe u r right 100%. and 2nd think if you tell to someone that u have SAD they got another point to put u down. the fear inside heart is not control able.
@chloecurreen1351
@chloecurreen1351 7 жыл бұрын
glad others can relate, as a young person its also hard because you cant just go see someone without telling an adult!
@jaimesrk
@jaimesrk 7 жыл бұрын
millzz05 You can't just think positively. I recommend writing concrete things down. Only then can you reinforce it. And it wont't change overnight. You've probably had a negative thought proces for a long time; you can't break a habit just like that.
@kristine009
@kristine009 7 жыл бұрын
Why does social anxiety even exist in this world?!! I'm so broke right now.
@blacksharkswimmer3729
@blacksharkswimmer3729 6 жыл бұрын
Lovelyz Lover you're cute too
@koranosponsanotekiodeokuri8143
@koranosponsanotekiodeokuri8143 6 жыл бұрын
Certified Multi-fandom are u more confident now?
@rainman2267
@rainman2267 4 жыл бұрын
society: “Why don’t you ever talk?” me: you wouldn't get it.
@Samuel-ku1qb
@Samuel-ku1qb 6 жыл бұрын
My best friend calls me Hellophobic because I am unable to say hello to other human beings.
@andremaximiano7170
@andremaximiano7170 6 жыл бұрын
It's a matter of training your confidence. Seems silly, but train in the mirror several times a day. And try to expose yourself in a way that you don't lose your cool (like controled exposure). I believe you can do it mate!
@susan4eva223
@susan4eva223 6 жыл бұрын
Sam Kleist lol
@thinkingofaname6233
@thinkingofaname6233 5 жыл бұрын
Maxwell *when a normie gives advice*
@imadeyoureadthis1500
@imadeyoureadthis1500 5 жыл бұрын
Go outside more
@imadeyoureadthis1500
@imadeyoureadthis1500 5 жыл бұрын
@@thinkingofaname6233 When a computer-addicted kid talks shit
@karimakram8354
@karimakram8354 7 жыл бұрын
I used to have social anxiety.but I discovered a technique which worked with me efficiently, which is, talking with my brain. I used to consider my brain as someone who lives inside me, so when I'm about to get into a social situation, my brain immediatly starts giving me thoughts like, "don't do it" " what if this happen.. and bla bla.. So I start talking with my brain saying things like " calm down mate" " it can't be that worse" " everything will be ok, we can do this". This is the technique I used to do and it worked with me everytime, until I became free from social anxiety. I know it seems abit weird but works very efficiently.
@svtcarat6386
@svtcarat6386 7 жыл бұрын
I've been using that method to help me. I always get things done somehow but I end up having a severe headache whenever I try.
@achmadk568
@achmadk568 6 жыл бұрын
thanks bro
@naturexcellence
@naturexcellence 6 жыл бұрын
Karim Akram i been trying this but doesn't work for me
@Zockanumber1
@Zockanumber1 7 жыл бұрын
so you basically tell people with social anxiety to stop being anxious
@sherriged
@sherriged 7 жыл бұрын
hey, just wanted to clarify that I think the purpose of this video was to say that faking it can work for a while, but ultimately your brain is running a certain pattern of thought that is coming from its most basic survival instinct- flight fight or freeze. That was the metaphor of the boat- that you need to fix the core issue or trauma that is leading you to believe that social situations are unsafe. The technique the creator of this video uses is called EFT (emotional freedom technique) which is worth checking out. I and many others have had huge successes with using this technique . It is based on stimulating certain acupressure points on the body these calm the amygdala and rewire the neural pathways, interrupting the fight or flight response and restoring the body/mind to calm. It works for me, definitely check it out!
@Zockanumber1
@Zockanumber1 7 жыл бұрын
s.e. ok that sounds reasonable. It just seemed a little weird to me to tell socially anxious people to just be social lol.
@sherriged
@sherriged 7 жыл бұрын
yeah i definitely hear that :) the uploader actually has a bunch of other videos on his channel where he shows exactly how to use the EFT technique (I like it because it can be done on my own). good luck!
@nickb3250
@nickb3250 7 жыл бұрын
Focused breathing helps, but it obviously complicates being involved in a a conversation in any real capacity. Forcing myself to hold an open, relaxed stance/position helps as well. General well-being (a regular sleep cycle, good nutrition, working out, grooming, mindfulness) all put me on a much more confidence, relaxed, focused, "warm" demeanor. Nothing you or anything else hasn't already heard really. It really does take serious effort to retrain the brain, but it is possible
@4mil446
@4mil446 6 жыл бұрын
Especially when you have to partner with someone and you can’t because your anxiety makes you act up and you start over thinking
@aboodsmith3355
@aboodsmith3355 6 жыл бұрын
ikr put it this way i went through the worst of it where i screwd up in-front of large group of folks and guess what they were all paying attention to me directly in to ma face jesus and I'm in ma peak ma face turned to all colors .......then that was the last time a teamed up with them ffs hahahahah
@TheDragonforce2203
@TheDragonforce2203 6 жыл бұрын
I get pissed when every girl at school says their anxious because they don't actually know how it feels. Just say you're stressed. It makes it seem a lot less of an issue if everyone says they have it.
@Mars-kt1kz
@Mars-kt1kz 6 жыл бұрын
Draconic Arachnid that’s true
@Aardvarked88
@Aardvarked88 5 жыл бұрын
How on earth do you know whether they know how it feels or not? Pretty much everyone will experience anxiety at some point in their life, it's not a badge of honour, nor does it make you unique.
@thinkingofaname6233
@thinkingofaname6233 5 жыл бұрын
Aardvarked if I hang myself does it make me unique? 😂😂😂😂
@LeahRose_
@LeahRose_ 7 жыл бұрын
For me, having social anxiety makes my heart race fast, and then I realize that I breathe faster. But the worst part about it is the fact that I constantly think all eyes are on me. I'm always worrying about the way that I appear towards people, which is one of the reasons why I wear shit loads of makeup. I just hate the feeling that people are staring at me all the damn time...
@XLRBoss
@XLRBoss 7 жыл бұрын
Hey cutiepie
@VeinsX3
@VeinsX3 7 жыл бұрын
that's so me... ):
@XLRBoss
@XLRBoss 7 жыл бұрын
VeinsX3 Go talk to people more, you gonna be uncomfortable at first, but if you do it for awhile, then take a short break, and do it again, you will notice the anxiety slowly vanishing.
@yupmarius
@yupmarius 7 жыл бұрын
maybe that's why they're staring... coz you wear shitload of makeup
@LeahRose_
@LeahRose_ 7 жыл бұрын
marius mario Lol yeah ur probably right 😂
@ellielovesbands
@ellielovesbands 7 жыл бұрын
I've struggled with my social anxiety since I've been bullied in school.
@thepsyhoo
@thepsyhoo 7 жыл бұрын
Did it start after you have been bullied ?
@floriane1447
@floriane1447 7 жыл бұрын
ellielovesbands you are worth it. Nothing that you do or say is worth being bullied for. It's not your fault. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself.
@dfjulesful
@dfjulesful 7 жыл бұрын
Same. It got better though I learned to stand up for myself and not to be so afraid of the morons that bullied me. It's tough but it's worth sticking it out.
@doesnotcontain
@doesnotcontain 7 жыл бұрын
I'm 21 and I'm still struggling with social anxiety from the bullying in high school and I'm learning to stand up for my self, trust me it's so tough but if you put your mind to it, it will happen.
@dfjulesful
@dfjulesful 7 жыл бұрын
Morindou Same although I'm almost 23 but it still affects me just not as much anymore. It takes time but it's so worth it!
@cassie8903
@cassie8903 5 жыл бұрын
My entire time in a conversation is thinking about what could go wrong or not having anything to say next or how the heck I'm supposed to leave this conversation
@beorlingo
@beorlingo 5 жыл бұрын
Haha, been there. Isn't it funny? In a way? That not succeeding is purely due to the thinking about not succeeding. I think we need to start by being ok with not being perfect. The more relaxed we can be about making mistakes, the less mishaps we will soon start experiencing.
@willfroz608
@willfroz608 6 жыл бұрын
I am having a hard time getting over social anxiety and it's annoying to me but I do it to myself. In a social environment I don't feel safe. I'm always scared that I am going to embarrass myself or I'm not good enough.
@MirandaCavada
@MirandaCavada 7 жыл бұрын
sometimes I don't know whether I have social anxiety or I'm just shy and I'm just that fucking awkward
@drekaflugan
@drekaflugan 7 жыл бұрын
difference of being shy and having social anxiety (i've had social anxiety diagnosed but i got better) is that social anxiety feels painful and might prevent you from doing things that you like, or things you have to do. like i couldn't talk to people on the phone because it made me anxious. but being shy is for example when you meet a new person and don't know how to act and are not being your usual personality like you are around friends
@lisac.2249
@lisac.2249 7 жыл бұрын
Miranda Cavada I painfully feel you
@TheKidComet
@TheKidComet 7 жыл бұрын
lmao im with ya . im just akward as fuckk , eh fuck it oh well
@emiat4117
@emiat4117 7 жыл бұрын
Miranda Cavada the story of my life
@WAMBUINGANGA
@WAMBUINGANGA 7 жыл бұрын
I think I am all of the above
@dogbark
@dogbark 7 жыл бұрын
once i actually ran away when a guy from my school tried to flirt with me ... lmao
@spatnaspolecnost
@spatnaspolecnost 7 жыл бұрын
poor guy lol
@homelessdiaries3950
@homelessdiaries3950 7 жыл бұрын
xD
@naritruwireve1381
@naritruwireve1381 7 жыл бұрын
Random story: A couple of weeks ago this guy I never knew but i've seen around my school, randomly went like "(My name) MY GUURRRL!!" in front of the whole class everytime he saw me in class or the teacher called out my name for attendance and everyone would laugh>.
@im26c4u5
@im26c4u5 7 жыл бұрын
Oml I did the same
@MissVintage789
@MissVintage789 7 жыл бұрын
Bucky Barnes same 😂😂😂😂😂
@allisonn6027
@allisonn6027 6 жыл бұрын
3:45 But how can you simply just "change" the way you feel about yourself, when you HONESTLY don't believe you're more than good enough, don't believe that people like you, and DON'T accept yourself? Not bashing the video, just voicing my frustrations at the fact that this is exactly what ALL these types of videos tell the listener to do. The thing is, it's incredibly hard to convince yourself because you don't actually believe any of that is true. This is the very PROBLEM. How does one simply change their mindset to believe what they perceive as a lie?
@chubbybracks3589
@chubbybracks3589 6 жыл бұрын
Allison Neely my best friend once told me like bro why do you care about what people think of you honestly at the end of the day no one really cares about what you do or what you look like
@lovedelaney1600
@lovedelaney1600 6 жыл бұрын
Well you found your problem right ? Which could POSSIBLY be low self esteem, low self confidence or both ? *Syptoms of Social Anxiety* Which could be why you dont believe in the positive or best in yourself? *It is there but only you can find it* Nxt thing you can do is find a solution. Right! *It's way better to focus on what you can do instead of dwelling on what you cant* P.s Hope you find your way out of SA. It IS possible! I've been there & im still workin on it. I suggest The Schaeffer Method. You can Google for more info. It put me on the right track & could help you aswell. Hope this helped in someway 👍
@allisonn6027
@allisonn6027 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@Luciano-jg5ws
@Luciano-jg5ws 6 жыл бұрын
Everything in life is a matter of skills, forget this belief thing, life is the jungle not a church. SOCIAL SKILLS. You will be anxious of driving only you you have bad driving skills to deal with the roads and obstacles. Talking, sense of humour, courtesy are actual skills.
@chrislyons6951
@chrislyons6951 5 жыл бұрын
You could try hypnosis or focus on making other people feel positive. Maybe volunteer visiting people in old folks homes or special needs kids, where you can see your contribution helping others. Phone/email citizens advice etc and brainstorm with them. Good luck, charisma matrix and charisma on command have good vids too.
@errorloading3686
@errorloading3686 6 жыл бұрын
If you have social anxiety... I just want to say it's okay...i know how you feel.. I have gone through it myself...just keep on moving through it...be proud and act like no one is watching...
@casualdreamer8841
@casualdreamer8841 6 жыл бұрын
I'm 41 . I was a fine, confident normal kid until the 6th grade. I believe this event , changed my life forever. I was in class and someone made a joke, and that's when a known bully kid 8th grader was walking by and yelled " dam close your mouth, your gums are bigger than your teeth" .. From that moment on I felt self-conscious and still cover my mouth in social settings that I rarely attend. I don't feel comfortable around a lot of people, even family bbqs, parties or anything. I've tried to overcome it, but I can't. I've missed a lot of family events, and have made a lot of excuses. I just missed my 10 month old nephew's baptism, I told them I would go, I got to the church , stayed in the parking lot for like 45 mins, watching the parking lot get full, and then I texted them I had to go due to a fake reason I made up. This also brings on depression, because i hated missing this events. This is the only forum I've expressed myself, and ask people to pray for me. 😔☹
@rosalynvargas17
@rosalynvargas17 6 жыл бұрын
Casual Dreamer please stay strong, and please just be yourself fuck what people think. I'm 18 and I know how you feel, and reading it broke my heart, you deserve to live a happy and beautiful life it's never to late, I believe in you, you got this, no one is perfect.
@nevermindiamawesome
@nevermindiamawesome 5 жыл бұрын
You’re not alone in this. And how once somebody said, you’re not your thoughts. It helps to keep this in mind when a crisis happens. That just means that whatever bad things you’re thinking about yourself, they’re due to the disorder, and they are not real. Be at peace, God bless you.
@dian3lum
@dian3lum 5 жыл бұрын
How are u doing now? Anyway I don't think u should be ashamed about ur "gum smile" its a blessing, its unique to u, don't hide it. I hope ur doing waaayyy better now❤
@sammiee1894
@sammiee1894 5 жыл бұрын
Same, I was very confident, get a long with anyone type of kid until middle school where I got bullied for my weight and from then I started to close myself off and my social circles became smaller and smaller. I'm trying to work on it now, stay strong brother.
@penisparkerdeviloflamps7979
@penisparkerdeviloflamps7979 5 жыл бұрын
Man, isn't it stupid how the human brain makes a big deal out of minor things? Whenever someone seems mildly annoyed to me I flash back to every minor mistake I can remember off-hand
@chelseavictorio9791
@chelseavictorio9791 7 жыл бұрын
im so fucked lmao
@xXEpicOwnageXx
@xXEpicOwnageXx 7 жыл бұрын
hahahah
@MrWorldwide0
@MrWorldwide0 7 жыл бұрын
same
@pixiiedust8179
@pixiiedust8179 7 жыл бұрын
relatable lol
@nabhanq
@nabhanq 7 жыл бұрын
ROFL same LMAO *internally dies*
@angelicagapuen5680
@angelicagapuen5680 6 жыл бұрын
Hi guys, I guess we're on the same league. Keep moving forward and never give up.
@andremaximiano7170
@andremaximiano7170 6 жыл бұрын
Yes, yes. This is the spirit. It's a matter of being patience and train for example in front of the mirror (may seem a bit silly but works). The most important thing is to like remain cool and expose yourself in controlled environments. Running away from it doesn't solve the problem. You have to face it, it's just a matter of how you will do it. But with baby steps and some research and confidence on yourself and with the support of some people that you love you can do it.
@Social-anxiety-solutions
@Social-anxiety-solutions 2 жыл бұрын
FREE Masterclass: How To Stop Your Social Anxiety (available for a limited time only!) Join the waiting list here: bit.ly/socialconfidencemasterclass ---- It's a three-part video series and each video is about 20-25 minutes long. In the first video, I share “How To Stop Your Brain From Triggering Anxiety”. You can find it here: In the second video, I talk about “The Three Main Keys To Effortless Social Ease”. In the last video, I talked about “The Five Stages To Go From Social Anxiety To Effortless Social Ease”. I break down each action step that leads you from one stage to the next, to the next. I talk about how you feel at each stage and I share video testimonials of people who are at the various stages. It's super inspiring. You're going to love this. Join the waiting list here: bit.ly/socialconfidencemasterclass
@danziljsx7616
@danziljsx7616 7 жыл бұрын
Ok I understand why it happens but HOW do you change your subconscious?
@Social-anxiety-solutions
@Social-anxiety-solutions 7 жыл бұрын
Hi Daniel, this video was mostly to explain generally what anxiety is, and an overview of what it takes to become anxiety-free. There are a variety of ways to change the beliefs held in the subconscious, some more effective than others. The most effective I've found is using EFT (and using it in the right way). I share how to use EFT to overcome social anxiety in a "social confidence starter kit" that I've created. It consists of an Ebook and free video series, which you can get here: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/social-anxiety-starter-kit/
@Satekas
@Satekas 7 жыл бұрын
Martial Arts bro. BJJ exactly.
@DrBoner-lt1el
@DrBoner-lt1el 7 жыл бұрын
Lifting weights has helped with my anxiety greatly. I still have social anxiety but its much more tolerable than it used to be. I had to be forced to speak in many social settings over the years due to working and life experiences in general. It was very rocky at first bit over time you will grow and become better at it. Once you can speak to people better you start to realizee things. I used to think I was "stupid" "uninteresting" "unfunny" etc. But once you feel comfortable and realize you can be witty, funny, and interesting your subconscious will change. You have to build your confidence basically practiced makes perfect. Don't be a hermit and just avoid people you will have to speak to people your whole life there's nothing you can do to Change it. Also don't use alcohol as a crutch. I did this and developed a huge problem because it "cured" my SA as in I could talk to anyone pick up girls etc.
@voiceshottest2724
@voiceshottest2724 7 жыл бұрын
As someone who has social anxiety I have found the best way is to put ur anxiety aside, take a deep breathe, and then talk to someone/engage in social situations. Because of this I was easily able to fake being outgoing until it became somewhat real. I still have some lingerings of it but my anxiety is so much better.
@stevelebowskimenjivar8245
@stevelebowskimenjivar8245 7 жыл бұрын
Daniel Smith Take nicotinamide its another form of niacin or vitamin b3 it made me go from sweating like a dog my face being red and unable to speak up because my throat would be tight all the time to an overly confident person I never cared what people thought of me and was always smiling. It's completely natural take 2×500 mg tabs every day and you should notice difference soon also do some research on "nofap and social anxiety"
@johndeluna692
@johndeluna692 7 жыл бұрын
I'm 29 now and my progressed was slow since I childhood because of social anxiety.
@zorz7730
@zorz7730 5 жыл бұрын
I have a problem with my mind going blank and then i can't say a goddamn word even with my family,it's really painfull guys,does anyone else have this problem!!
@alcamfishing
@alcamfishing 5 жыл бұрын
dude, ALWAYS.
@gregdescant6487
@gregdescant6487 5 жыл бұрын
Same problems
@Fxye_
@Fxye_ 4 жыл бұрын
Same I don't even know what i'll say next to keep the conversation going so I'll just end up with awkward silence
@nurfarisah9616
@nurfarisah9616 4 жыл бұрын
Is there any tips to overcome this? I really need one
@mitt9298
@mitt9298 4 жыл бұрын
SAME😭
@MayStephan
@MayStephan 6 жыл бұрын
For me, it's my biggest struggle. It took some time for me to realise that I stress more than most people and I'm more quiet and self-conscious. And even after that, no matter how many efforts I make, I still can't seem to get over it. I spend more time researching stuff like conversation starters than studying, and I avoid so many things I could just enjoy, or even if I do, for example, attend a social event, I can't enjoy it because my mind is racing and my heart is thumping so loud I get scared that if someone came and talked to me, I wouldn't hear them, and that only makes the symptoms worse.
@Aethryx
@Aethryx 7 жыл бұрын
Too bad some of us are too broke to ever get help
@fnhs90
@fnhs90 7 жыл бұрын
Like he explained, it's possible to fight this by challenging your thoughts. That is a part of what a psychiatrist will do; encourage you to challenge the thoughts when they appear. But take baby steps; start by challenging thought in a safe space, like at home or with close friends/family. Then little by little challenge the thoughts at the grocery store, in class/at work, when asking someone out, doing public speeches and at parties where you don't know anyone. Sounds hard (and it is), but it is doable with BABY STEPS. I cannot stress how important baby steps are! If you jump into a situation that you're nowhere near ready to, the FFF response will come too fast and challenging the thoughts will be too hard.
@durud.2024
@durud.2024 7 жыл бұрын
I believe you can overcome your social anxiety. I know it's possible because I overcame mine; just believe in yourself.
@MissVintage789
@MissVintage789 7 жыл бұрын
Aethryx lmao same
@mariapuddu8807
@mariapuddu8807 7 жыл бұрын
Just like the video suggests, I find that once you stop giving fucks, or, at least, tricking your mind into thinking that you give zero fucks about what people think of you, your level of social anxiety lowers. Acting (not necessarily being) confident is really useful: I don't mean faking your personality, but just convincing yourself and others that the confident version is your true self! I may be expressing the concept wrong but English is not my mother tongue, I'm sorry if anything I've written here it's ambiguous, it wasn't purposeful!
@oddri
@oddri 7 жыл бұрын
I try to pretend all the time that I don't care and all of my friends have this impression that I'm this fearless person who doesn't give a crap about anything, but it's all just a lie. It feels so fake and even if I try to pretend, it doesn't stop me from thinking that I'm worthless or that people don't like me or that I'm just going to screw everything up. It's just really difficult to escape those thoughts when I'm so used to believing that they're true.
@oljenka88
@oljenka88 7 жыл бұрын
PersonPerson The next step is raising your confidence. Once you are there you won't have to pretend, because you actually won't give a damn. And I know you'll get there, everyone is good at something worth being proud and confident about, believe me :)
@ChrisWhoLikesGrapes
@ChrisWhoLikesGrapes 7 жыл бұрын
Maria Puddu very true. i had social anxiety but im getting way better on it through public speaking, going outside, and mostly being more confident
@sherriged
@sherriged 7 жыл бұрын
+PersonPerson hey, just wanted to clarify that I think the purpose of this video was to say that faking it can work for a while, but ultimately your brain is running a certain pattern of thought that is coming from its most basic survival instinct- flight fight or freeze. That was the metaphor of the boat- that you need to fix the core issue or trauma that is leading you to believe that social situations are unsafe. The technique the creator of this video uses is called EFT (emotional freedom technique) which is worth checking out. I and many others have had huge successes with using this technique . It is based on stimulating certain acupressure points on the body- these calm the amygdala and rewire the neural pathways, interrupting the fight or flight response and restoring the body/mind to calm. It works for me, definitely check it out!
@oddri
@oddri 7 жыл бұрын
s.e. That seems like it may help. Thanks
@Laura-xu3wt
@Laura-xu3wt 6 жыл бұрын
I actually started crying while watching this. So relatable. It's currently summer break and I am literally afraid to leave the house. I am so sorry for everyone feeling anything like this in social situations and hope they would be able to tackle their issues. Got your back everyone, fighting! 💕
@MymindW
@MymindW 5 жыл бұрын
I am afraid to make a god damn cup of tea in front of people even my closed friends.
@Dittozkul
@Dittozkul 7 жыл бұрын
I used to have social anxiety in my early years of high school. Now a days I don't really care what people think. For people who struggle with this currently I suggest trying to face your fears (don't be afraid to use a friend) and go out and actually socialize more. The more you do the more you'll train your brain to get into a habit of knowing it's not dangerous
@md-wf8to
@md-wf8to 7 жыл бұрын
MSN740 friend?
@Godisfirst21
@Godisfirst21 7 жыл бұрын
Who feels exactly the same after watching this? Yeah, me too.
@requix11
@requix11 6 жыл бұрын
It's not even that for me, it's just I don't have interest sometimes. I think about things deeply while everyone around me is talking about pointless things. It's trippy
@joemarilangaman2317
@joemarilangaman2317 5 жыл бұрын
nice avatar
@jesusreigns6650
@jesusreigns6650 5 жыл бұрын
Yesss! Ugh....
@schlubenno3827
@schlubenno3827 5 жыл бұрын
Don’t be that guy. No one is special and no one matters more than anyone else. We’re all just fleshy bodies.
@flumiie
@flumiie 5 жыл бұрын
People always says practicing on mirror first, but when the anxiety hits again, even talking to myself is painful
@dzavenom2239
@dzavenom2239 4 жыл бұрын
Because of my anxiety disorder, I went to the doctor for treatment, he recommended me two medicines but none of them works. Feel lonely
@maddy-jp5lh
@maddy-jp5lh 7 жыл бұрын
I have very bad social anxiety, its even worse because people assume i'm confident because I am considered attractive (not blowing my own trumpet). My face twitches when i'm mid convo with others my heart starts pumping and my neck tightens up. I think my pet peeve is ice breakers where I have to introduce myself my voice starts shaking. Sometimes I try not to swallow because I swallow very hard and I look nervous but then if I don't I choke when speaking. I only feel chilled when I have a drink because my nerves are in calm mode. It really gets me down because i'm such a funny bubbly person when i'm around my friends but around strangers I literally wanna crawl into a hole :(.
@skylarsdalimit5906
@skylarsdalimit5906 6 жыл бұрын
it's a double edge sword! having no friends makes you thing everyone hates you, and being popular draws everyone toward you
@bev9478
@bev9478 6 жыл бұрын
Maddy Itebu same bruh :(
@patriciayanga7845
@patriciayanga7845 6 жыл бұрын
:(((( same
@sterlingmccormick4260
@sterlingmccormick4260 6 жыл бұрын
+Maddy Itebu exactly the same
@sidgreenday25
@sidgreenday25 6 жыл бұрын
Maddy Itebu I thought I was the only one😥😥 this is exactly what happens to me... My fear starts because I'm on the fatter side and have chubby cheeks ... I'm 20 and I feel I'm not normal and that everyone will judge me for my looks.. that's my only fear hope I overcome it oneday
@newmabreu96
@newmabreu96 7 жыл бұрын
my situation ia so bad , if im in a crowd or somewhere with to many people i cant breathe in any way , i stop hearing , its like that zzzzz of a michrophone and i start seing everyhthing blank , cant see anything , and i pass out if i dont get out of there , and after i get out of there , i start seeing , listeting and breathing again
@darl4204
@darl4204 7 жыл бұрын
These exact things happen to me too, it makes it so hard to go shopping in big cities because I throw up occasionally & I can't walk because everything is going so dizzy and black. It honestly reminds me of a war cut scene in a game- I don't know. I'm glad someone else relates I was really scared that anxiety wasn't the cause of it and that it was something worse perhaps.
@FindingYourSerenity
@FindingYourSerenity 7 жыл бұрын
Sounds a little like Panic Disorder. I had it really bad.
@invi8066
@invi8066 7 жыл бұрын
Damn, I just get super self conscious. Fix my hair and stuff like that.
@newmabreu96
@newmabreu96 7 жыл бұрын
i cant go to the supermarket alone , me being 6'5 tall ( 196cm) i get alot of atention which i hate , if anyone looks at me , i think its because im ugly and weird , wwhen i go on the street alone i look mainly to the floor to avoid looking at people , i hate when people lok at me , if i listen someone laughing , even if its very far away , i think they laughing about me instantly
@FindingYourSerenity
@FindingYourSerenity 7 жыл бұрын
Tall people are interesting that is all :):) have you been to therapy?
@shealynskye5046
@shealynskye5046 6 жыл бұрын
I struggle with this on a daily basis...
@dzavenom2239
@dzavenom2239 4 жыл бұрын
If you actually struggle with this, pls reply so that I would trust you
@Wintr144
@Wintr144 3 жыл бұрын
Trying not to care about ppl is also caring.. When I'm at the class and all the ppl around me talking and laughing, and I look at my self "APATHETIC" it hits hard imagine me guys. I don't have a self confidence + social anxiety + depression + over thinking + my awkward reactions + being always misunderstanding at home + ppls bully me.
@SnuxPlays
@SnuxPlays 7 жыл бұрын
I even struggle in reading, in front of the class
@MegaMasterkiller666
@MegaMasterkiller666 6 жыл бұрын
The worst thing is being called on by the teacher to answer a question, feels awful
@MegaMasterkiller666
@MegaMasterkiller666 6 жыл бұрын
Amy lover Oh god I would hate that, I understand how you feel
@marinavaiou55
@marinavaiou55 6 жыл бұрын
snux my voice literally cracks and sounds like I am ready to burst into tears (which in not a lie)... I always embarass myself, and I can feel everyone making fun of it.
@marinavaiou55
@marinavaiou55 6 жыл бұрын
AlternativeGamer99 Or even worse,when he tells you to get up in front of the entire class, and present your project or something,when you clearly,would do anything at this certain time,to not to.
@zobbb5686
@zobbb5686 6 жыл бұрын
snux I refuse to read In front class
@Olivetree80
@Olivetree80 7 жыл бұрын
Haha I wish it was that simple, been there and done that. Even with years of therapy and Lexapro, I still experience anxiety symptoms. Of course I haven't given up on fighting it, but "positive thinking" does not help, because your rational thoughts are separate from emotional ones. Your body tells you one thing, and your mind says another.
@awkiethephantom
@awkiethephantom 7 жыл бұрын
Shakespeare Olive i agree that it's not nearly that simple......quite honestly I doubt this guy has ever experienced any sort of social anxiety........it's kind of sad that it's not really that simple......wouldn't it be nice if we could just think our way out of social anxiety.....
@LimitedReachEnt
@LimitedReachEnt 7 жыл бұрын
Marwan Conrad Can you explain the self inquiry to me, the way you use it. Im curious because SA is something I struggle with too.
@Firestar-rm8df
@Firestar-rm8df 7 жыл бұрын
what, you mean your rational thoughts tell you everything will be alright? I feel terrible and even looking at things logically I see nothing but more than the same. I've always known I'm pessimistic and awkward, and I'm sad... like a lot, but I'm starting to think I might have depression.... I don't know though. like, I feel like I should be complaining about my minor issues and labelling my whining as depression, and I don't want to jump the gun and say "yes I have depression... but the last month I have been looking at it I apparently display nearly all the symptoms of it and I consistently score "severe depression, seek treatment" on quizzes, but I really don't want to medicate, and I'm terrified of what comes after death so I won't be offing myself anytime soon, even if I think about death a lot. haven't caught myself planning a suicide or anything like that though yet... I don't know... I think I may just be going through some crummy stuff in my life and I'm just bad at fooling myself into being happy. Really I only feel happy a couple times a week for a few hours each when I'm at my club, or when I'm really invested in a story and things have improved for the protagonist... though sometimes, especially recently, even those things don't necessarily cheer me up and sometimes going to my club almost feels like work... idk, those are exactly the signs people talk about but ARGH! idk, maybe I do have depression, I just don't know. It isn't worth thinking about. I'm going to push through the next class I guess.
@effortless4588
@effortless4588 Жыл бұрын
He never said it was simple.
@effortless4588
@effortless4588 Жыл бұрын
He says what you said exactly himself in his videos
@annamarie5738
@annamarie5738 6 жыл бұрын
Yesterday I saw a close friend at the store and yet I still couldn’t even talk to her I hide at the store. I’m honestly so embarrassed.
@enyazogd5325
@enyazogd5325 3 жыл бұрын
Anna Marie: "I saw a close friend" Me: A what?
@luceliapretorius4155
@luceliapretorius4155 3 жыл бұрын
@@enyazogd5325 so funny. It made me laugh and then at the same time I started crying. 😪🤣
@melissae2302
@melissae2302 6 жыл бұрын
People don't understand. They'd always say that im a wuss or I'm stupid or scared or shy, but in reality I can't handle talking to people who I don't know like strangers or meeting new people. My hands get sweaty, my face turns red, my heart is racing. It's horrible. In school whenever my face turned red people (even my friends) would laugh at me and call me tomato face or say I looked like a riped tomato. Some people might find it funny, but it really hurt me inside but I didn't want to show it because I was afraid people were gonna laugh at that too. I laughed it off, but I was really hurt and I'd go home and cry and I was just ultimately crushed inside. My parents would always say "Its really easy to talk to people what are you so afraid of?" or "Whats wrong with you?" I couldn't handle all that. I felt horrible. Now I can handle it a little bit, but it's not completely okay. I wish people could understand that it affects the brain and how people with Social Anxiety Disorder feel about things that are normal like having a formal conversation with a co worker or something you're trying to get to know better. Or going to the post office and collecting and sending mail. Once as a kid the guy at the post office asked me for money because my mom wanted me to buy stamps and I literally froze up. I got scared and ran out. Even if I'm with people I just feel alone and I'm always anxious. Just makes me sad that I'm embarrassed about something that I should tell people who don't know such as my friends and other family members like aunts and uncles and cousins. I just can't though.
@Karansaini54777
@Karansaini54777 6 жыл бұрын
Sta tic join social anxiety WhatsApp group where you can motivate yourself with strangers just ping me on WhatsApp write sad I'll add you there +918467809563
@dzavenom2239
@dzavenom2239 4 жыл бұрын
Feel pi
@nataliemay7784
@nataliemay7784 7 жыл бұрын
I start shaking my hands and when people see my shaking hands it gets worse. I hate it so much!
@kvega30
@kvega30 7 жыл бұрын
dance. no, seriously. just dance and pretend the hand shaking is part of the dance routine lol
@dykens7758
@dykens7758 7 жыл бұрын
Don't fight it, you need to expose yourself to that anxiety with the intent of having your hands shake. I'm serious.
@vintage_hart6392
@vintage_hart6392 7 жыл бұрын
Natalie May This happens to me all the time when it's time to play in front of the class in my guitar class. It sucks like a bitch, and it ends up making my performance bad, even though I do gud when I'm playing by myself.
@tobbie8406
@tobbie8406 7 жыл бұрын
Take a shot every time he says FFF response
@AqierDesigns
@AqierDesigns 7 жыл бұрын
maybe thats why he said fff so much, as a hidden message that shots are the real help for anxiety lol
@tobbie8406
@tobbie8406 7 жыл бұрын
The truth has been revealed
@chloedonovan9092
@chloedonovan9092 7 жыл бұрын
We'd all be dead
@djole9562
@djole9562 7 жыл бұрын
Take a shot every time someone like my comment.
@sesseljabs964
@sesseljabs964 7 жыл бұрын
and the die...
@Social-anxiety-solutions
@Social-anxiety-solutions 3 жыл бұрын
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@Social-anxiety-solutions
@Social-anxiety-solutions 4 жыл бұрын
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@Superboy8545
@Superboy8545 7 жыл бұрын
My social anxiety started when my face got full of eczema. I feared what people would think if it, and I still do.. We just have to realize that no matter what people say, we CAN'T control it.
@karvast5726
@karvast5726 6 жыл бұрын
"calculator" here is what i was called,and in elementary school i stopped couting them,but that's not the words that hurt the most,it's his belt on my skin.
@CS-jp4ue
@CS-jp4ue 6 жыл бұрын
suppeboy saaid M M I feel you bro, but I've learned that it's all in your mind.. your perception and thought patterns about situations.. if you believe you have OCD and "social anxiety" then you will. Reality will manifest itself to you according to your beliefs and perspectives. Realize that 5 - 15 years from now you're going to be looking back regretting that you never went outside your comfort zone and instead lived as a miserable being if you don't LIVE and stop being afraid of how people perceive you or how you said something 'awkward or cringy' .. if you did just forget about it and keep on moving forward.. don't overthink it. We are human and make mistakes and it's okay. YOU CONTROL YOUR MIND
@CS-jp4ue
@CS-jp4ue 6 жыл бұрын
suppeboy saaid ask Jesus Christ for help.
@TetraSamurai
@TetraSamurai 6 жыл бұрын
suppeboy saaid that’s normal, not clinical social anxiety.
@toothakace
@toothakace 6 жыл бұрын
Carlos S if what you said was true, if everyone was able to completely remove anxiety by changing their thoughts or whatever, cognitive behavioral therapy would do wonders and cure everyone of their social anxiety, but it doesn't. So that logic clearly doesn't work.
@lordofdarkness3877
@lordofdarkness3877 6 жыл бұрын
Anxiety + being broke = living in hell🔥🔥🔥
@knockhello2604
@knockhello2604 5 жыл бұрын
Yes
@Yggdrasilkuru
@Yggdrasilkuru 5 жыл бұрын
Truth after I started making tons of cash I got a lot better with confidence
@jonasjasikevicius8780
@jonasjasikevicius8780 4 жыл бұрын
Hell is real
@acrescentuponherbrow4222
@acrescentuponherbrow4222 6 жыл бұрын
This is a light to moderate case. I have severe where I can't even get into a social situation to begin with. I'm lucky if I can make myself go to the store every two weeks at best.
@luceliapretorius4155
@luceliapretorius4155 3 жыл бұрын
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