Notice the way she speaks. People who experienced childhood abuse were taught not to express themselves. Even I get easily winded in conversations when my friends can rant for hours easily. Props to her for being up there!

Child abuse is not always physical that's the horrible part.

You can tell that this presentation was not easy to do , as it is hard to stand up and talk about a personal experience that was traumatic. She is a very brave person to do this as it is not easy especially at such a young age. It usually takes people to be in there adult stage of there lives to actually act upon traumatic childhood experiences.

Those things that her father was telling her were basically things that he was telling himself.

I was emotionally abused and neglected from the age of 12 up by my father. Only during my 30’s did I realize what I had experienced for so many years. I am now 40. I still struggle daily. I did not have any safe family. Nobody comforted me or helped me thru it. My husband is my only safe person. I’m still trying to work it with self help videos like yours. ❤

childhood abuse does damage you into Adulthood. With right support can overcome

I was abused as child. Nobody cares. It does not matter. We live in a cruel cold hypocritical world and no amount of wishful thinking will change that. I am no longer surprised to see abuse almost everywhere. Until the majority of people stand up to it, it will never change.

This woman is so strong. Sounds like she’s learning to love herself fully. You go girl.

People need to be checked to see if they are okay to look after children, like people who are adopting get checked.

Damn, this was so brave. She should be so proud

I'm going to call my son and apologize to him..

Thank You for speaking out. I was a victim of sexual abuse, abandonment and narcissistic abuse from both of my parents. Love to you.

I was abused by my mother. I'm in weekly trauma therapy and have been for 2 years. I am feeling much better but I'm still not back to work. A misdiagnosis of bipolar in my mid twenties kept me in excruciating emotional pain for over a decade. I hope that one day the facts and outcomes of childhood abuse will be know on a societal level. No one told me my child abuse was the cause of my pain. Good luck all!

This girl has a special energy, and is a gifted speaker, even though she's nervous.

I was abused when I was 7 or 8 and it all affects me still. I am 18 now and looking back at all of it makes me cry. I know I am strong and am going to heal! Katy, thank you for this wonderful talk. You are amazing and strong!

Stay strong Katy. You are not alone. You made me feel safe.

You are a hero, Katy. Thank you for using your voice to make a difference and change the world.

“You don’t have daddy issues. You have a dad with issues and that’s not your fault” can’t remember who said it but that’s a quote I live by

Good job! I had to deal with child neglect, emotional and physical abuse. I have had a life long issue with low self esteem, relationship problems, and negative thinking. At the at of 40 I was diagnosed with PTSD, Major Depression and Borderline Personality Disorder. It took me this long to realize my self worth and to stop thinking negative and change my thinking. You will touch many people with your talk. You should be proud of yourself. You are a beautiful girl. God bless you.

whoever gave this woman a thumb down is a jerk. She is heroic for sharing her life with us and educating the public.

Thank you. I was neglected by one parent and emotionally affected by the other. I felt powerless as a young child but learned to stand up for myself eventually. I still carry the emotional scars at sixty, even though both my parents have passed - But it's people like you who help me to look past what has passed, and focus on today and all of the potentials of each new day. Your are brave and beautiful.

Thank you for speaking up. The greatest bravery is not to act cool but to stand up and tell the truth that makes you look like weak and a loser in front of the people. Only some of them know only a brave recovering heart is able to do that. Your speach has validated all the victims of childhood abuse who know what has happened to them and haven't dared to speak up yet.

Beautiful soul so brave Thank you for this.

You were great Katy. I am putting this on my Facebook page because it is so important. I am 75yo. I have been in therapy once a week for about 4 decades trying to learn to deal with PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) from childhood abuse. You are so right that some people don't want to hear about it but family secrets are deadly. They allow abuse to go on and on. Thank you Katy. I admire you so much. You are very brave and what you are doing will, I am certain, help many others who have suffered.

It took you enormous courage to give this talk. Here's to your continued growth and education (go to public universities and work and you won't need the money your father squandered.). Giving this talk was a beautiful service to the thousands of people who've heard you. Blessings to you.

I'm a survivor of trauma myself. I cannot believe how rampant this problem is! there should be incentives for people to learn proper parenting- and everyone should really think long and hard about becoming a parent. Society needs to change the stigma that if a woman like myself decides not to have kids then I must hate kids. The reason being that I'd be bringing an innocent life into this world that I cannot fully give myself to, because of being a trauma victim. (I also cannot be touched physically without flipping out.) There are so many aspects to this topic of abuse and trauma. And it is a complete myth, just as she states in her talk, that victims can (without support) just forget about it and move on. No, we can't. We are broken souls without a support system who never got the proper intervention or received justice for our abuse. I'll never bring a child into this sad excuse for society.

I can clearly see how she badly she has been abused by the way she is speaking. It hurts. But i must say she they the bravest girl. The way she stood for herself with all that childhood trauma. Huge respect and love for you girl ❤️

It is never okay to abuse. It was never your fault you have a shitty father. You are brave, and strong! Keep being the voice of many!

The sad part about growing up this way is that it hurts worse at her age, but it disrupts your life more-when you least expect it-at middle age.

Katy, I would be honored to be your father. Just know that your biological father must have been extremely abused as a child and what he did came as a result of his damage from his abuse--nothing to do with you. no healthy person, especially a parent, could do and say the things he did to you. you deserve so much more! and thanks for being a courageous role model to the world! I get the feeling you are here for a purpose, a noble purpose. keep on keeping on!

why, didn't anyone, help.

I actually cried while watching this video. I'm a victim of child abuse. Because of me being a victim. It had change my entire life. No one is going to be having empathy regarding your state and how you feel. But rather they would see you as a victim and someone vulnerable for attack. I'm once told, please don't cry don't try to get empathy from others.

Brought me to tears because I related so much. In fact, at 13 years old my grade 7 teacher pulled me aside and literally asked me if I was okay and offered help and support. I was too blind to see it due to how brainwashed I was to believe that my home life was in the slightest bit normal (emotional and physical abuse/neglect, Narcissistic Dad and Enabler Mum). I even denied there was something wrong even though it was blatantly obvious due to my withdrawal, choice of clothing, and because I was writing lyrics and poetry about suicide on my binder and for assignments. Because of my denial, nothing came of it though, but I really appreciate the attempt because he was the only person who actually tried to help me, who even took notice.

What she said at the end...something similar to that happened to me, recently. It was very painful. She's right, those people are not real friends. Nor do they have your best interest at heart and they care more about their own comfort and delusions than having compassion and empathy for the pain you've suffered from the childhood trauma you've endured. It doesn't matter whether it seems tame or not to someone else. It's about the fact that you were traumatized from it, that's all that matters. We're not too sensitive or any of the other bullshit people like to spew to diminish and minimize the consequences of what these ABUSERS have done to us. I think she is brave for speaking out about this and it was very encouraging. Thanks Katy, so much and have a wonderful, peaceful, safe life. :)

I wish this never had happened to you. And I wish I had never been abused. I was molested by a neighbor. I was in a terrible marriage. I was stalked and could not get adequate help. You are so brave to speak up. I support you and affirm your speaking up and speaking out. You thrive! You thrive!

I am so proud of this lady, it takes an extraordinary amount of bravery to stand up like this and talk about childhood trauma free. It is inspirational to see but also hard to watch. I cried watching it because it hurts to see her struggling to speak and had parallels to my own childhood. Wishing her and all other survivors an extra dose of love and strength.

I've been bullied since I was 4 years old and am still being bullied now in the workplace. This past month, I've just learned how to stand up for myself, but it's gotten worse. I've just reported everything to WorkSafeBC and when they started the investigations today, the manager is suddenly making false claims that I was fired for harassing other employees even though I was actually called by the manager and told they can't give me anymore shifts due to my "lack of availability" even though I was able to work 5 days a week every week. I am afraid to return to the work place to a new employer. I've never recieved justice for any bullying that has been done to me before but when I was 11 I was suspended for a day for gossiping about this one other girl in my class that everyone was bullying her too. It seems everyone is allowed to do this to each other and to me and get away with it but I can't even if I tried. :(

When you can relate so much that it hurts...

“Maybe if I wouldn’t have said anything it would’ve been better”

Thank you for sharing this. You can tell by her body language how difficult it must have been to share all this in front of a crowd. I discuss similar issues and solutions to understand the root cause as to why such things happen in my KZfaq videos. Feel free to take a look.

Actually been there with the "I hate you - I wish you were never born" bit with mother - she used to say that to all of us siblings. The one thing I always asked myself is "why did you even have children then?" or "why did you have more children then you could handle?". This was on top of all the harsh harsh beatings of course. Now I can't help but get furious when I hear about people having more children than they can handle. Especially when there are people who are positive loving people who can't even have a single child.

she is so cute. a real child of the universe. god loves you!

How very brave of you to share your story. I cried when you said your dad flicked lit cigarettes at you. I hope you continue your healing journey. You are of great value.

I’m 70 years old and I’m still struggling to some degree with the affects of abuse I experienced from birth to age 25. This talk is so important because it can be hard for others to understand why I ‘m not “all better” by now. So, I’m going to let Katy explain for me.

takes a lot of guts to do this. I really admire her.

Im a trauma survivor and suffer from complex PTSD. I couldnt even get through the video. Know your limits if its too much right now its too much. I will come back to this video in the future when I am ready

When I was nine I had an accident at school. A kid threw a rock at my eye! It was an accident. My grandma was taking care of me like 90% of the time. she didn't have legal custody of me. So I have to see my mom at last 2 weekends a month. So 3 days after my accident. I still had a black eye and very swollen. I had to go see my mom and step dad. I got to her house in the middle of no where. Went into the kitchen and my mom made me wash the dishes, it was full of maggots everywhere! After she made me do them she locked her and my step dad in there room all day long! I only seen maybe 2 times a day! She left me by myself. I no toys no tv nothing! So the first day. I was hungry so I knocked on her door she said make my own dinner. She said they had no propane so no stove. So there was nothing to eat but pbj and milk. I ate nothing but pbj morning noon and night. 4th day we ran out of bread. So I was starving so I found a small slice of cake in the back of the fridge wrapped in paper. I ate it. About an hour later mom screamed my name out from the kitchen. She asked me if I ate the cake I said yes! She slapped me in the face and hit the eye that was still swollen from the rock because the rock did a lot of damage. I landed on the floor and I started screaming. She sent me to my room! 15mins later she came in with a bowl of soup and this green liquid I ate the soup drink the green liquid and feel asleep. I found out later it was liquid pain killers. I basically slept the next 2 days in her house. When she was taking me back to my grandma she said if told anybody what she did she would tell everybody I was lying and no one would believe me. So when I was 16 found out that I had glaucoma and I was going blind in the eye that she and the rock hit. I lost quit a bit of vision in that eye in the matter of 1 year before I got surgery to stop my vision loss. Every time I see a new eye doctor they ask me how did I get glaucoma soo young and I tell them about the rock but not my mom. They knew I wasn't tell them the whole story. It toke 22 years for me to tell my family the real full story of my eye and what my mom did. That was 2 years ago.

What courage and awareness at such a young age. I have worked with numerous people in healing the deep wounds abuse and neglect of any kind create at the DNA level. Shamanic energy healing can heal and transform these experiences. A lot of what our parents carried not only occurred to them, but they also carried programming at the cell level that was passed on to them and to their children. It is very insidious.

Thank you I am 59 and suffer from extreme childhood trauma , I really need help.

Wow....I can relate. I went through a lot of abuse as a child growing up since the age of 4 watching my father beat my sisters with belts for just being themselves. Growing up in elementary I didn't speak, I was really quite as a child and teachers thought I had mental problems for not speaking but it was because I wasn't allowed to express myself and I thought it was normal. I thought that everybody life was like mine growing up. I then developed a speech problem and I'm 24 now and still have a little bit of speech problems when I speak which causes me to studder sometimes. I currently still live with my mom which can be abusive at times but I learned how to set boundaries and even though I live with my abuser I have cut ties and I don't speak to her. I'm trying to get myself together financially because the fear of being stuck in this abuse is really big for me these couple days which causes me anxiety and fear. It's hard because I find myself crying or wanting to cry because the INNER child is scared.

My Dad is still cruel to me, at 39 years old. And he enjoys it. I have learned now that he is the problem. Not me. But, I also have finally learned that he is not worth crying over. He never loved me. I had to accept this and expect this. Now it's time for ME to heal. Thanks for this speech.

I'm so proud of her for telling her story and finding safe people who remind her how wonderful she is. I'm also happy that she has a good mom who listened and is active in protecting her. My mom couldn't do that when I told her about my abuse, she ignored me and changed the subject. I'm so glad she has the guts to tell her story

This helped so much, I'm starting to begin the healing. I'm 24 and finally left I stayed to help out but everything I did was never enough.

She is so brave and eloquent to have spoken out about the injustice done to her..........prayers for the sister

Being abused as a male by a single mother.. how do I relayed. She fed me clothed me, beat me with a hair brush. How do I, white privileged, male relate? I'm actually asking?

Man I felt so alone and seeing people like u speak out and people in the comments makes me feel understood and not alone . To everyone we should all seriously form a group to be there for each other ! Where all in this together . Wishing all u a full recovery! Recovery is possible just takes hard work . :)

I can't believe how incredibly strong she is to have stood on stage and spoken this way. I hope time heals her

You can so tell how hard it was for her to talk about this, I cried so much in this, I can’t relate.

Very Powerful . You can tell she still feels strong emotional pain while mentioning few of her experiences. Very strong & Brave girl helping others while dealing with pain herself. She’s a warrior.

you can tell she still has anxiety :/.props to her, but I agree I was looking for the part on how to heal. this video didn't help much

Wow this lady did a most remarkable job in her presentation. I felt her intense isolation wrap around me like an oily slime. Know it well. Love you Katy :-)

You are SO brave, for getting up there, giving this talk and sharing your story. I'm 27 and only just started dealing with my childhood trauma a year or two ago, it's been hard but seeking out information and resources (much like yours) have given me the courage to start healing. Thank you, you are doing amazing things and have a bright future.

i am x pleased this issue is finally coming out. at 63 i am still struggling with the effects of infant and childhood emotional neglect and invalidation. it has deeply undermined my one chance of 'a good life' and finding professional help for it has been non existant. instead only the symptoms have been diagnosed and 'treated'. why? this is a serious question because it goes to the heart of our true human nature, our natural right to live that life and the pathological drive by others to control us.

Wow when she started speaking about the all them hateful words and emotional abuse my emotions were overwhelming

I think the worst thing about abuse is the psychological side of it, it’s all equally bad but there’s something cruel and sadistic about making someone feel worthless. I deal with this every single day, my dad was/is an abuser and nothing will ever get done about it.

One of the best talks i've watched! She's so brave and strong. I too have childhood trauma which was not from abuse but from growing up in a dysfunctional home with mentally ill parents and alcoholism. I wish people would include us when they speak of childhood trauma, we were not all beaten or insulted some of us just saw and heard and lived with things we shouldn't have. But this is still a good talk and it still resonated with me nonetheless.

Thank you so much for sharing this Katy! It really helps me feel that I am not alone. I have been going through a hard time in my life and many who I considered my friends turned their backs at me when I tell them my problems. I usually wondered it is because my problem is to heavy for them to hear? But I guess you are right, real friends are those who won’t trivialize your problem and be there for you! Thanks for giving me hope.

Noone should ever have to go thru what you went thru. You are so smart and so pretty. Stay strong.

Hugs sis.. Can clearly hear the pain and shivers in your voice. Love you!! One can never just 'move on' from childhood abuse. It's a very hard process. Sadly there has never been enough talk about this because we want to maintain the 'sanctity' of family. This has led to generational traumas and the abuse gets worse from one generation to another and just never stops until an aware person decides to break the cycle. It's interesting how everything we do now as grown ups has a link to what we witnessed or went through as children. It's really necessary to recognize the damage we went through as children in order to live peacefully and let others live peacefully as well. Hats off to you again!!

I applaud you for standing up there and talk as you did. It is not easy. Emotional abuse is highly damaging... Many Blessings to you. Keep taking, bringing awareness to all.

There’s no way on earth I could clap loud enough but I would clap till my hands fell off! That was real courage from a lioness with an awesome message. Outstanding Katy!

I love you. Yes, you are brave, brilliant, beautiful. But I love you for another reason. You are a survivor who has taken the time to help others heal. Not all survivors think to do this. I hope you are thriving today. I hope you love and appreciate yourself for the loving person you are.

At 27, I am still trying to “unlearn” the idea that I am worthless and unloved…

This is the kind of person which makes me want to get out of bed and do something... Anything better than what the world gives us.

It breaks my heart seeing her struggling to speak and also another corner of my heart is happy that she is able to stand in front of a crowd and speak! more power to you !

Poor lady.😔❤️‍🩹

Bravo young lady

Thank you. The world needs more people like you.

very brave and courageous lady

Watching this with a lump in my throat and a tear in my eye.

I was always told in my childhood that if you go through pain now in future you won't go through it... But its been 15 years nothing changed pain grows more and more everyday, I cry everyday thinking, I would laugh the other day, when I laugh I feel like I don't deserve it. Still my parents think I am the cause of my own problems... Everyday I struggle.

This is obviously very hard for her to talk about. She is so strong and brave and I'm so grateful for her to share her experience!

Thank you for being so brave. You inspire me. I’m 52 years old and just now confronting my abuse. ❤️❤️❤️

Love and respect.

This girl is so brave for expressing herself, it's very difficult when you've been repressed. I am 32 and still suffering from emotional Trauma from my childhood and teen years. Am going to get trauma counselling soon.

You are such a brave lady sharing your story . I hope someday,that I have courage to talk about my childhood abuse from both parents

You can tell how badly this impacted her and that it has been a crazy journey for her. Go her for being able to stand up there and talk about it

I'm almost 40 and things have gotten worse over time because of childhood ptsd...

Katy, thank you for your honesty and candor. I've had students whose parents have frittered away their college funds, and it is devastating. Your presentation is powerful and important. I needed people to support me when I was a teenager and scared and desperate. I hope I am that person for my students. I'm so glad that you have a support system. You are, as your friends said, brave, and you are awesome. Thank you for speaking out.

Thank you for this talk💛. I'm also a victim of physical and emotional childhood abuse and still suffering from it. As other victims I often blame myself and can't believe I'm not "over it" yet. It's nice to know not being alone though. So thank you for this talk! 💛🙌

😥 20 year survivor of childhood abuse ,wish I had somebody to talk too ,ptsd ,anxiety, depression, wish people would care ,

I really admire this woman's courage to be vulnerable enough to stand on stage and share her story. Amazing. I hope she is proud at the fact that by just sharing this, she is helping others too.

She's obviously real young. But I'm glad she spoke up and said her peace. She's one smart cookie. I appreciate this and got something from it. I wish her the best

I've been growing up under a strict gospel household full of violence imposed on us kids, especially me, and I'm scarred for life because of this inhumane practice. Over the years, I've been helping out depressed people with suicide tendencies and found that 90% had been under the vice atleast once in their life. Parents who married late would rather look to or hear from previously married couples on how to drive their children and 90% of the said advisers don't have any formula or structured studies to really offer which often leads to a deep unspoken peril of the children who got the end of the stick. It started around the age of seven when I got the first stick, then it grew and grew to the point where I got slapped, punched, kneed, tied, batoned and concussed till the age of fifteen when I vowed to hit back since I knew damn well something is just isn't right, no matter how much they laid the hands on my head and prayed to exorcise their supposed evils at the same time. I never hit back or anything but I wouldn't give into the dark sessions anymore being forced to sleep under the bed on cement floor, toilet, reversed hog tied, etc all in the name of supposed love written in the Bible which is intrepretted in such a farce manner, the worst radicalized passage of them all. And especially hitting teenage years and seeing friends chatting with their parents, laughing, doing fun activities together and all is just phoney to even attempt when the scars are still livid being cursed, demeaned, blamed and titled as the worst kid ever for almost a decade of growing up that I had to stay away the past 12 years trying to undo the damage since I just couldn't imagine having kids and them to ever endure even a single session of those days for the life of me. But now, it's a bit easier like for the past five years or so that I got to talk to my parents about those hard times which they wouldn't dare bring it up again for the future reunion which starts this Christmas 🎅 and believe me, we all learned and it's heaven compared to the hellacious memories of a broken and vulnerable childhood. So, in closing, I'd suggest any of you or your love ones to never indulge in that proverbial rod of love because we're human and we are made to be able to communicate without a cattle prod, especially when the wrong doers have every intention to justify it as religion, culture or norms, since it deffo ain't. It is as bad and much worst than men beating on their wives because the sickness grows worst each incidents if nothing is done to neutralized it. You might wanna assume it as the reason of your successes but deep down inside, it will always haunt you when you look back life to go forward happy until and unless you confront the blackened memories, accept and learn to forgive them. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year everyone and please make a change of light in this gloomy world of innuendos and God bless you all 👍

THIS IS SO PURE AND POWERFUL

I'm sorry your dad said that to you. He obviously was wrong.

Katy, thank you for saying what others did not have the courage to say. I spent 11 years in the military, always looking for a fight, seriously... but I never had the sheer bravery to do what you did here. Im 36 years old and I truly admire you. Thank you for saying what you said. As odd as it might be for me to say, I honestly and truly wish for the opportunity and blessing to one day actually meet you. I believe your kind of strengh is contagious.

Such a generous share. Thank you x

Dad told me around 11 years old told me he never wanted us kids and never loved us . that is the tip of my yardstick of abuse .

that was really great. you were very brave and you had some very insightful opinions that made me look at my own past of when I was being abused from a different angle.