Your boyfriend wants to be pretty: Nick Thornton at TEDxTerryTalks 2012

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Your boyfriend wants to be pretty: Nick Thornton at TEDxTerryTalks 2012

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Occasionally, and probably not often enough, young men are told to embrace their feminine side. But what does getting in touch with your "feminine side" actually mean? Here, Nick Thornton (@unboringlearn), a 4th year History major at the University of British Columbia, provides a thought provoking and entertaining look at this question.
November 3rd, 2012. University of British Columbia, Vancouver, BC, Canada
Filmed by Craig Ross: Video edited by David Ng
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@zzzaaayyynnn 6 жыл бұрын

This guy is very clever, has a way of elucidating truths in a humorous manner that makes them clear.

@CatMom5050 6 жыл бұрын

My bf is better at doing his eyebrows than I am at doing mine. Sometimes he does mine! He is a wonderful father to our child and his step children. I love it that that he always dresses well and looks good. He always looks amazing! We take turns with child care, chores and errands. We fix things together and make the best of what we have.

@thebeardedseeker5633 4 жыл бұрын

sounds like a keeper :)

@johncarter5707 4 жыл бұрын

Sounds like Bruce, I mean Caitlyn Jenner

@jeanpaulgartier3404 4 жыл бұрын

" Step-children" Bahahaha :'D

@reneebear3641 4 жыл бұрын

Sounds like a nice guy.

@aasavarikakne3655 4 жыл бұрын

Congratulations!

@MandarinCat 6 жыл бұрын

I always think about this. Men should be able to like things considered by society "feminine" without necessarily being an LGBTQ man. And women should be able to like things considered by society "masculine" without necessarily being an LGBTQ woman. They're just material, they don't have consciousness and thus they don't have a personality. Everyone should have the freedom to like any material equally.

@piroshi3rd 6 жыл бұрын

Still, being a masculine trans woman or a feminine trans man is really hard - many other trans men and women kick them down for "giving trans people a bad name".

@conexos2007 5 жыл бұрын

Thats the politicians trying to rise statistics of new baby's. They use that prejudices in country sides with low education rates

@lockandloadlikehell 5 жыл бұрын

Who told you you don't have freedom?

@kristijanpetrovski2576 4 жыл бұрын

They do have the freedoms you mentioned... Everyone does what ever they want to nowadays...

@DonaldJDuck-ql3jj 4 жыл бұрын

They can, most just don't, It's not like those things are illegal, generalizations are based in reality

@SuGaRuSh14 11 жыл бұрын

I found it so sexy. And I find guys like this guy, Nick, TRULY strong guys, internally strong, not succumbing to stereotypes and disrespecting women ESPECIALLY sexy. And I think a lot of women do.

@kategirl9182 7 жыл бұрын

Oh sure. I haven't been able to find a girlfriend for years.

@acollins7467 6 жыл бұрын

Kate Girl I know how you feel....BUT one day you will find her and lover her unconditionally, have a cute family with lots of cats!!!

@d.2542 6 жыл бұрын

Yas!

@camellias.7106 6 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!

@clarkkent6035 6 жыл бұрын

You say you do but you'll go home with Stereotype Chad

@SuGaRuSh14 11 жыл бұрын

I work in a pub where I get a lot of come-ons from lary so-called "men's men" - I call them totally void of personality clones. One day a guy comes in with his buddies and orders a wine, to a chorus of: "GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY!" He simply looked up and said "Yes, yes I am gay." Now, the guy probably wasn't gay, he was being facetious, and this made me like him so much that I served him first all night.

@janejane1154 6 жыл бұрын

thats funny because i sure do seem to have no shortage of partners

@janejane1154 6 жыл бұрын

female partners*

@lockandloadlikehell 4 жыл бұрын

@@janejane1154 Yeah, every alpha female (hot, healthy, pretty face and nice body) I know likes big, strong men. That's all I've ever experienced, too-- but, obviously if they are going to date me, they also like (crave) what I look like.

@jelka1239 4 жыл бұрын

I think your example might be an american thing ! In Italy almost everyone drinks wine 😂😂😂

@phorn100 4 жыл бұрын

@@janejane1154 s

@nick3790 6 жыл бұрын

I am a dude that is so frustrated with these gender roles, I’ve isolated myself, become depressed in the past, questioned my gender, had a literal identity crisis... it’s been insanely hard to be at all comfortable with who I am; and it’s still not easy to feel normal, or happy because of male stereotypes.

@Leo-zk9rd 6 жыл бұрын

Nick Hyde once you do whatever you feel like doing you'll feel so much better. Just don't care what people think and go for it man. Do what you think will make you happy. ❤

@zualapips1638 6 жыл бұрын

Nick Hyde You gotta accept yourself and disregard what people say. I'm a man, I know that but I don't do things that most men do and that's fine. I like my life, I like the way I am, and I'm successful doing what I'm doing. Being an average man has so many limitations. Be proud and happy that you happened to be different and didn't fall into that boring and limiting life.

@tom-dahl1598 6 жыл бұрын

I feel for you brother. I'm the same.

@remisavard9298 6 жыл бұрын

I've opened up about this - my femininity - to my wife. I'm 39, father of a 9 y.o. It's never too late. Do what feels right for YOU.

@MD-uu5nt 6 жыл бұрын

Hmmm I know how all of the comments here seem to be reinforcing your idea that gender roles are somehow bad. However, all, and I really do mean all, of the data shows that people who show signs of gender dysphoria suffer from a whole gamut of mental health issues. Gender roles work and those who dont adhere to them do much worse in all areas of life.

@LTProductionsInc 7 жыл бұрын

We need more men like Nick

@artchap2861 6 жыл бұрын

LTProductionsInc more humans like him ouo

@asherschmidt9820 5 жыл бұрын

I could enjoy having a nick for myself, who could also stand me lol

@kristijanpetrovski2576 4 жыл бұрын

No we really don't... It is perfectly acceptable for people to be themselves in modern society, all this dude is doing is screeching in the wind because some people can me mean...

@richtigmann1 4 жыл бұрын

yes

@wolfferoni 6 жыл бұрын

I love this so much. This video was made years ago and it's more relevant than ever. It would be more successful too if it was released now

@lockandloadlikehell 5 жыл бұрын

Real men don't "want to be pretty". None I know and lots of my closest friends are world class athletes. People can "like" whatever they want. No one is stopping you.

@justinsummers1757 5 жыл бұрын

@@lockandloadlikehell Um..you'd be surprised what/who stops an individual from being themselves.

@reneebear3641 4 жыл бұрын

lockandloadlikehell Your comment contradicts itself. Real men can’t like feminine stuff but everyone can be feminine. You’re an example of what this man is talking about. Society tells him he can’t be a real man if he’s pretty. You prove that point.

@apo7ki 6 жыл бұрын

Whenever I'm out for a drink with my boyfriend in a pub and I push myself back form laughing. I like beer, he doesn't, but the waiter or the waitress, regardless the order we made, systematically will hand me his cola and him my beer. OOh, man u.u

@tjroberts2555 5 жыл бұрын

federica chiti same thing happens to us I’m the male and I rarely drink alcohol Lol But they always bring me the whiskey and coke

@derKischda 4 жыл бұрын

Well probably most of the time that's correct. You can't blame them if you're more the exception from the rule.

@E_MZ_ 4 жыл бұрын

Daniel Kö thats why I never assume. I’m a server and if I’m taking drinks to a table where I don’t know who ordered what, I’ll ask. Also, I’m a woman and I quite prefer beer to wine. I also really like bourbon and whiskey.

@deez-neuf 4 жыл бұрын

OMG, life is so unfair, em ay right gurlz ?

@astrowyrm6871 2 жыл бұрын

@@deez-neuf bruh

@beardjuice 11 жыл бұрын

a woman in an over-sized flannel shirt fixing my car while I was the dishes in a french maid outfit.... why does that turn me on?

@smilescomeforfree5855 7 жыл бұрын

Because you're rad

@karlrschneider 6 жыл бұрын

Isn't that completely normal in Northern Quebec?

@f.u.c8308 6 жыл бұрын

because it is hot?

@calebmatthews2026 6 жыл бұрын

I was the dishes

@nellutterback 6 жыл бұрын

how did it feel being dishes?

@leboo2021 11 жыл бұрын

"We want rebels we can package, and sell." No, *you're* perfect. Well done, sir.

@no1rsnow 7 жыл бұрын

boi, he speaks knowledge man

@robbrent 7 жыл бұрын

Rick Astley And he's a seriously sexy Prince Harry look alike.

@ClassicDarling 11 жыл бұрын

I like this guy and would love to hear more from him!

@armaturewires1698 6 жыл бұрын

Can I marry this guy? Lol Strong message and I really liked his unique brand of humor. Loved his analogies and stories. Will be following his work.

@danbark4603 6 жыл бұрын

ok the expression " we want rebels we can package and sell" was pretty interestin

@steffighter144 7 жыл бұрын

19.272 views and it's 2017 now. I hope Nick Thornton will do another Ted Talk about this subject in the future. More people should watch this and recognise that it is truth what he said.

@davidgamache3035 4 жыл бұрын

Is it ironic that this guy is really pretty? Who wouldn't say yes to him?

@sophiejones7727 6 жыл бұрын

"you don't need to develop a dynamic and interesting personality, here's a man cave!"-oh geez, I lost it. have you considered a career in comedy?

@endrgirl6630 6 жыл бұрын

There's all ridiculous stuff about "Women are attracted to guys with their shirt off and big muscles" But to be honest? Boys with earrings, or heels, are way more attractive to me

@garethphillips6048 5 жыл бұрын

EndrGirl6! There’s a name for women attracted to the feminine. It’s fine, but it’s just your personal preference. Most straight women are attracted to the masculine.

@vincentlaw1415 4 жыл бұрын

You missing the point here. It's exactly not about this gender bender nonsense, it's the middle ground. You can be a masculine man without enjoying beer and football and be a feminine woman without drinking wine and enjoying shopping. These miner differences are just silly to over judge, like we do in society.

@7minutesago4yearsago29 4 жыл бұрын

My sister gets visibly uncomfortable when she sees a shirtless man and I don't care about shirtless men

@8BitDarkNESsR3v14 4 жыл бұрын

I like men with both muscles and a nice dress

@mangoesandgrapes688 4 жыл бұрын

Fun fact! Heels were originally worn by men

@LastDitch 11 жыл бұрын

I don't disagree. But despite the points on gender seeming self evident, our culture continues to manufacture art, business and society that does not reflect who we are. Despite it being self evident to you and I, there's a lot of people who have genuinely never though about gender constructions and my hope was that humour would help them feel less attacked and ready to engage with something that, despite your enlightened view, is still a major hurdle for most.

@temporarythoughts 6 жыл бұрын

UnboringLearning heyy, 4-years-ago Nick, you are awesome :) what are you up to these days

@thatweirdnon-binarykid1996 6 жыл бұрын

As a trans and gender non conforming person this talk is my existence. When you don't fit in the neat boxes it scares people, which is both really sad but also really funny. Like is my makeup paired with my tie and muscles really too much? How dare I shave my head AND do ballet!!?? THE HORROR

@nagymaba6694 6 жыл бұрын

Non-Binary people are beautiful.

@twinkbreaker_ 6 жыл бұрын

Just know there are only two biological genders okay

@jacobwharton5048 6 жыл бұрын

intersex people exist Todd Howard

@meadowrae1491 6 жыл бұрын

Todd Howard Okay, cool. You can just go back to calling us Queer. I'm down with that.

@twinkbreaker_ 6 жыл бұрын

Meadow Rae You’ll get offended and I’ll get arrested for hate speech.

@happymhn 6 жыл бұрын

He is a very engaging speaker

@MrRikard1990 5 жыл бұрын

Longhaired (goth/metal) transguy watching this while knitting a scarf ^-^ It's honestly fun to break these norms, and as a bonus I'll have a super cozy scarf next winter ^-^

@rvsalka 6 жыл бұрын

Let's have a throwback to the old times when man would all gladly wear clothing with intricate floral embroidery please

@moe6000 5 жыл бұрын

and heels!

@DonaldJDuck-ql3jj 4 жыл бұрын

I mean, Hawaiian shirts are a staple among dad's

@drsnova7313 4 жыл бұрын

Or, you know, we just let everyone wear whatever *they* want, and don't push for any kind of specific fashion to please *your* eyes.

@rvsalka 4 жыл бұрын

@@drsnova7313 dude chill, it was a suggestion, not an order. i just like floral designs.

@sharenc1536 6 жыл бұрын

He looks like Thor after he got his hair cut

@ashiqulislam3605 5 жыл бұрын

I clicked the video thinking that this guy is Chris Hemsworth !! Anyway. He spoke good things.

@justinsummers1757 5 жыл бұрын

@Clayton Shearer What does that even mean??

@justinsummers1757 5 жыл бұрын

Clayton Shearer everyone’s entitled to their own opinion, I don’t happen to agree. But that’s my opinion.

@dannhymir9678 4 жыл бұрын

@Clayton Shearer oooooh, name calling. Also lets forget Thor is a fictional character.

@dannhymir9678 4 жыл бұрын

@Clayton Shearer Do you have historical and archeological proof he existed?

@sofialpaca2563 6 жыл бұрын

I'm a girl and I dig big swords and embroidery, and I refuse to be ruled by my ovaries. Preach brother.

@jaelee4244 4 жыл бұрын

This talk happened 7 years ago & it's more relevant now than ever. Perfectly delivered!

@randystevens6846 6 жыл бұрын

"The five inch heels if he doesn't know what he's doing" 😂

@slowrunn3r88 2 жыл бұрын

Lol 😂 I’m a Femboy, and I have a lot of followers on TikTok and Instagram, many of which are teenage girls who say “why the HECK does this man look better in a dress than me 😠” 😂😂😂 . It’s who I am, and I’m straight and cisgender. Many people love that I’m “unapologetically myself.” . Having said this, I prefer “feminine” women over “tomboys,” HOWEVER! I respect every woman expressing herself as she desires, and will give anybody a chance. It’s just, I kinda want someone who expresses herself similarly to me . But I’m happy people are being more accepting of a breaking from gender roles on any gender

@jennifersinclair7249 6 жыл бұрын

And a guy that adores me I can't even get serious with, because he doesn't show me ANY emotions, any vulnerabilities, anything at all except surface talk.

@saral7791 8 жыл бұрын

Oh I think just I saw my twin flame. Kudos to you! And thank you for putting yourself out there. And for putting into words so much of what I have been thinking and feeling for years.

@LastDitch 11 жыл бұрын

in response to this second part, no one's debating biology here. Gender and sex are two different things and much of what we deem "thinking different" is culturally based, not biologically determined. I suggest Cordelia Fine's excellent book "Delusions of Gender: How our Minds, Society and Nuerosexism Create Difference" for a very readable and interesting discussion on this. Send me your email and I'd be glad to explain why "showing" isn't always an option but you're not wrong. Cheers, Nick

@kenhoover1639 3 жыл бұрын

God forbid that I ever comment again on how handsome a TV, or movie star happens to be. I have done that in the past and I received a stern rebuke from my wife.

@severinosison1098 11 жыл бұрын

One of the best talks I've watched!

@Turtle1631991 11 жыл бұрын

I think I would find flannel shirt and oil stains on the girls extremely attractive, just saying...

@kingsandwich8091 6 жыл бұрын

It was called the 90s.

@DarkFoxV 7 жыл бұрын

wow. impressed by the content and delivery xD excellent speech and thoughts

@michael0.770 6 жыл бұрын

Nick, you could have a career in comedy-you're very insightful, funny, and not arrogant! Keep up the great insights about us humans.

@eerielconstantine5051 6 жыл бұрын

Pretty men and handsome women for the win!

@ArtsyTraveler90 6 жыл бұрын

This is beautiful and so very true. What a confident and strong man Nick is. This is the beauty that comes from inner growth and healing. We become free to just be.

@myearshurtnoone1367 6 жыл бұрын

such a good ted talk I love my gurly self so much!!!

@_hiraeth_ 6 жыл бұрын

This is so important. THIS IS SO IMPORTANT.

@em_1492 6 жыл бұрын

This is honestly so entartaining but also informative

@michaelmiller1215 4 жыл бұрын

I did not know who this gorgeous man was before researching; he has given the best “ TED” lecture of all those that I have viewed so far!

@agnesfonmarten 7 жыл бұрын

i had to stop this at the truck joke... the martians could hear me laughing like a madman and falling off my bed

@lyla951217 7 жыл бұрын

It's all well and good and a step in the right direction, but I wish he had gone into the harmful aspects that gender roles place on out society. Men are 3:1 times more likely to commit suicide than women, which is no shocker when you realize that from a young age boys are taught that they have to be masculine, tall, muscled and aren't allowed to cry or show emotion, because "only girls cry". Suppressing your emotions builds up, especially if you have a mental disorder like depression. They're taught that only "masculine" emotions are allowed to be expressed, that they have to be angry or aggressive. And it's harmful to everyone. If men are taught that being "feminine" is weak or shameful, then women are automatically painted as weak and lesser. Think about it. If a boy is called a "pussy" it's this terrible awful thing. A woman's genitals. However if you're called a "dick" it's less of an insult. Because at least THEN you're MALE genitals. I dunno, I'm going off on a tangent. Point is; feminism.

@Turtle1631991 7 жыл бұрын

And don't you think that opposite factor might be at work as well. That radicalfeminism has created atmosphere where masculine traits are somehow shameful and are supressed? Think elementary schools where traits exhibited typically by boys are punished and berated while traits more typical for girls are rewarded. Add to the stew fact that a lot of boys lack male figures when growing up who would teach them how to handle being man. For example very natural testosterone-fueled agressive traits almost every boy/man will feel in his life at some points need to be managed and released in socially acceptable manner. I am sorry but I think it might be very hard for female parent and/or educator to truly understand and relate... In part I agree with you. Culture of toxic masculinity and machism is definitely harmful. (Interestingly enough it is fairly modern western invention. In a lot of "primitive" cultures men were able to hunt and fight and so on but at the same time had no shame when crying about death of loved one and so on..) But so is Looking at masculinity through our fingers and not letting boys just be boys.

@kuroichan101 7 жыл бұрын

I dont think it is gender roles that makes men act like that. When you have more testosterone you are more likely to be violent, etc especially women are actually more suicidal its just that men are more successful. Women would most likely kill themselves passively like by taking pills while men would do something more like shoot themselves.

@user-zu1ix3yq2w 6 жыл бұрын

Lydi@ I blame women.

@Galaxy-gx9fp 4 жыл бұрын

@@user-zu1ix3yq2w dude don't blame women in fact don't blame anybody. Instead take steps to reduce this, however small it maybe.

@user-zu1ix3yq2w 4 жыл бұрын

@@Galaxy-gx9fp lol, white knight. good luck on your quest.

@gayathrikumari4058 6 жыл бұрын

The idea of being so neutral of gender will allow us to focus on more important things . Like ideas and poetry that no one else had though before.

@thebeastincarnate5736 4 жыл бұрын

Yeah Poetry is do important lmao Gender roles are natural Going against it is going against nature

@FlockofAngels Жыл бұрын

A beautiful man with beautiful ideas... 💖

@pooplord4337 6 жыл бұрын

Lol my boyfriend and I have matching nail polish. Are there really people who police each other that much?

@koreenphotogirl 5 жыл бұрын

This is exactly what feminism is about...busting those gender roles. Nothing hotter than a guy wearing eyeliner. Love this!

@Galaxy-gx9fp 4 жыл бұрын

One name :- magnus bane

@jordant2322 6 жыл бұрын

One of my favorite ted talks.

@dimatadore 6 жыл бұрын

I’m attracted to him. But I also really like pink pens 🤷🏻‍♀️

@e.hhampsen4508 6 жыл бұрын

I might be wierd, but I don't really want to date a guy who doesn't want to be pretty, over masculinity is over rated and honestly I'm tired of it. Although I'm too young to decide on s sexaul label just yet, I think I'm pansexual, and although perfectly OK with being a female, would like to be able to play both of the classic gender roles in whatever relationship, the damsel AND the prince.

@Bruh-br6ym 6 жыл бұрын

I feel the exact same! Awesome :>

@piroshi3rd 6 жыл бұрын

Pansexual people are the best. I'm a really feminine trans guy and my last girlfriend (who was pan) never ever made me feel unmasculine but happily celebrated my femininity with joy and support, she just liked every side of my feminine-masculine spectrum. She is so sweet and we're still good friends who talk all the time.

@Thisisnotausername_ 6 жыл бұрын

Fixing my car while wearing my flannels? I would be scared. I don't want oil on my flannels :)

@amalphia63 4 жыл бұрын

We have a family friend with the husband who calls himself a “house husband”, cooking, cleaning, watching the kids, and drinking wine and is proud of it while his wife contentedly fixes the furnace and kills the spiders

@GerBarne 11 жыл бұрын

I agree that this is true for a lot of people but not for me, I love the notebook and shoes, "mens" one's granted but I also find little babies cute. So instead of trying to TELL everyone that it's not cool or useful to stick to very precise gender roles, how about being the change and SHOWING them that it is cool and interesting to stray away from them?

@Satan666Official 6 жыл бұрын

Friends often tell me I'm the man in my relationship, and my boyfriend is the woman. 😂 I like to be big spoon, help him through mood swings, and don't mind sometimes paying for dinner. He is bravely himself. And that is what's manly ❤ 🙂

@yadi5808 7 жыл бұрын

Love this speech ❤

@sedadilarakuru3139 6 жыл бұрын

This speech was delivered amazingly.

@hannahmich7342 7 жыл бұрын

I'm lucky I was born with one testis and one ovary, so I don't need to pretend

@santaana4493 6 жыл бұрын

wait how does that work? if you dont mind me asking

@Ren-ck3cl 6 жыл бұрын

@jennaferhuffstetler6622 6 жыл бұрын

Have you ever seen the movie Predestination? The main character (John/Jane) is also intersex. It's a really great movie about a paradox. It has a deep, often confusing plot, but it's legit my favorite movie ever.

@santaana4493 6 жыл бұрын

Jennafer Huffstetler I'll definitely check it out!!

@Snow-sx5ev 6 жыл бұрын

Hannah mich honey I wish,

@lastday2274 6 жыл бұрын

The future I'm ready for.

@matchavez6915 6 жыл бұрын

Well..... I REALLY do hate shopping but..... Alot of this is true

@Jiian 6 жыл бұрын

I think the problem is really that people don't spend enough time being introspective. Although to some degree stereotypes hold true (men tending toward things, women tending towards social interactions), it isn't always true, and when it is true, there are varying degrees of it. But the weird culture of shaming for not holding to societal norms is something I've never understood. I don't get why people feel the need to govern how other people act. As long as people aren't getting hurt, what is the problem?

@aldenheterodyne2833 4 жыл бұрын

I'm a closeted trans man. I kept denying that I was a man because I occasionally like to feel pretty, and because I like the feeling of swishing skirts. I'm still closeted, but my femininity does not challenge my masculinity anymore. Most of the time, I am required to wear drag, and I mostly hate it. I have to interview as a woman, because I have not transitioned, and most employers don't want to hire a tr*nny. But, there are occasions when I want to wear drag. So woe betide anyone who keeps me or any other man from dressing in a flouncy pink dress. I have seen people with luxurious beards absolutely rock dresses. I hope that when I transition, I too can wear a beautiful beard and dress.

@markfoster1520 2 жыл бұрын

Sorry to respond so late....but...I really love the beard!

@XX-gy7ue 4 жыл бұрын

this is only the vestibule , open the door to the house , AND SET IT ON FIRE ! BRAVO BRAVO

@TheMoonDejesus 4 жыл бұрын

My masculine boyfriend and I love shopping together. We pick things out for each other m, help each other decide. We like cool fashion and art. He cooks. He makes beautiful wild flower bouquets. He also chops wood for our fire. Builds buildings on our property, fixes engines, changes my oil, surfs big waves. I’m more likely to defend a stranger and get into a conflict. I’m a writer an intellectual (sometimes hyper logical) as well as a dancer and other stereotypically fem things.

@purnimatripathi7722 6 жыл бұрын

need people like this person

@blueheartsystem1502 4 жыл бұрын

my dad cooks, cleans, takes care of the grandkids when they get sick, and always picked my siblings and i up from school. my mom went to university, works late nights, is generally the family breadwinner, gives the punishments/groundings, and sports a short haircut with (usually) a fairly masculine outfit. however, my mom has always been very sentimental and my dad caring, but stoic. they are comfortable within their roles, not because their roles were what society assigned to them, but because they chose the roles that suit them, individually, the best. they are not strictly masculine or feminine. they are who they are and I love them.

@callmeswivelhips8229 6 жыл бұрын

He has the most beautiful hair...I wonder what he would look like if he grew it down to his shoulders?

@cblittlefield3 11 жыл бұрын

Hilarious & Relevant

@rosmary3461 7 жыл бұрын

Very well spoken!

@standin-us7016 6 жыл бұрын

Funny, brave, insightful & speaks about so many elements of perception in how we all define what it is to be a man and woman. Why don't we all just strive to be "hu-man" lol.....Loved it!!

@jacquesmostert3942 Жыл бұрын

OMG how we have changed. Loving the future we are creating right now.

@beth-bi9yv 5 жыл бұрын

So true!!! Great speaker, proves how disarming humour can be!!

@lanbao2010 11 жыл бұрын

Great commentary on gender boundaries! Loved the presentation. I'm not entirely sure how these gender roles could be minimized though - what suggestions do you have?

@sohandesai4055 4 жыл бұрын

Imagine if a woman gave this speech. All those "alpha rational males" would be going nuts in the comment section whining about SJWs.

@kimalanball 7 жыл бұрын

In just a few decades, many of the bigots, haters, and religious terrorists from the baby boomer generation and the one that followed, will have finally croaked and will have been replaced with forward-thinking, compassionate, loving people. This amazing gender bending momentum will continue its forward advance, and people will be allowed to be themselves at long last. It's going to be a bright future. Thanks Nick Thornton for your contribution.

@jessykapop 6 жыл бұрын

K. Alan Ball you are 100000% I can’t wait until those assholes die so our country will finally be great!!!

@undead.rising 6 жыл бұрын

Have you heard of David Bowie? Have you heard of Annie Lennox? There were more out-there gender-bending prominent figureheads during their time than ours.

@kidkangaroo5213 6 жыл бұрын

Yeah, but they had their own kids before they die, which they've indoctrinated with their bigotry and so the cycle continues...

@mayaconnor6955 6 жыл бұрын

???? I mean, I'm generation z but that's truly terrible. (You might be being sarcastic but still)

@thezestypirate3815 6 жыл бұрын

I hope you don't count yourself among those compassionate, loving people. Waiting for the last generation to die isn't exactly forward-thinking, either

@lordofthememes7983 6 жыл бұрын

Just be yourself. Do what you want to do (as long as it's not illegal). Wear what you want to wear.

@patriceanderson4661 6 жыл бұрын

Clearly alot of thought went into this ... so kinda wish I had something more intelligent to say than just... this makes me happy!! : ) Haha. Being a chick in auto and welding course with a bumper sticker awaiting a car project that says "f*** gender roles" ... may have swayed me a little though : P It is pretty cool to see more dudes speaking out on this subject too!! Yay for anyone that helps promote self acceptance!! : D

@meadowrae1491 6 жыл бұрын

I'm soooo glad my fiance and I are both queer. Even still, my poor partner still questions whether he is "man enough." It's sad.

@cemeterybackyards 5 жыл бұрын

One and a half minutes in and I'm loving this already.

@sallylee4924 6 жыл бұрын

Great talk. More people need to hear this.

@nosoynadaoriginal 6 жыл бұрын

Look at this awesome human!

@taylorf1612 2 жыл бұрын

Man spittin facts at 12:05 "We want rebels that we can package and sell, not rebels that would make us question ourselves"

@despina013 6 жыл бұрын

This guy should be a comedian.

@IronCay 5 жыл бұрын

I do want to be pretty

@adammichna5175 4 жыл бұрын

Everything he says sums it up perfectly.

@waterbender19 5 жыл бұрын

this guys amazing and this ted talk is so underrated

@Davigmuk 5 жыл бұрын

You know, it seems we're approaching a cultural 180 in society. The reason why I say that is because my aunts and my mom tell me that back in the 70's, they went to high school wearing nothing but dresses and skirts with blouses. Girls wearing jeans (considered men's clothing at the time) was quite unusual. They were seen as women who wanted to get made fun of by others. Women who wouldn't accept their femininity. But they were just expressing themselves. Now, it seems almost every school girl in the United states wears jeans. They were expressing masculinity because men were seen as strong and independent. But to this day, men wearing women's clothing are considered perverts. As opposed to men simply wanting to express more feminine qualities. Because femininity is a bit more sensitive, warm, and tender. So... What does this mean?

@ray_ayy 5 жыл бұрын

LOOK IT’S IMPORTANT IT’S IN MY SHOPPING BASKET

@kerryl7455 6 жыл бұрын

there's something called balance

@TonalliZeleste 6 жыл бұрын

I love this man !!! I am grateful for having more and more people fighting for gender equality!

@ourochroma 6 жыл бұрын

When i was little I like to choose the guys toys from the Mc Donald's selection I hated Barbies and I liked Transformers better

@MewWolf5 6 жыл бұрын

Same! I wanted Hot Wheels cars, not Polly Pockets.

@bullsquid42 6 жыл бұрын

I'm very glad I don't really see these stereotypes very often in my surrounding.

@endrgirl6630 6 жыл бұрын

Same!

@nine300 6 жыл бұрын

Awesome. This is awesome. You are awesome.

@AngelleahASMR 6 жыл бұрын

I like him, he speaks my mind

@pixlweartayy626 6 жыл бұрын

Really appreciate this talk, thanks Nick!

@MrGeocidal 6 жыл бұрын

So it's ok for guys to like pink things but if they like trucks and sports, that's against the rules? This guy is trying to break the strict gender rules, he's just trying to make a new set of strict gender rules.

@TruthQuest4700 4 жыл бұрын

Gone are the days when psychologists suggested boys who played with dolls would likely grow up to become more nurturing as fathers!

@cl0ud230 4 жыл бұрын

It's realy weird how many masculine things are now feminine and vice versa

@rinby5592 6 жыл бұрын

I think that a guy who is doing things that are considered “feminine” out of free will, just cuz he wants to or because he enjoys it, is more respectable and manly. He does what he finds enjoyable and satisfying and he doesn’t give two shits about what people are gonna say. Same with women. If it’s something that you TRULY want to do, if it brings you joy - do it. A girl fixing up a car or doing wrestling? A guy spending hours shopping and taking care of his looks? Whatever! You like it? You go do it!

@karlrschneider 6 жыл бұрын

All the commentary and comedy aside, the fact that some people seem to think that who someone they don't even know wants to sleep with or marry is any of their goddamn business. It is not.