“But he looks like a normal child” “you just baby him too much because he’s the only child” was the first response i got from my family. It made me so upset. I totally understand you.

100% feeling this, it’s insane how people not only do not get it, but they deeply believe you’re just anxious and making it up. It’s so frustrating and unfair, they know nothing, they judge and make you appear like a crazy paranoid.

“You’d never know by looking at him” “you need to play with him to help stimulate him” “It’s like you want him to be autistic” 😔 are just a few. We’re with you x

"She is normal, she needs more discipline, she dont talk cause of two languages around, a lot kids dont talk at age 2..." etc. THANK you soooo much for your video :*

I’ve never said it but my fantasy response is, “Amazing, isn’t it? And you don’t look stupid and rude.” But I didn’t. I know my children love me and I love them even more. That’s what matters most. Wish we lived close . . . I have decades of stories to share with you. Your so wonderfully for sharing. Your shares give us older “experienced” moms the gift of validation. There were no groups or even professionals. Even teachers had nothing to offer. We eventually had Special Olympics which became my safe place. We parents had each for talks, sharing, sometimes just getting a knowing smile for one another while watching our children be themselves. Let us be your knowing smile as you share your family with us. God bless you, Kiddo.

I get this comment a lot if you see my son for the most part he functions well. That the part lots of people see. They don’t see the hard parts. When your child’s anxiety causes struggles his inability to socialise his behavioural problems. This comment is the one that frustrates me more than anyone. I agree with you about not showing the meltdowns and the negatives. I want people to see my son as the beautiful person he is.

"He is spoiled" is what I have gotten in regard to my 6 yr old who has autism. An old friend of mine (no longer a friend) who is a social worker (don't let me get into that) said to me once "He doesn't look autistic". I almost pictured myself cussing her out. My own mother-in-law has said "he has problems". Not once do I get "you are doing great" or "can I help?" or "wow he has come such a long way".

Yesteday I had someone (who barely knows my son) screaming at me, that there is nothing wrong with my son, that it is ALWAYS the parents fault. IT IS YOUR FAULT! I am very proud that I kept calm and explained what autism is, and that there really is nothing wrong with him, but that he sometimes needs help and in the end he understood (hopefully) a littlebit better. Thank you so much for making these videos, they help me so much. And by the way, my nose has been broken too, because he liked to smash his had against things out of nowhere- smiling.

"You shouldn't just let him get away with this behaviour." Or "He needs to learn how to interact with other kids normally." I had someone once say to me when he was having a meltdown in a restaurant because he got a pink ball from a quarter machine and he wanted a yellow one "This is how mass shooters are made" as I was on my way out of the restaurant to get him some fresh air to calm down. If I wasn't holding my son I would've punched the dude. One of the servers actually heard the person say that because by the time we came back the owner kicked him out, got the key to the machine and manually got him the yellow ball. This was probably the rudest comment anyone has made and it felt like a knife through my heart. But it was also the kindest anyone has been to my son, which I didn't quite expect at the moment. Definitely had our share of "you must discipline him more" comments.

I was diagnosed last year that I was on the ASD spectrum. I was 62. I don’t look like it on the outside. Throughout my childhood and beyond, I ‘masked’ to avoid punishment, ridicule, etc….But if you know me well enough (though not many do), you will see that it makes sense. I was relieved when I was diagnosed because it explained sooooo much!!! Now that I know the ‘why’s’, I am NOT ashamed. Today people have become so sensitive and on the flip side; are so intolerant. We can not change them, but we can choose to not let them change or have control over us (that is GODS job)!

My pets peeves: "He'll grow out of this or that" or " You need to do other things with him and play with him more, it's how kids learn"

I just found out that my son is autism and ive shared with my immediate family.. No one have ask me that statement your child doesnt look autistic but now when i visit them they tend to lock up a few corner of the house so that my son dont go there.. There was no verbal communication abt my son yet but their actions hurts me as much

My children's first pediatrician. I brought up concerns about their development at their 1 year check up, then again at their 16 month check up. He completely dismissed me... I had an extremely difficult year that year. 3 special needs children, a husband who worked 3rd shift. No friends and family for help. I missed quite a few doctors appointments due to lack of sleep. And also feeling like going to the appointments would be a completele waste of time. By time I brought the kids back to the Dr to get them caught up on vaccines they were falling behind on. They were all so far behind with speech and motor skills. The Dr had the audacity to yell at me. As if it were my fault they were behind. Long story short, child services showed up the next week. The doctor went so far as to call child services on me... needless to say we never went back to that Dr. We have since found a far better pediatrician. I just couldn't believe it. Worst Dr ever.

Yes I get these comments too! This whole journey is so individual… each child is so unique. Thank you for your content ❤😊

We’re in the middle of diagnoses and people around me oh gosh they drive me crazy and when I say around me I mean the closest people like my mom “nothing is wrong with her she’s spoiled” I’m trying so hard to not say anything bad to those people that I’m in antidepressants 🤷🏻‍♀️ life you know sometimes people around you even your partner the closes family they can’t understand what you going truth it’s hard but I got this. Thank you for your videos they make me feel like I’m not alone you give hope

I have been told by my family and still tell me that my son doesn't look autistic and isn't autistic either. They say he's just slow. When I ask them, "so what does an autistic child look like?" They respond with, "a child that doesn't look at you and stares aimlessly at the wall most of the day." My family has some nerve to even so much as think that a person with autism is like that. They don't seem to understand that it's a spectrum and no two autistic children are going to act exactly the same. I've even been told by strangers, that I need to stay home with my son. That really got to me. It made me cry so bad. Some people have no sense of compassion or understanding. Anyways, thanks for allowing me to share. You're a great mama, thanks for sharing your experiences.

I can't believe other people can be so harsh and judge so quickly. Please don't take it too seriously, I think you are doing a great job! Especially since you have other children too. It's a crazy balance to keep. Thanks for sharing your life with us. Hugs and kisses. 🥰🤗

I get this statement often too! And honestly I remember that being the hard part of me accepting my children being neurodiverse... sometimes I myself forget and have my expectations of them, and then have to be reminded of their challenges in processing things or reacting to things. After awhile I just got used to some people saying this , and even just look at it as them trying to say something nice or compliment (like maybe they think it’s like saying “you don’t look fat!” 🧐), and it is coming from a place of good intention, that this is a way to make us feel better 🤷‍♀️ Which is why we keep working at destigmatizing neurodiversity (especially in my culture), and vlogs like yours are such a big blessing to families like ours ❤️

Please stay strong for Dylan as you always have as his loving and understanding mom. Sometimes, others are not mindful, and that's when you have to forgive them because you are a better mom!

Hello, great video. I am an autistic adult and I got diagnosed at 23 years old (now 27). Getting a diagnosis came in stages for me, first the denial, then the realisation and then anger. My nephew is also going through the process of a diagnosis and has been for quite a while too. I hate the phrases like 'you must be high on the spectrum', 'everybody is a little bit autistic' and 'I would have never of known you were autistic'. These phrases are very invalidating and it's super hard to be autistic in a NT run world.

Yes I've had the "you need to make him listen to you!" "He's becoming a brat" "even if he doesn't understand, he can be told" etc etc and this is from family. There are times it has made me cry and other times made me extremely angry. Peoe need to just be supportive.... our children are sensitive, loving, happy individuals who are CAPABLE but anxious.... all we need is a good listener and a good old cuppa tea! 💜💜💜 your videos are like the friend and cuppa tea im looking for. 🥰 thank you. X

🙏❤🇨🇦 I am a special needs bus attendant on a school bus... I understand... as well as my special needs aunt lives with me... and because of covid 19 there isn't much respite around...

I absolutely love your channel... and that you focus on the wins and not the meltdowns and all the bad bits. My spirit is up now that you helped me focus on the wins. Thank you😊

You are really helping me. Thank you. Bless you and your family x

I'm feeling incredibly along right now so i'm very grateful for you videos. Thank you 🌺

I found this channel just at the right time as I struggle daily with my son who is now 6 and was diagnosed when he was 4 almost 5. I’m still trying to wrap my head around it. I just want to help him and I want him to be happy and have a happy life. He is finally communicating and asking for what he wants I don’t always understand him but I try. It makes me so hopeful when I see your wins with Dylan. You are such an inspiration to me and thank you so much for allowing us into your home.

Thanks so much for sharing your family with us who are going through similar stories with autism.

Thank you very much tara. I love all your vlogs. Always looking forward for new episodes

Your videos not only give me hope but help keep me going...thank you

I’m just starting the intake and testing process for my daughter. I found you about 3 days ago. I’ve never related to a family more. Thank for sharing! You’re helping me so much ❤️

Thank you. I just found you and this is my second video. I'm crying. I have a 4 year old that is going through the high functioning diagnosis and I am SO happy I found you!!

So open and honest and completely relate to so much of what you share, thank you! It's lovely to share in the joys and wins with Dylan, keep going!

Yes. My daughter was diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder and ADHD. I can't begin to tell you how many times people told me that she was just spoiled or that she just needed more discipline. Yeah. Time outs and taking away her phone didn't quite work with her. ODD is a challenge to say the least. She's 22 now ,she's doing great and she's pregnant with a daughter of her own. She has grown up a lot and has made really good choices. I couldn't be more proud of her. I know it's not the same as autism but I feel like some of the challenges are similar.

Omg I heard all of it so many times 🙄 Once I had a comment from an older lady. So we just finished S&L review session and sadly theprapist chose wrong activity to close our session... cars... my son loves car and he just couldn’t understand why we had to finish playing while he was having a great fun. So things escalated quickly and he had a meltdown... as we were leaving the hospital, me trying to get him of the floor, him screaming and shouting :( I was a hot mess nearly crying myself and I hear this “ What a naughty child” I have to admit I wanted to rip her head of at that moment in time... This was the last thing I needed to hear. She could clearly see I was struggling but yet she had to make this comment very loud so everyone in waiting area could hear her. End of rant 😂😂 Love the video xx

Thank you for your video, it really makes me feel I am not alone. All the comments you mentioned have been given to me but probably the worst of them all was (I was the main reason or cause that my son is autistic), as hard it was at that time, it made me stronger and not care about the mean people, and deep inside I know that my son will be the best as long as I love him.

Discovered your channel today. Thank you for speaking honestly. It's true those not in our club of "elite" parents will never understand. And it can be the lack of empathy from friends and family that hurts the most. Sometimes the best encouragement I get is hearing from someone who has been there. Love from California

Can so relate to this. Thank you for putting this out there.

My grandson has stopped talking from about 20 months, at his 12 months he was saying lots of words and putting sentences together and then he stopped and just made noises and didn't respond to his name , he had hearing tests , nothing wrong with his hearing, won't look at us , looks at us from the corner of his eye and if he is facing you he looks straight through you , if that makes any sense , the health visitor has now referred him to speech therapy and we are waiting for an opointment, he has meltdowns, spins around flicks his fingers , bangs his head and hits me and his mum and so on , thank you for your videos, things are starting to make sense now before we didn't know why my grandson was doing certain things , he lines his toys up and walks on his tiptoes a lot too , just don't know quite where to go from here

I love you for sharing everything we’re wondering or haven’t experienced yet! I pray God reward you for your efforts!💙💙

Thank you for making your videos! They’re helpful for those of us that are dealing with ASD as single parents. I hate it when people tell me it’s going to be ok. I find it very invalidating.

As a mom, hearing negativity from others must be tough. Stay strong!

I understand your feels. I think that if you really know/understand child’s problems you can really help him and yourself too. You very inspiring. Hugs from Russia)

I hate it, when they say, that my daughter is an actress and that she is pretending.

Just found your channel. Can totally relate. Thank you for making this! Your videos are super helpful! Just subscribed.

OH MY YES!!!! have just ran into this. Sooooooo annoying! Thank you! This video helped me to deal with my emotions about it. I am just going through the beginning stages of getting my son tested.

Your channel helped me so much. You did your best to give him a normal life. If my baby grow up like your son is now and people think she doesn’t look autistic I would be so happy to hear it.

I recently found your channel and WISH I had you when my child was younger. Like you, I got the same comments from school districts, therapists, etc., UNTIL an amazing Harvard neurologist and two independent neuropsychologists did evaluations that diagnosed Autism. I used to get “you are too permissive with your child” in addition to more severe recommendations to punish my child. I am so grateful to you and your family. My child was identical to the video of your child’s milestone video. Sending you all so much love!!!!!

I work with families and increasingly poor parenting, for what ever reason, is being passed off as autism. Its a social contagion.

I'm in awe of you 💓 as always!

This is powerful that u chose to show all the good!

I totally agree with you, we need a lot of positivity because our kids are brilliant

Appreciate your channel. Often watched and thought what a fantastic mummy. As a granny my lovely affectionate grandson has made us very humble and wished we could do more to help with his everyday struggles. Keep up your good work . Your channel has been informative.

Tara...I just stumbled upon you channel and wanted to Thank You !!! It has given me hope for my son who is 8....still struggling to find the right support for him as an expat in Singapore.

Just love this .. I totally can relate.. ❤️

I got the "she's just naughty " all the time! I was young when I had my daughter so ppl just assumed I was a bad or ill equipped mother even after a formal diagnosis. I think we were given these amazing children because the universe, God whatever you hold to believes we are the best parents for the job, we're pretty fantastic. Great video thank you.

Hi there 🖐 thank you for sharing your video have now subscribed to your channel, I searched for this title because I get it all the time for my son currently going thru process of diagnoses - I know he is as he is exactly like me! I understand where he goes when he is ‘in his own world’ and a lot of other behavioural traits! I only looked into my own diagnoses late last year when my son was struggling in daycare..my comment to day care was oh isn’t that normal and the looks on their faces !! I started to then question myself and Finally found my true diagnoses I am Autistic! After 30 years I finally found that I am not the naughty child that never listens - I am just me! I would be gladly interviewed, my childhood would have been so different had I had the correct diagnoses! I only want a diagnoses for other people to understand my son and not label him the ‘naughty kid that needs discipline’. Again thanks for sharing brought tears to my eyes finding someone else to suffer the same comments, my boy is bright and socialises yet I know he is autistic yet I question myself when I receive these comments, which is another battle !

Hi I've just started looking at your videos. My son just turned 4 I really feel he's on the spectrum he's verbal and can learn but behavior aspect ( meltdowns, sensory, not liking things out of routine) is really troubling me. They put him on medication for ADHD (the neurologist) but we haven't had anyone else to further investigate the autism traits. I am going to keep looking at your videos to help me as I try getting the proper diagnosis. Thank you for all you do!

This is just speaking to me. A teacher told me I should be more hard on him,he let it on' and that was during the early days of the diagnosis! Thanks for sharing

I love your videos. They are very uplifting and encouraging. I find that it is pointless to continue explaining things to people who refuse to understand. Some think they know it all and have the quick fix for something they really know nothing about.

Great video, as father to a beautiful 4 year old girl with ASD I completely identify with everything you say. I imagine many others do and I’ve found it useful to see how far your son has come as usually when you ask any health professional what to expect you get the incredibly frustrating stock response “it’s a spectrum”, “everyone is different”. Infuriating! I also feel your pain, literally! Our daughter broke my nose at the weekend! Totally by accident - just a reaction to something that was too emotional and unexpected. We are so lucky that our daughter Violet is a happy and affectionate child and it could be much worse. But what family, friends, onlookers don’t see is that every day it’s just a bit more of a struggle than it could be and that builds up and is relentless. Coupled with the stress of wishing you could do more to help. Straight to desert made...me laugh! Anyway thanks for sharing and we’d love to hear more about what to expect as our daughter grows up. She is “non verbal” but can say quite a lot of words and label items (though not on request) so we are looking forward to first time she will communicate with us verbally and doing everything we can. I don’t usually comment on KZfaq videos but felt compelled this time as spot on. So wish you and family all the best and look forward to seeing more of your journey.

Your channel is clearly helping me alot. You are like a family. The only people who can understand me.

Many caring thoughts, blessings & hugs from Oregon USA!! 💜

I understand ❤ thank you!

I already prepared myself for all those comments... I recently found out I'm autist and I know I will be pissed when I have to tell my family and friends about this. I'm waiting for my official diagnose, it will take some time but I'm 100% sure about the results as it explains everything in my life. I feel this is my final destination, of course it's the starting point for other things like having babies in a future. Also, let me tell you it gets better, mostly seeing how supportive you are. It had been tough having a "disciplinating" mother as I never felt understood. You will have to be aware of bullying and teach him how to socialize propertly, but I'm sure you will do a very nice job! Thank you for the channel!

Hi, my son got diagnosed with autism nearly 6 months ago (he is now 2,5 years old).... and it’s still tough for me to accept this - mainly that I compare him to other “healthy “children (which I shouldn’t).. as it’s hard to accept (even tho I thought I’ve accepted it but “sadness, anger, all mixed emotions come back”..... your videos)this one made me cry - not for feeling sorry for myself/ but hearing when you say “I understand you”... this feeling of being overwhelmed, lost and alone (my husband got the same feeling) been surrounding me for few months now, and yet nobody from my family /husband family understands us /how hard it is/been for us .... thank you.

Brave post 🙏🏼 , thank you! I share the same frustrations when outsiders make uninformed comments, and those silent judging stares or scarastic rolling eyes. We go through enough with the meltdowns and new situations as our boys grow up. Your posts help me get through the weeks and thanks to you I don’t feel so alone! Merci beaucoup

on point! as always....lots of love to you all.....we are also here, we listen you

Ouch Tara! Hope your nose is ok? In regard to negative comments, there will always be negative comments from negative people and I feel sorry for them! You are doing an amazing job and being positive and celebrating the wins is much more inspiring and helpful. Other parents with children on the spectrum need to be supported and given hope and that’s what you always do. By looking at the comments, you really do have some amazing supporters and followers, far far outweighing the negative. Keep this amazing work up. I’m so proud of you 😘❤️

Thank you!

Thank you so much for sharing this, it resonates so much with me as we sadly have the same comments from my in-laws, and the last time we saw them they argued with us in front of our son and stormed off as they refused to accept or use the strategies we asked them to, to reduce anxiety in our five year old autistic son. They say he seems fine to them, and they don't see anything wrong with him, that he needs to live in the real world, and that there is always an atmosphere when we see them, despite us trying to explain that our son has severe anxiety when anyone is coming over and that autism is a social communication disorder so he is unable to jump for joy and greet them when they arrive. They even questioned his diagnosis and if he is under the care of a consultant. Dylan really reminds me of my son, they have many similarities! I hope your nose is not too sore and heals quickly. Also, if you don't mind sharing, where did you get Dylan's trike from? We would love to get one after realising that our son definitely won't be riding a bike without stabilisers any time soon. Thank you again.

So sorry you got hurt by Dylan my grandson is ten also with autism like your own son a beautiful child who's getting big and doesn't know his own strength, people often say he looks normal, what's normal or he's just spoilt some people have no idea what you are dealing with. I have three grandsons I love all of them but he has a special place in my heart . I do know what you are dealing with I minded him and his brother until they started school and some days were hard but the good days more than made up for it x

Just found your channel and I need to share this video, Iv had this comment already , the worst is when you tell someone your child has it and people go “ ahhh never bless him” as if he got a life threatening illness , so rude and makes you feel shit

Love your sweet family.

Relatives and friends often says “it’s ok”, “he will grow out of it”, etc. it’s true that it feels good when they say those words but not so reassuring on parents part. There’s a lot of ups and downs in this condition. No one will understand until they are in the same shoes as you.

It's the judgement stares across the playground and the lack of understanding. Love your KZfaq channel 😘😘😘

I keep reading these comments and I just want to salute Tara for opening this topic! It definitely hit the nail on the head (btw try to explain this expression to ASD kid and it becomes a totally different conversation)...We need positive moments in our lives, sensation on YT can be easily created and manipulated with meltdowns, exhaustion and most simple day to day challenges but the beauty of raising or being neurodiverse is exactly in the moments that are not judged according to the norms; so hearing "your child doesn't look/act/is/not autistic is just an insult to the beauty and struggles of their individual lives.

I LOVE this video!! Thank you!! Our son (an adult now) is on the Autism spectrum (was diagnosed with Aspergers - which I don't think is a term used anymore) and we also have a grandson (4) who is autistic. When our son was growing up it was before much was known about autism and the comment we ALWAYS got was....he doesn't have a disability you just have a discipline problem. I always found that interesting since we also had 2 other kids and we didn't seem to have a "discipline" problem with them. I have appreciated your channel so much! It's because of you that getting our grandson to brush teeth and get a hair cut doesn't kill us all off. We all ready know the difficult parts of autism so we understand and appreciate your desire to focus on positivity. PS....just finished this video and saw your questions at the end. Our adult son not only has a full time job but is married and has two kids (his oldest one is autistic). Our son and his wife will forever need marriage counseling because they just don't have the communication skills they need, and even though they are taught these in therapy, they have a difficult time retaining what they have learned so weekly counseling for them is vital. They both have jobs, but we've found it was VITAL that their employers understand autism. Our son worked for one company that did not, and it was a terrible experience. He now works for a company that not only understands but also gives him the training he needs in a way that he can retain it. We live close by our son and his family and are amazed that the therapy's and the tools available for our grandson are leaps and bounds better than they were for our son. I'm sorry....I'm rambling.....THANK YOU for all you do to help so many!!

OMGosh, this reminds me of our first day of early intervention for Justin and this was before he was diagnosed with autism 33 years ago!This woman, another mom, was in the parent lounge and boldly( and rather rudely, I might add) asked, "So, what's your kid got?" To which I timidly replied, "Um... well, he doesn't talk and he doesn't seem do things like his sister and brother." The woman glared at me. "That's it???" she yelled for all to hear. I went home practically in tears and told my husband that I didn't think Justin should be there with these other children who had obvious disabilities (As in you could see the boy with Downs syndrome, you could tell a girl (The rude mother's daughter it turns out) had cerebral palsy, and several with some level of mental retardation--as it was still called back in the days when Justin was only 2 years old.) I'm so glad my husband told me to ignore anyone who said there was nothing wrong with him because he didn't look like he had something wrong with him. We knew there was something odd, something wrong and we needed to find out what it was and how to help our son overcome it, deal with it, whatever. I can see why you would be angry. For Pete's sake, we live Autism every day!

This video actually helped more than all the others . I felt like I was less alone. Your videos are all the good and that’s great but it’s not always like that

God bless you!!!.... I understand!!

hello im so happy to find you, you came up in my recommended. I am also in the UK. I am Autistic i was diagnosed in 2014, at age 25, i am now 32. I have my own channel talking about my journey. I would love to talk with you. This is an awesome video, thank you for being so honest and getting your feelings out.

I’m new to your channel, watched a couple of your videos and I really like your honesty, my son is just 4, he’s my 3rd child. When I tried to bring up autism with his preschool the manager almost laughed in my face and said no there’s no way! He’s far too clever. And I just thought wow, so unhelpful. Hopefully when he starts school in September the teachers might be more helpful to us. Some days are really hard, toilet training him is still an ongoing battle and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done because he loves the feeling of being wet and it’s really hard x x

Good for u hunny. The most frustrating thing someone can say about someone autistic. Wat an excellent video. I'm autistic and was diagnosed at 30 and my son is autistic and is 5, he got his diagnosis this year :) both wer a big relief xx

Thank you sharing with us tara I learn a lot from you god bless you dear.

God bless you and your family!

Hello, I am 50 year old female, and suspect that I may have a spectrum disorder. ADHD is quite common in my family, and I definitely have that ! LOL! I currently work in case management for our local board of DD, and have many years experience in working with individuals on the spectrum. I think this helped me to realize that my "quirks" may have a source. I am currently pursuing an M.A. degree in Autism - specifically, late diagnosis in females. I addressed the issue with my physician, and she said that I could not be on the spectrum "because I make eye contact, and am able to support myself." Grrrrrrr! I belong to a Facebook group called "Autism Village," where there are many late diagnoses. Have you viewed videos from "The Aspie World" on KZfaq? Dan Jones also seems to have some great resources there! Hoping this helps you out! You are doing a great job! 💕

How brilliant is that, I think you are a devoted mother who is an inspiration. I hope in the future my boy can learn to do this too. I also hope he can talk too. But what will be will be and I will try everything I can. People have this way of being so ignorant and yes family (mine always do it) say the "oh he'll be ok" (I didnt even say anything) and I always reply " he is "ok", he is different, in fact he is amazing"

I love watching your videos because I feel I can relate to almost everything you say. Btw, my son broke my nose when he was a little one, too. I don't want a repeat of that. I feel for you!

I couldn’t relate more to this 😫my son is two years old / non verbal and in the process of getting a diagnosis / speach and language theory What annoys me the most...The amount of family / friends say to me ‘ he’ll grow out of it ‘ or ‘he’s so misbehaved’ or ‘ some kids are behind developmentally he not got autism‘ My son struggles, I struggle ... I feel like I always have to explain myself to others why my son is the way his is. Unless you’ve been there they can’t relate, outsiders look in and judge without knowing You and your family are amazing ❤️ New subxx

I hear you. Thanks for sharing. The one I hate is when friends offer their opinion regarding my son - he’s not autistic. Or questions like - why does everyone need to be label?

Thank you ❤

I understand.your a great mom and it will pay off and already is!

You made me cry,,,good cry probably. You translated my feelings and thoughts as mum.

Thanks for this video its so nice to know other get so annoyed with these things too.

This video is the proof why I appreciate you and I love you so much..you always speak the truth and I feel that your voice is my heart's voice..I struggle alone just with my husband..the grandparents support that my kid doesn't need anything..he is just fine..he just don't talk..cause they don't know and they are not willing to learn..they are ashamed to say that their grandchild is autistic..they think that it is just gonna disappear one day..Yes ladies and gentlemen this is the European Greece in 2020..anyways thanks again my friend..

Beautiful videos!

I love all your videos, its always good to speak your heart out to someone who understands but it gets really hard if people don't understand. I have admired you since I started following you on instagram n KZfaq,I get so inspired by you.My son turned 4 in October,he is still not diagnosed yet. He has trouble in communicating to us otherwise he can sing nursery rhymes all day long, he knows alphabet, numbers,colours,shapes,planets,he can even read. He amazes us so much but sometimes it really hits us that he is not able to communicate.Due to covid 19 we are not able to get speech therapy here in Canada,I really wish they come up with something.sorry my comment was really long. Can I please know when did Dylan started to talk? thank you so much for your videos, it really means a lot to us and are so informative.

"AMEN !", this also goes into "our" dignity, showing us in a good light, also helps stop the stigma's and bad reputation, promotes awareness and acceptance, which is the goal of all of "us"- I have Autism too, high functioning, good on you for taking this journey with us. PS: if one were to describe the "autistic look", one would inevitably describe either Dustin Hoffman, or Claire Danes, who each in their own way portrayed one of us in the movies, "Rain Man" and "Temple Grandin", one a fictitious movie, the other, one of the most recognisable professionals in the study of Autism ( who has it herself)- the mind and how it works, traits, etc. the only other is the child actor who plays "the good Doctor" a TV series medical drama, ALL the names I have previously mentioned do JUSTICE to us, a very respectful and honest casting, no "over-acting", and the last two demonstrate our benefits to society as well ( how some of our behaviours and talents can be useful, not just a nuisance, or a curse!!).

Hello, I stumbled upon your channel a week or so ago and have watched a bunch of your videos. Thank you. I had yet to find a channel regarding parenting a child with autism that I felt I could relate to until I found your channel. It feels like you are inside my head, and explain exactly how I've felt since my daughter's diagnosis just under a year ago. So I wanted to say thank you, because it can be a lonely and isolating thing being a parent to a child with autism when you don't have a village or anyone around you who can relate. I did want to ask, I know we are in different parts of the world but you talked about your son's bike, and I was wondering what type of bike that is? I have been looking for an adaptive bike or trike for my daughter and haven't had much luck finding any that weren't thousands of dollars. Thank you so much! Please keep making videos.

This!! Like really i just love you for being so open about this. People say you cant blame everything on autism, and its about the lack communication from him. My family doctor said on my way out off this office, he will be fine! The way he said it i was like you really don't get it do you. This is not a cold he will get over. Ppff