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Glad it was helpful!

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I am sorry about the waterbirth restrictions. I like your plan to push upright. Another great position is kneeling and leaning on the back of the hospital bed (with the head of the bed lifted).

Love that!!!

Thank you for sharing !

Pls Whr did you give birth I think I need epidural too

That urge is hard to deny!!

love it!

Lol thats ridiculous

@@adararelgnel2695 not really.... if you're giving birth and pushing, try screaming, and then try again without screaming.... it definitely impacts the ability to push effectively. Because you're putting effort and energy into your vocal chords as well instead of all of it into your pelvic muscles.... any obstetrician or midwife I've ever seen would agree that screaming while pushing results in less effective pushing.

@@LeftieLoosie it sounds cute in theory but in practice makes no sense. I gave birth twice, my pushing was maybe maximum 2 minutes each and I have never involuntaraly screamed like both those times in all of my life. I find it hard to picture that someone can CHOSE whether to scream or not in that situation. Also, screaming helps you power up, have you never watched a super hero movie? And im almost certain that screaming helps to deal with sudden intense pain like that. Just like how you exclaim "ouch" when you get hurt sometimes

@@adararelgnel2695 yes and everyone deals differently in those situations, I dealt totally differently with birth all three times I did it.... the time I screamed the most was my baby that came out VERY fast. Which sounds like is what happened with you too.... when babies come that quick sometimes you don't even have TIME to think! My first and third were longer pushing 20 minutes and then about 10 minutes and I noticed that when I tried to compose myself it was more effective.... but when I had my super fast labor and even faster delivery I was completely incoherent and didn't even have time to process where I was. So not only is it so different for each person.... but it can be so different for one person in each pregnancy! So if youve only had babies fast like I did that time I TOTALLY understand what you mean by screaming uncontrollably because I definitely did in that circumstance too!

I AGREE. If you need to shout then SHOUT!!

So true..I shouted and pushed but I popped and it was so embarrassing coz it was my first pregnancy.

You are welcome! I just published another video on this topic! Check it out at kzfaq.info/get/bejne/oZxhibGD3rmvn5s.html

Great question! You use your abdominal muscles and relax your pelvic floor and glutes.

Thank you so much! This helps a lot!!!

You are welcome!!

Sounds like you were a big help to her!

@@birthtoolbox Because I had been through birth twice with 2 completely different experiences, I knew what I was talking about. I had done so much research on birth even before I had ever given birth.

I'm so glad. You might also like this video where I answer the Internet's most asked questions about pushing in 5 minutes. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/oZxhibGD3rmvn5s.html

IKEA for the WIN!!

When the baby is very low you will often feel like you want to push at all times (with and without contractions)

Glad it was helpful!

The baby is being oxygenated through the cord until they are fully on the outside.

Yes, that usually means that there will be a vaginal birth.

Basically you use the same muscles as you would to poop.

Yes, there are definitely cases where you aren’t 10 cm. But most of the time your cervix needs to be out of the way before pushing.

@@birthtoolbox yes it does but this little girl was not waiting for me or the docs she took things into her own hands. 🤣

So that you don't tear your cervix you should wait until fully dilated to start pushing. It is so hard to have an urge to push before you are fully dilated and I am sorry that you had to experience this Maria. If your cervix is checked and you aren't fully dilated but have a strong urge to push you can request that your nurse or midwife/doctor check your cervix again in a short amount of time and not wait. A cervix can change quickly at that stage.

Alice Turner thank you so much!!😊

1. You dont need to be "fully dilated" to push. I gave birth at 7cm dilated witg no issues and many others have as well. This fully dilated thing is a myth. 2. Know your body. If yoir body feels ready to push, youre probably okay to push. Obviously if the midwife or doctor can SEE that you are about to tear if you dont stop pushing then head the advice, and remember, its ADVICE, only a suggestion. They cant be certain it will or wont tear. 3. If the urge was so difficult to hold back that you got ptsd from it, id sue wtvr hospital you were at. As much as keeping you physically safe is extremely important during labour, YOUR MENTAL SAFETY during the most vulnerable time in your life is also EXTREMELY important and will have its effects on you physically. You need to FEEEEEEL safe JUST as much as actually being safe.

Emilie this is such a great question! One thing to note is that you are in control of your pushing. Your care providers might roll their eyes or more likely will try to coach you to do the purple pushing, but you can just do what you want to do. I recommend that people just keep pushing like they want and the only reason to change is if your style isn't working. Even with an epidural you can push in various positions. Try to push on your side and then switch to the other side. You don't need to ask "Can I push on my side?" instead say "My plan is to push on my side" and then start moving on your side. Birthing people have more control over preferences than what it might feel like. Also, back to the eye rolling...please don't let someone's opinion about how you want to birth cause you to change your mind! It's your voice that matters most!

It's so hard for the system to change...and so frustrating too.