I do apologies for the reupload, we had a situation with the video. So this weekend we went through new legal stuff to help. :)

You should do a video with the concept in reverse: asking Germans what they think about dating foreigners and if they had noticed any cultural differences between how they date and how their foreign partners date during the course of their relationship.

It's not shy/ reserved It's just that german culture does not revolve around getting laid like american culture. Also germans have healthy friendship with people of the gender(/s) they are attracted to. Not every interaction is sexualized and looked at through that lense of "potential romance/ sexual encounter". One of the things I love THE MOST about german society.

As a German woman, the dating culture in Germany is like that. You do something fun together (concert, hikes, zoo, meal at a restaurant) If the guy liked you they will ask you out again. At some point, 2nd, 3rd, sometimes the 4th "date" they've "checked you out" enough to tell you whether they would like something more or not. And if not, you remain good friends who hang out together sometimes. I think we just open up the playing field to go either and any way without throwing the other person away again. For that foreigners need to understand that there is extremely high value placed on loyalty in friendships and of course relationships (that's out of the question). If you understand loyalty (that's why germans will usually stay your friend lifelong) and accept that and welcome it, you have something really cool. Germans are more conservative and are looking long term. I don't think we have as much of a hook-up culture as other places. Unless that's something you've discussed before and then in Germany it's often like "friendship +" P.S. And if you are after a hook-up, in Germany we have establishments for that 😅 Check out your local swinger club. Im not even kidding you. They are kinky fuckers 😂

It's difficult for Germans too. Women in Germany generally don't like to be approached, especially German ones and from Muslim countries of course. It's mainly through friends, work and dating sites I have the impression.

Foreigner: "How is dating in Germany?" Website search: "Sorry, we could not find any search results"

You're so sweet and polite with the people you interviewed, thank you for the insightful responses! Would be awesome to hear what the germans think about foreigners

As a Scandinavian who’s lived in Germany(and speak the language), it’s interesting how Americans, and to some degree Brits (even though we’re closely related people), often are struggling to get their head around German/Scandinavian intersexual behaviour.They often make fun of us. We are introverts(even though every country is reckoned to have about 70% extroverts and 30 % introverts), women here are beautiful, but often cold and difficult, the men are shy and passive, they have no game and so on. But we just don’t have an organized dating culture full of rules like the US. More relaxed, based on relatively high equality between the sexes, not so much on narrowly defined gender roles. We play it intuitively by ear, sensing what’s actually going on and improvising accordingly. Americans, and to some extent Brits, seem to depend more on knowing the rules in beforehand, and consequently the roles and responsibilites of each gender become more clear and evident. Different approaches, different strengths and weaknesses.

I used to date with about 10 guys from Bumble (they were mostly German, since I live in a small city), and my impression of those German guys is that they talk too much about themselves on a first date. 90% of the time they were talking about themselves. In my opinion, it’s nice to listen to the other half... I met my now-husband who listened to me half of the time on a first date 🥰

Its like Sweden, many similarities. People are sort of open for dating and having fun (if they really like you) but serious commitments is much more complex. Then the culture becomes important and many are still more traditional/conservative even if it’s not noticeable on the surface. It’s just about really wanting it to work and dating/marrying a foreigner can become much more complicated. I have a German male friend who I’ve known for 8 years and we talk a lot about this, very similar.

I spent some time in Germany and found them to be similar to the British, maybe a little more reserved and with a closer culture, the girls were forward in some instances, I had one stare at me quite intently whereas in England its much more about the way they look at you rather than for how long. I think they are quite a conservative people with depth rather than being loud and superficial which I really like about them.

I lived for 5 years in München and your video made me think about this topic. In the beginning, in school, I had two German boyfriends, but after that, in fact all the guys I met were foreigners or people with migration background. I never thought about this, because for me it doesn’t make a difference. If you like someone, it doesn’t matter where they come from. And yes, the foreign guys are more outgoing, they approached me first, no matter where… dancing in the club, or on the streets or in English Garden. Of course you have to be open for meeting people and I think germans don’t expect to meet the love of their life on the street. But you never know 😅

Coming from Austria I feel its very similar here. I also have been to Korea and I felt culturally many similarities between them, except that in Korea people tend to have more rules for dating but also ghost a bit more. German guys wont approach, they will if interested, comment on your insta or start texting you private messages. Usually you meet people through your already existing friends group, which means if you dont have a big or potent group its hard to meet someone new, as meeting someone when going out is usually an equivalent for sex and nothing more. Also online dating is an option, at least for girls, but also often just for sex. I actually believe if you are a foreigner from like latin countries, africa, england or maybe japan you have good cards, as some people are really into some cultural differences. I'm not sure about long term dating though. Overall a lot of people still like someone who is at least very good at speaking german, as many believe you can share more and understand each other better. Also depending on which generation one is dating in: for youngsters its all about polyamoury so quite hard to find something permanent or longterm, for millenial its kinda a mix, also half are more open minded for foreigners and half want someone from here as they believe that cultural differences could stand in the way, in particular for girls as they are more independent and with a culture similar to arabe cultures many view this as being incompatable. As for me, I met my boyfriend online, and he is indian..My friend is married to an indian, and another one is dating an indian as well..I know there are quite a few indians in germany and austria, and from my experience these guys are super lovely and essentially that what a girl wants in the long run, as they usually are loyal and themselves thinking longterm.

I’ve discovered it’s difficult if one is not lighter skin . As a darker skinned person I have found it difficult and often see on dating apps men saying they only prefer whites ,Asians or those of the lighter skin

As a german guy I have to state that approaching good-looking women in inappropriate situations is seen as very shallow, typically mysoginist and maybe even arrogant (So you think she would be interested in you in any way? Why?). Most women just want to enjoy their day and usually have stuff to do without someone trying to chat them up or whatever. Also, if all you can go by is their looks you are again shallow. A problem IS that there aren't too many appropriate situations to try and make "first contact". It would have to be somewhere where you get some more idea about her (besides her looks). The park might be a good place. You could open with - "You guys look like a lot of fun, can I join for a bit / do you want to join us for a bit" and so on. The club is good, because girls expect to be danced or flirted with and should be ok with it - if you aren't creepy / disrespectful. But yes, in general our culture expects some more thought or depth than "you look hot" as a reason to want to get to know someone. Additionally it is also somewhat common to just want to get laid, but there are specific places (and apps) for that. And there women only want the hottest guys, and there is a huge imbalance between the genders.

Great video series!

a lot of foreigners today just dont get out of their foreigner bubble with other foreigners or cosmopolitan people, speaking english and barely get in touch with the majority of the society. of course the options for meeting suitable partners is limited through that. some nationalities like the Indians even prefere to stay among themselves, seldom mixing with other groups. the best chances for foreigners are if they are isolated from other foreigners and are forced to deal with the population and adapt. i ve met foreigners who have been here for 10 years and still barely speak the language, only having international friends, maybe one or two locals. And that ignrorant attitude in dating (and few other things), complaining because (suprise!) the local dating culture is different as in ones home country. You go to a different country, a different culture, you have to adapt, not the other way round. that

Absolutely love these videos, you're doing a great job. I'm also curious to see what Germans have to say about dating foreigners. Hope you'll make a video on this topic too.

I love our german art of mating I think it is beautiful! Our men are usually not annoying, or harrasing, they don't flirt for fun and you can be pretty sure, that if he asks you out on a date, he won't have another one planned with someone else. For as long as the both of you keep showing interest in one another, you do not really look elsewhere. We usually split the bill, so us women don't feel pressure do repay you in any way and we can order whatever we want without feeling guilty. And he also knows, that you are actually interested, when you keep on dating.

That focus and shyness makes them great (if not the supreme) mechanical engineers on the globe. Knowing from my experience.

Loves this video ! Laughed several times.

Been through Frankfurt airport a few times. Found the airport staff to be quite jovial actually. Whenever I would say “take care” or “have a good day” they would get pleasantly surprised, not sure I was misreading.

Ehm, I guess for expats/students its more or less the same situation in every non English speaking country when it comes to dating. I am also not surprised that the expats mostly keep to themselves. They all speak English fluently and have no German circles of friends. That makes things much easier. People from eight nations work in my wife's company. They come from Denmark, Sweden, England, France, Kenya, Ethiopia, Indonesia and China. The further away from Europe, the harder the socialising.

I like how the girls complain about guys not approaching them but are 100% ready to reject the guys approaching them. lol

Even for me as a German woman, dating is next to impossible in Germany, German men simply ignore me, which is why I'm in my second long distance relationship right now. 😅

the blonde girl from spain looks so much like mariah carey

wunderbar you are so funny and you're in such a good mood

Well, it is hard to date germans for germans, too. Problem is, there are so many self-entitled people in this interview, who choose to go to germany, but suprise, suprise ... mentality is different. I mean, what do you expect ? Why has the world always work like you get used to ?

Not really about dating, but I have the impression that Indian guest students deliberately shut themselves off. They often don't speak a word of German, even after 3+ years in the country, only meet each other (as you can see here in the video) and also have no interest in communication. At a birthday party I left early because only Indian (instead of German or English) was spoken, although there were a few other internationals there. I found that quite rude.

if you look good enough dating will be easy for you everywhere irrespective of location its all about looks

Honestly, I think it's just a cultural thing that some people like and some people dislike. It is true that in Germany, especially in Munich, many girls enjoy that they're not being approached by guys. A friend of mine cited this as the No1 reason why she moved to Munich. For the (german) guys, I think they have difficulties to interpret if the girl is interested as well (that staring thing when you don't know if someone is into you or judging you) and won't approach you if they're not sure. Clear signals from both sexes like eye contact + smiling can help I guess. Just one thing, some expats think that's it's just them for being international, speaking English and knowing only a few words in German etc. At least from my perspective that "shyness thing" exists between german boys and girls as well and has nothing to do with you. It can be weird when you're coming from a country where you used to get hit on all the time and now in Germany no one approaches you and potentially make you feel bad but as I said... this is more general thing here... It's simply a cultural difference and there's no need to feel bad =)

Dating works different in Germany, but I guess that everyone knows that it's not impossible. At least in the West (of Germany), were I life and I guess that's not uncommon, at least the guys prevent from being rejected. What happens is that they actually do not always ask their "flirt target", but friends of that "target" and that's usually easier, if that's happening via a shared friend cycle or network. In the club, with the music, flirting is generally impossible or at least pretty hard. Also German women get very restrictive and protective, if strangers are approaching their friends. An example: A good friend and I once had a very nice conversation with a Spanish girl in a club. She knew, we were both taken and just wanted to try out our school Spanish and have some nice small talk. We bought her a drink since she was nice and her (German female) friends directly believed that we wanted to make her drunk for something. We did not even flirt with her. That's why we rarely ever do that (generally). Of course we directly proved that the drink was clean from drugs and drunk it directly in front of the women and that was the end of the story. Point is, if one of us would have been single, this would have been the end of the story as well. Btw., with the aforementioned method (I call it the "Stillepost" method - So asking the friends of the crush), I met half of my ex and also my current girlfriend.

Im from Tunisia and the few Germans I met in Tunisia are super cool open minded and fun.I think it depends on the person in general in every culture u find the good the bad the reserved the outgoing so yea. In Tunisia here many Tunisian they dont see them selfs with a foreigner , while me I can see my self with a foreigner so It depend on the person.

afaik no one in Germay acts in that way the US lady (with the white blouse) was talking of...approaching a stranger, give compliments and a coffee

legend says people actually started learning german after this video and questioned their political beliefs or if they had any..

I'm also a foreigner living in Berlin. From my experience, you meet a German, you have a basic conversation and after that nothing happens. They are not ready to force the situation. I would like to have more actions from a men's side rather than asking a man to go on a first date. Maybe it's just cultural differences. Probably it happens because of feminism and Germans are kind of afraid to get rejected. The same I've heard about why Germans don't offer to help you, when you're carrying a big suitcase.

You should do a video with the concept in reverse. Please I'm curious to see what German have to say about dating foreigners and make it with English subtitles when they talk German.

This videomade my day,😂. As a German living abroad for about 20y, ... i have to say "stiff Germans" . I never thought about, but living in an international environment changed myself much more to the style of the interviewed people. .... i will check on my next Germany visit 😊

Great vid with great info

Good. I thought I am always the weird one. That's why I resigned on the idea of living in Germany for a while :) I always felt like an intruder in the country.

Thank you for the info.

I lived in DE and i think for me i did meet men but it was slow and subtle. I knew one guy who took 3-4 months to get to know me from afar. Then he told me he liked me on first date.

Oh this sounds so sad. I am so sorry! ❤❤❤

I’d it’s actually true that girls do approach guys there, then that makes sense why some of these girls think the guys are more shy or are never approached. Cuz the guys expect them to make the move sometimes too. But Especially when the girl is coming from another country where the guy is the one that HAS to always make the move.

❣This is why Germens are the best. ✊🏻

Thank you for that content! It’s pretty interesting to hear the perspective from international people form different places all over the world. It appear to me that Munich is quite international?! Germans always “stare” 😂 that was the best part! And it’s true because I’m also starring way too much 😂😂😂

Perspective of a German woman here, I can guarantee you that we are neither shy nor uptight. We just want our peace and personal space. Being chatted up on the street is usually just annoying and uncomfortable. In settings like parties or online dating it's different of course, but I also want to choose the people I want to get to know better there. And yes, we are proud of our techno culture, so if you don't like techno it looks difficult for you. Of course, I can't speak for all Germans, but at least I've had these experiences in my community. We were raised that way and it's our mentality. ;) And I’ve had relationships with foreigners who appreciated that.

I'm Indian and my partner's German and i was the one who asked him out. My advice - Pls ask them out directly. Do not wait for signs or games. Be polite though! But be direct, there's nothing to lose. It was fairly easy for me to ask because I'm the one who mostly makes the first move so there's that too. Pls especially straight women/women attracted to men, don't wait for the men to make the first move! And yeah we always split the bill/pay every alternate date.

2:59 These American ladies shouldn't be condescending to German guys. These are cultural differences. They don't exist to serve you. I can see why Germans aren't attracted. As an American, neither am I.

Most of the time I am just not interested in getting to know other people, no matter if it is for friendship or dating. I like casual flirts a lot, just looking, a little smile, and that's it - a flirt, in my definition, doesn't have to go beyond that. I am very determined when it comes to dating. If I am not open you can approach me as much as you want, you won't be successful, even if you are super attractive. And another thing: Usually I don't waste my time on casual relationships at all (like mentioned in the video), no matter if they are romantic or platonic. I like deeper conversations (small talk uugh) and meaningful relationships, therefore I try to find out if a person is worth it or not, and that can happen quite fast without the other person noticing. From a german guy

As a German, I can say it is indeed hard to date but not only because of, you are from another Country, this could be actually Helpful, so you have more to talk about like sharing your culture. But I think most of the German Man are Insecure about the Woman. The average German I know is looking for something long lasting, stable. The traditional thing like Wife, Kids, House, good Job. So most of the guys look for a reliable, monogamous Woman. But to be Honest, a life like that can be boring for an Independent Feminist Woman. Most women you can date today, want a good career, hobbies and friends too what is brilliant when it comes to fulfill yourself, but a Family is kind of a full time job. And when you have to work all day, there is not much time left to fulfill yourself. Not for the Women, neither the Man and practically non as a couple. And if Both go to work making every day the same things, you will end up to have nothing new to talk about.! So what makes dating in general complicated is if you look good and ask a girl out for a coffee, that might work. If you're the average guy, with an average boring job and an average low income, most of the girls won't even recognize you. It's a success if she doesn't look at you like you're disgusting. So here is the question, isn't it better to fulfill yourself make some sport eat healthy and have good Friends and hobbies and enjoy your life and learn to live alone instead of trying to find someone you might end up have nothing to say to. Long story short, dating is hard no matter where you're from.! My advice, if you like a German guy, Ask him out for a coffee, get to know each other better and maybe it works. ! peace✌

That will be easy for men from different countries to aporoach ladies since not many guys are approaching them so i see it as a plus point being a guy less competition

you gotta approach it is what it is

that Indian guy with sky-blue t shirt stole the show😂😂

One thing I heard about dating in Germany, among actual Germans that is, is that it's expected that the girl be the one to approach the man since it's accepted that women are the most finicky/choosy. To me this makes complete sense. Why should I approach the girl when statistics say there's only a 2% chance that she'd even be open to talking to me? Yet if any random girl approaches any guy, her chances are considerably higher. I also appreciate that there is less of a one-night-stand culture there. I know sexual conquests are very much glorified across the western world, but to me it seems like a waste of time. I find the idea of meeting someone with the aim of building a relationship without any predetermined obsolescence to be much more appealing. I've only gone out with three girls in my life, and the third I married 18 years ago.

Living on Mallorca currently ... I am invisible for spanish women. ^^ I would never jump into the face of anyone and joke and flirt. As a german it is hard in Germany but even harder elsewhere if you are not very outgoing.

Trust me, if u`r fucking gorgeous or handsome, people will approach whatever you`r gender/ nor nationality is. Germans are really opend-minded, however not into bullshiet excuses and time spending (or money) and as i have been experienced, those stereotypes about germans being shy are just half true. Top most, for men.. Guys, those german heritages women are incredible gorgeous ( in my perspective at least), so better be top 10% of men so that you could stand a chance, is that easy to complain about that. Romanian language has an idiom that explains perfectly what those guys/ girls were trying to explain " When the fox can`t get the grapes it will say that they are sour"!

I am enjoying this channel, expats there are fun 😂

That’s my hometown Munich actually, which is the worse city all over the world in order to get to know women. To be honest many guys in Germany gave up to approach the girls, because they never smile or flirting, or give you any sign they would be interested in you. It’s very sad actually. Comparing to Spain or France for example it’s another world.

We call it "respecting women".

I've been so many times to Germany on holiday as a belgian single man its a beautiful country beautiful churches and Castles but i enjoyed the Bratwurst and Schnitzels many times but never experienced love in Germany 🤔

As a Mexican I can assure all of you, Mexican girls have it extremely easy in terms of dating in Germany

1:28 My German Female co-worker....said that German Men have "NO GAME"...this is why it takes so long for the German men to make a move. Not sure how true that is.

Super refreshing video, thanks As a French person but quite extraverted, I struglle also a little because people are so introverted and flirting is not always allowed...

Quote from a couple of german girls in my inner circle: "I hate being approached by guys, if we didn't have at least eye contact before. I just think it's rude." And when you then ask them how often they have/try to trigger eye contact with a guy the answer is "very rarely". I know, this goes not for everybody, but honestly we often don't have the best experiences when approaching german woman. And this is also the reason for the constant staring probably 😄

The experience is different for guys and girls, of course. You also see it with the dating apps such as tinder or bumble. As a guy, you seldom get a like. And even after you get a like doesn't mean at all that you will get an answer to your message. I've once read that those apps are more unfair than the unfairest economies. Just around 10% of the best-looking guys get over 80% of the likes. So get rid of these apps and play the game in real life!

Nice watching your channel

I grew up here but tbh I gave up dating a german girls and I got tired of trying it so many times. They either mock you for your height or make fun of you. So I started to date french, italian and austrian girls. 😂

I think a lot of german guys are shy or keeping distance, because the german women are too rejecting. I don't wanna judge them but some of them doing this to stay more mysterious. Some of them are also too arrogant :)

Hi, I find the intro statement decisively correct when she says DATING is not existent. Has it occurred to you living in Germany that we do NOT have a dating culture like in Spain or the US. I think that is the biggest difference. By the way the AMERICAN girl in the blue blouse is a GERMAN.

My experiences there were quite different than mentioned here. I was approached by men, went on dates, not all serious but always fun. It's been a long time though. I have to wonder if there's been a change due to phones and social media. Is this causing things to change in regards to dating (like in many other areas of the world) or were my experiences not the norm?

What the Spanish woman says is nonsense. People differ according to their goals in life, work, preferences and level of education, among other things. Not everyone spends their free time going out partying every weekend, drinking alcohol and having meaningless sex with strangers.

The Iranian 🇮🇷 guy nailed it. They are not family oriented at all. They’re looking for a functional relationship

As a foreigner ja its very difficult i live in Germany 8 years its impossible

im a german dude and i usually don´t flirt with a girl unless i really like her.

7:18 That girl's talking like she's trying food 😅

At 2:34 are you sure you specified that you wanted to know what it was like dating in Germany? Because she literally described our life in the US. I don't think she understood the question.

I’m a German guy who’s also lived abroad, dating foreign and domestic women. I feel like the reason guys in Germany are not approaching women on every occasion is because of the way feminism works here and also the culture in general. Many guys respect women so much, they see them as equal. Thus, they also think that women could approach them (which rarely happens). Actually, it’s still that girls want to be approached and you need to understand the signs. Otherwise it can happen really fast that girls (for example when you get too close in a club) feel harassed and offended. German women want to be strong and independent, that can seem scary. You need to know what’s appropriate and what not. My advice for guys who want to approach German women is -first of all- just to be friendly and (if you go clubbing e.g.) invite them for a drink or something first. When you feel like there are vibes, just go there and say “hey, you seem nice. Can I invite you for a drink?” And see if you guys vibe. That almost always worked for me at least. Also, when you like someone ask for the number or, even better, instagram. Write a bit, see if you vibe and if yes, ask them out. Just dancing won’t get a German’s heart, you need to be able to talk to them is my personal observation. But I also had one night stands and all kinda stuff here. So, it always depends on the person and situation 💁‍♂️

The only good thing to know is that almost all the internationals have the same feeling on the german society like I have 😂

After watching your videos I'm definitely German.

I’m about to get stationed in Germany. Wish me luck with socializing 🤣

Dating is nowhere easy...

I fucking LOVE that Spanish guy's mentality and feel him so well, I live near Germany and man the people here are seriously cold. It's like they're actively working on making everyone's social lives as hard and restricted as possible...

I am German and unless I am with my friends, If I leave the house my face turns to stone immediately. Even if I see someone attractive they will get a death stare

Dating as a man in any Western European country is awful, only beaten by America.

I feel sorry for the guys. Especially if they dont have the necessary knowledge of the language. Mission impossible😂

I feel like the mexican girl understood how beneficial her cultural difference is by acknowledging the differences, not judging them and using the benefits from her cultural background as advantage 😃 you can have a lot of success if you use your ''different background'' combined with not trying to put the own culture on others.

Interesting video

He truly feelt what "Seiten auf null" meant, while being in Germany.

That Spanish girl was so wrong. In Germany, most guys want to get to know you and sleep with you fast at the same time.

9:37 I know you rewinded that!

I sort of remember that you posted the very same video some days ago and I commented on it. Now I am confused...

I'm foreigner too,why this guys don't learn the language where U living & working. Do not compare the guys with your Country or culture.

I love the Indian guys so funny

Such a beautiful English ! Does anybody in Germany speaks English like they?

I have to say that I disagree with most of these people. I didn't have problems dating german guys (I'm asian btw). I was approached several time and they took the time to get to know me because they're interesred. For me, the "real" problem is having genuine friendship with german girls 😂 seems impossible

So fun

As a little help for the foreigners. First of all, maybe a no go to say but there are for sure stereotypes and prejudice against certain groups. Not everybody has/sees them but they play a role. As some others have said Western European people have it easier because they look similar or even more attractive to us. Nordic people for example are similar to Germans the way they talk and behave. Then a relationship with a foreigner doesn't always look like good long term "investment" because your partner may want to leave the country at some point. So only hook up over an app as an option maybe. Easygoing flirting and small talk is definitely not our strength mostly, so doing an activity together or knowing some topics for conversation except partying and relationships may help you greatly. That's what the girl meant with the politics. Conversation with guys here are often of a more factual nature. Everybody is different of course but thats a few pointers and to close, girls always want equality so if he looks/stares at you, learn to approach them. It may greatly increase your chances of getting a guy you actually want.

I was watching your friendly, random interviews before I go to walking in the mornings. And those were really making my day and kind of motivated me more to immigrate to Germany even. Why did you just stopped bro. Please continue where you left of... ✌️

I liked the spanish lady !