Hmong people can never change even after 40 years. Hmong people will always be hmong.

This is the trend in today’s generation. The only thing we as parents can do is love our children the best we can as parents. Own our own home so we have a place to stay in old age. Save enough to bury ourselves and not depend on our children. If we know our children do not love us then before you die make a Will and donate your home and assets to charity instead of giving to your children if they do not love you. I say this to my children, “ whoever loves me and takes care of me when I can’t no longer take care of myself will get everything from me. I will not split it to those who don’t love or take care of me. My hard earned money will only go to those who love me. If you know you didn’t love me then don’t expect my savings and get upset you don’t get a penny when I’m gone.”

This is so sad and pathetic. Your mom deserves to be happy. She deserves to find love. I’m sick to the stomach listening to how you all mistreated your mom. One day, your kids will do that you all and even worse. 😢

Zaj dab neeg no Hai tau tu siab heev 😂😂😂😂

Your older sister is the hero. She will get good fortune.

Nyob zoo os niam ntsuab teev kv hloov kj cov neej neeg txua2txoj li kv zoo saib kawg os E kv thov kom kj ho mu pab tsev neeg tau kub nyiag nyob teb chaw meka ntawm kj nb kv nyob LAO Os kv pom ma kv hlb g txawj tag li kv cia siab tia kj yuav yog ib tug ua mu pab lawv pub rau peb tsev neeg hmoob thb thov vaj tswv yawm saub foom koob hmoob rau kj mog Kv thov kj tiag222 nb kv ma kuaj2 rau lv kawg kv ce qhov muag o tag li lm os

If your brothers didn't want to be responsible for your mom than they shouldn't have accepted her money from selling her house. They should give that money to whoever that claims responsibility for her. Even though she remarried, if the step dad's sons don't care for her than your brothers should step up to do it since she is still your mom. Karma will get your brothers. Thank you for you and your sister that cared for her until the end.

Txawm tus hluas tus laus los yeej ntshaw txoj kev hlub. Txhob txwv tej laus

Thaum tub ntxhais sib yuav. Kuv xav kom peb hmoob txhob sau nqi lawm. Vim thaum kawg. Tus ntxhais vauv tseem yog tus hlub niam thiab txiv dua cov tub nyab. Good story and thank you for sharing.

Your mom should’ve kept the money from the sale of her home and not split it among her children. It’s a shame what your brothers did to your mom. Whether she remarried or not, there are multiple ways to handle this sticky situation. They abandoned and left her to die alone.

Niam lau aw ca zaj neej neeg no e yeej g txawv kv lub neej ib qhos li os mloog ma kv nim quaj 2 tag zog li os

The son’s from both sides are expose in this story. Evil..failed big time. karma will get them. Bless the sisters. You both will get the good fortune

This comes down to the traditional religion and cost of a traditional funeral. If those 2 things didn't exist in the story, there would be no issues with the 2 OGs marrying. I don’t agree with the personal treatment of the mom but overall, it's really no one's fault in this story but the traditional system's. Moving forward, this system has to be modified or abandoned.

Peb yuav tau hlub cov ntsxais dua nawb

It's your mother.....i dont understand how could your brothers did that to your own mom. Omg....cas tu siab ua luag li os. It's your mother....your brothers are so educated and lawyer.....what the hell wrong with u guys? U guys act like u dont need love. Your brothers will get his karma one day.

Tu siab tiag2 lis os😢 tsi muaj ib lo lus yuav los hais tau tawm txoj kev mob hauv yus lub siab. Lub neej tsi kawg yuav tuag los tuag tsi tau nyob los nyob nrog txoj kev tu siab. Nrog tej me nyuam nyob los tu tu siab yuav mus yuav duab ib tug los cas nim yuav nyuaj ua luaj. Ntuj os lawv aw nim tsuas zoo rau nej cov uas tseem muaj txij muaj nkawm xwb os... peb cov tsi muaj no ces tag tag nqi tsi zoo dabtsi rau tej me nyuam lawm os. 😭

Yuav hlub ces txhob tos twb ua ib pawg av lawm es mam li hlub os mog cov mi nus aw

Niam tsuab teev, koj ceeb loj dhau lawm, koj thiaj li scary. Thov vajtswv pab koj kuam koj ua siab loj loj os❤

I don't understand how someone can view their mother as old and disgusting when they should be seen as sweet and adorable for all the good they have done for their children throughout their life. It's disheartening to see educated kids with no compassion for their mother. I hope these sons experience the same challenges as their mother so they can truly understand how difficult her life has been.

Phem li nej, koj niam tsis txhob muab nyiaj rau nej thaum ntxov ntshe nej tseem saib nws muaj nuj nqis. Cia nws yuav tuag mam muab nyiaj rau nej ua ntees ntshe tseem zoo dua. Do not give all your money to your kids.

Cas tus siab ua luah os thaum nyob ce tsi muaj neeg xav hlub thaum niam tuag lawm ce mam sawv los sib txeeb nyiaj. Kuv niam los laus2 lawm thiab es kuv cog lus rau kuv tus kheej tias Kuv yuav nyob hlub kuv niam thiab kuv txiv txawm kuv yog ib leeg ntxhais xeb los kuv yeej yuav hlub kom kawg

Such evil kids. On both sides. It doesn't matter how old, some people get. They get lonely and deserve to find happiness and love. Karma always happens.

I think we are all in agreement that these childrem are a big disappointment. How do they sleep at night. Shame on all of them and their spouses. This is your own mother, your literal creator, who cared and loved you all her life. She even gave you her money. Wow. You all did her wrong. Shame.shame. shame.

Tseem koj niam tsi mu yuav txiv lo koj cov nus yeej tsi hlub o

Tej niam tej txiv yeej xav kom tau kev hlub ntawm me nyuam.

Niamtshiab & txivtshiab laus lawm ces ua phoojywg nyob uake xwb txhob sib yuav thiaj tsis ua teebmeem rau 2 tog menyuam.

Nyob zoo os May. Koj tham txhua leej lub neej Koj ho tham txog Bis yaj = ntsuab teev yaj. Lub neej tham lawv poj niam Thiab me vaj lub neej Rau tsoom hmoob mloog nawv..

Shame on your loser brothers and their wife's, like seriously 5 of them and none couldn't love her not even 1. Karma will serve them. They don't deserve a penny from your mother🙏🏼💔😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Sad as hell….the mother and stepdad were fair and really loved one another. For once a story where the stepdad does not try to take advantage of the mom financially. The sons on both sides are messed up and were only looking out for their own best interests. Another story where the phrase “money is the root of all evil” is especially true in our culture.

Hlub koj os grandma. Kuv niam los zoo li koj thiab os

OMFG, Sister, it's partially your brothers fault. But your mother has a right to pursue or seek happiness. Y'all just need to protect her assets and money. But she should've known better not to be behaving in such behavior. Okay, to have a boyfriend, but there no need to step beyond the door. WOW, I CANNOT BELIEVE YOUR BROTHER'S. THE AUDACITY OF THEM TREATING YOUR MOTHER LIKE THIS. YOU GUY'S SHOULD ALL BE ASHAMED. YOU GUY'S ARE A TOTAL WASTE OF YOUR MOTHER'S LOVE AND EFFORTS RAISING THEM. I HOPE GOD DISHES OUT KARMA TO HER CHILDREN AND DAUGHTER IN LAWS.

Laus lawm los tseem ntshaw tus hlub rau thawm muaj mob. Tej me nyuam lawv muaj lawv neej lawv muaj mob muaj tus pab lawv ces lawv tsis nyiaj siab. Tus laus muaj kev nyuaj siab txom nyem tsis muaj tus txij nkawm ces yeej nkag siab. Cov me nyuam ua tsis yog rau leej niam lawm. Lawv yuav tsum tu lawv niam rau thawm laus tsis taus. Lawv ua tsis tau lawv kev cai dab qhuas rau tabsi qhov hlub thiab tu lawv yuav tsum ua tau. Lawv twb tau lub neej zoo zoo nyob tsev loj loj tabsi hos hlub tsis taus tus laus ma tsis yog lawm.

Childrens needs to understand that even they're old but when they loss their partner they're very lonely.

Tab niam ho hla Tom ntej los twb tseem yog yus niam tab txawm Laus2 lawm los nyias saib nyias tus vim tsuav ho muaj tus pab hlub ib ntus nej xav tias nej twb tsis pub nrog nej Nyob ne txawm ua tsis tau nej dab qhuas Los txoj kev hlub nej yuav tau hlub Li yog nej niam hos

Whoa… I love my mom so much to the point where if she ever wants to get remarry again, then I will support her decision and I will be right beside her just like she is for me all my life. I will get along with my step dad and his kids, so they will love my mom even more too. I will do anything just to see my mom happy and just to see her smile. I love my mom no matter what and I only have one mom in this lifetime. So sad that we the daughters are becoming the ones to love our parents more than the brothers.💔🥺😭 Remember that… our parents love us so much and we have only one job➡️ is to love them back when they are unable to take care of themselves.

Peb cov poj niam hmoob laus na. Mloog ua kev kawm nawb. Tsis txhob ntshaw2222 txiv lawm nawb

If you’re claiming Hmong shaman/kev cai you better not be complaining. What they did is in accordance to it.

People need to let their elderly parents find love and stop bickering over who gets the money, funeral, and whatnot. They the same age. It's not like they went to laos to get scammed. Your momma birthed you. She deserves someone who cherishes her and gets some love-making too. Geesssh. Stop holding grudges and acting like just because mom is married then any and all responsibilities should fall on the step kids just cause we follow that ugly patriarchal tradition.

kuv hais li no rau nej cov menyuam nawb ok nej lub neej tseem hluas2 nej tseem tsis tau txog koj niam tus neev taw nawb cov me nyuam kuv qhia nej cov hluas paub tias txhob txwv tejlaus os mog txog yus zeeg yus mam paub nawb nej cov me nyuam tsis txhob tusiab rau koj niam qhia nej paub nawb hnub twg av npog nkaus yus lub qhov muag lawm thaum ntawd yus mam li paun tias tus ntawd thiaj yog yus tus tiag2 li laus nej txhob cem2 niam thiab tsis txhob tu siab rau yus niam nawb hnub no nej cia li hais zoo rau nws cia kom nws muaj kev kaj siab thiab os mog

Nej yuav tau ua li meskas ma. Tej laus lawv kho kho siab lawv ho sib yuav los nyias yeej muaj cai tu nyias niam nyias txiv li nyias nab thib. Nej muab nej niam hu plig kiag rov los ua nej niam xwb ces yeej tsis txhaum dab tsi li los ma... cas yuav ua nyuaj ua luaj li os.

It’s your guys mom and all her money from the house giving all to you siblings so it’s all of you siblings responsibility to take care her till her last breath. I don’t blame the other side of family. It’s your guys job..

LET THIS STORY AND MANY MORE TO COME BE A LESSON FOR THIS GENERATION TO LEARN.!!!!! To the nyab and tub, especially the nyab. Stop hating on your in-laws. To the tub! Stop being a 🐱 and be a man.

Dear god, I pray bad karma comes to those bad kids and their spouses of this unlucky mother.

Tsis tsim nyog yug cov mi nyuam no li os...cas phem ua luaj li. 😢😢😢zoo phem los yog yus niam yug yus os 😢😢😢

I dont quite understand why hmong people still act like they live in laos. When one of our parent dies our other parent deserves to be able to find love because we cannot love them the way a significant other does. These kids are selfish they want their mom to be lonely and sad the rest of her life. They should still treat her like their mom even though she found another love.

Ib leej niam muab tau ib pob nyiaj rau menyuam tabsis ib tug menyuam tsis kam muab ib duas las rau leej niam lub ntees yog kev tu siab tshaj plaws. Niam no yug tub ces nkim zog lawm xwb.

Niam ntsuab lo yog may cas lawv hais lus tsis zoo rau kj txog qhov noj peb caug ntawv na qhov ua niam pab thaas na lo

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Tu siab ua luaj li ces peb txob yug tub lawm os lawv.

Thank you taking of your mom. Your sister and you did good by your mom.

Yus nim thb hlub tshaj plwg 😂😂

Tusiab ua luaj...kids have to understand that no matter how old the mom is she needs a partner to be by her side too..zoo li cas los yus yuav tsum tau hlub yus niam. Yus lub neej kiag xwb los yus twb tsis paub yuav zoo li cas Tom ntej thiab.

Cov tub nyab tej zaum lawv xav tias lawv yuav tsis txawj ua poj nauj yawg nrauj thiab poj txhuam yawg ntshuam txog yus hnub yus thiaj yuav paub Tom ntej no cov tub nyab tseem yuav txom nyem tshaj os tsis dim li nawb mog

Cas yuav tsis muaj kev ncaj ncees rau peb cov me poj niam hmoob li. Peb cov me nyuam tsis txhob phem phem thiab tsuav peb niam peb txiv zoo siab es cia lawv sib yuav lawv thaum laus los yeej tsis ua cas. No matter how old people are, they still need companion to keep them company. Txoj kev laus peb txhua tus yeej zam tsis dhau. Yog tsis tuag thaum hluas ces txoj kev no yuav tau taug. Tej laus twb hais tias yog yus ua li cas rau yus niam yus txiv ces yus cov yuav ua li ntawd rau yus thiab. Yus hlub lawv ces yus cov yuav hlub yus ib yam. Pab hlub koj niam. Thov kom koj niam koj txiv foom koob hmoov rau koj niam laus neb mog.

Cov niag laus no me nyuam hlub tsis mploog me nyuam hais nyuam qhuav ntxim xwb os. Tsis musj chaw nyob los yog pheej nyob tsis tau ces txhob tu siab xwb. Ne nyuam tsis tawm hauv koj lub qhov quav los txhob vsm koj lawv hlub koj li os. Tim nplog laus yawg laus xwb thiaj li zoo li no los mas. Laus lawm nyob zoo zoo me nyuam thiab hlub nawb

That’s eff’d up. Your brothers don’t deserve a mother.

So sad at an old age hmong people aws. Cas yuav muab txoj niag hmoob cai lo hai kom ua excuses tsi txhob tau take care tu laus xwb. Please love your mom, you people.

Peb cov 60 xyoo rov sau nawb tsis txhob muab nej pob nyiaj rau nej cov me nyuam nawb tseg cia thaum yus tsis tau lawm es leej twg hlub yus, yuav yus, tu yus ces mam li muab rau tus ntaw xwb nawb.

Tsis tsim nyog koj niam yug nej li. Nej coob npaum li ko, nej ho hlub tsis tau.

Saddest thing for your mother sisters. I'll wish to have your mom to be my mom saddest story in my life too. Hopefully at the end of life will meet our parents. Much love 💕.

Cov lau ce txhob hai li os hai lo lawv tseem foom you tia ib hnub kom you zoo li thiab no os 😢😥

Felt so much pains, and felt so very sad, for the ways all the son had treat her they act like she is not a human and they didn’t pay back her energy. Her times , that she had provided to help to raised them sound like they never a ppreciated her for anything when listen this story then feeling hurts so much thank you for sharing.

Ua phem npaum cas ces yuav tau txais li rov qab xwb mas ntuj nyob qe qe lawm na khiav tsis dim yam ua tau ua cia ib zaug

Luag twb hais Tias 1leej niam yeej hlub tau 10 Tus me nyuam tab sis 10 Tus me nyuam yeej hlub tsis Tau 1 leej niam Li ?

Twb nyob teb chaws vam meej ua luaj cas tseem hais txog qhov qia dub thiab ntshaw nyiaj xwb es yug tau ib pab coob ua luaj los tseem pluag nyiaj tshaj cov yug tsis muaj thiab na me nyuam qia dub aw…

There has to be a way where cost of funeral goes down. The og who are complaining about a good funeral or bad funeral should stop. A funeral is a funeral, and more for the living than the decease. But overall wow brothers you guys really know how to be good people

Im so disgusted by these grown ass kids behaviors. Can’t even finish listening to this story.

Too sadly

Lawv cov tub nyab lub neej laus lawv yeej yuav paub xwb xwb. Ib tiam ua rau ib tiam tsis muaj qhov xaus.

Ruam los ntse os.muab nyiaj tag nrho rau me nyuam cuag li yus yuav tuag tag kis.lub caij laus tseem yuav tau siv nyiaj ntau tshaj thaum hluas os vim phej muaj kev mob kev kho.ruam dhau lawm ces kav liam os

vim yog tejlaus lub siab ntshaw chaw sov siab es tej menyuam thiaj li tsis quav ntsej los mas yog tias nws txhob mus yuav txiv ces nyaj cov tub yug tseem yuav hlub thiab tabsis cov tub yug ntshe yuav tu siab ib hnub twg od.

This is why these old folks need to Stop looking up to the sons only!! They really need to stop this culture crap stuff! This culture stuff is man made man built, that they need to learn!! Sometimes, I honestly don’t feel sorry for some of these old folks too because no matter how bad their sons treat them, they still want to stay with these sons. It’s so sad! I can’t believe these sons in this story!! I hope you reap what you sow! I hope your mom Comes back as a spirit & haunt these sons forever!!

Don’t blame the people-blame the cultural practices the enable the people’s actions. Honestly, no one is at fault and no is responsible. We are all responsible for our own actions.

Tusiab tiag2 os niam aw…. Peb sawv daws yuav txawj laus, txawj tuag, I will not count on my kids as they were born in this country when my day comes sad😢

Nej cov nus no mas koj tsis txawj xav li thaum koj niam muag nws lub tsev nws twb muab nyiaj faib rau nej tag nrho nej niam twb tsis yuav ib qho li, nws yuam kev qhov nws mus yuav dua txiv lawm xwb tab sis lawv yuav tsum zam txim rau nws thiab vim nej txiv twb tuag lawm tiag tiag sawv tsis tau rov los lawm ned, ua cas lawv yuav siab phem tag npaum li no.

First, your mom made the mistake of remarried at that age, costed her at the end. Second, your siblings should take care your mom’s funeral expenses since you all benefited from your mom, not your step siblings.

Cas yuav tu siab ua luaj tsi tsim nyog nej niam hlub hlub nej es muab nyiaj faib rau nej tag txog thaum kawg nej niam tsi muaj chaw tuag.

Pog ntxhais no nws niam muaj hluas nraug es nws tseem khib siab mob siab for nws txiv uas tuag lawm thiab? Vuag!!!!

Nyias twb yugyug tau nyias ib cos li o

OMG… it’s so sad.😂😂😂😂😂 that’s why I don’t wait for anyone. As a mother you know which one love you and which one don’t. And to think she have a son that is a layer. He must not be to smart to treat his mom like that lol sorry to say

Tu siab ua luaj li😢😢😢😢ua li neb ua yog lawm mog mi ntxhais

Tsis ncaj ncees Rau nej niam lub tsev es muab muag faib Rau nej tag es tsis muab Rau nej niam .mas ua Li no tsis yog lawm .

Cov menyuam no ces nkim Niam tu loj xwb os. Nej niam twb tsis nqa $1 mus yuav tus txiv tshiab. Nws tso tagnhro txhua yam rau nej tsam nwj tu siab li no ntag. Nws mus yuav lawv txiv xwb lawv tsis tu los yeej tsis txhaum leejtwg li. Nej yog cov nws yug nws twb hlub nej npaum ntawv txawm nws rov los tsim nyog nej hlub nws. Nej siab phem lim hiam yeej ib txwm tsis hlub nej niam ces nej muab tej no los keb kom nej tau txhob hlub nej niam es teb chaws txhob hais xwb.

Sad sis 😂😂😂😂

Vuag, cas tej nus nyab yuav phem ua luaj. Koj cov nus yug tsis muaj tub ntxhais cas siab limhiam tag npaum no. Kuv yog koj tus niam laus tsis tag faib koj niam cov nyiaj rau cov nus. They do not deserve.

Pab tu siab ua luaj li txawm koj niam tsis yuav txiv tshiab los koj cov nyab thiab cov nus yeej tsis hlub li os.😢😢😢😢😢

Thau ngb g hlu tuag ho sib txee ngiaj😂g tsim ngog

Hmong "kev cai qub" uses "dab qhua" as an excuse to avoid taking responsibility... even for their own mother, sister, daughter. This is so wrong but Hmong men AND women still practice it.

Nej pab nyuag no es siab phem lim hiam sib xws nkaus ntag. Nej niam twb muab nws lub nqi tsev los pub nej tas nrho es nej tseem tsis kam tawm nyiaj tha koj niam. Nej pab no ces yuav tsum tau txais txoj kev npam raws li nej tau ua tseg.

😡🤬😡🤬 I don’t understand how you siblings cannot love your mom. She born all of you. Your marriages will not last for ever. One day either you or your spouses will leave the world b4 you and you will walk down the same road. She allowed you guys to find your happiness. She deserves to find hers too. If not you and your sibling should go raised your dad from his grave to be with her. Selfless educated children’s whom has no love but cheap selfless care. My kids dad died and I remarried, but I teach my kids no matter what at the end I’m their mom. I gave them life. At the end they need to stand up for me and do their part. Culture belief that the Hmong OG practices should not stand in their way. Omg! My blood boil for all you sibling in this story. Selfless children who will feel your mom pain at the end.

Koj niam mas tsawg 1 zag tswv yim lawm. Yog kuv mas twb paub zoo tias cov tub cov nyab siab phem li ntawd ces thaum muag lub tsev tsis txhob muab faib rau cov niag mi nyuam ntawd cia yus mam khans cia yog leej twg hlub yus no ces yus mam muab rau tus ntawd xwb.

Kj cov nyab nu cov mam tsim lawv os ca yuav siab phem ua luaj

Goodness. You all are grown and have your own lives. Love your mom enough to want her to be happy. Whatever money she and your dad had belongs to her now that he’a gone. You kids are so selfish and immature.

Shame on your brothers. They were no longer expected to perform the funeral rituals for your mother, but they had a duty to physically take care of her. And they needed to cover her funeral expenses. The right thing to do: your brothers cover the funeral costs and the step-brothers perform the funeral rituals.

..these are ungrateful kids....they should be happy that their mother got married and with sombody who loved her...these two parents should not leave anything to their kids...they only want his and her money after they die....

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Laus npaum twg los yeej tseem need kev hlub os.. especially in old age companionship is needed. Yus niam yuav mus ua tsawg Tom neej los hu plig rov qhab xwb. Nej niam twb muab nyiaj tseej caum phav rau nej noj tag tsis npam los yeej yuav npam me me nawb. She shoulda never gave y’all all her money

My comments for this story is too much for me to say, it might just be another story for May. I got my own situation.

Idc about these Hmong superstitious stuff… they r my parents and for me to abandoned them is karma or curse to me because they raised me and love me n protect me n now I am just letting them suffer because of some stupid superstitious.. no.. I don’t believe in that.. I owe them as much as they did for me.. they gave me life ..

Uab yau, me viv ncaus aw koj txiv tshiab cov niag tub mas tsis txawj xav li os thiab phem tshaj plaws. Peb na kuv txiv yawg twb laus laus tiag tiag li lawm los tseem yuav ib tus pog laus laus los nrog kuv txiv yawg nyob es tus niam tshiab no los nrog peb nyob mas xyov nws muab nws cov nyiaj tso qhov twg los liam peb tub sab muab nws cov nyiaj nyiag noj tag, kuv txiv thiab nws tus pog laus no mus nrog kuv txiv tus tub twg nyob ces tus tub ntaw tau lub npe tub sab, tabsis thaum kawg tus niam tshiab no tuag peb cov tub yog cov tha hos nws cov tub ces tuaj nria 2 xwb yeej tsis kam pab dab tsis li. Peb niam tshiab nws cov nyiaj nws muab rau nws tus tub Ntxawg tag los peb xav tias kav liam peb yeej tuaj hlo ib puas tsav yam nawb. Tiag mas cov laus2 thov txhob mus sib yuav lawm.