@@Kriyavas1good for you. Protecting your child is paramount as a parent. Sadly not all parents deserve the title. That evil man who killed his sons in front of the mother is a sad example of what violent men (or women but statistically men) can do to be vindictive.

Yup. It’s despicable.

He stabbed the first woman when he was a juvenile and was arrested for it and he was acquitted for stabbing the second woman.

Because he's a white man. Plain and simple. It's a white man's world 🌎🌍 Not that I believe this way, but I've been in and out of jail and I know how they do. My Chinese friend was treated so badly by the cops and other inmates in this really racist jail I met her in that she never made it out and hung herself after 3 1/2 years because she was tired of the abuse. I tried to keep her happy and write her, talk to her on the phone, send her packages, but she couldn't handle the abuse 😢

It's in a country where the state can murder prisoners. They don't care about the well-being of civilians

😂 he's hilarious!

Total fraud

Also how in the name of all that is Holy, did he get custody of his daughter?! How is she doing?

Good point! I'm surprised Dr. Grande didn't make this point

He could have been a cop.

True. But we don't need to look for inconsistencies. Dissociative amnesia is a myth, certainly with respect to the commission of a crime and probably in general. There's really no reliable evidence supporting the condition, just a bunch of unreliable psychologists seeking publicity. Much like the Sybil case on a grander scale. Losing memories surrounding dramatic and traumatic events is completely illogical in an evolutionary sense. The truth is, we remember dramatic and traumatic events _better_ than any other events because it aids in our survival. Any organism that _forgets_ traumatic events is hardly well adapted for survival.

Solid! ✊

I laughed out loud on that one!😅

In the past he has shown some bloopers where he couldn't hold it together.

I know!! Such a great sense of humour 😂

​ I'm going to go and look for those!! 😅

That's exactly what I was thinking. Brian was living in a halfway house nearby with a prior conviction of stabbing a girl. It wouldn't have taken much police work to put it together, at least they would have had a suspect to work from.

That's the police now. Too busy setting up speed traps and eating free food to give a damn about anyone else.

Think of how many cases have gone overlooked like this. How many victims never got justice or even an attempt at it bc of lazy police who have no obligation to protect and serve. I have respect for good cops and the hard job they have BUT there’s a reason why bad mad fat and or lazy cop stereotypes exist. 🍩 👮

Because nobody cares. Unless you’re rich or pretty.

Lawyers 😢

The Phoenix canal murders.

That's how I feel about the guy from Maine right now,he's hearing voices ect but sane enough to hide from everyone

Funny how he’s sceptical of that, but speaks of factitious disorder (Munchausen’s) and factitious disorder by proxy as if they were quite solid scientifically, but they aren’t even in the DSM.

The police officer shouldn’t have done that, but it’s not illegal to shoot deer. There may be a minor crime he violated, but it’s unlikely he’d lose his job.

FTP.

It is illegal to shoot deer out of season, within city limits or even to discharge their firearm without good reason. Willy nilly shooting guns for made up reasons is just ludicrous. Sounds like a drive by shooting. I would like to know the facts.

You wouldn’t complain if it was a cow and they turned it into your McDonald’s. The cognitive dissonance of people who eat meat is crazy

@@karkitty202 who says I eat meat

Also in 2006 I encountered a man who wanted me to get into his car and “ go on a date” right then stopping me as I was walking our dog. I got away but saw him on the news a year later. If you could find the background of the Jonathan Burns case would be interesting. He is currently sitting on death row.

For some reason, this harkens me back to the Facebook group Lloyd Christmas Is My Biological Father. How wrong we all were.

@@deemulcahy6553 That was exactly my thought.

What COULD be going on in a situation LIKE this?

​@@itchysheets1222like from dumb and dumber??

Perhaps he is your father. I hear Dr Grand was quite the Ladies Man.

Yes. Surprised more people don’t mention this.

I just like the walking dead, I know zombies can’t exist in real life It’s just a fantasy

I can't believe you got away with it for so long. Especially with him living so close and the halfway house, and having a prior conviction for stabbing a woman. Not very good police work.

He wasn't quite an incel, but I quess he was quite lonely. The majority of violent sexual òffenders incarcerated come from single mother households. Some say the independent woman's movement is solely to blame. If so, what are these single mothers teaching their make children?

@@scottricci5063 Don't blame the moms or some mysterious "independent womens movement". We are in control of ourselves no matter our past. Incels are just bitter, narcissistic, unattractive violent men who blame others. Your research is flawed am sure too lol.

@@zenawarrior7442 I am not blaming. These are facts. 75% of all violent sexual offenders come from single mother homes.

​@scottricci5063 If that is true, how many of these single mother households involve a father who abandoned the family? Most of these single mothers are going to be occupied with work, so their kids may be less supervised than in a household where a parent is home with the kids (an at home parent isn't the norm these days, because both parents generally work, but 2 parent households experience less financial stress, at least). There is also some evidence that women who grew up in divorced households are more likely to get divorced, the theory being that they haven't had good male role models to use in choosing a partner. Of course, just by virtue of the divorce, one could assume that the father has issues, so him remaining in the household may not have been an advantage.

And I remember every single horrible minute.😢

Childhood amnesia is a normal occurrence! Don't be worried and go digging for something that isn't there. In fact, memory researchers show that we are more likely to remember traumatic events because they help us recognize patterns that lead to the life threatening event in the first place and recognize situations so that we may escape mortal harm once again. Your brain can't "protect" you by making your forget trauma. It's antithetical to survival of the species. If you forgot the pain of touching a hot stove, what would keep you from touching that hot stove again? Highly recommend reading Dr. Richard McNally, he is a brilliant memory researcher who specializes in the topic of trauma and memory

Even if his mother was awful, that’s still no excuse, right. It might make sense in a case of him being caught with drugs and was an addict or something, but you can’t use mommy was mean as a reason for why you killed women. My mother was very abusive physically and emotionally to me and I’ve never put my hands on anyone (except I did punch my ex husband when he was attacking me once before I had him arrested and left him.) or my child, nor will I EVER. The fact that I was beaten by my “mother” and my ex makes me want to never become like them or make someone feel like they made me feel. It is a sad statistic that people who experience child abuse usually become abusers themselves or more likely get into relationships when they’re abused. Anyone who intentionally hurts a child is as bad as a pedo or murderer in my book.

Those were different times. Girl Scouts went door to door. You wouldn't catch a girl doing that in these times. 😢

I feel like it’s still very common. Maybe just in my area

@@lorigale4655 yes times were different and a lot of bad things happened only there was no social media or as many forms of media reporting.

Yeah i remember selling cookies going door to door when i was 14 to 15 by myself. I think people trusted there neighbors to much back then

I think you're overestimating the dangers

She was worse with lots of sexual things going on.

This. Also think about the mental image people have of birth mothers. Plenty of people can make the serious desicion to do what's best for a child, I am one of them. It's a limerence that people in Western cultures are very okay with.

@@Lizerator you are a gross apologist

Yeah... in the case of less serious crimes, it sometimes makes more sense to have the insanity defense; e.g. if someone who has schizophrenia steals something because of a delusion, they should probably be punished less severely. But in cases like this, it seems like the main point is to get out of the death penalty--or, I've also heard it suggested that a lot of these people don't realize they'll just be put away in a mental hospital, which wouldn't be all that different from prison.

Our brains don't really "block out" memories. Like Dr.Grande said in the video, it's a controversial idea lacking empirical evidence. Some other explanations- when you experience repeat events, our brain has a tendency to "compartmentalize" them in to one event. So if the nature of the abuse was similar or had similar triggers, your brain would not remember every specific instance that this has happened or every minute detail. This is also why we so easily forget what we ate for breakfast the other day. Unfortunately when your every day is in fear, this becomes as commonplace as eating breakfast 😭 I'm sorry that you went through that Another explanation is that when you are living in a constant state of exhaustion due to high stress, high cortisol, and being in fight or flight mode you just have less capacity and bandwidth for remembering the fun moments like times with your children. Your brain is too focused on survival so you may not have the bandwidth to store other memories less intrinsic to your survival in that life threatening situation. The idea behind traumatic Dissociative amnesia is the complete and total repression of a traumatic memory that one supposedly forgets the traumatic event occured for years and years, with the caveat that a therapist can help "recover" the memories using hypnotherapy or newer trendy modalities that mimic hypnosis, such as EMDR, age regression, etc.

i'd be a tiny bit wary

I was thinking the same thing. And I remembered the 30 something year old men that were into Dungeons and Dragons, they sort of looked like this Brian guy too.

The same thing can (and has,) been said about most other forms of entertainment. Someone's lack of understanding of it doesn't maki it more dangerous than any other. It's a false equivalence.

​@@pamigreenwayan activity doesn't have to be dangerous for it to display poor judgment, immaturity, imbalance, obsession, questionable values or priorities, or other indications that someone may not be worthy of trust, which is a very personal standard

@@auemmjee much like every single other activity that human beings routinely engage in. For instance: dating, driving, hunting, religion, sports, or sex. Those are normal activities that occasionally attract dangerous weirdos. It's called the human condition. Millions of people engage safely in cosplay annually but if one of them ever commits crimes, everyone gets smeared. Do you say the same thing about religious fanatics who snap and commit crimes? Because, I guarantee you, that that happens FAR more often! Just because something is outside your wheelhouse of experience doesn't make it dangerous or evil.

it's cold underground

Working on that video now :)

This, as I watched a news blip about it, someone said the pilot said things felt like a dream. My spouse and I said in unison, "that's derealization "

You are awesome!@@DrGrande

Pit bull awareness day is every day on my street 😟

don't forget naked gardening day, and naked hiking day, both are just around the corner.

Awesome. :0)

@@duanejackson6718 Naked Gardening Day was in May!

@@duanejackson6718 Those are in the Spring....

p.s. Wow, he's done multiple videos! His Short, 10 mo ago explains it in a nutshell! Pun?!

Does anyone believe DID actually exists anymore?

@@lostandfound5145 it's mine and many others daily lived experience, so yes

​@@lostandfound5145 its kinda controversial, some people think it's something made up or stemming from things like hysteria or false memories, but nowadays there's acknowledgement that it is very much real. And even if you don't believe it exists....there is _something_ there. There's a ton of people that have it and are impacted.

​@@lostandfound5145I recommend doing some research, but yeah it's extremely rare but has seen a surge in popularity in young people claiming it due to social media. It's not understood we'll because of how rare it is and people who do have it tend to be studied extensively because of how exceptional it is. I'd say, as an armchair psych, someone claiming systems is sus. The whole systems thing is a result of the social media community which has known fakers. Anyway, fun rabbit hole to go down if you want to.

@@brittanywilcox7377 I apologize for my lack of reading comprehension on your original post. I read that you have a dissociative disorder and didn’t realize you meant specifically DID. I genuinely didn’t intend to be so insensitive in my comment, although that was the outcome and I’m really sorry about how that must have felt. I realize the internet is full of a-holes and I usually make an effort not to be one (I’m not perfect, of course). I will leave my insensitive comment in place and hope my apology helps. For clarity, I’m curious about psychology and no professional and have only heard a lot of “debunking of DID” but I was only asking out of ignorance and I didn’t mean to be so lacking in compassion towards you and your struggles. I have my own and it’s a constant learning journey and I wish you so much health and healing on yours. I hope this helps a little after my crappy comment.