I was with a covert narc fifteen years ago I finally left when I was 30. She tricked me and screwed me up so bad that I have never been with another women since not even 1 date. I've never been married I never had kids ill never trust a woman again She took all that from me . Now I'm 45 and will probably be the guy that dies alone😮‍💨

Thankfully one part of her attacks has been in writing. So if and when I am tempted to contact her or slip into amnesia regarding the viscous behavior I endured , I can read something she wrote me and step back. I still have the idea I should be bigger than all the conflict. I still am tempted to rescue or “ heal “ the situation , but having her rage , insults and insanity on paper to revisit helps me step back and do nothing

You are so clear. So helpful. Thank you.

🤯< Me right now learning she was a narcissist and not BPD or avoidant as she claimed. This is literally my last situationship to a T. Also quite a few of these apply to my ex. Damn, I'm attracting toxic women too much.

Put more comedy stuff in your vids

The faster you accept all women are liars and cheaters, the better off you'll be.

My narc ex is on her 5th marriage since divorcing me. She announced to her current husband that it's not working after 2 years and with that began looking for a town home to live in without him. After being told she doesn't make near enough money to buy property on her own, she called our 30 year old son asking him to co-sign on her behalf and then her 21 year old daughter to do the same. Both turned her down, thank goodness. In the end she announced that she and her current husband weren't divorcing but rather 'taking a break' from each other and HE co-signed for her to live on her own in the town home. Manipulation at its finest.

If they all do this and follow the pattern, wich I have experienced first hand, is this calculated or just kind of instinctiv or sub-concious?

Lise, not sure if you are seeing this, but I cannot download your website. I’m not on any social media except email. So how do I contact you? You’re gonna wanna hear my BPD experience for future studies.

A lot of female narcist bow down to their teeth ...they spew out their web with love and sorcery...knew a women who was totally consumed and probably still today from this evil...I think it's fun in the front ...and sad in the later .

A lot of extreme narcist do not even know they are operating under a demonic control.thier very food for living is someone else's slow death ,slowly buttering someone up just to destroy their will and energy.... But you see satan was defeated when Christ died on the cross.. and I and we if you choose are under the shed blood of Jesus Christ,,and I don't have to explain , the demonic spirit comes to nothing right now and I go to look and like it never was their..

Like the comedian at the end. Put more of that!

You nailed it again 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

No. 1 is what everyone would like - until the part about 'sole mmission in life to rescue her'

Idea of letting "slide" her intentioned bait/insult, like is a boxing match, is helpful. "You won, slide, and let run out the clock" 10:00

You can’t help , you will destroy yourself trying to support them . If you enjoy walking on egg shells , anxiety , mind games go for it . They need constant validation and use drama and gaslighting to cause a fight over nothing . It’s a sad condition because they can’t help it but if you stay you will lose yourself in the craziness .

This is my second comment on this thread. The first one was a year ago, i just want to add to that original list now i have clarity. So i had 5 years of this: No empathy No compassion No compromise No guilt Invalidating, ignoring, mocking your thoughts, wants, needs and feelings Weaponised her sex, raged at me during sex. Devalued me sexually, made out it was all my fault. Triangulation Blackmailing and threats Abusive words Cruel Lying and gaslighting Wild rages and dystopian narratives. Cheating, hidden relationships with exes and other string of men / double life, i know the tip of the iceberg Very high sexual body count Very high ‘people going no contact with her’ body count, including her brother and mother!! Hypersensitive and everything is a criticism Everything is black and white pretending not to understand your words or point of view. So you’d try and explain yourself in other ways, driving you mad Word salad arguments. Arguments that would last for days down rabbit holes. Constant break ups, push-pull. A cycle of idealisation, devaluation, discard, hoover Hypocritical Extremely manipulative Extremely selfish and opinionated High conflict/no conflict resolution Create conflict just so they can justify their manipulative shenanigans or to justify their cheating or any other dark behaviours. Ruining holidays No gifts or acts of love, it’s always about what you can do for her. And it’s never enough Dystopian accusations that you’re doing, feeling and thinking things that you’re not Stonewalling Never felt safe or connected My gut was always on overdrive, i was always in flight or fight mode Felt emasculated and worthless, which then justified the disdain she felt for me towards the final discard. Self harming, cutting herself to calm the internal whatever, hitting her leg with a blunt object causing severe bruising, cutting the word sorry into her arm when asked why she never took any accountability, then sending me videos or photos of her self harming actions. No accountability or responsibility for her actions Smear campaign / telling friends outright lies about you Being told you’re not needed or valued, it’s ‘them, their kids, their house, their friends, their pets and then there is you’, or in another moment she would scream ‘to go and sit on the couch and do nothing, you’re not needed for anything and she can do everything herself’! And then after all that demands marriage! Afraid to say the wrong thing just in case she blows, walking on egg shells Push -pull, i hate you don’t leave me Damned if you do, damned if you don’t I swear she knew she had a condition, she had BPD/NPD, she hid it and gaslighted and scoffed in my face when I questioned her She is always the victim. All her ex husbands/lovers/family are all crazy or mad or unhinged As her brother put it: in the words of Chandler Bing: ‘Can open; worms everywhere!’

Again, the love bombing is narcissistic not BPD.

Are you seriously demonizing and stigmatizing BPD sufferers? Thats a narcissist and sociopath. Love bombing is not a BPD trait for just one example.

My wife's behaviour in a nutshell... Also is a behaviour of her mom towards her dad.

My 8 year relationship in a nutshell.

I'm at that age where I just directly be like what is wrong with you for real?

Note for note perfect 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 there’s a pattern

🎉 thank you. Your videos have helped me realize a lot.

Thank you Ms. Leblanc! I'm at the tail end of my research stage. I have countless hours on youtube watching how to heal my broken heart, what a covert narcissist is, move on, let her go, motivational Tate videos, ... I'm an alpha male and I have a giant heart. I loved her with all my heart. It was a 3 year relationship with 2 1-month breaks every 10 months that she created. This video is 100% dead on. It was enlightening the entire time watching it. My ex is 12 years younger than myself (I'm now 42) and she is absolutely beautiful. A real 10. I'm a solid top tier guy in my own right, but I did feel she was out of my league some. It has been a true struggle to this point, 5 weeks. I've lost weight and have been more or less worthless in my life thus far. No matter what I try and do to keep myself busy, all I do is reply things, think of her and want her back. She was beyond selfish and her 8 year old daughter is a demon. Literally her clone without all the great things she had... or manipulated me with. The demons "dad" was never in the picture since conception. I've thrown myself into the awful world of online dating. It was a fun distraction at first but has quickly lost my interest. Even after this video... I have not blocked her, hoping she will reach out. Even though I know if I even respond it will set me back far and I'll have to go through this hell all over again. There is no future anyway with her demon being by her side 24/7. Still I long for her. I hope to heal soon and move on with my life. To all the guys that have read my comment to this point. I am still a mess, but I have found that working on my body is the best medicine. It doesn't matter what shape you are currently in. Go to the gym, go walking or hiking. Improve yourself physically, it's step 1 I feel. I hope to figure out step 2 soon...

Good work Ms Leblanc

Jezebel possession

I always thought #8 was just any woman.

Your teaching is becoming sophisticated!

If women tell me some painful story where something really bad happened to her which now would obligate me to not enforce my boundaries with her to not trigger her, I leave that relationship. Either they are a narc or they need to heal before they should be in a relationship. It's not the sad story it's the obligating you to tip toe around them or you are a bad person. I have no problem being an asshole if it protects me and my future kids from a life of sorrow.

Despite this being so specifically accurate, along with many previous videos, I STILL think that if I did something differently, or if I ever got another chance to, it could work this time. Logic, common sense and experience are proof that this isn't true, but that small, stupid irrational something won't let go. People who haven't been in this will never understand it. I don't either.

Terrific Comedy Clip at the End 🤣🤣🤣👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

In short they find beautiful narcissit girls, select them on taste profile, destroy... Clever for frankmassonist... What is a narcissit?

Play by play perfect you wrote the book 📕 😢

entire ig built around this?

Sounds just like my ex girlfriend!

Hi; if she is constantly saying how this or that person has a nice car or expensive shoes or bags or bigger house, is that also a sign? She doesn't complain, per se, just mentions often how her friends have these other things.

I had one!!! Nearly 5 years of this: No empathy No compassion No compromise No guilt Invalidating, mocking, ignoring your feelings, thoughts, wants and needs Weaponised her sex, raged at me during sex. Devalued me sexually, made out it was all my fault. Blackmailing and threats Abusive words Cruel Lying and gaslighting Wild rages and with dystopian narratives. Cheating, hidden relationships with exes / double life, i know the tip of the iceberg Very high sexual body count Very high ‘people going no contact with her’ body count, including her brother and mother!! Hypersensitive and everything is a criticism Everything is black and white pretending not to understand your words or point of view. So you’d try and explain yourself in other ways, driving you mad Word salad arguments. Arguments that would last for days down rabbit holes. Constant break ups, push-pull. A cycle of idealisation, devaluation, discard, hoover Hypocritical Extremely manipulative Extremely selfish and opinionated High conflict/no conflict resolution Create conflict just so they can justify their manipulative shenanigans or to justify their cheating or any other dark behaviours. Ruining holidays No gifts or acts of love, it’s always about what you can do for her. And it’s never enough Dystopian accusations that you’re doing, feeling and thinking things that you’re not Stonewalling Never felt safe or connected My gut was always on overdrive, i was always in flight or fight mode Felt emasculated and worthless, which then justified the disdain she felt for me towards the final discard. Self harming, cutting herself to calm the internal whatever, hitting her leg with a blunt object causing severe bruising, cutting the word sorry into her arm when asked why she never took any accountability, then sending me videos or photos of her self harming actions. No accountability or responsibility for her actions Smear campaign / telling friends outright lies about you Being told you’re not needed or valued, it’s ‘them, their kids, their house, their friends, their pets and then there is you’, or in another moment she would scream ‘to go and sit on the couch and do nothing, you’re not needed for anything and she can do everything herself’! And then after all that demands marriage! Afraid to say the wrong thing just in case she blows, walking on egg shells Push -pull, i hate you don’t leave me Damned if you do, damned if you don’t I swear she knew she had a condition, she had BPD/NPD, she hid it and gaslighted and scoffed in my face when I questioned her She is always the victim. All her ex husbands/lovers/family are all crazy or mad or unhinged As her brother put it: in the words of Chandler Bing: ‘Can open; worms everywhere!’

Sounds very familiar. Never again!

They believe their own delusion. It is a shame, really. A waste of a person.

How much time Takes it for one cycle to complete? My Gf was recently diagnosed with bpd and i have the feeling we are still on phase 2 after a year

kzfaq.info/get/bejne/jLNhrcyjzcfao6c.htmlsi=8LbXDXeU7ieyGvDZ Kind of describes a BPD relationship in a nutshell

This channel is my most preferred for learning about female covert narcissists and how one can protect one's self. As well as learning more about narcissists and narcissism in general. Perhaps two reasons (for choosing to return to your videos) is the neutral tone/attitude and the detailed description. Which (to me) gives a more serious impression than other channels I've stumbled upon. And I did much appreciate the included humor in this one, by combining footage from a Bill Burr stand-up Special near the end of the video. Made me laugh out loud. It also fitted very well within the context of what you were explaining. Thank you for all the useful, attainable information on this topic on your channel. And for making the information through the videos somehow very interesting (at least for me) to take part of.

Thank you!

Holy crap!!!! This is so spot on. I am finally healing from a relationship that lasted only 16 months. She did so much damage to me!

Many thanks for the video! I am sorry to have to say it like this, and on the one hand I am aware that my personal experiences have no scientific significance, and on the other hand it may also be because I am a difficult person myself, but I do not have the feeling that you are talking about a specific personality disorder but about women in general! At least I don't know any other way and this behavior applied to every woman I got to know deep in my life. But as I already wrote, it can of course also be me that it was like that ?! Best Regards from Berlin !

P.O.W prisoner of war. M.I.A. is missing in action. N.A.S. narcissistic abuse survivor. I thought i was in a communist reeducation camp after a short time.im trained to escape and evade at all cost, and I DID I DID 😅

This is absolutely Amazing in that is EXACTLY what i went through! For almost 9 Years! 2 months ago i decided I'd had Enough! I looked at our "anniversary" coming up (we were engaged for 6 years,,i was never good enough to marry!) and asked myself if i really wanted another 9 years of absolute HELL. The answer was NO. So i ended it,,told her i would be leaving at the end of the year,,we still live together because i need to take care of some things before i go,,,but it is such a F*CKING RELIEF. Im going to watch this video again later. It is absolutely spot-on!

And other people say "Oh what a wonderful person she is! You are so lucky to have a wife like that". Yes. She takes great care being soooo nice to others.

The red flags are obvious from day one we ignore them if you are someone who attracts narcissistic females you're likely to do it more than once anecdotally this seems to go along with an unloving mother if you had an overbearing or absentee father and a mother that was angry and maybe took it out on you or let you know how much you're like your father when you had arguments it makes us susceptible to narcissistic females and there's a lot of us out there raised by our moms because Dad left or whatever the dynamic was and there is a social disorder component to this as well that encourages women even rewards them for this Behavior they are vague nothing is ever resolved you'll give 100% they'll always feel like they're giving 75 and they never apologize there are some key signposts but you need to be able to recognize and then walk away from and it's not easy I have had to wean myself off of NPD females