10 Toxic Relationship Behaviours to Watch Out For

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In this video, you will learn about 10 TOXIC BEHAVIORS that can sabotage your love life, plus the biggest relationship deal breaker that you need to know about.
Learn how to identify these warning signs and create a relationship that THRIVES. Don't settle for less. You deserve to be happy!
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00:00 Start
00:25 1) Is Your Love Too Good to Be True?
00:55 2) Lies That Shatter Your Trust
02:09 3) Blaming You for Everything
02:54 4) Making You Question Your Reality
03:39 5) Feeling Like a Puppet?
04:43 6) You're Never Good Enough for a Narcissist
05:24 7) Are You Being Used?
06:16 8) Cutting You Off from Your Loved Ones
07:43 9) Multiple Threats to End the Relationship: Walking on Eggshells?
08:48 10) No Privacy, No Peace
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@Bat_Boy Ай бұрын

Betrayal of trust. Lying by omission. The ability to lie to themselves.

@1bizjets 27 күн бұрын

Incapable of admiting fault ever.

@stingylizard Ай бұрын

This should be mandatory learnin' in grades 8-9,if not earlier. Girls and boys,both.

@ChristinaChristiansen-ff9ho Ай бұрын

1. Idealization and love bombing. 2. Deception. 3. A lack of accountability. 4. Gaslighting. 5. Manipulation and control. 6. Negative comparisons. 7. Explanation. 8. Isolating you from your loved ones. 9. Repeated threats to the relationship. 10. Disrespecting boundaries.

@tandrew7175 25 күн бұрын

1-7 and 9-10 are my wife. Thank you for the clarification.

@dianezielinski6664 22 күн бұрын

7. Exploitation.

@paulfitzpatrick6566 12 күн бұрын

@@ChristinaChristiansen-ff9ho That was the ex wife 100%. I was too young & immature to recognise the signs, it was 42 years ago. The lasting impression it left on me - haven’t trusted a woman since.

@user-ve3jh6ny1m 8 күн бұрын

Cheating on internet

@user-ve3jh6ny1m 8 күн бұрын

And physically if posssble

@davidsutliff8312 26 күн бұрын

The inability to repair problems that cause ruptures in the relationship... You literally just described the biggest problem with my narc ex-wife. That was literally it. We could never resolve anything, we could never grow and move on, we never learned from anything we'd always have the same fights over and over without resolution. It always felt like it was intentional. And now that I know about narcissism, I know that it in fact was. Thank you so much for your videos and information, they are a tremendous help to us

@mathews0618 21 күн бұрын

Whats crazy is that my ex would calm down and give me nice apologies. Some i believed but most were just fancy words. Her behavior didn't change. The simplest things were too hard to grasp is how she played it. Being empathic and codependent i believed that she just needed more help. Thats how i got hooked. Shes bpd for sure. I have a lifetime of npd or bpd partners. I'm doing way better and filtering them out quicker. All of the signs are there from day 1 and my instincts on them is 100% accurate. Now its time to trust and respect myself enough to listen to it. Its the internal hunger for love that kinda burns 24/7 that persuades me into giving chances. After this last one i believe i have enough pieces of the puzzle to guide me to a healing path. I've removed all the narcissists from my life but now its time to be "selfish".

@EdfromCanada Ай бұрын

It started with incredible love bombing. Then it all changed as the controlling, manipulative toxicity emerged: I am not worthy, I am not acceptable, I am not deserving of her. What did I do? I dumped her and ghosted her without any further discussion because my time is too precious. I have established a BAD principle (to protect my sanity): my Benevolence for Accommodating BAD behaviour is Done. It was hard at first but I am now happy I did what I did.

@TheRoMandaloriaN Ай бұрын

Good on ya Ed. Glad you made it out. My cheating x gf is a fellow countryman of yours unfortunately for anyone else there & surrounding areas. She is a covert narcissist to a T, as I found out too late. I found out on New Years Day she was cheating & was barely able to get out of that maelstrom. It's nothing short of a miracle I escaped and ninja vanished. I don't blame your country for what happened but she certainly soured my time and experience there for the considerable future. Be well bud!

@Seeloko 18 күн бұрын

I am realizing some similar behavior like that and it's making me sad and lost, the bad thing is... I love her so much and I am feeling very emotional like never did, I feel that I am falling for her "trap" about manipulating me.

@Taylormademan900 13 күн бұрын

What a beautiful comment 💯 correct. I don't understand why dating gurus encourages the victim to play games back. The best advice as painful as it is is just to walk away. Go out on your shield 🛡️💪 and have some self respect is what you did. As a man I was called a narcissist for blocking a narcissist manipulator.

@zasmanis 27 күн бұрын

This is literally every single woman I've ever been with....ever....

@blueskies773 14 күн бұрын

Time to brush up on your boundaries and toxic detector. Just say no to dating these types.

@paulfitzpatrick6566 12 күн бұрын

@@zasmanis completely agree. It’s the default nature of women.

@WhiteSuperMemeist Ай бұрын

Personally, one of my biggest red flags to look for in any sort of relationship, are when if you show someone something and they don't like it. When you ask them why they say "I don't know, I just don't" that tells me they are someone who comes to conclusions without thinking about it. This is the tip of a massive ice berg. I've seen this to be true on several occasions. This isn't to be confused with something to the effect of "I don't know, I can't put my finger on it" because this implies they are at least trying to explain how they feel.

@jmiller1977 20 күн бұрын

What it’s doing is showing they are high in disagreeables , that In it’s self a problem , I have do not have a clue what this video is about I listened to it but couldn’t tell

@Raffysgrace 21 күн бұрын

Lisa LeBlanc, Thank you very much. It’s as if you’ve been walking in my shoes, observing the pain and confusion I’ve been lost in emotionally for years; even with professional guidance that’s been essential to my healing. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

@tjkashatus6004 Ай бұрын

Inability to communicate in an adult manner...so true Lise. 1-1/2 years of being gaslit...not sure what happened to her....I have my list of reasons... but it is very sad that she was a covert narcissist and skilled manipulator...the toxicity was unreal.

@proxel96 Ай бұрын

Defintely, I feel that lack of ability to maturely communicate is the biggest deal breaker. My ex said she liked communication, but then punished me when I tried. And more recently discarded me for trying to have a conversation after a hoover and the subsequent hurtful behaviour. I see now this harmful behaviour wouldn't change.

@wildwil89 Ай бұрын

YES!!!!!!!!!! But why was I so stupid and ignored these signs!!

@brianreed8271 20 күн бұрын

I've asked myself the same question for years.

@Champ_Toby Ай бұрын

I dated someone for a year and he did almost all of these. Criticized my mom to me and to her face about her parenting. He would manipulate me to get his way. Its been months since I blocked him and he has no use for me once I found out he had someone else that he was using too. I found out she lived few blocks away from me and we both bonded out of this toxic relationship. We both dumped him and stayed friends. He is the worst person I have dated and I saw the red flags but did not know this man was a criminal with a history of theft, as he tried to steal my car by not giving it back to me and he stole her father's watch which was very sentimental because he past away. I am scared of what kind of man I will meet again. Boundaries are so important in relationships. Thank you for making this video.

@DeepakSharma-rw6ws 19 күн бұрын

Not just you bro, even guys get afraid of meeting women after facing toxic woman for a while in their life.

@RobertTaylor-nh9yf Ай бұрын

When you’re in; you just spin. The path is always fuzzy. This video is a good calibration to get you back on the correct path. 🤟

@JohnSmith-wo7ns Ай бұрын

Been there, witnessed it all. Get away cos it only gets more abusive.

@AlexB_yolo Ай бұрын

Wow! You described my wife on the dot!

@diannetrotter5555 Ай бұрын

WOW so many things that are happening in our marriage. My husband is a narcissist with psychopathic tendencies. My problem is I'm stuck as I don't have the money to leave. He keeps close tabs on my spending etc. I just live day to day. Im not even close to the person I was when we married. We just celebrated 15 yrs. Everyone says I need to leave...but without money I can do nothing until someone can help with moving my things, as he only brought debt into marriage. All furnishings were mine. My life style went down n his went up. I'm a trusting person n I trusted he was being truthful. Well I found out different. I'm 71 n my psyche is not even close to what it was. I'm a shell of my younger self. Oh well, I'm working on it. Thanks for the video!

@user-iu8mj3il4n Ай бұрын

What a mess

@personneici2595 Ай бұрын

I hope you can get out soon ❤

@CitiesOfAsh Ай бұрын

Do what every woman does... monkey branch and find a beta simp to move in with.

@Peterbilt359 Ай бұрын

You just celebrated 15 years. Come on. I married one for 5 months and told her I’m done and walked out. You’ll be saying same thing 5 years from now. So you must enjoy it.

@decadeyt5891 Ай бұрын

Thank you for this video. Whenever I find myself getting emotional over the people I had to remove from my life, I watch a video like this and I instantly realize I did what was right. Thank you

@mariafemarquezdeguia4431 Ай бұрын

Well explained and truthful, Ma'am! The hardest and painful part is my inability to leave the relationship & let go.

@heyoldman2003 Ай бұрын

spot on again Lise . if you have any of these symptoms take a good look at your relationship..i didn’t and it cost me 40 years of pain 😞

@anthonyrist5626 Ай бұрын

I hear you, 42 years for me

@heyoldman2003 Ай бұрын

@@anthonyrist5626 glad it’s over 👍🏼

@hardywatkins7737 Ай бұрын

My ex' and this is now many many years ago, told me "I can't be on my own", ... one of her more truthful moments, and she was right, she really can't. Every relationship of hers that ever ended, ended with her simply replacing the last so called 'partner', with no gaps whatsoever. She literally cheated on every partner she ever had. So when after all the lovebombing and sexbombing and idealisation, she sais to me "we need some time apart", alarm bells began to ring. - If she needs time apart from me ... then who is she with?

@TheRoMandaloriaN Ай бұрын

Your ex sounds like my cheating x. Probably not the same person but the same predictable covert narcissistic behavior.

@toasttoast789 25 күн бұрын

Sounds like my last gf. She dumped me over text and don’t care about my kids at all but has been in relationship after relationship, taking care of peoples kids then abandoning them. All while preaching Jesus 🙄

@HANZELVANDERLAAY 19 күн бұрын

@@toasttoast789been there

@kyleshick8360 16 күн бұрын

It's called BPD. It's rough, but they only feel valid when being pursued. The normal feelings of life do not suffice. If they are being actively pursued, they feel abandoned

@xuemma-pb7ys 15 күн бұрын

My ex did the same ,he lied to me about this relationship with his kids mom of 19 years pretended to be single ,the he lied to his colleague and cheated with her about me .

@vernonspence9781 23 күн бұрын

These videos always help me so much.

@DarkPool314 Ай бұрын

Please pay attention to these videos. One of the excuses I was given for when my NPD ex-wife went thru my journal was “I’m sorry but I had to do that….” And then she would send me scans of my journal that she kept when she took the journal unbeknownst to me. I wish Lise would make videos about the possible crosses between personalities with true NPD and a criminal mind or personality. In my experience, there are many overlaps. Hopefully this message reaches the person who needs a little nudge to say goodbye to that NPD personality forever!

@reneegardner2286 Ай бұрын

Narcissists are predators. They do have a criminal mind

@charlesblassingame3745 Ай бұрын

Thank you for your videos. Helped me understand myself and my X. Spent 25 years in a toxic relationship and 7 now recovering. We have children together so I always answer but you helped me establish boundaries and understanding. Just a truly heartfelt thank you!

@Groundwater24 21 күн бұрын

Well done, Charles. I bet you are starting to find your old self again. And, more importantly, a bit of peace in your life. We read a lot of “no one believes the victim” which I now understand why. The outlandish stuff that goes on is like fictional horror, and people could not grasp that this “sweet/lovely person” could be like that. It’s been 4 years in recovery from a 20 years relationship. It’s been doubly hard because 2 out of the 3 therapist’s gaslit/dismissed everything I said. I was in therapy for c-ptsd and for different trauma. I have one of the “therapists” recorded on zoom where her eyes go big and black. She almost falls off her chair if I say the word narcissist. It makes sense why these things choose that profession. I shudder to think what has happened to victims over the years before this stuff became mainstream. Big paradigm shift happening and the chameleon way of life is over for them.

@chuckb470 Ай бұрын

I saw all the red flags; I thought it was a carnival... 😉

@breadboigaming7420 Ай бұрын

my bpd ex hit all of these including your ultimate dealbreaker 😅

@breadboigaming7420 Ай бұрын

On #3 and my bpd ex has already hit all of them lmao

@bojman Ай бұрын

You make good videos with clear, relevant, specific and condensed content.

@tomdebevoise 13 күн бұрын

Also exploding, or throwing fits over minor events. Refusing to repair or move on from some wrong. Bringing these up over and over in order to manipulate your feelings.

@lassefredriksen1029 Ай бұрын

In my last “relationship” I experienced all the 10 you mentioned. Even though I knew a lot about narcissistic personalities it took me 2 years to eventually realise what was going on. I found out the hard way and will not recommend it. To leave that person was really hard but managed by allowing me to greave as much as possible and watching a ton of videos about narcissistic abuse and personalities. After some months I finally felt the trauma bond was gone. Now I feel so relieved and grateful to be in my own company that I have to pinch my arm to believe it some times.

@onehatresearch Ай бұрын

Another highly useful explanation from Ms. Leblanc. I am so grateful for finding these and other words of wisdom for those of us who have been wondering what became of our selves and our own dreams and goals. It can be hard to accept that you are in a relationship with someone who cannot love you like you love. Especially when the signs have been there for years and years. But the alternatives are usually far, far worse. Thank you.

@newman977 Ай бұрын

I found her channel after separating from my BPD wife. Her wisdom and words helped me immensely through a very difficult time.

@dinab7852 Ай бұрын

@@newman977 Same here.

@LiseLeblanc 26 күн бұрын

Thank you!

@NondoPondo Ай бұрын

For 30 years I explained away the lies as simply us recalling things differently. Don't be like me. I don't know why I out up with it?

@Kronoth1 Ай бұрын

stockholm syndrome is a real thing

@bmchamberlain04 13 күн бұрын

Yup - taken me years to get enough strength of character to tell my toxic wife it’s over. It’s a land mine. We fall into this trap because we love them and trust them. We allow ourselves to be vulnerable- that’s what marriage is; a taste of Eden where we can be naked and not ashamed. It is those women that trample on that trust and make us feel like we are the idiots in the end. They are fucking thieves of the worst kind.

@Mattheus217 Ай бұрын

Thank you for making this video. Wow I definitely see these things that have been in my marriage and even the comment about getting mad about where you’re choosing to park. The car made me laugh at first, but then pause because that’s definitely happened. Telling you who you can talk to or not talk to etc. And telling you, your memories of the past are not accurate, but theirs are, and something must be wrong with you because you can’t remember how it really happened … Now that I watched through the whole thing wow all of these things have happened to me and I’ve wondered for so long why we feel disconnected or like I really can’t do anything right or I’m trying to help this other person but there’s always some new problem to fix and there’s never connection and goodness

@ericholder-co9qr Ай бұрын

It's funny how i can come up with an example from my last relationship to almost each of the 10 points immediately. After having completed therapy, I am now in a new relationship and feel like i've found peace. It feels more normal and healthy but it also feels less exciting. I'm writing this to let all the people out there who are currently in the midst of the storm or its aftermath know that things will get better eventually. You will find peace again and and you will forgive yourself and the people who hurt you and you will move on. You will, however, have to make an effort now and change yourself (you can't change someone whom you believe to be a narcissist or bpd-person, you're also not a psychiatrist and can't diagnose others - but you can set boundaries when something feels unhealthy). Good luck, hang in there and do not give up. There is a future and happiness for you out there. (:

@MyValki Ай бұрын

I see few mentions of my exs methods of isolation. Whenever left with the children so I could go to friends there would be incidents of child abuse, because maybe I said something to upset her or I should have known she wasn't in the right mood that day. I put my social life on a '2 month' pause for 6+ years. Yes I got full custody in the divorce, the children are safe and doing much better.

@Mkr7942 Ай бұрын

Every Single Thing.. Wish I saw this years ago.

@MichaelLee-em4le Ай бұрын

10/10 It was toxic.

@christopheribarra1170 28 күн бұрын

It's all about consistency not one shots. If it's consistent negatives, then narcissist or not, it needs to end. Feelings are very important to LISTEN. Never tolerate consistent bad behavior. Don't fall into cost sunk fallacy or hope for change when you see consistent bad behavior.

@sebrura Ай бұрын

You are so spot-on it’s astonishing.

@cadene9095 Ай бұрын

Hey Lise! I wanna say seriously thank you for helping me. I had been watching your videos for months up until I finally got the courage to leave. I was alienated from family and friends, I was completely addicted, I was getting love bombed and then treated like garbage for weeks or months on end with only a few days of “hope” being given to me at a time. After a while I craved those few days and it was enough to make me hold on. I was used by not only her but her family for my money, made fun of every day, called a fatass and ugly, constantly told how much work it was to let me move in and how they could get rid of me at any time, constantly yelling at me, and ever being enough. From your videos, I started to see that I was being abused and manipulated. One night, I looked at her and in that moment I knew it was time. I had watched enough of your videos and others, I had received advice from my mom after I reached out, and something that you had previously said struck me; “once you have all the facts, stop researching it”. I knew then and there that I had to leave and I did the next day. I packed all of my things in garbage bags and I left early in the morning when her and her family went to the store. They tried everything to get me back, even said I left stuff but I told them to just throw it away. Since then I have blocked her and her family, and I’ve never been happier and more free. Lise, you saved my life. Genuinely you did. You kept me sane in those hard times, you made me feel less crazy, you helped me realize it wasn’t okay, you helped me avoid being baby trapped, and you helped me get out. I genuinely cannot thank you enough for saving me from a life of misery.

@Groundwater24 21 күн бұрын

Well done, Caden. It’s like being able to breathe again. The healing process is a bit like a rollercoaster, but worth it in the end. They are seriously ill people.

@jlostroh Ай бұрын

Experiencing about 8 of these consistently.

@dr.drakeramoray789 Ай бұрын

7:19 ive never seen a pair like this except in commercials

@pattycakes9182 29 күн бұрын

Insinuating that in the beginning anyone knows about lovebombing and us therefore tolerating it. I had never encountered this and for myself and others, we wish we knew and did not intentionally tolerate lovebombing.

@mochachaiguy Ай бұрын

"None of your family will talk to me when you have family gatherings, so I don"t want to go. You can go if you think you should. What will you tell them?" "Why don't you invite your friends over?" Because when I do, you monopolize the conversation and I can't get a word in edgewise. Or I have to hold my tongue and "not undermine her" when she lies to her doctor and says she has 3 glasses of wine a weak, when it's at minimum one per night and can polish off a 750ml bottle of vodka in a week or two on top of that.

@YouilAushana Ай бұрын

Speaking of manipulation and covert ways to cut you off from from support. Can you talk about persuasion, suggestion and other coercive tactics that partners can use to extract info, time, emotional energy or resources?

@gregoryritchie7852 Ай бұрын

Wish I had known all this years ago - in toxic relationship without realizing how toxic it was.

@dennyfie 29 күн бұрын

It is a bad situation being in a toxic relationship.

@Groundwater24 21 күн бұрын

Believe or not but this stuff has been in the DSM since the 80’s! I strongly believe the reason for this [apart from the narcs never got help to get diagnosed] is that many therapists (from my own experience with them) are narcissists themselves. I even have one recorded on zoom abusing me. She sh*ts herself when ever I say “narcissist”. It’s like a crucifix to them.

@kidrosskidrossproductions2906 Ай бұрын

I’m so happy i’m here Lise

@Gloriagal78 Ай бұрын

The very last one. This. My husband has holed himself up in his office for the past seven days I think the last time we spoke was Monday of last week. He totally ignores me when I try to reach out in the most neutral way possible, such as a greeting. Doesn’t even look at me, and walks away. My best guess is because I asked him not to cut the grass yet because of the heat wave, and he mumbled something as he walked away. I’ve learned to try not to engage him in adult conversation anymore, because it ends up with him yelling and walking away. This is the longest his stonewalling ever gone It’s gotten worse over the years, but this has been his overarching default throughout the decades of 36 years of marriage. The strange thing, is that it doesn’t even bother me anymore. In fact, it’s a relief not to have him around. I feel so much lighter, upbeat, and positive. Am I a bad person because of that?🤷🏻‍♀️

@bigpengy Ай бұрын

You're not a bad person 😊 Enjoy the silence!

@Gloriagal78 27 күн бұрын

@@bigpengy Thank you…😊

@Groundwater24 21 күн бұрын

You are doing brill’ Gloria. You deserve better than that, much better.

@missionfitness7933 Ай бұрын

Great list!

@123antimiro 14 күн бұрын

Very informative. It has clarified many situations I have been through . Thank you

@blueskies773 14 күн бұрын

I’ve learned that even ONE extreme reaction to something innocuous is enough to cut ties. Emotionally healthy people have enough self awareness to not go there, and that first reaction is a test. If you continue, the reactions will, too.

@djpvma Ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing 😊🙏🏻

@vickibazter3446 Ай бұрын

Very helpful 👌 TY

@Sumit24feb Ай бұрын

Thank you for the insight

@MichaelBurset Ай бұрын

I was diagnosed with BPD two years ago and I Know I have “behaviors” that suggest Narcissism, but as I understand and experienced is that the core difficulties are very dissimilar. So how do you illustrate that to the ones you love and care for?

@Groundwater24 21 күн бұрын

The thing you have in your favour bud, is you have the ability to have emotional empathy and show/feel love. I’ve studied many, many of hundreds of hours on NPD & BPD and I personally feel that there is chasm between the two. Mainly the authentic ability to feel love & empathy. The narcissist can have pragma love at best and they likely mistaken narcissistic supply as love. I hope this helps in some way. All the best.

@brandonr8269 Ай бұрын

I watch these and I swear, 90% of Ontario, Canada are narcissists.

@Groundwater24 21 күн бұрын

Do you know what, Brandon? Since Dr Ramani has recently said it is “12-16% but likely higher”. I think it is at least 3x that. Imagine that, eh! Millions of children running around in adults bodies.

@user-dx2ql1jm4b Ай бұрын

Great video Lisa thank you for sharing😋🌟

@rostamr4096 Ай бұрын

Thank you, Lise...

@mikef2060 27 күн бұрын

I just all the toxicity and him behind.thank you for everything ❤️👌

@LiseLeblanc 26 күн бұрын

Thank you!

@jacksavage279 Ай бұрын

This was very helpful and I subscribed.

@Acrobattler Ай бұрын

Thank you. Your insight is admirable! Congratulations for your channel.

@lesilluminations1 25 күн бұрын

One trait that isn't emphasized enough is the constant opposition. It's exhausting.

@Groundwater24 21 күн бұрын

Do you mean like always a different way of doing things, no matter what it is. Or, almost always disagreeing with anything you say? If this is what you mean then, absolutely they are so exhausting x10000!

@lesilluminations1 21 күн бұрын

@@Groundwater24 Yep, that's what I mean.

@Groundwater24 21 күн бұрын

@@lesilluminations1 its pretty much carbon copy with ‘em all. Very odd, like all made in the same faulty factory.

@AraRost Ай бұрын

Thank you Lise for all your helpful videos and subjects you are talking about

@huguesfereau1011 Ай бұрын

Great video as usual. Thank you for the quality of your content. Your videos are always a great help for me understanding the struggles i had in previous relationships

@bumsfallera7880 Ай бұрын

Thank you

@pierre931 27 күн бұрын

thankyou lise

@coachgillypinheiro7200 Ай бұрын

Always good.

@25N77 Ай бұрын

Thank you MS Leblanc for this and all your other excellent and resourceFULL videos. I have an ongoing one page document for my narc spouse should she ever inquire about my thoughts. I’ve become as isolated from her as I can but still live in same house. Outside of the house, I have nothing to do with her. I’ve added a few lines after watching this video.

@mondoenterprises6710 26 күн бұрын

So on point. I lived it. I just figured that's what relps are. That's how you get treated.

@dunmuloch Ай бұрын

After going through what I went through with my ex.... my biggest fear is that I would end up the narcissist. I wouldn't wish that on anyone

@akasickform 26 күн бұрын

Well, this explains a lot, like the series of relationships that I had been in and had no idea I was being manipulated at the time At least I can save myself next time one of them tries to get in

@rebeccajones8628 14 күн бұрын

He told me what I could wear, to get my haircut, how to spend my money. He always would talk about his ex partners and would compare me negatively. He never helped me and minimized my needs. I was so glad to get rid of him. His mother also meddled constantly. It was getting very bad.

@russell4824 12 күн бұрын

I am glad you got free. Thanks for sharing

@AugustusTiberius-tq1gw 12 күн бұрын

My X left me for a rebound guy after a few years together. I noticed for some time that she checked out of the relationship, and it was a matter of time before she discarded me before the manipulation and gaslighting. After she left. She thought that she was entitled to my high-profile investments. Thank God she wasn't my wife.

@ISNTCRAZY 17 күн бұрын

Please God give me strength… I’m TOTALLY involved with this person .. and I’m sure of this and have known this from the very beginning… I KNEW this and selfishly continued to tolerate and devalue myself , for the sake of not being alone and the physical aspect … I’m continuing to allow her to disrespect me … ugh … It’s time I rip the band off … any suggestions? I’m praying for courage strength and direction

@Seeloko 18 күн бұрын

I am realizing some similar behavior like that and it's making me sad and lost, the bad thing is... I love her so much, but so much and I am feeling very emotional like never did, I feel that I am falling for her "trap" about manipulating me.

@_BLACKSTAR_ Ай бұрын

There is only ONE thing you need to look out for if you are a man. Lack of respect.As soon as she no longer respects you, she no longer loves you and WILL be cheating on you.

@SuperHerofunfacts 17 күн бұрын

I told my ex partner if she kept neglecting me that I would have no choice but to leave, I moved to a whole different state to be with her, and as soon as I unpacked she withheld affection, I believe I had a reason, I went down that path last, obviously she didn't change, so I broke up with her. I had no friends there and she would try and control me, belittle me. criticize how I did dishes, laundry, cooked, nothing was good

@justjames1111 16 күн бұрын

Interesting and thought provoking video. I was thinking about my Ex and how she was during our relationship, but it also made me question myself and my behaviour, and things that I said or did which I felt justified in because I was defending myself I thought. Hmmm.

@vasilymartin4051 Ай бұрын

Because the problems of life a bigger than whether someone's a narcissist, I think there's room to move on controlling clothing. If she dresses cheap, don't get with her. If you're with her, try and get her to change how he dresses

@glendunzweilerproductions2812 5 күн бұрын

When my ex sold our cars so she could get a BMW and justified it to me by telling me I liked riding my bicycle and I needed to exercise, I was pretty sure our relationship needed to end.

@MrChillifresser 29 күн бұрын

Hi Lise, I just wanna say that I love your videos and I am really glad that I found your channel about a year ago when I was in a toxic relationship with a diagnosed BPD/NPD girl (didnt know she had it up until we were together for 3 months) Okay I understand what you're saying, But how do you realize that you're getting love bombed while it's happening ? and how do you practically not accept it/what can you actually do to defend yourself against it? greetings from Germany!

@Groundwater24 21 күн бұрын

It’s either gifts/sex or over the top adoration. My best advice from personal experience is, listen to your gut instinct.

@Melvina1975 23 күн бұрын

My ex would constantly threaten to sleep with someone else when we argued! I told him to do whatever works for him and I left.

@pierre931 Ай бұрын

thankyou lise thankyou to you i have understand that we was narcisist all the two.i have send moneys seven years but at the last i couldn t help yet she.she was doing nothing for ammeliorate her situation.at last leaving she, she told me that has find a job, but the requestes of monmeuys was continuate.so i have end the relationship definitivly..not all what you are telling was her comportments..but i lived continually in a situation of stress.her problem was became my problem

@MichaelBurset Ай бұрын

I need help in figuring all this out!

@MichaelBurset Ай бұрын

Honestly, I have an issue with this whole “love bombing” thing, I have been in Multiple long term relationships and there has been One that I have felt so much more for and have been accused of “love bombing “! What is being a hopeless romantic now a “character” flaw? Because that’s what it feels like.

@RadoslavNedyalkov 5 күн бұрын

Num 8 with the part about you going out and they guilt tripping you is a slippery slop ..... speaking from observation a girl i liked she always made plans with others but never with me ....I never said anything but it hurts ...and now listening to that I was in horrors ...am I the narcissist in that situation....so yeah the context of that part is very very important ...all the other points are valid I've experience them first hand

@Kronoth1 Ай бұрын

if you all can relate to these points i n the video all it takes is to say no to them if they threaten the relationship or give ultimatums it is ok to use that to get out of the relationship

@Lionelitun 12 күн бұрын

I be seeing red flags

@MichaelBurset Ай бұрын

Do I think that no one uses manipulation? Of course Not! But, how do we determine true manipulation against true feelings? What’s the criteria and How do we explain that to the people whom feel like we Are only manipulating them?

@jonb8633 28 күн бұрын

No actor males where harmed during the make of this video 😅

@robbB39 Ай бұрын

How do you do this if it’s your brother, who’s toxic and has shown every one of these traits?

@deanshort9011 Ай бұрын

Excellent advice regarding red flags. 🚩 🚩 🚩 Thank you very much!

@paulfitzpatrick6566 19 күн бұрын

The only lasting relationship iv had outside of my relationship to Christ ( 29 years ) is my relationship to The Scoobers. ( 28 years ). He agrees with everything I say & do, well, tbh, at times he’s raised some doubt when iv let a woman in the home for like 90 seconds at a time, good second opinion check for me. He doesn’t get upset when I’m on me PS5 for 4-6 hours, nor when I’m enjoying a nice Tia Maria 🥃 & a decent cloudy thick smoke 💨 of a Romeo Y Julieta in the dark late of an evening, with the fairy lights on. He’s a guy too so that counts for a lot. 100%.

@Taylormademan900 13 күн бұрын

I need help. Someone i was seeing cut off my primary communication. She only would allow messages through texting which as a 40 year old i thought that was strange. She would ask me questions that required explaining so texting was just so inconvenient. I would ask,"If you just talk on the phone for 5 minutes i wouldn't have to send you a text that takes 30 minutes. She had no empathy. She did small things to make any part of my life harder.

@pierre931 27 күн бұрын

certenly you have choised an hard argument for do your job.have to do anyday with angry, aggressives and lieng peoples is not easy

@JacintTheSun999 Ай бұрын

What is the difference between (malignent) borderline and (covert) narcissist? Can someone have both?

@Groundwater24 21 күн бұрын

Absolutely they can. If you are doubting anything right now, then that is your sign to scramble. Rightly or wrongly, and I know the general consensus is “run”. But, these days, I call ‘em out on the spot after I’ve given them the initial benefit of doubt.