Hey doc… so just curious since you are an expert in this… could you tell me “what is a woman?”

i used to like, troll this account, as a transphobe, and now i realize i’m trans lmao. crazy how that goes.

This me most of my life I have been struggling with it for years

The problem with these trans people is they just can’t understand. They can pretend to be something they aren’t all day long…. No one probably cares. It’s when they want to force everyone else to pretend with them that it all falls apart.

How do I know I am trans? The counsellor makes great suggestions. The best one is seeing a Mental Health Professional. Preferably one trained in trauma or gender dysphoria. Nothing beats talking this through with someone with knowledge and experience. Please dont see clergy. You wouldnt see a mechanic about a sore elbow. People with gender dysphoria who have loving and healthy caregivers dont have our problem. Those parents help their children. People like us have the gender cutout parents. Its either A or B. And if you are not, you get trauma. Not just the life long dysphoria you have trying to figure it out but the trauma of a caregiver making you fit one of those cutouts. The cutout they think you should be. So now you have gender dysphoria and trauma. You are working on that inside straight to life in hell. All you need is the fundamentalist caregiver who damns you for who you are and the sexual abuse so common among them and you win the mental illness pot. So you arent just dealing with what is my gender/sex, you are running and juggling as fast as you can just to keep up with life. I won that pot of misery. Seeing a trauma therapist to work through issues of trauma led me to realizing my gender dysphoria and to be plain, a trans gender woman. Not that Ive done much about it. Im still a baby trans. But i got a tremendous head start. Ive been seeing a trauma therapist for years. We have worked on things that would make a sociopath cringe. And it only makes this part of my life easier because I found my self love. I know what its like to feel like you are losing your mind once a month or so. I know it takes time to work these things. I know I have to give myself space. Love. Staying open and honest with myself as I work through this. I dont know where I will end up. But please take my word for it. You need help. Asking for help when you need it is one of the best things you can do for yourself. And gender dysphoria, in our society, leads to trauma. Chances are you are dealing with trauma as well. Get help. Heal from the trauma. It will make figuring out this part of your life easier. It made it easier for me to understand what I am.

I know this is an old video. But a rare good one. To all of you out there feeling transgender, gender confused, gender dysphoria, please understand that you are pretty much guaranteed to be suffering from trauma as well. It is rare for a child coming into awareness of gender who finds themselves at odds with the sex they born to not feel anxiety, frustration and dysphoria at their situation. Which is incredibly hard to deal with without help. But as most of society has the belief of strict gender roles you will also suffer trauma at the hands of your caregivers. As you are trying to deal an issue no child should have to suffer, you also are traumatized by the people in your life that you need to survive who not only dont help you but make it so much worse by forcing you to be the gender they think you are. Get professional help. Find a trauma therapist. Its probably not your only trauma. Gender dysphoria is incredibly hard to deal with. Having to deal with trauma on top of that makes you feel insane. It is incredibly difficult to sort out your gender in our societies but trauma makes it near impossible. Both dysphoria and trauma send out signals to abusers that you are a target for further abuse. Especially by siblings and relatives. Its going to take time. Its kind of like the big button. If you push it you wake up in the morning being the gender you are and everyone accepts it. Boom. Truth. Happiness. Sadly it doesnt work that way. Sadly the second step, the first is realizing we are not happy the way we were raised and forced to be, is sorting through and healing the trauma around this. We need to understand ourselves. Why we are the way we are. What made us this way in order to find the confidence and self love to figure out who and what we are. Trauma prevents that. Trauma gives us self hate. It makes seeing ourselves near impossible. Its hard to see who we are when we are dissasociated or feeling insane. Its an incredibly hard task that makes the next incredibly hard task a little bit easier. I wish it was not so. But its my truth. Ive seen the signs of my dysphoria all my life. But its been hidden under the vast amounts of trauma. Im working through the trauma and now really seeing the dysphoria. Ive got a long way to go and Ive come a long way. I just wanted to share this essential advice. You are pretty much assured to be suffering from trauma. Do yourself a favor and get help. Make the rest of your journey a little bit easier.

accidentally this video was playing in background and then I looked at the screen to see what was this lady talking about. No offence, a natural asumption when hearing femine voice plus a femine face

thank you! this is wonderful!

Good evening, me.I'm 73.I'm on hormones estrogen 4 Months I'm on blockers, I'm gonna have my testicles removed. My Doctor that I went to he asked me. Do you feel like you need console? I said no, then he said. Well then you don't need it. So I want to my regular Doctor and she told me it wouldn't hurt so I signed myself up for consuland I asked my counsetour if she ever dealt with anybody. That wants a trposition and I found the right counselor she said yes, and she was in between herself. And we got really along really good.I am very happy of the Way that I'm feeling I get very emotional.I can Cry at the drop of a dime. And I'm starting to see changes. This is suck. My one at every cent's. I was a little boy when I was a little boy. I was molested quite a few times I'd close my eyes and wish there was a girl when it was happened that I play hockey from school. And I would put my older sister's clothes on model and front of mirror put her make up and it made me feel so good. Then when I got married. I married a girl before we got married. Her father forced her to have sex. He told her I made you. I wanna be first I have a right to do this. So he forced to have sex that messed app her head so when we got married. She didn't want to have sex.She says I hate sex.Don't care if I ever have sex because of her fother shall I so When I was home from work and she was working. I started putting her clothes on and her makeup. I got married 5 times more or less to cover it up. My last one married me from the island of Saint Lucia. She only married me for the green guard. I put her out and when I did. I felt so free and I screwed up my knees. I'd have surgery on my knees. They put me in a nursing home and I knew something was wrong so I called the ambulance. And they came and the nursing home said we didn't call you. But then they told her that I did. They took me to Burlington Vermont. They did surgery on me. My knees, the Doctor. A Malone did not put me on blood thinner. So I had blood clots. They started the operation. And I had to stop because my Blood Pressure was dropping too low so they put me in a coma for 5 days. Until the Blood Pressure went down. How is the menu's hours in hospital for 6 weeks? And they had to give me a blood transfusion. Juicy, I almost I figured God's not ready for me. I have a second chance in listen. What I've always wanted. So I think we're God's. Let me be what I've always wanting to be and I feel so goodbye. I don't care about what anybody thit's my life. And now i'm happy❤

Came here just to dislike the video

I’ve been struggling with my own special set of unique feelings. I don’t know if you would exactly classify it as Gender dysphoria, because it would be an adult female feeling like an anime girl inside? I am an STARSEED/BLUE-RAY Pleiadians Anime Female warrior named Jujtoti from the Karelian Family from a multidimensional advanced technological hybrid alien humanoid anime all female Pleiadian world. I’ve got a lot more than a bargain before when I had my awakening to reveal things about my authentic self at times. I’m still struggling with it, defines everything this 3-D reality stands for in this world. It took a big major awakening for me to truly wake up to who and what I truly am. I know am no longer the Earth female I thought I was because I’m a dimensional Starseed/Blue Ray Pleiadians Anime Magical Teen Girl Goddess. I’ve lost my reality since I’ve had my major awakening on December 30 after I lost a tooth and making a wish to be a young beautiful female forever and have immortality. My wish got granted, and then this is when my entire journey started. For me, my awakening was not something I had planned or a choice as it happened, regardless of what I wanted or not wanted, regardless of whether or not, I was ready or not. Then on Dec3 0th going into 2024 when I lost a tooth, out of fear I Made a wish to be a beautiful female forever and have immortality. Then right away the kundalini awakening opened up at full attack and my authentic self said now you have the soul of an anime girl, and you are now a real anime girl inside. Ever since then I have been in a living hell or dream state I am unable to wake from. Even my mind set, and body has gone into the age regression process to look more like an anime girl. That is what I see when I look in Mirror anyway. I see a cute anime girl looking back at me and I am like what the bloody hell. Is this Really happening to me and is this freakin real. What the hell happened to my reality. Been dealing with these synchronicities from earlier childhood and it’s been using anime and anime girls as ways to get my attention even when I wasn’t looking for it or interested in it or you knew about it. Back then I was more interested in about finding a dream job. Having a nice car. Nice house making big money nothing else mattered back then. Even if I found out what anime meant back then I didn’t give a damn about it because I was more interested in what I mentioned above. Over time Anime revealed itself to in the form of synchronicities to me and told me what it was. It slammed me into the wall to make sure I knew what anime girls and magical girls were. Then over time the more I had to watch it off and on, I would start having fantasies and desires to be an anime girl living in anime girl worlds. For many years I was able to push it away and think it was nothing more than that. I don't like anything about the Magical Girl Part because she is from Puella Mgi Madoka Magica multiverse. I seem to be an unintended victim of forced contact from Kyubey to be a Magical Girl. I am sick of all this suffering on top of suffering on top of suffering. I don't want to be a Magical girl knowing the suffering they must put up with. Magical Girls are made to suffer. Please help me, because I don't know what to do any more. This is driving me into complete madness and I don't want to end up in no dam Phy ward again. I had a bad traumatic experience. I was put in there over a deviated septum last year in Feb of 2023 for 2 and half weeks. What they did to me was just inhuman. I was having issues breathing and one day the head nurse and its helper came in the dark and ejected me with two syringes at the same time on both sides of my ribs. It felt like an alien abduction to me. Can anyone explain to me what type of shifts I am dealing with? I feel so scared, confused, broken and damaged goods. I hate dealing with the Anime Girl Body Dysphoria the most. I hate the fact that I can't go back and yet it keeps pushing me forward. I feel like I am a mental wreck, and I can't help feeling the way I do deep down inside! The more I Follow this Path the stronger the feelings of being a Anime Girl Gets. I Can't go back because there is only death and pain. Going forward drives me into feeling to be a true anime girl and live in an anime girl multiverse. The feeling is like being stuck in a dream state that I am unable to awaken from. This is why my dissociation is my best friend when I feel numb and in the void from any feelings and pain. I am sick of how people point the finger at me and say I brought this on myself. Why would I pick such painful and deadly path knowing that it could risk could be suicide and death. This is me in the world since I’ve been going my shape changing transmutation to being younger. The Post is my animal and then there is my anime girl soul family. I went to a psychic fair this week in Saturday and Sunday. I visit multi psychics for multiple different Readings, and they’ve all agreed that I am a Pleiadian. I’ve done a lot of soul-searching and everything and I know deep down inside I’ve been confirmed by others that I am a multi dimensional being. I also have the soul of an Anime Magical Teen Girl Goddess, that’s also been confirmed by a large group of psychics that they felt this anime girl child like present.

In other words you’re a difficult customer you were rude to the employees and you’re the victim shut up you’re a woman stop trying to make yourself relevant

I’m confused they called her she ? It’s a woman

Somehow I feel uncomfy, almost embarrassed being called a guy (I'm biologically female) and my girl name and she/her feels "lighter" but he/him and seeing other guys creates this longing, jealous ache in my heart and I feel like I relate more to guys and like accidentally refer to myself as if I was a guy and wanted to be a guy when I was younger, but then idk... I literally don't even know what I want anymore because I've been questioning for so long

The narcissism is real

Sex is not assigned! It is simply confirmed at birth. All this terminology is plain ridiculous psychobabble. Sex has nothing to do with your opinion; it is what it is. Gender is an opinion; therefore - you are free t think whatever you want; your sex still stays the same. So, why is all of this so controversial and important? Be who you want to be; but - don’t expect others to agree with you ☝🏻 Therefore, if you want your opinion to be respected, respect the opinions of others. Simple🤷🏼‍♂️

It's easy to identify yourself. You're a soul having a physical dream. The soul has no gender.

Being shouldn't be about gender roles or social expectations ! it is about aprofound belief of being a "male soul" inside a female body or vice-versa and experience dysphoria about this state of fact. Being gender non-conforming isnt being trans.

Prayers if I’m feeling charitable but usually I go with the conventional eye roll .

I was born a boy I can not deny the science, however I was not really a boy. I was a baby and my memories of childhood are profound.We lived on a street with a few houses across the dirt road was a farm. All the boys were older like 5 and never let me play with them, I ended up playing with the girls and did what they wanted me to do. We moved and my first playmate was a girl and we played dressed up and house and those games, then came school and I knew then I wanted to be a girl. I am!

My new gender: Microschophicfucky-luckypneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis

Thanks mother

Since you are the expert here is a question for you… what is a woman? What is a man?

Narcissistim on steroids. A server in any restaurant has 20 tables at a time. They DONT WANT TO CONNECT WITH You. They just want to go home and no one gives a fuck if you liked the calamari… you arrogant asshole. No one cares, live your life as a woman who loves women. We have more in common than you think

Well what are you?

Shalom, how many gentiles have you made defile themselves this day?

Wow, you're jewish, what a surprise.

Before we were fighting gender-stereotypes. Now we are fighting our own body in order to meet the stereotypes. Bravo!

Biology and psychology, I'm confused for other people I love. Maybe they're both in their infancy, despite the arrogance of hu mankind.

it really hurts to think about that i could’ve started at like 23 when i really started having those thoughts. here i am at 27, over half a year into hrt.

There ARE only 2 genders. Biology has decided this. The others are just imagined, the same as religion!

The link for the 280 page workbook isn’t working. Instead it reroutes anyone who goes there to an online casino.

Feelings and gender are two different things. Feeling variate, while gender is constant. It doesn't matter if someone chops off his weener or grow it up, it's still two genders out there. And if someone wants to push on with woke stuff, then I'll say I am God and you are my servant and a peasant. Deal with it! 😁👊💪

Intersex is a birth defect that has nothing to do with what is commonly called transgender .

You’re gay

Boo hoo hoo. Imagine being so mad cause u think ur a dude and everyone else knows that ur a woman and doesn’t live in a false reality.

Hello Dara, I needed this video today especially the minimizing part. I forget that I do this. I do not know why you left doing The therapy part, but I know you have left an enormous gift for people like me. I bought your book and was working through it and that was also enormously helpful before the book was destroyed in an accident. Yes your words, and Dara the person, still bring value to someone's life. I know that because it brings value to mine. On a less positive note, I watched a video and it said to go to the site to get a PDF about questions to ask yourself. I couldn't find it and it appears the site itself has been hacked as some of the links outbound go to places that don't seem right. I could be mistaken but I don't need the language in at least one of them. Thank you for all you have done. Shawna

Thank you Dara. I am so glad that you spoke of psychological changes. My physical dysphoria comes and goes but the mental dysphoria is almost always with me. I have a certain amount of gender fluidity which is not helped by work. I am not out and don't believe I have the opportunity to come out. I am hoping that HRT or GAHT or whatever it is called these days will keep me more on the feminine side of gender fluidity. That's what I really need more than anything. I look forward to any other changes though they may be problematic in my life.

This person needs mental aid, rather than trying to manipulate the English language in such a way as to not to be reminded of the foolish life path she has chosen.

Stay away from children.

You are female. There's no such thing as "non-binary".

I'm glad you are still making videos. love your perspective

The truth is..... THERE ARE ACTUALLY ONLY TWO GENDERS ! All the others are freaks, mutations, and social conspiracies.

One of your videos popped up in my recommendations tonight and I'm so glad i clicked on it. I'm a 41 year old enby who only just this year came to full terms with my identity. I came out to my fiance, who is incredibly supportive, thankfully. I'm still nervous about coming out to my mother and sister. I don't think they'll reject me, but I'm not sure if they'll fully accept who I am. My mother was quite standoffish when i came out as not straight 20 years ago, though she didn't reject me. Still kinda hurt, though. So i have my trepidations. What has your experience been with coming out? I could really use some older enby advice, even if you're not professionally practicing anymore. :) Your guidance would be extremely helpful. I also want to get top surgery, but I'm not sure how long i can take off work for recovery. Got bills and rent to pay, after all. :/ i hope your surgery went well. :) Anyhoo, make vids whenever you feel like doing so. No pressure.

Imagine having a female figure in or around your family who felt so angry and afraid that your attractiveness as a woman might outshine hers that she would push her “daughter” to transition to a boy. I think some parents who encourage this might be guilty of child abuse, and a munchhausen type woman in particular could get addicted to the attention of having a trans child.

Thank you for giving me insight into your delusion Miss Hoffman.

Hey your website has been hacked. I tried to access your guide and it leads to a casino website.

2 Gs

I'm glad I came acrossed you I myself I'm bigender he/she/they pronouns I self-discoved started off crossdressing for a few months and realized I was referring to Lexus as her own individual and been exploring more but I do question a few things more I explore I did buy your book thank you doing what you do

Thanks!