Thank you so much for sharing your story. Sending you all hugs

Hello! Great channel and nice video,👍42👈it was a pleasure to watch.😊

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Aging is harder in your 30s and 40s. At 56 it easier. I would say celebrate what you like about yourself today. I remember someone saying “I wish I were as fat as I thought I was 20 years ago.” Chase optimal health instead of youth.

"Ultimately all the battle of life is within the individual" ~ Shoghi Effendi 🌟 Thank you both, Sarah and Stephanie, for all that you both do .....

Loving this conversarion ❤ just loving it! Thank you ladies, very helpful video.

I really needed this today. Thank you. Im 5 sessions into IFS and im so depressed and just in bed as i cant deal with all the parts memories and distress. I am panicking that im stuck like this now and beating myself up for resting so much

Thank you. Appreciate you. ❤

Not that anyone should ever comment on people's bodies, don't get me wrong, but I think I remember you talking about needing a fork to eat pizza in an episode? Maybe that's why they thought it was okay to comment about an orthodontist? Just speculating. Anyway, thanks for doing these. Really enjoy listening to you guys.

Thank you so much for this video. ❤

Absolutely love your podcasts. You are very helpful to me. ❤

I’m definitely going to keep in mind “That’s an interesting thing to say”. Such a good way of calling out an inappropriate comment.

Looks like the answer is you can’t loose weight without dieting

Have you ever thought of doing a regular episode where you address social media comments you receive? Especially one's with questions about the content, and perhaps even some of the critical or hard to read comments?

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Whenever someone makes a comment to me that I'm unsure if they mean as an insult I like to say "aww thanks you too" and watch them get confused if they don't like hearing what they said directed back at them 😅 not really for weight stuff but other things like when people say I look "comfortable" or tired

15 years ago I met a couple from China that I had not met in a few years and they mentioned that I gained weight, not trying to be mean, but that triggered something in me then. I´ve since then started practicing reminding myself that people sometimes are not aware of how they speak and are rarely not trying to hurt people by the things they say, but the way people act and talk about things is rather a result of a culture they live and are brought up in. In the back of my head I also keep in mind that people can´t make me feel anything that my triggers are not allowing me to think and thereby feel. But sometimes I just take a deep breath and ask myself if the comments are someting that is worth adressing right now, and also if the person is a person that seems receptive to a discussion or not. If the person is someone who is trying to be hurtful and is someone that I don´t know, I just remind myself that their problem with others and the way their emotional regulation works (or lack there of) is not my problem, even though they try to make it mine. At least for me this is helpful.

girl in a bigger body here 🙋‍♀I literally think every other human being is beautiful. Their bodies, in my head, are perfect and they look amazing the way they are. Whenever I'm talking badly about myself I solely just mean myself. I'm so into my own head I don't think about how it effects other people. That is a huge flaw of mine. I rarely ever talk about these thoughts to anyone besides my fiance thankfully. I am way to self conscious and self loathing to ever share these thoughts with other people. I guess that's a good thing.

both are amazing thanks! dbt thenique helps a lot to handle this situation. = dear man. D: Describe - Describe the situation factually and without judgment. Focus on the specifics of what happened. E: Express - Express your feelings and thoughts about the situation clearly and directly. Use "I" statements to convey your emotions. A: Assert - Assert your needs or requests directly and respectfully. Clearly state what you want or need from the other person. R: Reinforce - Reinforce the benefits of meeting your request. Explain the positive outcomes for both parties if your needs are met. M: Mindful - Stay focused on the present interaction. Avoid getting distracted by unrelated issues and maintain your focus on achieving your goal. A: Appear Confident - Appear confident and self-assured in your body language and tone of voice. Confidence can help persuade others to take you seriously. N: Negotiate - Be willing to negotiate and compromise if necessary. Find a middle ground that works for both parties.

The pregnancy question often applies to women once they gained weight... This happened to me at the swimming pool, under the showers, by an old lady : "how many months ?" "what ?" "your pregnancy, how many months ?" "I'm just bloated, and this is none of your business" . And once, by a colleague that I don't meet very often. This time, I wasn't in a bathing suit but in regular clothes. And my answer was smg like "back off, bc either i'm gonna be crying and you'll be wet, or I'll punch you in the face. Have you never heard of ano.recovery ?" . She was so confused, she hasn't talked to me since that day (6 yrs ago) ! BUT : some day, I was driving, really too fast. A policeman stopped me for that reason. I was really bloated. I started to cry, showed my belly and said "I'm pregnant, I need to pee, that's why I'm driving a bit fast" . He let me go without a fine....😉

I find your episodes so comforting 😊I think it's especially uncomfortable when it comes from close family members. On the one hand, I understand their worries concerning being overweight and its associated health consequences (joint pain, diabetes, cardiovascular health). On the other hand, those comments (when articulated inappropriately) can really harm sometimes and trigger deeper emotions. It's hard to find a balance to express your concern and at the same times empower someone to look after their health 😊 if eating and being thin is connected to more underlying issues like self worth, identity, validation, praise and worth, it is more complicated and eating disorder do definitely not help with these issues either 😢but to be honest, being overweight is not funny 😢

I feel exactly like Stefanie!!!!

Ive been in intensive outpatient for BED and i have gained weight and my lower back is NOT happy. I really want to give up.

Oh my, how did you know that this is something that I am struggling with right now. I recently learned that, due to my age, I need to ensure that there is enough protein in my meals but I find that I am terrified of reading food labels because that is something that I used to do when I was obsessed with following numerous fad diets. Can I trust myself to check protein level info without becoming fixated on the other numbers, the numbers that used to rule my life? Thank you for sharing the tip that I could learn to trust myself with something that is not triggering or too difficult first. I can do that. I'm still figuring myself out but, with your guidance, I've got this! Thank you both xx

Trust is a relationship I’m building with myself❤

Another beautifully presented conversation ❤

What a beautiful episode, I resonated with every word and literally wrote down half of what you guys said. One line of thinking especially stuck with me, "Can we be accepted even if we're not doing all these things (that we think we should)? It's about asking yourself, even if you don't do that thing, will you still hold my hand?" ❤️

I am a diabetic who binges, over 20 years. I am on keto to keep my sugar from spiking (so often) and to lower insulin resistance. and in turn lose weight. I still binge some but with exercise and getting back on the wagon it is not as often. The diabetes is the reason for trying to stay away from sugar. However, I am still not able to get off sugar substitutes.

The part about being authentic to yourself really resonated with me. I never thought about it that way, that if you allow yourself to eat when you need to eat that this is how my body will look and that's ok. That is my body and how it's supposed to look.

Great conversation. Related to this idea about not having food noise--I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and a week ago I started taking Adderall. My very first dose of the drug was a revelation. It was like putting on a pair of noise-cancelling headphones, but for all the stray thoughts in my mind. It took away all the chatter and I could focus on whatever I wanted to focus on and only that for maybe the first time in my life. I hadn't previously realized how much internal chatter I was dealing with all the time. Along with all that chatter went the "food noise". Separate from that, Adderall, like many stimulants, is an appetite suppressant. But what I'm talking about is a distinct different feeling. I'm not hungry when on the drug, and that's fine for me in my body as it is currently. But the not thinking about food constantly is like being freed from a prison, or so I imagine. So this has me wondering about links for neurodivergent people to binge eating and how much of the binging comes from ADHD in some people. It's not lost on me that something must have caused food noise to become a component of the excess chatter in my mind to begin with. Certainly there are people with ADHD who don't think about food all the time. I think that's related to the way I've used food to comfort myself. Also, I'm noticing that I was likely using food to lessen my ADHD symptoms. If thinking about food (what will I eat next? how soon can I eat? a sandwich sounds really good. I don't need to eat--I'm not even hungry. Or am I hungry? should I call Grubhub?) was a big portion of the chatter going on in my head, and it absolutely was, then it makes sense that eating became a way to temporarily quiet down some of the chatter.

Hi Ladies 🌻, loving this video ❤. Thank you for all your great work. Your conversation was really helpful. I love this channel. You have conversations, guests, you are always giving us great content.Thank you ❤.

Eye opening. Thank you!

Excellent video! Thank you Ladies…

Eye-opening conversation ❤I have a question: Have you struggled with gaining weight after releasing restriction? the idea of potential weight loss (and fear of weight gain) is still quite present 😢 for a lot of people

Please review Glen Livingston's book "Defeat your cravings." Pretty Pretty please with sugar on top.

Hi 😊! Excellent topic.

HI, I know I am not a member ( I will join promise). Just let you know this podcast has somehow really helped me. one request could you please review the book Eating in the Light of the Moon How Women Can Transform Their Relationship with Food Through Myths, Metaphors, and Storytelling Anita Johnston Ph D.? ( a request from a future member).

I am learning so much about my food behaviors through your podcasts. Thank you!

Please review Glen Livingstons updated book Defeat your Cravings. That would be AWESOME!!!

No disrespect intended, I just couldn’t listen to this guest. So much vocal fry, so much droning- catch you next week xx

Agree with almost everything but I would say that there is actually a lot of research still to be done for the women’s side of strength training because unfortunately a lot of the data is reflecting men in the space and not women as much, especially considering their cycles and how that can affect performance. Great episode!

Don't mind me- just combing through the archives 📜🔦🤔

My endocrynologist just says to me that I need to loose weight and proposes medicine for loosing weight.... it's not productive for someone with binge eating, at all... thank you, for including PCOS in your podcast!

Steffanie you remind me of Anna from Downton Abby

6:47 Andrew Huberman just did a Huberman Lab Podcast about hunger and talked about the science behind the 2 pathways for hunger, (short term and long term). He discussed an experiment by Harvey Grill where he severed a rat’s brain so that they only had use of the brainstem, and they were amazingly still able to regulate their meal size, but not their long-term changes in energy needs. The conclusions that they came to were that the long-term weight regulation centers are in the hypothalamus, which can override the fullness cues that live in the brainstem. I love it when the psychological experience and the biology match up so perfectly! Fascinating!

He’s not a psychologist he’s a psychiatrist- has an MD.

Your coversations are so honest talking about sensitive topics. I don't know how you do it but It feels "cozy" to watch your videos, your voices are very calm too.

The thumbnail 😊 So sweet! Great video ❤

Getting old is completely out of our control. Getting our heads out of our bodies and into our daily joy of the moment is within our control.

Yes, I disagree as well about naturally smaller bodied individuals maybe not being as prone to binging after dieting. I am a naturally smaller bodied person.. I suffered from anorexia nervosa as a teenager; began eating regularly and regained weight.. then into adulthood yoyo dieted and over exercised and went into an Orthorexia period. Now I'm struggling with binge eating.. and my MD was excited and happy that for the first time I'm at a "healthy" weight.. but I didn't get there in a healthy way. 😢