Thank you for sharing

Well said. You are an awesome Aspie.

I'm not diagnosed but you are my kin. 🤎💪

One time, I said "books" during a date and I never saw her again.

MASKING ACTIVATED

20 min power naps 👍.

I'm sick to death of being so different from everyone when I passed as odd nt all my life because my life is fslling apart dear ❤ heart. Edit: i mean i had to eat blue vaium halfway thru this nevertheless invaluable discussion = my unarmoured life is so badly falling apart

I 💞 hope you are having a good life. It is so nice to hear you in these discussions. It is just like the old days, which for yourself I doubt were as good as the new days. It is a good time to see the reasons to be still happy. We did the beest we could with the person we were at the time. Cannot get my aspie autistic armour back yet, much needed since slowly my unmasked brain is destroying everything and relationship with everyone indeed I have in my life. I simply keep doing dumb things to make it so. Please that things are going better for you two. I discovered a charming autidtic "Dana Andersen" of England and though she cusses describes the level two autisticc experience so very vividly and candidly. You may like to see some of 🧡 her vids. Take care, pls, we all still love you, as a fan.

- 💄 Teenage girls often feel pressured to conform to societal standards of beauty, including wearing makeup and fashionable clothes. - 🧠 This pressure can be mentally exhausting and affect self-esteem and mental well-being. - 📺 Media plays a significant role in perpetuating unrealistic beauty standards, leading to insecurity and low self-worth among teenagers. - 🍔 Trying to imitate these standards is ultimately futile and a waste of time and energy. - 💅 Makeup should be a choice based on personal enjoyment, not a necessity to fit in. - 👫 Popular boys and girls in high school are often not worth the effort to impress. - 🌱 True friendships develop over time and are based on mutual respect and acceptance of each other's true selves. - 🎓 Lifelong friendships often form after the teenage years, with people who appreciate you for who you are. - 🌟 Prioritize being genuine and forming meaningful connections over superficial appearances.

As I debated on whether or not to pull my 11 year old son out of public school, I worried about the social aspect. The way you describe the ability to compartmentalize to specialize in academics and social situations put the whole thing into perspective for me. The onslaught of social opportunity does not automatically equate to real skill building. We are out of the public school now and both of us are so much happier and at peace. Thank you for sharing your perspective. You have no idea how much I appreciate it!

💚 i cannot express how beautiful it is to hear and see you again 💚 you warm my old heart with great memories of vids you made... remember "what is it you make time for every day?" you asked referring everyone to hopefully answer on ogre6's site because it was his question ?

Totally agree and I find very hard to explain it, I feel that the lack of empathy, and acceptance of who has different opinion or points of view still building big walls, it’s very challenging when people force things. For example have a break for a normal person is talk, laugh, have fun, but for ASD is get fresh air, go for walk, being alone, have space. Would be much better if everyone accepts other instead of try to change others.

I think this is why my daughter loves nature… she’s surrounded by sensory input that is natural, beneficial al. In a class it’s artificial and the sensory input isn’t edifying her in the way nature does.

I love this analogy, and it’s so true of my 9 year old daughter.

Whether Asperger (the doctor) did bad stuff is irrelevant. When we say Aspie we're not celebrating the doctor as a person, anymore than when we study Einstein's theories we care whether Einstein was a good guy or not. It's a name for a condition. And I think it's a useful dictinction compared to the DSM's later ASD 1/2/3 that bundles everything together, more for convenience and political reasons than for scientific ones.

Can we also note that she looks like a movie star?!

Are you the reincarnation of KZfaqr The Anmish?

How the F can that even be legal.... 🤯🤬

hope all is well, would love to hear what you're up to these days!

Thank you for this! I often wonder what my son would think and feel if he were to look back at his school years in a painful way. I want him to thrive and is people like you that shine a light on what a bright future for him would look like!

The way you describe the allistic mind as allowing social development to overshadow all over development makes the autistic mind sound more well-rounded. I've also seen that be true in practice: autistic people often learn to socialize, but I've never seen an allistic person intentionally overcome their deficits in mechanical reasoning, sensory perception, or mathematics/science. They seem to believe it suffices to move with the herd, regardless of where the herd is moving. We define pathology by what is statistically less common, but maybe we should define it according to what is ineffective in current circumstances. Or am I misunderstanding something?

This summarises exactly what I've observed with my two ASD kids. No one seemed to get it. I homeschool my youngest now. After two years of school refusal he has completed Year 6 comfortably. My oldest attends Health School, for other reasons. 'Normal' school is not for everyone. I hope you all find a path that works for your child. (Don't give up, it can take a long time.)

I think the fact that Kanye has never been under a conservatorship says it all.

I hope that you have been doing well. Thank you for all of your uploads!

Dude get to the point

miss your videos, hope you'll post again someday

I know this is an old video, but I'll say it anyways :) I think one major challenge is that people don't know what Asperger's is, so maybe it would be wise to first ask if they know what Asperger's Syndrome is and make sure they know the relevant/important parts of it before telling them that you have Asperger's? I'm a (weird/untypical) neurotypical and hadn't even heard of Asperger's when my wife said she thought she might be an Aspie. It was just something she mentioned and then talked about something else, but when I tried googling it later she didn't seem to fit into the symptoms. However, as I've dug deeper into what Asperger's is, it would make sense if she is an Aspie (she is going to her doctor next week regarding this topic).

Damn, you hit the nail on the head here !

03:28 i get the opossite i know i will obsess about a new thing and then it will become boring because i will know a great deal about it in the end but it always is intreesting to find new things :) so im sorta stuck in some fu**ed up limbo in the end :D

Hey Maja hope your baby and yourself as a new mumma are going well!? This video is amazing and confirmed everything I already figured out on my own so it is always nice to know I'm not crazy 😅. Eg ADHD / Autism are the same thing, like looking at 2 sides of the same coin. I really do question researchers/clinicians (not you) in general ability to recognise autistic individuals so I do question the twin test validity, like for instance did one learn how to mask their autism and the other one didn't, did the one who didn't appear autistic come out later in life when social demands exceeded capacity, was one ADHD and the other autistic, etc? It's also annoying how stuck researchers are in holding onto very biased subjective purely external observations of autistics in the diagnostic criteria are still considered to be what "autism" is, and I presume that base is used to standardise all the research (right?). Like if you squint, tilt your head and translate internal reality into external ignorance the criteria does match but why is this like the default understanding of autism which leads to a lack of recognition of autistic individuals. Case and point the numbers of people who are autistic magically goes up every year. Boys supposedly are more likely to be autistic (I haven't seen any evidence in reality of this 2:1 bias). The data has never made any sense to me other than it is way off of reality as it is a very subjective science (both internally and externally) and science in general struggles with interpreting variables of a complex nature which they can't isolate, control or accurately measure. Thanks Maja and sorry for the rant. I just feel frustrated with still how far science is away from the reality of being autistic. But that's what we are here for right, to educate, question and discuss what is being overlooked. I was also like wow you look so young for your age then I was like oh I'm 35 too lol 😂 . I'm pretty sure I experienced autism catatonia at age 15 (that's 20 years ago). It was a very very strange experience. If you or anyone is interested I'm happy to share my experience. I'm pretty sure it would be the same thing as a regression when social demand exceeds capacity.

Thank you for breaking it down so beautifully. I am homeschooling my 10 year old with autism this year

i wish you put out more videos

Really good video.. I just found out I was about 2 weeks ago. haha

ANC makes me sick. Any great alternatives?

thank you for this. I can feel everything you talk about, but I play my role every day. Wear the mask, be the mask...

Not ones we can see sorry

you are 🌷 so precious 🙂 young lady ! kram 🖖

p.s. : i masked as a male

I lost all my masking (aspie armour) during Chinese Bat flu isolation. Cannot communicate with anyone to any depth but in print. Sitting there staring at everyone, no clue what to say or do to relate anything like I used to. For 61 years I've essentially been neurotypical, in work anyway. Now I really feel for these youngsters, now having no social skills, behaviours and cognition. Love 🧡 you and hubby still...

Unrelated to your autism, but you do seem like you'd probably do well as an actress. You have a natural beauty and your delivery would probably be different than a regular female actress. This whole recording, tone and atmosphere of the room just reminds me of films like Donnie Darko, American beauty and other films which features the main actor/actress as an outcast or in a group of outcasts. Which I would assume this eccentricity of the character and plot most Aspies would relate to.

5:51 😢

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This was extremely helpful and hit the nail on the head on what my 5 year old seems to be experiencing. You've helped us tremendously with making out decision to homeschool

aspie, not albert einstein, he liked jokes and made jokes and laughed at jokes, and played violin. but for issac newton, he never laughed, he didnt understand metaphors, if you said to issac your eyes shined like stars, then he would put stars in your eye position and would think you are strange. he had no social skills to the point where he gave away the secret of calculus to leibnitz in a letter, and also gave halley the location of the comet where to find it. then when issac became age 60, he bitterly fought to get the calculus credit to death, literally to the death, till he died. he learnt not to take it sitting down at old age any more.

Not sure I fully understand "Positives about being an Aspie", the line is negative, you only need a line like that because everything suck and you are trying to reduce the enormity of the suckiness. I'm bad at being a normal person, but I'm good at being autistic, why does it matter that I'm bad at being normal? What matters is how good or bad I am at being autistic. I'm entirely removing a problem the outside world tried to force onto me and failed in doing, instead of awful platitudes and mitigation because it sucks to be aspie? I can now go work on the fact I'm using "normal" as a slur, that I need to work on my expectations that "normal" people will kick me, when i think the data shows that most people would rather pet me and/or other issues that will make me even better at being autistic.

r/im14andthisisdeep

Music is my thing too. And singing. Your talking is lovely 😊

nobody's gonna say how labelling yourself with a term named after a Nazi doctor who helped sort out which autistic children deserved to live from those who were sent to be murdered in the gas chambers is offensive?

How often do you feel a homeschooled autistic child should play with other children

I'm autistic I wasn't diagnosed until recently after my daughter was everything your saying I completely understand and I don't want my daughter to go through this