6 minutes in. I'm giving up. Both of you "had previous relationahip" Can you recommend a skills path for someone who is so clueless that no one has ever made a pass at him?

Let's get real. I'm halfway through the video and you still haven't mentioned the massive issue of alexithymia. I'm giving up.

Let's get real. My late autistic wife was very promiscuous. (“Promiscuity is frequently observed in the behaviour of women with Asperger’s Syndrome” from the book “Asperger’s Syndrome and Sexuality” by Isabelle Henault, PhD, Psychologist)

What an excellent overview of the current theory and praxis in this area - thank you!

I love listening to spellers because it gives me the time I need to process language.

Thank you for explaining equity and other topics, your video is a good resource :)

Go, Patrick! I admire your determination and perseverance. As a 65 yo autist, I'm so proud of you, and other young people who are helping to break the stigma people have placed on us. Good luck, Patrick, in all your endeavors. ❤

Thank you I encourage this so much pressuring my teen to self-disclose so he can know that people are more willing to accept him than he thinks. He says they will use it against him, which makes no sense to me. I see only the good possibilities while he only sees the negative possibilities and seeing this video helps me gain some perspective and really allow it to be solely his decision. I just want him to love and accept himself and not get burnout in his 20s from masking his whole life (I thought it was the way)

Useful and important. The one issue I have with Neurodiversity us the emphasis on the Brain as the difference medium. The term different Brains still sounds medical and not layered enough about what beings about 'difference' in human-life. You don't have a relationship with a Brain, but with a person

Not much on this topic here in the US, these autism videos are foreign, with support info not useful to American autistics.

Waiting for years for a diagnosis is a big problem, especially for children. £2000 I was quoted for a private diagnosis is way out of my price range.

Dialectical reasoning establishes what cannot be proven but is nonetheless empirically obvious…for obvious reasons. If anyone capable of keeping in mind most autism is (dialectically) undiagnosed bothered to study it I believe what they’d find is Alzheimer’s women are inevitably mothers of autistic adult children. Psychiatry withholds its dialectical awareness at the behest of those paying its fees in part by conflating undiagnosed with unremarkable, but dementia (egdecompensatory regression) doesn’t randomly occur as part of an otherwise unremarkable mental health history. Autistics do it on the front end, schizophrenics in the middle, and (mostly undiagnosed) narcissist and psychopath women who are many (but not all) of our mothers regress at the end. Schizophreniform decompensation is essentially Stockholm syndrome in reverse, so of course it most-frequently happens in early adulthood shortly after leaving home. So-called autistic burnout is autistic catatonia (which is frequently misdiagnosed as early-onset dementia then “treated” with contraindicated antipsychotics which accelerate catatonic persistence and decline thereby confirming misdiagnoses of dementia). Not only can catatonia be EASILY differentiated by simple lorazepam challenge, but adult autistic regression is anxiety (FEAR), NOT PSYCHOSIS (dissociation)-an acutely aware freeze response evolutionarily equivalent to “playing possum” JUST LIKE AUTISTIC “SHUTDOWNS”. It’s also abundantly obvious to anyone who removes his blinders that BPD is the inevitable sequelae of untreated postpartum psychosis in ASD. Psychiatry (the very discipline which elaborated autism as developmental delay when Bleuler coined the neologism for Freud’s “infantile autoeroticism” to steal credit for Freud’s work) continues to insist there is no such thing as an adult-onset PD. This is self-servingly self-contradictory. Battery dying. I could write a shit ton more, but you’re a researcher (and mature beyond your years). You’re in a better position than me to run with this anyway

No offense, but how is any of this different from a non-autistic adult relationship? If you don't do some or even many of these things in a "normal" relationship regularly, then you won't have a relationship for very long. It may be easier to express something like "I really didn't like what you did there just now." for "normals" (whatever that species is), but I am not even sure about that. It took me a couple of tries to leave that kind of thing to the left side of my brain rather than have the right side go nuts over the situation. Once I and my partners had learned to communicate these emotional needs and triggers rationally, it was all good.

Very interesting, thank you. I'm quite naive about people accepting and understanding things and lean towards trekking everyone everything but I realise caution is required

It’s my first time on your channel. I am so glad I found this video or should I say it found me. Saving this and Subscribing now. Thank you 🙏🏾🙏🏾

I'm autistic. I would say I'm an anarcho-communist first and an artist, activist and musician (not necessarily in that order), autistic and non-binary. I'm Melungeon too. I've been meeting a lot of autistic Melungeons. Makes me wonder, especially since it's my two grandparents with the most Melungeon ancestors that have the obvious autistic traits. Paternal gf and maternal gm.

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The information shared in this video is SO clarifying! Thank Y♥️U for sharing these six years of studies! Wow: it has taken me 60 years to come across a description of my behavior throughout my life!

Excellent video! I especially appreciate the Neurodivergent Love Languages mention, your transparency in including trauma (so sorry!!😩) and how you deal with the unfortunately-lingering effects ✨together✨ - and that you were so considerate to include multiple content warnings. ❤️

Wonderful video. Really enjoyed it. Thank you for sharing your stories.

Thank you, Tim! I very much appreciate hearing your perspective, & will take more time later to go over again what it is you had to say as there is much in there of significance.

I’ll add my name to the list of autistic people who’s identity is values driven and not driven by social groups.

So glad I got the best treatment for my autistic son who is only 4 years old I've been using Dr Ehizogie Herbal medicine and it has been really helpful, 100 his speech has improved completely and he can now respond to name when called and can also say what he want. His channel is #drehizogie;

My son has suffered autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Ehizogie herbs have helped him get rid of it completely, his speech is vital and his social skill is perfect. I'm so glad and happy now His channel is #drehizogie-

Incredibly well done. Thank you.

I dislike the word disability also. Why not say different abilitied? There are many gifts that come with autism. Maybe some of the differences are struggles, but why call it a disability?

I LOVE this.

ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOUR MESSAGE. THANK YOU. I am so fed up with the disorder narrative. In Switzerland they are still in the stone age in that regard. All your "behaviour" is pathologized even though, neurotypicals do that too but have no label slapped on them. Just because you have a diagnosis, suddenly this prevents you from getting the support you need.. as it is not regulated by law, but invalidity insurance, and they do a very good job, invalidating you.. When I say what you say to them, then they call it "big potential for resistance" What is it about invisible disability (and sometimes not so invisible) that makes it so difficult to accept it.. and NOT make it as "behavioural" everything. And yes, then you are dehumanized. And what happens then is identity fatigue.

This is the first Kristy Forbes KZfaq production that I've seen where comments are available All other recordings have the comments turned off. Is that my system, or are the comments turned off by Kristy Forbes or KZfaq?

Please explain the metaphorical meaning of the chopping of the flower and putting it into a verse, as I don’t understand that part.

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I read Brewer et al. (2015), last week, I was pissed too. However, it made me thinking, what measures can we come up that actually measure how autistics express empathy and emotions. after being trained all these years to become a psychologist, a neurotipical psychologist (how to behave like a neurotipical to treat neurotipical). I have to use the measurement that measures neurotipical empathy to measure autistic empathy. as an autistic myself, i would never do those things, even I feel how others feel, so intense and overwhelming. That makes me sad. Nowadays, if people ask me, how autistics communicate, I would answer "well, words are not that important, it is telepathic. It is called the autistic theory of mind, which neurotipicals don't have." Hahahaha 😆 At the end of the day, this is a problem of majority and minority. The reality is, there are just not that many autistics become psychologists. We need more autistic brain power, come together, and get it done. Sadly, when I looked back the intro for my Honours, it said something like "to be a successful applicant for this position, you need to have excellent communication skills (e.g. eye contact, active listening), interpersonal skills......"..... What a joke....

With 30 years of experience I can say - it is time to change our framework, jargon, and testing process. The difficulty is to convince colleagues-a big undertaking but as more adults with Autism share their experiences and educate us I hope that therapists see the value. I have become increasingly committed to educating all; somewhat discouraging that we have become a “get it done” and comply to other’s expectations of what and how to implement OT.- “Stuck” in the past framework. Thank you for sharing this insightful update.

As an autistic person,I thank you for this.

Excellent. Thank you, always.

I’d love to hear about the social lives of whales instead of doing small talk!!

Thank you Reframing Autism for sharing this important talk, so we can share easily with our teachers and educators.

Fabulous overview of what is required to to teach neurodivergent students.

"she/her" Sorry I don't do feminist/communist crap

Thank You. I'm happy to meet you. I'm also grateful for you. I've learned so much in your video's.

Thank you. This really helps me.

On a different level, scientists are also incredibly irresponsible in using terms that have both thier scientific meaning and a common language meaning. If you Tell people "Autistic people dont have Empathy" you are doing that based on a scientific concept of empathy, but the Listener is gonna use the common language sense of what it means to not have empathy and Images of killers and tortueres are gonna enter their mind... Even if all the empathy research was trustworthy and we really didn't have empathy in that sense(which we do😡), no research would ever justify that. That always irritates me when i read books about autism.

Unbelievable. You are my latest revelation. Thank you for entering my world. I’ve messaged you on Facebook today and hope to chat to you soon.

Hey like quick thought can animals be autistic

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Dr Jen den .......i just heard your ted talk and had to thank you ...this is why i did not spend time researching autism i already knew the information was only going to make me more feeling suicidal ...the Dr that you are Gives me HOPE

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THANK YOU!!! :)

When I first self-identified as autistic, I would get confirmation bias from other people who would start pointing out the times that I was being unempathetic. Like we all do sometimes. They would say you're being Spectrum again. You're autistic empathy deficit is showing When really they meant to call me out for doing something inconsiderate perhaps but because I was disclosing to them they use that label for this particular foible. I overcompensated and went out of my way for 10 more years to prove that I was in fact super empathetic. It resulted in me getting into situations where I was exploited more if I hadn't been trying to convince everyone I met that I had empathy and was autistic at the same time. I was recently accessed again and it definitely shows no empathy deficit and I have the paper to prove it but none the less I still meet the criteria to be on the Spectrum so there you go. It's not all about the empathy in my need to prove it one way or the other was really detrimental to my getting support for my actual needs instead of need to prove something.

Yes, my empathy is fine I think, if not just a bit odd. I was only allowed to watch old movies and read classic books and I learned a lot about social interaction in these ways. It worked up to a point but it didn't fly with my peers who did not understand that I was getting my social cues from incredibly outdated fiction oh my God. LOL. I got older I had to pay more attention to my peers in the wild and put down the books in order to keep up appearing neurotypical. I really was doing things like a Jane Goodall or a Robert sapolsky, doing field observations behavior of members of my own species in order to figure out how to make them recognize me as one of their own. It wasn't so much that I wanted to be like them but I wanted them to be able to recognize me. To take me into the troop to make me feel like I did belong. and somehow knew that they did not feel this way already and so I would employ cognitive strategies like everything.