Yes we teach everyone how to treat us. Its a universal principle.
@mixto12323 күн бұрын
Been in a relationship for 8 yrs. She comes over on the weekends, and is ok. With it. Never has given me a hug,or kiss Without me asking for it. I'm tired. She got upset when I told her about seeing a therapist, and has no communication at all.😢
@JaneGarapick22 күн бұрын
I'm so sorry, my friend.
@sophiealvarez286226 күн бұрын
Im presently experiencing this right now.
@JaneGarapick22 күн бұрын
My heart goes out to you.
@mariaheart5883Ай бұрын
Oftentimes, we meet a guy and we convince ourselves that he is the man of our dreams and that we will never have the connection we have with him with anyone else and I can assure you ladies this is not true ! I was a teenager and I fell deeply in love with a guy who left me because he was a gold digger At that time, I thought I will never meet anyone else who makes me feel like him But guess what? I did and more than one guy ! So ladies, don't limit yourselves with such limiting beliefs There are 8 billion people on this planet, if a guy friendzones you, then there are tons of other guys out there waiting to give you the love you deserve Work on youselves, hire a therapist, a coach or read self development books Love yourself FEROCIOUSLY, if you don't feel good in the friendzone, leave, you will cry for a while but you will not die I promise , it hurts but you will get better Take up a hobby, learn a new skill, make a list of what you have always dreamt of doing and focus on that Life is so damn short, dont let some selfish guy ruin it for you, you derserve the relationship you desire And dont forget, some men are manipulative and try to friendzone girls to make those girls beg them for love THey always look good when you see them, they skip dates with you from time to time, all these are tactics to play you So set boundaries and protect yourselves, your mental and emotional health matter Prioritize your own well being and dont let anyone bring you down
@melissa3986Ай бұрын
Why do men think this is ok to treat women like this? At least he was being upfront but he could have been upfront before sex ever happened. Could have saved her humiliation. These men suck and damage women.
@urbanart7325Ай бұрын
Do women always live their part of their relationship. My wife and i never talked abiut what we need to fix or made me , the husband, be aware.
@amyp9010Ай бұрын
This was amazeing advice for me.. This has been so helpful to me. Four relationships in general dating in love and when a guy puts me in a friend zone.. It was very hurtful add the same time we are 20 years apart and we work together. .. So I'm trying my best to be friends to other guys that I am attracted to that I am interested in to see where that will go.
@JaneGarapickАй бұрын
So glad it helped, Amy. Been there with working with someone - that's not easy and I feel for you, girl!
@JacobcoleyrayАй бұрын
The thing I’ve learnt is you don’t choose to search for romance love, either it won’t come if it’s not meant to or it comes in it’s own time
@kyliepomfrett3917Ай бұрын
You are awesome 🎉😊❤
@JaneGarapickАй бұрын
Right back at you!
@TheLaaauuureeenАй бұрын
Does anybody else see Terra from teen titans?!
@JaneGarapickАй бұрын
Now I've got to go look her up!
@virginiaover3627Ай бұрын
I totally agree and understand the 4 stage process. I have a friend that's absolutely toxic and lonely. I been through all those emotions and try over and over to be a friend. He doesn't commit to anyone but happily floats from home to home for residence. Long story short, he's had the funds,the resources, and opportunity to change his situation. Yet , year after year he goes through the same cycle. I stood my ground and still standing to not be a victim of this toxic situation.🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾
@JaneGarapickАй бұрын
Same cycle. Different day. It's ground day over and over again - how can you NOT feel like the victim?! Check your own ground zero for what 'trying over and over to be a friend' means to you.
@empriester3199Ай бұрын
Your videos are great, but could you turn down the background music? It's difficult to hear your voice clearly. Thank you ❤
@JaneGarapickАй бұрын
Noted!
@henrygoboy86212 ай бұрын
men pull away from disrespect. try a crazy idea. be consistent for 2 weeks, when he speaks just listen and give him feedback after he’s done. be respectful peaceful and humble. you may be shocked
@urbanart7325Ай бұрын
Be appreciative to your man. Intimacy for us men is an emotional connection along with a physical connection.
@Mastermind1111112 ай бұрын
this woman doesn't know anything about men and women should not listen to her. You shouldn't listen to a woman about men. I have no earthly idea what she's talking about. This is definitely not why men don't commit, but listening to this woman is not going to get you commitment for a man because she has nonsensical ideasmen really don't have many feelings. Feelings really don't factor much endure decisions.
@teahfranklin61172 ай бұрын
My goodness sis!!! No lies detected
@thecure39822 ай бұрын
Some of these guys guys be on fishing trips with their “friends” and hooking up. I saw a lady her husband and her friend or a lady she knews husband were hooking up and they found out by following them to the hotel. Smdh
@Youcan_callme_jlu2 ай бұрын
“He’s already gone” got me 🤣🤣
@LeeC3752 ай бұрын
He makes you feel good, he checks all the boxes, you're drawn in by him. So he must be a player. Women
@A.nasierkhanАй бұрын
Perfectly said!😂
@cavitenaakovlog1302 ай бұрын
Yes, ive in a friend zone situation to right now, i am inlove but he told me he is not ready and he just want me to be his friend 😢😢😢
@JaneGarapick2 ай бұрын
There are few things as painful as this. My heart goes out to you.
@deborahgloria38672 ай бұрын
Their opportunists
@deborahgloria38672 ай бұрын
RIGHT!
@audreynicoletti73293 ай бұрын
Turn that loyd music off !!!!! So i can hear what your saying . You need closed captioning!!!
@aali73593 ай бұрын
this made me so emotional thank you sm i have a lot of work to do on myself 😢
@JaneGarapick3 ай бұрын
And a lot of compassion to give yourself too. ❤️
@honeysins99513 ай бұрын
Yeah, five days ago I’ve been together every day for three weeks and one of the things I specifically said was please don’t ghost me. I’m a victim of a narcissistic relationship and I’ve been single for two years just regaining my trust. I thought he was crazy about me now I’m left again feeling like an empty shell like I did something wrong.
@JaneGarapick3 ай бұрын
Wrong guy not something wrong with you!
@Blueivy23453 ай бұрын
Why don't they just leave women alone then if they aren't on the same page
@JaneGarapick3 ай бұрын
Because they believe they are.
@rossmanngroup3 ай бұрын
The majority of my long-term relationships or entanglements were with avoidant attachment style emotionally unavailable women. It's so interesting how much of this can apply to women if they have an avoidant attachment style. This resonates very well. Reading Amir Levine's book on this taught me so much so that I don't do that to myself again. What you say about not losing the person but losing the dream, that there was this carrot dangled that it could work, where they'd give just enough to make you believe that there is potential when it never was there. I described that relationship as shell beach from the movie Dark City. That moment when you realized that it never had a chance because it was never real to begin with.
@Hardawayfits3 ай бұрын
😂 Just be his friend or leave him alone
@user-yl4rh8vn8cАй бұрын
Communicate without emojis.
@marilynsookraj95833 ай бұрын
My longdistant love ghosted me after being in contact for 2 months everyday and spoke about everything 😢
@JaneGarapick3 ай бұрын
So sorry, Marilyn.
@Jamhael13 ай бұрын
Ma'am, as a man, let tell you, the problem is deeper: Normative Male Alexithymia
@sosososo-hg7iz4 ай бұрын
I have been ghosted after a 3 years LDR , today It has been a month since our last chatting , sometimes I think something happened to him and others I think he just simply ghosted me , however I'm trying to do my best to heal ...
@JaneGarapick3 ай бұрын
Best way to heal - whatever happened, it saved you from worse. Men who do this don't get better, they get worse. Freedom is bittersweet but you are free to be with someone who would never ever do this to you!
@309love64 ай бұрын
He will try to come back
@JaneGarapick3 ай бұрын
Sure will
@patriciabuchanan83384 ай бұрын
Thank you Jane ❤ you are a wonderful coach! I should replay this one every single day!
@JaneGarapick3 ай бұрын
Aw thanks Patricia. I am so glad it resonated with you!
@elizabethtarot9413 ай бұрын
Thank you Jane! 💕🙏
@susangambini31134 ай бұрын
I was co-dependent and he was emotionally unavailable, or should I say he was a Narcissist. Narcissists are definitely Unavailable emotional, along with other stuff. It was a very bad mix. I was with him almost 10 years. 10 years of not getting me, lying to me, cheating on me. But boy, I was gonna win him over.I tried and I tried and I tried. I never did win him ovver. He was a lying, cheating, emotionally unavailable man until the day he died. Which in some ways was a blessing for me. Because I just could not walk away from this relationship.I was way too codependent on it. I've always done fine on my own.I work.I have a nice house.I have money.I have friends but I wanted to be with this man so bad that I would put up with anything from him. And when he died from a stroke I hate to say it, but it was the best thing to ever happen to me. I miss him.I love him, but him.Being gone is the best thing that ever happened to me. I am living my best life now. I'm having fun.I'm going out meeting people going out with my girlfriend's life is good. An emotional unavailable man will never change. They might. Pretend to change but deep down they don't change. I wasted ten years of my life hoping and praying that this guy would change. Don't make. The same mistake that I did.
@patriciabuchanan83384 ай бұрын
Thst was my husband of 34 years. He left almost 2 years ago. He never "got" me. I gave 100% and the best years of my life for nothing but pain,frustration, hurt, anguish. I am happy he left.
@JaneGarapick3 ай бұрын
So am I for you!
@lisaalger49884 ай бұрын
I was trying to help an emotionally unavailable man. Even when to a psychiatrist (for the first time) who told me DON'T be around him! He was sweet, never argued, shouted, nothing like that. I have had a wonderful family life-time friend suddenly come into my life. Taking it slow.. He's 300 miles away, tho, wants to move here. But I'm trying to convince him get a place nearby first! Thanks... Lisa
@JaneGarapick4 ай бұрын
Absolutely agree with him getting a place nearby first! And you can't 'help' an emotionally unavailable man. They can only help themselves and you remembering this and taking the advice of 'don't be around him' is the only thing that ever might.
@alisonlindau70994 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing the truth and seeing the beauty in caring people.
@JaneGarapick4 ай бұрын
Caring people are the most beautiful things are souls learn to recognize. Hardest part is remembering this when we're tempted to make a personal project out of making someone incapable of caring into someone who cares!
@kirkwhite17364 ай бұрын
Utter Garbage, I'm 50, never had a woman for a long term relationship, gave up on dating, gave up on searching, still alone and Lonely at times
@user-kg5ij5ic6b4 ай бұрын
Hi i am in this situation i feel bad i am still keeping him as a friend i feel very lonely he calls me but doesnot see me like before its not easy to meet someone else i am 64 he is 72 i just do not want to end up alone for the rest of my life its really hard to meet another man that i would like i like his personality i invested alot of time in this relationship even if i keep my options i cannot seem to find a man i like i feel attached to him i cry all he time life is hard
@JaneGarapick4 ай бұрын
Compartmentalize him. That's what he's doing to you! Let him be one small part, then fill the rest of your life with other people and things to make it a whole life. He doesn't deserve the whole pie!
@amyp9010Ай бұрын
That sucks..
@whydafukulyin98314 ай бұрын
this was very eye opening as male, great video
@JaneGarapick4 ай бұрын
I coach men too - thank you!
@user-ln2vf8oe2l4 ай бұрын
You are so underrated ... So awesome thanku God bless u ❤❤❤
@JaneGarapick4 ай бұрын
Thank you - and God bless you too. That means more to me than any following!
@user-ln2vf8oe2lАй бұрын
I am glad❤️✨ lots of happiness & thanku once again!
@deonaeddy77494 ай бұрын
I want to just add that to be a narc, one must have 5 or more traits and on a frequent basis. We ALL have 1-3 traits in us so please just because you see a few traits in someone, be careful of labeling them a narc. There are overlapping illnesses that overlap NPD and look alot like it.
@AbnormalMom60004 ай бұрын
Thank you so much!!!! Im 42, single mom, never married. Raising my almost 10 year old son alone. And i dont know if i really want to try to find love for us. I think my son would benefit just by having more love then just mine, and it wouldnt be hard work for him as it would be for me. Relationships are hard work. Do i think it would be easier with a partner? Sometimes when im overwhelmed and maybe it would help and not hurt. Am i willing to get my heart broken? Yes but not my son's. So i guess i dont know but i hope that if God wants me to meet the love of my life then i pray that i meet him someday. Until then its just me and my son and i will do the best that i can. Let me know if you have any tips on raising your son to be a man that i might need to know. God bless you and thank you for this video and your expertise and the knowledge you have bestowed to me
@JaneGarapick4 ай бұрын
Only with the right partner. The wrong partner is worse than being alone! Also, find some good men to include in your circles for him. This is everything! You will find them in rhe most.unexpected wsys and places when you look for softer, gentler, empathetic absolutey real men!
@windysmith73674 ай бұрын
We are more than the mirror but so is he. We need to remember hurt men operate out of fear and be aware of that. Be yourself, make your boundaries clear, and have compassion for yourself and for him.