I am at the point where you were talking about in this video. , right now. I am glad I found your video. Yep you are right. there is nothing that can be done about it. I am 73 years old and have had this problem off and on for about 12 years and now this year it has gotten bad. So I have read this and that over the years, Have tried this and that over the years and I catch a break and things work and I think I have got it down and the next thing you know insomnia breaks out all over again. very frustrating. I like Huberman's stuff but to each his own I guess. Maybe one day I will find the answer as you say, in your own self. Also mostly my insomnia is early morning insomnia and its a major pain but I do occasionally get total insomnia. for me I think the problem is those darn Circadian rhythms . I think when you get older, the body clock can get real touchy and it takes a lot to try and reset it. But glad you found something that works for you.

I wonder if there is a controlled study (with a statistically valid and reliable sample size ) that employed this technique versus other. What were the results???

Did you try drinking prescription pills at one point?

This is so powerful. Thank you...self forgiveness is key. ❤

What if your insomnia is continuing because of negative thoughts or anxiety about things happening in lifr

When you stopped sleep efforts, did it stop the anxiety?

thank you so much ! I feel totally related to this video. I am practicing CBTi for a month and it was a painful experience. Also I am under a lot of pressure if I don’t see much improvement. This video reminds me that I am not alone.

Hello, I’ve had insomnia for about 3 months in 2018 when I was a nurse in charge of a unit. I’m assuming, stress induced. Then the nightmare returned in April 2022 when I started an Operating Room internship & had to quit because I wasn’t sleeping. I can tell you I’ve had very little “ restful” sleep since. I’ve educated myself with Daniels books & still am suffering with either light sleep or none . I’ve only had a good restful sleep maybe 1-2 x a month, nothing consistent. Is this a common pattern those with insomnia have been going this long without restful sleep? I just want to feel more rested for work the next day. I’m a nurse & feel I’m in a dangerous situation for room for patient errors. Thank you Danya

The problem is that when it hits midnight, I feel nervous of being not be able to sleep at all 😢

The funny thing about insomnia is that it's actually easy to recover from when you go to bed don't make your prioritie sleep your prioritie is to accept the pain accept that you will not sleep that night and it's actually better than panicking cuz you want to solve insomnia and the only is to not fear to ba awake the whole nigh each night AF struggle that you pass with no fear is a win and the thing that make it easy to be in good moode while struggling is that you can't not controle your sleep any way the best step to recovery is try and be in good moode even when you struggle to not sleep be in good mode even in the morning when you fell tired cuz that's the best step to recover it's the only best move to do any other thing will not help you

Made perfect sense! Thank you!!

What if you're already sleep but can't sleep 😔 i used to sleep 9-6 everday I get so down I can't sleep at night almost every night. When it hits midnight, I panic and nervous I won't be able to sleep through the night again 😢 I don't want to drink prescription pills anyomore

I remember finding you 3 years ago when I was going through a rough insomnia episodes all because of taking antibiotics it was new to me since I was always good with sleep I tried everything on the book and nothing helped until I found your videos and made me understand sleep is not important and some how you will be able to sleep and I threw away all the stuff I got to sleep and stop trying and I beat insomnia but once again I had to take antibiotics and insomnia got me again but I still get fear even though I know how to overcome it can’t wait to get over it and be the normal me again and your videos are so encouraging ❤

thanks after months of strugle now im at piece. how you may ask well i just accepted the most extrem thing about not sleeping the make me want to sleep lol, like maybe i will die at 50 then what i dont care i accepted the fact that i will live tired for ever its not like i can controle sleep . either be week and live afraid or be strong and accept what you cant controle and be a men .thats it now idont care if i sleep or not ,well in reality it was not that exrteem like i still have days of the week where i can slepp till 1pm the solution is there is no solution you have to accept that there is days where you dont sleep and days where you sleep

the thing that helped me kind of reduce my insomnia is i stoped to be afraid of not sleeping like yeah whats the worst thing that can happend in the nexte day you know what i mean so i only have trouble when i need my mind to the fullest like in exames but it fine its just periodes it come it goes and i accept it but still i dindt fully surender that why i come back from time to time but nothing crazy lol

This is the first time a sleep video makes sense! Thank you for this, you are better than a doctor who babbles on about nonsense advice like make sure you sleep in a dark room, don’t eat before bedtime, turn off electronics, etc.

Recently because of my sleep anxiety, I get impatient when it happens several times and still nothing's happening. I hope I can change my mindset too so that I can fall asleep every night without medication 🙏

Before, I can sleep in whatevee time I have to. Now, it's all messed up. I need to process this video because I'm scared of getting sleep drug dependency because of sleep anxiety

Hi Alina 😊 your videos are very helpful, thank you

Thanks. I wear hearing aids and it's difficult for me to understand Alina with her accent. I understand Michelle much better.

I had no idea anyone else went through this too.

The last 2 years I’ve only had “restful” sleep for about 5hrs once every week otherwise it’s a light, sleep not feeling totally refreshed when I get up at the same time every morning. It’s a frustrating feeling thinking I’ll never get normal sleep ever again. Is this “normal” insomnia!

What are some befriending tips for things to do during my “wakefulness”in the middle of the night?

I've only watched a couple videos of yours so far and I'm already seeing a major difference. Just last night I stopped viewing wakefulness as an issue, I stopped thinking of all the "rules" of sleeping, and just stopped trying to sleep. I read a couple pages of a book and fell asleep in 10 minutes. There'll be ups and downs for sure, that's totally fine, but so far you've put me on the first steps of better nights. Thank you for that, you've saved my sanity.

Useless advice. Make sur you wake up earlier and go on. Even with fatigue after few days you ll collapse at 2 am instead of 4 am

Hw to deal ur lack of energy or d dullness in ur head d next day

03:07 it happened to me yesterday I had this problem 3 months ago but yesterday I was trying to sleep but I couldn’t fall asleep even though I’m sleepy,anyways I stayed laying down and closing my eyes trying to think about anything and I’m thinking that I’m not sleeping but when I woke up I find out that I actually slept because when I woke up I looked through my phone it was 11:30 am and I was like wow I saw it was 12:30 am just 5 minutes ago and then I find out that was a dream so I actually slept

It takes time, just be patient and relax, it will happen. People make the mistake of giving up and getting out of bed, switching lights on, eating, watching TV or scrolling on their phone. Chill, nothing is happening and you have nowhere to be right now!

I got a question: I understand it more and more that there is nothing at all that I can do ti initiate sleep. But I still sleep little, or I'm keep having speed bumps, and the though of not being able to do anything kind of frightens me. But what really is a problem, that to put it simply: I hate being awake... I hate it, and I don't want to do anything in the middle of the night. I feel like I did everything I wanted during the day, and there's just nothing I want to do in the middle of the night... What's the right attitude to have in this situation?

I will definitely try it thanks

Wow, very interesting!

Your videos have helped me so much, thank you so much. These questions are particularly helpful, I’m out glowering my fear associated with sleep and I’m a lot more relaxed and I feel a lot better.

Brilliant insights, much appreciation 🙏✨️🕊🕊🕊

I'm crying tears of relief finding your channel after only 2 months of insomnia as a result of a couple acutely stressful life events. Thank you so much, this is the first content I've found that speaks to the psychological fear and anxiety that feeds this without teaching CBTi which only feeds my anxiety.

I never had issues falling to sleep or sleeping through the night. When I was around 40 years old, my Hair was falling out. Doctor prescribed Propecia. It solved the Hair loss problem but it took away my sleep. So, I stopped the drug and 27 years later, I still cannot sleep. I do fall asleep in about 30 minutes but wake up a couple of hours later. When i wake up, it's like I have consumed 10 cups of Coffee. I lay awake until I need to get up and go to work. The Brain is unhappy as sleep studies show I never reach a REM sleep. I will trying you suggestions.

What to do about day time sleeplessness......plss make a video about it

Thank you for the insight!

I will you existed 8 years ago when I started to have insomnia… I realize that everything I tried since actually made the problem worse and created sleep OCDs

I stopped thinking about sleep for so long. But now someone talked to me about their struggle and now I think about how horrible it is to not sleep again. Do you have any suggestions?

So difficult to not try to break the cycle. Thank you for the advice. I’ll work on the stop trying part.

About half a year into my recovery now. The second tip has been very useful. I don't usually go downstairs when I can't sleep and just sit on the floor of my bedroom. I have a very specific book that I like to read, but I only allow myself to read it when I can't sleep. So, when I've been tossing and turning for too long, I'm met with the comforting idea that I can continue reading that book again. I always wanna keep reading, but at some point I just get too sleepy. Fighting a paradox with a paradox!

Love this. I remember learning about paradoxical insomnia a few years ago when insomnia first popped up, forgot about it over time as my sleep improved. Recently had a bout of bad insomnia pop up, trying to relearn the ways I got through it before. This was very helpful! There's a few times recently where I feel I was experiencing this. I would feel very calm physically and mentally, and have absolutely no thoughts going through my head, time would pass and all of a sudden I would be like, wait, was I asleep? I would tell myself I wasn't but still feel very confused feeling almost like I was, and I do think I was.

this became my go to episode (because I'm keep having speed bumbs lol)

Thank you. I born in Hong Kong and now living in UK

That sounds great. A really novel approach to insomnia. I will try it.

This was eye-opening! No pun intended. I'm on 6 hours sleep total for the last 2 nights. I'm looking forward to seeing how tonight goes. Thank you for the knowledge ✊

I've tried and failed for well over 20 years. I've watched your videos over on the sleep coach school channel as well. I've read Set it and forget it, and NATTO ebooks. I feel like i have a very good understanding of what your espousing, yet, even though I may only wake 2 or 3 times during the night, I still crawl out of bed TOTALLY exhausted every morning, just to various degrees. I feel like I have in fact "totally given up" , not consciously thinking of sleeping well or not sleeping well. What else can I do?

did not learn anything usefull...only smalltalk

Hi Alina, thank you so much for your incredible videos; your insights are truly invaluable. I’m facing a challenge with insomnia that only occurs when I know I have to wake up early, like on work days. On weekends or days without early commitments, I sleep perfectly fine. Do you have any advice to help me manage this? I’m really struggling with it at the moment. 😢

Great advice thank you, I had been awakening at night and going into a different room doing boring things like grocery shopping list to make myself sleepy, worked at first but then it made me more awake. I will do more normal stuff now and try not to think too much about getting sleepy thanks