Thanks for watching. If this resonates with you, I would love to hear about it in the comments x
@stephanierigg16 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for watching and listening. I would love to hear your feedback and experiences in the comments x
@DangoesOz16 күн бұрын
I have almost listened to every one of your episodes on Spotify. That's a lot of listening. We all have healing to do, and it's so good to understand yourself and then try to improve. Understsnding and effective communication rock. Your podcasts have been so good for me, so helpful. Thank you so much.
@stephanierigg16 күн бұрын
That IS a lot of listening! Thank you for the support, so glad to be able to help you on your journey 🤍
@MarkShepherd122 күн бұрын
Awesome stuff!
@BC-yb1mq22 күн бұрын
❤
@stephanierigg24 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for all of your support. As always, I would love to hear your thoughts and experience in the comments below x
@TROYDENSON-pt6qjАй бұрын
This was very eye opening. I have always known that I struggled with receiving , because I feel like i am not worthy of any help, love, and even pleasure.
@stephanieriggАй бұрын
Thank you! Glad it was helpful for you
@pricej1Ай бұрын
These are so specific to what I have got going on right now.. do you have a live stream on my relationship? Haha crazy, thanks for the video really helps!
@stephanieriggАй бұрын
Yes I do! Well I am glad it is helping during this time x
@baldersn4474Ай бұрын
A lot of people with adult ADHD struggle with break ups
@NikosIXIIАй бұрын
Do you have a similar video on how to support an anxious partner?
@stephanieriggАй бұрын
Not a video but I do have a podcast episode! open.spotify.com/episode/5UbvDisd8oOcmXmt8Pqha1?si=yTDVf8FrQjiy9U5x3PEd-A
@NikosIXIIАй бұрын
@@stephanierigg Thanks a lot Stephanie for sharing. What you are doing is really really helpful.
@MifupaMikavu23Ай бұрын
Thank you for this. Kindly consider doing a video on limerence.
@NickGoldstonАй бұрын
Would love a video on limerence
@stephanieriggАй бұрын
Excuse the video quality in this episode, an unknown recording error which we haven't been able to resolve. Feel free to leave a comment if this topic resonates with you x
@stephanierigg2 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for watching. I would love to hear you share your experience with receiving in the comments x
@ashleybrown40152 ай бұрын
Whoa. I just learned so much. Thank you for this conversation.
@stephanierigg2 ай бұрын
So glad to hear that, thank you for watching! 🤍
@annmariemart2 ай бұрын
This is very helpful!
@stephanierigg2 ай бұрын
Glad you think so!
@nicholasbrajkovic17102 ай бұрын
I know how it goes for me. Today on my way to work I called my gf (at the time) and told her that out of respect for myself I had to lay down boundaries around being stonewalled. She stone walked me and hung up soon after. Later that evening I did call it off and take my belongings but as an anxiously attached person. The moment I got ignored again and then locked out.. well that was the moment my abandonment trauma kicked in and I felt triggered and pleaded. It was an ugly site. Really I don’t think it could’ve gone worse, but sometimes we don’t have the luxury of being compassionate with others if for whatever reasons they can’t communicate with us.
@Consciencia.Psicologia2 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing, just watched part 1 and i immediately felt like you were caring, compassionate, validating but also giving specific tips. <3
@stephanierigg2 ай бұрын
You are so welcome. Thanks so much for the comment, appreciate it :)
@Consciencia.Psicologia2 ай бұрын
This is an amazing video, it should have SO many more views. Thank you for sharing :)
@stephanierigg2 ай бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it! We will get there eventually :)
@MusParvulus3 ай бұрын
I'm all having compassion for the other side and taking some comfort in knowing that their reaction isn't entirely about you, but I'd be wary of encouraging people who are probably already significantly abandoning their boundaries to show more understanding.
@alanajones1093 ай бұрын
I really appreciate the break down of the cause of this attachment style - allows us compassion via understanding why it may have developed x
@user-lw4kw3rz2c3 ай бұрын
Never interested in people who are disinterested in me
@v9b23j3 ай бұрын
A study by the Department of Industrial Engineering and Management, Ariel University, Ariel, Israel shows that both avoidant and anxious people (insecure attachment style) display heightened neural sensitivity and increased emotional reactivity to negative feedback, reflecting their vigilance for threats. In contrast, secure people show more regulated neural responses and emotional resilience, facilitated by enhanced connectivity in key brain regions associated with effective emotion regulation. Moreover, secure people exhibit enhanced functional connectivity in key brain areas tied to emotional regulation, such as the dorsolateral and ventromedial prefrontal cortex, facilitating their ability to maintain more stable emotional responses. Source : Inon Zuckerman, Ilan Laufer, Dor Mizrahi, Attachment style, emotional feedback, and neural processing: investigating the influence of attachment on the P200 and P400 components of event-related potentials, the Department of Industrial Engineering and Management, Ariel University, Ariel, Israel
@StefanPetersen-qp3md3 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for your work Stephanie. I was in a long term heavily codependent relationship for 5 years. One night I had a revelatory experience which I call my "night of long sighs". This experience is in part due to your education and identifying patterns. So thank you for helping me love myself
@stephanierigg3 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for your support and I am glad that this can help in some way :)
@Zasek21123 ай бұрын
are you talking about a million and 1 variations or just the one YOU are dealing with right now? Are you trying to give advice or are you just talking to yourself?
@stephanierigg3 ай бұрын
This is a clip from a podcast episode. You can find the link for the full length episode in the description of the clip :)
@breedheid1ify3 ай бұрын
Thank you for your video it really helps alot. I am currently in a relationship of 9 jears and my girlfriend is pulling away and wants space and time to think. Everything i say if we speak she picks something out of it and makes it negative or says that she doesn't feel okay with it. And all i am doing is expessing my needs. I am really, as you say, running in overdrive and really trying to fix the situation. It is really stressful for me as an anxious attached person. I am trying to become more secure attached. It is not the first time this happened.
@stephanierigg3 ай бұрын
While I can't give advice on your personal experience, I am glad this video helps you in some way :)
@stephanierigg3 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for watching. Feel free to share your own experiences in the comments :)
@thelastresponder3 ай бұрын
Just found your channel, Stephanie. I enjoyed listening to this conversation and will get into your other videos. You have a great, soothing speaking voice.
@stephanierigg3 ай бұрын
Thank you so much!
@stephanierigg4 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for watching this episode of On Attachment. Please feel free to share your own experiences about self-soothing x
@ofdolphinsandmen4 ай бұрын
Excellent 👍
@stephanierigg4 ай бұрын
This is a clip from a recent episode of On Attachment exploring whether or not you should get back with an ex. You can find the link in the description for the full episode. As always, would love to hear your thoughts and experiences around this topic x
@medo33134 ай бұрын
Thank you so much ❤
@stephanierigg4 ай бұрын
You're welcome 😊
@stephanierigg4 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for tuning into this episode. The meditation and other free resources mentioned during this episode can be found here on my website: www.stephanierigg.com/freebies Thanks again for watching x
@DKMRFCBrlz4 ай бұрын
We need Julie’s book on parenting!!!
@stephanierigg4 ай бұрын
We certainly do!
@DKMRFCBrlz4 ай бұрын
In the first three minutes I had this OMG impression. Now I have her book on my Amazon shopping cart 😂 thank you!
@stephanierigg4 ай бұрын
Hope you like it! She is brilliant
@jameslocations5 ай бұрын
So enlightening this conversation. Thanks for sharing
@stephanierigg4 ай бұрын
Our pleasure! Julie is wonderful and worth following
@jameslocations5 ай бұрын
Loving your videos Steph - such a great isight :)
@stephanierigg4 ай бұрын
So glad!
@ParisianStreets5 ай бұрын
I dont know how to respect myself. ive lost 5 relationships in 5 yrs n somehow im stuck in this vicious loop of needy clingy behaviour. Help!😢
@amandipa83685 ай бұрын
Choosing to trust instead of waiting to feel it is such a new and inspiring concept to me, thank you greatly for this tid bit of advice ♥️ i will keep it with me and i think it will be extremely helpful for me.
@stephanierigg5 ай бұрын
You're so welcome! I am glad to see it landed with you :)
@johnrainsman66505 ай бұрын
My boss called me a loser, when she was onstage a hypnotist show. See, the hypnotist asked the participants to explain a complex, arguable philosophy they each have, and my boss talked about dignity and diligence. She said she didn't believe hard work always make people smart or noble. She used my name as an example. She talked about how I was a slow learner at work, got things mixed up, and couldn't seem to do anything right alone. How she didn't think I could manage one-person shifts without someone to guide me. Especially after the time I set a wedding reception with black linens, not white, the official/usual color (though in my defense, black linens were used for most other events, so thus it was a natural psychological error.) She mentioned how I didn't have a driver's license, graduated from a small charter school instead of the local public high school, and still lived at home with my mom in my late twenties. And that I graduated high school at 20; I once revealed this to her and a coworker when, long story short, talking about academic norms. The hypnotist, who seemed surprised by her comments, said, "So just to clarify, you don't think he has much honor or dignity in him, even despite his work dedication? That he's a dimwit and a loser?" And to my dismay, my boss said, "Basically. I think he's basically a loser, for a guy who has a job. He's still catering after graduating from college. That might be what's best for him. He should have a career that matches his degree by now. I don't know if he will find one. He's just not very skillful or sharp." And I did graduate from college, three years ago. It just took a while to find a good career, and the hiring process is long. I know I'm a disabled late bloomer. Does that make me a loser?
@krazykirl11295 ай бұрын
That's your bosses opinion and their criticism. I wouldn't take that on board unless it's constructive criticism. You know what your successes are. No one has the right to tell you what your worth is unless they're willing to invest in you and show you something better that can uplift you.
@johnrainsman66505 ай бұрын
@@krazykirl1129She was hypnotized of course, but the private opinion alone is immoral, right?
@doyouknodewae17095 ай бұрын
I enjoyed how gentle and relatable this was. The way you describe it makes it seem very doable and really expresses how gradual this process is. I appreciate you sharing this knowledge with us. I know it’s really broadened my perspective on how I can approach myself. I hope with the practice of these techniques, I can become a healthier version of me😊 thanks again!
@LucaAnamaria5 ай бұрын
This was so incredibly soothing. I was being super hard on myself and I really needed to hear this. Thank you.
@stephanierigg5 ай бұрын
You are so welcome! I'm so glad it helped
@marcusappelberg3695 ай бұрын
I am a fearful-avoidant, so I can be both clingy and avoidant.
@kayladavis45745 ай бұрын
I love your videos ❤
@stephanierigg5 ай бұрын
Thank you so much x
@equilibrium-stayFree5 ай бұрын
Excellent explanation 💯👍✅🌷
@stephanierigg5 ай бұрын
Thank you! 😃 Appreciate your comment
@samphelps8565 ай бұрын
Thank you
@stephanierigg5 ай бұрын
You are most welcome
@JeroenTimmermans5 ай бұрын
Even though the comments below do not really attest to that, I find you such a refreshing voice in the attachment debate. Personal growth is so daunting. Expecting your partner to unilaterally change and assuming you are what you are is an understandable knee-jerk response (I have it too), but a surefire way to drive your loved one on the defense. Imagine being labeled an 'avoidant' and then being invited into a community that vilifies you at every turn and actively coaxes your counterpart just to find someone secure (as I was aghast to read in Attached). I really understand it is taxing to be around a person like me, I really do.
@stephanierigg5 ай бұрын
I really appreciate the comment, and the understanding of a very nuanced conversation. I am glad you find the work refreshing