Amen my dear sister 🙏💕🌹

So good I played this video twice ❤️

Susan thank you and what was the book you were reading at the end, would love to read more.

Hi Susan I think you should let the make up pro do your make up. It is a special occasion. Just let them know your style and what you like. Enjoy the experience, relax and get pampered.

I know what it’s like to feel invisible and I like it. It’s freeing. So far as being lonely, there’s so many people who need help. Volunteering helps me feel that I still matter and can contribute.

Love your knew home .

You ARE pretty !

Girl .. I’d love to have your hair! There’s no schussing to my hair after chemo. Came back so baby fine .. great wig but…. Not the same!

SOS Susan, Wanted to share this with you & the viewers. I have been eating the dark chocolate to curb appetite with you..❤ it I was watching my Granddaughter's dog this week, I came in from the drugstore, put my bag in the center of the table with my 2 bars of 95% dark chocalate, was out of the house for a short time..came back to her just finishing 1 bar foil and all. I found out it's deadly for dogs. Rushed her to the Vet, cost $623.00 then to an overnight ER Vet monitored $779.00. I just want everyone dark chocolate is deadly for dogs dont do like me put it up high

Susan, this was particularly on target, inspirational and heartfelt. You mean so much to so many of us. Maybe you should think about organizing a retreat for single older woman who want to connect and discuss special issues and troubles they are having, or just contemplate nature and make new friends. Just a thought. Blessings to you and Desi.

Special note to Patricia: I have a similar background and have learned to be proactive in meeting people whenever I can, even if I don't feel like it. I have Googled loneliness in America and it is a growing concern. There are a lot of lonely people out there so remember you are never alone in your loneliness. I find that comforting in a way - haha. Remember, take a walk, talk to neighbors, invite someone in for a drink or cup of coffee and take it from there. You are not alone in your situation Patricia. God bless you.

I saw myself in this letter and could completely commiserate with its author. I just turned 75 so she and I are in the same age bracket. My husband passed away suddenly two years ago and I still long for the life I had and am less then content with the one I have. I was single for many years before my marriage and, because of that, it would seem that I would be able to adjust to single life again. But, it is different now, then was my choice, widowhood was not. There was also being younger, prettier, thinner, had a career, new loves and couldn't wait to see what life would bring. Now it seems like living to die. My family is gone now, no siblings, kids or grandkids but wonderful supportive friends but something is still missing...guess it's the part of me that was lost when his heart stopped. Thank you for sharing our experience with us. I look forward to watching you each week and to learn that I'm not alone on this journey.

I’m a widow times two. My husband Doug passed away May 27,2010. I met my to be husband in Sept. 2015. We married Sept. 17, 2016. Within the first year he was diagnosed with Lewy Body Dementia. I watched the light n his eyes diaper. In September 2021 we both had Covid. He did well with Covid and I was near death. Lots of prayers were said for us both. Gene had already been declining for a few months, Lew took him took. He went to hospice on the the 14th. I was going home on the 15th and I got the call he was gone. It’s been a long road to recovery trying to get healthy again the grief was so overwhelming and still at times it hits hard. I have decided I can not marry again. I can’t be broken again. May you find the one perfect for you. God bless!

I love your videos. Heartwarming ♥️.

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thank you , Susan. I'm Ann and am 81 and definitely can relate to the Goodbye Girl feelings. Thank you for taking the time to record this powerful video. There are soooo many GRWM and fashion videos, but I think we need more really meaningful videos such as this one. I can only imagine that it was harder than some you record, but you will probably never know how many of us were impacted by your powerful words. I hope you can feel the love from all of us -- because we definitely do love you, girl.

Love your home! Love your insight! Hugs!

Oh I love the sunglasses AND a knife!!! 🩷🩷😂 Yep! I know that transition and it's life! I love your videos for all the positivity and that is what you have to focus on!! Life is precious and be grateful because some people really have it so hard!! Let's do our best and find new hobbies. Love yourself, dearly!! You are worth it!! 🩷

I a m sorry for this precious loss.

Adorable! ❤❤❤ Thank you Susan thank you Desi!! Sweet!❤❤❤

Love the dress. Pure class

Hoa’s. Plus taxes are too much. We are aging in place plu have long term care insurance, keeps up busy, privacy, gardening, neighbors..

Just joined Red Cross giving them one night a week .

It SUcks

Agree honey

You look so glamorous. Well done and it is such a struggle to lose any weight so well done on finding something that works for you. Keep going your doing good😘

Every video, I am so happy for Desi when he looks like he's in Doggie Bliss Heaven. What would have happened to this little creature without you, Susan? I can't bear the thought of him living in a closet, before you took him in and gave him so much love and a real backyard. Could you share how you managed to have a dog when you were on a budget? I used to have a dog, but money is so tight right now, and I wouldn't want to short change an animal because of my finances. xxoo To you and Desi.

I've been alone a long time and prefer being alone than in a relationship that I'm not happy in. I wish I had more time to do all the things I'd like to do and learn! Work takes a lot of my energy these days but I still have things I want to do. I work at home so I do agree that when I do get out of the house, I come back feeling refreshed. I love your videos and hope they help others get thru these hard times.

This hits home! I know there are so many of us women who feel the same. This inspires me to get out more. I find it's too easy to let days go by without getting out. Prayers to all of us living alone!❤

Your dress is beautiful and so you will be also, because you have a beautiful spirit. Thank you for your wisdom, have a great rest of your week. 😊

Hello Susan, Thank you❤

I don’t know who’s version of keto you were following but keto is about cutting out high carb foods: bread, rice, potatoes, cakes, biscuits, sugars, sweets. It’s not about cutting out ordinary amounts of fruits and vegetables. It’s about salads and vegetables and meats and fish and fruit and cream and yoghurt etc - just avoiding ones with high sugars and starches.

Thank you for being positive. It helps!

Loved your video, I cried! Felt the same way when my son got married in 2019. But he said, @Mom you look great!” Before our dancing, it was what I needed! I’m thinking of trying your plan! 🥰

Hi Susie! Your dress is beautiful, and will look fabulous on you!! After divorce I lived alone for 15 years, didn't date at all, and had a full life. Never once did I feel lonely. Desi loves to sing with you, even though Siri failed to mention him. Love you, my beautiful friend...MaryEllen

Thank you

I’m 66 and I love seeing young girls in bars, and I think to myself enjoy it while you can. But as for me I love the peace and the anonymity. I had my time and frankly I love being left alone.

That was the most 'disjointed' talk you've ever given -- or at least the most disjointed talk I've heard you give. I stopped listening to you when I realized that you aren't even 70 yet, that you have a house and garden, that you're in pretty good health, that you have money for makeup and clothes, and that somehow you make money off your videos. Not at all what most older women have, and you don't have a clue as to how much life is going to change for you in just the next five years. //// We have a 'plethora' of older women on KZfaq lately who think that they can help other older women through their problems -- but you can't. //// I'm 75. Been divorced for almost 30 years now. Have had one long-term relationship in the past 30 years. Every day I am lonely -- usually only for a short time. Some days I am acutely lonely and sometimes for the whole day. But that is life, at least in The US, since about the 1960s. (It really started in the 1940s -- just after WWII -- when adult children, like my parents, left their home towns and their families and moved to CA. Every single family on the neighborhood block where I grew up (in San Diego) had come from The East Coast and The Midwest and had NO extended family close by. We kids (my generation) had no idea what it was like to grow up with extended family very close by. And that ONE thing -- moving away from 'home' has been the major cause of loneliness -- at least up until COVID and inflation.) //// Also: WHY do we think that we MUST be happy? Do any of us know -- and have we known -- anyone who has been truly happy for any extended period of time? No. There are two things I think about every day (and, btw, I do have moments of happiness every day -- just not long periods of 'happiness' ) -- anyway, a Buddhist Master said long ago (I heard it at age 50 -- I wish I had heard it at age 20): "Life is mostly difficult and painful. Once we accept that, we have half the battle licked." He was grinning when he said it -- but he was serious and he was right. Secondly, my old therapist used to say, "If we're not at least somehow depressed and anxious in this world, there really is something wrong with us." LOL But she was right too. //// You want a good life in old age? Do something good for someone else. For instance, do some volunteering. I can't do that anymore, due to my health, so I do things like complement someone when I go out grocery shopping. Just one example: I compliment women of all ages on their hair and/or their clothes. I tell older men that they are very handsome. Sometimes younger men. Sometimes that compliment starts a conversation, primarily with older women, and I wind up just listening to their sad stories about their lives. There are grocery store employees who I have known for 10-15 years -- and longer -- and I've been privileged to hear the ongoing saga of their lives over the years. (Btw, none of this 'works' unless the compliments are sincere and the 'listening ear' is sincere.) AND I've learned SO MUCH, from others, over the years of doing these things. I've also always been extremely humbled that people talk to me. I am privileged to be able to give money away to those in need -- one on one -- not just to some 501(3)(c) for a tax deduction. Am I happy? Hell, no. But being happy isn't important to me. What is important to me is that I am genuinely grateful every day of my life. That I was born. That I have had a good life. That I continue to have a good life. And that I've been able to help others. What more could be important at an age when we have far more days behind us than we have in front of us.

I just love your video, your honesty, your way to express yourself, your style, everything about you, you have a sweet spirit, gentle and strong at the same time! God bless you and give you a long and healthy life! I need and want to keep watching your videos!!! Thank you for being you!

Perhaps a sense of humor is needed here. Perhaps Patricia ought to dress up in a fun outfit like a Teddy Bear outfit and act like this is quite normal. Have fun ladies in later years. You have earned your stripes and now enjoy your time. I have a neighbor who is in her 90's and I saw her with slacks that had diamonds down the sides. She always tells people to practice "mind over matter".. Blessings galore. Hello Desi -you are adorable singing with Susan.

That dog is so cute so glad he’s got a backyard to run around in God bless both of you 💐💐🌷🐕

Your Mom looked like such a sweet and loving woman. So brave that even though she was feeling so uncomfortable, she showed up for YOU on your big day ! And her dress was great ! BTW, the way you do your makeup is beautiful - it looks so natural like you're barely wearing any ! That's the trick right ? ! Thanks for the tip about the chocolate. I'm adding that to my routine this week ! Love to you and your adorable litlle doggie ! ❤

Yes, the dress is beautiful and you are beautiful in it! 😊

Hi Susan, I am so sorry I didn’t acknowledge your video on Saturday. I watched it but I had to leave and I just completely forgot to respond to you. So here I am day late and dollar short. If you ever heard that expression., huh? Well anyone I have to say I am so excited about your video and the Goodbye Girl. I love that movie and it came out just about the time I was leaving my first husband. That movie gave me inspiration and it made realize a lot of women must live their lives as the Goodbye girl. I know I did and I only made once again about twenty plus years later only for it to last about five years. So I just decided to be single and stay that way so I wouldn’t have to be a Goodbye Girl anymore. So us girls have to support the ones who want their independence and maybe just have a boyfriend on the side if that works for both of you. It’s hard to find relationships that work these days and people enjoy their freedom and that’s okay. Just know that you follow your heart and give the world a little happier peaceful you. I love you and Desi and you both have found a place in my heart ♥️ and I will always feel that way. I think you and I think a lot a like and I understand you in many things you discuss. Well I hope have wonderful week and look forward to seeing both you and Desi. Take care and God Bless you both. 🙏♥️🐾🐾

You were just as beautiful as a young girl as you are now! 😊 I love the bracelets! And the clothes are so fashionable on you! You looked prettier modeling them than the model did! 😊

You look so gorgeous in your thrift store finds! 😊 l love to see you model clothes because you have such style and class! Your grandson is adorable! And it's understandable that you would want to move to be closer to him and be able to spend time with him.. I babysit my grandsons a couple days a week and love my time with them 💗 There is no one like a grama to invest special memories into grandchildren, not to be forgotten..

I really enjoy your channel. You have such a wonderful perspective ❤

Susan, You have come such a long way … from your past to the present. You find joy in so many little things. Your life is very textured and layered. Some people would be very bitter, but you have found a way to see the positive in your life instead of the misfortunes. Your honesty is very appealing, and you bring joy and sunshine … and hope into so many lives. If you use your journals to write a book , it will be like climbing the steps to the Colosseum in Rome. A sure success … you will make it to the top 😊.

Great advice, Susan! Don't let thoughts drag you down into a deep pit! Find others with the same interest: book club; bridge club; yoga; language class; gardening; art/crafts; volunteer where your heart leans towards (homeless; animal shelters; VBS; ); dance lessons; etc. Fill in a gratitude journal (lots to be thankful for); find a church where they teach the Bible (Calvary Chapels); prayer and seeking the Lord will bring you peace. God bless you, ladies! Take care of yourselves.

You're an only child, that is different than someone who has more siblings. The dinamics of the family can be so draining if it's disfunctional. It takes so long to recover from disfunction. I agree with what you're saying about getting out there and getting out of your own way but I am my mother's only caregiver, as she's in a long term care home. I lost my younger brother so there are 5 left to support me, so called. Anyways, what I'm trying to say is, many family dynamics can bog you down. I read alot about family dynamics, listen to different podcasts about families and basically try to get myself from under the patterns that hold me back. You have a very positive outlook and I don't say you haven't been through alot. I am still trying to detach from old family patterns and I don't want to appear a victim. I enjoy being retired, been married twice, have a son who is doing well so I have many things to be thankful for but whoa, siblings is a whole other ball of wax.