Battling Weight Gain , Loss & Estrangement - Women Over 60 Speak Up!
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Күн бұрынWomen confide their true feelings about their life & so do I - weight gain, love & loss, isolation, grief, waking up and planning a day... wanting more and finding a new life for ourselves. I was so shocked to hear how women really feel. I received a letter from a subscriber that touched me deeply...she felt her life was behind her and it stopped her from leaving her home. She said she feels so sad she and her daughter do not talk.
My doctor told me older women can be so hard on themselves... angry for all the things they can no longer do or swallowed up at times with regret or anger towards family members........and I thought long and hard about this. So I wanted to show a slice of my life and share how I cope, relate, and still have so much to work on...forgiveness being the most mountain for me to climb.
Thank you for being here...you always life me up and remind me how precious every day we live is.
Be kind to yourself...truly kind to yourself.
My Love to you always,
Susan & Desi
My Friend Dolores just lost her husband - she made this touching video in his honor. If You have time, stop by and say hello to her. Thank you so much.
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00:00 Introduction
03:15 Feeling Disconnected From the World
06:12 Family Hurts/ Estrangement
09:45 Loss Of A Husband or Partner
13:34 Repressed Emotion We Carry
17:43 Lack of Structure & Discipline Weight
22:16 SOMETHING MISSING
27:13 Desi Sings & We Say Good-Bye
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@TheBakingDiva 26 күн бұрын
You are right……sad is sad. My wonderful husband passed away it will be two weeks tomorrow. One minute I think I am ok and the next I’m bursting out in tears. Not sure if the tears will ever stop. The shower is a good place for that. He was my one and only and my life will never be the same. My grief is raw and I know I have a long way to go. I am thankful for my children and grandsons but it’s not the same. Over 57 years of married memories but right now they are too painful to bring me joy because I miss him so much. I feel like I will wake up and find out it was just a bad dream but that isn’t happening. He loved me so much and I will so miss him not telling me that . Getting old is not easy but I know he would not want me to be sad. I told him before he passed that when my times comes he better come and get me. I’m counting on that. 💔🙏Anyone who has lost a spouse knows what I am talking about and life will go on but it will always be different.
@Splintered- 26 күн бұрын
I’m so very sorry for your loss 💔. I can’t imagine what you’re going through…. My prayers are with you 🌹
@LittlePoet 26 күн бұрын
Oh my sweet friend, you are in my thoughts every day...I watched your tribute to your husband and I just cried and cried. You spoke for so many women...sad is sad is sad. Too tired to even give the feelings names...but you go on...somehow, you do. I am sending you so much love and hugs, you are one of best women I have ever known...so kind and so thoughtful without wanting credit...beautiful lady you are and always will be. xxoo love always, Susan
@TheBakingDiva 26 күн бұрын
@@LittlePoet thank you Susan. My heart is broken 💔🙏
@LittlePoet 26 күн бұрын
@@TheBakingDiva sending love....please take care of yourself during this terrible time xoxoxo
@susaninsocal550 26 күн бұрын
@TheBakingDiva I'm so very sorry for your loss. My sweet husband passed away at the end of January this year. It's so very painful. And yes, I'm very, very thankful for my adult children and grandchildren. My mom used to say, "getting old isn't for the weak" but at times it sure is darn hard to find strength.
@wendyshere 26 күн бұрын
I find myself tearing up often. I miss the old days. I miss everyone. My parents. My grandparents. My aunts and uncles. I feel so forgotten. It feels like I’m grieving over the loss of friends, family, memories and my kids not being little and needing me anymore. I do stay busy mostly but then memories enter my mind or the night comes and the quiet gets louder. This time of my life hurts. Being lonely hurts. It feels like everything is over.
@laurievanzon2126 26 күн бұрын
You look young and still have many years to have a fulfilling life! Please get out and meet people. Volunteer or try a part time job. Call old friends and invite them to get together. You will feel better!
@laubru010 26 күн бұрын
Oh yes! You have a lot of life in you! YOU are who others will miss someday because of the life you live. Bake the cookies, take the walk, buy a new dress & wear it for no reason. I am 63 and had basically stopped myself from so much joy. Today...I bowled! I actually bowled with my grandson. It was exhilarating and let me tell you I am out of shape but I did it anyway. I hope you find some new or revive something old that you enjoyed this very week!! May God bless you!
@shelly7405 26 күн бұрын
I agree, thank you for sharing.
@suzannemeade6335 26 күн бұрын
Oh dear I feel ya exactly. I was never loved my whole life. Forgotten. I have retired from State service and work a part time job. I will be 68 soon and can't wait to die
@Mygardenspace 26 күн бұрын
I’m 65 and still selling real estate and gardening. I make sure every morning to plan my day. With a plan it all goes better. Yes someday my plans get hijacked but I keep them flexible and add it to my new plan for tomorrow! lol
@teresahudson-lk7dw 26 күн бұрын
I am a 71 year old widow of a Cheating ,liar and sad uncaring man. I really lost who I am trying to make someone happy that did not care for his wife and children. He passed away four years ago. I have learned that I am pretty darn good at getting things done without him and managing to make peace with myself for caring too much for a man that really did not deserve it. What life I have left i hope to find joy in the men I raised, my grand. daughter and just having the freedom to do as i darn please
@jacquiliddell7680 26 күн бұрын
I have a similar life, I am 75 this year, and he’s still here,.! What stopped me from getting out people asked, he took my confidence away and personality and I feel frozen .
@jujubunnybea 26 күн бұрын
💪🤜🤛👍… 🥰
@terrilowe3530 26 күн бұрын
I’m so glad for you to be free from that man! You tickled me pink! Your life seems so rich now. Love❤
@JD-tn5tb 26 күн бұрын
@@jacquiliddell7680 - It must be hard to leave someone at 75, especially if you don't have the financial means. If you have to stay with him, I hope you find a way to ignore him and be happy anyway. I never married and when I hear stories like yours, I feel such relief that I don't have to deal with anybody and can just live life. Much peace and happiness to you.
@jeanettehigginbotham 26 күн бұрын
My heart goes out to you. That happened to me in my first marriage. I luckily escaped, was dirt poor, but the moment i left i had peace. Im praying for you. You deserve joy! @@jacquiliddell7680
@marypeterson1053 26 күн бұрын
I chose to wake-up happy. I sleep in because I want to. I eat dessert first..I'm a very happy 78 year old. God bless ladies...be good to you.
@PossumLover1111 26 күн бұрын
I love your simple yet profound post. Thanks. Made me smile.
@dannettepeters1507 26 күн бұрын
GOD BLESS you too, Mary!
@sydneymartin7638 26 күн бұрын
You’re so right! Everything in life is a choice. We can make better choices. We can make different choices. We don’t need to hurry making those choices either. We can spend some time thinking about what is best under the circumstances. 😉
@jacqui.amelie 26 күн бұрын
This spoke to me thank you 🌹
@BR-kk9qu 26 күн бұрын
This is simple, non complicated wisdom!
@SuperGreycloud 26 күн бұрын
The older I get, the more I realize I was truly happy back in the 80's yet I remember always complaining about it. Sometimes, you don't realize what you have till it's gone.
@dsoule4902 20 күн бұрын
... indeed. Even when we think we appreciate them... after they Walk On, ... ya just don't know. Walking a path and as loved ones drop off, were left with a thinning pack. New people join in but they cant replace what's lost. I do better just accepting the losses- not trying to stop the grief-- but keep moving. God has kept me here for a reason.
@autiemuse 14 күн бұрын
Joni Mitchell-"Why's it always seem to go that you don't know what you've got till it's gone?" from Big Yellow Taxi
@user-zc9ce6dd2v 9 күн бұрын
Then I wonder if I’m doing the same thing now.
@kimharris6649 26 күн бұрын
This is not intended to sound churchy.... I am 70 and single (with many relationships) for 48 yrs. My faith gets me through loneliness and anything else . I ask the Holy Spirit to comfort me and He always does! My personal relationship with my Jesus is everything!🙏❤️🙏😘
@Splintered- 26 күн бұрын
I love your comment. Thank you for posting.
@christchurchpjs7430 21 күн бұрын
Yes, He is the faithful Lover of our Souls!
@natnielsen8472 19 күн бұрын
Hi kim, you don't sound churchy at all - you're just sharing the truth, and it's real - it's beautiful. There's nothing better than a loving relationship with The One who created our soul - no one can ever know us like He does - no one can ever comfort, heal, and console our heart the way He does. He's The Savior who forgave us so deeply that He gave His life to redeem us. He is the One who taught us how to forgive others so that we can be free - there is so much joy in that freedom - no more baggage to weigh us down:-)
@kimharris6649 19 күн бұрын
@@natnielsen8472 Beautiful truth!
@k.goldstein5664 18 күн бұрын
Hey Kim, You don’t sound “churchy”, and so what if someone thought you did? You never have to apologize for sharing your feelings about your faith. The Bible says we’re not supposed to do that. If you deny knowing Christ, he will deny knowing you before his Father. So be proud and unapologetic. 🙏
@hippiegirl5167 26 күн бұрын
I am 71 and I feel like I am not a part of this world anymore. I will go to town sometimes just to be around people. I guess it makes me feel like I’m a part of something.
@sabine3769 26 күн бұрын
I understand. Then we get home and nothing changed. I feel same way.
@laubru010 26 күн бұрын
Oh you ARE a part of something every day! This big wide world of wonder. We each have so much to offer others. Sometimes we just have to do something, no matter how small, that we have never done before. Blessings!!
@vickig7261 26 күн бұрын
Same here some days.
@cherylthepearl827 26 күн бұрын
Wish we knew one another and could go out to lunch and shop or just sit and talk with a cup of tea. ❤️✝️🌺
@pattyallen5313 26 күн бұрын
@@ncsprung1847I know how you feel. I lost my dear husband when I was 60 and he was 66. The second year after his loss was harder so be patient with yourself. Please find a good Christian church so that you can be around good people who love the Lord and who could bless you so you won't become isolated which can lead to deeper depression. God Bless you.
@royewith8925 26 күн бұрын
Hi Susan I have to comment today. I’m 81 and I’m really connecting with what you are saying today. My mother’s brother also “HURT” me when I was five. I didn’t know how to tell my mom what happened. I told that he hurt me. She didn’t know what I meant she just said, Well stay away from him. It was always with me. I was married 4 times. I wasn’t able to be a very sexual wife. I really relate to all the things you are talking about in this video. Thank you so much. Keep up your wonderful videos. I look forward to seeing you have posted another one. By the way I went back to school at 49 and became a nurse. 🥰🥰
@bethquaranta6566 26 күн бұрын
Welcome to the wondrous world of nursing!
@angelinadrobina5037 26 күн бұрын
I just wanted to send you my love from Tasmania Australia 💛💛
@andrealazar1556 26 күн бұрын
I'm sorry that this happened to you *hugs*
@doreenantonopoulos2442 26 күн бұрын
🙏❤️🙏
@Kathy-kr1sv 26 күн бұрын
Well done Nurse ❤. Sorry about that uncle. Mine was a cousin. Never told anyone and yes it did effect me and my life. Stay lovely and be happy 🌹
@maureenleclair8773 26 күн бұрын
At the end of 2009, my daughter went to prison for a car accident that she had caused. Six weeks after that, my husband died. I am here with my 29 year old grandson, for whom I am so grateful. I continued to work until I was 75 in 2019. When I retired I had all kinds of plans of things that I wanted to do. I was only out of work for a very short time when Covid hit and we were all stuck in the house. I didn't have Covid, but all I heard was about elderly people dying and it through me for a loop. I got through that and as Covid was winding down, my legs decided to not work. I couldn't even stand. I had back surgery, and I can walk with a walker, but it's not the same as just getting up and moving on your own. You mentioned about your weight. It also works the other way, too. When I couldn't walk, I decided to lose weight so I could get around better. I have lost about 100 lbs, but I look in the mirror and I don't see it. My clothes don't fit, but I can't see it. So I am trying to cope with it all. If I start to feel sorry for myself, my grandson gives me a pep talk on how far I've come in the past two years. I'm almost 80 and I don't know where to go from here. This is too long, but that's how I feel. ❤🙏❤
@sabinekoch3448 26 күн бұрын
Not too long at all… you are an inspiration.🫂🫂
@loriar1027 26 күн бұрын
Sounds like you are a real blessing to your family and are in turn bless by a wonderful grandson. Keep hanging in there doing whatever you can do. ❤
@sunalouw348 26 күн бұрын
Also have those feelings sometimes but I refuse to feel sorry for myself as I don't want to fall into depression. I rather look for something to do and keep my mind occupied. Music also helps.
@florence1395 26 күн бұрын
Hi, just thought I’d tell you about life here, not USA. UK 🇬🇧 & France 🇫🇷 my husband of 44 yrs died within 4 x weeks of Pancreatic Cancer 2020 ♋️ then in 2021 my 50 yr old brother died of COVID then 3 days later my rescue dog Big K died. Then I fell down the stairs & broke my foot in half & the toes on top of my fibromyalgia life has been hard. What is hard it’s not being 65 it’s the way we are treated as if we are idiots & that’s not good. I wish you well & send love & hope to you & all. ❤️🩹 I would say being older is easier in France 🇫🇷 than the UK 🇬🇧
@JB-pd4ni 26 күн бұрын
That is a difficult path in life. You were wise and determined to keep your weight down so you still have that spark for life. Blessings To You, Joy
@marypucci6814 26 күн бұрын
It’s hard to deal with a family member when they won’t talk with you! There are no words to describe that pain-living without my child and grandchild. I keep them in my prayers and will never give up hope.
@jerseystotler3615 26 күн бұрын
I haven't seen or spoken to my only child or my 4 grandchildren in 10 years!! I have known the heartache. Until one day I just gave it to God and it quited down my despair and depression. She has never given me a real reason for her shutting down to me, but when her Dad and I divorced she blamed me, but she was in her 20s then. But now I live on a rural farm by myself with my pets and I am at peace.
@user-vz2rx9iw7g 26 күн бұрын
Same😢
@Almosthomeforever 26 күн бұрын
@@jerseystotler3615yes…same
@ashleybergstrom8934 26 күн бұрын
I have been going through the same experience for over ten years now. NO words to describe the pain. Reached out so many times with silence in return. You are not alone Mary. My heart aches for you and a warm understanding hug for you.
@bevb752 26 күн бұрын
Same here. My 3 children have decided that I am at fault for my divorce from their father even though he is the one who was unfaithful. When I told my kids I would be divorcing their dad I told them not to think bad of him. He is their father. Little did I know they would turn against me. He has turned them against me. My grandchildren don’t know me. It’s sad for me and them. 😢
@sabine3769 26 күн бұрын
I'm so discouraged with life on this planet. So much evil pain and destruction. I feel despair tonight.
@jeanettec6212 26 күн бұрын
Sabine I just prayed for you. Im so sorry. Keep holding on and just believe God has this and he will come through! Hugs!
@monikaw1369 26 күн бұрын
Sabine, you are loved! At times it seems as though no one cares, but they do they just don’t know how to show you.
@Ms.Stephanie.C 26 күн бұрын
I’ve been listening to binaural beats & Hertz healing music on KZfaq for anxiety, & I do think it helps. Maybe search for that on KZfaq, it may take a few tries to find one that works for you. I hope you feel better. 💗
@vickig7261 26 күн бұрын
I understand. It's a lot.
@debbiewatermelon 26 күн бұрын
Its been like that for most of history. Death destruction torture slavery but there were also Renaissances. Hope for a new one that WE are part of. A better humanity.
@oldcrone 22 күн бұрын
Yes. When we get older we get lonely. Some people have a family that cares about them and some don't.
@rundogrun297 Күн бұрын
Yes it is hard to imagine your family not caring and coming to terms with it hurt so much. But I keep pressing on. I have tried to stop "trying" to fit in and just live my life. It is very lonely and I fight every day. I am not giving up or in!
@beverlycowan6025 26 күн бұрын
I just retired 65 the first thing I did was join the city community centre ,lots goes on lots of exercises classes picket ball swim exercise classes,playing card and knitting classes cooking classes sowing classes and much more I had to step into my new life yes I was scared but ever time I do something I am scared of I get so much in return,I am living my best life 65 single and most of all happy❤
@karenskitchenkaraoke1442 26 күн бұрын
So happy for you..sounds like you are really enjoying life to the fullest....
@anastasiaromanov3737 26 күн бұрын
Single woman has better mental health than married woman, one study said. Be happy🎉❤❤ eternally.😂😂
@thefairyqueen369 25 күн бұрын
What you are doing is called creating your reality...keep going and enjoy ever second of your new discoveries!:)
@lexreport6627 20 күн бұрын
Where do you live? Sounds like a nice place that helps the community
@beverlycowan6025 19 күн бұрын
I live in St.Cathrines Ontario
@laubru010 26 күн бұрын
Just recently I am recovering from a horrible depression. I started to a Ladies Bible study, then to church again after years of just being too hurt by past experiences, I took a longer walk than I even thought that I could. Oh the limits I had self imposed...today, after 15 years of saying, "I will never again be able"...I went bowling with my 18 year old grandson! I bowled! I did it! I am not sore, I did not fall, I did.not drop the ball! I did well...even bowled a strike. Most importantly I broke down another barier that I had set for myself and made a great memory with with grandson that I hope lasts him throughout his life. ❤
@sharondoan1447 26 күн бұрын
Such happy news! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with us.
@KathyDuncan9 26 күн бұрын
Beautiful!!! Keep on glowing and keep on growing!!!
@LittlePoet 26 күн бұрын
I am so happy for you!!!
@AnaFernandez-jp5uh 26 күн бұрын
The last time I went bowling, the ball slipped off my fingers when I pull it back. Good thing everyone ducked. I was so embarrassed. Everyone clapped. It made me feel better. You have to be able to laugh at yourself to enjoy life.
@chrisrollings2408 26 күн бұрын
I totally have the same feeling about ‘one more thing’ we want to do, but I think that’s what helps us stay vital and enjoying life. As you say, we have to keep moving forward as well as being ‘grateful’ for what we have. Just love Desi singing with you at the end of your videos too ❤
@CH-vf5ys 26 күн бұрын
I am 67. Married 42 years, kids, grandchildren all live close by. When I retired six years ago, I felt such relief and happiness. Not having to do my hair and make-up every day, come home exhausted, etc. I truly appreciate and cherish every single day. Volunteer work has been the answer for me-- it brings me such joy to help others. Love you and sweetie little Desi.
@Beth-77 21 күн бұрын
What do you do for your volunteer work?
@mikkiismyname 26 күн бұрын
I'm 61, retired divorcee of many years. Former social worker, one grown son who lives on the west coast. I'm on the east coast in a small town. I've read every comment here and they've been life affirming. A reminder that we all are trying to cope some doing better than others. I cried yesterday and it was a mournful one but healing. I felt that I had a clearer connection to God after releasing the tears. I experienced a revelation of many things that I've read here so your video, Susan is confirmation for me. I pray that God will grant us all the perfect measure of grace as we go through this journey.❤
@Kitchensurprise 26 күн бұрын
I am 74 and have been through most of the experiences you have discussed. My husband died a year and a half ago after a 6 month devastating decline and my Mother died 2 months later the day before my birthday. I was in a state of shock. I had my daughter and grandkids come and help me get rid of all his clothes, etc. I changed all the decor in my entire home. I was so mad and hurt he left me and all the terrible events of the 6 months he struggled went around and around my head and heart. We were married 52 years and loved each other dearly. With the support of my two sisters and my daughter, I have come to terms with his loss. I miss him everyday but know he wouldn’t want to live a compromised life. ( that is what I have to believe) I have transformed my yard into a lush haven of beds filled with roses and even have an herb garden I refer to as “ the farm”. I quilt, cross stitch, knit a little and intend to learn crochet. I am a hostess for my family for all special occasions and anytime I can get someone to come for lunch. I pray for health and happiness for all who are lonely.
@user-ex3mx7hk4l 26 күн бұрын
I’m sorry for your losses. 🌸
@natnielsen8472 19 күн бұрын
You have a super approach to enjoying your life. Thank you for sharing the love that you both had for each other for 52 years, but even more so thank you for not indulging in a pity party for yourself. Your embracing your new season of life after having a long successful marriage. There are so many other spouses who never got to enjoy the married life they planned on when they took their vows. They've had to struggle in life at young to middle ages with the sorrow of loss. You are a very good example to others. Keep sharing and hopefully it will provide a lovingly positive incentive to others to overcome their sorrows and pain❤
@DN-rg9nj 26 күн бұрын
Not sure where this fits, but I just turned 65 and, for the first time ever, bought myself flowers! --- Met a nice lady today, same age, in the hair dye aisle at the store. We chatted about the whole ritual of dying hair and how/why/when to embrace our gray. We chatted for 1/2 hr+ in the aisle., had so much in common, we exchanged contact info. and already followed up.
@ashleybergstrom8934 26 күн бұрын
That is awesome!!!
@user-ex3mx7hk4l 26 күн бұрын
It’s hard to make new friends but when we are brave and reach out like you did the rewards can last a lifetime. I’ve gone out on a limb and many connections didn’t pan out - People I thought I had a lot in common with weren’t who I thought they were - and that’s OK. But after many years of trying I now have 2 solid friends I trust. It’s so important for us to try and make friends as we age because chances are we will be alone in our later years if we don’t. We CAN be courageous and if they don’t reciprocate - so be it. You CAN survive rejection! The risk is well worth the rewards! You will find your person if you persist long enough. Don’t ever give up on yourself! You are worth having love in your life!!! 💕💕💕
@DN-rg9nj 26 күн бұрын
@@user-ex3mx7hk4l You made so many points that I too can relate to. Healthy relationships are hard to come by and I want to believe they are still out there.
@susaninsocal550 26 күн бұрын
@@user-ex3mx7hk4l It's interesting the twists and turns life gives us. My sister and I never really got along when we were younger but now she is my closest friend. We still don't agree on everything but we are "there" for each other and I'm thankful for that.
@LFetterman7903 24 күн бұрын
That is a GREAT THING! Enjoy your new friendship!
@conniemurphyover70stillgla47 26 күн бұрын
I love this quote. “ if the grass looks greener on the other side water your side more”. Peace be with you all❤
@queens6583 21 күн бұрын
Great quote!
@Trish-np6gn 10 күн бұрын
I modified this quote a bit, “If the grass looks greener on the other side, it’s probably Astro Turf”.
@IrelandLochlin 26 күн бұрын
In my case, I have a toxic narcisstic sister that I had to go no contact with. She had hated me for decades, even threatening my life at one point. It was the most difficult decision in my life that was not made easily, but I have so much more peace and better health in my life. Just my story. Im 65. Best wishes❤
@HelenVaughn-un6de 26 күн бұрын
I just went no-contact with my sister as she never brought me anything but negative.
@sirtedricwalker2979 26 күн бұрын
I've had to put boundaries up on toxic relatives
@scota73 26 күн бұрын
I did the same right after mom passed also with my very toxic stepdaughter who has done so much to harm me. My hubby is struggling with it since it’s his daughter. He doesn’t see that she’s a narcissist but maybe someday. She’s so mean to him as well.
@yvonnebertrand3731 26 күн бұрын
I've also had to do that with my sisters and mother. Peace is all I want at this stage of my life, I'm 63
@IrelandLochlin 26 күн бұрын
@@HelenVaughn-un6de Thank you and I understand. Despite everything she is and will always be my sister. I SO envy those who have a good relationship with siblings into their old age. It is such a profoundly sad situation BUT I realized the emotional abuse in particular would NEVER end. I HAD to do it for my own sanity and happiness. It is what it is. Bless you.
@marciabell2903 26 күн бұрын
I’m 71 and my children live out of state. It’s just me. I think it’s important to stay busy. Everyday I give myself a job to accomplish. I walk my little dog. Talk to neighbors. Get out and window shop. Have lunch with friends. Getting dressed and makeup on every day helps me feel better.
@leftybelle7022 11 күн бұрын
I use the same strategy since my husband passed last year. I try to have something to do every day. I exercise, meditate, meet friends for lunch... My strategy works pretty well, but bottom line is, it still sucks that my husband is gone and I'm going to be 70, and...yikes!
@ZoetheCat-nu2mo 26 күн бұрын
I’ve watched your channel for quite a while but just subscribed. This video in particular really resonated with me. I’m 63 years old and I am one of those people you mention who look like they have it all going on. I have no financial worries, people who care about me and a husband who I know loves me. And yet, it is not a happy marriage for many reasons. I truly am grateful for what I have. I know many who have it far worse. But I often find myself thinking about the “good old days.” I’m not even really sure the good days were all that great, but it sure seems so in retrospect. I guess I want a “do over.” There are so many things I would do differently. I’m sometimes depressed knowing that I have a lot more yesterdays than tomorrows. But one thing I know for sure is that I will not give up. No matter what, there is still much to live for. I am touched by the stories of all those who comment here. My heart goes out to all who are hurting.
@LittlePoet 26 күн бұрын
I cried when I read your words tonight...there is so much positive emotion when I meet other women who are going through some of the same things I am...it truly makes me feel not so alone in my thoughts. Yes, we are fine...but we do long for our last hurrah...a goal..a path that leads us to a greater understanding of why we were put on earth...thank you so much for being here...this channel seems to have an overabundance of warm wonderful women willing to dig deep and move forward. My Love to you and yours, Susan & Desi
@mlm7598 26 күн бұрын
I can truly relate to the message you have shared. At 77 years old I feel exactly the same. If I didn't know better I would have thought it was something I had written. I wonder how many of us feel this same way? Better yet, why do we not act on the things we think/dream about, what holds us back? A good question! This world is so different than when we grew up or even in the past 10-20 years. It's like a totally different world than we knew, yet it isn't. How do we fit into today's world with keeping our standards and that part of our world that made us who we are and feel comfortable doing so? Difficult perhaps to put to words, yet I am thinking people understand. Blessings
@dianabrown833 26 күн бұрын
If you know about med beds, you know there is a 'do-over'! Never give up hope, I am confident about the future.
@pilarkrol 26 күн бұрын
Sending you so much love from the Netherlands ❤️🙏🏼✨️🕊
@thefairyqueen369 26 күн бұрын
@@dianabrown833 I completely understand you......I am waiting for Elon Musk to start making the med beds, he has the money to do this and help Humanity so much! But I have the feeling that big Pharma may have told him you can go into anything but not the medical industry, that is ours!! Perhaps someone on his new ex platform can send him a message, sow the seed......I dont belong to any platforms as I grew up in the era that we didn't have them lol, so its not my thing and commenting like this is as much as I do:) Have a great day!
@jeanettec6212 26 күн бұрын
Susan I already left a comment but wanted to share something that popped in my mind. I remember a woman who was older then me that I use to work with. I always cared for older people. I would carry her heavy boxes of files to her desk or unload it even though I had my own and a bad back. She didnt really like me because I didnt fit in the click. I was a christian and I didnt do the cussing and gossip junk. I became there gossip. She would complain how she had 2 more years and could finally retire. I ended up quitting but found out right before she retired she died. It saddened me. I still like her and didnt care how she felt about me. My heart broke that she worked so hard and for so long and all she did was talk about how much longer she had. Anyway,….I hope she knew Jesus. She never wanted to hear about him. Hopefully she did in her own time. I never preached him because it would not be allowed but I stood for him! I try to stand for myself because no one else will. He heals the broken hearted and he binds up their wounds.
@LittlePoet 26 күн бұрын
You beautiful you are ...God is great! xxoo Much love to you always, Susan
@user-ex3mx7hk4l 26 күн бұрын
At one time my heart was completely destroyed and I told Jesus if He healed me I would stand for Him. He did - so here I am. The Bible says the Lord specializes in healing broken hearts. But we must ASK. It hurt so bad I never thought it could be fixed but Jesus did the job! 💕💕💕
@jeanettec6212 26 күн бұрын
@@LittlePoet awe Susan, thank you! Hugs
@kaysmith7684 26 күн бұрын
I lost my husband of 21 years in 2019. He was my world, and i did see myself through his eyes. He was always very complimentary and encouraging. I think he thought better of me than i thought of myself. When he had been gone for maybe three months, i was in the bathroom getting ready to go take care of some necessary business. As i was standing in front of the mirror brushing my hair, i realized something that i had not until that moment. I had not looked myself in the eye since he had been gone. I looked at my hair as i styled it, i looked at my cheek, my chin, neck, etc. But when i looked in the mirror, i did not look myself in the eye. I had to force myself to do that. When i did, tears rolled down my face. I asked that person in the mirror, "who are you? I don't know who you are anymore." It was at that point i realized i had to become someone else now. But I didn't want to, i simply didn't have a choice. I was filled with fear and uncertainty. I have become someone else over these four and a half years. But i still dont want to. I just turned 74 and can relate to much of what you talked about. When you gave the scenario of waking up and asking, "What am I going to do today?" Then got to the idea of going to the fair. My first thought was, who would i go with. I know i wouldn't go by myself, and at my age, it would be difficult to find someone who would want to go with me. I am still a bit more adventurous than many women my age. But it's difficult to do many of the things i would like to solo. Many times, i just don't want to do things by myself. Other times, it's no problem. Almost always, i would prefer the company of a friend. But i also am not giving up. Thanks for the deep dive into issues we face as we age, and as we each delve into areas we are unfamiliar with. I've had mentors all through my life, but i don't have a mentor to teach me how to maneuver this old age thing. Although you are younger than i, you give some pretty darn good suggestions.
@laurawilliams2790 5 күн бұрын
Wow...Kay. I sure understand what you said. I didn't know me anymore because I realized I never did. I was always doing for somebody else and putting myself last. Wife, family, job... that's how I identified myself. Being alone now, I had to take a really hard look at who I was. I had no idea. When my husband died, so did I. I was like the walking dead. I surely didn't like the sad, depressed lump that I had become. It was literally making me sick. If I could reinvent myself, who would I be and what would I change? I always loved the French side of my family history so I decided to totally embrace that. I switched to a French diet and dropped some pounds, changed my hair, changed my clothing style, bought the perfume, and learned the language. I'm even building a virtual chateau, complete with furnishings and gardens, on Pinterest! I have a large set of chateau keys in my foyer as a reminder to not lose sight of who I am now. I'm doing the research and teaching my grandchildren to love their family history. Embracing a different culture can bring out so many new and exciting things. It's a road to personal discovery. Not only that, it's a tribute to the ancestors who made us who we are. I'm learning to be the new me that was buried for way too long. I think my grandmothers and great grandmothers would love that.
@user-of8dm3yk1q 26 күн бұрын
Hello Susan, A great video. I am 77 years old, widowed for 12 years this coming December and often feel something is missing. There is, my mate is gone and I am alone. There is my knitting group, my Bible Study class, church , and I volunteer at a wonderful antiques houses gardens. Still, something is missing. Other women are either wrapped up in their family life or just don't want to socialize. Thankfully, I have given myself a good talking to and am putting my self discipline to use by being organized and having a daily purpose each day. Life is what we make it, and I work to make mine well rounded and as happy as I possibly can. I too have a little rescue dog named Marvin and he brings me such laughter and joy. As you and Desi do! I love your duets, it just makes me so happy when the two of you sign off together. Your videos are uplifting and spot on with we Golden Girls issues. Be blessed, laugh, and hug that sweet Desi for me. Carol
@raventyson 26 күн бұрын
So adorable seeing Desi in his own backyard at the fence. Nose to nose with the neighbor dog, enjoying life! Great video Susan, as always!
@juliefizpatrick513 26 күн бұрын
I love Desi so much-he never fails to make me smile😊🤗
@kiwiang983 26 күн бұрын
Does Desi get to have a play date with the little dog next door . Could you leave a little gap at the bottom of your new privacy fence for Desi and Zoe ❤😇
@deborahpellerito6117 26 күн бұрын
Desi is everything ❤
@flossyflue4305 25 күн бұрын
Dogs are so special to us. They love to have friends like us. My G.D and I have a wonderful relationship like everyone else.
@TheSacredwoman3 24 күн бұрын
I will be turning 70 in July. I am estranged from 2 of my 5 children, and all 4 of my grandchildren are kept from me. The daughter has BPD and has been a big problem since age 15. In 2015 she announced she was leaving the family, parents & siblings. My son is an alcoholic married to an alcoholic crude woman, and they are bad parents. No contact. My other three children are loving, amazing, and I love them dearly. I had "dreams" of my big family when I got older, having reunions and loving even more as my children married and had babies. It has been crushing to realize those dreams will never come true.
@camirichardson7485 26 күн бұрын
I've been there - forgiveness can be so hard. But, if God can forgive me, I should forgive too.
@comfortcreekranch4948 26 күн бұрын
Yes, Amen. 🙏🏼💗🕊️
@tmurphy1508 26 күн бұрын
I was having a hard time forgiving a person, but I knew I had to. So, I prayed about it and agreed with God that I had to forgive this person and asked Him to work it out. Will, it took sometime but God did work it out and we became close friends. It is amazing what God can do.
@LovesJESUS 26 күн бұрын
Amen
@carmenM-ey6qy 26 күн бұрын
@@tmurphy1508❤️
@jeannegross310 26 күн бұрын
Maybe add some peek holes for Desi to see his dog friend when you put up your privacy fence.
@brigittavanderputten3596 26 күн бұрын
I was talking to my sister yesterday and she is always doing something when we're on the phone together. She says she has little down time for herself. She is someone who meditates everyday and has followed a spiritual path for decades and is "evolved". Yet, when i talk to anyone on the phone, i am present, without doing something. I told her i'm rarely bored, even if i'm doing nothing. I know i could be doing more but i don't feel the need to be busy all the time. I'm introspective and a thinker so thise times are important to me. I was a single mother and worked so this time in my life, without a schedule is well deserved. From the outside, i quess i seem boring but my inner world is rich. The thing i've learned is to leave the self judgement behind and not be too hard on myself.
@comfortcreekranch4948 26 күн бұрын
Susan... These words of yours touched me tonight. I have no words, for my emotions, I run. unexpressed, emotion. Emotions, unheard. But, there is One Who eagerly waits for me to talk to Him. My Lord Jesus Christ, he hears, He cares, what would I do without Him? ❤️
@LittlePoet 26 күн бұрын
So beautiful....and I hope you find the earthly words you may need. Much love to you always, Susan & Desi
@deborahpellerito6117 26 күн бұрын
Amen
@1955dmb 26 күн бұрын
@comfortcreekranch4948 You expressed it very well. As humans we will always be left with a yearning if we expect someone else to fill our needs. We counted on it! God created us with a space that only He can fill. It's good to get to the point that we recognize this because otherwise, we chase what is not catchable and we might miss the most important relationship we can develop with the Lord. We were created to be a child of God and a friend of Jesus. He understands us and is always with us. Once we realize this, we can enjoy others much more - without expecting too much from them. And it's good to know that others understand these emotions.
@dsoule4902 20 күн бұрын
I got laryngitis for two months after my brother passed. Someone had said "well you have us- so what's your problem?" The loss was literally - unspeakable. Months and months later I felt gratitude when I thought of him ... I knew that heavy, consuming physical weight of the acute grief was finished
@1955dmb 20 күн бұрын
@@dsoule4902 That first period of time seems unbearable. My wonderful brother died on his honeymoon in France, just one week after his wedding. He was leaning on a fountain after having a meal with his wife and just fell over, already gone from this earth. He was 27 and in perfect health. Every single morning when I woke up, I had to remember it again and I would scream, "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO". This happened in 1985. But mercifully, that first stage of grief does pass. We are never the same, but we can go on. Laryngitis represents all I had to say about it. No words were going to fix it or explain it.
@sallydalton3794 26 күн бұрын
I have a difficult time knowing what to say in a comment, even though I can think of things that I want to say while you're talking. I think that we all must feel like you're our friend. I'm 75 and struggling with disability, live in a low income apt, am grateful to have an affordable place to live where I feel safe, but I feel like I've kind of given up, rarely look in the mirror and fix myself up. I am a Christian and like to spend time each morning saying a prayer and reading some devotionals, which I love. Watching your videos help inspire me to do better. Thank you, I had to have my little dog put to sleep a little over a year ago and I'm still grieving, so I just love seeing Desi. Sorry, I'm awkward at knowing what to say. Love to you and Desi💖
@Splintered- 26 күн бұрын
I’m so sorry for your loss…💔
@judestretton4264 26 күн бұрын
I’m sorry for your loss too. I feel the same about commenting. God Bless
@heidi5452 26 күн бұрын
Your comment was perfect, Sally. God loves you, he sees you and he's with you all the time❤
@wendybowman5305 25 күн бұрын
thanks for the sharing. It is a great to comment and in doing this know you are seen and heard. Am sorry about your beloved dog. I had to do the same with my Wiley a number of years ago and it is so difficult. They are members of the family. I am ok now, however, it took a few years to be ok with his passing. I never thought I would be affected so deeply. sorry to hear you are struggling and just know on a site like this you are not alone. I love the videos and the caring and sharing present here.a great community
@dra551 24 күн бұрын
Your comment was wonderful! I know the pain of having to put a loved animal to sleep. I am so sorry. Sending you a big hug!
@heidibee501 26 күн бұрын
I have been walking with God since l was six but that connection was never as profound as it is now that my loved ones are gone. Each time l lost someone l lamented. And one day after l lost my last dearest friend l felt really empty. We would complain to each other and joke about it. So l complained to HIM and the answer was, "think about it." I did and l realized that l was lucky l had these people as long as l did. They changed me for the better.
@lanelleroper7710 26 күн бұрын
Susan, everything that the people said in the study and what you said really resonates with me so much! I lost my husband of 43 years this past March and my firstborn son two years ago when he was only 38. I feel so lost and alone. I keep remembering what me and my husband always did together and I miss him so much. Nothing is exciting in life for me anymore! I pray to God constantly to bring me peace. I just don’t know how to carry on alone as I have never had to before. I went straight from my parents to my husband when I was only 18. Now it has been 43 years with him and I am now 63. Your channel has helped me so much and I just want to thank you for your channel and all your wonderful insight❤️
@susaninsocal550 26 күн бұрын
I lost my husband in January of this year. I feel your pain. I had previously only been alone for about 2 years of my adult life.
@user-ol9vh1lt5d 26 күн бұрын
I forgiven you not because you have apologized not because you recognized the hurt and pain you have caused but because my Soul needs peace. It is not about them. I have lived long enough to recognize that forgiving them does not change their actions. God Bless.
@virgierutledge3004 26 күн бұрын
I forgive but never forget the betrayal of those three much older than I who defiled me and those who did nothing about it when I told them. Jesus saved me and live in me, is my only hope.
@Shell0003 26 күн бұрын
THANK -you soooooooooooo very much for the singing with DESI .....it makes my night. I think Desi has a crush on ZOEY !! When you put a fence up you can leave a small section open for DESI and ZOEY . You can plant a beautiful bush in front for privacy but still give Desi access to see Zoey. WHAT DO YOU THINK SUE????
@elizabethann8228 26 күн бұрын
I was thinking this too! A cutout for Desi and his friend. Maybe a little long so they can run together? 🩷💙🐾
@Shell0003 26 күн бұрын
@@elizabethann8228 Yes I hope Sue does something like that . I love it that Desi has such a great life now that Sue has adopted him . He is soooo LOVED !!!
@michellebilodeau3882 26 күн бұрын
I married at twenty and my husband died in January after forty six years of marriage. I've never lived alone. But I'm ok. Each day it gets easier.
@laubru010 26 күн бұрын
God bless you.❤
@marypeterson1053 26 күн бұрын
I'm sorry for your loss. GOD BLESS.
@avamiller2325 26 күн бұрын
Same here 🙏🏼
@roseannseedorf1595 26 күн бұрын
I think people need to remember that staying away from people that are toxic in your life is a good thing. You do not have to forgive everyone who hurt you. You can live your life happily and not forgive them. Some things are unforgivable. Not forgiving is ok too.
@user-ex3mx7hk4l 26 күн бұрын
Rose, I hear you. The Bible says we should forgive others as Christ has forgiven us. I’ve been hurt SO much in my life and have held grudges for DECADES. But trying my hardest to forgive when it seemed impossible helped release me. I didn’t even know chains were around me until they lifted off my shoulders. It felt like a tangible thing was gone and it helped me very much. 💕💕💕
@dianevioletta1408 26 күн бұрын
Wow. I can’t believe the timing of the video. I was just crying before checking into you tube. I’m 59 years old and from the outside my life would appear to be perfect to friends and strangers. But I am struggling mentally. This really hit home for me.
@dianevp8644 26 күн бұрын
Please reach out to a family member, a friend, someone at church and let them know you are struggling. When our thoughts consume us in an unhealthy way that is the time to reach out. I'm praying for you tonight and you are on my list my friend. You have friends right here and you are not alone. Pray - God cares and wants to hear from you. ♥
@dianevioletta1408 26 күн бұрын
@@dianevp8644 thank you so much! Prayers are so appreciated. You are so sweet. I am very close to my sister and my daughters but they all have their struggles and I don’t want to burden them. I tried explaining to my husband but he doesn’t understand. I keep so much in. But I do believe in the power of prayer and my faith keeps me going somehow.
@user-ex3mx7hk4l 26 күн бұрын
@@dianevp8644 👏👏👏 💗💗💗
@louisejohnson6625 26 күн бұрын
I am 71 and you get so aggravated with men thinking just because I'm a woman and an older woman that I'm helpless or senile or stupid. Just because I'm old doesn't mean I am senile. Gee that gets my dandruff up.
@carrie-joylloyd5785 26 күн бұрын
Maybe they're just being Kind! I would be so grateful if someone offered to help me out.
@feleciawallace8420 26 күн бұрын
I'm 68 divorced unemployed for several years and one daughter who's 32 years old, she's unmarried lives with her boyfriend they both declared they have decided not bring children into this horrible world, therefore I don't get to experience growing older with the love and affection of grandchildren. My daughter suggested that I go online to senior dating sites to meet a nice gentleman which I've done without much success. I've dated a few men but most have plenty of baggage and most only want sex, they are not seeking marriage and companionship at the age 67 to 75. Therefore this endeavor has only brought me headaches. I think I'll forget about dating at this point in my life... Sadly, feeling that I'm better off checking out now if that were an option.
@virgierutledge3004 26 күн бұрын
@@feleciawallace8420 I doubt that I would want to be a nurse to any man at this age.
@franzone70 22 күн бұрын
@@feleciawallace8420 l dated one man a few times after my husband of 40 years passed, it was a disaster, never again,
@Bachconcertos 26 күн бұрын
My family hated me since i was a child so it is sad but i have to keep going and find a way.
@mkbrown3902 26 күн бұрын
You are not alone. Be your own family. Love yourself.
@patricia753 26 күн бұрын
❤🙏🌈🌷
@rubberbiscuit99 24 күн бұрын
It sounds like you were your family's scapegoat. If so, and you want some healing resources, reply and I will send you some.
@alisong2328 14 күн бұрын
Mine used to love me (I thought).Since my parents died, my siblings don't want to stay in contact. I'm single - no exes, no kids - so all I have is them and they don't want me in their lives. I know they're dealing with their own issues and their own families, but it hurts.
@shirleydianabirl3100 Күн бұрын
Our family of origin are able to hurt us so much of we are unaware of the role we have been assigned by the narcissist in the family. When we choose to walk away too. the come back at some point wanting to be around you. Suddenly, you are positioned in the family as the new “golden child. Remember, these roles are interchangeable. Silblings Are Funny. See them for being just human subject to the fall of man. Ask Cain and Abel.
@lose999 26 күн бұрын
The bad things that have happened to you, don't define you. My 88 year old neighbor met the love of her life when she was 74. I retired in 2017 and have been taking classes at "the academy for learning in retirement" (ALIR). I was a teacher for over 32 years and now I'm a student.
@LittlePoet 26 күн бұрын
That is beautiful!!!
@ozraine751 26 күн бұрын
I have met the love of my life at 74❤️
@lose999 26 күн бұрын
@@ozraine751 tell us more...how, where?
@catmama54 26 күн бұрын
I’m basically just existing since losing my husband. However, I’m starting to make friends in my apartment complex and my next-door neighbors asked me to pet sit there 12 year-old cat while they were away for four days. I cannot believe the happiness and joy that brought me. I felt like I had a purpose. And they do tend to go away a lot so I told him they can always count on me and they saw how much I love her. I lost my 18-year-old cat last year and then my husband. And this darn apartment that I’m in I just can’t have a pet right now, but I will babysit my neighbors cat.
@laubru010 26 күн бұрын
How wonderful that you enjoyed helping your neighbor with their cat. I'll bet there are many little amazing things you could enjoy doing for another neighbor or an old friend or even a stranger. Have you bought yourself flowers lately? God bless you! ❤
@catmama54 26 күн бұрын
@@laubru010 aww thank you so very much for your kind words.
@LittlePoet 26 күн бұрын
Oh I am so sorry you lost your cat...losing a pet is so hard....but how wonderful you can have joy with a cat guest!!! My love to you! Susan
@franzone70 22 күн бұрын
Why can’t you have a cat if your neighbor has one!
@catmama54 22 күн бұрын
@@franzone70 unfortunately my rent is already quite high and they charge a good size deposit and then a monthly charge for a pet. Since I lost my husband, I live on just my income and I can’t afford it. My neighbors have two incomes I hope I can find a different place to live so I can then rescue a cat.
@lindafaierson6030 26 күн бұрын
I know three different women who became widows around the same time. All have different coping mechanisms. One has shrines of her husband in the car and in the house. And she shows his picture s alot. Another one , does better than I expected because she never worked and was a stay home wife and mother. She has to go to her daughter's every night at supper time for a couple hours because that's her bad time. And the third one, who worked and was involved in things, continues her life as before with the occasional visit to his resting place. I try to be there for all of them. Thank you for all you do.
@ashleybergstrom8934 26 күн бұрын
A true friend you are.
@mtdebemigrant1435 18 күн бұрын
I am 70. Been a widow for 17 years now. I have my 86 year old mother living with me. I have made peace with my life. I look for enjoyment in small things and I am kind to myself. This is my life and I have many happy memories to look back on. But I am moving forward and my mother's needs fill my days. Thank you for sharing.
@jeannestauffer682 26 күн бұрын
Susan, you speak to us, and you speak for us………..thank you for sharing darling DESI…😊😊😊😊❤❤❤❤❤
@ashleybergstrom8934 26 күн бұрын
AGREE
@sandyd829 24 күн бұрын
I will be 69 this year. I retired in 2020, at first I walked in the mornings, cleared out extra and unneeded items from my kitchen. Then I became stuck and have not been able to get involved in projects. My city offers parks and rec activities that fill quickly and have long wait lists. My best friend went back to work. My husband golfs and has his interests. We no longer have common interests, so if I do anything it will be by myself, no one to share thoughts and experiences with, it's very lonely.
@linntidwell633 26 күн бұрын
Susan... I had to put my cat of 7 years to sleep this week...I loved her so much...I miss her so bad...I'm having the what ifs...I feel like well did I do the right thing.. The vet told it was the thing to do...but I'm so upset I can't not see her face ...it hurts so bad...thank you...
@Hotelcali372 26 күн бұрын
I'm so sorry, I, too, had to put my kitty to sleep. I had her for 18 years. I didn't want to make that choice, but I knew I did it because I loved her 😂 so much and didn't want her to suffer anymore 💔 Aways, always remember how much love you gave each other ❤
@debmelton6422 25 күн бұрын
I'm so sorry for your loss - we love our animals like children. I'm sure she loved you very much too.
@linntidwell633 25 күн бұрын
@@tmurphy1508 thank you for the mssg...today has still been hard....when I said I can't see her face...I mean I can't stop from seeing her face when I close my eyes...I'm still crying alot....I miss her so much. The house is so quiet....thank you again...I just can't stop crying....
@synapticat 22 күн бұрын
I put my 9 year old badly injured cat to sleep. I feel I let him down. It’s been a couple of years ago and I got another kitten not long afterwards. But it hasn’t helped the sadness and guilt I feel.😢
@janine2432 20 күн бұрын
I had this happen too. Out cat was only 7 and it was sudden. I will pray for you.
@user-qb8qm4mp5n 26 күн бұрын
Family can be the most wicked. I think the reason I harp on gratitude so much is because I realize people don't want to hear what's really going on with me. If I thought I was dismissed when I was younger I was kidding myself. I'm dismissed more than ever and it's because of my age, 65 years on this planet. The older I get the greater the disconnect. It may sound like I've given up but only given up the part of me that desires validation from others because I know I'll never get it. My worth as a human being has to come from me. It's an inside job.
@jaysmith2522 26 күн бұрын
YOU HIT THE NAIL OON THE HEAD TODAY WITH YOUR VIDEO! I AM 81 YRS OLD . AND I FEEL LIKE MY LIFE HAS BEEN A COMPLETE FAILURE. NOW I AM A CAREGIVER FOR MY DISABLED HUSBAND THAT I LOVE DEARLY, SOMETIMES I STILL FEEL ALONE IN ALL OF THIS, BUT I TRY TO HAVE A POSTIVE ATTITUDE, AND KEEP MY HEAD UP, AND KEEP GOING. MY HUSBAND WAS AN ENTERTAINER, A NUMBER ONE DISC JOCKEY IN THE LARGEST CITY IN OUR STATE. HE WAS GREAT. BYT A STROKE TOOK THAT AWAY FROM HIM. HE STILL HAS A GREAT ATTIDUTE. AND HAS NOT STOPPED 'LIVING'. BLESS YOU FOR THIS VIDEO.
@judydahl1683 26 күн бұрын
Don't stress about life. It is over before we know it. Find something to enjoy, no matter how big or small. Love seeing Desi with his doggie friend. So sweet.
@Splintered- 26 күн бұрын
Thank you for your words. It’s 4:36am in Idaho and I have been stressing…. Your words have given me some comfort.
@proverbs3150 26 күн бұрын
I’m 69, take bioidentical hormone replacements, fast one day a week, intermittent fasting every other day, watch my thought life, perspective on life of being happy, study scripture everyday, attend church, color my hair and I meet men much younger than me and that is something I haven’t gotten used to. Most people just want a smile and to be validated. I find many people who are married are very depressed and unhappy. I try to live in the present and if I want a day of leisure I don’t feel guilty!
@proverbs3150 26 күн бұрын
I meant to say that I meet married men and women who are depressed and unhealthy. It’s been my experience that they are the ones who have let themselves go. Scripture says we are queens! Just ask yourself how a queen would live and put into action-within your budget of course!
@brookemcgillivray180 26 күн бұрын
This was a lovely video. It really hit home with me. My husband died almost three years ago, and while I still miss him and am aware of him every day the thing I struggle with is what do I do with my life. We had finally retired, we had dreams and goals, but they died with him. I’ve been journaling a lot about this lately because I want purpose back in my life. I want to fix myself proper meals again and go to bed when I should. I want to buy a pretty dress and feel good wearing it. I guess that sounds silly 😊. But truly I want to find that one thing that is still left for me to do. Your words and the study you shared made me realize I’m not alone in this. Thank you so much.
@laubru010 26 күн бұрын
What color will that dress be? Oh how wonderful!! I am 🎉🎉🎉celebrating this with you! Oh and I'll bet you are a great cook and someone in your life would love a surprise dinner invitation!
@shelleysquires7225 26 күн бұрын
I studied Expressive Art Therapy...there are many creative ways to express oneself...I am grateful that here in Cosra Rica, I have one good friend. We confide in eachother and express lots of emotion all the time However, I spend most of my time alone. Yes, the times they are a changing, but that started long ago...discipline is the difference between being wild and being free. ..my dance teacher used to say...at 68, I've lost 65 lbs with 10 to go. Everyday I get up, meditate, write in my journal, exercise and dance...then I say What am I gonna do today? These days I am learning new computer skills so that takes up some of my time...🌺 🇨🇷 🌺
@tnagletinanagle1778 26 күн бұрын
Hi Susan and Desi. You always make my Saturday nights ♥️🌷. Yes, please rethink the fence for Desi, he would miss seeing her so much! You can see how happy and excited to see her. He has a friend all his own. You have given him a beautiful back yard, and a doggie friend for the first time♥️🌷
@robinbaker7735 26 күн бұрын
You could add a doggy door to the new fence, they could visit
@YardleySlicker 26 күн бұрын
I can relate to all the points mentioned in the study - except one: I don’t “repress” anymore. I used to be a “represser” which made me be a “holder” of other people’s negative energy- as well as my own, and I believe that’s how I ended up with ovarian cancer, holding those poisons in an ovary- where else? I’m all good now health wise and from that experience I always encouraged my daughter and women friends and colleagues to say what has to be said, and “ get it out of your body.” Tonight I’m 73 and I’m going to put a candle on a cupcake and have a moment with me and for me, 73 years around the sun. My purpose is to live to see my grandkids graduate high school. I want them to know me. Thank You Susan and love to Desi❤
@asou5334 26 күн бұрын
Happy Birthday.
@SimpleLife365 26 күн бұрын
Happy Birthday! And a very Blessed year! 💖
@robincook4349 26 күн бұрын
happy birthday
@rubberbiscuit99 24 күн бұрын
❤️
@susanhiestand348 26 күн бұрын
Thanks for such a meaningful video. I'm turning 80 in June. I just can't believe it. For my birthday, I'm going to Tucson, AZ to visit my daughter and husband. Traveling by train, I hate flying. I've done plenty and lived abroad 4 different times, moved several times within the States; I'm so excited but more nervous about this trip. I find myself being more content to stay at home with my 3 cats ❤😺. Working on what is next for me. I'd love a small house but I don't see that ever happening. I have a few good friends that meet for lunch every month but it isn't enough for me. I'm praying for the Lord to show me every day His will. I try to plan ahead, and I the care of myself. Finances have changed as it has for many, making adjustments. The Lord bless you and keep you both now and in your days ahead. You help so many of us. ❤
@user-ex3mx7hk4l 26 күн бұрын
❤
@teresayocum5463 26 күн бұрын
Thank you for this,I am about to turn 62,I have been my husband's caregiver for almost 5yrs now,since his massive stroke...it's hard to lose your spouse or loved one,while they are still here.I use to have so much family around,but all have moved away.I am also struggling with my weight...I find myself using food,it's tough❤
@risapaynter 26 күн бұрын
I understand your pain. My husband has ALS, a horrible disease, as is a stroke. I lost my youngest son, a RN to Covid in 2021. I feel like everyday I’m struggling to find any joy in my life.
@patricia753 26 күн бұрын
❤❤🙏🙏🌈🌈
@susaninsocal550 26 күн бұрын
@@risapaynter Retired RN here. I'm so very sorry for the loss of your son during Covid (as parent's we always expect that we will pass first) as well as your husbands ALS. You'll be in my prayers.
@PossumLover1111 26 күн бұрын
I love retirement. Today is my birthday and I turned 67. I like not having a strict discipline. Yes, I am the queen of procrastination, but things do get done and on time. I'm making my art again and love being in that zone where time just floats in no sort of linear way. I miss having a partner to have those emotional intimacies with, but I am basically content. I have a granddaughter I adore and my dog, Baby. Life is good and I don't sweat the small stuff. And I still write checks to pay my bills. Not a fan of technology or change but I can and do adapt. The little pleasures of feeding the wild birds and stray cats gives me supreme joy. And I keep in touch with what's going on in the world politically which can make me cry at times but I need to know. And I have dear friends I can meet with and/or talk with. My knees scream at me but I cope. I'm glad to be alive.
@arlenebrown2184 26 күн бұрын
Happy Birthday! I so understand the joy of feeding the outdoor babies!
@PossumLover1111 26 күн бұрын
@@arlenebrown2184 Thank you! And thank you for feeding the strays. They are so beautiful.
@mariemcgrath8681 26 күн бұрын
Love your channel, it always touches me, way over in Australia. I lost my husband last year & without family around, I felt very lonely. Fortunately, my friend nextdoor (a lady my age) was planning on moving, & I suggested "come move into my home". Best decision we both made. Just to have someone around is wonderful for us both.
@user-ex3mx7hk4l 26 күн бұрын
Golden Girls took off for a reason! This is a GREAT idea!!! 👏👏👏
@dianaschoen4485 22 күн бұрын
That is so wonderful!❤Hello from Michigan, USA!😊
@ginamcdonald7854 26 күн бұрын
I watched your video at 1:30 a.m. Sunday morning when I couldn’t sleep. I’m 65, still working full time as a hospice social worker and bereavement counselor. My days are long and sometimes very difficult trying to help individuals deal with loss of independence, families deal with loss of loved ones, and dealing with my own losses. I’m not in a relationship with a man, and I miss that so much. There are things I enjoy, but sometimes on my days off I find myself sitting, watching TV, maybe reading a book, or simply looking up and realizing I haven’t accomplished anything I had planned and the day is over. Then I’m depressed and angry with myself for wasting valuable time. I give so much energy to the families I work with that I have very little energy for myself. Your videos inspire me to decorate, love and enjoy my home, but the discipline to make it happen is not there right now.
@patricia753 26 күн бұрын
Dear friend, probably the discipline isn't there because you are exhausted with your full time job. Can you consider working part time, or even quit your job? Maybe you would then have energy for your own personal world. Just a thought.❤
@ginamcdonald7854 26 күн бұрын
@patricia753 If only I could afford to retire or even work part time. I just need to make it about another year, and will then be in a position to cut back on hours or maybe even retire. Thank you for your response and advice!❤️
@trudypope2113 11 күн бұрын
I once read a quote "Time you enjoyed wasting, wasn't wasted". I never feel guilty for lazing around and enjoying it.
@MC-lq2iz 26 күн бұрын
Thank you for this video Susan, I'm 61 and still working full time. What I've realized is I am angry and I don't know why. I raised my 2 children as a single parent. My sister said I'm angry because I expect people to think like me and give 150% in everything like I do. My biggest question is why do women make themselves smaller to uplift their partners, why do they loose themselves in relationships. Then one day when their partners are gone they don't know who they are anymore. I am so happy on my own, every morning 5h30 I start writing letters to God, every thing that makes me happy or sad. I talk to God, but I write it down, the more you write the more you find the words again. This morning I've asked God to just give me patience, to take away the anger, everybody don't think like me or don't do things like me. One day, I want to buy myself an old school bus, change it into a tiny home and go and live in the desert. All on my own, oh yes, with a Dezi, that to me will be the hight of happiness. Thank you again for this lovely topic, and thank you ladies for feeling like family. You are all special. Have a lovely week and see you next Sunday.
@sharondoan1447 26 күн бұрын
I may have figured out something about dealing with childhood hurt. The best I can do seems to be that I did not seek retribution. I did not try to cause them the same purposeful physical pain or emotional pain. With some of them I kept my distance and that was the best I had to offer. It was much more complicated with my parents. But, again , I never caused them any intentional harm. Part of that was because I was gaslighted into believing I had nothing about which to complain. As an adult I figured out the gaslighting part. Now the entire bunch is dead. What a relief that has proven to be. No more awkward occasions when their voices were sounding in my ears! Blessed silence, forever more. Does anyone agree that not striking out to hurt those who hurt me could be a kind of forgiveness?
@merlenealt4233 26 күн бұрын
No I don’t agree. You have not forgiven the ones who hurt you because the “thought” is still inside you. You have to forgive in sincerity and mean it. Do not hold onto past hurts because it will consume you and make you wish you had given retribution. We need to forgive with love and compassion and have peace within ourselves that we overcame an obstacle.
@kimgregory2781 15 күн бұрын
I don’t strike out either (well maybe that one time, in my 30s, when I got drunk and told’em exactly what I thought). One thing for me is realizing I’m not obligated to forgive anyone and I’m not wasting time on resenting anyone.
@sharondoan1447 15 күн бұрын
@@merlenealt4233 I can do that now! It feels great. Since I no longer have to try to be forgiving , I just am. In a very good and different way all the reminders are fading into oblivion. It simply doesn’t matter now. Praise God for allowing the chains of rumination about those painful relationships to fall away . It was nothing I did. I had tried to do that letting go for decades. It never worked. At the same time I had always prayed for a clear mind. A mind not tormented. Why I suffered all those years, I will never understand now that it is over.
@margittasaager7238 4 күн бұрын
Losing my partner seven years ago has left me crying cathartic tears every single day since then, filling bags of tissues. Crying oceans is almost a literal portrayal. I'm locked in a hole that doesn't render survival. I absolutely identify with all things you brought to my attention ... ' we are not alone '. God Bless to you and all of those out there bracing the storm! ❤❤❤
@cindyhalpern3187 26 күн бұрын
About a month ago, I acquired the blue bureau I wanted. A friend gave it to me, but I had to pay a delivery company to pick it up and bring it here. And I did it. I engaged the company and I got my bureau. I did it without my ex boyfriend's help. He helped me to move here. But I achieved the goal by myself, and it felt good. If only every day could be like that. It isn't and will never be. My goal is to have more better days. I will be visiting my best friend soon. I will be flying there. I hope it will be a good visit. I might plan a trip to see my daughter as well. These are good things, they can't happen every day. But I want to be grateful when good things do happen. Keep these videos coming, Susan. I need them!
@streaming5332 26 күн бұрын
You're not alone about cheques. My bank stopped using them this year, it infuriated me. Cheques were around when life was slower and better. I loathe the bank closing branches and being told to do everything online. I keep doing things the old way, no one can ever text me. I'm very last century.
@glendacarpenter2767 26 күн бұрын
I love watching the grandkids running in the rain, that’s pure joy 😊
@bethfromva6375 26 күн бұрын
Thank you, Susan. Everything you said really resonated with me. Perhaps I’m not crazy, just normal at this age. In addition to what you spoke about, I also feel profound emptiness at times. The kids are raised and doing their own thing. Now just by myself without any real friends. Let’s just say that I am trying to put myself out there - got a part-time job, joining groups, going to church, etc. I just find it quite challenging to make a friend at this age. Thank you for all that you do!
@user-ex3mx7hk4l 26 күн бұрын
I used to tell my kids you have to BE a friend to have a friend. It’s hard to reach out but it can be SO worth the risk. 💕💕💕
@cindyb6670 25 күн бұрын
Amen sista...I'm right there with you
@natalie73animals 26 күн бұрын
You speak in poetry. A volume of poetry will flow effortlessly without a doubt. I would love to buy that book.
@elizabethann8228 26 күн бұрын
Me too! Where do we sign up? 😊
@jeanettec6212 26 күн бұрын
Hello Susan. You hit it on the nail. The problem with needing someone to talk to is no one had time or want to know. So you buck up, pray and keep moving and break sometimes. Its a vicious cycle, and I am grateful! But God made us to love one another and people just dont care. They say speak life! Be grateful! For one I have life through Christ. I am grateful! But Im not a robot. I have a heart, I have pain, I have hurts, and sometimes we just want someone to say Im sorry you hurt. Come talk. I want you to know your not alone and you will be ok. Whats so hard about that? I remember my Mother had so much pain and she just wanted heard. I would give anything just to hold her again and listen. It means so much. Thank you Susan! Btw. Those grandkids are so cute! And You and Desi crack me up! I needed it! Cant walk today because back wont let me. Could use some prayers. Thank you! God bless
@comfortcreekranch4948 26 күн бұрын
I hear you. 🙏🏼 praying for your back, and being able to walk! I miss my mother too, I would love to be with her again she was my biggest cheerleader, always on my side! You too ? Was your Mom your biggest cheerleader also? May her sweet memories comfort you tonight! 💗 God Bless you with His healing hand!
@marycrandles4682 26 күн бұрын
Divine love and light Jeanette
@user-jr8jy7pn4b 26 күн бұрын
Jeanette you said it perfectly. I feel the same way.
@dorothylaplante7243 26 күн бұрын
Evening,sometimes I find it hard to just get out and walk. I enjoy just chilling out at home. I am two months into my retirement and I am preparing for putting in the garden. I really enjoy that but it seems a challenge just to get out and walk. Weird but I will have to get over this as I know exercise is important for women our age. I can totally relate to getting stuck in the negative past wrongs as well.
@khill6510 26 күн бұрын
I could totally relate to not feeling free to express my emotions. My family loves me and they don't want to see me unhappy. But I'm human too, right? Sometimes I'm blue but keep it to myself.
@user-ex3mx7hk4l 26 күн бұрын
The Bible says God records every one of your tears - he sees them ALL. When I feel like there is no one there for me - I am grateful I’m never alone because Jesus is ALWAYS there and He sees EVERYTHING. He will never leave you. That’s why He is my best friend. 💕💕💕
@user-cw3hv8vf9u 24 күн бұрын
The government needs to do way more for seniors who were born in the country in which they have paid taxes to all their lives to which that country’s weath was built on do more for these seniors! As they paved the way thru hard honest work that should be rewarded tremendously!
@dianaschoen4485 22 күн бұрын
AMEN! AGREE!!!!!🇺🇸
@jodyanitawoulf2729 26 күн бұрын
I’m in my late 50’s & I so miss my maternal grandmother & her mother ( my great grandmother) who both passed away when I was a very little girl. They were each housebound & so kind & loving despite it. Now that I am becoming a mature age I have questions for them & an even greater love for them both.
@MJ-mb3of 26 күн бұрын
Hi there Susan, I so related to your video. As a 61 year old woman, I feel as if I can no longer relate to life. I've always loved watching movies and enjoying good food. As a house cat and introvert, they were my time away from the stresses and the routine of everyday life. I feel as if i no longer have that outlet, that temporary, healthy escape. Movies about women in their 60's and up are quite rare and usually pertain to illness and unfortunate stereotypes. I feel as if I wonder about my day, hoping to find a deviation from the mundaneness. I am constantly dieting in hopes of maintaining a healthy weight. I miss the foods and sweets I can no longer indulge in (without the dreadful consequences). For me, there is no moderation. I'm often lonely, despite being in a relationship. I find myself looking back to my younger years where life was filled with adventure, possibility and time. Don't mean to be a downer, as I do consider myself an optimist. However, despite, reassuring myself that good times are yet to come and being grateful for what I have, I feel as if I'm lying to myself in order to avoid a harsh truth. My biggest fear: growing old and being alone with vivid memories of days gone by... God Bless...Love your videos.
@heatherboughton5936 12 күн бұрын
I hate the Be grateful thing. I also hate the 'Be Positive' thing. I am 63. I retrained in my late 40s as a psychodynamic therapist. I was always interested in psychology and had done years and years of inner work. I think it's really really important to be real. The exhaustion of having to be perfect, be grateful, be positive..... it's a load of sh*t. I avoid making friends with people unless they are real. We should not deny our feelings... all of them. It just depends on how we express them. x
@peggyduncanbaggenstoss5380 24 күн бұрын
This is a good video. For many years I have gotten up and say to the mirrors”God what are we going to do today?” HE always comes through with good results. As a retired nurse I have many opportunities to serve others in many ways. I also “dress to connect” with always one piece of clothing or jewelry that’s a pop and conversation starter. It brings a conversation with strangers that can become friends.
@GRR7634 26 күн бұрын
Sometimes it's that there is no one there to listen, or.... sometimes there is no one there who "wants" to listen or just to be there for someone. Patience and love is needed so much for one another.
@AyaSmith-rb2hp 26 күн бұрын
I have experienced this too!
@SherylDixon 26 күн бұрын
I don’t view it as a lack of discipline at all. I see it as FREEDOM to live life on my terms after years of sacrifices and putting the needs of others first. A varied and flexible schedule is necessary to keep feeling happy and productive.
@adesign3755 26 күн бұрын
We need to stay busy with hobbies, things we enjoy doing, and have lunch with friends or even coffee. But never give up hope, never stop living. Love to see your videos every week. ❤
@shelly7405 26 күн бұрын
oh my gosh??! you have nailed it on the head for me. This is exactly what I am going through? I just turned 60. Thank you so much.
@LittlePoet 26 күн бұрын
Oh how wonderful we can really talk about things here!
@arlenebrown2184 26 күн бұрын
Me too, Shelly. 60 late March, how'd that happen, right?!
@Alicia-pi1qw 26 күн бұрын
“When I gave up on my dreams, I gave up on myself.”. Oh those words…thank you. ❤
@debmelton6422 26 күн бұрын
That is exactly where I'm at.
@Nightowl-72 26 күн бұрын
Forgiving is easy….But forgetting the ghosts of wounds made by people who were supposed to love us… that is what I find very hard. I think I’m doing fine then something can trigger off an emotional memory and bam, I’m crying. Aging brings with it challenges you never dreamed of when young. Far beyond the challenge of physical aging is the emotional and mental changes. I love life now and have much to be grateful for, but the emotions still come in like the tide. Thank you Susan for letting us know we aren’t alone, by sharing your thoughts and feelings. ❤
@marilynmontgomery4579 26 күн бұрын
"Pity youth is wasted on the young!" I wish I had the wisdom, spirituality & open mind back then. Like forgiveness, we really do it for ourselves. Forgetting is hard. But otherwise we're renting out space in our minds. It is so much easier to let it go in exchange for more peace. Thanks for sharing.
@gracesidorowicz572 22 күн бұрын
It’s like when you age you long for the comfort of the familiar yet everything is changing so quickly and while learning new stuff is so important in aging well .. ITS EXHAUSTING! Living long is hard work . Hug yourself and love yourself.. I ask god for help everyday . And yes I thought I was the only one remembering the past . Thank you 🙏. Be well .
@deesmellie1928 26 күн бұрын
Susan, I hit 60 next week. I have a loving husband and family and friends, but I’ve found myself missing my the time my daughter was little and the fact my grandson will be driving next year. Just seems like life has flown by and I’m not sure what to do with myself. Where I fit anymore sounds crazy I know I’m blessed.
@katcapa2367 25 күн бұрын
Hi Susan, I feel like I was speaking thru your voice. You hit all areas for me. After 40 years of ups and downs in a marriage....he divorced me. He was 26 and me 32 with two children. A great Love story but........he had enough and I let him go. I am 73 and facing a new life. Discipline has left me......I find myself just staying in and creating my journals. I am a crafter in all areas. I pay for a space to sell my crafts, then I can't go. Talk to people, have them reject me and sell nothing is my fears. Not to mention What shall I wear!!!! I am not close to my two sisters....we don't even talk unless there is something wrong with Mom (93)....My Son have not seen in three years and very little communication. My daughter at 53 and her son 10 live with me. Pros and Cons. But I am so Grateful I have my grandson.......he keeps me going. Keep the wonderful videos going, I feel like we are sitting at the table talking and Desie is on my lap. Blessings and Hugs Kat
@darlahkelley9800 26 күн бұрын
❤I'm 68 Feeling Great & Still working part time my coworkers say I'm Old School 🏫 which I like to tell them 80's Rock. ❤🎉😊😅
@annawhite2572 26 күн бұрын
Again, you know my heart! I wake and think, what now? Friday, Saturday and now Sunday nothing! I did visit my senior friends to lift their spirit but it's really for me! Would I have made the time if I was fulfilled? I don't know! I spend most of my time in a week with people 15 to 25 years older! I'm happy to do that but where is my happiness. For me, I feel a lack of motivation! I guess discipline and motivation go hand and hand. I'm invisible! It's been 24 years since my husband passed and I took care of my mom til she passed 4 years ago! I have no direction, no close girlfriends, and no dreams or goals. I'm 66 without a future and I want to have more control and a purpose to get dressed! Thank you for saying what I feel. There are many of us! ❤ to all of us!
@sandischorling1055 26 күн бұрын
Ugh, I can resonate with it all! Finding someone to do something with is not easy. I have the freedom to do whatever but, what? It's not much fun doing things alone. I don't know what the answer is but each day is a do over. I get another chance. This made me feel like I'm not alone. We're in this together. But the answer is different for each of us. I pray for peace of mind for myself & anyone who is going through this. ❤ Thank you Susan & Desi. Wonderful as always.
@user-ex3mx7hk4l 26 күн бұрын
Do you have the Neighborhood App? My neighbors talk about lost dogs, abandoned properties and sometimes people just make bids for connection by talking about the weather! You can possibly download that App, put in your zip code and look around. Down the road you could ask for a walking buddy or just a coffee chat. There is likely someone else in your neighborhood who wants EXACTLY the type of connection that you do. 💕💕💕
@pauladesgroseilliers5434 26 күн бұрын
Goes by so fast. The week takes forever to come. I so enjoy you and Dezi...
@LittlePoet 26 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for being here and being so wonderful! Mush love to you and happy weekend! xo Susan & Desi
@gailtucker294 26 күн бұрын
Hi, I am beginning to understand ... I just turned 60...Still working full time...I am thankful..grateful.. but.. yes, there has to be more.. more than this....There are good days and bad days. hope there will be more good days... 🤔
@fredmeyer7163 22 күн бұрын
I didn’t read the study yet my husband of 45 years died last month. We had his memorial service yesterday. I realized that we built an incredible life together. Now I’m alone for the first time. This home that we shared has become too painful for me to live in. We had plans to retire in Europe. I’m going to do that. It’s scary. I don’t have a choice but to put one foot in front of the other.
@LOVEIDUSA 26 күн бұрын
You are so on target about "knowing the language" and many times when we want to engage in a conversation, we are met with a response about "just being grateful." It's hard to find friends at 69 who really want to exchange feelings and experiences and talk about life, relationships, the state of our country, jobs, the economy, our gardens, crafts, hobbies, or children, or whatever. I thought it was just me, but realize after listening to you it is our world today. I miss the days when my girlfriends were a key to supporting me while maneuvering through life and we could trust each other with feelings and emotions. Thank you for this video! Yup, and I look like a well rounded older woman now. Hard to accept the way clothes fit me and the reflection of the lady in the mirror.
@jillr759 26 күн бұрын
Wow, the timing of this. My estranged sister (two years) passed away two weeks ago of pancreatic cancer complications. She died all alone on her couch. We had fabulous memories and some not so good. No one in her family told me. That part was painful but also part of the problem. I have no regrets. We had a wonderful trip two years ago that was full of gut wrenching laughter. I won a huge jackpot pot (she walked away instead of celebrating) that I chose to pay both of our trip costs with. I will hold on to that weekend. No one will ever know how much fun we had.
@dawndemet3331 25 күн бұрын
I’m sorry. My relationship with my sister has been very rough to. I really have to watch things, limit contact. And I need her or other women. Just can’t seem to find it.
@mariaybarra1054 26 күн бұрын
At 70 I feel like I am able to say what I mean and mean what I say but, the struggle is real. What I appreciate most right now is the lack of stress I have regarding the things that I do. I am me, Inperfect, opinionated and I sometimes with no filter. It took me a long time to get here (and yes I got therapy) and I am grateful that I am no longer living a life full of fear of others and allowing them to see the authentic me. Thanks for the video.
@KathyDuncan9 26 күн бұрын
You're my role model!!!
@cindyfreihofer2093 26 күн бұрын
Oh my gosh, I have been saying all along for the last few years, there is one more important thing I have yet to do. I am almost 74 and it better come soon. It does give me hope that we are one idea away from a big change. I have been watching you for five years, Susan, and this video really was the most meaningful one to me.
@laubru010 26 күн бұрын
I'm excited for you!! You still have much to do and to give and to be...I'm just sure of it! ❤
@juliemoore6957 26 күн бұрын
When I turned 65, last year, I had an awakening of sorts. I know I only have so much time left on earth. After having a pity party for a few days, I decided I want to live very intentionally. I'm going to make my final years count! Loving my family, spending time with the people I love, helping out at church, being more present, really slowing down and appreciating the beauty around me. Choosing to forgive, to see the good in people, letting the past go. ❤
@user-ex3mx7hk4l 26 күн бұрын
👏👏👏
@MryCEnterprises 26 күн бұрын
You are 100% right about being grateful. I had a 10 hour craniotomy 5 weeks ago and friends came to visit and didn’t like my attitude because I was sad about losing some of my vision and motor skills. I’m doing better now and am recovering. But I really just needed some time to get through a difficult time and I wasn’t ready to be happy about it. My friends didn’t know how to let me be sad and grieve. They really did try and I understand and am “grateful” that they care. But sometimes life is hard and we don’t have to like it. Your videos brighten my weekend. Thank you. ❤
@cindyb6670 25 күн бұрын
No they do not like the "other" us.
@cherylt5818 26 күн бұрын
I am almost 58 and I come here every week to learn from you all. Thank you for helping us all prepare the best we can for the next stage of life.🙏♥
@glorialush9598 26 күн бұрын
My ex- husband and the father of my children recently passed. We were married 15 years. He remarried a friend of mine who was not a good friend but betrayed me in a very painful way. It felt strange. I did not grieve much because it felt like a death when we divorced so many years ago. He did not treat his wife very well at the end. Maybe I dodged a bullet. I have good health and grand children to love and did not have to be the brunt of his verbal abuse. My daughter calls me weekly, and we have a wonderful relationship. I am so fortunate living life as a single but could use some work in the discipline department. 🙄
@user-gj6xf3xl4u 11 күн бұрын
Susan your videos are like therapy for me. Something that bothers me is the rude comments I see from trolls here & on other Creators KZfaq channels. There is one lady I follow who is in her ‘70’s & I recognize that she has body dysmorphia because she always obsessing about any little line or wrinkle & has put herself thru a facelift which she didn’t need! There is no compassion for her from these trolls. All they do is bash her. Body dysmorphia is real & it’s torture for the person who has it.
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