I tell the truth. Nobody believes me. I show fake reactions. They encourage me.

who needs their 2A human right to personal protection and self-defense when they're already magic Kung Fu grand masters

Thank you 🙏🏻

i watch your footless jo channel, and i love it sm, and now that something like this has happened to my friend and i was searching up abt it, this video popped up but i was not expecting it to be u, this was so helpful. thank you so much.

I have trauma from sexual assault by my brother and he touched me inappropriately and snuck around my parents and continued to inappropriately touch me and that happened to me when I was 12 and I’ve only just figured out what he was doing and im now 18 and I’m finding it hard to get my sex drive back as I have a partner that I’m in a relationship with and I have been for 4 years now and we’ve had intimacy and that but I’ve only just started to have troubles with my sex life and it’s traumatic and I don’t know how to get over it so I can continue my happy relationship with my partner without including my partner as he knows about my past problems but doesn’t understand the healing process I never told anyone about it not even my parents I guess I’m just finding it hard to open up to my parents about it without my brother finding out and accusing me of lying

Idk if you're gonna see this, 5 years later, but I'm going in for surgery next week after 8 years of repeated injury and physical therapy, this video really helped me figure out how I'm feeling and to find positives in this process. Thank you❤

Good bid. You are correct... To get good at anything you just have to practice it until it becomes motor memory. Specific techniques rarely work under duress (due to lack of fine motor skills with an adrenaline dump) - Principal based learning is far better and easier to access under real combat conditions. The psychological (and awareness training) aspects MUST be addressed. If you're not doing those you might as well be attending an aerobics class.

I wish I'd thought to look up videos on this whole subject years ago. I've been pushing away for years the realisation that a lot of what happened to me in my old relationship was actually SA. Then two weeks ago I learned there were allegations against one of my favourite authors, and the context and details of those stories made me really look at what had happened to me head-on and realise that a lot of the sex I'd had back then hadn't involved meaningful or enthusiastic consent. I think as a disabled person I had this strong sense that I had to "make up for" my disabilities and that I should be grateful my ex wanted me at all, which I can now see was really toxic and ableist, but this is the stuff we internalise from the society around us - and he leaned into it at times in what in hindsight strike me as very cynical ways. Adding to the complexity of the situation is that since the relationship ended I've finally been letting myself think about my bi identity. So while the good news is that I'm not limited to dating men in the future (and sure, not all men are abusive, and not all abusers are men, but there's a big unequal power dynamic there which I'm not sure I want to invite into my life again), it's kind of a big deal to contemplate starting to date again in the queer/sapphic community, and how I will be perceived and what I have to offer, as someone who has this laundry list of medical and sexual traumas that are maybe not fixable. I just wish I'd understood these issues when I was much younger, because it's hard as hell to have to figure out in your 40s.

Hi Jo, I really enjoyed your video and it helped me yo understand what I need to do to help my partner with CPTSD. We are just starting out. I see his good heart and kind mind. But I feel his inner pains. Your video helped to understand where I need to stand and what I need to show him so he feels safe, worthy, and loved around me. Thank you. Btw his name is Bryan, too.

Thank you for voicing what I essentially experience on a daily basis. I'm also neurodivergent (AuDHD) on top of the CPTSD, and I feel like a broken alien who doesn't deserve to be truly loved for who she is, even though most of that feeling results from harm that was done to me by other people, at a young age.

The scene is horrendous and I can't believe people call it a ~controversy~ instead of what it was - well calculated r3pe. Overall, the show's treatment of Simon was very *very* hard for me to watch as a child free (CF) person and who's been sexually abused and experienced reproductive pressure. The portrayal of his choice not to have children due to trauma is a tired and really damaging CF cliché.

At first ,... seeing you all happy, laughing.. i thought you didn't have depression... you were just saying the word... but, after you started talking about depression, You sounded just like me, and what i too am suffering from.😢😢

I dont know how to tell him, he loves me so much and I know it will hurt to hear but I need him to know why I act the way I do

I have lots. Some when I’m awake. Some come true.

I'm offer myseld as living dummy

I was an abusive relationship with my ex fiancé, and it was really bad almost lost my life to find out. He gave me a lifelong sentence afterwards. I didn’t date for a few years after it happened and I decided to talking to somebody a guy that I knew I thought was a good friend and found out they were good and they threw everything that I told him that happened in my face. for some reason, those narcissist and psychopaths are always lurking. My question is how do I disclose trauma that’s related to a permanent STD due to a Sa

I know you are very busy, I was wondering if you would be able to talk about a recent separation. I said some things about her Adult kids that aren't so adult... Which brought back some trauma. After 4 months Now, she needs space to work on herself. Will I be able to get her back.

I've always had epic dreaming syndrome where I just have really long vivid dreams that make me very tired. Mine started after about a month into a "therapeutic" boarding school. Because I've always had vivid dreams ive always been good at calming myself down after nightmare-like dreams. Thankfully I did find a medication that helped after I woke up but didn't stop them.

Can be a symptom of spiritual ascension as well. I have been dealing with nightmares every single night for past 3years. I feel unrestesd and drained even if I sleep. The moment I close my eyes i start seeing dreams and it continues till i wake up. Surrendering and not fighting with the situation do help.

I feel like it's a weakness.

Thank you for making this video. I’m not now in a relationship with someone who was traumatized, but I was at the height of the pandemic, which is when she had recently started pretty intense trauma therapy. We lived in a small apartment during a pandemic and she needed space and they just wasn’t any. At any rate, the hardest part for me was having abuse projected on me. She would apologize, and she would explain and we would talk, and I understood everything that she’s been going through, but it is really painful to have someone you love deeply look at you, even briefly, as the one that did them all that harm. Years later, I still haven’t recovered from that.

She has gone as far as saying she gave concent. And i know she is lying. She loves me and i love her . But she wont tell anyone. She told me. But now blames me about everything . She wont talk to anyone after agreeing she would. She is my dream girl sense 1995.

I myself am a TBI survivor and have my own issues. I cant watch my girl just forget about her recent happening.

My girl went to a party and was given way to much alcohol, and raped. She will not report it because of judgement opinions and loosing her job over it. Two coworkers invited her, she is a teacher. She wants to forget about it. But my mental status is abused she has blamed me for everything. She removed me from her life to forget she loves me all I want is to hold my baby girl. Sadomasochistic traits. I gave her my word five years ago stemming from a conversation on her personality disorder. My baby was raped I am totally supportive of her. But if she won't tell her school I want to . This has destroyed our relationship. All I know to do is the right thing and what she is doing by forgetting it is wrong. Help I can't loose my baby girl.

I never want to date ever again

I saw that scene coming and was still baffled when it happened. And I was amazed that there was no discussion whatsoever of how what Daphne did was wrong. And I found this video because I was looking for ANYONE who would actually address what happened, so thank you!!

i love these videos but sucks you ended up divorced :/

Here's the only piece of self defence advice for women that actually works: carry a gun. Obviously obey the law check what is legal in your jurisdiction.

It is a scene that was really hard to watch and I watch horror, i get that there are scenes that are difficult like that, but i also expect it to be adressed properly. In the scenes after I really expected her to feel guilty and apologize on her knees to him, but somehow it was completely brushed off. There had to be some resolution bc afterwards every time they had sex it felt so terrible to imagine what must go through his head while doing it. Something like that changes everything, sex does not come naturally anymore, you either disossiate or break down. Especially, when it just happened. Long story short, it ruined the entire couple for me.

My landlord has her staff walking into my apartment without knocking when they're not even supposed to be there yet, and she has the nerve to tell me that I'm "over reacting" when it triggers my PTSD, she even brought guns to the property to threaten me to shut up about the need for repairs, the cops and housing authority do nothing at all to stop the abuse, in fact, they continue to abuse me in the new place they've put me, and even the lawyers i reached out to for help sent cops over to threaten me further. I know this is supposed to be about "work", but I'm disabled, and the option of euthanasia need be provided to those of us that can't be conditioned to glorify this militarizing of people to abuse us in our homes, and in the crisis centers, the staff are having us raped and tortured, no way of stopping them, abuse on going for decades.

This definitely is something I’m moving through rn. And explaining it to my husband who is confused on why my anxiety is so bad when life is final calming down.

I once saw someone online say that Simon was “r*ping Daphne” because he wasn’t informing Daphne that he could have kids but was choosing not to. Like…no. That’s not at all the same

It is uncommon to dive into such deep topics early, but that doesn’t make it wrong. More frequently than not, the other person will see it as a red flag or that that person is not healed. It’s a risk that we cannot help but take due to events we could not control. However, I believe that sometimes when shared with the right person, who understands and has been there and healed from something similar, that risk that we are ashamed of being forced to take, pays off. It is harder to find love, discouraging to be misunderstood, and more rare to find someone with the emotional depth/openness to see that vulnerability is not the same as someone still clinging to baggage, but it will happen. I confidently know that discussing heavy topics early on is just as alright as it is unintentional, as long as both people have healed from their personal trauma or are to the point that they refuse to stop making progress on their journey of healing. Not everyone who we share our story with will get it, and thank God for that. Because why would anyone want to be with someone who takes a healthy and healed person being confident enough to be open, honest, and vulnerable as them being weak, broken, and a risk? I put in the fucking work and if you did as well, don’t ever let your past stop you from the future that you deserve.

This is why Kanthony will be my favourite ship. Both of them are way too caring to do shit like this

my wife just went through trauma recently and im really struggling through what to do

THANK YOU for this video and explaining this. I actually have 20 years of experience in this type of abuse. I just found an amazing man who is so understanding, but does not understand that is it not him I am rejecting when, as you used as an example, I freak out on his random hug or kiss. This video I hope wll help him understand where I am coming from more. I need him to understand, but I love him and he is a positive aspect to my life. But I do not want to hurt him from his igoance on this topic because I can not control my triggers right now.

Did you have people in your life that were jealous of your happiness?

I took a nap and had a terrifying nightmare. I ran into my daughter in the kitchen and told her about it. I just said "wow I had a scary dream." When I told her my dream she said " Mom, maybe you should talk to someone, its not normal to have as many nightmares as you do." I was surprised. I never thought of it as abnormal. I was raised in an abusive home and had many other traumatic events in my life. When she said that it dawned on me, I rarely if ever have good dreams.

Thanks for sharing. I am not in a relationship right now and I am not interested most of the time. I am more focused on my healing and recovery.

What you call ‘Purity culture’ has some fairly obvious evolutionary origins. Read The Selfish Gene (there are many other good books on the topic available, but this is perhaps the easiest to digest). I’m sorry to tell you, but it hasn’t been socialised into people, it is intrinsic to the human condition.

do i niss dating so so much but i cant date others cause i have herbs one of my buddy i play foott ball with got my spit ub rge eye and he got it too so over 4 years nothing \

I don't want to live much longer... I feel like the worst person in the world... I don't deserve oxygen... I'm a man...

I dated someone who had gone through trauma. I, myself, have experienced a handful of traumatic, life-changing situations. I feel more secure in those areas now, having worked through them and becoming better for it. However, she was still reliving her trauma. You make very valid points. I wasn't addressing them well. Throughout our time together, I felt like I was constantly tending to her anxiety and unhappiness. No matter what I did or said, it felt like nothing could help her-it was all on her. I tried to compromise and discuss things with her, but whenever I brought something up, she would have a traumatic flashback and an emotional response. I expressed that I wanted to work with her and hoped she would reciprocate. Unfortunately, nothing could be discussed, and that was it. I was then attacked by her for even bringing it up. I just wished she had said anything else but that. I don't feel great about my wording, but my good intentions were there, and I tried to verbalize them.

I survived being sexually abused and exploited by a landlord. I will never forgive him and I didn’t need it for healing. I don’t use the word forgiveness lightly. I have to accept someone’s actions enough to want positive things for them and be civil and polite if we were to ru into each other. I would never want that with this man. It has taken 8 years for me to feel nothing at all when he enters my mind and I am more than good with that. I have my life back to a degree I didn’t think was possible. I will always be healing but I am good where I am now. He has no power over me and I don’t need to waste positive energy, or negative energy that is no longer necessary for healing, on him. He can stay a stranger to me.

Can we stop comparing suffering, please?

Title says trauma, not a specific trauma, kind of assuming SA is only traumatising thing but is far from the worst. Also talking like this is assumed.

Really helpful, thank you for this 🙏

I love your positivity great videos :) Gained a sub

I have them every night

I have them every night