I've been a devoted worker for over 25 years. We got a new owner, who gave the #1 brown nose the boss job and she's so in love with herself.. Her husband is also my supervisor, who is also in love with himself. I try and help, but get yelled at for it. They completely omitted me from their Facebook page and celebrated everyone else and how many years they've been here. So it's like I'm just here because I have the worse hours ever. Every weekend, Friday through Monday morning, which makes up about 40 hours. Nobody likes working these hours and after so long, I'm burnt out. I have a coworker who is LOVED by the boss. He doesn't do anything, but sit. He's been here 5 years and there's a big write up about him. I'm getting too old and my health isn't that good, so I may be stuck in this hellish environment.

Very nicely done. Thanks

i realized that due to my girlfriend leaving me and my mom giving me tough love, i really am a manipulator. i have become the type of woman that the men in my mother's life were. i do not want to choose this. i want to fix everything that i've done, but my damage was irreparable. i believe that i can change, but i just hope that everyone i hurt is able to find success despite what i've done. they had to leave my life because i was toxic. i am toxic, and your videos are really gonna help me stop choosing toxicity.

Office narcissist

I work at a homeless shelter and I have now for four years, but I’m gonna start off by saying there was a point in my life when I was going through a divorce psych every single day but now 10 years later, I may cry once every four months at work. I had a breakdown today and yes, I’m embarrassed, but you know what I would rather still have emotions and work in the kind of environment that I do with overdoses, domestic violence, etc., etc., and a cold checked out person

I use those words “I’m sorry you felt that way” not as a way to gaslight but because I know I wasn’t in the wrong for my point of view I know how to apologize but as someone with adhd and BPD I do hate confrontation but I tend to feel deep rooted anger and I do say it that way but because I know I’m not wrong for my ideology

Do you include the "script" in your resignation letter?

You heading right on the nail about a person whos gaslighting.

this is phenomenal

Super instructive. I know you probably hear this often. How do I deal with a gaslighting wife. In public with or without me she shines. Appears to be helpful. In private the exact opposite. Even scary.

amen!

HR receives their paycheck from the employer not the employee. They are not there to protect you. They are there to protect the company from a law suit. So, you can document all you want. But unless you have the means to seek legal counsel, your documentation does nothing.

Is an acusation of selfish, over reacting, or oweing ever a reasonable concern?

I really need some advice, is there anyway i can speak with you? I can disclose any info here unfortunately.

As someone with ASD I have come to learn that my innate inability to not understand, recognise or deal with emotions can lead to me gaslighting people I care about. And I think it's because of something you said here - I don't know how to deal with the emotions of being wrong, so I try to subconsciously manipulate the situation into one where I am not wrong, or at least I believe I am not wrong. It's a hard habit to break when the emotions causing this can't be recognised.

I can't handle a boss that speaks "sternly". It reminds me of my stepmom scolding me as a child. Especially when they look like an ogre. Bad breath, bad teeth and moles on their face. That stuff follows me home.

Wife comes home early from work everyday because she’s dizzy, her tummy hurts, you name it-she has it. She told me she was home today because she’s dizzy. I asked why didn’t she tell me and she said because she didn’t want me to get mad or whatever. I said: “Don’t worry, I’m used to it by now. Just tell me what I should bring home after I’m done with working.” She got mad. 🤦🏾‍♂️. Whatever…I couldn’t care less.

I worked for a well-known paper company that seemed to have an abnorally large number of toxic employees. The sales trainer asked me to buy film for his company camera - then kept the film AND the receipt which was in effect stealing from me. He tried other ways to steal from me after that, but I was wise to his ways. He also had an affair with one of his trainees, which ended her marriage. My sales manager protected the underperforming male employees in my work group and looked for ways to harrass his top performing female employees. His boss was no different. My hypothesis is that there were toxic people in top management at the company who condoned bad behavior down through the ranks. I was thrilled to give my notice when I received a fabulous job offer from a highly respected company in the pharmaceutical industry. The look look on my bosses face when I resigned was truly priceless. 😂

Make no mistake, HR is NOT an employee's friend. When my toxic boss at a large pharmaceutical company misquoted the vacation policy (from 4 weeks down to 2 weeks), I contacted the HR department for backup. Even though I was right, the first thing HR did was to call my boss to tell him that I called them.

I know I am a manipulative person because my wife told me honestly. I didnt realise I did it. She wants to break up because my stupid actions and I understand. I hate myself because it hurt her so much. I'm a awful person and running out of options I can survive. I would rather die.

Bronwyn's got a great personality. Some KZfaqrs are boring, but Bronwyn isn't.

I realized a little while ago that I have many toxic habits such as gaslighting and I've been trying to identify these behaviors. This video helped me further understand why I do what I do and how to change it. I appreciate people like you who genuinely want to help others work on themselves and heal. This is the first video I've seen from your channel and I will definitely return here again. Thank you so much <3

I have a new employee who can't take constructive criticism and has outbursts of crying. She has a vendetta of being in control and things have go her way or she can't work. I don't know what to do with her, it's a behavior problem. She also undermines my authority and is rude to staff.

So interesting that this disingenuous, passive aggressive person is claiming to be an expert in resolving tension “non-violently”, words, even if masked by socially appropriate mores can be incredibly violent, as this video demonstrates perfectly

I just lost the women who I’d murder for, because of my manipulation and other bad tendencies. I’m glad you made this video as far back as you did, and it did at least clear up where my manifestation of manipulation came from

I just need you to know you have definitely opened my eyes to the subject of Gaslighting. You’re so easy to listen to and explain so well even a child can understand. Thank you and you have a new Subbie ❤️❤️❤️

The part you mentioned about getting into a web of narcissistic gang who prepares to protect themselves is very real. You can an innocent employee who just wants to make money to support your family and pay the bills, suddenly you find yourself sucked in that kind of narcissistic culture and you can get out from there. If you could make more videos of how to survive in that environment, it would be helpful because you are right, they are well supported and they are not going to leave.

my wife and i almost killed ourselves over gas lighters just to get away from them

HR is the department that is gaslighting me and blaming me for work they haven't done. I have over 2 years of documentation and email correspondence which I have shared with them. I am at the stage of getting my union involved.

“Im sorry you feel that way.” Always used by my mom and the rest has if in it all the time. Just realizing it now 😕

Would, "I apologize, I didn't mean to make you feel that way" be in this same camp?

Narc people play with your mind & very toxic sick

This can be tricky when you're a federal employee transferring to another. The gaining agency must ask for request for release date. The covert narc can always reach out to the gaining boss and spread doubt about you.

I’m an intern I cried my first week and just cried during my 4th week. I hope that im ok. I don’t want to blow this

Thenmost important issue for me itself is im unabe to time out... Even for my weekends or even my evenings... Calling timeout or holiday is unthinkable ....

Is there a second part to this video

HR is the boss's husband- can't 'pull in hr'

Thanks! You are very sexy too

I believe I am a manipulator. I am desperate to change, I don’t want to control others at all I am a horrible horrible fucking person. Thank you for this video and assisting myself and others into understanding and taking steps towards being better people. Edit: I’m honestly unsure to figure out why I manipulate people because I had no idea that I did it. It’s always been subconscious but looking back it’s been there for a long time I think. I don’t think that people should have to tell/give me what I want because I’m special or something, I believe I am just afraid of rejection. I am scared of myself and using others, I desperately need to visit a therapist. Thank you for everything

thank you so much! i am currently at a crossroads in my relationship where my girlfriend is basically like "if you can't change your way of being a manipulator then i will leave" so I went exploring for a video to guide me to getting rid of this habit and this helped so much. I'm unsure whether my girlfriend will leave or not but I'm glad I know that I can apply these tips and grow as a person for myself.

What is Gaslighting ? 1) 0:44.... When someone tries to talk you out of your version of reality. 2) 7:27.... Gaslighting is a bad habit that born out of other bad habits. 1:56 Why & How.. Why do we Gaslight ?....2:21 1) 2:30... 3:02... We tend to manipulate, instead of having touch conversation with someone we tend to manipulate their version of reality so they behave in a way we want them to. 3:30... We don't want to feel the rejection that comes with using our power out in the open. 2) 3:55... 3) 5:32... (With Example Story) How to Stop Gaslighting?..... 7:03 1) 7:10 2) 7:15 3) 7:20

I don't entirely agree with Brownwyn on this. I can see how this approach of mutual validation can work in certain scenarios, but when gaslighting parents are transphobic, homophobic or otherwise dehumanising against their children, as a matter of principle-of moral integrity-NO ONE should validate their feelings. Discrimination is morally reprehensible, period. If your parent-or anyone in the world, for that matter-tells you that your very identity is pathological, YOU DO NOT NEED TO VALIDATE YOUR HUMILIATION. THIS IS NOT A COMPLEX ISSUE. If your parents suffer because you are not straight or cisgender, THAT's 100% THEIR PROBLEM, NOT YOURS. DISCRIMINATION DOES NOT DESERVE VALIDATION. And it is a great calamity of our times that something so obvious would need to be highlighted in public discourse, but such is the danger and reach of liberal false equivalence.

Need to hear this right now!

I complained to dad(narcissist/gaslighter), he said "tough shit" ow! I don't bother with him now!

How about you expose them

I went to my manager today, I needed to go on a medical check tomorrow. She used to be ok with it, but now she went to the other manager's office to give him notice, like I was daring, this is how it felt. Everyone else could do it, but they make a big deal for me. So he said something not offensive, like "for real" but his tone of voice was offensive, passive aggressive, like the children at school who dislike a teacher and make remarks. Well I said, why would you use that tone, and he told me it was not what I said, but I know it was. I should have stopped at that time, because what we said was unproductive, it was them trying to tell me that their dislike of my ways has anything to do with my capability and it doesn't. I am also happy or was happy at this place, and I think I could have given support to some people and learn from each other, but they wanted to treat me badly.

Please do make a video of would love to see that now I know what to look for in a client that is that way hopefully we continue on this great path of not getting those types of clients, but it’s always nice to know how to deal with difficult client

No thankfully, really good clients but it never hurts to hear other opinions about other things

You pretty much know something is unfair when the general circumstances are unfair. And what I mean by that is when you’re dealing with something of a ‘one-way street.’ So you get some criticism and you respond to it for clarification and then you get no reply. It’s a power-trip manipulation. You got your answer right there.

This is bs. You’re talking about a generation that was taught by “therapists” that this is the proper way to apologize to someone. Now you’re telling us we have to walk on egg shells around someone for fear of “saying it wrong?” This is exactly how those so called “woke” individuals destroy relationships with people of different generations and cultures. It’s just wrong. If someone can’t accept a heartfelt apology then they are the ones with the issue. Where do we draw the line??