Thank you you're so on point.I need to be less defensive,however justified I feel in the moment, I nearly always regret it after I've calmed down.

This is so spot on. I thought of this about a year ago when dealing with a toxic person, except I referred to it as "Feel - Think - React". Most people feel, then react. The trick to appropriate responses is to give yourself space to think before reacting. I struggled with how to do that and here it is, practical tips on how to achieve that. Thanks Bronwyn!

Thanks! I joined a big family when I met my partner 25 yrs ago. There are masses of friends that are attached to the family. I feel like I’ve been defending myself to show I’m worthy all that time. I heard a saying by Joyce Mayer “ you can’t be pitiful and powerful at the same time”. I try to remember this but still find myself ruminating over how these people seem to view me. It’s tiring and I wonder where they even get there ideas from sometimes. I never ask them to explain their lives to me! (Falling into victim mode again😂). Thanks for your advice. I have plenty of people to practice this on 😂🤣 and I most certainly will!, much love n respect to you for making your useful videos 😁✌️🙌✌️✨

I wish I could like this video more than once! Great advice! I do find that I get most defensive when I am being gaslit - so I’m pretty confident that I found the right channel!!! 😂 Thank you 🙏

What wonderful advice, thank you!

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