Thank you!

Good on your for educating yourself on the subject and making an informed decision! Personally, I think that women SHOULD be dating for marriage and looking for a man who is secure in his professional career, maybe he's not where he wants to be but he's heading in that direction because the economic burden shouldn't fall on a woman. Statistically most women end up wanting to be SAHM so we should factor that in when dating a man to make sure he can be a provider so that we can make the best decisions for our family.

Congratulations on baby :) I understand it’s very difficult situation.

Aw I’m sorry to hear that! It can be harder on some children than others.

Where in Easter Europe are you from? I’m always curious to learn from other countries. Has this affected your decision about living here? I think the balance requires ongoing adjustments because it completely depends on the age of the children, as they get older more balance is possible without compromising the needs of the child.

I'm so glad!

I'm not too familiar with it yet, but I was introduced to that by Erica Komissar so I'm sure she's got plenty of information on it.

Aw, makes me tear up just hearing that! Babies need their mamas ESPECIALLY when under distress, we literally physiologically regulate their biochemistry... it's incredible!!!!

Thank you for sharing your story, I can't imagine how difficult to be at that young vulnerable age in an orphanage. You are right in that you kNOW what the consequences are first hand, most people can only talk of them. Most people don't even believe in the damages of absent parents because they're so indoctrinated by our hustle culture. I think you would have a significant impact if you were open to sharing your story online and educating young women on this subject.

Good for you girl! I like to think that we all do the best we can with the information we have and we certainly have a lot more information now than we did 12 years ago. The jabs are just a very controversial topic and although I’m super passionate about health, I don’t want to become a politicized influencer I just don’t want to get into the drama of all of that. But I can tell you that in very counter-culture on most topics. I’ve tried to take an objective approach to everything and I do my own research and unfortunately more times than not I find that what’s prescribed is not what’s most conducive to my health goals. I highly recommend you read the “Vaccine Book” I used it as a great resource when it came to educating myself on the childhood vaccine schedule. And in terms of food, when I’m in Canada I only buy organic fruits and veggies and if I can’t find or afford organic then I don’t buy any at all :/ I get my meats from a local farm that don’t use hormones and are grass fed.

Thank you for your thoughtful comment! I find psychology very interesting and I’m sure that child psychology would be no exception. I knew that making this video might upset some mothers but frankly I don’t care. I think that we need to know what the ideals are. Right now we are too scared to talk about the ideals for our children at risk of offending some people. So having the conversation is the first step and then understanding that we may fall short of meeting those ideals but that’s ok! Let’s figure out what’s the next best option. I would defer the single parents to Erica Komisar who makes some excellent and realistic suggestions to alternatives to daycare. And if that’s truly the only option then let’s talk about how we can really fortify that child’s relationship to the parent during the time they have with them so that when they do go off to daycare it doesn’t hurt the attachment relationship. I live in Panama and daycare doesn’t even exist there because when people are poor they stay home with their kids when they are young and when they get older and go to school they can have a two income household. I’ve seen people downsize and lower their lifestyle expenses do they can accommodate a one income lifestyle for the few short years that their kids are young. I think it comes down to what we value most and I feel that our culture discussed children like they are an inconvenience instead of a priority.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that! At only 3 he is only just begging to be able to emotionally regulate himself so I hypothesize that within the next year you might see some changes in his independence. I think all your “work” on securing his attachment will payoff.

Oh that’s interested it! Thanks for correcting me. In holland are midwives very common for pregnant woman?

The best authors on this subject are Stan Tatkin, Gabor Mate, Erica Komisar and Amir Levine

Absolutely! And we need to talk about it. Instead of normalizing the raising of children by institutions, we should be talking about how can we make it happen so that the parents can be home with their kids if they want to.

Thanks for sharing! I think that in many European countries they really do prioritize their people over power and economics and it shows in their policies. I even buy Lucas' formula from Europe because they have much higher standards for health. It's a shame that some countries try to follow suit of the American ways when it's imploding the country from the inside out.

Absolutely! But it has to be age appropriate. You aren't to leave a baby alone for any amount of time. They can still do short bursts of independence play without you being involved and that would be a great way to allow them to explore their independence. As they get older they should definitely be encourage to spend time alone, reading is a great way to foster that.

Thanks!

You're not alone! I think it's good to be aware of this stuff but to not let it be a reason why you can't overcome your struggles.

Great to hear!

Thank you!

I have been meaning to do a Vancouver vlog but I just never got around to it :(