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This is so simple but explains why my marriage has improved over the past year and neither of us could figure out what changed....you just explained to me that it was me. I changed and without knowing it, I began to believe once again that my wife was on my side....and I really appreciate that about her.

Excellent! This is important stuff. I call it being a gentleman to my wife. It may seem outdated today but i think it makes sense. Everybody likes to feel special and appreciated and our spouses should be the first to know how special and appreciated they are to us.

Its very interesting when people talk about how hard it was at first. My marriage was SO EASY at first and for 20 years afterwards because we were best friends. THEN it got really hard. I keep thinking about why this is...health issues certainly played a role in this...

Thank you for being so open and vulnerable to us while teaching us this. I'm going through a really really tough time too.

Dealing with stress before we get married because of personal circumstances. There's only one sided communication right now. I don't want to lose the relationship. Just praying he comes back. I hope these videos help.

In dating, it’s not that you don’t see the flaws, it’s that you ignore them. While dating, you don’t feel like you may control the other person. After the cake, you feel like you have been granted permission to exercise control over the other person. You start giving weight to flaws because now you feel like you have the option to control and change those flaws. You don’t start to fix a “fixer upper” house before you buy it. Once you buy the house, once you “marry” it so to speak, you purchase the right to fix and control it. A house doesn’t mind being fixed. A person does.

I’ll do that! Writing ✍️ is a good idea too! Even the Bible says we should appreciate each other and see the good, lift each other up. I’ve never seen a channel and website about marriage so great like this one! It explains everything! I’m praying and working on my pies to save my marriage 😫 it’s not easy, but I’m being the stronger I’ve ever been while going they this!

I got it so backwards. Before my husband left, we would schedule a monthly “check in”. It was supposed to be a time when we would see how we were doing in our “bad” areas. I now see that we should’ve added time to intentionally share what was going well. 😔

I'm so grateful for you Kimberly,my wife and I were accepted for the workshop scholarship,your videos have helped me get through this easier,its been extremely hard for me,and I'm sure her as well,26yrs together,20yrs married Thank you for Chelsea from Marriage Helper,she answers my calls,talks to me when I need advice and help getting through,she helped me get the scholarship.. thank you for everything

I do appreciate him taking care of daughter with school

I feel like you are a best friend I have never met💞 This is profound knowledge, thank you so much for sharing.💕🇿🇲

A major barrier I’m facing is a spouse who won’t let go of things that have happened in the past. It’s like he’s bracing himself. Won’t let me change to the better version of me I’m working on.

Thank you Kimberly for explaining how a simple step can make our marriage beautiful with so much clarity. We are really in need of this.

Me and husband have retrospective twice a week. It really helps in improving the relationship👍

I wish my wife could listen or watch this clip- it can open her negative mind to the positive possibilities in our marriage.

We have zero control over other people or what the universe throws at us. The only thing we have control over is how We react to others that's it! we can not control anything outside of ourselves. If your happiness depends on others you will forever be searching for it. Happiness Always comes from within just like self love.

This is uncanny. I'm going through a separation right now and my husband is a flight medic in the Army who spent a year in Korea (unaccompanied). I don't know how I ended up on this channel, but it is definitely a strange coincidence.

It’s like she knows my exact situation and so many of the thoughts I’ve had myself!

Kimberly❤ she gets it . Wish i had found her sooner but good to just figure out what was happening and the struggles . May be too late for me now but Love your content Kim 💓

I appreciate the short videos with simple advice. It is so easy when things are not going well, to focus on the opposite thing or be overwelmed. My wife of almost 20 years, recently told me that she has been unhappy for a very long time and finally had the courage to say she was pretty much done. After a time of being overwelmed and searching for answers, I discovered your channel and have been very encouraged taking in your knowledge about marriage relationships. Our eleventh hour therapist affirmed something similar which I pray leads to hope for her, where currently, there is very little if any.

Great info. I’m going to start writing in my notes all the things I appreciate and pull them out at the right time 😉

My wife n I are separated we have 2 kids. She dont love me no more because I was to busy and was blinded by my job I forgot about my family. I never did it to hurt any 1 I did to make sure my family had everything. Now I'm trying to show her im changing. She's moving out to a 1 room apartment. She gonna have alot of bills n the kids to deal with. Ima respect her space n let her see that im changing and being for my kids. I hope she knows that ppl make mistakes we learn. So now I'm missing my wife April 7 is when she moving out. Ima do the no contact rule only focus on my kids. Don't help when ur wifes friends give her bad negative advice

Just came across this. Going to wash windows with my husband. Please pray that God helps me to say words of appreciation…and MEAN it!

Just going thru a divorce right now. And i dont know how to let her go. I wish i knew this channel before

This should be done before marriage. Maybe that’s something along the lines of emotional maturity and knowing thyself

Ive been doing this here and there lately. But hearing you say it makes me feel more resolute. Im in allot of pain emotionally right now, but I m going to keep trying.

Thank you!! I will start to do this today. I don't expect any positive feedback from my wife for a while. I would love to have an immediate turnaround. I appreciate the advise and guidance. Have a great day!!

Thank you so much, I appreciate this video. I struggle to save my marriage this week and I was focusing on the wrong things. To I learn to be positive and be appreciative.

Yes, I really really want my wife back. With all my heart I love that woman. I swear to God I do. I will have to down load the app to talk with that doctor. Thank you sooo much. I am Grateful. God bless

Love it! So true and powerful!!!👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

If A girl asks me why when I tell her i don't ever want to marry anyone or cohabitate, I'll straight up tell her because I love her and that sanity is a precious thing to me!!!

Kimberly, an amazing and simple tool to help in my marriage than I will do. Also the PIES concept is great. Just signed up for the Marriage Helper course. These videos and materials presented in the manner that they are is really a godsend, thank you. 🙏🙏🙏

Thank you for sharing and helping

A simple and sincere "thank you" may be just enough to get the appreciation ball rolling, if you're stuck for a way to get started.

Thank you for doing what you're doing.

even if a person will concentrate on self-change, it is important to only try to change the things that matter to the other person. A young wife sat down and wrote out 12 things she felt she should work on to be a better wife. She then asked her husband to sit down and write out six things he thought she should change. If she would have gone with her list, there were only two things that he would have noticed, and she would have flustered herself. And he added something she didn't think about. It's all about the union, not either individual.

Thank you for helping and sharing!

The lightbulb example is like one of Oprah’s “lightbulb moments” for me. Thank you!

I have so much to say to you, but let me sum it up by-God bless you for giving hope.

You are so right. I told my wife the exact same thing. I told her throughout our marriage, the good outweighs the bad. But she is gung ho focused on the bad that the good doesn't exist to her

Thank you and this is really good advice. I so agree and guess what? I appreciate you and your advice. ❤

Our marriage was hard because right after we got married my husband seemed to change into a terrible person who was completely against me and then the pandemic hit.

Thank you. I think everyday is too much. It becomes watered down

This is a great suggestion and I will start tomorrow.

Thank u so much u make good points.. my gf and I r on a very bad path amd im doing this amd it's working.

Brilliant well said we all have flaws focus on the positives

i don't think id want to hear it everyday. just maybe once and a great while. Actions speak louder than words to me. the way you treat me is how I see you appreciate me. but in my marriage I could see where my wife would love to hear this very often.

Great video. Wish I had seen this years ago. I think if I had known all this before and especially before “adultery” it might of help in saving our marriage. Thank you for trying to help everyone out there. 🙏🏼

Your story is real in my life. I’m in army aviation it’s rough

Yes this is so true. Watching this video made me realize that and I feel it’s possibly too late and I didn’t realize it. I pray it is not too late. Great video.

Thank you ,it was such a coincidence of finding your channel at the time I needed it most😊

This is good advice, and I image it works best when both partners agree to do it. I'm wondering how effective it is when only one person does it. But I guess it's worth a shot anyway.

Amen God bless you and your family and business.

Gonna start to do this one lil thing I love it ty😁

This is like it was made for my personal situation

I'm not sure if there are five things my wife would appreciate about me right now.

The light bulb story is a great reference to keep in mind when you find new obstacles on marriage and in life in general. Thank you!

When we got married it seemed the logical thing to do. We were both in the service and were paid more if we were married and living off base. The marriage should have been about love of best friends not out of conveyance and money. I was hoping that it may evolve into love but it has been a very difficult marriage. We currently don’t speak much and no intimacy. Both of us have pretty much stopped trying. Any ideas?

I have been following you for about two years now and I think in a free society like ours what I'd seen all this time is pretty good stuff. I'd like to follow up on this. I and my e-strange wife live in Melbourne, Australia. We are now learning to be friends now. Where should I look to, to make the best of what we could attain?

My husband told me this morning that if I don’t have a relationship with his daughter that he just found out he had that we won’t stay married! How bout that!

I like this advice and am going to try and use it. My partner and I have been together 9years her and I are going through a really hard time at the moment and I'm trying to take positive steps to prove that I can change and hope she sees and moves with me. There are days when I feel like all hope is lost. Thankyou for this advice

I appreciate ____________________ (fill in the blank with a positive, truthful! comment)

Lots of Stress in ours as well… we tried for 20 years and it was hard. *your story sounds like ours- our first son died in our first year of marriage. **this was a great chat, I greatly enjoyed this one. I mean it’s too late for my ex and I…. But it’s great.

My wife noticed a night and day difference when I left the military It really does weigh on you

Very wise advice.

What to do about a functional alcoholic spouse who I recently learned began this as a 12 year old and continued this without acknowledgment..... and is in denial even after peers question this behavior.....all continuing for many, many many many decades? What about a spouse who was not truly aware of this or was in denial for decades? Habits and behavior around alcohol is so very different than without. Apparently attention seeking behavior has gone on for decades.... nothing more than sexual bar bantering, but It still feels like boundaries have been crossed. I seldom confront, seldom complain. I never fight with anyone and hate conflict. I just remain sad and no one knows.... not even friends notice. I just hold it all in and hide my emotions. I am a very good actress. No one knows the real me, and when I mention to friends that I am depressed they say I hide it well and it is not noticeable. Silent and private screams are my life. No where to turn.... I’ve recently half income as well. No money for counseling. Ok private rant over.

Dashed expectations is the source of many griefs and sorrow. Probably need to just learn to be content.

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Military family and can completely relate

As For Me And My House We Will Serve The Lord Alpha And Omega Jehovah.🙏🙌

What to do, when one is just not ready to open up or make it work. Or put efforts

You offer very good advice.

I forgot to tell you Iam 15 older then him and we hav no kids together,our 10th anniversary is may 14 we hav been together for 17years before he left meIm 62 he be 47mat 25th but I m told always I look between 42,and 48,years old,and the girl looks 50 and she is 37,he is starting to tell people if she keeps being abusive to him, he is leaving her,

Thank you !!!!!!!!!good stuff !!!!!!!!! Thank you !!!!!!!!

This was good, and the delivery is great. But it's long and could be so much better if it just went over the problem and gave the solution without so much repetitive info. Said from the viewpoint of having taught online college classes, and having so much better results from my when the videos I did were chunked into 5 minutes rather than a whole lesson. I personally really love the short MH videos. They are easy to fit in watching between doing other tasks, and they deliver info succinctly. Maybe I am the only one that feels that way, but it is food for MH's thought.

can this work on couples separated and being divorce?

I wish I had turned to this strategy before we separated. 😢

Thank you!

How can you appreciate a spouse who has cheated on you had a child with the AP and left you while you were pregnant with his child as well and left his other 2 kids after 14 years of marriage. At this point there's no recovery

You give me hope

Omg 😱 so difficult to do but I will try, even though he maybe cheating on me.

Love it

I appreciate.....

Excellent

Thanks.

Thank you🌹

I am a strong believer the male is the one who should start doing this .

I would appreciate suggestions on how to do this with a wife who is given divorce papers and sold our house and now we don’t live together or see each other or speak to each other. Really. This is a hard one to implement.

It’s the little things that mean the most

I have always had my husbands back on everything

Our marriage was the same- just from the get go, it was always a strain. After 20 years ( a death of our son, her parents and our dogs) it was just disaster after disaster. I was a police officer (now retired) that I worked crazy hours, always saw the worse in people at work. We never deal with the elderly church circles. We deal with the worst issues between humans. She didn’t get this…

My wife's focus is on divorce

Great stuff if both people are invested

Believe me I was focused on help my wife and be there for her. However, she got immature and she has negative thoughts about her life. I can't talk to her and open up to her because she can't even help herself and her focus is only on her pain and her problems, while I am trying to help her and trying to support on her problems and I forgot my life entirely.

Does it work if just one does it?

there is no sound

How I work on my pie plz tell me ? I want to save my marriage.

I feel this video is directed at wives and could be more balanced with direction on what husbands could be better at. Like coming home on time, thank their wives for cooking dinner, notice their wife's haircut, notice the house was cleaned. Start telling husband how to be positive.