I just stumbled across this by sheer chance when I randomly typed in the Search field "scientifically informed, insider look, at mental health topics".

Something I appreciate about you, Doctor, is that instead of looking _at_ the camera, you look _through_ the camera at the person watching the video. It's a powerful tool for communicating in this kind of pre-recorded fashion.

I really like these “thoughts and beliefs tied to behaviors” videos. I also like how you show how even though two people may be exhibiting the same behavior, the thought/belief motivating the behavior can be very different for different disorders.

Im a bit of a narcissist it takes a lot to admit this but im getting better thanks to your videos Dr Grande. I used to think the world revolved around me and that i was such a gift to the world. Ive learned alot these past months and also dealing with gain and loss teaches you humility.. I hope to let go of these traits that have gotten me nothing in these past 6 years

I was recently diagnosed with this and even in my early childhood moments I can remember red flags and now it all makes sense even my first grade teacher told my mother to watch me closely it all just makes sense now

I finally gained access to my diagnosis history, as Im getting back into psych treatment, and found that I was diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder, but was never made aware of it previously. In researching ODD, I have found that if left untreated it can manifest into ASPD. Mine was left untreated. The more I study ASPD, the more it explains a lot of my feelings, reactions and life. I think I am going to seek a diagnosis to have better access to treatment. I am so tired of only feeling rage and depression, I would like to be able to not act so impulsively all the time too.

I love working completely without contact to anybody. Makes me very efficient, and allows me to not think about personal appearance. To me, that is a kind of luxury.

Yes.. I can definitely relate to this. Lying, manipulating, due to environmental factors and seeing that when I was younger, that is what I learned and thought that is what I needed to do to in order to be successful and get ahead in life. Extremely damaging thinking... But over the years, I realized it wasn't benefitting me at all, I saw the damage and pain I was causing the people closest to me.. (even though I didn't care as much as I should, I knew it was wrong..) and I was really conflicted and changed. Change is possible :) but it has to come from within on a visceral level. I hate that I have done some unforgivable things. I have repented for years and finally am forgiving myself because that in turn caused more suffering and problems in other ways. Thanks for the informative videos.

Individuals tend to copy the environment they were brought up in. My parents are not social individuals. I had a hard time discovering why it feels awkward and exhausting for me to be in social situations. I always questioned people who want to befriend me, given that I'm not a peoples' person. But the few friends that I have are similar to me and they mean the world for me, because they understand.

The Victim should apologize to Me (the Attacker). I can understand on a purely abstract, intellectual level that some may truly think that way. But my cognitive empathy hits a brick wall. Maybe that limitation of mine isn't such a bad thing. Great Presentation yet again, Doctor Grande! Quite an education in every installment. Thank You!

I dated a diagnosed ASPD. I have diagnosed BPD and wow, was that a trip. But the overlap in Cluster B symptomatology is so strong that for a while, I thought he was BPD as well. The sad part is that he wasn’t receiving treatment for it while I’m receiving treatment for my personality disorder. Needless to say, it didn’t end well.

I have been diagnosed with this disorder since I was a teenager. I don't have any issue and I wish people would stop labeling others with things that, to be sincere, we really just don't understand, such as this "condition". Life throws you lemons. You don't make lemonade. You throw the lemons back. And when they make that lemonade, you take it from them. Double win. It's not a matter of being antisocial, rather its a matter of being your own form of preservative.

I am not grandiose. I may have been in my earlier years but I do believe I am vulnerable / bpd. As long as I'm not in a relationship I do much better. I can focus on my daughter and really be vigilant and help her to not be disordered in her adult years I've read all of tom bradshaws books and pete walker s books and I'm watching these videos . Going on 7 years without a relationship and I am doing better than I ever have.

When narcissists fool the therapist! Cuz most therapist aren't trained to recognize it and going to couples therapy is useless if they gaslight the therapist also. Being forced to validate a narcs pathology is foolishness cuz it only reinforces their maladapted view of ppl and the world. The therapist is just another person to win and use. Pls do a vids on this! Thanks for all you do, it is truly appreciated! Cheers mate!

You don't know how much you're helping people with this depth of explanation. Thank you.

Wow Doc, very articulate and on point. I'd love to hear you talk about ASPD with occasional waves of short-lived empathy

This is so insightful. No remorse, no plans for changing, and always l no pre concerned with getting caught instead of just doing the right thing in the first place. Unfair rules do not need to be followed.

Love your videos, Todd. I watch a new one every morning before work (before dealing with a company full of manipulative sociopaths, covert, and overt narcissists).

BPD and bipolar. I was out of control, reactionary, and impulsive until I was put on mood stabilizers..Lithium and Lamotrigine, plus anti-depressants and anxiety meds... And everyone said "Thank God". But this video has enlightened me to my motivating thought processes as a person with borderline pd.

These behaviors and thoughts videos are the best. They go straight to the point and help us understand what we many times would think to be... unbelievable, let alone understandable.

Fantastic video with very interesting examples, the more Dr. Grande videos i watch, the easier it gets to figure out the different percentages of personality traits of the people in my surroundings and what may be the possible causes for certain behaviors, fascinating to say the least, thank you Dr.Grande for another enlightening video.

The world is a hostile place that is literally out to get you. How could anyone not see that

Thank you, Dr. Grande. I bet you've saved lives in your day. Information/knowledge is the first step to logic and common sense. :)

That was fantastic! All of those scenarios are daily occurrences at work...sad but true. In addition, your glass frames perfectly coordinate with your shirt! So, the video was well integrated in a visual sense and according to content and structure. Thank you!!!!!!

These videos help me realize how messed up I am and why.

Wow, I started watching with less than 100k subs and now you have grown so much! Your consistency and hard work seems to pay off. I hope you make at least good money for your free great content.

I think sometimes it's hard to separate personality disorders... I'm a Cluster B (except histrionic), which is really hard, because it's like I have more than one personality and it depends on the situation and on my psychological stability which part is in charge. I guess only people with that problem are able to understand that. It's hard to explain...

It's amazing how many of these characteristics fit with a narcissist that I know. Thank you for this clarification because we have always been led to believe that antisocial behavior was just not wanting a be around people. However, this video taught me that it's so much deeper than that.

The examples of the thoughts for different personality types was extremely helpful. I would love to see more videos of different real world examples and how the Cluster B personalies would think about the situation. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

Thanks Dr. Grande. I enjoy your clinical perspective. Even more so, the temperament of your voice and delivery. Very easy to listen too and recieve. Take care.

Im really loving this series about thoughts in personality disorders. Great video Dr.Grande! 😆🖒

“This relationship is boring” oof! The thought process of my son’s dad 🥴

I love the "thoughts" version you give of these disorders. It makes it easier to know what to look for. 😄😉 It's true! This one seems similar to narcissistic personality disorder with the main theme being _dont put me out in any way or I'll punish you"_ . Thank you, Dr Grande. 🌹👍

Thank you dr. Grande for all your work, the quality of the information you provide is always, and consistently, great

You have no idea how much these types of videos are helping me accept what I cannot change and to accept what is. I dont want to believe I am a borderline and bipolar but you know what I am what I am and as long as I am working on myself and I am aware of what is wrong with me. Yes I could try and label myself with cptsd ( because somewhere in my brain I feel that sounds better ) I may have cptsd ontop of borderline and bipolar and I feel and have really come to grips I will be single for the rest of my life and I'm ok with that. Thanks Dr. Todd Grande. 👍💖 never stop giving up and things will work.

My now 46-year-old son has ASPD and I, his mom, have codependency. He's finishing 9-year prison sentence the end of this year. He started around age 13. It's a harsh reality but I'm thankful for the knowledge.

I used to be very kind, empathetic, fair, attentive, sensitive and caring. As an adult, I learned by pain that the world is a hostile place for me, most times. I consciously became more like the aspd -type. Worked well, now a lot less pain, could even say none at all. Every time I try to introduce the good personality back, I get poorly hidden social backlash and seem to lose respect from others

Great content. I will watch the whole channel slowly but surely. I love it when I get to explain why someone possesses a specific kind of behavior

Wow you have so many videos per week! Thank you for bringing psychology knowledge to us :)

I love you so much! I love how unbiased and compassionate you are

Good morning ☀️. I love a vid to start my day. Thank you Dr.G and have the best day😉

Thank you Dr Grande, you're very informative. I found the Cluster B/A behaviour/thought comparisons very helpful also!

DR GRANDE I really like the cadence ,tone and speed of your speech in this video vs others that are a little slower in speech pattern. Do more like this.

Thank you for this! I’ve never had hope with my almost 15yr old son until I heard this. Now hopefully someone can start helping him better and help us better understand him.

Thanks Dr Grande. I really needed some soul-searching for a while

I love your videos! I always listen to you while I do my homework for Early childhood education. Thanks to you I have decided to go ahead and minor in psychology once I transfer to work on my BS next year. I am excited and physiology is way too fascinating.

Wow. Dr Grande I am so happy that your channel is reaching so many people. 😁 have a great Tuesday!

I really appreciate finding your videos right now. I have been through hell and just got out of it after 4yrs a week ago.. now I'm trying to heal which I'm finding difficult

Thanks Doctor Grande. I wonder if you could do the Ristevski case, that was committed in Australia. I find this case intriguing; it would be good to hear your analysis. Thanks again Dr.

That is incredible insight! Thank you so much always, Dr Grande.

Makes a lot of sense! Very helpful, a lot to think about. Thank you for making the video.

This is one of the best videos on SO much behavior! Nice.

some of these thoughts resonated with me. wondering if I am the only one? the thought about remorse resonated the most the one "why do I need to feel remorse towards him when nobody ever felt remorse towards me" but I don't ever act on those thoughts because if everyone acts on those thoughts society would break down, and that's also the best way to think about the effect of certain behaviors, how would the world look and how would I feel if everyone did that.

Mr grande man! What's up man I used to listen to your videos when I worked overnights! Good stuff

I've been binge listening (in a non compulsive way...) since stumbling upon your channel a few day ago Doc. I'm finding your breakdown of public figures, in particular, criminals, fascinating. Once their behaviors are isolated assessed in a more clinical sense, their, in some cases, romanticized public personas, simply crumble and we're left with very ordinary, yet tragic and deeply disturbed individuals. Pity (or not) Anton Chigurh was only a fictitious character..

Mental Health and that Psychology class got me learning this. Prior to me taking that class I didn't know anything about mental disorders.

Can you do a video on how children growing up with both parents in active addiction can develop into mental problems such as....? With the last couple of decades being over prescribed opiods and benzos this is very relevant and many young adults are now affected by this upbringing. Seeing parents falling asleep in their food, ect.

Keep up the good work, doc. I’ve told you before on other videos, you’re probably the only public psychology professional I respect due to the fact that you’re the only one who shows any true insight rather than just spit out the EXACT SAME THINGS others do. You will actually go in depth and teach and show understanding and I’m here for it! I HAVE ASPD (for anyone interested feel free to ASK ME ANYTHING) and right off the bat I can agree with you, doc. It’s weird, a lot of people don’t think of this but there’s actually this intense sense of optimism that comes with aspd that really makes you think nothings gonna happen, likely since I have managed to talk my way out of things many times. And cuz things have often worked out for me. (Or if things don’t work out... yup I’ll say I’ll be more careful rather than not to I’d next time) The “did something but then has to brag about it” many times I’m like “I need to just fly under the radar” but literally just CANT HELP MYSELF but to blab. And yeah sometimes it can be for intimidation factor/because just to see the look on their faces, or just so they think of me as a wild card (we love being unpredictable) and know not to take me for granted. Especially in work settings. Ugh. I have big sensation seeking issues. I almost wonder if there’s an ADHD kind of component to it. Even an addictive component. I’ve exhibited addictive behavior since before I ever did drugs. And oh god “the unfair rules” thing. ABSOLUTELY so many rules are just so dumb and it’s like dude get real come on these things are not a big deal and they take them so serious. As far as long term planning I think were ok with that. But short term not at all As far as “showing remorse” even if I don’t feel it if I’m in trouble I will ALWAYS pretend at least. I do know how to pick up on some social cues to benefit myself I think a big misconception is that we are actively looking to screw over others at all times. Like we are on constant “predator mode” rather a majority of the things we do/lie about is simply to make our lives easier. But people get caught up in the middle And omg the relationships... YUP I’ve many times went for men who are “normal/healthy” individuals. After all, they’ll be good to me, maybe balance me out, help me in life, and hey maybe I can even benefit and boss them around hehe. However, they could do/give me everything I want... showed me with affection and love....and do everything that a regular person would love, BUT I WILL GET BORED. Many times I’ve wished I could not get bored (any advice so I don’t die alone? Lol) and I’ve often felt stupid later and been like I could’ve been married... he’s so successful now, etc. I do however, often keep many of these men still somewhat attached as if I’m storing them for later. If I want them for something later I can call on them. I’m often told I put a spell on men or have a permanent effect on them. My favorite men are the ones who think they’re an “alpha male” but really I’m the alpha since I’m the brains between the two of us hehe. Omg the “UNFAIR RULES” so many rules are just dumb to me. And when people really get all worked up over some minor infraction I’ve apparently committed I’m just like... GET REAL! Be more laid back wtf who really cares about shit like that lol As far as perceived slights against me, yes I need to crush an enemy. If someone has done something to me I will go all out to get back at them. And will often rationalize my anger against someone. And the truth thing... YUP lol And yes.... LIFE IS ALL ABOUT FUN for me. I can come across as irresponsible, but I simply want to just have fun, fun, fun. You really help me understand myself more, doc. Warm regards.

It's always an education watching your videos, Dr. Grande. I found many of the examples in this video quite startling, as they're commonly expressed in comments made by "friends" on social media ~ there's that same sense of entitlement and lack of civility and personal insight. Rather frightening to think we live in a time and culture that allows these behaviors to appear "normal." Looking forward to your next talk!

Dr. G., you're putting theory into practice in these examples. Invaluable, thank you!

Dr. Grande, have you thought of doing some reactions to movie scenes that are mental health-centric, like Silver Linings Playbook? I know it seems superficial but it serves as a great way to pull in more audience - and a channel like yours getting a bigger audience means people will be more informed!

I like episodes where you clarify the outward behavior, the inner thoughts, and compare how it looks with different conditions.

I like Dr. Grande's vids very much. Yes, I have BPD from childhood. I also have traits of other personality disorders. Anyway, looking at myself and learning about my behavior is helpful. My insight has always been very good but I procrastinate putting anything into practice cause I'm a self saboteur.

Thank you for the information. Could you talk a bit more about the link between paranoia and violence? Or consistent thoughts of violence towards yourself or others?

Wow! I loved this video alot. Thanks alot for your work and your creative discussion of how ASPD patients' mind think. I hope you can do a video about how to manipulate and hack their mind to force them to behave normally. I am playing an intense mental game with my ASPD family. Sometimes, I have some successful moves and most of the times I fail. I have forced them to respect my bounderies, plus I believe I am making a useful use of their sensation of fear accompanied by their BPD. I think they think too much before they talk to me. Also, my 9 years old nephew whom I raised; is showing some psychopathic and sadistic features, I am trying to change his behaviour mentally through discussing his behaviour with him and comparing it to others' and asking him about his thoughts and whether he accept to be treated in the same manner or no. And, wow! He surprises me alot by his strong will to change, even if it's so hard for him. As if he is swimming aganist the tide, he is trying to defeat his norm. And it is so hard for him. But he is trying hard because of his deep love to ALLAH and me. He is awesome and I wish I know how to make it easy for him. So please if you can guide me, I would be so grateful for you. Thanks alot.

Thank you Dr. Grande!🌷❤️

Edited for typos. Just out of my own curiosity, after watching this video, I watched a portion of the Anthony Pardon death penalty trial that just ended yesterday. The part where he was allowed to speak directly to the jury without being cross-examined. I guess that's allowed in Ohio. He spoke for about 15 minutes and based on my lay opinion, explicitly hit 1 through 8 and 10 of each of your examples of the type of thinking for this personality disorder. 9 was shown from testimony of the crime. He especially hammered on 5: "Everyone failed me." With tears too. And not one word or even a hint of remorse for his horrific crimes. Wow...that was something...watching the accuracy of each of your points and all of them at once! He was sentenced to life without parole. One part, among others, that stuck out to me was when he said to the jurors "I wish we could've met under different circumstances." He is a burglar, rapist and a murderer! Prior to this charge he'd done 35 years in prison. I can only imagine what went through the jurors minds when he said that. Thank you for another fine and very informative video Dr. Grande. You are appreciated.

The "i need a cigarette to settle me down/control me" and the "if manipulation doesn't work get violent" describes my mom so so well

Thank you! I’ve been trying to articulate this into a video but have struggled! This is so good & has definitely inspired a video for me! My boyfriend has ASPD, and now I have clearer examples between his old behaviors and more recent behaviors. He has been working on himself ever since he went to prison in 2011. He still exhibits antisocial behaviors, but they are more mild in comparison now. Think riding his bike on private property now vs breaking into cars for fun 10+ years ago.

you are amazing this is so helpful. this series of behaviors also helps you remember when someone contacts you claiming to be interested in what you are doing then surprises you by making it sexual then without ever following through & attempting to get to know you creates some kind of weird shame based communication based on their sexual attraction for you which is expressed by neglecting all the insight and work that supposedly brought them to you in the first place. Suddenly your mere existence signals a need for attention when ironically enough like zero of your life experience would even remotely point to that being the case, meaning you are the most unlikely. all very abusive behaviors it would be so much better if everyone including women knew how to communicate in ways that are provably communication

I don’t know whether you are familar with the Hitchcock’s movie Rope (1948), but I thought a lot about Brandon Shaw during your video. His character meets the majority of the thoughts that you included here. Brilliant video

Great job with the video as per usual. Very informative

This channel is EXCELLENT.

Comment 260: 12,011 views. I just noticed the subscribers shot to 199K. Congratulations Dr. Grande 😳😳😀😀😀😀 Kudos on these great videos allowing us to see our narcissistic and antisocial thoughts and behaviors. 😄😄😄

I really like your videos Dr. Grande! Thanks for making them. In this one, I found that the ASPD you mention seems quite widespread. I mean that I've encountered many of the features you mention here in people from many of my everyday life situations and even in different places where I've lived making them transcultural. Can this be?? It seems as if society in general is nuts or has the DSM just gone overboard?? Yikes!!

I worked for 7 years at a correctional facility using the Cognitive Behavioral Treatment modality with convicted felons. I heard every one of these thought patterns from residents as reasons for committing property crimes, selling and using drugs, domestic violence, delinquent child-support, etc.

Another interesting video from the good Dr. Grande. Thank you!

I agree, I really enjoy the insights with the thoughts and beliefs videos.

As I listened to this I recognized some people I've encountered during my life and it was very interesting and it provided some mildly deja vous experiences.

I came here for educational purposes, but i actually recognised every single one of them in myself. I'm not completely ignorant, so of course i considered multipe possibilities when i realised, on an intellectual level, that some of my behaviours and thought processes are quite different from people around me. But i believe self-diagnosing is a thing that should in no case be done seriously and with (unhealthy) conviction and when i first stumbled upon the Term "Aspd" i kinda crossed it out because there were a lot of criteria i met, but also some that i really don't. I've actually read a whole lot about it but this video really suprised me, as i never found something so well explained. Thank you, Dr. Grande, this was in fact, an interesting video. I'll definitely subscribe

Wow this video is amazing. Truly well spoken and explained. Its hard to say this and to even admit this but I see myself in a lot of these 10 traits you just described. To be more specific, there were 6 traits which I have done before. Does this mean I have ASPD?

Hahaha, I'm not a narcissist, yet this time the person, who wished this topic, was ME.🙂 Didn't expect you to be sooo fast with it. Thank you so very much.🌹🌹🌹

So well explained! Thankyou! Comprehensive and with really relevant and varied examples. Subscribing

Always listening to your lectures here and learning. Thank you

I was not aware of much of the anti-social part. Very informative, I learned a lot. Thanks!. I kept thinking Betty Broderick could have been cast in many of your examples. I’d love to hear your take on Trump.

I was a psychology minor way back, but I understand the system of the field much better after going through these videos.

Dr. Grande: what kind of hope is there for people with personality disorders to get better, assuming they want to? What can they do to get better? What kind of rate of success is there for treating personality disorders, cluster B disorders specifically? I really appreciate the time you take to make these videos and answer requests.

I endure BPD, I have to say that it’s extremely important if you want to get better to be willing to make sacrifices. I have many drug addiction issues and impulsivity issues. I got into a bit of legal trouble about 5 years ago. I had one probation violation on a Class D non violent offense and asked my attorney if there were any way I could get help through the court by getting a long term court order in a psychiatric facility. I was at an end. Unsurprisingly they just don’t do that sort of thing but he said he was positive Id get another chance with probation if I wanted. I knew it’d do me no good and I’d probably die. I chose to go to prison after he said it was the place to go if I needed help. It was the biggest step I ever took and I still don’t regret it. I declined parole 2 times and did my full 19 months out of 5 years. It was my first and only time going to prison. I learned alot about myself there. I was given time and space to work things through in my mind. The thing is, I got better in alot of ways. Even after I started using substances again, its never gotten as bad as it was before. I have value in myself. I struggle but haven’t given up like I tried to do every time before. It’s been 5 years since the last intentionally reckless action. I stopped hurting myself. Intentionally I mean. Of course it’s still hard. Life is hard period. But I know thats normal nor for everybody. There is no cure all. Once I began making sacrifices in my life, uncomfortable ones, things did improve beyond what I ever thought. Rewiring the way I think is not easy but I know I can change now and I know emotion is temporary and actions are not. Just figured I’d throw in my two cents. Thanks for your videos and hopefully this gets read and processed and helps somebody.

I will watch any ASPD video of yours I can get my hands on. I’ve been involved with someone who has it for about it a year now and it’s ever exhausting. These are insightful and definitely relate.

Extremely insightful. Thank you.

I always like watching your explanations, as I know they are based in the best data available, and I don't have to verify everything. I've "diagnosed" my husband with ASPD based on a questionnaire. Didn't look into it much (mistake), and now that I am not a sufficient "supply" he's leaving me. Everything I find confirms my initial results. But there were several examples in this video that cemented my armchair diagnosis. Thank you. It gives me the strength to not doubt myself, and do what I need to do. My only question is how do you get a spouse with ASPD off your couch when he demands money he is not entitled to and won't leave until he gets it? He thinks he is, of course.. It's not easy to admit I was clueless about so much manipulation and gaslighting.

Thank You Dr. Grande. Been subscribed for some time. Information you provide has been useful/vital in my dealings with persons/groups manifesting symptoms of ALL the personality disorders you've covered so far. "The more you know"....the better you'll be able to identify and respond properly (or avoid if possible...) to these people.

Thank you! Studying for my MSW!

Great video Dr. Grande! Wow, tremendous lack of insight behind these thoughts. I also find it puzzling the excitement seeking, or this idea to always have some fun. Maybe the deep emptiness prompt someone to constantly look for excitement outside to fill the void? Hard to understand.. Excellent input as always!! Omg, 198k Dr. Grande!!! Celebration time is coming soon:) 🙂

Lol sounds like my father don't look at me that way . Dr.Todd Grande videos keep getting more and more interesting !

Thank you for another amazing video Dr. Grande :D Im your biggest fan hehe. All the best!

Thank you this thinking info is helpful in me changing my communication skills = I can learn different sentences & keep learning boundaries no one BUT me has to mind

this is really good parsed out! Thank you ♥️

Most people copy the environment they grow up in. I struggle with these feelings as well because I come from a very strict, unpredictable, alcoholic, religious, and emotionally abusive household, all while maintaining the perfect “Flanders” family. I harbor a lot of rage for my parents and the way they treated me, and gas lit me into thinking I was never good enough. It manifested in complete distrust in people, compulsive lying, womanizing, and a deep hell hole of craving validation. I’m 26 now, have great friends, hobbies, and a partner that I love and loves me. It took a long time to figure out why I had no personality, no friends, and 0 direction in life. I think the most important first step to coming out of the ASPD cloud is being honest about your environment, do you like it or hate it? Then Understand that changing your environment will change your mindset. Also I’m not even joking magic mushrooms really helped me dismantle my necrotic and abusive ego. Obviously I don’t condone it’s use unless directed by a healthcare practitioner but it’s what really helped me break my toxic thought patterns Dr. G talks about.

Really interesting content, thank you Dr Grande!