same here!! I definitely go for a more androgynous or masculine style, so when people see me and don't know or assume boy, I get so happy and feel so validated, even if I can't always say so (public areas or when my unsupportive family is around) and especially for the latter, my family tries to correct them

Bro same lol

I relate to this so much 😭❤️

@@cloudeystella5857 to which comment, Peter D or adesso or The Bar or mine?

Can relate

*high five* I'm aromantic, asexual and agender

adesso.laurenzo Lol I can’t believe I couldn’t get this notification (I don’t check mails it’s like 10,000 at this point) but thx love youuu

We need a club jacket. Or maybe a spade jacket 😉

I actually think I'm asexual, I'm non-binary, and I thought I was aromantic a couple months ago.

@@sage9653 I HAVE FINALLY FOUND ANOTHER ANGENDERRRRRRR TwT finnaly, umm anyways, sorry, just happy!

*complains in Polish*

i'm portuguese too, i know the pain😭🤚

O pior é shitposter fazendo piada com isso

@@Immmisu o pior mesmo é o pessoal do Twitter tentando forçar pronome neutro no português

“Eles” is an alternative pronoun because it’s gender neutral, but creating a third gender flexion is hard

That is very wholesome

So wholesome 💛💜🖤

AAAAAAA I LOVE YOUR GRANDMA

I love your grandma and thats how im coming out

Aww! Your grandma is really sweet!!

I have this problem too, I do prefer they/them pronouns tho, they feel less restrictive but in regards to gender idk if im a woman or nonbinary ughhhhh (update) I discovered I'm actually a trans man

Hi! I was in the same boat. For most of my conscious life. I’m in my 40’s and just finally accepted last year I’m non-conforming/ non-binary. I have a hard time fitting into societal expectations of women. I’m married to a man & have two kids. But I’m not motherly in the traditional sense. I’m much more the garage/shop rat that would rather wear jeans or sweats than a pretty outfit most times. Then sometimes I like to dress “fem” and wear makeup. It changes like the weather. Only recently have I become totally comfortable with my androgynous look. But I’m really happy. When I finally expressed to my husband I’m non-binary I was relieved to have his full support. He knows absolutely nothing has changed. I’m still the same person he married. I’m still his “wife” (this term does not bother me). For me, pronouns are not real important. I’m comfortable enough with she/her that I don’t want to change that. It was hard to finally work it though my head though. Def was a struggle. My kids love that I’m into so many things outside of what I was taught were “my place”. We teach them to challenge the status quo and never let anyone define them, except them. I can braid their hair, sew their clothes, fix the frigging car, and look bad ass the whole time. Screw the lipstick. Lol Editing this to add- to A.M. (whoever you are) and anyone else who uses solely what I wrote above to determine if I “belong” in the non-binary category, just don’t. There is so much to me and what makes me who I am that I couldn’t write it all here. And I won’t. I was only showing support for the person I replied to and I am disgusted that someone even came at me like that. I’m not explaining anything to random trolls.

@@avim3120 omg thank you so much for this! i'm happy to see that you are able to be yourself and have a supportive partner too. you really comforted me in my confusion. i'll do some soul searching without giving myself time limits. again thank you so much i really enjoyed reading your comment. your kids will definitely grow up to be great people with a parent like you :)

@A. M. mmkay baby cakes I don’t need to defend who I am to you or anyone. I was only here to show support for the comment I replied to. You do not get to gatekeep on people. I know who and what I am. And if you think you know so much about about me from ONE comment on ONE KZfaq video and want to be mad about it, die mad about it. I don’t have time for people like you that want to delegitimize people. I worked too damned hard to accept my self for who and what I am to let some rando internet troll to roll in and try to knock me down. Move on. Editing for this point- Btw- did you miss the part where non-binary people are not specifically any gender or one gender regardless of whether they were assigned it at birth or not? Did you miss the part where I accepted I’m non-binary? I’m not a woman setting myself apart from other women. I was assigned female at birth but do not identify as specifically female. So you point (or, rather troll) makes no sense.

Im a girl n i think that gender is a construction so fcuk it all n be yourself n do whatever u wanna do yay no need for labels

oh

this really made me feel valid thank you

Ohh, hehheheh. Weeelllll--

This is how I figured I was probably gay, as my little gay brain asked myself so many questions!

Ahh but sometimes I think I’m just overthinking it lol

This^^^^^^^^^

Relate to all of this

can relate

I've never related to something more in my life, tyyyy

i relate but im also the person saying im faking it

...wait

Oh I thought that was just me…

Yeah I wish my body looked like how I feel

WAIT WHAT

@@vanilla6989 yea who does not

💕💫💙

Thanks

Ok to be confused? Young teenagers are already confused about so many things and you want to add MORE confusion to the mix?

Sandy Gonsalves of course it’s okay to be confused! Identifying and working through that confusion is simply how we learn more about ourselves. Stop acting like it’s some horrible thing to be confused, or not know, or not understand something about yourself. It’s just part of being human.

@@teriyaki_wings I'm not saying it's horrible to be confused, it's not. But I don't think the purpose is to cause MORE confusion, something that I think the non binary community has unintentionally have done.

How is this so relatable. I'm spending a lot of time in my literal closet-

I stay in my closet when I cry and it's great

My closet is literally where I’m always at, It’s just comfortable here TvT

No ya gotta be ✨extra✨ moonwalk into the closet

press y to same

Yeah that's pretty much me right now just found out I'm non binary and I want a binder but I'm not out to my mom and coming out to her feels mentally and emotionally draining to me

Same I feel the exact same way

Same I don’t know what I am but I’m not cis so probably non binary or trans. I’m so scared to come out because I will have to fight to be accepted and if I get it wrong my family will never understand or respect my identity and I’ll be stuck in the closet forever😢

Same! I want a bi- *cough* I NEED a binder but I think that my parents won't understand :(

Binders harm your body. Only a cult would tell you to harm your body.

Hello, fellow closeted enby. Stay strong. :D

Hi my fellow closeted enby we love our closet

@@junkoenoshima2756 ayoooo

Stay strong B) i believe in you stranger!

@@ragingcheese1444 why ty! you too stranger!

Same tho Germany is weird tbh

Dutch ppl have hen but most dont.wanna.use.it my.english class doesn't.want.to.use.they.pronouns.for.me

Same :( Im arabic :'(

you could use neopronouns!

Omg saaaame!!!

you can be non binary and wear makeup:))

@@kayypaidfr yay ^^

Same i dont like a lot of make up just decent like eyeliner and stuff

So your a femenime non binary :>

you're nonbinary *AND* like wearing makeup because it's pretty ^^

What is your native language?

Lol same

Same

Ego te exardescam sicut reiteratis, qua urebam anteacta vita mea.

for me i speak tagalog and it has the word sya. it refers to all genders and we dont use pronouns in tagalog its literally only sya which make me so happy

I have a question. I don't mind what people assume of my gender, but I don't like when people automatically assume I'm a girl. Even online... so.. *sorry if this is not a very good question, I'm not very good at asking*

@Emily uwu omg same here finally someone who relates to me I feel like im just labeling myself.... and I am not enjoying this :\ anybody here have any advice for this

@Emily uwu omg sameee

Are you a boy? And just figuring out about non-binary and experimenting like I am

@Emily uwu sameee. I'm also using she/they pronouns- And I also have this like- feeling I'm "faking it" even tho I'm not rlly. Like I feel like I'm just labeling myself basically TvT. I haven't told anyone yet either. Like I feel more more feminine than masculine (that felt weird to type for some reason lol) but still enough that I'm questioning my gender and such- Ree- Any advice?

Thank you so much this helps so much you dont understand, every video I watch keeps saying it defines your gender and it makes me so confused

Ikr

Fair, but I'm still going to chop it all off.

THANK YOU

Thank you, I have been thinking of cutting my hair to make it less girly but I kind of like it Long so this kind of helped me decide not to tell my mom to make an appointment :D

Honestly mood

That’s literally me though. I’m watching this video because I’m thinking “you’re probably not non binary you just *want* to be so you’re faking it” even though I identify as non binary and hate when people use she/her pronouns and all the other non binary stuff. I’m definitely nb.

@@snowinthesummertimed9269 same

My brain is over here like you just wanna be different and special this is all fake you dont actually feel this way, then I get misgendered or take a good look at my own body and I'm like oh right that's why. And then an hour later it's like "you just forced yourself to feel that way because you want to" and it's a cycle 😔

Same

well, you're a very valid waffle! lol.

Pop off waffle

A very crisp and awesome waffle

Nah bruh gender is not a social construct it’s backed by science and biology. The gender stereotypes that are expected of men and women is a social construct. Pls don’t spread misinformation!

@@Lunalla and sorry for the rant but I just wanted to politely tell you that you are somewhat wrong, but you are right about stereotypes.

At the moment i feel so unvalid and feel like i'm faking it. Because in the last days i was Very comfortable being a girl. I just think i'm faking it. Even though the days before i really had bad dysphoria. And it sucks. Because it's kinda like there's no day where i feel comfortable. I don't know how to accept my feminine side. Do you have any Tips? P. S. I'm Sorry for the long Text XD

@@littlecousin8716 while I'd like to give you some foolproof answer, I don't actually have one. its not really a "tips and tricks" kind of problem, yknow? So it's a pretty complicated and long answer, I hope you don't mind; I'll include a TL:DR at the end, and feel free to ask for clarification on anything lol there were several factors that played a part into me accepting my feminine side. The biggest part was not actively rejecting it. I realized that I actually really loved things I'd said I hated and dubbed as feminine before. I'd kinda shunned them all my life because I didn't want to seem feminine and make other people think I was faking it. I was super worried about what other people would think, if someone who "supposedly" wasn't a girl started loving pink, yknow? that leads me to my second biggest reason: my brother. He's transgender, and has been a super big influence on my life. I only knew that genderfluid was a thing because of him lol. But even as a guy, he loves some feminine things, and one thing he said stuck out to me: "It's great confusing people, being a transgender guy in touch with my feminine side." so my honest answer? Spite and chaos were my biggest helpers in accepting my femininity. Yes, it's annoying at times, having to correct people all the time. But being able to say "fuck those shits" about the transphobes who don't accept me and set expectations for who they think I am is worth it. I'm not a person who'll just say "don't care about other people's opinions" and shit, cuz it's kind of impossible for the average person. Humans are social creatures, we crave validation. But you have to learn to pick and choose which opinions to care about. I have my brother, my partner,, and my friends who support me and validate me, so those are the opinions I care about. But I don't know how your life works and how many people you know of who are supporting you. But even just having one can change how the world works for you. But basically, confidence and self-assurance are key. but those come from acceptance of yourself, right? they build like a corkscrew, slowly helping each other grow. but you just gotta give it a starting point, be it even spite :) TL:DR: don't actively reject your feminine side by thinking you're faking it. you are you, and you're whoever you want to be. don't let anyone tell you otherwise. and mainly, find a starting point, be it accepting one small thing you thought was feminine and owning it as male or nonbinary, or just wanting to spite those dumbass transphobes. it's different for everyone, but you got this :)

@@bumblebeagan thank you so much for your loving reply. Even though i know that the acceptance have to come from myself your understanding and everything you wrote helped me. Thank you ^^

@@littlecousin8716 of course! I'm super glad I can help, and i hope you can reach the level of acceptance you want ^-^

You can trick yourself to believe anything. Seek sex-affirming psychotherapy

Thankyou 😘💖💖💕

May I ask what that is? An enby..

@Mr Lopez Here's the attention you ordered, sorry if it's a little cold, would you like me to bring it back to the chef?

@Mr Lopez ah, sorry sir we're no longer serving upsetty spaghetti, but we appreciate your patronage

@Mr Lopez ah you know, as much as I like banter it really isnt the most productive way of talking to people believe things like "being nonbinary is attention-seeky". Do you feel like gender identity correlates to being narcissistic? If so, why?

that falls under non binary, and also let ppl identify how they wanna identify, they’re probs using that term bc it feels more comfortable

As the person above said it falls under non binary. Non binary means not apart of the binary man and woman gender system. Genderdluid falls under that because its not binary, geddit? Agender also falls under enby because that lack of gender, which is not on the binary.

i thought they were the same thing

@Bruno Wentworth you gonna argue with inarguable science and facts? Go right ahead 😂

@Bruno Wentworth lol friend the fact that you said "binary sexuality" shows me that you have no clue what you're talking about. And the fact that you came onto a video about being non-binary to place this opinion in the comments tells me a lottttt about you, more than I need to know. Any who, I hope you go and research the difference between sex, gender and sexuality ok, its ok to educate yourself. Have a nice day!

Are u a girl or a boy?

@@piperhh5609 neither. ⟟ am 14 rats stacked in ⏃ trench coat.

@@ppunz oh. But we’re you born a girl or a boy? Or are u trans?

Ender language poggg

i know what non binary means but what does non binary trans masc mean? (to clear the air im genuinely asking since im questioning my gender and idkk ahhhh)

Maybe you could be bigender? In case you don’t know what that is it’s when you feel two genders at the same time!

Same!

I have more male friends than female. I hangout with them more often. But my gender is still a female.

The gender of your friends doesn't mean anything. I have an equal amount of girl and boy friends

Nevermind, I'm probably a bad example

Yep me too

same

Same

Omg meeee

Oh...hope you're okay

gay boi my friend is going to try get me a binder for my birthday, I still don’t know how I’ll be able to wash it without people finding out, because I’m never left home alone. When my parents usually leave the house, my older sister stays home to take care of my younger sister. The closest to alone I will be is when my older sister is at work, so I have to take care of my younger sister. With that I can tell her to play on her iPad upstairs, but I barley even know how to hand wash things, and it also depends on how long my parents are out for.

Oak Twig You could go to the bathroom and wash it there, it won't be as clean as it would be if you washed it properly but it's better than nothing. Or you could go to a supportive friends house yo wash it :)

Oak Twig you could hide it in a shirt or a pair of pants, or do the sink thing walker suggested :>

gay boi and Walker#599'46 thank you so much for the helpful tips! I’ll be sure to keep them in mind!

@@oaktwig6413 no problem :) Hope your transition goes well :))))

*haha-*

It's not too difficult. Most of society still uses sex and gender to mean the same thing. If it's "girls one side and boys the other", take it to mean "females one side and males the other", that's what the teacher really means.

You are delusional

@ᚱᚢᚾᛖ No just call them what they are.

@@Envision_ which person are you talking to?

@ᚱᚢᚾᛖ it's fine mate. I'm a female and I'm totally fine being called "he". Infact, many people has called me "he" on online voice calls because I sounds like a boy when I'm tired. It's not a big deal really. And obviously my preferences is "she".

squawk squawk im sorry if this is rude

@@metra8604 pfft 💀

I identify as a h e n

my pronouns in swedish are h e n

To the chicken coop we go!

Thank you so much! 💜 I feel the same way, I have 2 dresses because I like how they look but I rarely use them because I don’t want people to see me like that . More recently I started to use them more around my friends and is nice when I feel comfortable.

Thank you! Some styles that I wear are more masculine and most are more feminine, but of course that is only to society. I want to be able to dress how I want

@@Abel-lt5nr I relate so much to that! I really want to experiment more both with clothes that are masculine and feminine, but I usually just end up wearing a somewhat andro t-shirt or sweater ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

@@glen2764 I feel the same! The easiest thing would maybe be to just stop caring what everyone thinks of you and wear whatever, but unfortunately it's hard to not care, especially when you feel like most people don't even know that your identity exists..

Page Acutually turns out I’m gender fluid. I kinda switch around every day and sometimes i change every half a day. Like yesterday I felt most comfortable with non-binary for half the day then the other half more as a Dani girl kinda gender. Today I’m feeling more masculine. And my presentation changes day to day because of this. It would explain why every day felt kinda different gender wise. The most common spot for me is the non-binary and off the spectrum.

How I feel.

Jaden :•)!! were not alone, i hope ur okay!!

Same ^^

same, but parents are scary, and don't like that one of my friends are LGBTQIA+, little do they know I have a girlfriend

same. help meeeee!!!!!!!!

Mosca Reus yeah, you don’t get to tell people how to feel or identify.

@@Mosk314 There's a difference between being a feminine male and a masculine female, and actually feeling as if you're the wrong gender.

@Mosca Reus Wtf if you are going to type something type it well

Mosca Reus actually (and sorry if I sound snarky) gender has nothing to do with organs, chromosomes, or genitalia. A lot of people confuse sex and gender (very understandable) so here you go: Sex - the chromosomes, organs, and genitalia Gender - the identity It’s easy to mix them up so no worries about that. Non binary actually does exist and it’s really interesting! Look into articles by people like the Mayo Clinic and national LGBTQ organizations. Those aren’t the only two options those are just to start. Also you will be interested to find that cases of non binary people date back to the native Americans, even earlier probably! Look it up (and use reliable sources). I can (almost) guarantee that you will be fascinated with what you find. Please do try to change your mind on the subject. It can be hard to understand how somebody could not feel like either sex because it doesn’t feel normal but if you also look into how history has normalized heterosexuality and cisgender people, while denormalizing homosexuality and transgender people. There is a lot more LGBT history out there then you would think. Have a nice day and do please try to change your mind!

Also wanted to add, don’t be scared. You’re allowed to try out different identities, pronouns and clothes to find what works best for you. And you don’t even have to label your feelings if you don’t want to or if it doesn’t make you comfortable, plenty of people don’t and that’s perfectly okay. Experimenting doesn’t make you any less valid.

If you menstruate, your authentic self is she

TrashCosplayz_ Alex I feel the same way I’ve always wanted nothing to do with being a girl. And in the past week I was working with my friend cleaning a house and the people there kept referring to me/us as “the lady’s” “girls” and it made me feel extremely uncomfortable... I rlly wanted to tell him that that upset me but I’m too scared. To be honest it made me feel a little bit better when I saw ur comment cuz I feel the same way and I feel like I shouldn’t.

if you feel uncomfortable, tell them! give your name/pronouns! they are also welcome to ask (as I would to most people) but if they can't see how uncomfortable you are, inform them

I feel the same way. But luckily im not 'princess' or something like that im a savage monkey. Yeah ive been called a monkey my my parents my whole life so i dont have that problem. Its mostly with teachers because i feel uncomfortable both being called 'young lady' but also telling them im non-binary or my pronouns

Yeah. I put my hair in space buns and my grandparents came over. I've never really disliked being feminine, but being called girl and she.. It just makes me uncomfortable. I don't know how to feel honestly. I also have this fear that if I experiment then people will think I'm attention seeking.. But I feel so uncomfortable.

Abby Can't Even “I also have this fear that if i experiment then people will think i’m attention seeking” i cannot describe how much i relate to that, i also feel like i don’t have a valid reason. but i’m afraid of going by they/them because i feel like people will think i’m just trying to fit in or look unique or something when it just doesn’t feel right when i get called she/her

felt 💔

Non sono non-binary però posso capire😔

if this makes you feel any better, loro in spanish means parrot. your pronouns are parrots(?

in spanish nobody uses "elle" 😞

@@bruneperillo2247 okay this made me feel better, thanks

Just don’t do pe since apparently nb ppl don’t do sports lmao

@@itsyaboichilde5397 In many schools gym is mandatory :(

What about Mann or Ess?

@@renameagain5808 those more translate to "it", animals and object are referred to that way. Unfortunately not really an option in German

@@reginakneip8858 oh, ok. That sucks

what a pain

For once Germany is handling minorities right 😂😂😂😂

same :(

Re-late-a-ble.

I'll be your buddy!!

I'm on insta as Frost.Bytten. we can talk there if y'all want to. 🏳️‍🌈

Hi I'm Aaron I've adopted you feel free to message me via Facebook ( see KZfaq user name)

Lola G get off tumblr please.

Fish stew rude

【Artistry】 get off tumblr please.

@@fishstew2573 I'm off of Tumblr while talking to you. Stop being rude. Lola is a valid human being.

M NG valid is an idiotic term and lola is just a gender nonconforming female. just because she isn't hyper feminine doesn't mean she's an imaginary third gender. get off tumblr, it's a cesspool.

You don't shower every day?

@@shivamsrivastava6312 No

@@shivamsrivastava6312 i know this dude and he showers once a week with soap and inbetween only casually to freshen up in the summer if he feels like it and he smells fine but idk. also there are some skin experts who say it may be harmful to shower daily unless you do hard labour daily/sweat more than average

im a girl i never shaved cuz i wear something that doesnt show much skin👽🥰

I hate it

I relate to this a lot. i think i have gender dysphoria because ive always disliked having a feminine body and want to be more andro, but at the same time i like femme clothes and fasion. i know clothes dont have a gender, but it still makes me question and overthink myself.

Guys wear makeup too

You are a woman.

I feel the same way. I feel non-binary but I still like my birth name and idk if that happens for a lot of people? But a thing that helped me is what are the pronouns you refer to yourself in your head while questioning your gender? Could be a weird indicator idk but it helped me :) also ur probly past this as this comment was 9 months ago but aanyways

You're probably a demigirl

@Glenn heterophobia isn’t a thing??? the person isn’t exactly a great person considering they assumed op’s gender and gender things that’s shouldn’t be gendered? also this is a joke chill

@Glenn no... It's completely fine to correct someone on your pronouns and name, and it shows that you have respect for yourself. If someone gets mad at that than they might be transphobic:/

@@Torera216 I think you misunderstood, their talking about how since they do this stuff people gender them.

@@Torera216 that's not what they're saying 💀 They're saying that because they do these things, others assume that they are a certain gender or go by certain pronouns when that's not the case and regardless of hoe they dress or what they like they're non binary What the person was saying was quite literally the opposite of sexism and was opposing stereotypes

Fashion style doesn't equal gender

YOU JUST DESCRIBED WHATS BEEN HAPPENING TO ME. I’m so glad I’m not alone, don’t worry we can figure this out, we got this :)

thats literally me..

Yeah that sounds like you’re non-binary. You probably have social (gender) dysphoria but not body dysphoria. I think that’s totally a thing that some enbies experience. You don’t have to have every type of dysphoria to be non-binary.

I read something that I think is pretty smart, regarding not having physical dysphoria. It went along the lines of: You don't have to suffer for your identity to be valid, suffering is not a requirement for any gender. Also if you consider that waking up as the opposite sex is some serious body horror to most cis people, it is pretty safe to say that being ok with the idea of having the opposite sex tomorrow is not exactly a cis thing.

@@creativedesignation7880 Yeah my main thing was that I never had dysphoria, but I’ve definitely had gender euphoria when I tried on more masculine clothes (there was this jacket in particular that had this perfect mix of masculine and feminine energy and made me cry lmao), and when I think about it I’m fine with both she and they pronouns, but also fae pronouns make me happy. And the idea of someone mistaking me for a guy makes me super happy but I don’t want to be a guy lmao. And now that I’m reading this, I know I’m not cis for sure, I just think I never knew there were other options besides being binary trans. I didn’t realize it was normal to be so firmly convinced of what your gender was like cis people apparently are, which made me sure.

I feel not comfortable with he/him And actually I despise that pronoun used for me- But I slowly don't feel comfortable with she/her either I don't feel anything about she/they and they/them kinda don't fit in... I feel like I MUST be a girl but I also feel like I shouldn't and I also feel like I am too "feminine" for non-binary and like I'm faking it. I am a wrecking mess...

@@user-kt1sn6bj7h actually tho same it’s a problem haha…

@@Grace-ce2px ikrr I have made some progress and I'm currently identifying as a non-binary with pronouns she/her,they/them (it's both of them that I feel most comfortable with rn, and currently I identify as they/them) and I feel like that but let's just say I'm still a wrecking mess

Can absolutely relate 😅

This is similar to how I feel! Glad I'm not alone!! =)

So sorry that your dad and friends haven't accepted your gender identity, hopefully they do in the future. Dysphoria sucks, maybe you could try a binder in the future?

I came out to my mom as non-binary she thought i just wanted to be a tomboy i told her my pronouns they/them she still uses she/her

Don't worry about it being kinda long. We all need to vent somewhere. I have gone through a lot of the stuff you were describing in the beginning, and I think I'm non-binary but I don't think my parents will react well. I hope that when you do tell your mom, everything goes well. Good luck!

i dont feel good about my chest or my long hair, so i get a bun and try to ignore the chest.. im not sure if im trans or non binary tho but i have a strong connection to non binary! ps. i havent came out yet because im kinda scared how my mom will react

just never forget that no breasts at all is a boy thing...so you gotta have middle ground to be truly androgynous......or at least recognize that some enby people would be fine with breasts

@Gay Fem Boy UwU I just kinda didn't feel fully female. But I also didn't feel fully non-binary. I guess it kinda felt like something was.. missing-?

i identify as a demigirl and i wish more people talked about demigender

@@sallysoniclover yeah same

I feel like I’m demigender because I feel more female than non binary but more non binary than female and it’s like ughhh. On a spectrum I feel in between nonbinary and female. She/they seems to fit me really well

I'm a demiwoman and not out. Feels like too much to explain to people

So your a girl that just became non binary because it sounded cool?

​@@Blue_cheese.No

me too!! i’m scared that if i came out with my mom she’ll just be like “but you’re so feminine”

I’m scared to come out to my family since they are transphobic.

Me too. I don't fell like i identify as a boy but i don't really identify as a girl either

I feel bad for you but I can relate exept it's when I told my dad I was lesbian but I'm still trying to prove him wrong I hope you all have an awesome day and I wish you luck coming out :3

My parents are homophobic... I choose to come out in college where I actually become an adult

you could totally be non binary if you look more feminine!! you dont have to dress or look androgynous to be an enby

No that’s just you being you

Reddit Egg they could be non binary. Gender expression ≠ gender identity. For example, a born-male who identifies as a male wearing feminine clothing doesn’t make him a girl, it just makes him a man who likes feminine clothing.

Wabi-sabi recently I’ve been going by as non-binary and so far I think it fits

You *could* be. But it's not cut and dry. Reality is, the only person that can tell you is yourself (after long hours of soul searching and reseaech)

Because you are, it is called internalized misogyne girl

@@czerkitka141 what??

@@czerkitka141 wanting to cut of your chest, socially transition and use non she/her pronouns is not internalised misogyny, they are most likely trans or nonbinary

Tomboy doesn't mean you're not feminine at all or you're not a girl. I'm a tomboy, but I'm still girl, attracted to man, quite feminine, etc. Male and female's brain are made different. You can't erase feminine inside your brain.

A KZfaqr I like watching "one topic at a time," once said "if you think you're it you aren't" and I repeat that to myself especially on bad days

@Randall Paquet I see what you mean, it does seem a lot more comfortable as a guy than a girl, however the only problem I have with it is OTHER GUYS lmao. I hope you figure everything out, I think right now I am a female with masculine tendencies along with a sprinkle of femininity here and there. I could go into the gender dictionary and find one that matches me perfectly, but I think I'm more comfortable with every one excepting me as a girl for now

Same here

maybe just say youre questioning. I know it can be hard sometimes. Ive been struggling too, but the most important thing to know is that you dont have to know yet. It takes a bit. (:

I don’t know German and what pronouns there are but there are more pronouns (in english anyways) than she/her, he/him and they/them. I’m not sure what they are but maybe you could look into that and see if they feel right for you? Hope you’ll find something soon that feels right for you!💖💖💖

I feel you. It may just take a while for you to really figure it out. I'm almost 30 and realized just this year that I am non-binary, not saying it will take you this long, but figuring out who you are is really a long term project. Also, yeah, German pronouns suck, I just ask people to refer to me by name, it's not perfect, but it certainly feels better.

this is exactly how i feel :/

SAMEEE

@@clawdz.7879 hi sweetie ! i'm sorry you have been going trough the same :/ i know how hard it gets but since i've wrote that i started to be nicer to myself nd accept the fact that the pronouns make me very happy, little by little. we sometimes have up and downs but i just want u to know that u and ur pronouns are very valid !!!! and very pretty !!! i recommend u to compliment urself using both pronouns and to remember yourself that you are using them because it makes you feel safe and comfy. they are there for you, not for anyone else, so as long as they make YOU happy nd good then it's all alright !

@@nerdemojireal you nd your pronouns are very valid nd beautiful ! remember that

I feel the exact same way you explained it in the same words I would say Thankyou for someone that feels like me. I’ve been thinking if I’m non-binary and She/They

Thomas Korn wtf

access what is so difficult to understand? "Non-binary " is nothing but a fad

Thomas Korn Um no it’s not, stop being disrespectful

PrincessDaisyLust no it actually means that you cut your hair shorter

PrincessDaisyLust nah

Yay!! (:

I’ve never questioned whether I’m a girl or not until recently, I want a flat chest and I’m starting to think I might not want to be perceived as a girl, but I feel like I’m doing for attention because I never had a problem with being a girl for 13 years of my life

@@irishughes9130 it’s never too early to question your gender but I felt like this for a couple years so I don’t know how I feel. I’ve learned that if you feel like your faking it your probably not you should just experiment and see if you like different pronouns and name

Awsome job I'm still stuck between being trans gender and Nonbinary but I know I'm lesbian

Can I ask how you found a name? Bc I’m thinking about it but I don’t even know where to start

to me i feel more he/they even though im currently a she/her. i don't like being a she/her tho.

I tried the she/they pronouns since I didn't always feel like a woman and felt more in the middle and that clicked for me and felt right; just know you are valid and your identity and your pronouns are valid too. I hope whatever you choose goes well!

i asked my best friend to call me by she/they pronouns to experiment.

update i identify with she/her pronouns

I've been currently experimenting with she/they pronouns, will update

It’s okay to experiment with labels and identities. If you identify as non-binary for a while and then realized that that’s not right for you, it’s okay to change what you identify with and you pronouns and stuff💖If you try something and it doesn’t work for you then you’ve only gotten closer to finding out who you truly are, by ruling out options, so don’t be afraid to experiment a little! You are valid, and even if you were to change the way you identify 10 times you would still be just as valid. There’s nothing better than finding out who you truly are and finally being yourself💖💖

I relate to this

same. i usually go with male characters as i don't know too well how to represent non binary, but i feel this.

I relate a lot to this

Me 1 to 1. Like.. literally 1 to 1. I relate to this so hard.

Awwwwwww that's cute :D

Aww that’s so awesome, does your partner prefer female pronouns? I’m glad yous are so supportive of each other, me and my wife are a little like this she’s tran feminine/trans female and has been in and out of the closet and I try to encourage and protect her whereas I’m more non binary and she encourages me to dress masculine when I want to

I think you should look at 'demigirl', it's a label for those who feel partly female, and partly genderless, many demigirls go by she/they. I hope this helps

@@juliamyburg8935 that makes so much sense !! Thank u for the help!!

@@savannahaldridge8884 your welcome!

yea its because your delusional and attention seeking im not trying to be mean im just telling you the truth think about your actions more please

Maybe you are demigirl or paragirl?

Well said

I feel ya. I'm fine with my body, but idk if I really care what pronouns people use on me. Would love a bit of clarity, personally, but not sure if that info is even out there.

same exact thing for me i just decided recently i want to use both she and they but i’m nervous that i’m wrong and just confused

@@kira-py8gt I think its good to try things out (:

You are definitely valid :) I think you should look up the term “demigirl”. It’s means someone that uses both she and they pronouns

Some people go by she/her and they/them pronouns, you could look into demigirl and demigender maybe? I can’t say what’s right for you but no matter what you find out in the end you are valid, every sexuality and gender identity is valid💖💖

Same yeah haha

Same here :(

@@agnessfox9983 sorry we have to go through this I guess:)

I’m sorry I hope things get better for you xx

Even if you’re not sure yet you can still call yourself nb now and try to figure it out slowly, as long as you’re comfortable with smth

Just go with what’s comfortable right now. If one day you feel nb, try it. If one day you feel male or female, try it. If you have friends/family that are okay with that type of thing you can ask them to try name/pronouns, if not I recommend a website called gender dressing room. It lets you use the pronouns and name you’re trying in sentences and stories

*Hayloft by Mother Mother starts playing*

Haha

Ceasar salad is the best!

Same

adesso.laurenzo thx yea recently I have thought of Oakley or Pheonix to keep it on the same track

I would say that you definitely don't have to change your name. If you don't like that's it's "girly" Then I would recommend looking at names and seeing if you like them. I still deciding on a name that makes me comfortable, but for me I just had names that I liked.

why would you care about your name, it's just a name...

Mosca Reus, some people using they/them pronouns, or any other non-binary pronouns just don’t feel comfortable being called a name that is leaning more specifically to one gender. Some people can immediately think “oh you’re a boy” or “you’re a girl” depending on your name. Some non-binary people just feel more comfortable being called a name that has no gender included so people won’t jump to conclusions.

@@atlus5846 Imagine caring about a pronoun

Yes same here!!

ne too

I feel the same way, but I’m still a minor

PastelFire 99 Me too, I’m 16. I’ve had a couple of friends call me by they/them pronouns for the past couple of months and I learned that it feels better, and she/her feels very “off”. Sometimes I feel like I’m faking being non-binary but I don’t reallt want to go back to identifying as a woman. I dont know, gender isn’t just a one day thing. It can feel strong on some days, and not so strong on others. All we have to do now is to be patient and it’ll take time to truly know ourselves. I wish you all luck on your discovery adventures!

don’t worry this is me!!! it’s not that i hate being female and personally, it’s more that i would be such a good man. idk if that makes sense, but like my interests and personality, and the way i sit - like it’s all manly. I would say i am a woman however, but if i could choose (before i was born) maybe i would have picked man? but it’s not like i want to change right now because woman doesn’t exactly feel wrong, it’s just that i would have been a rlly great dude. idk not exactly the same issue as you, but i definitely relate to several things there