My grandmother had a sentence :don't do stuff alone that you won't do in public because you may forget yourself one day in public 😂 better have good habits even alone ❤️

Me sitting on the bed watching her videos : " my dear elegant ladies ! " My Husband joining in : " That's us !"

I’m 16 and I'm watching this to be a better elegant lady as an adult in the future. Thank you for the tips 💗

My dad always says "a family that eats together stays together". And we aren't allowed to even have our mobiles/tablets with us or near us in the dining room. This is always a great time to catch up with each other and help the little ones learn table manners

It is hard to be elegant if you are surrounded by not elegant people 24 hours.

I love how she’s becoming more comfortable. I really like her humour and style of comedy it’s funny yet has taste

46 seconds into this video and Anna said the most important thing in the entire video. Perhaps the most important thing in every video she’s ever made: Etiquette in the home is about respect for ourselves! Thank you for putting this first, Anna.

My dad always says “what you practice at home is what you practice in public . “ it’s so true.

Anna: don’t watch tv when eating. Me: eating while watching her video.

It's ironic how much hate Ana gets for being anti woman empowerment when she's literally teaching women to upgrade their lives through the ways that worked for her....she genuinely has our best interests at heart

I use to get joy in being manly thinking it was feminism. Now at 26 I want to become the elegant woman society tells me I shouldn’t be. Thank you Anna, some day I hope to be as elegant as you!

I'm 15 and I'm watching your videos to become a elegant lady most fast as possible. You encourage me to be a better person every day, and I'm feeling so good discovering my feminine energy. Thanks💖

Girls who drink straight from the bottle: She really came for us.😂

I like the idea of having etiquette even when no one is looking

I think it’s good to add that it’s not elegant to use swear words. So many people around me use profanity and it’s not elegant or classy. It lowers someone’s status in my eyes. Please, Ana, make a video about this!

“Screaming like a beaten pig.” Oh. My. God. I lost it! 😂

Love how straight forward she is when sharing information. No 10 minutes of blurring around just to make video longer.

My mother (one of the most elegant women I know) would wake up, do her hair and makeup and put on a beautiful lounge wear set and clean the house. I asked her when I was little (after seeing friends’ moms who most decidedly did NOT dress for housework) why she did this. She told me that personal appearance and manners should be something you do for yourself, to feel good for your own self esteem. The side effect of that was that my brother and I got to learn refinement as a normal way of life and I have thanked her profusely over the years for her example! Ladies, your children watch you most when you are behind closed doors and you are doing them a tremendous service by being an example and making manners and elegance a way of life for them. My mother grew up very poor and although I never met my grandmother, my mom always said her motto was that she may not have the best of everything but everything she had would be the best she could possibly make it. My mother and father worked their way up from humble beginnings and I think those lessons that were ingrained in my mother (and my father as well) had a lot to do with that. We are not tremendously wealthy by any means, but I can walk into higher society and be very confident thanks to the care my parents took to instill those manners in me!

"You can still have a good time without having everybody listen to it" Yup ❤️

I'm drinking from a wine bottle throughout this entire video. I'll start being elegant tomorrow😏

She’s so unintentionally funny

Anna: “You wanna drink like a man, like a slob?” Me:😔

Haha “bubbles”...I totally agree with her point. Eating healthy though (no sugar, less carbs) takes away the bubble production; trust me!

Hello Anna, I was raised in a Strick upper boarding school in Germany, all the thinks to recommend about educates at home and when eating out in an elegant restaurant was thought to us girls; most all of us girls came from a high-class family background. It is refreshing to listen to you and enjoy that You teach this to others . Thanks for getting people interested in elegant -upper living.

She is right, you don't need to be a full blown millionaire to do elegant things. I don't have much money to spend on buying flowers every week BUT I grow my own flowers and I make sure to trim and keep them neat looking, not empress others but to make myself feel accomplished and happy. It's not always about money or acting like you better then someone, it's about how you respect yourself and know your worth and expressing that through your actions. That's what I learn from watching Ana.

“Screaming like a beaten pig just because you are having intimacy” 😂 Love you Dear Anna!

“Everyday elegant”. That’s great. It’s about developing good habits.

I'm so glad ettiquette still exists in this day and age! Thank you x

Those are just manners, not only for “ladies”, men should do it too

One great decluttering tip: Every time you buy something new, get rid one one old item. I periodically just give stuff away to women’s shelters and charities. Mari Kondo’s methods are also very good on how to organize and declutter.

When I took up knitting, all the ladies in the meetup were well to do. I was so ashamed of my lack of etiquette when I was around them and had no idea how to learn it. I am so glad that I found this channel. I may never bump elbows with the well to do again but at least now I am aware of myself and have an idea of how to behave. I'm still an ox in a china store for the most part but I am a work in progress.

Elegance is telling the universe that i am worth the effort...i finally get this. Thank you so, so much Anna.

I really like her - she is in a league of her own. Her thoughts can be debatable, but she always delivers well and she is overall very right (in my opinion :) ) I love all her new videos!

I love the fact that you practice what you preach. I've been noticing the way you sit, it's just ladyish. I mean truly elegant.💞

This is something I loved about a book called "A Gentleman in Moscow", he was such a refined elegant man. It inspired me to refine myself.

I love Anna...she's teaching class, femininity, and sophistication which is a dying art now days.

Your house looks so immaculate, would love to maybe a house/room tour as I love your style

I love how Anna always encourages us to respect and love ourselves in this channel.

I'm watching these videos for me and for my little daughter. I want to raise her as a lady❤. I really appreciate your effort to upgrade our lives

Her: "Try not to sit like a total slob" Me: *laughs in quarantine*

People be bashing Anna thinking that she's 'anti-feminist' or pushing women backwards. But in reality, the Royals, high society and even among celebs these etiquettes are the foundation. They're brought up with etiquettes and she's just TEACHING us.

You are absolutely precious! My southern mother taught me these 10 but certainly without the delightful delivery! I have giggled (quietly and elegantly) into a regal mood. Please have a fantastic day (all who pass by this comment).

My Mother and her sister attended _Finnishing School_ as young ladies. I was fortunate enough to benefit from her experience although I hated it at the time. 🌺

Hey Anna, can you teach us how to decorate our home or space in an elegant style. So it won't look tacky.

slouched over, unkempt, and stuffing my face: "Now THIS LADY knows what she's TALKIN ABOUT!"

I watched this video 5 months ago when it was first published, and it has resonated soooo well. I did everything you listed either 80%-100% of the time elegantly, except for one - talking to/yelling at others in different rooms. Since watching this video several months ago, I have completely stopped yelling to someone in a different room or part of the house or property or office and have instead walked over to that person to speak whatever I was going to say in person. I had even forgotten where I had learned to do it. And I honestly have been wondering where I did learn of from for a while now. Silly me, of course Anna taught me! In any case, it has completely evolved my habits for the better! :) Thank you kindly, Anna

😂 I watched the first tip while chugging San Pellegrino straight from the bottle. I hope you’ll be proud to know that I did immediately reach for the stemless wine glass and continued to drink my water from it.

Although you may be “controversial” to people, which I can’t quite figure out why, I really want to thank you. I love my mother dearly, but when I was growing up she was going through her own issues with relationships and her career, and she didn’t take much time to teach me these essential lessons. I don’t use these videos to level up a man, I’ve already found one that I will spend my life with. We aren’t the elite class, but I know that learning to be more elegant will benefit my relationship and my life.

I wish she could convince the whole world to not shout from one room to another. Seriously. ♥️👌

Instead of flowers which are costly, I bought myself indoor green plants. A snake plant, orchird, Zz plant and now monstera. They help add colors to my place and at the same time cleans my air 😁

I love your videos. I'm 35 and I wish I've known these things before. But I'm glad to learn them now, better late than never. Being an average person in a working class doesn't mean we cannot be elegant. Self-respect is one of the classiest things no matter what socio-economic status we are in.

I read a book years ago and I never forgot this phrase: Don't Yell, Go Tell. 😊

In my family we’ve had a strict rule about shouting in the house but my husband apparently was not raised that way, what I do is not pay attention until he comes find me and stops calling my name!

I am 22 now and Anna's videos are just precious beyond compare. All of this is helping me to become a lady and an elegant lady at that. So appreciative of her videos and help .

I appreciate this video also because you remind us that the way we sit, even when we’re alone is important. It’s about training our bodies to hold a certain standard, and when we get used to slouching when we’re lonely, slouch other places as well

Can you please make a video about hands...Nails(polish color, length, nail shape), types of rings/jewelry on fingers/thumbs and where to place our hands when we sit or stand up? A big thanks for all your help!

As an overworked nurse this is pure comedy to me! 😂

Absolutely agree with the last one! I don't understand how some people feel so comfortable doing that around others 😂

I agree with your tips, although I'm a maximalist, an artist and collector. People are surprised that I can have so much stuff but my place doesn't look cluttered. That's because the collections are curated and grouped by color or theme and thoughtfully displayed. I'm a visual person, which means I'm a piler, not a filer. It's taken me years to figure out how to have everything on display but not look like a nightmare. But I never let my children eat in front of the TV and their phones had to be put away for meals, too! Oh, and the posture thing--it's important because sitting in a hunched or slouched position is very bad for your spine and shoulder/neck muscles. You can develop a permanent hunch and it can give you debilitating shoulder and back pain you'll need treatment for.

All of those elegant things actions & tips carry a higher vibration than whatever we're doing when we're not being mindful of elegance

“Screaming like a beaten pig.” Laughed for what seemed like an hour 🤣🤣🤣 I was not expecting this line in your video.

I found you yesterday. I LOVE YOUUUU! One of your best traits is your humor and whits. Thank you! Also your content is so high quality. I’m too low budget to buy a lot of cloths and products but I value material, posture and good habits. I love how you do address this topic so holistically, everyone can work with that, not only wealthier people😊

Oh my goodness this almost made me cry! Because she has a point we need to treat ourselves better thank you!! So much!!

Don’t drink from a bottle Me: *looks at 8 open bottles in my room”

This reminds me of my grandmother, even at home she was always dressed elegantly, made sure everything is at its place and there were always beautiful cut flowers displayed in most of the rooms.

Now it sums up my childhood when my grandmother use to tell me not to drink water directly from the water bottle and I use to fear from her and do it behind her back 😅

Thankful for the understanding and wisdom she shares on etiquette and elegance. My family didn’t have clear etiquette rules for me to follow growing up, so I’ve had to learn social behavior from peers around me. Those experiences weren’t filled with any self respect or value. So to finally have a reliable source such as herself explain proper content is so refreshing! Thank you very much Anna. 💐

Anna: "don't scream to other people from another room" Me: *laughs in European*

What you pointed in the video is not just about being affluent, this is literally basic culture and civilized behaviour. Thanks Ana.

You may be out of sync with the majority but what you teach in your channel do make sense. It helps you develop integrity.

I love this ♡ self-respect, self-love, self accountability

“Elegance is being your best self even when you’re all by yourself!” It’s so true, I’m trying to keep that at the the forefront of my mind these days. Eating/drinking out of packages is my pet peeve! Even when we get fast food, I insist on plating it properly and using real cutlery, glassware and cloth napkins. We usually play classical music as well. I really need to work on sitting more like a lady and less like slob. Thank you Anna!

“Screaming like a beaten pig” This woman is spectacular.❤️

Wow. You are so right. I lost 20 pounds in about 4 months by making small changes. One change I made was I quit eating while watching TV. Also, I started putting my utensils down between bites, and started chewing my food properly as well. I eat less, dont suffer from nausea and heartburn anymore, and I feel better after dining in general. I have never lived an affluent lifestyle, however my mother used to tell me that a lack of money is no excuse for a lack of class. We are in control of our actions and reactions. It does not cost anything to be courteous and easy to be around. Money helps, however, it does not cost tons of money to put effort into your appearance. I didn't win the generic lottery, but trying to be the best version of myself, I feel, is worth the effort. I think that it is so sad that women neglect themselves because they think if they care about these things and work on these things that they are being selfish and foolish. I think it's just the opposite. I believe that you can't pour from an empty pitcher. I think when you take good care of yourself, that you can take better care of others also. Although I have never lived an affluent lifestyle, I have been around affluent people quite a bit, because when I was in college I was a singer and I studied Opera, so that is why I was around affluent people. I don't know if I was just too dumb to feel uncomfortable around them, but I never really felt uncomfortable around them, and they didn't seem to feel uncomfortable around me, so maybe I was doing something right LOL. I will be honest, when I first started seeing your videos on KZfaq, I thought that you were going to be snobbish. I was so wrong. I just love your videos, and I appreciate them so much.

I didn't think my husband would be interested on this channel, but as I'm watching this on the TV, he put the volume up so he could hear it too.

Instead of buying cut flowers weekly, having actual living plants is far more beneficial. If you like flower types, get orchids or peace lily. There are researched mental health and physical well-being benefits of keeping living plants around the house.

My mother taught me almost everything you talk about on your channel. She taught me that good manners were all about making others feel respected and comfortable. And if you let this slide at home alone then you get so comfortable that you run the risk of letting your good manners slide when you are not alone. And also you should treat yourself as nicely and as respectful as you treat others. PS I hate fake flowers too! And at the moment I can't afford fresh flowers but I forage the area for pretty fall leaves or pinecones etc. to grace our table. Of course due to Covid we are not planning to have guests anytime soon BUT we deserve a nice arrangement of natural things too. So I forage our yard and I ask neighbors for pinecones because it is fall. PPS. My very gracious and elegant mother would have loved your channel as much as I do!

every point Anna says reminds me of my mother. she grew up in a remote area of Afghanistan without having anyone to tell her about these stuff because she lost her parents in a very young age. However, she grew to be such a quality person and elegant woman.

I have just fallen in LOVE with this channel. Finally! A modern femininity channel without strict rules and weird rituals. Yesssss 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Let me get my notebook 📓 🤓

I think this is so important because you can't pretend you are elegant, you have to BE elegant. If you behave different at home, at some point, you will lose your manners outside... People see more than what we let them see!!

The elegant lifestyle is all about self-respect and valuing one's self. Some people will not be able to comprehend this lifestyle. For me, it means the world as I was brought up in an abusive home and never felt valued, cherished, or loved, much less shown respect. Practicing this lifestyle has taught me self-love and how to truly value one's self. So thank you, Anna Bey. For me, these videos have more value than a topical application. They have a deep meaning and speak to the little girl that feels broken within to value herself and cherish herself.

I found this channel unintentionally, but I'm having a great time watching it. I actually got surprised while watching this particular video because I do all of those things since I remember, but all the other members of my family do the exact opposite.

I have never heard about the toilet paper 😂, never even crossed my mind to used it elsewhere other than the washroom lol

Anne: "Number 3: Eating in front of the TV." Me: *eating ice cream* "...oh..."

I totally agree with all of this!! I have been trying to tell my sisters these things for years! Definitely no releasing "bubbles" !!!!

Talk about hitting home! I was watching this at my desk, in a dress, but bare footed and cross legged, with my head resting on my hand. I am so embarrassed! Anna, your videos are changing my life! Thank you so much!

I love how you drag me for my actions without ever making me feel like you're judging me as a person. I really appreciate all the work you do and how you continue to speak up about the things you care deeply about despite it feeling uncomfortable or the backlash you get for it 💕

I like that she talks even about the "awkward" things; It really helps a tone to improve the quality of our home routine at any level.

I love you !!! Where have you been all this time ! I,m Romanian and everything my parents taught me about etiquette,respect,generosity and humbleness is finding common ground on your channel .Thank you Anna,keep up the good work of "redifying" a lady term in this generation

"How do you treat YOURSELVES?" Is the excellent takeaway from this video. 😊

i LOVE the sound effects

I was chatting with a guy some time ago... after some days of talks he decided that it was ok to send me an audio message of his bubbles... 😀 I deleted his number right after 😄

Thank you Anna . I am learning and taking you very very serious. I like the ideal of living and behaving elegant. I think it make me more relaxed and I also think it’s not about the out space but for the soul it gives structure… that’s how I feel … ❤️❤️❤️

I pride myself on how much of this is intuitive! My downfall is being a clutter-bug. Over the past three years, though, I've been throwing many things away; trying to de-clutter as much as possible! And it's having a positive on my mental and physical well being.

We really need a video how girls in their 20's should dress up I'm a 24 years old mom i do not know how to dress up

I died when she said screaming like a beaten pig.

I'm not really striving for elegance, but I like to watch your videos sometimes. I drink water from the bottle at home sometimes if it is already in the bottle (0.50l), because I see no point of using an extra glass which will just add to doing more dishes. Also, being from Southern Europe comes with being louder, although I am not really loud when I think about it compared to a lot of people 😅

This video is the one that has influenced me the most. I'm guilty of doing everything you point out as being inelegant. When I'm home, I immediately behave in a way that will maximize my comfort. I realize that all my at home behaviors are in need of an upgrade. Thank you for the video.

I can’t take her seriously when she calls farts “bubbles” hahahaha